27M PhD, Engineering probably settling for 35F Fattie. R/relationships: You go girl!

Gfresh405 · 2014-03-04T23:55:14+00:00

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key402 · 2014-03-05T00:36:49+00:00

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mussedeq · 2014-03-04T23:27:31+00:00

I 100% understand why the father would not want to attend the wedding. Frankly, I would disown my son if he pulled this shit. This guy's not even a beta, he's a grade A loser

Edit: Found this gold at the bottom:

Thanks for stating the obvious. If it was only 1 or 2 things, but extremely overweight (lower life expectancy), 8 years older, vastly lower education, kid to take care of ... It's just too much. I fully get the father's point of view. It's not that they can't make it work. It's "why would you live your life burdened like this, as a 26 year old fit engineering PhD student"?

Aerobus · 2014-03-05T00:04:15+00:00

Personally if I was the dad I would feel the same way. Its undeniable that relationships work best when both partners bring a similar amount to the table. In OPs case we have an obese highschool educated single mother with a Engineering PhD with no kids... massive disparity of ambition and education is usually not a recipe for a happy marriage. And because I am fattist I wouldnt want my kid marrying someone who was obese.

by /u/I_Shit_Glitter

That comment really needs to be upvoted more.

RedSpectrum · 2014-03-05T03:52:08+00:00

The guy has a damn Ph.D in engineering, is bound to make boatloads of money, and is in his prime and he settles for this old landwhale.

Cue ESPN C'mon Man!

a_chill_bro · 2014-03-05T00:04:05+00:00

He would be better off with a drug addiction. He's sealed his fate if he marries this porker.

Aerobus · 2014-03-04T23:52:39+00:00

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watersign · 2014-03-05T00:57:23+00:00

Never Married, 1 Kid (Bi-Racial Black/White), White, Very Over-weight

HAHAAHHA. NEXT!!!

TP_2 · 2014-03-05T00:11:36+00:00

"Very Over-weight"

When a girl actually says this about herself... I get images of one of those 1000lb fat fucks that cant even get out of bed... cus usually they are all "I'm a curvy real woman!" and shit when they are just fat...

newguy75 · 2014-03-04T22:56:14+00:00

Wow. Dad is right to give his son the business on this.

Xein · 2014-03-05T01:33:51+00:00

Of course the top comment is complete garbage.

This is the stuff nightmares are made of. That dude will wake up one day and wonder "WHAT THE FUCK HAVE I DONE?" He will divorce his wife, even though he'll lose a lot of money in the process.

His father is a good man and knows the reality of this. The guy is about to hit his stride as far as SMV goes... His career is going to take off and he is in his sexual prime. On the other hand, his woman is about to fall off a cliff.

Nobody teaches men this shit. I bet this guy went through life not being able to get laid.. this chick shows him some attention and he latches on for dear life. He has no idea that he could attract women of 10x quality if he just bides his time and focuses on self-improvement. I wish we had like a fuckin TRP emergency crew we could deploy to save this man! At the very least, I hope some hotter, younger woman tries to snag him to at least show him he can do better.

SchrodingersRapist · 2014-03-05T02:57:48+00:00

27M PhD....35F fattie....

Does not compute. I mean fuck if you're not going to have some standards at least have some fucking pride. If you want a fattie get a young fattie at least.

Katoska · 2014-03-05T01:34:43+00:00

In other news, r/whiteknights has discovered a case of a very low-quality leech attaching to a very successful host. "WHAT A SNAG!" The whiteknights say. How long until the leech gets bloated on their host's money and detaches, will it be before or after she gets the child support anchor baby? Tell us what you think down in the comments below! More at 11.

ScannerSloppy · 2014-03-04T23:13:25+00:00

Frankly, this woman is fat. And the fact that this man is Asian and his soon-to-be stepson is black matters. People will know at a glance that he settled for someone else's garbage and is raising a son who is obviously not his.

Psiden · 2014-03-05T03:40:54+00:00

I wonder how different these comments would be if the situation was reversed and it was a fat white guy marrying a smart, young, healthy girl and it was her relationship with her parents that was on the line.

-Tyler_Durden- · 2014-03-05T10:44:32+00:00

This woman has more red flags than Tienanmen Square.

This man need an intervention and illustrates the need for good male friends. If you have a good group of men around you, they will let you know when you are fucking up.

Aerobus · 2014-03-05T02:45:25+00:00

I feel sorry for his dad, not him. How pathetic.

puah8r · 2014-03-04T23:54:58+00:00

It's unfortunate the son didn't post this otherwise someone could talk some sense into him. It seems like men just don't have any respect for themselves. It's not surprising though and reflects a larger problem with society.

srolive017 · 2014-03-05T00:42:15+00:00

It's almost like she was expecting a proposal... She knows what's up and we all know what's going to happen...

Unfortunately this guy is oblivious and he should definitely reconsider his choice.

Sturmgeist781 · 2014-03-04T23:11:46+00:00

The hamsters in there are now hoping the same happens to them.

How long before the fatty goes back to black dick and drains the fiance's bank account in the process?

tsotha · 2014-03-05T02:27:28+00:00

This poor guy. He's gonna wake up in a year and think "What the hell have I done?"

FEMINAZISCUM · 2014-03-05T05:02:34+00:00

I currently make quite a lot more money than he does and my career prospects are good. I expect that my income will cap at around 80-90k at the peak of my career, where his is a little over 100k.

Yeah thats gonna drop to 0 when she wants to have more kids. It'll stay 0 because she'll want to raise them by herself because hey they can afford it with daddy's salary. Then she'll retire 8 years earlier than him. Throughout the marriage she would have worked 5 years tops while the chump husband will be working all the way through the kids college years.

There isn't a disparity in ambition, I've grown my career options through experience, he's grown his through education.

I think scoring a beta with plenty of resources and 8 years younger is pretty ambitious for a 35 year old land whale single mother.

Freshtowels · 2014-03-05T10:29:15+00:00

christ this guy must have some fucking low self esteme.

Archwinger · 2014-03-05T11:29:30+00:00

This relationship isn't even that rocky, and people are still tossing around the terms "counseling" and "man up."

The OP TLDR sums things up nicely. To elaborate: "My fiance's father doesn't want his young PhD son with immense potential and his whole life ahead of him to marry an extremely overweight single mother 10 years his senior. It's because I'm not a vegan, right? Or maybe a racial thing?"

redpillspatula · 2014-03-05T01:59:09+00:00

If stereotypes are believed to be true, then she realized there was no ~~future~~ gain with the baby daddy and moved onto a higher value (in her mind) provider.

Even if not, the second part of that statement is still true.

There seems to be very little introspection--as in, she may not think there's anything wrong with her--demonstrated by mainly talking about the potential father in law and fiance. This is the person that misuses that shitty quote "if you can't handle me at my worst you don't deserve me at my best". There'd be little doubt in the potential father and fiancé's mind if she had any value. I mean, what the fuck is a "business professional" with no college education at 35?

mwanafalsafa · 2014-03-05T04:42:57+00:00

The sort of smarts it takes to get a PhD in engineering is not the same sort of smarts it takes to realize a mistake like this. My bet is the guy is a socially awkward introvert who has had minimal/no success with other women. He may make six figures in the next few years, but he's probably quite poor right now. And he doesn't ever expect his prospects with women will get any better going forward.

2014-03-05T11:48:32+00:00

he proposed to an abomination.

ytismylife · 2014-03-05T01:15:10+00:00

This is extremely disturbing.

2comment · 2014-03-05T03:00:13+00:00

This relationship is doomed or this guy is doomed. This kid is going to experience is smv jacking up soon while this cow is dragging him down. He's been a student no one looked twice at for so long he doesn't even know his own potential value.

Sete_Sois · 2014-03-05T03:18:34+00:00

when he hits 30 in three years he'll realize that he made a huge mistake

I can say that I am definitely a different man than I was 3 year ago. A huge DIFFERENCE three years make.

ON THE OTHER hand, this woman must be amazing to snag this guy at her age with a kid. Wow. What kind of game did she pull??

boney_hoo_hoo · 2014-03-05T04:48:47+00:00

Some guys are just afraid of trying. That said, this girl sure did misconstrue the meaning of her post. She meant to say that she is lazy and insecure, lucky as HELL to be dating this guy, and just upset about being rejected by the father (who sees through the sappy relationship part.) She acts like she is posting because her boyfriend is distraught, but it's really her who is freaking out. The kid won't make it to the wedding if he has any sense left at all. She'll suffocate him in "security".

Jf5ve · 2014-03-05T05:44:51+00:00

Dating a girl with someone else's child may be a lot of fun but it is like video games and starting from someone else's save point.

attaxx · 2014-03-05T15:14:17+00:00

I like the part where her hamster gets fueled by a third party:

Maybe this is because my own mother is this way and most of her Asian friends, but is it possible his main reason is racially motivated? Either way, you can do absolutely nothing to change his mind.

Is it possible? It could be. Racism runs deep for a lot of people and it isn't always obvious. I would hope not, but I wouldn't discount it entirely, just because of his age.

Cool, now she can blame race and keep getting fatter.

incraved · 2014-03-05T05:10:13+00:00

Guys, I'm quite sure this guy is still a virgin and have extremely low social skills and maybe ugly. There is no other way he would stick with such a woman. You don't need TRP to know this is insane.

2014-03-05T13:20:10+00:00

Imagine what they'd say if he was marrying a 19 year old hottie.

forgotmydamnpass · 2014-03-05T17:43:05+00:00

It's not the fact that he's marrying her or raising her son that bothers me, it's the fact that it feels like he's settling for her because she's giving him attention, he sounds like a desperate man and I don't see this marriage ending well

carolinadreams · 2014-03-05T17:53:04+00:00

I posted a fairly detailed post advocating tracking food consumption carefuly, and then titrating caloric consumption gradually each week until she reached a point where the weight loss was satisfactory.

To this I suggested low impact exercise, and strength training where possible, as nothing seems to effect body recomposition as strongly as strength training.

I also advocated eating whole foods, but if sweets were desired to eat them early in the day, where they would be more likely to used as energy.

All of this got downvoted I assume because it was advocating she take control over her weight.

I spend a year in Bosnia doing peace keeping stuff, in general you had to look pretty hard to find an overweight person under 50.

Why lots of low level physical activity, and apparently a year or so of food scarcity. Americans don't have fat genetics they make fat choices.

Mensphysique12 · 2014-03-08T17:03:10+00:00

She disgusts me. I can't believe one can be so blind, she needs to go yesterday.

magical_artist · 2014-03-05T08:57:01+00:00

So I read the redditlog.

It is unclear HOW overweight this woman is.

She has a decent vocabulary, makes good money (really good for the location), seems mature, actively interested, and concerned for her partner's happiness (seeking to resolve issues with family).

As a student, the SO has not achieved his high status YET. True. But, the SO supposedly likes, and has bonded with, the son.

He may be able to attract hotter women.

He may potentially make a LOT more than her.

However, there are more factors in compatibility than this. (Also, in the south where they are, as a student of limited means and time, those may have been factors as well.)

Normally I agree about the single mother thing, BUT don't close yourself off. I met an amazing woman, who has a sweet and very smart young girl. We get along smashingly, and I can say I genuinely like and appreciate the daughter (even if she can be frustrating at times). It does upset me that the biological father doesn't even pay child support.

On the note of the old "Dating a single mother is like continuing someone else's saved game" I have thoughts. I am picking up the bill for the ex-douchebag's genetics to continue into the next generation, YEAH. But, the child is an amazing person, and value her as a friend. My GF has many unique qualities that are very hard to find, and more than make up for reservations I had. I may even marry her.

Otherwise, keep writing these TRP posts, as I understand and even agree with a fair chunk.

PlusGoody · 2014-03-06T01:43:04+00:00

Given this dude started in the relationship at 23 not 31 maybe he's not a pathetic beta provider but a bizarro alpha -- knows what he wants and gives not a fuck that everyone else says it's for shit.

drqxx · 2014-03-05T05:36:44+00:00

N.S.A.L.T.A. Never Settle for Anything Less Than Awesome. Make a list of the qualities you want in a girl. Have fun but don't settle. I really hope this guy doesn't get married to her.

SmokeU · 2014-03-05T05:48:36+00:00

Gentleman. 6 figures is cool. But 7 figures? Now that's cool.

admirals_go_nuts · 2014-03-05T17:46:11+00:00

Dude I'm 24 and I'm dating a 36yo. This after the pill and seddit, she's smart (very Fuckin smart), skinny but weak u know? Also pretty and she values me. Am I doing it wrong? I really wanted to Fuck around and date multiple chicks, but this one looks gold.

SrirachaJitters · 2014-03-05T17:25:25+00:00

Sorry, I know there is probably somewhere where I could find this out. I'm pretty new to lurking TRP. What is a "post wall woman"?

27M PhD, Engineering probably settling for 35F Fattie. R/relationships: You go girl!

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Title	27M PhD, Engineering probably settling for 35F Fattie. R/relationships: You go girl!
Author	Aerobus
Upvotes	184
Comments	218
Date	March 4, 2014 10:16 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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