Is height really that important?

tylerdetata66 · 2022-01-06T14:22:28+00:00

im 5'7 never has been a huge problem for me. sure some girls here and there turned me down for it, but over all hasnt been a huge issue

Jlakers24 · 2022-01-06T13:40:17+00:00

Yes height is important but it isn’t everything. Money, confidence, and a nice physique will easily beat out height. There’s a lot of 6’ + people who don’t get any girls because other thing aren’t in order.

notstevensegal · 2022-01-06T17:24:50+00:00

I saw this one dude who was like 5’4 tops walk in a bar with like 3 chicks all over him. I could have swatted him away like a fly but that didn’t matter to these chicks because he had what i can only describe as chihuahua energy. He was acting way tougher and more confident than he had any right to be, and it worked really, really well.

pru51 · 2022-01-06T16:27:35+00:00

It is not. Im 5'6 and never had a problem. Ive said this before and will till i die. Women want confidence and potential. So what if youre not 6'. Anyone who dates via looks is not someone you want to be with. The number one is be yourself and not give a fuck. Lose interest if they pull that card.

blitzik · 2022-01-06T15:39:22+00:00

Short guy here, 5'5

It matters, but the amount it matters goes down proportionally to your confidence - potentially drastically. It's been a while since I wasn't getting laid by someone attractive

Sxru · 2022-01-06T13:47:37+00:00

172cm is almost 5'8" so you would be just below or above average height in most places

TLu_03 · 2022-01-06T15:51:05+00:00

You can overcome height. But everyone has their preferences. THIS IS OK

Accomplished_Bar_853 · 2022-01-06T15:03:28+00:00

Confidence is everything, and it doesn’t matter where you find it like for example do you think Kevin hart could pull anything he wants, now you don’t need to be as funny as Kevin hart, but maybe workout more because if you get jacked you’ll look taller, that’s a fact, at the end of the day you just got to prove you can take care of her.

LordCarnifex · 2022-01-06T16:43:35+00:00

You can view height through the lens of any other heuristic or benchmark; it may help you or hurt you, but you benefit much more by focusing on the things you can control. It might sound boomer and as I'm in the 5'11-6'0 range it doesnt apply to me, but I don't advise fucking with apps for that reason. Apps encourage women to try and build a dude like a subway sandwich and attraction doesn't work that way. Give me the malleable dude willing to present himself with style and charisma at 5'6" over the 6'0" lame running normie Disney game any day of the week.

Gagz_ · 2022-01-06T19:23:32+00:00

As long as you question it in your head, it will affect your chances. As soon as you let go it won't. I know people who are 6'5" and are insecure about their height (but the other way round) ! What you believe will project out of you, and will make/brake your chances.

Sea_Glass385 · 2022-01-06T13:47:49+00:00

only if it's important to her

Canadian-Seductioner · 2022-01-06T14:30:16+00:00

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thelambofdeth · 2022-01-06T14:02:14+00:00

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ThenTranslator2780 · 2022-01-06T16:54:56+00:00

Todays dating generation is cringe, what the fuck does it have to do with heights?

RookieMistake2021 · 2022-01-06T13:26:25+00:00

Anyone making their relationship decisions on height are superficial and not worth dating, so don’t look into it too much

Woujo · 2022-01-06T20:17:52+00:00

A few things to know:

1) Women generally prefer taller guys to shorter guys.

2) Women look at a lot of criteria, so if you are short you can make it up for it with other characteristics.

3) You should not be thinking about this shit AT ALL. You cannot really change your heights, and you should not be thinking about your weaknesses when you approach a woman. You should only be thinking about whether you are having fun.

joelvaldezg · 2022-01-06T14:52:49+00:00

Wow. Y’all commenting here don’t know shit. They don’t even understand how women are attracted to men. The most recurring mistake men make is thinking that women are attracted to men the same way as we are attracted to them (physical appearance). I stopped caring about if I’m tall enough (5’6 and I’m 16), if I’m good looking enough (women have told me I’m cute but it’s not like I’m being chased by all of them), if I’m in good shape (honestly I’m average, since I have been putting some work on the gym), and started focusing on being mentally attractive. Having interesting things to say about myself, to connect with the emotions a woman is feeling and trying to be playful about them, be confident no matter what is happening and having a determined purpose in life and doing all things according to it. Most girls that are considered a 10 prefer going for me than going for that 6’3 good looking guy. I have stopped caring about the things that I can’t change and I started focusing on the things that I can change. Tons of results have come after this. Also I don’t think you should be even considering someone who rejects you because of your height, is like rejecting a girl because her weight isn’t perfect, completely dumb. Women and men are different. Always remember that.

Glucksburg · 2022-01-06T15:45:20+00:00

It really depends on the rest of you and on the woman. Many women do care about height, but this is superficial and shallow.

However, I would love to marry a tall woman so my sons can be over 6' and not have to worry about height like I did.

JacobMoogberg69 · 2022-01-06T16:52:40+00:00

David X was 5'8" and he has been with over a thousand women.

Training_Turnover_89 · 2022-01-06T17:21:36+00:00

Does size matter? Not principally. If you can bone, you can bone man. In other words why care in the first place? it's not like anyone can change height. Plus height doesn't seem like it would matter when you're laying down or chilling if that's what youre talking about doing

SSJ_Key · 2022-01-06T18:18:16+00:00

Things that you cannot change, are not important.

2022-01-06T19:28:12+00:00

It’s definitely a thing and not new at all. BUT a good friend of mine growing up is shorter. Not classically good looking at all. But women could not keep their hands off him. It was impressive. So yes. Height will shut some doors for you. But it certainly doesn’t mean you can’t be successful dating or hooking up.

koolex · 2022-01-06T20:28:40+00:00

This isn't a new trend, most women are attracted to taller guys. There was a hashtag a while ago about girls asking if a guy is hot or just tall, so girls very directly tie this to physical attraction, but women are attracted to many different facets like lifestyle or masculinity, etc.

Every woman has her own height preference, you just need to be taller than her and you probably have a chance. Being shorter makes dating harder but not impossible.

lifstieler · 2022-01-06T20:30:54+00:00

The truth is not as appealing,but yea height rly matter.If u much more shoter than average guy u will rly lose much more girls vs guy with same as u character just average or taller.

TiedHands · 2022-01-06T20:43:24+00:00

Im 6'1" and my height has literally never helped me, so...

TTV-DontEvnTrip · 2022-01-06T21:12:23+00:00

Yes height matters. But your bank account and status matter much more. So since you are short you need to have your finances in order

pokimane_too · 2022-01-06T21:15:24+00:00

5'6 is the cutoff. Any lower than that and it gets exponentially more difficult.

Tricky-Peace-8245 · 2022-01-06T21:37:48+00:00

I'm truly 5 foot even and I definitely still get play. Make her smile bro that's it. Don't be goofy be in tune with who you're talking to and the situation don't be a clown just be someone she wants to be around.

Steak_personafied · 2022-01-06T21:41:58+00:00

It matters a lot. The lower you go under 6 feet the harder it will be to seduce hot girls

AbjectScar3729 · 2022-01-06T22:09:36+00:00

Every 100000 $ buys you an inch. I'm also not very tall and I had nice girls. But it's like rollercoaster with me. There was a time I was really ok with it but now I'm not again. I think size matters most of the times and those who say it doesn't are a rarity.

lana_del_reymysterio · 2022-01-06T22:41:46+00:00

Depends where you live.

Here where I live in Australia, I see plenty of decently attractive women with short guys and/or shorter than them.

And it's not like the guy is attractive or anything, usually he'll be mediocre and below her league

Glittering-Star4159 · 2022-01-06T22:45:47+00:00

The short answer is yes. Your best bet is to talk to women everywhere. Including woman you're not interested in. Work on your confidence and practice being flirtatious and be an intriguing person. You're best bet is to meet woman out and about, create and win them over. Like any other life skill you have to learn it and practice it. Most woman care about height, but you can overcome it.

2022-01-06T22:46:23+00:00

It matters a decent amount. If you have ever been to any college\uni, you will see that tall guys have girls throwing themselves over them without being special personality wise..

I think people will give a lot of beautiful theories as to why it doesn't matter but the reality is that it does. Psychologically speaking, women are just more attracted to someone who is bigger than them and bigger than other men...

that being said you can focus on things you can control. Like having a purpose in life and confidence. If you have confidence and work at something you enjoy I don't see any reason why women will not be interested in you...also, doing something you love will bring you confidence

keenanallen9O7 · 2022-01-06T23:00:49+00:00

I'm 5'6" and there's a simple solution. Girls that are like 5'2"

norwegiandoggo · 2022-01-06T13:51:04+00:00

Is it really important? Depends on the girl. Not all girls are the same..some care about height and some don't. I'd guess it's about a 50/50 split regarding who care and who don't if you're around average. But the shorter you get the more people will care. If you're 4 feet or 120 cm, a LOT of them will begin to care. See how that works? The shorter you get the more women will find it a dealbreaker. If you're around average, like you are, then it's not much to worry about.

b_a_d_r0b0t · 2022-01-06T16:02:14+00:00

Women here will tell you it’s not important….but it is. Also being white increases your chances a lot.

throwawaynibs · 2022-01-06T22:02:28+00:00

No, we’re not a hive mind. Women have different preferences and yes some are 5’5 and want a 6’ man. Good for them and more power to them to find their leggy man.
I’m 5’9 and prefer a man roughly the same height. A little shorter or a little taller. I don’t like to crane my f’n neck just to kiss. Shortest guy I dated was 5’4” and we didn’t break up because of height.

Canadian-Seductioner · 2022-01-06T15:16:46+00:00

It's not if you make up for it in other ways. Focus on other aspects of your body and mind that you can control and you can still slay as a short king. The biggest physical thing you can do to make up for it is get jacked. As for mental, become confident and secure.

pokemonpokemonmario · 2022-01-06T13:50:49+00:00

If youre sub 5"10 you're unlikely to pull and 9 or 10 but its posible to pull an 8 if you have a good body good game etc.

miaou_dubois · 2022-01-06T20:49:33+00:00

I mean, if you're super cute, no. I know a couple of guys around that height who I like better than any tall one.

2022-01-06T20:56:29+00:00

It does matter, but it's not a simple relationship.

I'm 6'2". I'm also built like a door. It took me a long time to figure this out and more than a few fucked-up relationship, but when you're big -- not just tall, but big -- you act differently out there in the world, and women respond to it. Basically, it's confidence.

Unless someone is really enormous -- I mean, NFL-sized -- I'm not intimidated by them, at all, in any way. I don't care if you're a biker and wearing leather and boots in a bar, some kind of athlete, anything, I'm not going to defer to you at all, or treat you as anything but just another guy. I'm not rude or anything -- I'm actually really friendly -- but I'm absolutely not to be fucked with, and other men instinctively sense that. I'm actually sort of goofy and silly, because I can be, because of my size.

And women notice this, and like it, and so on. In other words, it's not just because of my size, but also because of the effect that being this big has had on my interpersonal behavior as a result of years of being the biggest guy in the room, usually. Does that make sense?

Yum_Nom · 2022-01-06T20:57:22+00:00

Not important. I can only really speak for myself as a woman, but I'm attracted to someone's personality more than anything. There's a lot of shallow people out there sure, however I'm guessing this "6ft trend" is mostly due to those types being on tinder/social media these days, but my guess is they're the loud minority. Now I'm not saying looks had nothing to do with it at all, but I think a lot of women (atleast ones over 25) have figured out that "wrapping" ain't the best feature.

thispolishitalianguy · 2022-01-06T21:09:00+00:00

I‘m 6‘3 and it doesn’t matter. Height isn’t everything

thaughty · 2022-01-06T21:52:24+00:00

Smaller men sometimes make me nervous because I've met so many who are weird and angry about it. But if they are well-adjusted and can appreciate being called cute, it's not an issue at all

Reichka · 2022-01-06T22:09:58+00:00

It is what it is.

Classic_Head3437 · 2022-01-06T22:19:44+00:00

It's only as big of a deal as you make it.

jonviggo89 · 2022-01-06T22:23:04+00:00

Not that important. But it depends for who. But in majority is not that important

anoyingprophet · 2022-01-06T22:38:00+00:00

Thing is, idk why or if this is actually true, but I've noticed that most girls don't even know height lol. I'm 5 ft 11, and girls always think I'm 6'1. I never correct them btw lol. I mostly date girls 5'6 or under. Not opposed to tall girls, but it just happens that way, and these girls always boost my height. I personally think that for most avg height women, 5'9 and up is prefect. I think that the reality is, alot of these girls might just think what actually 5'10 is 6ft. So if you say you're 5'9, they imagine a guy who is actually 5'7 lol.

SuperSoakerGuyx · 2022-01-06T23:00:35+00:00

The way I see it, it really depends a tall girl would go for a tall guy, where as a shorter girl would refuse taller guys to go for a guy that matches her height. I just look around and draw observations but I would say physique would be a more comprehensive aspect of attractivness than height alone. So to that I say be the best you can be by being overall healthy body and mind.

UrFavPlayerIsBack · 2022-01-06T23:06:18+00:00

Not important

But still countable. Better if you’re few inches taller than a girl. Doesn’t matter what ur height

Pr1nceCharming_ · 2022-01-06T20:08:53+00:00

If you’re a 5’7 manlet, you’re gonna have a hard time railing 5’9 hotties. Girls your height or shorter shouldn’t be an issue

2022-01-06T16:05:45+00:00

It's money and height🙄

x1984x · 2022-01-06T17:00:39+00:00

I’m 5’7 and I find height matters if you’re in a club or something or posting your height for people to judge. When I’m in a situation where I’m judged just of looks and personality I out compete most taller guys.

paddywacknack · 2022-01-06T17:09:42+00:00

Depends.

Some girls like guys who are just a bit taller so they can rest their head on his shoulders.

vorter · 2022-01-06T17:35:01+00:00

As long as you’re taller than her, not really. If you’re shorter, it gets much much harder.

jellybellyshaker · 2022-01-06T17:55:40+00:00

I’m short, 4’11.5”, and when I met my husband, one of the things I loved about him (and still do!) is he wasn’t so tall! He’s 5’9”. We have really tall friends, so he looks even shorter if we are hanging out with company lol. Being shorter can be a huge attraction for the right person! And a woman (at least a good one!) will notice your personality and care more about how you treat her than your height! :)

Is12345aweakpassword · 2022-01-06T17:55:57+00:00

If you want to get laid as a guy, yes

AtCloseRange94 · 2022-01-06T17:56:31+00:00

Have a friend that’s 5”7 and he gets pussy basically whenever he wants. Confidence and good looks matter more than being 6ft

sir_calv · 2022-01-06T18:19:28+00:00

173 is 5'8

2022-01-06T18:41:06+00:00

Nah I’m really short and girls care more about confidence, looks, social ability and finances. Can regularly out game 6’3 dudes at the bar

Sgtengineer · 2022-01-06T19:10:59+00:00

I’m 5ft. 3in. Height matters to a lot of women. There are also some who don’t care. I’ve dated woman 5ft. 11in. Before.

OneThousandYardStare · 2022-01-06T19:13:55+00:00

You know how tall Prince was? 5'3". He was one of THE biggest sex symbols that the world has ever seen. Women CRAVED him. Go check the height of all these hollywood heart throbs like tom cruise or dave franco. How about Usher? Bruno Mars? I know you're probably thinking "oh but these guys are rich and famous that doesnt help me" and yes these guys do have extraordinary circumstances otherwise BUT it shows you that height doesn't preclude you from being a woman's sexual fantasy. Its not about height- its about something else

The shorter guys in my community always say that "height is what women think they want until you show them what they actually want". Its kind of like a mantra almost. Women think they want something because they've never experienced the other things that YOU can provide. Height is something that is noticeable at a glance, its not like a personality trait for instance which can take a lot of time and many interactions to demonstrate. I think of it as if I'd never tasted a starburst before. My favorite color is orange so I'd choose orange. But having tasted starbursts I ALWAYS choose pink because that shit is DELICIOUS. Like, Orange starburst?? Lol gtfoh. Women who say they want an orange star burst only say that because they've never tasted pink starbursts. They've only SEEN starbursts, in movies and tv and BS like that.

Having said that, its on you to develop your game, (by self investing, growing and strengthening your social network, and reading as well as practicing theory with your wingman) so that it becomes effortless to demonstrate the value that YOU have, the qualities that YOU possess, the qualities that SHE wants. Lean into who you are. Who you are is great. Who you are is a goddamn delicious pink fucking starburst. Make those mouths water bro

CElan_cruz · 2022-01-06T19:24:53+00:00

Yes it it's man, but only if u are like really really short.. u can ask any woman if she's willing to date a guy his same height or shorter than her. U will get ur answer inmediatly.

HoratioMedina · 2022-01-06T19:26:26+00:00

What do u think? IS it?

Teapot_Dragon · 2022-01-06T19:29:07+00:00

To an extent but no. Not nearly as much as personality, confidence, symmetricity, and physicality. Being tall helps but it's not as important and people who blame their shortcomings on their height underestimate themselves.

2022-01-06T19:35:09+00:00

It’s basically like tits on a girl. Are huge fuckin knockers nice and better then small ones? Yes. Will you completely say no to a girl just because she has small tits? No.

clutchutch · 2022-01-06T19:54:08+00:00

Height is absolutely important, anyone on here saying otherwise is just lying to you.

That being said, it’s definitely not the only thing that’s important and you can absolutely do well with women if you’re short. But the guy who’s 6’2” will always do better than the guy who’s 5’4” if everything else is equal

downvotes_are_great · 2022-01-06T19:57:03+00:00

In 6'1 and it doesn't help my game any. Might be because my game sucks but hey is what it is.

emxiiii · 2022-01-06T20:10:03+00:00

Height? To me not really. I mean sure tall men are attractive, short women are attractive, but other then that I don’t have a preference in that. Or how anyone looks specifically really. That’s me, but I’m aware that a lot of girls like it when males are taller than them🤷🏻‍♀️

Vancopime · 2022-01-06T20:10:37+00:00

5’6 is not 172

theXDlegend · 2022-01-06T20:10:43+00:00

gg im 197 i think 6´7"? And i don't really feel like it's big deal and still I don't pull chicks

maskina961 · 2022-01-06T20:11:12+00:00

I read somewhere a study that showed for every inch shorter than 5’10, a guy needs to be getting paid $40k a year more than someone who is one inch taller

KostantinL · 2022-01-06T20:12:01+00:00

I think it’s important however it isn’t the only deciding factor, you can be average in height but you can’t look like bob the sponge

aidsjohnson · 2022-01-06T20:40:20+00:00

I'm 5'3" and never had much luck with the ladies. Height definitely matters. However, I will say this: although I'm not Brad Pitt over here or some shit I do still have a small window of opportunity with certain women able to get past the height stuff. Some women can be very forgiving.

Sissy_Boi_179 · 2022-01-06T20:46:27+00:00

It’s a disadvantage just like any other area, but not the end all be all. I have been 6’5” since I was about 17, and I used to get constant rejections from girls because I made no significant effort to look better or improve my confidence. I was a skinnyfat, lanky kid with social anxiety and average looks. I never got laid once just because I was tall, and didn’t lose my virginity until my early 20s after working super hard at the gym.

I think all of us are prone to thinking in a “grass is greener” kind of way: If only I were taller, more fit, more confident, THEN I wouldn’t get rejected. The truth is, if you’re a guy, you’re going to face a lot of rejection.

Stop focusing on the things you can’t change about yourself, and start putting in maximum effort to focus on what you can change.

It’s not fair that I was born taller and a lot of men were born shorter, but complaining about the unfairness will get you nowhere.

supersoy1 · 2022-01-06T21:21:51+00:00

I used to think it was the most important thing ever. But my two best friends who are both 191cm (6'3") don't have much luck with girls because they have very awkward personalities and their height does not make up for it. They even make both make great money and even that isn't good enough to make up for their personalty lol.

Conscious_Being_99 · 2022-01-06T21:56:00+00:00

It is important to persons for wich it is important. For me it does not matter. It is important to the same persons for wich it is important what car you drive, how much money you have and what others think of you. If you want this kind of people in your life, it is important. If not, then it is not. Sorry for bad english.

dolphin977 · 2022-01-06T21:58:39+00:00

The very odd thing about girls is that if you are ugly/short/bald/etc. whatever, if you have the confidence to completely not let that stop you, it's almost like you are MORE attractive than a guy who is tall and inherently good looking.

The reason is because the contrast. If you are okay with youtself despite all of these roadblocks then you stand out WAY more than a guy who is tall, because his confidence comes from a place of ease yet he's never had to contend with anything.

Precious_Peanut · 2022-01-06T22:00:07+00:00

No, confidence it's where it's at. Sadly ...

Tidalheat · 2022-01-07T00:16:02+00:00

For the young and insecure it sure seems to matter. It's one of those arbitrary "requirements" for some people. Just like breast size, eye color, hair color, skin tone etc. It only matters until we mature enough to realize it doesn't. I'm getting older, and call me crazy, but I'm at a point that none of that matters at all.

Title	Is height really that important?
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Date	January 6, 2022 1:24 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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