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“At least give her a hose and bucket so she can wash your car and make herself useful...” > "Maybe if you are lucky." Test them. Make them work for you. Always make them qualify themselves to you. They love it ... and it makes them damp. Consider open ended statements ... suggesting action on their part (rather than luck): “Time will tell.” “We will see.” “That’s something I’ll think about.”
/r/askMRP13/02/19 04:29 AM
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“I’m still working to find the beta level that meets her comfort need when she shows good behavior while not going too far that it’s not believable.” My experience, and from what I’ve heard/read, is that women prefer vacillating Alpha/beta characters rather than a static continuum at a particular level. Women enjoy the roller coaster ride.
/r/askMRP25/01/19 12:05 AM
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You can somewhat determine where your wife is - by what ACTUALLY turns her on - by taking note of the smut novels she reads, movie characters/actors she admires, references she makes to her early boyfriends (their type), etc. Most/all women prefer the Alpha types (and will endure a lot of their shit) IF they can muster the gumption to get out of their own lazy ways suffiently to compete for them (rather than wear down - betaize) the Alpha.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/18 02:37 PM
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The frequency and quality of unsolicited Blow Jobs is in direct inverse proportion to the security she feels in the relationship, including her perception of the probability that you might be poachable by anther woman.
/r/askMRP16/10/18 08:29 PM
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Judging from your comments on various posts it seems you are getting this. Congratulations! Women will do and say all kinds of random shit to attempt get you to qualify to THEM. Just don’t go there with/for them - don’t break Frame. Ultimately, they have a choice to live in the world you create ... or not. For millenium men gave gotten themselves and our world into trouble when they have followed or heeded women. Just don’t. Stay strong.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/18 03:54 PM
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My response is blatantly and confidently, “You don’t need to know everything.” She doesn’t. In fact, their quest to be all knowing goes back to Eve ... we all know what happened with that - how Adam failed to lead - and the RP lesson we all should have learned.
/r/askMRP28/09/18 03:23 PM
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“pedestal (her words not mine)” - Hmmm ... Where is she getting this “word?” It’s a pretty Manosphere-discussion related concept/word. You may have more OPSEC issues than you know. Otherwise, yes, the “cuck” of the fem-advertised specialness of pussy, its scarcity, uniqueness and need to “be a good boy” in order to get it, is right up there with the cuck of Santa Clause. Similarly, women are enculturated from childhood to perpetuate that cuck ... to naive man-children.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/09/18 01:28 PM
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“RP theory is interesting to me and I would like an Evo psych RP explanation” Humans are animals who, regardless social (or religious) conditioning, still operate instinctually. Women fuck around as much, of more than, men. Women have far more opportunities to fuck around than men and can do so easier if they want. Women, however, are much more descrete and secretive than men. Your wife is/was no different. Just because she told you about (part of) her sex life doesn’t mean she is any different …
/r/askMRP31/07/18 03:10 PM
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Get as fit as possible and post ONLY your best pics (hottest). Minimize all text info, dialogue and silly Q&A input. To quote a female Match user: “The less words the better! I don’t want to hear what they want and need!” Also, check out this video at 1:07:00 - https://youtu.be/SEjN_4KJVMU?list=PLdrO4g9lXTaIysPtd-XZ3FoeD_m_LUl2r
/r/askMRP07/07/18 08:33 PM
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“typical IT engineer” I knew it! - My first guess.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/07/18 09:39 PM
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My point is to attack the little, easy things ... replace the “broken windows” ... “make your bed.” They add up. Next thing you know, you are fucking chicks in the back of your (restored) AMC Gremlin.
/r/askMRP04/07/18 08:22 PM
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You don’t have to take the advice you are given here. I, for one, will be happy to fuck your wife for you, faggot.
/r/askMRP04/07/18 02:16 PM
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You will drive unless it is a long distance trip (hourS), or unless she is driving you to the ER.
/r/askMRP04/07/18 02:07 PM
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“It’s almost like I don’t mentally know how to respond to her at times . . . As she begs for me to say something.” She isn’t begging you to say something. She is baiting you to step into her frame - to engage her in what she - a woman - is best at - talking. You will lose EVERY TIME. Stop it - all of it - Just. Stop. It! If it absolutely comes to having to speak, minimize the words you use. Even that locked car door situation: Imagine the REVERSE impact you would have had if you had said nothing…
/r/askMRP04/07/18 02:02 PM
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You will “love her” best by becoming ‘the Man other men wish they could be, and whom women wish they could fuck,’ - NOT by the faggot behaviors and dialog you describe in this post. You say you’ve been “reading?” .... Why the fuck is she driving the car?
/r/askMRP04/07/18 01:44 PM
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“Why didn't you tell me?” I want it to be a surprise. Where you ever going to tell me? Right after the champaign arrives!
/r/askMRP21/06/18 10:40 AM
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If she’s going to withhold sex from you, you withhold “relationship” (attention, validation, comfort, feelz, etc.) from her. Protect YOUR value.
/r/askMRP21/06/18 09:32 AM
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Frame for me is who I was (plus improvements) when she, and others, were first attracted me - those very first meetings - and longer. I wasn’t particularly interested in pleasing her then, nor was I especially ready to provide assurances of exclusivity. I was my own man, take me or leave me.
/r/askMRP15/06/18 12:16 AM
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“I wasn’t talking to them. I was screening them.” Then blow off all her other noise. Stop saying, “Okay.” There IS no winning if you respond to her/them in a meaningful way - getting drawn into her frame. Read and learn: https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/8m8tqv/talking_with_women_always_dare_never_deer/
/r/askMRP14/06/18 11:45 PM
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Absolutely not being an asshole!! No need to exert yourself. PM me with her cell number. I’ll take care of this for you.
/r/askMRP13/06/18 11:22 PM
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Words, dialogue, debate, discussion, “communication” is to a woman as mud is to a pig. It is her domain. You will lose if you attempt to mud-wrestle a pig - as you experienced. “The surest sign of doom's arrival is the scornful tongue lashing from a toothed vagina. Once a woman in your presence argues with you, or tests you - the horsemen are coming to your doorstep.” “When you feel the tremoring gallop of these riders approaching, you'd best close the white gates of your mouth, and seal them wi…
/r/askMRP11/06/18 11:30 PM
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I stopped reading after: “I decided to end the bullshit - “what’s been the problem all week?” This is called ‘poking the hamster.’ Don’t do it! You are not Superman. The hamster will kick your ass EVERYTIME. Don’t do it again, dumb ass!
/r/askMRP11/06/18 07:08 PM
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TRUE THIS —> “So reinforce your frame with titanium, be ready for hysterical bonding, she will try to manipulate you with feelings and sex to feather her new nest, the one she’s creating for her ‘next.” Indeed, as soon as you demonstrate that you DNGAF about her any longer she will feel compelled to test her power one more time. Don’t go there. Leave her feeling powerless and alone - showing her that she has lost, not only her power over you, but how little she is deserving of YOU!
/r/askMRP11/06/18 02:51 AM
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There isn’t much non-engineered wheat around these days - if any. It’s made to not-“digest” - can last a long time on the grocers shelves and in your gut. I skip it in all it’s forms when possible. Sisson has other books you should check out as well.
/r/askMRP10/06/18 08:03 PM
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They both give me a headache - the sugar and the autistic ones.
/r/askMRP10/06/18 07:35 PM
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Try to think in terms of umbrella rather than full drysuit.
/r/askMRP10/06/18 07:27 PM
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No. (((This is what happens to people when the arts are reduced or eliminated in their educational process.))) Seems we are getting more and more anal-liticatal over-thinkers lately.
/r/askMRP10/06/18 06:11 PM
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Mark Sisson’s “Primal” is not quite as strict as paleo. You should get his book - Primal Blueprint. It has a lot of good info on foods, diet, efficient exercise and repairing your metabolism. The guy and his wife are in their 70’s and they both look GREAT. He also has a website, Mark’s Daily Apple, that you should check out. It sounds like you are doing a good job with diet - even considering the bread and potatoes, which at first glance doesn’t seem like it should be a big deal. However, there …
/r/askMRP10/06/18 09:35 AM
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Attempts to fix a wife will be fruitless ... unless her state is a result of who you are - the container you have provided for her. You can only fix and improve YOU. However, it may be of some value to understand what her early expectations were/are of your relationship with her. There is a section in the book, “Practical Female Psychology for the Practical Man” which discusses the woman’s Early Frame Announcement (EFA): When properly applied, an understanding of the EFA can spare you from a lot…
/r/askMRP08/06/18 02:50 PM
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The more interested/anxious she perceives you to be, the fewer options she thinks you have, which then makes her think you are of lower value. The lower value you are makes her feel of lower value - as “the best you can do.” Do her a favor and inflate her ego by ignoring her for a few days.
/r/askTRP08/06/18 01:46 PM
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Like this! Hack, have it at the ready once you get past the current plateau.
/r/askMRP07/06/18 10:39 PM
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Stop eating grains (especially wheat), sugar and processed foods. Don’t eat those potatoes you are carrying around, either. Here’s your shopping list ... https://www.marksdailyapple.com/primal-blueprint-shopping-list/#axzz3qTTrsMND Get and read this book: https://www.amazon.com/Primal-Blueprint-Reprogram-effortless-boundless/dp/0982207786/ref=mp_s_a_1_3?ie=UTF8&qid=1528246087&sr=8-3&pi=AC_SX236_SY340_QL65&keywords=primal+blueprint&dpPl=1&dpID=51T4YZfJGTL&ref=plSrch
/r/askMRP06/06/18 12:49 AM
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Did you get her number? It would be nice to know your responses to these topics: “She stayed and we got into deep convo about stuff, a lot was her questioning my relationship with my wife, will I leave her etc, why did I approach her, questions about my kids etc.”
/r/askMRP05/06/18 02:41 AM
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“Since starting red pill when we go out for dinner etc it’s hard to keep the conversation alive. I’m working on not saying much but this is creating uncomfortable silences.” Ahh yes, the good ole days when the W didn’t think she had to bring anything to the table to keep my interest because ... I was so interested (desperate) to keep hers. I had basically conditioned her to expect me to entertain her. Solution: First, continue to improve yourself via lifting, reading and becoming The Prize. Conc…
/r/askMRP28/05/18 10:38 AM
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I don’t do merit badges. Been here before this sub was born.
/r/askMRP24/05/18 05:27 AM
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“I can understand how you’d prefer not to compete, but I’m worth it.” (Yep, I said that just days ago.)
/r/askMRP23/05/18 09:03 PM
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“Nice is different than good.” https://youtu.be/ORgZ3dJxTXM Note Little Red Riding Hood’s reaction to the beta’s (White Knight’s) kiss near the end.
/r/askMRP19/05/18 10:43 PM
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“... and then I fell asleep.”
/r/MarriedRedPill19/05/18 03:01 PM
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This locker room has turned into an echo chamber of faggot ... faggot.... faggot .... faggot ..... faggot ....... faggot .........
/r/askMRP06/05/18 11:14 PM
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You said you wanted respect - from her. It sounds like you chat with her like her girlfriend would - not very masculine, nor exhibiting the characteristics of attractive/Alpha males. Women want and respect that which is difficult to acquire. Be less “easy” with your verbal and intellectual intercourse. Be more “mysterious” - a curiosity.
/r/askMRP05/05/18 07:21 PM
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Sounds like you talk to your wife too much and talk to her about too much. Sounds like you need to lift heavy - get more mass and definition. Sounds like you need to fuck your wife harder - caveman.
/r/askMRP05/05/18 06:25 PM
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You’ve got no cred for that.
/r/askMRP05/05/18 01:13 AM
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Pics, or everything is bull shit!
/r/askMRP05/05/18 12:36 AM
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Hardly! You ain’t seen no Main Event yet. Me thinks Princess says, “Watcha got Big Boy?!”
/r/askMRP05/05/18 12:29 AM
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“I want to be happy, I love the kids, but things need to change.” Translation: ‘I have no f’n idea what the fuck is going on, but gimme more of that thang.’
/r/askMRP05/05/18 12:14 AM
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Congratulations! You have arrived! You are The Prize. Correct, Tinder, etc is shit. YOU are the one to be perused, not them. Carry on. Enjoy the bounty - and the booty.
/r/askMRP25/04/18 04:39 AM
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Agree. You can see female humans in their “organic” and “feral” state. Useful knowledge to have. Note, I intensionally didn’t use the term “woman” = wo-man.
/r/askMRP21/04/18 03:05 PM
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She’s thinking: ‘Why the fuck would ANYONE be so desperate as to want sex from someone who acts like me?! This guy is pathetic!’
/r/askMRP21/04/18 02:10 PM
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She most certainly is gaming you - testing to see how much rudeness, disrespect and infidelity you will put up with yet still find her attractive enough to sniff around her bratty pussy. It’s only a pussy, for God’s sake!
/r/askMRP21/04/18 02:08 PM
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“her words said no you are annoying me but she never got up and walked away until the very end.” Really? So hard to imagine! She’s been a bitch for ????. Then she threw you a few chicken bones (as a test of how desperate and mailable you are), which you happily gobbled up - from the penultimate bitch. Who’s Gaming who?
/r/askMRP21/04/18 02:55 AM
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Well ... I can’t imagine any man who is the Man you say you have come to “know” putting up (action) with her shit. Likely, that is her litmus test as well. So far, she only/still “knows” you by your talk (dance). To get results (with her or another) you need to “BE the change.”
/r/askMRP21/04/18 01:50 AM
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This poster is a woman.
/r/askMRP20/04/18 10:20 PM
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Men need to be continually mindful of the flow of “currency” in their relationships: YOU control her access to the benefits of a relationship with a Man. SHE controls your access to sex (with her). It’s easier for her if she can contort/propagandize/condition/guilt your mind to think that you should continue to provide “relationship” when she (like a delinquent renter) isn’t making her “payments.” Worse, she ultimately disrespects you if she can pull this off! https://www.google.com/amp/s/therat…
/r/askMRP20/04/18 02:07 PM
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The tenents of RP/MRP “raise” you the way should have been raised - as a Man - sans the past 60 years of femcentric/Disney BS. You become distinctively masculine - as you should be. The side effects of this include (among MANY other things) becoming attractive. BONUS: Since society has been effectively cleansed of Men over the past 60 years, once you really “figure this out,” you will become one of the 2-5% of Men who are a unique a curiosity to woman.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/18 11:22 PM
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“Me and my wife have arguments over some of the stuff you guys discuss every day ...” The trapper never “argues” with the prey as to the type of trap or bait the prey prefers.
/r/askMRP17/04/18 08:08 PM
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If she knew, or sensed, that you had other options - and had what it takes to fuck them - she would WANT to fuck you dirty - or however you wanted. She’d give you unsolicited blow jobs to get and keep your attention. AWALT. Women use their sexual powers to get and keep what they see as desirable.
/r/askMRP17/04/18 11:54 AM
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She doesn’t respect you ... which is why she isn’t fucking you properly. In fact, she is dissing you to your face: She doesn’t think you will ever get your career to such a point. AND, even if you do, she doesn’t think you have what it takes to get another quality woman who will fuck you. Ready, Begin - - - - >>>>>
/r/askMRP14/04/18 02:35 PM
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From the article: “Guys get depressed when their woman cheats; that’s exactly what she wants from him. You know what would drive her insane? The path a masculine man would take, which is to smile and say, “alright, so this is how we end”. He’d then start doing his own thing, hooking up with a new chick before the end of the next week. Let her spin herself up at why this doesn’t have you distraught, in tears, and trying to get over it and work it out. She’s the greatest thing alive right? (See: S…
/r/askMRP13/04/18 11:37 PM
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I’m beginning to conclude it’s not about “comfort” or shit testing. It’s that they are acting on their (collective) socialized narrative of entitlement - entitlement that ‘a woman should be treated PDQ, deserves XYZ’ simply by her very presence, or because the Princess™️ has chosen to be with a particular man. They have yet to realize that in most locations and situations the paradigm has shifted - there are few quality/desirable Men to be found. It’s far easier for a woman to try to guilt, sham…
/r/askMRP13/04/18 01:48 PM
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If I’m having a conversation with someone (M or F), she will butt in, talk over or add on - moreso if there is a female in the picture. Otherwise, she doesn’t initiate conversations or have much to say in my discussions with her. It’s almost like she has nothing to say or can’t think of anything to say - to the point of our sitting in awkward silence, or me being the one to introduce topics. But if I start talking with someone (M/F) she suddenly has plenty to say. Lately I have taken to saying, …
/r/askMRP13/04/18 10:26 AM
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“Meh ... Resistance is futile, Baby...”
/r/askMRP31/03/18 04:20 PM
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THIS!
/r/askMRP29/03/18 01:32 PM
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“bad physique men who've internalized their value (even via delusion) fuck circles around pretty boys with abs who haven't...” Correct for PUA, plate, etc. situations. Incorrect for marriages, LTRs and others when the woman has extensive past experience (baggage) with you. Thus, the ‘4 or 5 months of MAP to unfuck every year of fucked up’ guide. No LTR woman is going to trust a “captain” who has demonstrated shitty judgement, inability to hold his emotional shit together, bad financial managemen…
/r/askMRP29/03/18 09:41 AM
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Good stuff ... yada ... but A problem with this stuff .... as was the problem with A. Kay’s (autistic) 10 Sec. Kiss™️ ... is that newbs who have created YEARS of resentment baggage with their wives try to pull this off and they only cause her to put up more walls. Then, they rinse and repeat ad nauseam - provoking the hamster into a rabbid, frothing frenzy. 100% agree that “LIFT” is Rule #1 and BMI is Rule 1a. But if there is a U-Haul sitting in the driveway full of the wives resentment issues, …
/r/askMRP29/03/18 01:10 AM
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“Any advice regarding: what parts of MRP should I stay away from and what parts should I give extra attention when keeping in mind my background of mental issues?” Avoid the parts that cause you to think. Pay more attention to the parts that cause you to act. When in doubt, Come Lift With Me
/r/askMRP27/03/18 01:34 PM
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Apparently she doesn’t think you are of sufficient caliber to get pussy elsewhere.
/r/askMRP24/03/18 04:54 PM
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Sometimes we need to embrace Darwin.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/18 07:24 AM
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Do a search for “red pill movies” on the main Red Pill sub. There are a number of posts / discussions and comments.
/r/askMRP18/03/18 03:05 PM
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“If you truly love me, set me free. Maybe I’ll come back.”
/r/askMRP17/03/18 01:18 AM
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^ WORD !! ^ Doubters and haters need to do reading over on /Adultery and get your eyes opened to the feral nature of women.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/03/18 01:47 AM
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I’ve sent you a PM.
/r/askMRP02/03/18 05:56 PM
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At its most fundamental level RP is about working hardwired instincts to your advantage. If she were totally confident about the security of her other “branch,” she’d make the swing. But, she’s not. Instead, she’s sleeping on the couch. My inclination is to force her hand/call her out (eye-to-eye): “Here’s a gift card to Motel 6. I’ll meet with a divorce attorney on Monday to draw up papers. Alternately, you join me in my bed. Try to keep your hands off me.”
/r/askMRP02/03/18 02:34 AM
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Oh! So cute, you took away her text-boy/fuck-boy/dopamine fix, so she’s throwing a tantrum sleeping on the couch. Too bad she isn’t sure enough about him to monkey-branch. If I were her, and you were me, I sure as fuck wouldn’t want to go to a counselor with that on the menu. Let’s see here, how can we flip the script ....
/r/askMRP02/03/18 12:28 AM
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“I do deserve desire from my partner.” Where the fuck did you read that on this, or any RP, sub?” Do tell.
/r/askMRP01/03/18 07:55 PM
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Shread the bed. Or at least, dent the drywall.
/r/askMRP27/02/18 10:28 PM
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“No.”
/r/askMRP27/02/18 10:21 PM
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She/you will never “pull.” She will, however, walk - if/when you cause her to do so.
/r/askMRP27/02/18 10:19 PM
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Lately, I’m gravitating more towards they want to feel good with you and about you, moreso than connect in an intellectual fashion. They want to feel loved and in love moreso than care if they know why.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/18 03:40 PM
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“When a woman says “I want a man who is vulnerable/ sensitive/ caring/ displays his feelings” she simply means she wants Chad Thundercock to act that way.” ... because it would just be easier that way - Chad would be easier to manage. However, a woman’s attraction to a Man is based on his strengths - of various sorts. It’s his strength that gets her panties damp. She knows, however, that it is that same strength that gets other women’s panties damp. So like Delilah, of Greek mythology, her task …
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/18 02:56 PM
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Been there. So ... does she read any romance novels - aka, lady porn?
/r/askMRP24/02/18 09:44 PM
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“She is a fucking unicorn prude.” Or finally decided to settle with someone safe for fulfilling her biological imparitive.
/r/askMRP24/02/18 09:07 PM
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Think Capt Jack Sparrow (and most of Johnny’s characters), Clyde (of Bonney and Clyde), Edward Cullen (Twilight series). These guys are intriguing and often unpredictable. She doesn’t/shouldn’t need to know everything about you. You don’t have to tell her everything. Tell her flat out, “You don’t need to know everything.” “You have given me something to think about.” “I haven’t decided.” “I’ll let you know once I’ve decided.”
/r/askMRP24/02/18 09:03 PM
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Is she observing you receiving these IOIs? Does SHE make the bed, then?
/r/askMRP24/02/18 02:36 PM
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There are two huge things going on here - in addition to lack of cred. 1) She is in full mommy mode. They just got the babies out of the bedroom! Her bio-mode is NOT reproduction at this time. 2) He’s hard core Christian, including all the assurances and overt/covert contracts. I can’t see in his post history how long he’s been married, but 3 months is a damn short time, even if they had NO kids and if he were recoving Alpha bad-boy. But he’s anything but and, so far, she has no historical reaso…
/r/askMRP24/02/18 02:23 PM
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He’s got no cred.
/r/askMRP24/02/18 12:22 PM
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Since she’s falling asleep at the kitchen table - avoiding him - he’s not desirable enough yet for this. Stormy, how are you seeing yourself as The Prize? Are you noticing other woman noticing you as desirable? Are they giving your body once-over/down-up scans, “fuck me” eyes? Are they approaching you, starting convo. Has your wife observed this? Until these things are happening, your wife still doesn’t (yet) see you as The Prize, and you have no cause to either. As noted by Brickles, you can’t …
/r/askMRP24/02/18 11:48 AM
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"Can we just go to bed early and cuddle?" “Sure Babe. But if I get hard I am not responsible for your actions. (That is what The Prize With Options™️ would say.)
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/18 12:30 AM
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She likes your earned physique. She’ll be testing your mind and frame next. Steady as she goes, mate.
/r/askMRP17/02/18 11:33 AM
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Well ... truth be told you, she shouldn’t have been the passion of your life to begin with. (Disney is a lie!) If fact, if you don’t get a grip on this SHE will “fall out of love” with you as well. Read the side bar. Get you mind right. Get to work on yourself.
/r/askMRP06/02/18 04:42 PM
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Did your client not own his shit? - Did he not do the man-jobs around the house, basic auto repair & maintenance, handyman, yard, security guard, man-speak consultation & correspondence with professional vendors, etc. She could argue that he should compensate her for the loss of these services.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/18 11:08 AM
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I agree, it’s likely too early. However, we ALL need to always be working on a library of humorous comebacks and techniques to flip their efforts to over-inflate the value of sex. “Its just sex. There are vaginas everywhere!”
/r/askMRP27/01/18 05:54 PM
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“Her: (astounded facial expression) This is our problem! You want to know why we don’t have a sex life?! Because you don’t give a shit, that’s why!” You: “Let’s go to Starbucks now. I’ll bend you over in the unisex restroom and grab a coffee for you on the way out.” 😶 Yes, I say (and do) shit like that and she loves it!
/r/askMRP27/01/18 04:39 PM
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Note that at 23:00 she notices that her panties are a bit damp.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/01/18 11:37 PM
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It’s taken a few days for me to find some form of verification of my suspicions as to the instinctual/Primal “why” of this type of anger. It’s near the end of this 5 min Jordon Peterson clip: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TYHeLZbwXLU&sns=em
/r/askMRP26/01/18 04:34 AM
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“I'm looking for the .. I'm just making cereal or some shit and she comes out of nowhere grabbing my junk.” Been there, still can be there — if I let it. It definitely correlates to Dread — unbelievably HIGH levels of Dread - to the point of essentially, “I’m so happy you like my husband and he likes you, but we will be leaving soon.” THEN, she’s like Dino on Fred Flintstone. That, however, is a lot of work! I’m still looking for a solution - maybe a threesome?
/r/askMRP23/01/18 09:02 PM
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I had a recent related experience. After some introspection, i concluded that the particular version of that anger may be a Primal instinct to kill them or drive them away. Can’t go there, regardless.
/r/askMRP22/01/18 11:33 PM
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It takes more than a few months- AND it’s a life long, endless marathon. Boys/Men should have been “learning” how to be The Prize since puberty. Instead, they were/are enculturated to be the pleasers in order to gain the favor of women.
/r/askMRP22/01/18 11:17 PM
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My experience is that the anger is always there. It takes different forms - which can even include being angry at men who are pathetic examples of the species/gender. The only solution/comfort I have found is directing that anger energy into lifting and getting my shit done, and/or creating. Good, rough sex is also a great redirection as well. It’s likely that nature intended it to be this way.
/r/askMRP22/01/18 10:29 PM
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“she says she would rather wait until the morning because she’s drunk.“ Translation: “I can’t believe it! I’m drunk and I still don’t want to fuck you!” Not much is more of a turn-off for a woman than when she thinks that the entire focus of a man’s activity is his “need” to get her to spread her legs. You’d never know that by the way woman speak of wanting “romance,” attention, adoration, etc. It’s actually to the contrary - they put that BS out to test how needy the man is and how controllable…
/r/askMRP22/01/18 04:13 PM
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As part of your work, I’d strongly suggest you do a YouTube search for “Jordan Peterson” and listen to any/all vids related to men/women. Start with this one ... https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aMcjxSThD54&sns=em
/r/askMRP22/01/18 03:00 PM
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There are going to be others coming soon to pound on your sad ass for that puke, especially the last sentence. In the meantime... It is very hard to get BP mind-fucked guys to understand, accept and believe this, but you WILL think much differently about her, love, women, etc. as you continue to read and work on yourself. As you turn the tables and become The Prize everything will start changing. You will start to feel your power and see your options, which may conceivably be her. But, you MUST …
/r/askMRP22/01/18 12:41 PM
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Yeah, I’ve seen this ... frantic race. It’s very pathetic. But, it’s NOT your concern. Little does she know that she’ll be getting pumped and then dumped. She knows the odds are against her. But, she’ll do it anyway. Your job is to keep on improving - - - to the point at which YOU get to do the choosing. The secret that THEY know is THEY have been doing the choosing since puberty. They totally hate the reality that come age 28-30 their time is up. Then, fit and attractive Men 35-? get to be the …
/r/askMRP22/01/18 04:27 AM
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Exactly! Get 2, 3, 4 ...
/r/askMRP22/01/18 03:55 AM
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CONGRATU-FUCKING-LATIONS! She has set you free! - Free from all the fucking lies, propaganda, deception, mind-fucking promises and vows, slavery and tyranny of ... the “m-word.” Fear not. We’ve got you. You’ve got us. Carry on!
/r/askMRP21/01/18 11:04 PM
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Note that at 23:00 she notices that her panties are a bit damp.
/r/askMRP20/01/18 04:58 PM
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Only if she thinks her vagina is the only one that wants you.
/r/askMRP19/01/18 05:08 PM
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They want to feel your strength, in all the forms that contrasts theirs.
/r/askMRP19/01/18 04:55 PM
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Some guys do various versions of martial arts. I’d recommend such. Heavy lifting - building muscle mass and definition is VERY important. Women are very responsive to such, in being attracted to it, feeling secure while being wrapping in it, and feeling Dread in response to other women being attracted to it/YOU! While you need to mix in cardio, use about 75-80% of your energy and time doing heavy lifting - IMO/experience.
/r/askMRP19/01/18 03:53 PM
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No more kids. She’s too old. The potential for birth defects is too high. Get a vasectomy and end the potential for “accidents.” Make that decision as a sensible Man. Lift - at a gym outside the house. Continue reading, studying MRP and sidebar literature. Lift. Become the best Man you have ever been, and better than any man she will ever get. Make her HAPPEN to see that others want you, that you have options and that you just might be “crazy” enough to act on them. Lift. Don’t engage her in len…
/r/askMRP19/01/18 03:02 PM
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If you were (able) to look her straight in the eye and say with a smirk, “Let me check my calendar again. I think I may have double booked with a date,” would she believe you actually had a date? Would you be able to handle her shit-show? If not, you still have work, reading and Dread building to do. What you want to happen is her to NOT want to leave you home and NOT remind her that you are attractive and “crazy” enough to have options.
/r/askMRP18/01/18 11:04 PM
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“You can be her lover or her child; pick one.” Outstanding! This alone is a threat to the MC industry.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen18/01/18 08:01 PM
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“> ... if a wife is being critical and nasty ...<“ The essence of TRP/MRP is that she won’t be critical and nasty if she knows her husband is hawt, has his shit together, is better than her other options (which isn’t hard these days!) and that HE has/will not hesitate to act on his options. Given this scenario, by biological design, a woman worth having/keeping will naturally defer - submit - to the man. And, she will feel happy in doing so.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/18 11:53 AM
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Kudo’s to you, BPP, for distilling the explanation and administration of what TRP is all about even further. Your tenacity and ability to say the same thing over and over in multiple ways, over a long period of time is praiseworthy.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/18 11:10 AM
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"I don't think he does enough at the gym." You’ve got to give her credit for being up front. She telling you that you are not fucking her hard enough. I suggest you read/re-read “The Sex God Method” and make it your goal to shatter the bed.
/r/askMRP07/01/18 11:43 PM
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You’d be surprised how quickly passengers on sinking boats (who previously distained lifejackets) come to value and seek quality lifejackets once they are convinced the boat is sinking - especially if they are poor swimmers. But, I try to avoid taking poor swimmers on my boat as they are just one more thing to have to think about.
/r/askMRP31/12/17 12:48 PM
2

Infidelity comes in many forms, including obesity and sloth.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/12/17 03:57 AM
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I enjoy the easy pick-ins - and the joyful look on the XX-Box’s face when they realize someone can play them on hard mode.
/r/RPChristians22/10/17 07:37 PM
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The XX-Box has always been designed to select for the best players. Yes, the game itself has been playing the players, however, only to its own detriment, and some of the XX-Boxes are beginning to realize this, as there are fewer and fewer good players. As better players re-emerge, and are rebuilt, the cycle will begin again. In the meantime, it’s a Gamers market for those Men in the know. Finally, don’t EVER believe the dialogue that pops up on the screen saying that you are lucky to have been …
/r/RPChristians22/10/17 01:54 PM
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Just say, “Improving.” The fewer words, the better. Don’t believe what the say about, “Communication.” They just turn it to ammo against you - eventually.
/r/askMRP21/10/17 04:49 AM
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Thanks. Women are fascinating creatures. Doesn’t Scripture tell us that God made them as companions - or something like that? ... Well, back then no one knew of video games. God is the inventor of the ultimate video game - the “Double X-Box.” Enjoy her. Hack Tip: God has a dry sense of humor.
/r/RPChristians20/10/17 11:54 AM
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I figured you’d have reservations on Rollo - exactly as you explain. I admire your efforts to find a way to ... seemingly ... find that Biblical spoon full of sugar to make the RP medicine go down. You may end up writing all the material yourself, which maybe could be - IS - a good, needed thing!
/r/RPChristians20/10/17 03:28 AM
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You did very well! Not a fail - AT ALL. “I know that guy deserved it, but I just can't get over the fact that you did that. That's not the guy I married and I really don't like you right now." Translation: ‘You did a great job. But, you are showing too much confidence and assertiveness lately. You are too bold. I am afraid you may even be so bold that you might intimidate me! Or worse, stand up to ME as you did to him, OMG! Then, I’d likely feel submissive to you, which would make me feel all ti…
/r/RPChristians20/10/17 03:12 AM
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Practical Female Psychology : for the Practical Man - David Clare, Franco, and Joseph W. South The Rational Male - Rollo Tomassi
/r/RPChristians20/10/17 02:08 AM
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"... and weak initiations by her (still can't figure out if I should try to improve this or just accept being the only initiator ... " You will have to accept it, and the less-than HMS (Hot Monkey Sex) unless she truely believes that she is competing for you with another woman. She will not deploy that God given weapon - Feminie Power - unless she senses she has to. By now you KNOW that marriage and excessive assurances of comfort and security run counter to causing a woman to exercise her maxim…
/r/askMRP16/10/17 01:01 PM
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R-C, are you still abiding by the early relationship "agreement" you wrote about somewhere back in your history - where you tell your wife when another woman shows interest in you? I believe you sited a recent situation with a female attorney.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/17 06:02 PM
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Re: "... as far as initiating physical contact listed their outside of sex i'm still 90% of it. sex initiation is 50/50 approximattly although her initiation is usually subtle ..." and similar regarding her preference for Netflix vs walks, et al. What kind/level of Girl-Girlfriend Game did your wife have when you were dating - before LTR status was established? Are you expecting she do something she has never done/had to do before? (Women who never had to pursue or compete - because they were ho…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/17 03:04 AM
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She wants company from you. You want sex from her. She no longer gets the former if you don't get the latter. Men need to learn to "be good" as well.
/r/askMRP20/09/17 07:44 AM
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Re: "My wife has always “maintained” an imaginary boundary about “having a say” in who I hire in my company." How The Fuck did this happen? Does she work there? Did she work there? Is she a shareholder? What is her REAL share/stake in the company? Edit/Addendum: As part of your "MAP" simply & calmly tell her that she has no "imaginary" or other say in how you run your company. Let the shit fly and let it be done with.
/r/askMRP12/09/17 01:50 AM
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How long have you been together?
/r/MarriedRedPill06/09/17 12:29 PM
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Well said! Re: "dread isn't about her believing you want other women; it's about her believing that other women want you (again, a variant of post-wedding preselection.)" What would be your (Christian position) reaction to leaving her not quite knowing what to believe - being seemingly less predictable (ala Capt. Jack Sparrow)?
/r/RPChristians05/09/17 07:39 AM
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Yes - Send her flowers --- NOW!!
/r/MarriedRedPill01/09/17 11:46 AM
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Stop, think: Why/how would any woman view a pursuing man as not-needy, not having options, not buying into her (BS) frame of one-and-only-true-love-forever, not having oneitis, not pedistalizing, etc. if he is waiting for a woman?
/r/MarriedRedPill01/09/17 11:27 AM
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I'm not clear on which "girl's" eyes you are referring to - the wives eyes or another woman's eyes? There is some validity in the thinking that some women see a married man (ring or not) as pre-approved and possibly a good target/challenge for poaching. But in today's market/married population of men, married hardly equates to quality (thus the mission of this sub). There are plenty of physically unfit, character deficient, mother-needy, generally fucked-up men wearing wedding rings. Perhaps you…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/17 03:48 PM
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Well explained. However, to my point, any form of contemporary, non-polygamous, female-centric "marriage" (or LTR) in which the female sees or senses the male compromising his natural instincts of polygamy - ESPECIALLY to get pussy - is a wetness killer for the woman. (We see this frequently in narratives of DB honeymoons.) It eventually leads to the woman losing all interest in, and natural attraction to, the man.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/17 06:43 AM
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Are you arguing that Alpha Men contrived marriage 1.0 to satiate the betas and provide assurance of the sustenance of civilization? Nah ... If so, they did so just to GTFO of the fucking meeting!
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/17 01:35 AM
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Encouraging! I'll continue to follow your journey with interest.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/17 12:04 AM
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Yes, or put another way, she sees the Man operating in his natural masculine Frame of polygamy. The institution of marriage is an unnatural, contrived feminine frame - fundamentally a Shit Test to see who will to fall into that frame. The more the man fails to operate in his own Frame and, instead, operates in the woman's, the more unattractive he becomes to her.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/17 11:50 PM
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The ring, too?
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/17 11:17 PM
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It's more than comparison game, it's also Dread and Marking. At the beginning of my RP journey (~7 years ago) I was perplexed as to the genesis of the few times my wife of ~18 years was on me like Dino on Fred Flintstone, literally almost knocking me over. These times were not during ovulation. They were not after/during "romantic" events. In fact, our honeymoon sucked sexually, as did a number of anniversary dinners, etc. Piecing things together, I recalled that the Dino attacks and hot monkey …
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/17 10:42 PM
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The corollary here is that women "appraise" the attractiveness of a man, not by her own assessment - like a man but, by the reactions of other women. Wives and SO's need reenforcment and reminders that their man is desirable by observing the reactions of other women to their man.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/17 03:06 PM
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It's easier to shame other women than to compete with them.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/08/17 02:31 AM
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Jacki to Jack Kennedy, "Oh Jack, not another blonde." Read history. There are more. LOTS MORE.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/08/17 02:14 AM
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To the contrary, she sounds happy. AND, she returned of her own free will.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/08/17 08:29 PM
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I like the broken vase anology. Even if/when you can put it back together you still see the cracks, and you know it was broken. Someone may take some pride and feel "lucky" in having fixed it, but it's still obvious that it is a broken vase and it's not as strong, nor good looking as a new one.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/08/17 04:53 AM
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The percentage of truely fit, masculine, non-betaized men out there is very low. (I'm not even using the term "Alpha!") When/if you talk with women about men/their dating experiences they (some) will tell you cringe-worthy stories - of men looking for mothers, with personal issues, mental and physical issues. Among themselves, they discuss how bad it is out there - the SMP. In my area it is hard to find men without guts hanging over their belts. Then, screen for those who are fucked up, with iss…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/17 08:53 AM
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They exist everywhere - and throughout history. It's just easier for them if they can convince/shame/dupe you that they won't tolerate sharing. They WILL share: Jacki to Jack Kennedy, "Oh Jack, not another blonde." Read history. There are more. LOTS MORE.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/17 03:03 PM
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Not necessarily "horseshit." There are some women/situations (maybe numerous) where the woman seems to thrive on nearly constant reminders/evidence of the alpha-ness of the man of her desire. (Yes, I'm projecting.) Further, it's almost such that she wants the other woman to think they have poached the man, yet they she still gets to walk out the door with the goods. (Think Black Friday shopping.)
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/17 11:53 AM
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^ Word!! - with the caveat that this is RP 400 level stuff.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/17 12:01 AM
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I'd recommend you reading, "The Primal Blueprint" and related, Google Mark's Daily Apple website. (It's not full-on paleo.) Also consider/research that much of the weight you are dealing with is a result of stored, or very slowly metabolized toxins in processed and nearly indigestible GMO foods. Some is also inflammation resulting from foods that your body is essentially "allergic" too - wheat, grains, sugar, possibly dairy, high fructose corn syrup - to name the typical. Yes, getting your metab…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/08/17 01:59 PM
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I started at home. A good cyber-friend (woman) was adamant that I go to a gym - one with a lot of traffic/that is well populated, including women. I resisted for a while, then made the change. It makes all the difference in the world. You see and become a part of a positive scene/culture of others who are of a similar mindset as you. That, in itself, is motivational. Checking out the ladies is inspirational, or at least a scenic distraction. Later, having the ladies, and less fit guys, check you…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/08/17 12:37 PM
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or have selective memory. Yep, and women rewrite history, too. Reminder: It's a genetic "feature."
/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/17 03:55 PM
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I am quite serious. She is WAY ahead of you [and 98% of all men] as to how to rope (guilt, shame, blame) you back in line - given such. Women have been socialized as to how to be a woman and KEEP men from being Men since they started growing boobs. (It's just easier that way.). Who has been helping you? - since the first time you sprouted a pub?! (Rhetorical question.) Have you ever seen similar posts/responses to you ... ? Go slow. You DON'T know. She does!! Tip: You will know when the scales h…
/r/RPChristians01/08/17 03:20 AM
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"but the fact that he said that and my wife smiled with a blush made me happy :)" Good work! Now, you need to cause it to 'happen to happen' that your wife - on her own - observes women reacting similarly. Or better, touching you - especially on the upper arms and/or pecs. If she says anything to you, your reaction is, "They can't help themselves." [Own It.]
/r/RPChristians01/08/17 02:03 AM
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"I'm going to be so awesome that you'll be so horny for me that your hamster will try to justify using sex for pleasure instead of procreation. When I have the hamster working for me instead of against me, that's the sweet spot." More likely she's consciously or subconsciously lost and confused. It's been quite some time (if ever) that she's had to use her God given power of sexuality to attract and hold - "have and to hold." You are changing the rules. (My wife's words.) Your wife's dialog reve…
/r/RPChristians30/07/17 06:52 PM
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I wish I were 50 again - and know what I know now and in as good of shape as I am now.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/17 12:00 PM
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AKA, "Fake News™."
/r/MarriedRedPill22/07/17 09:44 PM
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My bad. I meant Marriage 2.0 - specifically in reference to how/why the interpersonal dynamics of marriage have changed, ie been contaminated, by changes in the law over the past 60 years. https://weddedabyss.wordpress.com
/r/RPChristians19/07/17 07:08 PM
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"One can have an intention to save his marriage while still himself being saved. The idea that one must abandon commitment to his wife in order to restore that commitment is something I haven't seen yet. But I'll chalk that up to inexperience on good faith for now." Under Marriage 102, women bet ALL their chips on that "commitment." It is womens Nature to constantly test for assurances of that commitment (testing for fails at DEERing, IOI, etc.) It is also their Nature to up their Game when they…
/r/RPChristians19/07/17 09:42 AM
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"HER: [Slams fridge closed, presses me up against it and kisses me hard.]" She's rewarding you for performing within her frame, i.e., sex a few times within the past 5-6 mos and NO blowjobs (or even handjobs?). HER: "Good boy, have hot kiss." YOU: [Grabbing her ass.] "I'm thinking Blow Job." HER: I don't give blow jobs. They are not hygienic. YOU: You do to me. HER: No, I don't. YOU: [Raised eyebrow, eyes locked on] "Oh?" [Go to the gym. Get some muscle definition. Start sprinkling in more and m…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/07/17 08:16 AM
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You didn't mention if you are getting IOIs from other/most women. If you are not, you really have little/nothing to work with -- yet. Your wife observing IOIs directed towards you by other women is like the appraisal report to the bank from which you are trying to get a home mortgage approval. Women can't/don't give "approval" to a man unless they see other women approving. (Women are not like men.)
/r/MarriedRedPill17/07/17 01:54 AM
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At some point "Darwin" needs to be allowed to play out. We need to stop saving "crazy," enabling "crazy" and putting our dicks in crazy. We need to be strong enough to do that. As Men - "The Prize" - we need to be confident enough to know that we have options and can do better than put our dicks in "crazy." Of course, it is in women's best interests to convince, condition and coerce men into thinking that they don't" have options and we "get lucky" when we get **anything.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/07/17 03:40 PM
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And ... how much attention should we pay to what women say? (Rhetorical question.)
/r/MarriedRedPill13/07/17 10:53 PM
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Are you "The Prize?" (Actually you are. There are "not a lot of good men out there."™ Are you "The Man With Whom She'd Have Her Affair?" If not, get on it. If you think "not yet," you STILL have a lot of time ... till your divorce. Welcome.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/07/17 10:40 PM
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"The problem is that when she's upset the hamster takes over and she doesn't know what she really wants, so whatever comes out of her mouth can't be trusted. I've seen this happen on loop more times than I can count." If so, you lack congruence if you back a poster on your RPC sub who posts ... "I'd say you have a stronger point if you emphasize the "happily" part." I understand if you are you trying to encourage activity on that/your sub.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/07/17 09:50 PM
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knowing that what we do matters to the other. This is a covert contract - its not a part of Red Pill thinking/strategy. The roots, strength and efficacy of RP, as you should be learning, is based on optimizing instinctual mechanisms and triggers to achieve sexual and relational objectives. If one is going to overlay and adulterate RP with intellectual and spiritual constructs, it is not THE "Red Pill," but rather only one of the many Blue Pills from which to choose.
/r/RPChristians13/07/17 08:25 AM
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... and Eve liked it rough, as do all her daughters.
/r/RPChristians12/07/17 06:25 PM
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"Women take the shape of their container." Be a strong/stronger container and you'll likely never have to deal with crazy. If you do, you'll be strong enough to excercise your options.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/17 02:19 PM
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It is important that men realize that they must be fit - of sufficient masculine quality, desirability, sexual market value (SMV) - for a woman to willingly and happily submit to him - to be ruled over. It is his fitness that triggers her desire for her husband, not words, declarations, threats or discussions. Attraction cannot be negotiated nor contracted. RP/Manosphere is about helping men realize how to become worthy of claiming their God given authority.
/r/RPChristians12/07/17 01:35 PM
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It may/may not be retarded - and I - might - know why such is your gut reaction/feeling. But, could you expand a bit? Addendum: Men have been fed "fake news" as to 'what is instinctually attractive to women' for at least the last 60 years. 95% of men are naive, clueless, confused. In actuality, there are NOT a whole lot of "good men" out there. Unless a girl is willing to do something to clue a guy in, she is likely to end up a statistic in the 55% divorce rate after the average of 5 years of ma…
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/17 02:48 PM
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She'd do more cooking for you, more cleaning, hotter sex, more blowjobs to completion, etc. if she thought you were a hot commodity and she didn't (quite) have you locked down.. Women are most attracted to men whom other men want to be, who other women want to fuck, and whom they WANT, but don't have.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/17 06:32 PM
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^ This ^
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/17 01:38 PM
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I was in your predicament 25 yrs ago. I made a "conscious decision" to marry that woman -now, a wonderful mother of 3. Like so many women, they get caught up in being a mother and less of a wife, unless the man has a clue as to manage the situation. Thanks to the internet/Manosphere, WE all now have that clue. Six years ago I almost lost the whole deal. Since finding and utilizing TRP/Manoshere, it's been a 6 year journey of improving the marriage/relationship/family and MYSELF to a point where …
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/17 01:20 PM
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Women behaviors and desires are reactive. They will alter (consciously or unconsciously) who they are and how they behave according to who/what they determine to be of suffient value and desirability to please, attract, acquire and retain. Part of the bitter truth of The Red Pill is the man's ongoing realization that her undesirable or desirable behavior towards you is a result of her assessment of: Your value, whether you are desired, whether you know you are desired, whether you have the balls…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/17 09:38 AM
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until it all blew up and she filed How/why did that happen - if it was 'working well?' Did you get any sign or warnings?
/r/MarriedRedPill10/04/17 11:50 AM
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He's 'at piece with it,' knowing that by including women he is 'helping more people.' Ok, but women are not programmed to fix their men. They are programmed to discard them upon finding defect. Men need more Men helping men. Women have each other ... and the State ... and beta males ... and the Church.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/17 01:27 AM
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A large part of "attraction" for a woman is the need to attract the guy of her choosing. Once the woman feels that the guy is locked down, in her spell, or doesn't have options she frequently loses attraction for him.
/r/TheRedPill15/01/17 12:15 AM
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You are not his mother. He has to learn this, you have to learn this. You (literally) can not fix for him or help him fix. He must seek professional help (dubious value) or fix it himself by reading and conversing here.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/16 04:51 AM
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He needs to stop the tantrums. He is FAR from being anything RP - "going to his parents!"
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/16 04:34 AM
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I wouldn't sweat the apology about the breaking ... right now. IMO, he needs to get lead back to the essentials of RP - he "owns it." Also, he DID NOT handle your 'phone thing' very well. His handling is not really your problem, but your 'need' is. Enter RPW.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/16 04:32 AM
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See my comment below. This is NOT for you to fix - or for you to protect him.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/16 04:23 AM
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You don't have a TRP marriage or LTR - yet. He fucked up. He pays the consequences. He fixes it. He gets his shit together HIMSELF. If he doesn't, you leave. Period.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/16 04:20 AM
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LOL In a very sweet and submissive tone text him, "Honey, I asked your bro's on TRP what I should do. They said something about reminding you to, 'read the side bar' and that you should fix the door. They also said that I should report you to the cops. They've given me 'a lot to think about.' I hope to hear from you soon. In the meantime, I'll be reading up on what the woman have to say on some RP sub called MRP. I hope they will be able to help me with my problem of being such an AW - "attentio…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/16 04:13 AM
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You communicate with your ex too much. STFU!! Definitely (quietly) go to a lawyer to discuss reopening custody/placement/support payments. Explore the possibilities of your options leading to "something" leading to your attny sending her written notice that you desire to restructure your current arrangement - to "ease her concerns." When she goes ballistic express your genuine interest in relieving her of her burden - as expressed in the article she sent you.
/r/TheRedPill10/11/16 02:50 AM
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I also wasn't necessarily sleeping with [Alpha] Chads anyway. Your primal brain was saying, "This guy is not worth bonding with. No Orgasm for you. Do not collect Oxytocin." Congratulations, you've found your "Soulmate."
/r/RedPillWomen06/11/16 12:39 AM
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Seriously, regardless of the sex you just had through "negotiation," you DO need to read more - as well as STFU! Fisherman never discuss net preference with fish. They only gunnysack your words - "discussions" - and use them against you. Her next move will likely be to shame-tame you with your noticing the IOIs at all - probably with tears and "I only want you to have eyes for me." Read. Lift. Redirect your mission on a course AWAY from her pussy! Women find "attractive" Men who are attract-ive …
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/16 12:05 PM
1

See my edit above.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/16 01:54 AM
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I've read your other past posts. You're still very new at this. Your wife is very comfortable with what/how she has manipulated [edit: how you have LET her manipulate] your relationship to be - how she has worn you down such that she is consciously/subconsciously confident that she doesn't have to use her sexuality to assure your loyalty. Read this post: https://m.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/5b1ebn/my_failure_the_gnawing_effects_of_an_ltr_on_a_man/?sort=top Continue on your path, and add li…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/16 01:21 AM
1

NO! THIS "intro" shit is why some are here - vs MMSL (or whatever it is called now.) What you have DONE (past tense) does not matter.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/08/16 12:15 AM
1

Consider a larger SUV kind of thing - the more masculine, the better. Think pickup with crew cab.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/07/16 11:48 PM
1

Well done - IMO - at least as a start. The last time I responded to your post I wasn't very constructive, not knowing what you & your wife are into. Here are some things that have worked for me ... For your consideration: 1) Go biking - especially in areas/on paths where other couples and families are also biking. 2) Piano bars - Women f'n LOVE these, especially if they are the dueling (2 pianos) type places ... or if you can interact with the musician and request songs. 3) If you have kids of d…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/07/16 10:52 PM
1

Regarding "boring" and concerns about her fidelity: 1) You do sound boring. At the very least, you are predictable. Your activities sound boring - as far as something a woman would enjoy doing with you. You need to address this as part of your "MAP." What activities would the Man with whom she would have an affair be doing - that she would find him to be "amazing?" 2) Become the Man with whom she, or any woman, would have an affair. When she sees that other women would gladly have an affair with…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/16 06:51 PM
1

I'm very impressed with your introspection. It's very unusual to see a woman get past (most of) her/the hamster screaming in her ears, especially related to the societally imposed entitlement conditioning. And, you are doing a great job of taking it on the chin here in the locker room. However, regarding ... "Im going to try ... to keep him from straying ... But, ... I'm just going to have to go in a different direction than what would have been my first choice." I would advise that you NOT give…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/16 04:32 PM
1

He could very well be getting MORE and BETTER on the side, as well as telling you what you want to hear while keeping frequency up - all to negate any suspicions you may have. My sense is, based on what your hamster is writing, your gut is telling you that something is up. "I don't want to live under the constant (real or imagined threat) of him leaving me for someone younger and better lookin." As I told my wife of 26 years (after getting my shit together for 4 years - all the while trying to g…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/06/16 10:52 PM
2

Such a waste! Are you betting that he's not crazy/crafty/wealthy enough to be getting some hot eye candy and variety on the side? Do you think that "when it counts" you can just drop the 60 lbs and hit the market again to find a new man? Or, are you saying you want to live with cats after he's gone? If I were you (or you were my wife) I'd start looking at HOW and WHAT you eat - stop eating poison and shit (80%) and get smart about how you exercise (20%). Here: http://www.marksdailyapple.com/welc…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/06/16 07:12 PM
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Good post. Your conclusions on female orgasms, as related to the woman's view of the man, are consistent with my experiences as well. I also concure with your thinking on 'just fuck 'em hard' without regard for their orgasm if they don't/can't cum. In fact, sometimes a woman will appreciate and instinctually be more "respectful" of the man who 'just wants her' rather than the man who is constantly trying to please her.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/05/16 12:32 PM
1

As a competitive sailor, musician, and RP'er (yet educator), I have come to accept that once you reach a certain level of proficiency it becomes increasingly more difficult and frustrating, not to mention less fruitful, to help others at a lower level. We tend to lose sight of the fact that they have yet to be able to discern minutia from outcome. (Discerning "fast" from fastidious.) Cad, sail on!
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/16 10:33 PM
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The following applies to moms with kids up to about age 5. No. Recall, women have a "dual mating strategy/body agenda" for which they test your fitness. When a women is in her Alpha seeking mode (Alph fuck mode), she is seeking the highest quality sperm she can attract. She will, at that time, compete with other women to attract and KEEP you - if she continues to find you desirable. She has NO time nor attraction for betas, and is completely disgusted by beta behaviors. However (in short), once …
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/16 09:37 PM
1

... Therefore it is important to get to know the woman and vet her before becoming overly dominant. (The video obviously depicts a couple who know each other.) Yes, you are taking a huge risk if you attempt overly dominant moves at the outset. In the long run, however, if the woman is so insistent on a vanella relationship and vanella sex then she doesn't get to enjoy the good stuff, someone else will. And, if she thinks someone else might be getting the good stuff, you'd be astonished how quick…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/16 11:38 PM
1

Agreed. I'd also add that we are also too BP indoctrinated to translate what a woman is "saying" when she acts in such ways. Pay attention to her actions to hear what she is saying.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/16 08:55 PM
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"The part that I find so interesting is not that it's happening, or the double life. But the fact that they openly like all the angles. It's one thing to do something on the side but actually keep pushing through with the beta and kids is fucking insane to me. Why not just fuck off?" *These women are CC Riders and Alpha widows. They likely have been CC Riders all their lives. Their experience tells them that the Alpha tingles and fucks just cannot be beat. Their experience also tells them that b…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/05/16 11:32 PM
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Yes, it has worn off. She sounds like a very "organized" woman, who knows how to get what she "wants" - including a man who makes double her salary AND does her chores, to boot. Trouble is, no woman really "wants" the man she can easily manipulate - or gives her everything she manipulates out of him. You are far too nice to this woman. You admit it yourself - the pregnancy situation. Yes, a shower handjob is a "good sign" --- for starters. But if she is going to run her pie hole all the way thro…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/05/16 07:47 PM
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"I politely raised the topic, she suggested we split." Oops, but she PROVED that you would stay ... and keep her on a pedistal - chasing her pussy - no matter how much of a bitch she is. And, here she goes again: "I move to remove her yoga pants. She refused to take off her yoga pants until I started undressing." BUT, she sounds a little more threatened and desperate here: "After a couple minutes she comes downstairs, still topless, and tries to rip me a new one about how hard she was trying to …
/r/MarriedRedPill06/05/16 06:53 PM
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Also, she may not be cheating, per se. She could be simply biding her time - in a holding pattern. It is amazing how long some women can do this while waiting for their children to reach a certain age, or some event to occur. They can actually become seemingly sexless, avoiding anything that has to do with sex, attraction, being attractive - especially towards their husbands, whom they don't want to "get any ideas."
/r/MarriedRedPill04/05/16 11:21 AM
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There is a difference in effect between being occupied (working out, particularly) around the house and being occupied off-site. I used to believe the same as you - that I could work out in the basement and it would suffice. A very good RP-woman/friend enlightened me that, in fact, the effect is not the same as when you are off-site at a gym - where her thoughts of fit women of the fitness/hotness mindset are potentially interacting with you. (Women "know" what occurs at the gym because they pro…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/05/16 11:08 AM
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It was very worth saving and I am most happy with the results. She is very happy too and admits that most relationship related things are now better than they ever have been, including the sex. PM me if you wish.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/16 04:43 AM
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"Ongoing dead bedroom, married 15 years, sliding down the slope into betadom for much of that time. MRP found six months ago ..." As several others have noted below, you are expecting too much too soon. 15 years of a fucked up relationship = 15 months before things start to turn around in HER head. It's not just about you, it's about HER perception of you. She first has to unlearn everything she "learned" about you, then she has to START getting notions of who the "new you" might be, then she ha…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/16 10:11 PM
1

Your choice is to learn to win, or lose nothing.
/r/askMRP21/04/16 05:22 AM
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I'll tell her you said that.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/16 05:21 PM
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Thus, "Oh Jack, not another blonde." (Jackie to JFK) You have to have the value and frame to pull it off.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/16 05:15 PM
2

Thank you. I have thought about sharing more, or the full story, ... at various times. I'm very reluctant to do so as I've seen too many FRs of guys who read RP like a car repair manual and can't hold sufficient frame to pull off a "10 Second Kiss." I can't hardly imagine how I would explain how to convince their wife and mistress that it would be in everyone's best interest if they went out for drinks together.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/16 04:58 PM
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From SP's referenced article' "Why Relationships Fall Apart, Part 4: Boredom" ... "Women cannot tell you outright what they want, because they know if they do it’ll make them sound crazy. Just imagine a woman telling you, “I don’t really want to feel like I’ve totally got you; it’ll make me lose all attraction for you! Instead I want to feel like I’ve mostly got you, but from time to time still feel a little unsure.” You’d think she’s nuts." The reason she's getting bored is because she's got yo…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/16 03:46 PM
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I knew there was a reason I'm only getting fucked a minimum of twice per day - on week days. Speaking of which, hey doc, is there some herbs or talc that I can use to keep my dick from being so raw all the time? (I looked at your post history.)
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/16 02:40 AM
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I was not about to give credibility to her comment by discussing it. Women will test your confidence and frame in all kinds of ways - including being (playing) prudish ... with a copy of 50 Shades under the bed. What they really want, and will ultimately respect, is the Man who has the confidence and demeanor such that they can TRUST you with their Inner Slut. Unfortunately, most guys don't "get" this until they discover the "aweful" things their SO's are capable of blissfully doing with an affa…
/r/TheRedPill02/04/16 01:10 AM
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Tell her, "Keep your ass up and tits on the bed." They sometimes arch up if they feel you hitting the end of the cervix. You should be fine at your size. My wife's first impression was, "That's aweful." After becoming more commanding and instructive with her, it's now, "It feels amazing."
/r/TheRedPill01/04/16 10:28 PM
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Forgedabout it. She'll only be submissive for/with someone/you who has established dominance over her - gained her respect. It's primal. Her being submissive with you does not mean she is weak or has lost confidence. Believe it, if you fuck up, fail to lead, or fail a shit test or two you will see her "confidence" come right back at you!
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/16 06:37 PM
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"Her confidence is one of the things I love about her, and seeing it wane is sometimes tough." This is her becoming submissive. Embrace it. Overall, this post is a model FR of how to flip a relationship. Well done! Enjoy.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/16 05:44 PM
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They want to see if they "still have it" - seeking validation.
/r/TheRedPill19/03/16 05:12 PM
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They left when they realized you would not be buying them drinks.
/r/TheRedPill19/03/16 08:48 AM
1

Mine encourages her's to go to his parents for the weekend.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/03/16 02:28 AM
1

Yep, the hotter they are, yet not fucking you, sure as shit they are fucking someone else. Find the (fit) guy "friend, coach, Scout Leader ... whatever in her life ... she is fucking HIM ... like she NEVER fucked you!!! (How's that for motivation?)
/r/MarriedRedPill12/03/16 01:20 AM
1

SOME examples of sabotaging would include the wife (even though she sees the husband is on a mission and making progress) making pans of cookies and baked goods. When the H mentions it, the response is, "Well, don't eat them." Also, not feeling like cooking and ordering out for pizza, etc. Being resistant about making clean, healthy meals for the entire family - insisting on diet plans that simply don't work/haven't been working for years. "Portion control" comes to mind.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/03/16 10:01 PM
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As noted below, this is a TRP whine. Women DO mirror the man they are with. However, naive, Disney minded men often fail when they they believe statements such as 'I love you the way you are,' 'I like big men,' 'You are the love of my life.' Women also tend to unconsciously (perhaps) take their man off the market by over feeding their man to make him "happy" and also similarly sabotaging MAPs. So, it's important for newbs to have this awareness.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/03/16 05:31 PM
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Being "The Prize" works everywhere.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/16 11:33 PM
1

The importance, impact, "value," and attraction of being able to break the bed cannot be over emphasized! A pussy can take/wants a lot more pounding than most women will tell you. If she is not thinking about you the next day (and you DO need to ask her), pound her harder.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/16 10:56 PM
2

Redneck nailed it. The Princess feels something is happening at the foundations of her throne. Keep doing what you are doing, but STFU about it and what you "want." Women are most attracted to men whom they notice other women want and whom they feel they must attract to acquire or keep. Be that guy. They are least attracted to men who chase them, try to please them for approval or whom they have locked down. Dont be that guy - no matter what she tells you!
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/16 04:46 PM
2

In addition to what Cad and Redneck are saying, if your kid is in a group activity, or you are in a team parent leadership position/office, consider hosting a party for the parents at your home. It helps if people feel they should dress up a little. Then, work the AMOG angle like crazy. This has worked like a charm for me. DanG has "the best" Christmas martini parties.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/02/16 04:32 PM
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There is no such thing as cheating without telling the wife. They always "know." To successfully "cheat" to save your marriage you have to establish and maintain enough leverage to reset the relationship with you (the Man) as The Prize that she wants to keep. While such is want IS most instinctually attractive to her and best for the marriage, neither she nor her sisters are going to EVER admit it or allow a man to overtly win. Women are not adults, but only the oldest teen in the house.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/16 10:24 PM
1

Disagree. You are only fucked in marriage if you act and are perceived as unable/unwilling/fearful/predictable and don't have the options to get fucked by a quality woman outside the marriage ... and know how to deal with the coming shit storm. NO quality woman will relinquish a quality Man to a woman whom she perceives as higher quality than herself.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/16 04:07 PM
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The stupid shouldn't be saved.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/16 11:55 AM
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For some women/wives whom you are not done with, want to keep, and with whom you are trying to save a marriage, getting them out of "mommy mode," or whatever funk she is in, takes her seeing that you are actually "Man" enough to have options and ACT on them. What you are actually "cheating" on is NOT the marriage, but the femcentric conditioning that a "real man" wouldn't dare cause his wife such hurt. Of course in her eyes, he should be man enough not to be so "needy" as to go outside the marri…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/16 03:31 AM
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^ Word
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/16 10:54 PM
1

I'm one of the most senior members of this sub - if not THE most senior. I have little problem with cumming 4 times in 24 hours - even with T on the low side. I will add that aware-plates WILL competively try to drain your "interest" in other plates by attempting to drain your cum - IME. I suspect it's primal.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/16 10:27 PM
2

She's fucking her guru. NEXT!
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/16 03:58 AM
2

... and to feel like a woman - again - - or, sadly, for some, for the first time in her life! A woman can't feel like woman with a beta. Nor can she make a beta into an Alpha.
/r/TheRedPill01/02/16 11:09 PM
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Absolutely! And, there are some quality(!) older woman (any women, really) out there who have been working on themselves - post beta-marriages/done with kids - who fucking IDOLIZE a "real Man" who can make them melt at their worst shit tests. It's really fucking sad when they tell you of the lives these woman have been living - with bp men. Such a fucking waste!
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/16 11:00 PM
1

"I love you MORE than you love me."
/r/askMRP18/01/16 07:34 PM
1

My comments below are exaggerated, however, not too far from reality, concept-wise. I'm speaking from experience. If you can flip the script and reset the relationship with YOU and MARRIAGE to you as the Prize, and establish some (if nothing else but token) protocols of respect you might be surprised with how well she responds. She could be an entirely different woman than you currently know - one she has probably only shown Chad. As Cad is saying, however, it requires an entire different mindse…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/16 08:12 PM
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^ This might work. I like the last two sentences! I'd also include in the postnup that she would be required to always address him as, "My Dearest Sir, Lord and Master" and require written permission in triplicate for any orgasms that she may desire. If they/she could get past this reset, I bet the marriage would be smokin' hot!
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/16 02:09 PM
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Have her stop eating wheat, grains and sugar. Have her hit the squat rack: https://heartiste.wordpress.com/2015/12/30/a-girls-best-friend-its-not-a-cat/
/r/MarriedRedPill15/01/16 10:08 PM
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Interesting. The (Alpha) man is expected to be the oak upon which she can rain eternal, and she can be the oldest teen in the house. Yet, if he even as much as plays a practical joke to expose her to her own ... bull shit ... some would like to say they doubt he is really married to her, may not "love" her, is passive aggressive, gas lighting, less than Alpha, blah-blah-blah. It's no fucking wonder we have this "battle."
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/16 03:10 PM
1

... oh yeah, the raspberries are mobile and can be shared.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/16 12:44 AM
1

Dry Champaign, Rapberries, and Nipples Of Venus: In case you can't figure it out ... dry champaign in flutes, add raspberries. I forget the rest ...
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/16 12:42 AM
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If you have teens who can drive, take the family out to dinner and on the way home have the kids drive/ride shot gun. You jump in the back with the wife and make out like teens. My wife giggled up a storm while my shotgun riding son quipped, "I think I'm going to puke!"
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/16 09:57 PM
1

Be careful with the LSE assumption. She may be using the guise of 'I am very sensitive,' 'I have SE issues,' for intimidation or control - 'Be nice to me or I'll feel bad.' If guys hit on her it wouldn't seem consistent with actual SE issues. If she plays the 'Be nice to me' card, trying owning not being nice and give her a little free warm fuzzy: "Baby, everyone's nice to you. I'm trying to stand out from all your fans."
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/16 09:27 PM
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She may have been the Princess in her day, but with every passing day your SMV goes up and hers goes down. Her power over you is becoming more and more dependent on her words and how she can control you with them. Your control is in knowing that they are only words. Your power is simply in being The Prize. If you truely ARE The Prize you have no need to use words. Women know this. Thus, the "smirk" or "OI" is so effective, yet ACTUALLY unneeded if you are The Prize.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/16 03:33 PM
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Once you TRUELY internalize that YOU are The Prize (for all/any woman) it gets easier ... "Didn't you see her checking out my ass? I thought I would return the favor." "Yes dear, please do check out other guys to see how good you have it."
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/16 03:15 PM
1

In addition to what Tempest is saying below, sometimes women just want to be lustfully wanted - without all the pressure of her having to be into it. Just fuck her BUT be sure YOU are really into it - and she can see and hear it.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/16 06:56 PM
3

Brigades are basically collective shit/fitness tests. Response needs to be no different than any other shit test. IDGAF about up/down votes.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/01/16 03:59 PM
0

The same ones who watch Disney movies, yet disavow any knowledge of, or ever reading "50 Shades Of Grey."
/r/MarriedRedPill10/01/16 05:59 AM
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I wish it were that easy.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/01/16 02:44 AM
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That's what my wife used to say about the taste of my cock and semen (not to mention doing it doggie). Now, she can't get enough!
/r/MarriedRedPill10/01/16 02:36 AM
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Neither the major purchase nor affair (real or not) would have been of consequence if he were actually of sufficient desirability and value. History is full of women who adored, honored and remained happily devoted to highly desirable Men who made major decisions within their relationships without consulting their wives and had actual affairs. Such Men are, admittey, hard to find (or keep) these days. This is mainly because it is easier, and more socially acceptable, for a woman to shame and int…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/01/16 12:40 AM
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Well, if your impression was that he was only desirable enough to have to pretend he was having an affair, you are correct, you made the correct decision in dumping him. For starters, see https://en-us.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/ and their sidebar references. or even https://marriedmansexlife.vanillacommunities.com/categories/first-officer-s-club and http://girlwithadragonflytattoo.com/2015/03/28/art-of-seduction/
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/16 11:10 PM
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"There was no way for me to have a relationship with him anymore." New MRPers note: It does sometimes happen that the spouse does not want to exert the effort required to up her Girl Game. It's just easier to blame than to "love." Men, if you've done your job, these women are no loss. There is a whole NEW world of "love" out there awaiting you.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/16 10:36 PM
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All women look to leverage the Man. She found an easy way - so she thinks. You, however, are the Prize. Start "moving" on. She can either come back submissive and respectful or you have lost nothing.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/16 03:33 PM
1

^ Troll
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/16 02:27 AM
1

Edit: > Hopefully he noticed the men who abused and treated his mom like crap [and spawned him].
/r/TheRedPill03/01/16 12:30 AM
2

Agreed! Would Capt. Jack Sparrow GAF if she wanted it, wore what he wanted, or if she went starfish? A: No. And BTW, fuck her hardER when she is like this. Bend her over get 'er done. Then, pass out on your side of the bed - no cuddling! "ARrrr ..."
/r/MarriedRedPill30/12/15 04:49 PM
0

You have a ton of VERY young kids - which still influence her hormones. You BOTH work out of the home. You have religious convictions, which your wife is aware of. And, your wife is assured that she lives at the center of your attention and desires. Thus, any "OI" or "Dread" is completely a known given to her - before and while you are trying to implement it. You are a poster boy for the carnage of Marriage 2.0. The only way I see you can break out of this is to go "Capt Jack Sparrow" - insane o…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/12/15 03:27 PM
1

"Wife and I have a lot of young kids" What are the ages of your kids? Is your wife still nursing any of them?
/r/MarriedRedPill30/12/15 05:32 AM
2

My wife wouldn't send me pics until she "accidentally" discovered that my "mistress" did. Since you are only in the LTR stage, this should be easier to manage, and probably would be a good wakeup call for your LTR. Women are amazingly competitive (aggressive) when they want something of value - and they almost seem to like it.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/12/15 07:07 PM
2

There is great advice below. I'll give the same advice in a different way: You need to become attract-ive to her. An attact-ive guy is one that she wants sexually and needs to re-activate her feminity to acquire. He is not a man who chases her or validates the power of her sexuality with very little effort on her part (sitting on the couch all night). Become the Man who she has to/wants to impress, chase, please, seek attention from and seduce. Make her want to work for you ... "The Prize" ... n…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/12/15 02:35 PM
1

^ THIS is great!
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/15 01:24 PM
2

Imagine, if you can, how you would "be" if you had another woman in your life - spinning plates or having a mistress. Your wives rejections wouldn't even matter. You might have times when you are "distant" - thinking about other things - just when she thinks you SHOULD be thinking about her.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/15 01:19 PM
7

It's a "circular" situation. The more she can attract, appease, keep-you-around without having sex with you the less attracted she is to you - the less attractive you are to her. The less attractive you are, the shittier the sex becomes -- UNTIL she comes to a relization (one way or the other) that you do have options (or interests) other than her. THEN the circle gets broken and she will start upping her Girl Game. What you have to do to get her to that point of realization varies with the woma…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/12/15 05:23 PM
1

Lots of discussion below on putting the fat into the cells. I'd like more information on the better ways to get the fat OUT of the cells. Is lifting heavy better than cardio for such? Using which muscles? Growing which muscles? Sprints vs extended cardio? ("Primal Blueprint") What are the better ways to get the stored fat out of the cells - to burn the stored fuel?
/r/MarriedRedPill18/12/15 01:20 PM
1

A woman will instinctually and subconsciously disrespect a man who tolerates her fucking around. Such a woman would burden a man with caring for children that are not his nor of his genetic stature, increasing the chances that subpar genes are carried forward at his expense. It is natural a man to feel revolted by the thought of his woman fucking another man. (Not even considering the message it sends that he doesn't measure up.)
/r/MarriedRedPill18/12/15 04:32 AM
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I may be wrong, but I think the MRP position is that we do what we have to do to save, or revitalize, the marriage. If such is not possible, we save ourselves. Anything less is only limiting the efficacy of Dread.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/15 01:35 AM
1

You focused a lot on finances. Yes, that must get fixed - eventually, and finances CAN end up being a "co-captain" responsibility. BUT, you have a lot of other areas to hit first. Read, Lift & Do.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/12/15 03:23 AM
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"Our marriage is working. Everyone is happy. But now she's snooped in her husbands private communication and read the very stuff that fixed things, and that has to be made into a problem." Toto pulls back the curtain to reveal the Wizard at the controls of the throne apparatus -- his back to the camera. OZ'S VOICE "Think yourselves lucky that I'm.... " The Four react as they see him after Dorothy calls their attention to him -- OZ'S VOICE ...giving you audience tomorrow, instead of.... MS -- The…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/12/15 07:31 AM
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"Caveat emptor:" The "marital satisfaction" of a wife (or woman in an LTR) is a moving target, based on the stage of the realationship, time of the month, or even the women she is hanging with. A study using a relatively static group of newly married women is only relevant to the biological imperative needs of women within that window.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/12/15 12:43 AM
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'Marriage was intended to stabilize stuff because in a free polygamous society [best Alpha gets all the vagina?], 16 of 17 men (as evidenced by historical DNA analysis) will end up without ANY sex and will either start waging war [fights among the lesser Alphas?) or stop working all together [depressed betas wishing for death?]. The reason we have marriage is so men's productivity can be maximized." [providing for comfort and CHOICES (of Alphas vs betas) for women - at various time of their life…
/r/TheRedPill09/12/15 01:16 AM
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Unless (she thinks) you are Captain Jack Sparrow crazy. In which case she will either spread her legs and fuck your brains out, or "let you go" until your next plate "helps" her see the error in her thinking.
/r/TheRedPill09/12/15 12:43 AM
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Surely you'd have to do it in a way that's plausibly deniable in case your wife calls you out on it? Or in a way that you can agree and amplify etc? "No worries, baby. I get that from women all the time." Own your value. Don't let your wife shame you into her frame.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/15 10:36 PM
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These are all behaviors that a woman displays when she is in some frame of mind other than "I want to please this guy with the best sex I have or that he wants of me." The "I want" part is the tricky part because her lack of wanting can be due to your lack of any of the usual physical or character fitness things written about in this sub all the way up to her not wanting to surrender herself and/or her power in the relationship to you. You will have to work your way through the stages of improvi…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/15 01:59 AM
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she complains about me pushing her into the headboard (which happens all the time actually, I think it is because she positions her legs to limit the penetration so when I thrust she gets pushed away; if anyone knows more about this please enlighten me). So I decided to try to be dominant, picked her up and rotated her 90 degrees so there wasn't a headboard. She freaked out, complained, rolled back and assumed fetal position. I got up. She asked if I wasn't going to cuddle. I've had this pushing…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/15 04:30 PM
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She has checked out. She is likely having an affair. She is biding her time. She is using you. She is controlling you by guilting you. Stop trying to verbally communicate with her. She will only understand action. Read and believe the comments below. Read and believe the sidebar materials. "Love" her and yourself enough to believe. Get to work to do what needs to be done, even if it means filing for divorce.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/11/15 01:45 AM
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Money is an indicator that the Man "has his shit together." Having your shit together is the MOST important. This can include indicators that you manage money, time, property, your body, your health, grooming. etc. well. Many women realize that they are not going to score / have not scored the wealthiest man, but they want to know - "feel" - that you do have your shit together.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/15 12:40 PM
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If I were the wife and my husband had the balls to come on with such a "crazed" IDGAF attitude I'd be inclined to think he has options (and probably has recently experienced a tighter pussy). I'd own it and optimize. ETA: Come to think of it, I DID!
/r/MarriedRedPill22/11/15 12:48 AM
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Women WANT to be told what to do and what you want from them. They WANT you to tell them what pleases you. They enjoy being shaped by the Man they consider to be of high value. She is WAITING for you to tell her what you want. Tell her - but don't make a discussion out of it. "Get me harder." Push her head down on you. "Get my cock wet and hard, then sit on me/stick your ass up for me." "Show me how much you love my cock." -
/r/MarriedRedPill20/11/15 09:44 PM
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I may write a FR some day. I have great reluctance that some men would think that "cheating," per se, can be used as a tool to cause your partner to become more sexual with you. For example, there were/are cases where men thought that A. Kay's "10 Second Kiss" would cause their wives to be turned on. Not only is that incorrect, but publishing such was also a mistake - as it backfired on many men, making their situations worse. That's all I have to publish at this time (other than my previous pos…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/15 12:43 PM
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Reading more on this sub, and similar, is sufficient. I, for one, have submitted that my wife's orgasm switched to "on" literally over night. W: "That was the most intense orgasm of my life!"
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/15 03:33 AM
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There with you.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/15 03:18 AM
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How about the anecdotal observations of men whose women suddenly "start" becoming extremely orgasmatic after they are shown that the man they thought had been "locked down" (into beta-dom) is desirable to other women?
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/15 02:48 AM
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Another "metric" (besides blowjobs) for measuring the success of your personal improvement plan.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/15 11:14 PM
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Read/do what is below. I'll add: 1) Be sure you are not fucking up on things that are/should be your responsibilities. Get them done, get them done correctly. 2) Do not let her add her responsibilities to what you should be doing. If needed, tell her you won't be doing XYZ. 3) You simply cannot AFFORD to give a fuck about what she thinks. If you know you are taking care of your shit and you know you are a Man of high value, she can accept you as The Prize you are or you will "Have a lot to think…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/15 02:16 AM
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"This will be dependent on many factors, including ... " but not mentioned, that you are married under Marriage 2.0. Until, and unless, a man can operate within a frame of IDGAF about the consequences of not conforming to Marriage 2.0 and show that he has obvious options and is willing to engage those options at his pleasure, without regard for consequence, he will never cause his wife to perform optimally for him. It's simply not in her Primal Blueprint.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/15 04:50 AM
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For any of you who are not familiar with Mark Sisson's Primal Blueprint book - LIFESTYLE (diet and physical fitness) - and his website/blog, Mark's Daily Apple, I highly recommend both. In fact, his works should be included in the sidebar material. You DON'T have to spend all that time in the gym to get ripped and hot! It's 80% diet / 20% physical training. Yes, high intensity is needed, but only every 7-10 days. TLDR:Google for pics of him and his wife. He is 63 and his wife is in her 50s!
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/15 09:11 PM
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Does your book cover management of the mistress?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/11/15 09:22 PM
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"... she starts to blow me but then stops, says she's too tired and tells me to finish myself off." She no longer regards you as something she needs to attract, nor does she truly believe that she needs to attract you. For some (all?) women the NEED to attract is their primal/instinctual feeling of attraction to you. When you went nuclear on her, you "revealed" your hand and your ultimatum to her. It worked for a while ... when she was shaken enough that you just might be "crazy" enough to have …
/r/MarriedRedPill08/11/15 06:11 PM
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Your wife, like mine was, may be nearly impossible to crack. But, she DID crack! If you read some of my recent posts, you will see that I did take Dread all the way to the affair level. All is fine now - our 25 y/o marriage and sex life is all I could ever ask for. I think that there may be a fine tuned level where she damn well thinks you are having an affair, but can't prove it. First, does your wife read any form of "romance novels" (lady porn) - the Twilight Series - 50 Shades - Secret Garde…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/11/15 12:30 PM
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I read, and I read between the lines. Nowhere did I see that you pounded her to a rag doll. They ALL want to be pounded silly. They want to feel your strength. They really are NOT into making love or being played with using toys - for the most part. They want to feel you they next day. Then, they will come BACK to YOU, time after time, breakup after breakup. There is a good chance that her "beta" friend pounds the shit out of her, thus, she went back to him. "Why did you pick me?" means, 'I am n…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/11/15 01:35 AM
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You have created a Princess who believes that you are not attractive. For a women, "attractive" means that she KNOWS other women want you and that you could EASILY pull any QUALITY woman you want. Please read ALL the comments below. In addition, for your consideration ... Are you desirable to other women? If so, does your wife know this? Has she seen other women show interest in you? Does she believe that you would be "crazy" enough to leave her for another woman - or other women? If your answer…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/15 11:01 AM
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I'll concour with unsolicited BJs being the metric of her seeing you as the prize.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/15 03:29 AM
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I did, and am doing, what it takes to SAVE my marriage and happiness. I did ALL the steps to get myself and shit together prior to playing the Affair Card. It was a shit ton of work - four years worth! I was advised by an RP woman two years ago that it might take playing the Affair Card to get my wholesome, cookie baking W to a New Reality. I couldn't/can't believe it (still), but she was right. This level of Dread is NOT for newbs or the insecure. Nor is it for a any man who does not have prove…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/10/15 03:37 PM
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Some women, my wife included, are fully aware that they are being Dread-Gamed. They, however, also take comfort in thinking that it IS some sort of game and/or ultimately they still hold the power of the Relationship Card in the marriage "game." For these women it DOES take escalation to a New Reality that this is NO game and demonstration by your actions that you don't give a fuck about any version of her fem-centric spawned and propagandized entitlements of Marriage 2.0. Your trump card is tha…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/15 05:28 PM
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I would, and DO, expect my daughter's husband to do whatever is necessary to keep their marriage alive and vibrant - for their benefit and for my grandchild. In fact, I have told him that. If such includes Dreading the shit out of my daughter to keep her on her Girlgame, so be it. Such may have to include escalating to the point of "proving" his worth to her by having an affair/mistress(es). The enemy and falacy in current day Marriage 2.0 is that assurances of being moral, loyal, faithful, and …
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/15 04:00 PM
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The day my wife realized that "something happened" while she was on a week-long trip was the day she wanted passionate sex with me a minimum of once per day and now volunteers that she has never been happier in our 25 year marriage. Yep, "something happened" and it's still happening, she knows it, she's never been more fit nor more wet for me. Has anyone considered that contrived institutional fidelity is NOT the "Primal Blueprint" for a lasting, happy relationship/marriage - that unconditional …
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/15 01:55 PM
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Mine WAS actually "at that state." I did/do want keep her - married 25 years w 3 kids. I gradually worked through the levels of Dread over a period of 4 1/2 years. She resisted all steps and measures I took. She wanted to hold her sex power card at (nearly) all costs. I had an opportunity this past summer for an affair. I took it, trumping her sex card. Her reaction was immediate and profound. Blow jobs and enthusiastic sex ensued. It's been that way for four months now. I refuse to give her ass…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/10/15 08:18 PM
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I'll second and add to the point made below by "ThatOtherMarriedGuy": "If your wife doesn't believe you are both willing and able to fuck other women, then your SMV is not high enough." In general, a woman's assessment of a man's SMV is heavily influenced by the opinions and, in some cases, actions of other women. Depending on the woman, you may actually have to have an affair for her to be convinced that you "have it in you."
/r/MarriedRedPill14/10/15 02:58 AM
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Here is my four month experience with this "cheating" thing (one day I'll write a field report): There is no purpose/need to "tell" her verbally. She will come to "know" it or not when the time is critical to your relationship. That time is when she is ready to compete for you or attempt to shame you back to the way you were. If the latter, it is only because she has decided that you are not worth it for her to make the effort to change/compete. If you are worth it, she will "see" the cheating y…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/10/15 04:40 PM
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"I want to get laid."
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/15 03:51 AM
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Think of Dread as the antibiotic for the infection of assurances of security that started the day you got married. Much of the instinctual "attraction" that a woman feelz for a Man is her desire and need to attract him and keep his interest. MFUE! - Marriage Fucks Up Everthing because it infects the woman with assurances of comfort and security that cause her not to feeeel that instinctual "attraction" or act attractively. Cause her to believe - or PROVE to her - that you have options and just m…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/15 08:09 PM
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If you keep reading RP material, you will see that sometimes, with some women/LTRs and their hamsters, it does take a "Fuck You" in both words and actions from the Captain to get their attention. For some women and situations it takes serving divorce papers. Certainly these are not in the chapters on maximizing personal worth and SMV. They are, however, as I noted above, available options in the arsenal. Yes, it works for me.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/15 11:48 PM
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It's Dread - which has been debated IS also a form of covert contract. So in that sense, it is a covert contract.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/15 08:23 PM
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I've told her a couple of times that she (sometimes) is the only one whose attention I have to get. I've also made references to certain times in the near and far past when she implemented more enthusiastic Girl Game. She has never been the verbal discussion/communication/debate type - ever. But beyond all that, I pay more attention to what she does in response to how/what I communicate to her. That's how I judge the efficacy of what I do. There has been dramatic improvement in her and my entire…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/15 02:46 PM
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Married for 21 years, 3 strapping teen boys, went RP four years ago. I stopped wearing my ring when I first started re-applying RP. I only wear it for special occasions (such as family gatherings), but I do keep it on my dresser, directly in front of a religious figure when I am not wearing it. I'll be blunt, I stopped wearing it because my wife needed to/still needs to step up her girl game, including fitness and "temperature" in the bedroom. Rings mean different things to each gender in variou…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/15 11:17 AM
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If you hold course she will/ will likely calibrate to you. I've been married for 20+ years. I (re)started RP improvements four years ago. After two years of consistent notable improvements on my part, she and my teen sons got on board. They likely followed you into the woods, they will likely follow you out.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/06/15 12:33 PM
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There is a current directly relevant post over at Illimitablemen ... http://illimitablemen.com/2015/06/01/the-hierarchy-of-love/
/r/MarriedRedPill16/06/15 01:30 PM
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Re "heavy weights" in a figurative sense: You alone have to lift and carry your issues, problems, anger, complaints, consequences, etc. It is not her job to do that - even if she is trying to be "nice" just by listening. It's an understatement to say that your dropping the "weight" on her in any way is unattractive. It's repulsive to women.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/06/15 10:56 AM
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Your puking was a result of a genuine lack of confidence in yourself. You either puked on your own, or she sussed it out of you. Women, especially those with experience with men, are repulsed by a lack of confidence - especially when the man's puke lands on them as if they were a mother, instead of a woman. Her crying was probably a result of her realization that nothing has changed. The ability to STFU comes from confidence in yourself. When you TRUELY have confidence (and are ready to own your…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/06/15 08:55 AM
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Your argument seems to be incongruent. Are you saying that mate selection does matter? - "And if she REALLY has such huge problems with intemacy, that you picked such a mate ... " Or, are you saying that mate selection doesn't matter and any/all woman can be made to have a high sex drive, given that a guy is such that he turns her on? - "Just because YOU don't turn her on don't mean she doesn't have a normal sex drive."
/r/MarriedRedPill16/06/15 08:34 AM
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I read your post on her cheating, prior to your actual marriage. While not attempting to minimize or be insensitive to the impact it had on you, you should give thanks that your wife has the high level of sexual drive that she does. There are plenty of guys whose woman are so frumpy and prudish (body/esteem issues, yada) that they are simply no "fun." 'Give thanks for what you have been given.' (In a sense.)
/r/MarriedRedPill15/06/15 07:56 PM
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Good stuff & Good idea. Myself and a bud are contemplating using this podcast as a "Hey, listen to this when you have time" prompt and re-entry point for a friend who has been divorce raped and continues to have bad luck with women - for all the usual reasons. This podcast seems to be short and concise enough for his attention span to catch his attention.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/06/15 05:16 PM
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One HUGE problem you have is your idea that your outpouring of "love" for her (and the child) and what you do for her has something to do with how she should "love" you sexually. It's called a "covert contract," and/or you are trying to "negotiate desire." Neither create desire or attraction in women - aka, "gina tingles.' Women sexually love what they know other women want - just like they know what is in fashion by what other women are wearing. They have very little sense of what they want unl…
/r/askTRP14/06/15 11:32 AM
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I'll second the advice to stay away from the MMSL forum and any current publications. Pre-~2012/13 MMSL (The Primer/MAP) was much different, more directly male relevant, and more helpful than it is now. It will just confuse you, or worse, as it is now.
/r/askTRP14/06/15 10:27 AM
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"I see that a lot on FB." "Let's go to the pet store." You are the prize, not her. She needs to qualify to you, not you to her. No need to be concerned about the wording of your response.
/r/askTRP14/06/15 01:51 AM
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I've been married 21 years - 3 teen boys. I pulled the marriage out of a nose dive 4 years ago upon realizing (though discovery of the Manosphere) that I had been betaized. No "dis" intended, I'd suggest you start here: http://theredpillroom.blogspot.com/p/the-red-pill-primer-for-boys.html?m=1 THEN follow the standard advise to read the sidebar homework. I've helped several guys get their shit together. PM me if you wish.
/r/askTRP13/06/15 10:40 PM
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"I'm helping men be Men again." "I'm helping marriages last longer than the 5.5 year current average." "I'm blazing a path for my sons."
/r/MarriedRedPill13/06/15 10:24 PM
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By definition, a shit test is BEYOND a "reasonable request" or something that requires your creativity or resources to get past. So the question is, is her request reasonable - or would she be fine with Chad Thundercocks taking pics and video?
/r/MarriedRedPill13/06/15 01:31 PM
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Obviously you have not read my owners manual.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/06/15 01:51 PM
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We have to be careful when we, as men, project how women "think" about men. By design, women are far more (temporarily) adaptable to what they "have" than men. This goes back to the times when the man could be killed or driven off by ... whatever. The REAL problem comes when the man she "has" becomes something less than the Man she accepted/chose or thinks she could upgrade to.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/15 10:48 PM
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It's actually how you trigger her instinctual "responsive desire," which, prior to rings n' things and no fault divorce laws, was natures secret weapon given to all women to keep their Man around.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/15 05:54 PM
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I've used that line - once. However, I turned away from her and started to go to sleep. This fed her hamster some Dread food. Her response was, "What does that mean?!" DanG: "I said, I'll take care of it." She then proceeded to initiate. It's too late now, but the problem with your situation was that she knew what you did to take care of yourself. You were basically trying to "negotiate desire," within the context of - to her - a secure monogamous relationship - which doesn't work. MFUD (Marriag…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/15 11:21 AM
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Conversely, if you are "so-fine," pass her tests and your actively demonstrated SMV is high, she may try to "change" you, but she's comfortably "disappointed" if you don't change. Or, if you are betafied, she's happy if you happen to end up to be the (Alpha) Man she married. (See "The Incredibles."). TLTR: You can get away with a lot of shit if you're hawt.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/06/15 01:24 AM
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I've seen Ian Ironwood give some good, and well received, advice over there. I hope he will be the exception.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/06/15 06:17 PM
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Go by clothes/pants sizes AND ... a little anecdotal observation ... ... I've been noticing that women's eyes first check shoulder width, then they scan to the waiste. I suspect it's an initial instinctual check for indication of strength in the shoulder breadth, then a check for verification of fitness/lack of fat in the gut. Given time and opportunity they will go for a firmness check on the arm or leg.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/06/15 03:01 AM
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Your observations on touch are the same as mine with my wife. They run somewhat counter to the default "always be initiating" advice, which didn't seem to make much difference. Like you, I did notice that if I didn't touch, especially when we were in bed, it caused her to seek touch. Working myself through this, I surmised that she (her primal brain) was reading my frequent touch as assurances of security in the relationship - that she didn't need to step it up to assure that security. So now, I…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/05/15 01:44 PM
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"I have all of the power in this relationship because I control sex." "But I have the 'remote control' on the relationship. Which channel would you like? Since you are my wife, I'll give you dibs."
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/15 11:15 PM
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STFU! Repeat, STFU!
/r/MarriedRedPill23/05/15 04:46 AM
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In addition to what everyone else is saying, stop eating shit food - fast food, pizza, pasta, bread, processed wheat, etc. Stop engaging your wife in arguments. Read the sidebar homework for what else TO do, and when in doubt, STFU (shut the fuck up).
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/15 03:31 AM
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The more Dad Bods there are the better I look.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/15 02:35 AM
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One year of self-improvement for an 11 year relationship gives you the START of improvement. You seem to be right on track. Yes, now decide what more you would like to see and the road to getting those things can be explored.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/15 07:31 PM
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^ OUTSTANDING aka EXCELLENT, containing several RP truths, including, to the OP's topic, nerver show your SO your boo-boo.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/15 03:13 PM
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I used to spend a lot of time on yachts and around yacht clubs. While money may give you short term access, it matters little in the LTR Game. There are many sexually frustrated beta rich men, whose wives are more interested in "the help" than they are their husbands. (Thus, AK's impetus to start the original MMSL for 'men with money.')
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/15 01:21 PM
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Picking nits.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/15 12:15 AM
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When she goes to put on her docu say, "First, we want to watch this one about Uranus." Then, put on some anal porn. About 45 min worth should do it.
/r/TheRedPill15/05/15 10:44 PM
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It is hard to fail a shit test if you STFU or walk away. But to your point, yes, it doesn't matter because SHE doesn't matter - she is replaceable and you are desirable. SHE is lucky to have you.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/05/15 10:29 PM
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RP was the natural way of many Men "back in the day" - especially if they were successful and/or respected (or survived!). Furthermore, if you wanted to advance among Men (not to mention women) you were a "Man's man," a term lost in recent times, with its closest current approximation being "AMOG." The good news it that both men and women are beginning to see how fucked up things have become in the past 50 years. (I recently had a checked-out wife ask me 'what kind of woman would be a good match…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/05/15 08:02 PM
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Just curious ... What do you think would such a ranting woman's reaction be if you made a comment such as, "I can't imagine how a man could be so weak." ? Do you think she'd get the insinuation? Or, would it just be fuel on the fire?
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/15 01:37 AM
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She likes being fucked (hard/enthusiastically/primally), but doesn't like having to perform or "be pleased." You did well. She was expressing her relief and joy. A lot of/some women don't like all the business of "her pleasure first." (Mine doesn't.) They'd rather just feel your strength and passion. Fuck her hard. Enjoy yourself.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/15 01:54 AM
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I think it's important to coach the kids on how to do something nice (but not exorbitant) for their mother: "Go cut/buy some flowers and give them to your mother," "At XYZ'o Clock we are all going to dinner with mom." It is important to not get sucked into the shaming/intimidation of other women to "Do something for the mother of your children." I fielded such with a smirked AA: "Oh, and I'll be sure to do something for HER mother, too!"
/r/MarriedRedPill10/05/15 09:19 PM
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You are going to get verbal comebacks and reactions, pretty much, no matter what you do or say. Don't pay attention to what she says, only to what she does - in the longer term. You could temper your remarks somewhat - don't use labels - "helpless housewife." Instead, define what it was that you were doing and TELL her SIMPLY that she will have to take care of the thing that she expects you will do for her.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/05/15 04:19 PM
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The fisherman never announces to the fish the type of bait he will use be using. (STFU = Shut The Fuck Up)
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/15 02:45 PM
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10 weeks for a 16 year relationship is too soon - according to the MMSL formula: 1 month for every year before things START to improve. That is also my experience.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/05/15 12:28 AM
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My wife has always had the same issue - since before we were married. I just ignored it. Lately I decided that MY pubic and body hair could use a little taming. Coincidently, she trimmed her's as well. It could be very similar to the weight and dress calibration thing that many women do when they see their SOs losing weight and dressing better. Try trimming yours some and see what she does.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/15 03:49 PM
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Take them to something/somewhere real. New York City, New Orleans & Antibellum Plantations, Yellow Stone, Badlands, Hawaii, etc.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/15 03:31 PM
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Welcome to "Game on hard mode." You have three choices: Next her and start a new Game - or several. Keep her and learn to play Game on hard. Go into Monk or MGTOW until you decide.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/15 09:56 PM
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Oneitis Alert ..! Re: "Important Considerations: There aren’t many women that are her SMV-7-8 that are near my age and I find younger women can be irritating and immature. FYI, I think my SMV is 7-8. Plus I really would like to make it work with her. Finally, a divorce would cost me a minimum of $1.1 mil if I initiated it, maybe as little as $600k if she decided to go on her own idea." Women are instinctually driven to "turn on" and be turned on when they want to aquire or keep a man. You need t…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/15 03:40 PM
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I said similar TO my wife after a particularly good marathon session: "We need to go back to once-a-month sex." She giggled. (Of course less sex never happened.) Maybe wait until you have a particularly good session that was particularly satisfying for HER and say, "I totally see where you are coming from with your idea of having 'less sex. But, it's probably not going to happen."
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/15 02:12 PM
1

The Captain / co-captain model has limitations. Try moving to a model where he has fewer certain things that he absolutely must do, and you help with others. But each person MUST get their job done. I can relate to your H. I was there - including the depression. My job was killing me! My W was taking on more and more of my former duties as I was, too, "walking dead" as all I could think about and do (even when at home) was my job. The first step towards a solution was quitting the job - do it/fr…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/15 03:41 PM
2

"Red Pill savvy men understand that a woman’s imagination is the most potent tool in the Game toolbox." Which is why no man should ever affirmatively confirm to his wife that he is not having an affair. Women actually love the idea that their man is of suffient SMV that he could be having an affair. Always find a way to AA, redirect, obviscate, etc. Never confirm nor deny. She'll love you for it.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/15 03:27 AM
1

As you raise your SMV and make positive general changes she will consciously/unconsciously contrive tests of your integrity. She will also try to sabotage your progress in order to maintain the old status quo - which she knew how to deal with. After four years of making improvements ("MAPing") in a 25 year relationship, I still get these tests and challenges. Fapping (so that she knows about it) just doesn't fit with any icon that I've ever seen of a hot, desirable Alpha male. Did Johnny Depp fa…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/15 04:45 PM
4

Fapping as a reaction to rejection should not be considered SOP. Results vary, depending on a lot of things.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/15 04:09 PM
2

Me three.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/15 11:30 PM
0

Good to see you here ... AND presenting your perspective.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/15 02:21 AM
1

"Bend over. It's my turn." (After a while of "internalizing" that she WANTS you to be a bad boy (rather than a nice guy) you will work as hard to come up with "bad" things to say to her - instead of being nice to her.)
/r/MarriedRedPill22/04/15 09:27 PM
1

The problem with, "D) He is going to stay calm, relax, and act as if the rejection never happened" is that "calm" OI is effective if it includes continuing normal household/roommate duties. It is ineffective AND sends the wrong message if "calm" OI includes snuggling, date nights, back rubs, hand holding, pecks, etc. That is simply taking "calm" too far.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/04/15 08:44 PM
4

"She says, you don't even seem like you want to be here." He turns and gives her a look over his glasses: "I thought you might be pointing at your vagina."
/r/MarriedRedPill22/04/15 08:03 PM
1

If you can do this - as you are saying - you will be a lot further ahead than if you make prior declarations. There are far more advantages to keeping her wondering what is going on than giving her the game plan. Further, if you tell her what you intend to do, she can't help but to think (or say!) - in the context of her present disposition - "Yeah, I bet!" - which she then, at the very least, has to get her ego to back down from before changing her behavior. IME, keep it simple, keep it silent.…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/04/15 07:27 PM
1

^ Agreed. "Even if she turns you down and gives you a hard 'no', she's had a positive interaction, especially if you can be OI to the rejection. As you walk away with a smile on your face, she's thinking, "God he's such a great guy. I'm an ass for turning him down." ^ This is the Kay MMSL spin - to keep his women readers and clients happy. She controls the sex, I control the relationship. Rejection of sexual intimacy = rejection of relationship intimacy.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/04/15 11:09 AM
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You CANNOT negotiate silently or otherwise from a position of weakness. You must have an obvious point of leverage. In an LTR that point of leverage is defined when your wife notices that you receive UNSOLICITED attention from women. It is not until you reach that point - not before - that any statements you make regarding what you "will not tolerate" have credidibility. Many guys somehow think that announcing what they are GOING to do - intend to do or are in the process of doing - or even have…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/04/15 10:26 AM
1

Exactly! The problem/challenge with marriage (vs a PUA situation) is that 'she knows you.' Quintessential example: I was trying to help a female co-worker with her marriage. She is decent looking for her post-wall/HS kids age. The H is in great physical shape (works out) and tall. He has OUTSTANDING social status and respect in the community - winner of awards for excellence in his field. AMOG among his colleagues. (He IS in a liberal SJW type field, so I was thinking maybe he was a Billy Bob Bl…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/15 10:56 PM
3

IMO, there is no other place that you should be. As has been said, you have to do the reading ... then a lot of digesting. Discussing/debating/arguing with your wife is not going to get you the results you desire. In fact, if you continue on your present course, you'll likely end up worse off ... or divorced. Your wife is not special (a unicorn) or different than "the archetypal woman that has caused so many men such pain and despair." Hardly. She is testing you hard for leadership and is drawin…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/15 11:00 AM
1

Re: "He says she seems really invested into their relationship again, and wants to plan vacations and date night for them regularly now." What needs to happen is that he needs to become invested making himself more attractive, appealing and in charge of what is happening in the relationship. If he is BP/beta he is in a position of naive weakness in expecting that she or the relationship will change. She may go through the motions, but most BP women don't understand, themselves, what makes a rela…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/15 03:25 PM
1

The thinking that a woman/wife knowing that the Man is RP knowledgeable of RP "actions" (real or otherwise) is detrimental to his "alpha effect" is irrelevant - IF RP is real. AND, RP is real! She WILL test for validation of true Alpha qualities - regardless. While "not discussing/asking/telling" the fish of the bait being used makes fishing initially easier, it's irrelevant in the long run. If/when the fish gets hungry enough she will WANT to bite - because that is what she was put here on this…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/15 10:14 PM
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"how would I react if she was with another man." "Glad you brought this up, babe. Seeing that you will be gone for a few days, I was thinking of taking the cute barista from Starbucks up on her offer. I can't believe how aggressive single women are these days. I hope you're ok with it." Flip Da' Script (FDS) needs to be in the arsenal of ST counter measures.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/15 12:33 AM
2

Women typically are excellent at "noticing" guys without the guy noticing that they "noticed." So, if she is letting you notice her noticing she is likely 1) testing you to see if/how you will approach - an invite 2) seeking validation/attention whoring 3) gaming another guy 4) gathering intell for the matrix.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/15 08:23 PM
2

SA includes spotting, and playing with, attention whores. Don't let them play YOU!
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/15 04:19 AM
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Re: "... I have been thinking about how her father is. She has him on a pedestal. He is a huge jerk. I am going to try and model my responses after his, just not to that level. I have no problem being a bit on an asshole to get what I want, I just don't want to go to extremes." For your consideration: She has daddy issues. Her view of the perfect male is her daddy (for better or worse). Give some thought as to how daddy functions in her life and how he interacts with her mother. My guess is, whi…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/04/15 12:52 AM
1

"When you are grinding every day with work, school, kids, a house, etc. sex can get pushed to the side. You have to take an active approach to making sure that doesn't happen. You need to be proactive ... It's hard and I get that. There have been nights where we fucked in the shower so we could knock out 2 birds with one stone." I've actually said to my (nurse) wife, "I'm tired, I know your tired, but we have to have sex to have sex now - or we will both wish we did tomorrow night/this weekend w…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/15 10:21 PM
1

A good time to do (introduce) this would be when she is in the heat of ovulation. Speaking of which ... I need to check my calendar ...
/r/MarriedRedPill08/04/15 04:02 PM
1

If she thought you had a(nother) GF she would have finished the BJ. If you had/held the frame that you did (maybe) have something on the side (like maybe the girl that bought you a drink) - after she stopped the BJ - it would probably had gotten her hamster going. In short, I think she tested for desperation and you showed desparation. I had a simaral situation with my wife. My reaction was, "Oh, no problem. I've got this." Her reaction was, "Huh, what? What do you mean? Humina, humina, humina."…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/04/15 01:46 PM
1

1-3 work great with her laying on top of you.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/15 05:33 PM
1

He must want help. He must want to attempt save his marriage. (Some just want out.) He must be willing to accept help. He must be willing to work from the premise that (initially) only HE can fix the problem(s). He must be willing to accept that regardless of the outcome of his efforts, he will be better off. I don't have any specific ideas as to how to engage him in such a dissussion, but I don't think giving a book or .pdf (of the nature of these books) to someone is the way to go. I've done s…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/15 12:38 PM
6

When my wife asks, "Why are you so dressed up?" I tell her straight up: "I don't want to disappoint my public." It now causes her to dress better too.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/15 03:42 AM
5

Feminism is/was a mob mentality Shit Test / Fitness Test. Only the best males will push through it - or ignore it - to acquire the best females. The test, however, broke bad when some fit (read physically attractive) women realized that their SMV was being hurt by their ascribing to feminism. It was a handicap to their sexiness and sexual options - they were not as desirable to men. High value Men would just "next" them leaving them to their cats. So, once again Darwin is winning. Women with fem…
/r/TheRedPill03/04/15 06:57 AM
2

It's pretty common to read of situations where desperate women, especially these types of women, are poking holes in condoms or retrieving them from the trash to imprenate themselves, not to mention getting pregnant by other men - which may have ALREADY occurred when she took a trip to India five weeks ago. IMO this women is not worth taking ANY of the chances necessary to train her, noting nothing other than the knife play. OP will be lucky to come out of this with his dick intact.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/15 04:59 AM
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Disagree. Women can be responsible for their own sexuality and sex appeal. It's bad enough that we have deal with the femifatties telling us that we should accept them as they are. There is no need to train them, too, by laying out "expectations" in some attempt to train them. I also disagree with the assertion that it will be the same problem with other women. I've been with enough to know that is hardly the case - hardly!
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/15 07:53 PM
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Until you get a real pregnancy test - done by a doctor - there are no "what ifs." In the meantime, stop having any kind of sex with her. I'd stop talking/discussing anything with her. She is BSC. (I also have my doubts about you.) If she is pregnant get a paternity test. Excercise all means possible to get away from this woman.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/15 05:13 PM
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Agree with the idea that you took her outside her usual comfort zone - her slut defenses were/are activated. She really doesn't want to talk DIRECTLY about it - in daylight. But, she is just fine with it. She was also "testing" to see if you could indirectly and more creatively talk about it in another more comfortable way. H: "What?" Y: "I see. Challenge accepted."
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/15 04:41 PM
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There is nothing attractive, aesthetically or biologically, about a woman who is not enthusiastic about sex. She may as well be 300 lbs. The "whys" of why your fiancé is not enthusiastic are NOT important at this stage of your relationship. She has not passed the vetting process. Move on. There are plenty of women out there who will love sex with you without all the caveats. Give thanks that you have not married her yet. Move on.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/15 03:35 PM
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No triage. Some people came here to get away from/because they disagree with the MMSL protocol, et al. Let this be an alternative.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/15 02:20 PM
7

Abort! Eject! Stat!
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/15 02:16 PM
0

I am well versed with MMSL and NMMNG. Myself and others take SOME exception with the assertion that the welfare of the ship is entirely (100%) the man's responsibility. It can go too far, and in some cases (I think this is one) the woman is simply too stubborn or adverse to accepting any responibility to "get it." In fact, Kay's idea that the Captain is always 100% responsible contradicts his own process of an eventual "Phase" verbal ultimatum. The woman is not, and cannot be, immune from eventu…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/15 11:23 AM
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There is something to be said for seeming that you may be just a little bit crazy and unpredictable. (Think Capt Jack Sparrow, Dirty Harry or Jack Nicolson.). Women are driven to "figure out" their men, then they become bored. Keep her guessing. (Buy some purple or GREEN Peeps for Easter.)
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/15 12:07 AM
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60 is the new 45. Also, be sure to optimize/organize situations where she will happen to notice how other women are interested and/or entertained by your presence. Be desirable, and casually show how you are desired. BUT, do NOT flirt or initate flirtation with other woman. When in an LTR, overt flirting is perceived as cadiness - a DLV.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/04/15 11:48 PM
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If she can't/won't cook you tell her, "No sex. No baby. No more marriage." End it - Now. If you can't get the ship/this shit under control now, it only going to get a LOT worse. You are also going to have to use/come up with MUCH more creative/humorous/re-directing ways of dealing with STs other than ignoring and evading/escaping. Learn to play with her child mind. H: "Pregnant" Y: Can't be. H: What? Y: I'm sterile. H: WTF?!! Y: I told you not to call me at work with this or take the test when I…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/04/15 10:23 PM
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Agree. NEVER turn down her offer for sex. You can, however, wait until/if she initiates and then get started in missionary. Be sure you are pounding her HARD, pull out and tell her to stick her butt (or ass) in the air and go for doggie. If she refuses or balks just say, "Missionary is too boring. We need variety." If she still balks just pull out and say, "Maybe another time." Rinse/repeat. Your lack of acceptance of duty sex will get her dread hamster spinning - thinking you are not desperate …
/r/MarriedRedPill01/04/15 08:48 PM
1

What did the ex move on to? (Another better Alpha? Or comfort beta? Just curious.)
/r/MarriedRedPill01/04/15 03:59 PM
1

What was the SMV/attractiveness of your coworker at the time?
/r/MarriedRedPill01/04/15 03:45 PM
1

I agree w CWH: "Pay for 50-75% of the nosejob after she saves the matching amount." She will never pass you in SMV. Men (you) have no SMV shelf life. Women do, and she has already passed it. Continue to work on your physical SMV, but ramp up the other aspects of your attractiveness, including confidence and cockiness. (Your insecurity of her passing you up is a "tell" of a lack of confidence. She may have already detected it.) Carry on, and yes, fuck her hard!
/r/MarriedRedPill01/04/15 03:27 PM
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You are going to have a LOT more hurt than a gulilty conscience if you stay with her. Pray that she is not pregnant. Stop having unprotected sex with her. If she is not pregnant, or loses the baby, eject immediately and save yourself. She's a mess. In the meantime, do NOT engage with her physically (hitting) or verbally (fighting/discussing/negotiating/attempted "reasoning").
/r/MarriedRedPill01/04/15 03:11 PM
2

"That will be the last spanking for you until you lose 2 lbs. I suggest you and your naughty ass join me at the gym. I have much to think about." (Don't tell her that you could be thinking about getting a new GF.)
/r/askTRP31/03/15 11:12 PM
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"I recently met the most fucking annoying chick ... she said 'The world would be a better place without men." Obviously you haven't met any real Men. My name is Hugene Thundercock. You can call me Huge.
/r/TheRedPill31/03/15 11:13 AM
1

It's amazing, however, how their "thinking" changes when their husband's get off the couch, start hitting the gym, stop eating shit, changing their wardrobe, stop whining about (no) sex, being confident and assertive, knowing/passing shit tests, etc. Their thinking changes ENTIRELY when they start thinking that their husbands ARE desirable and DESIRED by other women. Their hamsters start running the wheel when the husband is hitting the gym (at "odd" hours) with a IDGAF attitude when he used to …
/r/TheRedPill31/03/15 10:32 AM
1

There is no "black and white" on this, and it does depend on circumstances - including LTR or not. There is a distinct difference, and difference in effect, between mate guarding and displaying jealously. IF the woman respects the Man and wants to maintain her relationship she will be attracted to her Man when he mate guards. She will also be turned off when/if he should mate guard but does not. If she does not respect her man she will regard his mate guarding as jelosy, which is a "tell" as to …
/r/TheRedPill30/03/15 10:39 PM
2

It's no troll. This is a quintessential example of a woman whose instinctual biological need to maintain the security and provisions of her relationship have been short circuited by the betaization of men and current divorce laws, aka "divorce rape."
/r/TheRedPill30/03/15 04:43 AM
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They change AND they try to change you.
/r/TheRedPill30/03/15 04:32 AM
3

It's much worse than that! Marriages in failure mode - "Superficially Married T minus X years until the kids are gone" - can go literly YEARS with zero (0) sex!
/r/TheRedPill30/03/15 04:30 AM
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"Normal" BP women will unconsciously try to put their men into this role as provider-child AND BP men will unknowingly allow themselves to be put into that role. TRP Men will have the awareness and wherewithal to not allow themselves to be put in that role. I recently had a feminist BP woman tell me/admit to me that, while her husband is physically attractive, AMOG and of high stature within the community, the reason their marriage is failing is because he could never step up to gain the level o…
/r/TheRedPill30/03/15 04:20 AM
2

I tend to have a similar problem with my wife, and I have also pulled out and said, "nevermind" when she starfished. Her reaction was the same as the OP's wife. My hypothesis is that SOME low-drive women - those in the BB phase (for whatever reason) - have been/are motivated to use sexuality and sex mostly for securing the relationship and related securities. The more the relationship feels assured and secure the less they feel sexy or have to think about sex with the provider. (Hypergamous fant…
/r/TheRedPill29/03/15 11:14 PM
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Visualize a starfish laying on the sand. Transpose that image to the position of the woman laying on her back on the bed.
/r/TheRedPill29/03/15 10:53 PM
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There is related thinking about the effect vasectomies have on marriages - specifically, the attraction the woman's vagina has for the now-sterile semen. The hypothesis is that the VJ can detect the good semen from the "something is wrong with this stuff now" semen and causes the post-pill woman, now seeking Alpha sperm, to be even more repulsed by the beta she picked while on the pill.
/r/TheRedPill22/03/15 09:23 PM
2

A woman "dreads" the prospect of being rejected more than any man can conceive. They are primally driven to work to ensure their security (the "relationship") just as a man is driven to acquire pussy. But both genders lose interest in their acquisitions as soon as such is a given. 'Keep them thirsty, my friends.'
/r/TheRedPill17/03/15 11:46 PM
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I'll be blunt. Knowing what I know about TRP, if a woman told me she wanted to wait till her late 20s to get married, I'd IMMEDIATELY think that she just wants the security, status, etc. of the relationship incase, or until, someone better comes along. I'd dump her immediately as lacking in character and quality. (Although, I am fully aware that hypergamy is within the nature of a woman.)
/r/RedPillWomen08/03/15 04:52 PM
1

Correction noted - with hesitation to accept the timeline.
/r/TheRedPill07/03/15 02:50 AM
1

And to think that women's deception all started with the bra.
/r/TheRedPill04/03/15 11:49 PM
3

All the validation from the other males inflated her perceived SMV - making her think she can afford to dictate the terms of the relationship w her boyfriend/boytoy. If the boyfriend can Alpha up enough to firmly stand her up (without engaging in drama) and not take her shit while also also regulating her bad behavior AND demonstrating that he has options, she will stop/reduce the frequency of her shit. Basically, it's a Shit Test to see if the boyfriend will/can do anything about it and what it…
/r/askTRP17/02/15 09:01 AM
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TRP is not about putting women down. It does, however, point out how they are. Depending on your personal past history, and how much Disney (et al) that you believe, the RP view of women may/may not be a put down. However, for most men (and for some women, themselves) the RP view of the nature of women is revealing and often "explains" past experiences and helps predict the future. This is not to say that there is anything "wrong" with women, but rather, the strength and value of women is in us,…
/r/TheRedPill17/02/15 03:00 AM
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And ... if delivered with a smirk, looking her straight in the eye, she's going to melt. It's not exactly a conversation ender, either. It leaves you both with something to work with - or not. I don't think that revealing that you are pissed off by walking out shows much "mastery" over life's realities - or the nature of women.
/r/TheRedPill14/02/15 08:02 PM
481

"Well, it's a 20XX XYZ-Car. But it's not as old as your Tinder pics."
/r/TheRedPill14/02/15 03:12 PM
17

Tell her that you love strong willed and determined women, therefore you would like to continue seeing her. But, she has to use that strong will and determination to respect you or else you will have to break it off with her. Basically, "Tits and shut the fuck up."
/r/askTRP11/02/15 04:47 AM
2

I haven't heard "not tonight" (or the like) since. It's been over a year.
/r/TheRedPill10/02/15 09:10 PM
41

Absolutely! If you ever suspect a woman is slacking on her sexual enthusiasm - star fishing - just pull out and say something like, "I'm really not into it. Maybe tomorrow night." Guaranteed, once you get past the wailing and drama fest, she'll be on you like Dino on Fred Flintstone!
/r/TheRedPill09/02/15 10:45 PM
0

"This all seems to make her simultaneously uncomfortable and nervous and content at the same time." This is the key! "Uncomfortable and nervous" = an Attractive relationship. Women are about the Relationship, not so much the man. Keep them on the edge and they will stay attracted to you. The only exception is when they want assurances of security and comfort for raising children. But even then, be sparing in providing the beta.
/r/TheRedPill08/02/15 04:38 PM
3

I'd stop talking to your wife about this stuff.
/r/TheRedPill08/02/15 02:17 PM
1

Think Capt. Jack Sparrow of The Black Pearl - that kind of "crazy." She doesn't have to know what your thinking.
/r/TheRedPill08/02/15 02:11 PM
8

The idea of losing a GOOD Man who is considered desirable to other women is far more adverse to a woman than they will ever let you know. The key is to be that good Man and to optimize opportunities when she can just happen to notice that you are desired by other women. (I'm not talking about flirting with other women - if you are married.) Further, there is no reason that a Man should ever let on that he isn't "crazy" enough that he wouldn't blow up a marriage, or impliment a scorched earth str…
/r/TheRedPill08/02/15 12:45 AM
1

There will be no day when the fish give positive affirmation that the fishermen are (once again) using bait that they love.
/r/TheRedPill02/02/15 01:52 AM
3

Obviously, the weight is a deal breaker for you, as it should be. You need to be straight-up honest with him about that - now. Tell him, plainly, that you are losing attraction to him, and that you don't forsee any way that you could now, or in the foreseeable future, remain attracted to him unless he can learn to live and maintain a healthly and attractive lifestyle. Give him X weeks to show progress, and Y more weeks to make more progress. If he doesn't get with your program (such as joining y…
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/15 02:59 AM
2

So what would one do or say to any guy who started getting "LTR-serious" in a relationship with these bitches?
/r/TheRedPill31/01/15 08:03 PM
1

She needs to SEE that you receive interest from fit women - that you are desirable to them - that you have options. Create and optimize situations where she can observe this. However - in an LTR - be careful of initiating interactions with other women, or do so sparingly in front of her. Women see Men who are desired by other women as high value. Women see Men who are caddy as low value - for a LTR. In your specific situation however - not married - she seems to be too lazy, too soon. She will b…
/r/TheRedPill25/01/15 07:05 PM
0

BPP, I'm very disappointed to read this. "Marriage is (only) Game on hard." Personally, I enjoy the challenges. I also enjoy passing the "Word" of Red Pill on to my boys. Shit, my wife actually smiles when I drop a RP Truth to the boys at the dinner table from time to time. Women know internally that BP sucks the big one. "Feminism" is just a Group Shit Test for the BEST quality Men [AND RP Women*] to cut through the shit and sustain the species. Advice to the OP: Be awesome, be That Man that al…
/r/TheRedPill31/12/14 11:15 PM
2

I think it might help all of us - long term - if we could get some idea WHY he is choosing to be "done" - beyond being in a "dopamine fog." Any idea what he dislikes about his current marriage or you that he thinks he is going to find with her? (This is not a critical piece, but it could help.) You need to start generating some positive, life-force, energy. If there is any way that you can get a babysitter, doll yoourself up, and go somewhere he is not tonight, do it. If not, no big deal. Have p…
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/14 02:20 PM
2

^ More great advice!
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/14 01:50 PM
3

Great advice ^ !
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/14 01:47 PM
3

Blame Game is irrelevant right now. This woman needs some hand and foot holds so that she can have another shot at fixing her marriage. (Although, it's entirely possible that she was so busy sweating details that she missed the big picture. Sometimes we try too hard to provide solutions when we should be allowing consequences to occur.)
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/14 01:18 AM
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Sorry for the bad news, but he WILL choose her. What you need to prepare for (IMO) is how you can mitigate the long term damage of his dopamine driven decision while exposing him to experience the sober realities of ... reality. DON'T be sucked into being the "reasonable" enabler of his addiction. He MUST experience the hard consequences of his choices. ETA ... while at the same time seeing that HIS being reasonable would be a whole lot more "reasonable" in the long run than making poor short te…
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/14 12:51 AM
5

I'm also pro-saving marriages. I prepared a long response for you, but in essence it says that humans are human (as well as animals) and we really don't have a lot of experience with marriage in the context of long life spans, not to mention the lack of all the motivations we used to have to make marriages last. Therefore, we need to "think different" than blowing up a marriage the first time we act on bio-temptations. (The second time?? ... Well, we are not there - yet.) I'd suggest you not all…
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/14 11:12 PM
2

"... words." Two things that cannot be taken back: Bullets and words.
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/14 03:40 PM
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It has not been mentioned yet that he is on a dopamine high. Rational thinking is not going to happen - regardless of any threatened or real consequences. You are trying to reason with a man on drugs. Its not going to happen. You can't force reason on a drugged person. Similarly, it is the reason nothing he is proposing or envisioning makes sense. It is also the reason these cheating "new lives" RARELY ever work out (~5%). The drug eventually wears out and the cheater starts to see clearly. You …
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/14 01:05 PM
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"A few hours later I woke up to her phone going off in our bed. She was sound asleep, and as her mom had recently gotten hurt I thought it might be her. Nope, some guy thanking her for the sex and blowjob in his car at the park." ... Click, screen shot, email to self. Have enlarged, laminated posterS made. Keep handy for future use.
/r/TheRedPill23/12/14 03:50 PM
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I saw this vid some time ago and have had thoughts since. BSC can be a fun and wild ride ... and a gamble. As a judge, he is no dummy and I'm sure he at LEAST suspects what he could be in for, thus, the camera. During my college years I worked for an upper scale catering service and catered a lot of upscale, professional events. I saw a lot of crazy stuff. These guys like to fly close to the flame. Sometimes they get they get their wings burned.
/r/TheRedPill23/12/14 02:45 PM
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This is somewhat true. But, I wouldn't characterize the men on this sub as "broken." Some are - to their credit - here learning and others teaching. What's interesting, though, is why ppl come here and are angry or critical when they see it occurring.
/r/TheRedPill23/12/14 01:55 PM
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And, why do think her laughing with you about how other men turn her on is a good thing?
/r/TheRedPill23/12/14 02:17 AM
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We are here for you ... Someone has to get her wet! You're welcome.
/r/TheRedPill23/12/14 01:38 AM
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If that is the desired reaction and context of "next," we will have to start specifying "hard next" or "soft next." I would, however, suggest NOT using "soft nexts" as doing so will degrade the desired dread effect of "next" among other women, and also within your relationship. Men have the power to control the desired relationship and their commitment to the relationship. If a woman/women realize that "next" means they will get multiple reprieves for bad/undesirable behavior the power of "next"…
/r/TheRedPill21/12/14 02:43 PM
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Rejections are not always rejections. They are frequently tests for fitness, which includes courage, creativity, presistance and sometimes loyalty. The story cited and related comments illustrate not (always) the "WTF?" aspect of (mating) women, but rather the testing that they unconsciously do. They even hamster by coming up with excuses for their behavior, 'I could never date a ginger.' Had the ginger (or other rejected men) demonstrated more "fitness" by pushing through the test with creativi…
/r/TheRedPill21/12/14 05:38 AM
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People hate this sub because they prefer/would hope they can be complacent and lazy in their LTRs. Any LTR in which either persona becomes consistent (stagnant) in providing what the other "wants" is one heading for a dead bed and divorce.
/r/TheRedPill21/12/14 03:22 AM
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It's important to discern "attracted to" from "want for a BF/STR" or even "want to date." For a PUA and a ONS a woman's "attracted to" is good enough. In a relationship lasting much longer than ~12 weeks the man is going to have to display, and will be tested for, other qualities the woman is looking for - IF she is thinking of/ready to settle down. Further, a woman's "attraction" interest is dynamic. A woman coming off a ~12 week carousel ride on a dark horse is probably going to be looking ini…
/r/TheRedPill20/12/14 05:12 PM
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Disagree. I think it reads like a "movie trailer" for Red Pill, or at least a rough pilot for one.
/r/TheRedPill17/12/14 01:03 PM
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"Anyway, this girl always wants to know whether or not I'm fucking other girls (I'm not, but she thinks I am) but I tell her I don't necessarily think it's her business and I don't answer the question." Your answer should have been/should be more playful and far less serious. If your relationship is not serious the issue should not be serious and you should not let her change the frame of relationship TO serious. The same applies to "she just replied 'have other plans." No reply needed from you.…
/r/askTRP14/12/14 04:14 AM
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This is exactly correct in RP evo-bio terms. However, "free women" are only free because of artificial societally imposed constructs (aka divorce rape laws). The past natural order of things tended to naturally prevent women from (multiple) repeat rides on the carousel - in a number of ways. If we are going to "free" women to follow their natural hypergamous biological imperitives the natural consequences/outcomes that previously functioned as "checks" in the order of things should be allowed to…
/r/TheRedPill01/12/14 09:28 PM
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"I know this all completely blue pill, but I need to close that part of my life for certain before I can embrace TRP. If she doesn't reciprocate how I feel ... " She doesn't know how she feels because, while she might WANT to feel something, she simply does not. She is being real and truthful. Her feelings for you will depend on how much you act - ARE - like a confident assertive, desirable man - a man who does not need her feelings to determine what he wants, should do, or how he should be. You…
/r/askTRP30/11/14 01:47 PM
1

Conversely, have you noticed that some of the highest quality, most desirable people post very little at all, very rarely?
/r/askTRP30/11/14 09:49 AM
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Married recovered Alpha here. I completly agree with the two posters above. The BEST thing you can do for yourself and ANY relationship is to continually work on improving yourself and make it easily observable that you have other options. ("Any relationship" includes jobs, and "easily observable" means that you don't talk about it - directly.) One of the most attractive things about a Man to a woman is his disability to other woman. Your move here (and the rest of your sex life) is to always ma…
/r/askTRP30/11/14 09:30 AM
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I was actually pretty much Alpha, and respected by my wife as such ... until ~10 years ago. At that time my job started running/ruining my life and running/ruining my marriage as I failed my wife's shit test for about four years. Sometimes a Man has to tell the woman she can't have Tyrannosaurus Rex steaks - if it means his health, life and their marriage is on the line. And fuck the Jones! (They all ended up divorced, anyway.) I quit the job and escaped the T Rex four years ago. I started readi…
/r/askTRP30/11/14 03:35 AM
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Oh, and once you become observably improved and start drawing the attention of women (secondary approval), be prepared for your ex to have second thoughts (it happens). Just say "No." At age 29, you are one lucky buyer in the SMP (and the odds of her staying with her fling are slim). Don't blow this opportunity!
/r/askTRP30/11/14 02:51 AM
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I replied to your original post on TRP as well. I'll add/warn that a RP Epiphany is only the beginning - it is only intellectual at first. It will take TIME for you to internalize all this. Figure one month for every year you have been blue pill. So at age 30 figure (starting from age 15), about 15 months to START becoming fluid/comfortable with the new you. There will be setbacks, too. So, keep reading, improving yourself, AND avoid Onitis at all costs!!
/r/askTRP30/11/14 02:11 AM
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A quality woman will actually respect you more for saying that. Not only does it show your wisdom (of how these thing go) and takes her off the pedistal, but it also frees her from traditional "expectations." Beyond that, you cover the "fem-equality" card as well. It's really a no lose approach.
/r/TheRedPill29/11/14 08:05 PM
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Skip the counselor. Us Men/you don't need to learn to forgive her/women who cheat. Kick her/them to the curb ASAP and move on. Food/money/paying for good looks: She's used to the Average Chump paying for her looks. Don't be that chump. Treat her (initially) as a guy buddy - You buy one, she buys one - or "Seperate checks, please." On the sex/orgasms thing (it's similar to the paying thing) - my guess is that if you asked your ex if you fucked her hard enough she would say "no." I'd suggest that …
/r/TheRedPill29/11/14 07:36 PM
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Women need to begin to understand that no Red Pill Man WANTS (or needs) to "understand" a BSC, Post-Wall woman. The gig is up, ladies!
/r/TheRedPill29/11/14 02:42 PM
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I recently had a very hot girl whom I just met ask me if I was a tits guy or an ass guy. I responded that I was a "brain" guy. She looked panicked ... as I waited for her to fill the void of silence. Women learn early on that most men are helpless to women who "have all the right junk in all the right places." Simply look at it as just that, "junk." Make her "qualify" her mind to you.
/r/askTRP27/11/14 12:31 PM
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For starters, your texting is off. You should not have texted her so soon - the next morning. Then, the "naughty" text comes off as creepy. Overall, you come off as trying to push/convince/sell this girl rather than draw her. Your strength in this situation is that you can set yourself up as someone she can't have, or has to compete with another woman for. But, she won't do it if it is your idea. It has to be her idea - and she has to feel that unless she makes a move soon she will lose you. (Sh…
/r/askTRP27/11/14 12:07 PM
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I'd suggest working in the concept/statement at some stage that 'you have options, but you are CHOOSING her' (your LTR/wife).
/r/TheRedPill04/11/14 03:52 AM
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They are the same. Women unconsciously feel compelled to calibrate to the SMV of the Man they are with. The (her internal) expectations of (being WITH) a fitter man mean that she would have to work hard to increase or maintain a level of fitness such that she would feel competitive with other women. Being with a high SMV man is hard work - making her feel insecure. In an LTR a women will often start to unconsciously fatten up the man as she betaizes him OUT of the SMP. Conversely, if a man in an…
/r/TheRedPill28/10/14 12:11 AM
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I've scanned this tread to the bottom and can't find a chonological age posted that is as "old" as I am. I'll spare you all (most of) my bragging and only say that I - after discovering and LIVING RP and the Manosphere FOR only three years - wish I were single. My marriage is now great and I can pull hot 30 yo's with little effort. 25 yo's would be possible and younger are simply a fun time - mutually. Any 40 yo guy who thinks he's too old just has work to do - in one area or another. "Men do no…
/r/TheRedPill07/10/14 04:25 AM
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They are "fairy tales" that have a message - a "point." More often than not, they should not be taken literally.
/r/TheRedPill27/09/14 01:49 AM
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Scripture says: 'Women were made from one of Adam's ribs.' This was not meant to have a literal meaning, but a figurative message which is roughly that, 'Women's existence is, and always has been, largely relative/reactive to men. Strong men = happy women and men. Weak men = unhappy women and men. Men, be strong, be happy.
/r/TheRedPill24/09/14 05:00 AM
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There is no blame to be placed on feminism - anymore than there is blame to be placed on (for example) corporate/capitalist America if a man chooses to work his life and family away chasing (what he perceives as) "The Dream." Women who opt into this chase make their own beds. They can sleep in it just as well as men.
/r/TheRedPill24/09/14 02:43 AM
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Somewhat agree. BUT, talking about TRP, Game, Alpha/beta is really at the RP 404 level. That means, anyone who you are "talking to" already knows enough that you don't have to "say" much - kind of like a horse that the jocky is guiding with his heels.
/r/TheRedPill21/09/14 11:24 PM
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Unfortunately for most women, it will take a bio-engineer.
/r/TheRedPill20/09/14 02:10 PM
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"Malibu Barbie Dream House in Connecticut" "So what would our sex life be like as husband and wife? Theoretically?" This is where you start challenging her, on the sex end of things. You control the commitment she wants so badly (and feels entitled to), but the moment you show your own agency in the equation, her dreams are threatened. "Look, that's nice, but I can't help but think that if you really liked me that way, you would have done something about it before now." "She realizes, to her hor…
/r/TheRedPill20/09/14 07:17 AM
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I read the first paragraph+ of your post ... All I can say is (as you can guess), don't let her CHUMP you. The sex (and relationship) will SUCK!!! Move on!
/r/TheRedPill20/09/14 02:20 AM
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And above all, STFU about whatever you're doing! The first rule of The Fight Club is don't talk about The Fight Club!
/r/askTRP19/09/14 08:54 PM
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Why discuss the type of fishing bait or net to use with a fish?? (If she brings it up just say you had forgotten about it.)
/r/TheRedPill19/09/14 11:29 AM
2

The ultimate outcome of a functioning LTR relationship IS "Win-win." You're just going to have to do more reading. There is no shortcut or short answer.
/r/askTRP19/09/14 02:51 AM
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Your understanding of the MMSL forum is correct - sadly. The blog, what has not been edited to 'for more information read the books' is good - especially the pre-2013 posts. The "Rational Male" and "Red Pill Room" contain foundational RP material for LTRs. The authors post on RP forums, which, IMO, is "real."
/r/askTRP18/09/14 11:57 PM
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+1 for adding the "The Sex God Method" to your reading. Just don't let your wife (or even her friends) know you are reading this stuff. The first rule of Fight Club is to not talk about the Fight Club.
/r/TheRedPill18/09/14 06:12 PM
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Cassial IS giving you good advice. But, it is important that both YOU and her not dance around the reality that "normal" m/f relationships are very sexually active, aka "healthy." That IS what you "want." At age 26 if she cannot get herself to that realization - herself - you (as a partner - "suitor") sitting around listening to her is only enabling her disposition. She needs to come to realize that she must get past this and no long-term desirable male will be able to "love" her enough to toler…
/r/askTRP18/09/14 04:13 AM
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I agree with the above advice and will add, do NOT let yourself get put into a White Knight position with 'helping' her get over the past abusive relationship. That is for her to do. In fact, your backing off on your interest in her could be a good thing to help rally to get past her issues.
/r/askTRP17/09/14 07:43 PM
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It's a great idea. But, I wouldn't "call" it a column on men's rights, per se. I'd keep it much broader - maybe "Men's Life" ... or something. And yeah, you are going to have to remain a ghost writer.
/r/askTRP17/09/14 07:22 PM
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It would only be maturity if it turns out that she has gained any long term LTR sexual self-awareness. Indications are that her sexual enthusiasm was/is only motivated by Dread, which is less than desirable in choosing/keeping a partner for a LTR. Further, her saying, "See, aren't you glad we waited?" the next day is a tell that she, infact, has no self-awareness. Having to continually run Dread to gain/keep a partners interest? Next.
/r/TheRedPill17/09/14 07:37 AM
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This post is giving me Pre-Red-Pill PTSD flashbacks. 10 dates? - At her age ... or ANY age? Really?!!! Run!
/r/TheRedPill17/09/14 02:50 AM
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Well ... She sees that you SEEM to have acquired this new "you." For her, it is just as much "fun" testing to see if you are real or not. Why not dump all the shit from the past "you" (which was really her reaction to who you were at that time), and have some fun with the new HER (who is the result of who you are NOW)? Or, are you lacking confidence that you will fail her shit (fitness) tests?
/r/askTRP11/09/14 02:43 AM
1

Well, that's just it ... It takes a compete makeover - physical AND mental.
/r/TheRedPill11/09/14 01:09 AM
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Re: ""I dont make out with guys I just met" You never gave her the opportunity to get to "know" you. Women's attraction to, and desire/competition for, men is very much determined by their observations of how other women react to that man. Had she "met" you by observing your interactions with, and approval by, other women she would have been more motivated to make out with you. Your mistake was your exclusive attention to her, starting with the pre-drinking/chatting. The "Secondary Approval" / "…
/r/askTRP07/09/14 01:37 PM
1

'RP life has options other than "mating strategy".' BUT, it is yet to be seen if those options are not a mating strategy. Time will only tell.
/r/TheRedPill06/09/14 06:58 PM
1

Short version: "Ugly wife, happy life."
/r/TheRedPill06/09/14 03:14 PM
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OP seems to be suggesting a selective mating strategy favoring women who don't shit test? The more attractive (and somewhat entitled) a woman perceives herself as being (relative to a potential mate), the more likely she is to shit test. A mating strategy that excludes "attractive" women seems .... odd, at best.
/r/TheRedPill06/09/14 03:05 PM
1

"My hero is Captain Jack Sparrow."
/r/askTRP05/09/14 11:15 PM
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"We barely knew each other" Translation: I'm not heated up enough yet. 'We could keep making out' Translation: Keep me going so that I CAN get to "yet." You should have just pull back a bit and then kept going for it. Since she gave you her number, you might have a second chance. BUT, don't be appolologitic about round one (or even discuss it) when you talk with her.
/r/askTRP05/09/14 08:35 AM
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If she's into you, she will likely start improving herself if you hold course in improving yourself. Women tend to calibrate to the men they are with - IF they are into them. Acne can improve (somewhat) with diet and over the counter skin treatments - cleansers, acne pad cleaners, etc. If it is really bad and persistent she will need to see a doctor for prescription treatments. Things are much better these days for successful treatment of acne, but she may need to get to her doctor. Diet & Fitne…
/r/askTRP04/09/14 10:55 AM
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Good to see your response. I was reading some of your other posts and, frankly, I thought you were a goner - I read something about a 'soon to be ex-husband.' Anyway ... Re: "In general, things I have read from a previous post leave me with this understanding ..." * One of the drawbacks of the Red Pill related forums is that their origins are from the (single) PUA genre. Further, the RP forum itself is somewhat populated by single younger bucks. What applies to single NON-LTR relationships may n…
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/14 03:55 AM
1

To get past this (I) talk(ed) to ALL women - to old ones, the ones you are not interested in, fuglys and land whales. A good place is the grocery store or clothing store. Start with just eye contact, then add "Hi." Then add "Hi, can you help me find XYZ." Then, go to a place like a big garden center or big box store (Home Depot, etc.) - where younger women work. Ask a cute/hot employee to 'help you find XYZ.' Then, on the way to the item, make up shit about what you are working on/trying to do -…
/r/askTRP02/09/14 08:06 PM
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And KNOW that you will be able to get (much) younger women ... if you follow RP precepts. You REALLY don't want her around to see that ... She WILL try to sabotage. (She will also throw herself at you, but why buy bargan basement when you can get the good stuff?)
/r/askTRP31/08/14 03:28 AM
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"Older" RP sage here. Welcome. I have experienced similar former hotties in their 40s ... AND 50's. They have been living their entire lives using the power of their looks to get what they want. They know little more. They don't take rejection (or reality) any better than any other "woman scorned." Even if you don't respond as they expect to what would have "worked" for them in the past they go BSC. So, you have been warned. You will not be able to tell her anything (that she does not want to he…
/r/askTRP31/08/14 12:08 AM
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She met someone who has her interest - maybe more. Do some recon and you will probably find this to be the case. Shortly, every move you make will become an irritation to her.
/r/askTRP30/08/14 11:32 PM
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I'll second GSN (below). Your high school friends should have nothing to do with who you are. Turn YOUR back and keep walking.
/r/askTRP30/08/14 08:11 PM
1

Good for you! "Robesta" (above) has a thought worth considering - IMO. But, YMMV.
/r/askTRP30/08/14 08:02 PM
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The next (feminist) shoe to drop will be the attempted shaming of men into thinking that Real Men should find these types of women attractive for XYZ reasons - negotiated desire. ETA: ... or some (other) legislative/taxing/legal Men-raping maneuver to intimidate/motivate men into accepting these btchs.
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/14 07:02 PM
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Author, Larissa Faw [in comments]: "It seems my intent has been misinterpreted. What I am observing is that Millennial women seek their equals, and increasingly finding this to be impossible. Regardless if they have college degrees or not, we never encounter single available men. And I still haven’t figured out where they are." A: Their male "equals" have had 'no time' nor attraction for Millennial women. You have been passed over by the desirable men who didn't/don't desire you. Ms Faw, Men hol…
/r/TheRedPill30/08/14 05:35 PM
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"sushi and drinks on a weeknight" - Ill bet she couldn't wait to say "No." No you shouldn't! - break the 3 date rule. Read the content of Rational Male link previously provided. It sounds like you have been chasing ... and she has been the one Gaming you. She knows what's next, so give it to her ... Radio Silence. If she's into you she will find a way through. If she's not that into you, or can't find a way to get through to you, she is not and will not be worth it.
/r/askTRP30/08/14 02:02 PM
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Feminism has no choice but to hamster and/or be in denial about the unfortunate fate of their devoted sisters who have kept the faith until hitting the Wall. Doing anything other is admitting that they mislead and betrayed their sisters. Thankfully, younger women are now seeing this and they are saying "Nice try, but no thank you" to feminism. https://m.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL616D23D1DE15D5A1
/r/TheRedPill30/08/14 07:45 AM
1

LDRs can be hell for guys - ESPECIALLY if they are RP aware. If they observe their SO getting hotter AND displaying "textual/picture advances" (that have not happened in the past, I'm assuming?) it comes off as "change is in the air." Assurances of your intent and commitment would probably be well received and reassuring.
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/14 07:13 AM
2

So I/we don't have to do a lot of research, what, in your opinion is the Society of Saint Pius X about - beyound what Wickipedia says? Bells and Smells crowd? Dark Chocolate Catholics? I'm asking because IME I'm recently seeing (what I see as) Red Pill thinking emerging in the Church. In some seminars I recently attended, they were (nearly) talking in evo-bio-psyco terms. What's your read?
/r/TheRedPill29/08/14 11:07 PM
1

Re: "my greatest joy is helping a man thrive and be happy." Could you please elaborate on this? Situational examples would be helpful.
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/14 07:41 PM
2

I am the man in a marriage where I (currently) make less than my wife. In fact, it was a deliberate change (three years ago) to our current fiscal ratio that started improvements to the marriage. (I was investing too many resources, including my health, into my career.) However, I was reading a LOT of RP stuff at the time and I knew that I would have to find other ways to compensate for my no longer being able to provide male leadership in income contribution. It (seems) it can be done and (so f…
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/14 01:08 PM
1

Pre-nups are thrown out by judges all the time. AND, the older they are the less relevant/effective they tend to be.
/r/TheRedPill29/08/14 01:01 AM
2

She knows the Power Of The Pill. She doesn't want to loose her baby to other women or for you to be conquering poosy [sic]. It's similar to why (some) mothers raise the sons to be nice boys - when they know bad boys are what snaps women's beans. Agree & Amplify: "Yes mother, stop over to my place and I'll introduce you to my harem."
/r/askTRP28/08/14 11:05 PM
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Well said! Yes, this sub does give the impression that there are a lot of younger men on it. But, there are also those of us (sages) who are older as well - probably surprisingly older. Join us in fraturnity.
/r/TheRedPill28/08/14 03:25 PM
5

Shit, he's a dumb-ass actor/reporter at best. Given a 15 min interview she would make him seem like a fuck-tard!
/r/TheRedPill28/08/14 03:16 PM
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He was only the newscaster actor playing devil's advocate for those who say, "man up." But, it wasn't a "fair and balanced" reporting tactic to pull in a short clip interview where she (he) knew that to respond to the taunt she would have to side-bar into the fact that the expression "Man up" is a feminist shaming tactic to, as YOU wrote, shame men into thinking that they should "assume the yoke of slavery and be happy about it..." The proper response (other than "Fuck You") is to say, "Feminisi…
/r/TheRedPill28/08/14 11:21 AM
1

I was writing illustratively of a (long) past personal experience and that of many betaized men. I was not seeking personal advice, but rather, giving a global suggestion related to my opening words - hinting that the video is simplistic.
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/14 12:52 AM
1

Well ... think about it ... If a guy puts you on the Princess Pedistal and you are all he ever wants, and he's completly into you - and this goes on for about 5.5+ years, are you really going to be that into him and respect him?? An internet full of men and women's candid discussions says the answer is most likely not "No," but, rather, "divorce." In fact, it is known around here that single women are MOST attracted to men whom other women have shown an interest in and, optimally, have multiple …
/r/askTRP27/08/14 11:01 PM
1

I've read most of the discussion below. I think that, possibly, you are actually wondering if there is a "right" guy that you might find for your future husband who WOULD'NT want to fuck attractive coworkers. In an instinctual evo-bio-psyco frame (RP thinking), in the long run, you wouldn't find such a guy to be attractive.
/r/askTRP27/08/14 01:32 PM
2

It's more/different/more weird than that. I don't know what it is.
/r/askTRP27/08/14 03:44 AM
0

My dad did/endured the same thing for three marriages. It was horrible for the first marriage - hours and hours of it - through my and my siblings years at home. Then he married twice more, and each time it got even worse! The stuff I hear about today as domestic violence doesn't compare. I can't see why he/we would say he did it for the kids because to this day, as old as we are, we still 'don't talk about it.' I do know that when my wife started Shit Testing me with hitting early in our relati…
/r/askTRP27/08/14 03:42 AM
1

Agreed, one (1) glass is not a problem. The pattern/problem is that this stuff gets gunny sacked - ALMOST unconsciously. Women need to know that (most) men DO. NOT. UNDERSTAND. GUNNY SACKING. We don't do it - in our man to man relationships. Take that for what it is.
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/14 02:09 AM
1

That's because she is in the hormonal "fog" (tm - MMSL?) of an affair.
/r/askTRP27/08/14 01:39 AM
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Yeah, something like that .... But, from a guys perspective I would appreciate a hint if the things I did/do are annoying, worse, unattractive. I'm hyper-sensitive to this kind of stuff - now - realizing that "Love won't keep us together." Eventually that stuff piles(d) up, along with the (my) fat, weakness and negativity. I don't have an answer, but I do think that given the past 30+ years of social conditioning "to be themselves," BP guys could use a hint (from their RP Women) that they were m…
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/14 01:33 AM
2

Forgive my pun: That's the "rub" with LTR Game. My wife says she's most attracted to me when she feels "close to me." What she doesn't know is that she "feels close to me" when I'm Gaming her by pulling away.
/r/askTRP27/08/14 12:27 AM
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"So what to do from here." Go to a 1:3 ratio on communications. It will get her hamster going. When she asks what is going on, COLDLY respond with, "to make you want me more." Do not engage her hamster with further discussion. Be ready to "next" her upon her return ... and as others have suggested, wear your raincoat! YOU are the prize, NOT her. YOU hold the keys to the relationship.
/r/askTRP26/08/14 11:53 PM
1

If you can keep her moving in the same direction to sign good for you! It still would be a good idea to get legal advice. If she wants to blow the whole thing up I'm sure she can play the "I was distressed pressured to sign" card.
/r/askTRP26/08/14 08:05 PM
0

Your "mistake" was not beta begging and groveling. Effectively, you just threw a bucket of "Dread Ice Water" on her. Too bad "we" didn't think she would react like ALL WOMEN! Now what?
/r/askTRP26/08/14 05:30 PM
2

Just up: http://therationalmale.com/2014/08/24/back-to-basics/ "I’m aware of many a former (nominally) red pill blogger who’s dropped their previous advocacy for masculine (Alpha) attributes being arousing/attractive in favor of a diluted blue pill ‘new age sensitive guy’ message that better resonates with his increasingly female readership. While spinning just enough red pill into what accounts for a blue pill ideology might make for better, temporary, revenue, it only aggravates the same confl…
/r/TheRedPill26/08/14 03:19 PM
2

Don't kick yourself for not knowing about RP stuff. Few of us "knew" anything definitively. Some did instinctively or through association with true Alphas. The Manosphere writers and bloggers are making their money off the "novelty" of the information, albeit 'ancient information made new,' or as the Church says, 'Reveled to us in time.' Here is an excellent related blog post : http://therationalmale.com/2013/12/03/saving-the-best/ Pertinent excerpt: "Prior to the advent of technologies that cou…
/r/askTRP26/08/14 02:52 PM
2

Congratulations! It's hard to imagine, but there is nothing better for a relationship than one person being the Woman and the other being the Man.
/r/RedPillWomen26/08/14 01:57 PM
1

"Both my and my wife's parents were divorced, so that in itself should have been a sign ... " I've scanned your previous posts and did not see this, so I'm going to ask for the sake of theory confirmation: Was she a CC Rider prior to your relationship? It could turn out that may be more of a root cause factor ("sign) in predicting divorces than parents who divorced.
/r/askTRP26/08/14 01:43 PM
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Friend, you haven't reached your prime, yet! Get your RP shit together and you will have 20-something's beating down your door through your 30's ... and beyond. BUT, I would strongly advise that you seal this deal BEFORE your wife even THINKS another woman could be attracted to you.
/r/askTRP26/08/14 12:44 PM
2

Just because your situation (agreement) is so unusual, I have to pitch in that I have seen a similar agreement "work" (in the US). It has been occurring over about the last five years. They are both in their 40's. The kids are now middle and high school levels. She just remarried and moved out with her new husband. He was (probably) not her first choice. I think there was another guy prior, but that did not work out. (She was trolling the country clubs just before hitting 40 - with friends.) Pri…
/r/askTRP26/08/14 12:23 PM
3

It is so good to see RP bloggers out and about, in touch, in the trenches.
/r/RedPillWomen26/08/14 02:47 AM
2

(semi) Troll confirmed. Blue Pill women are watching.
/r/TheRedPill25/08/14 05:32 AM
1

You know what? They really only want to be fucked ... HARD. Don't over think this. I'm serious (and experienced). And, they will (likely) be happy with only that. Just tell them to come over and fuck. They will. There is nothing more exciting to these bitches than to think that a younger bitch was pumped by the same cock the night before.
/r/askTRP25/08/14 04:48 AM
10

Read this three (3) times: http://therationalmale.com/2013/12/03/saving-the-best/ Pertainant excerpt: "Prior to the advent of technologies that could evidentially prove women’s sexual exploits (often proudly so now), the more visceral aspects of a woman’s sexuality, and the inconvenient hindbrain/hormonal prompts that motivate them, could be kept secret well enough to deceive a man with provisioning potential [ETA: a dumb-fuck beta] to commit to the long term security the other half of her Hyper…
/r/TheRedPill25/08/14 03:53 AM
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That's why my wife women puts up with so much shit from Me Alphas.
/r/TheRedPill25/08/14 01:16 AM
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Yes. Oh, I forgot to decode this part: "Then I brought up the time I mentioned Ariana Grande is hot, and she said it's different and I shouldn't have said that." = "That was back when I was still interested in you. Now, just about everything you do pisses me off ... and I don't really know why it's different. I don't care, and I don't want to care, anyway. So don't do that again because it reminds me of when I cared. I just want that hot(er) guys cock."
/r/TheRedPill24/08/14 11:14 PM
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Women "Power Talk" - they "tell" you what they want to say in an indirect way such that you cannot say that they "said" it ... "the other day my girlfriend was droning on about how attractive she thinks another guy in my unit is. And she justifies this by saying "every girl thinks at least one of her man's friends are hot. Every single girl"." = "All women get attracted to guys who catch their attention as being more attractive than the guy they are with. I do too." "She went on to say "that's 1…
/r/TheRedPill24/08/14 05:56 PM
12

She is not crazy ... Women are in control of the sex. Men are in control of the relationship. You are going to lead her to have sex with you. She is going to lead you to have a relationship with her. She is a woman.
/r/askTRP24/08/14 03:25 PM
15

It's the domestic things she is doing for you and the LTR walks that is misleading her. Her staying over night at your place is not the best situation, but combined with the other stuff ... it's fucked up. You can't let her act like a LTR, do LTR things for you, and expect she is going to think she's a plate!!! If you want to elevate her to a LTR it seems it's already done. If you want to hope to demote her to a plate, you will have to tell her 'Hold off on the cooking, cleaning and dishes, babe…
/r/askTRP24/08/14 03:15 PM
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I don't think she's crazy. She's doing a female hamster thing called "rewriting history" as a means to rectify the present. She wants to establish a start date which would then there is a relationship - beyond being a plate. Frankly - the letting her 'come over regularly, clean my place, make dinner' domestic stuff is - IMO - misleading. Is she sleeping at your place too?
/r/askTRP24/08/14 02:25 PM
1

A man cave is a place where betas are "kept." She knows where you are, what you are doing, and who you are with. It's a man's "pacifier." It's the antithesis of the gym, or your being out doing manly things.
/r/askTRP24/08/14 01:54 PM
11

The most insidious Shit Test is the one where she sets you up to think that you will need to do X so that she will be/have the same as a relative/friend Y has or does. It can start off very innocently with something like, "Some day I would like to go to that restaurant." It then could progress to, "All of my sisters and cousins are stay at home moms." Somewhat related - I recently sat and overhead a dating couple at dinner. She was pretty hot, and articulate as well. He was physically hot but du…
/r/askTRP24/08/14 01:43 PM
1

It would definitely would not be a date. That's the beauty of it. It's an opportunity to isolate her a bit and get to know her. It's possible that she is a bitch, or she could be totally into you. If it seems that you two could get along say, "We should hang out more together. Let me put my number in your phone. Text me when you feel like doing something or just hanging out. I'm usually really busy and I'm terrible about remembering to text, so you'll probably have to text me first. Just incase,…
/r/askTRP24/08/14 12:59 PM
1

The flatmate thing makes it awkward because if she rejects you, you get stuck with having to live with it/her. (It is said, you shouldn't 'shit where you eat.') She has the same problem. So ... you have to play the plausible deniability game... The next time you see her, just TELL her that you will be doing something (anything) and ask if she wants to join you. Try to pick something mundane that you know she does/has to do as well (gym, lunch, dinner). She might say yes, or she might say another…
/r/askTRP24/08/14 08:48 AM
5

What you are experiencing are not Shit Tests. They are Loyalty Tests. She is instinctually testing to see if you are LTR material. If you want to loose/Next her you can fail the tests by continuing to be the Alpha that snapped her bean. If you want to keep her you are going to have to show some beta traits. Read this: http://marriedmansexlife.com/2014/07/why-being-asshole-alpha-works-for-about-six-months/
/r/askTRP24/08/14 02:14 AM
5

Insufficient information. How "long" has she been an LTR? Has she ever been snoopy before? Does she contribute anything meaningful to the relationship that would be hard to find with another?
/r/askTRP23/08/14 11:07 PM
2

Awww shit! AK just can't publicly say "Use Dread" or he"ll lose his women providers customers. I'd bet, however, when you pay for his coaching he uses the secret word. Speaking of AK and his customers, notice how RoxyB pounces on TRP - just because it IS Red Pill - regardless of the good points the referenced post make. https://marriedmansexlife.vanillaforums.com/discussion/12059/creative-reddit-post-on-the-7-deadly-sins-of-the-blue-pill
/r/TheRedPill23/08/14 04:53 PM
2

"You buy me one first. Then, I'll buy you the next." If I like you we can negotiate what happens next."
/r/askTRP23/08/14 04:22 PM
2

I'd add that women want their RELATIONSHIP to be one that is envied by other women. So, they ADORE the guy who can provide a relationship that they can brag about, or better, one that other women ask about and they then can only HONESTLY say good things. Women 'love' the relationship, and indirectly love the Man.
/r/askTRP23/08/14 02:22 PM
1

Please rephrase your question for clarity.
/r/askTRP23/08/14 02:04 PM
2

(Correction, the waitress is 20 yo.) I completely agree with your disposition regarding marriage. As has been posted here, 'Marriage is Game on the hard level.' I doubt I'd get married again if I had concisely/consciously known Game 21 years ago as I do now. It was pretty hard to make the decision as it was. I did have my "plates" - probably before the term was invented. And, if you review my posts, you might notice me posting an occasional frustrated, "Marriage Sucks!" That said, I married a wo…
/r/askTRP23/08/14 01:54 PM
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I met my wife of 21 years when she was an undergrad junior and I was a returning grad student at 35. We've been married 21 years. To her credit, she can do a pretty good Unicorn impression. I had known/known of her for about two years prior while dating her roommate of similar age. (Roommate and I broke up.) We did have sex on our first official date, but apparently she had already decided (unbeknown to me) two years prior that I was "the one she was going to marry" when I boldly walked in her d…
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/14 01:48 PM
1

"But I still dont see that as a proof of they not being able to love, and dont see how that is necessary knowledge you'd need to continue on the red pill." It is necessary knowledge you'd need to continue on the red pill because if you don't know/understand/accept it you will allow yourself to become unfit/undesirable/unattractive (in one way or another), while thinking that the (non-existant) unconditional love of some (non-existant) woman will be the reason she will takeup or stay with you. Re…
/r/askTRP23/08/14 04:52 AM
1

Women evolved that way for survival of the species. If their mates were killed or their village was conquered, they could not pine over the loss. They had to a adapt and accept a new male quickly if they wanted security and protection. The same applied to males who became unfit in any way. There was no biological advantage to unconditionally "loving" a male who could not function as a Man for you. It's still in their genes.
/r/askTRP23/08/14 04:14 AM
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Just got back on the BJ Train, myself, this summer - after about 10 years and 3 kids of deteriorating sex. First, be sure that you are indeed back in shape and that any negative aspects of your marriage have been rectified - areas of neglect or resentment, for example. A lot of guys think things have improved more than they actually have. A good litmus test is if you KNOW your wife has noticed you pulling IOIs. If she asks for information about another woman that is a good sign that she "thinks"…
/r/askTRP23/08/14 03:57 AM
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You said she was remorseful and compliant to your wishes. If she is, you need to accept her hand if she extends it - accept her RESPECTFUL calls. However, if she is calling to continue her rant and test more, tell her there is nothing more to discuss. You expect better ...
/r/askTRP22/08/14 01:34 PM
1

I feel for blue pill conditioned guys whom their wives want to assume/retake leadership roles in the relationship. They are really clueless as to the change expected - they are unaware. Been there. I thought it was GREAT that my "partner" was the kind of woman whom I could rely upon to take care of those decisions that really did not matter to me - where/what we ate, vacations, the color of this or that wall, etc. I felt that I had my hands full with work responsibilities and didn't really need …
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/14 12:42 PM
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I'm going to be a LITTLE BIT more kind than some previous posters: Thanks for the update. That's (a lot) more than we sometimes get from posters who don't even respond to comments in their posts. That said ... My first wife became pregnant while on the pill. I was not ready for kids. In RP Retrospect, it happened at a time when I was diverting my attention from her (princessness and needy attention seeking) to improving myself. She "forgot" three days in a row. Done deal. I had no more choice in…
/r/askTRP22/08/14 11:38 AM
2

I hate this thread! This gorgeous stripper told that she was feeling sick -- in the middle of her shift and asks me to give her a ride home. She gets in my Suburban and looks in the back and says, "It's really big back there." I reply, "Yes, it even has it's own heater." I just took her home. To make it worse, the next time I see her she says, "Do you still have that big truck?" I respond, "Yes."
/r/TheRedPill21/08/14 11:31 PM
2

This ... "I pursued him relentlessly ... I wanted what I wanted – I wanted him" was the apex of your desire and attraction for him. Everything that has happened since has detracted from - can't compare - to this/your highest level of desire for him. Crudely put, you lack the motivation to be attractED to him - If you "wanted what you wanted" you'd be (still) doing what you had to do to get him - just like you did then. It's his job to provide that motivation, but he has been "told" (socialized) …
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/14 03:56 AM
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This is not new shit. TRP is (literally) as old as recorded history ... and oral accounts before that! Read "Genesis" and all that stuff about Eve, Adam, Satan and the apple. Feminism is essentially the Apple II that dumb shit men bit into ... Again!
/r/TheRedPill21/08/14 02:51 AM
3

My theropist says I should block out this tread.
/r/TheRedPill21/08/14 02:27 AM
2

"(Wife's name), you will not be going."
/r/TheRedPill21/08/14 12:42 AM
5

No "attractive" 60 yo with enough money for her tastes will have the time of day for her. They STILL can get hotter and younger -- WITHOUT her attitude, to boot.
/r/TheRedPill20/08/14 06:19 PM
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Physically, she is attractive. Her demeanor makes her totally unattractive - a net "O". After publishing an article like this ... It's cats for her. ETA: And now, after reading some of her other ... hamster shit , she knows it.
/r/TheRedPill20/08/14 10:01 AM
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I've read similar posts on women's trips to Vegas and RP/Manosphere opinions on trust and litmus tests for ultimate female quality. I'll stick with my original opinion that it's the Man's job to define boundaries and behavioral expectations of women. Truth be told, Adam stood by like a dumb fuck and WATCHED Eve take a bite out of that apple. (Read the Scriptures - the original "TRP!") It's a millennium later and we are still are debating whether Men should "trust women." Ten years ago I reacted …
/r/TheRedPill20/08/14 09:42 AM
1

You came along as an alternate to her BF. He had probably dumped her. You were her rebound/interim/"I'll show him" fuck. She talked him back into seeing her again. That is what was happening when she was feeling/seeming off (thus, "Im sorry I reconnected with a guy [her ex BF] who asked me not to see anyone else and Ive decided to honor his wishes [I'm back with him now]. She only wanted a no-complications revenge fuck. You were it. Sorry. Move on. Her tits are not unique. There are more that ar…
/r/askTRP20/08/14 09:08 AM
1

Will do. Thanks.
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/14 11:52 PM
2

Welcome. You are in good hands here. We will have you fixed up in no time. It could be considered a ST in that she dumped emo all over you. You passed since you cooly (I hope) held your calm frame. Ignore all her static about cheating or ... (kind of) agree and twist it back on her ... ... If you want to engage her hamster, which I would not recommend - you could say that the book you are reading is to help you be more like HER Heros in the woman's romance novels SHE has (most likely) read - the…
/r/askTRP19/08/14 09:06 PM
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There's an app for that. People use it to get called out of meetings they don't want to attend. If you can't find the app just set your phone alarm to hit you with a reminder that you have to pick up a friend in 20 mins.
/r/askTRP19/08/14 02:43 AM
3

You forgot the part about the cats.
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/14 02:32 AM
1

Wait ... that was my "Phase 4" (TM) ultimatum to my wife, and I thought I was being original ... or did I post that I told her that somewhere ... Hmmmm...? (BTW: It worked. The 21 year marriage has never been better and I wouldn't exactly call her a "sub.")
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/14 02:30 AM
2

You didn't "get" my (dry) humor.
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/14 11:05 PM
5

My impression of older woman keeping longer hair is that atleast they are trying to be attractive, which means they probably haven't resigned themselves to being "old," which means they are (probably) hotter than a woman who thinks of herself as old. A little side note: I think I have noticed that modern chemistry has created some pretty amazing hair products which allow older woman to have nearly (exactly?) the same looking hair as younger women.
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/14 09:26 PM
1

I used to think short was hot - on some women - even on my wife. Just to reestablish dominance with her (and to get her back to being sexual again) I pushed her to not cut it - trims only. We went through all the hamstering: Pony tail headaches, "the curls go straight when it gets too long," "you're laying on my hair," yada. We are almost through the heat of August and she is now proud of how nice she looks. (I think people have complimented her on her hair.) Additionally, most women have long/l…
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/14 09:03 PM
2

20 miles? It depends where you live. In the Midwest 20 miles gets you where you need to go - or a good bike ride. On the east coast it might come off as desperate or an elevation of her to platform status.
/r/askTRP18/08/14 12:16 AM
1

Obviously he was White Knighting her.
/r/TheRedPill17/08/14 09:01 PM
1

Good move - removing the MMSL link. While I can "see" AK's logic with embracing women in an effort to help men, my experience over there is that the forum just (for a lack of a better word) "confuses" women - until they get to the point that they are willing to pay for the coaching ... Then/in the meantime, they linger on the forum waiting to aggressively swarm upon the arrival of beta men or "abused" women - with "abuse" ranging from husbands who have neglected their low T, to husbands in denia…
/r/TheRedPill17/08/14 03:53 PM
2

"Serenity is a raging alpha bitch." The "alpha" is a typo - I hope! There are/were some genuinely helpful and well intentioned women on the site. Some have unique meaningful insights and ideas. BUT, they get intimidated or run off by the bitches, and sometimes by the simple vibe of a discussion. Apparently a lot "happens" in the PM Zone - which AK now admits he monitors. There's a discussion over there about that somewhere. Now, you can pay for different levels of membership, which gives you acc…
/r/TheRedPill17/08/14 02:12 PM
1

"If I were getting laid that much, there would be no need to do any research at all on how to get laid more." Just for the record, he said he did the research so that he could cheat.
/r/TheRedPill17/08/14 01:21 PM
5

No Alpha Men in sight to reign them in because when you try you get banned. It's been "scientifically" proven and documented. If you tag one of the chosen one's bull shit they tell on you and you get banned.
/r/TheRedPill17/08/14 01:14 PM
1

Re: $ellout * If you read the "Story Arc And Timeline" in the site banner, he openly volunteers that he is a sellout ... from the BEGINNING! "2009 At this point there was no MMSL. Athol discovered that he could cross over pickup artist advice to married men and they started getting more sex in their marriages. He also figured out he could cross over standard marriage advice to pickup artists to help them create long term relationships, but the pickup guys didn’t want to listen and were broke. So…
/r/TheRedPill17/08/14 12:59 PM
1

Totally agree. There is nowhere to go from the friend zone but up. You can't lose anything by becoming "inappropriate" (or any shaming term she may hamster). If you can hold frame you MIGHT score. Even if it doesn't "work" you still lose the aggravation ... of her ... using you.
/r/askTRP16/08/14 04:19 AM
-2

Respond: "Hey ... [wrong name] ... I'll be at XYZ Bar at PDQ time. Stop by and I'll let you buy me few so you can take advantage of me again."
/r/askTRP16/08/14 02:09 AM
3

"Honey, you only get to go to heaven once. She must not have made it all the way the first time. But you have been right here with me in heaven since our wedding."
/r/askTRP14/08/14 06:22 PM
2

"My main goal is to be a housewife ... blah, blah ... enough money ... blah ... learn to love him later." ** Honey, I find that about as attractive as a bad boob job on a stripper. Would you like to try that again? (Before I throw you back into the SMP.)
/r/TheRedPill14/08/14 05:26 PM
1

Yep, they sound like they were made in the same mold. Does she ever get the shivers when you touch her - especially when she is stressed or not in the mood yet? The abuse in her past has probably screwed up her self-esteem and given her little regard for the power of her looks - or even self-worth. It's similar to, but not the same as, when a pimp grinds a girl down to make her feel that she must be totally dependent on and responsive to him. Strippers can have similar self-image problems, regar…
/r/askTRP12/08/14 12:19 PM
1

Well, I sense that you are looking at this girl as LTR material - so I invested some time. LTR Game is modified from PUA Game. I've been reading and posting on various RP sites for three years. I started doing so to save my then 18 year marriage from the shitter - dead bed, weird stuff happening when we rarely had sex - even no sex on our Wedding Anniversary two years in a row! She is a "nice person," (her words), an AOS girl. But I went beta provider and psychologically abusive Alpha (much like…
/r/askTRP12/08/14 04:10 AM
2

She may play out/replay 'See I am a bad girl' scenes from her past. My wife did this early in our relationship. Ex: She never smoked, but s/t when drinking with former friends she would smoke ... and look at me as if to say, "What are you going to do about it?" I chose to ignore it. She had to puke on the drive home anyway, so enough was "said." She would also get flirty at reunions with ex-loser, bad boy, Alpha, BFs. She still hopped into my 80K sports car for the ride home. Now in my current d…
/r/askTRP12/08/14 03:33 AM
1

Read this and all related links: http://marriedmansexlife.com/2014/05/why-being-too-beta-damages-relationship-comfort/
/r/askTRP12/08/14 02:30 AM
3

She's decided to go further with you. Push her but don't be needy - just aggressive. If she stops you (I'd be surprised, but ... ) remain unphased. Immediately cool the situation down and withdraw. "You promised to meet a friend if you had the time."
/r/askTRP12/08/14 02:17 AM
2

She sounds like my wife of 21 years. If so, you have a keeper - believe me. IMO/IME, the "not ready yet" and naked thing is 'I'm not ready to trust you enough to feel comfortable with you - or anyone, for that matter.' Can you blame her? Be warned, however, it's both a call for assurances of security ("feeling close to you" - my wife's words) AND a Shit Test to see if you will SAY something (stupid) like 'You are my one and only.' DONT say that or anything like it. Obviously, she wants the heat …
/r/askTRP12/08/14 01:48 AM
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It's easily thought women do the "let's be friends now" thing as an attempt to ease their conscience about behaving so badly. It's deeper than that. She wants her social circle to see her as better than the slut and cheat that she was during your relationship. "See, it was alright - If he forgave me and we are now friends, it really was no big deal that I behaved badly." NEVER give a badly behaving women that break or social redemption. The best thing that you can for yourself and the Manosphere…
/r/TheRedPill10/08/14 04:42 PM
2

Good post ... I assume from a woman's perspective?? Thank you. I'd add that a good fuck (fucker) is more about physicality than dick size. The woman primely wants (needs) to feel the dominating physical strength and hardness of the man. She needs to feel his static muscular definition - shape and mass - as well as it's resulting dynamic force and potential force. At certain points (or at least on occasion) human fucking is somewhat a mock fight where the woman wants assurance that she would assu…
/r/askTRP10/08/14 01:43 AM
2

The "pattern" is that if he is out of shape (in the post diaper stage), so is she. (Women tend to calibrate to their mates - UNTIL they decide to check out. The whole business of her advertising about the "open marriage" at some time in the future says that she's not ready to competitively reenter the SMP at this time. She probably still got some of that mommy fat. Yep, OP was given a gift and he probably has some time to get his Alpha on - and I'm not talking about "tricks."
/r/askTRP10/08/14 01:23 AM
2

Well, at least she's not trying to say, "Love me as I am (was)" - she's somewhat aware that attraction counts. But personally, I don't like implants. YMMV.
/r/askTRP09/08/14 12:15 PM
1

You did well - for yourself and the rest of us. If she's really interested in you she'll get in contact again - she'll miss you. I suspect she will. Otherwise, you don't need that entitlement shit. It will never end. If she does contact you again be sure not to back down on the equity thing or anything like it.
/r/askTRP09/08/14 02:42 AM
9

Ok, here I go again being the marriage saver. But first some questions: 1) What are we talking here with this "penis size" - a small dick, grower, what? 2) I assume you have kids - with the diaper sale thing. Correct? Frequently discontent women of betaized men get together and talk this very kind of shit. The group becomes toxic towards all of their husbands - as they almost try to outdo one another in talking smack about their husbands, shitty sex and covert plans. Its genuinely toxic and freq…
/r/askTRP09/08/14 01:43 AM
1

My wife is loving being caught again. In fact, I occasionally "throw her back" to catch her again. Just for the heck of it I've tried using different nets. She seems to prefer the original - which happens to be my being a cocky asshole and talking about "the girls" (both real and fictional) who like me. (NOT a recommended tactic, BTW.) The guys in our social group can't believe I get away with this shit AND that she actually BRAGS about my stories with "The Girls."
/r/TheRedPill08/08/14 09:54 PM
3

9 1/2 Weeks 9½ Weeks is an 1986 erotic romantic drama film directed by Adrian Lyne and starring Kim Basinger and Mickey Rourke [before he self-destructed]. It is based on the memoir of the same name by Elizabeth McNeill, about a New York City art gallery employee who has a brief, yet intense affair [understatement] with a mysterious Wall Street broker [PUA].
/r/askTRP08/08/14 01:22 PM
1

Enjoy the beer and fucks. Make sure YOU use BC protection - and keep her away from the condoms!
/r/askTRP08/08/14 01:10 PM
4

Maybe she's a hooker.
/r/askTRP08/08/14 12:13 PM
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It was a BIG mistake to call. I don't know/doubt if you can/will get another shot at her. If there is ANY chance, its by strictly applying Radio Silence. If she texts or calls, you better damn well observe the 2:3 rule. And a reminder, Game is not just for making the catch. It still applies after the initial interactions and even into a LTR. It's a way of life. Apparently, you went all ga-ga on this girl and she got creeped out.
/r/askTRP08/08/14 12:11 PM
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I had a plate just like this once. The best result I, initially, got was to give her less attention and start seeing other women. After she realized she was a plate, then she fucked. Ultimately though, she wasn't worth it and the sex was mediocre.
/r/askTRP08/08/14 12:00 PM
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I attended a Christian (Catholic) seminar recently where the presentor actually said that Genesis should not be taken literally. There was discussion that Scripture was written for the understanding of those reading it at the time that it was written. And, we come to better know more of of the meaning of Scrpture as we evolve intellectually. I've also attended these seminars where discussion of sex and marriage was "trending" towards some pretty Red Pill thinking. I was pleasently surprised. To …
/r/askTRP08/08/14 10:25 AM
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Regarding the "threshold" ... There is a process "out there" of "Phases" of improvement (described in MMSL). In brief, you get your shit together/back together - for however long it takes. When you get to the point where you are sure that you are genunily attractive and absolutely mentally ready to accept the possible consequences of a failed ultimatum to the SO, you do make your intensions known. You declare an ultimatum. That declaration usually includes a time period for response during which…
/r/TheRedPill08/08/14 09:47 AM
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Excellent! I would caution, however, that most men not discuss TRP or what they are about with their SO, XO, etc. It is risky and nearly impossible to reverse if it goes badly - much like a fisherman discussing net design with a fish. It only works if the fish wants to be caught. BPP is an exception and, yes, being practicing Christians was probably a factor with his success, especially in being able to have conversations about RP with his XO. Scripture is a lot more Red Pill than most people re…
/r/TheRedPill08/08/14 09:09 AM
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It IS obserdly obvious ... as is an eye-puzzle with a hidden image. As soon as someone points out the hidden image it glares at you and that is all you see. RP (actually the Manosphere) is the "someone" pointing out the hidden image. "It" - RP - is not a "method," it's a clarifier, a filter, an exorcist of propaganda, ... It is said that feminism and the feminine matrix are/were the ones obsticating the "hidden" image. That could be true and it is consistent with the female nature - "Here Adam, …
/r/TheRedPill08/08/14 01:29 AM
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You don't/can't "deserve" anything you have disrespected (DLVed) yourself into losing. In RP thinking, it's similar to a Land Whale saying, "I deserve to be considered attractive for who I am." I WILL agree with your point about killing yourself (making yourself unhappy) in the process of trying to make money (or do whatever) to please her. At some point a Man must draw the line at who he is, and what he is going to do. Not doing this is simply failing the "What are you gunna do for me" Shit Tes…
/r/TheRedPill08/08/14 12:38 AM
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Don't EVER say that to your wife - even to gain her "understanding."
/r/TheRedPill08/08/14 12:03 AM
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You don't/can't "deserve" anything you have disrespected (DLVed) yourself into losing. In RP thinking it's similar to a Land Whale saying, "I deserve to be considered attractive for who I am."
/r/TheRedPill07/08/14 11:58 PM
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Working optimistically from the premise that women are in love with the idea of the relationship, but not in love with the man or marriage, I can see it that she's hanging in there for the kids. (My w did that during the time I fell into betaization.) Your value in this is that you take care of the kids and cover the domestic chores when she can't. You also provide curb appeal for the relationship. If she has a traditional conservative upbringing and past, she may be determined to preserve the "…
/r/askTRP07/08/14 01:22 PM
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"Frame is all I have right now" * What is this - What do you bring to the relationship? "Daddy" to the kids? Auto repair? Lawn mowing? Chore game? What? There has to be/will NEED to be something. Or else, DG comes off as only a bluff, ie - in her mind, "Who would want you?" Seriously..! Married guys can effectively play DG in the "Capt Jack Sparrow" mode of (attractive) "crazy" unpredictability. BUT, you still have to be seen/proven as desirable by women seeking a Man. What is your selling point…
/r/askTRP07/08/14 04:10 AM
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It's a subconscious thing - similar to "why do women fatten their husbands to the point of being unattractive." Some/those mothers who raise their sons to be betas (subconsciously) don't want to lose their sons to women. So, they "make" their sons unattractive betas so they are not ultimately desirable to other women.
/r/askTRP07/08/14 03:22 AM
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You are doing well with your improvement plan. Congratulations! Yeah, changing the PW = BIG mistake. Only a cheating-guilty guy would do that. LTR Dread Game is different than Single DG. In LTR DG you want her to know that you are attractive to other women ... As in, "I can't help it if they are all over me, but know Honey, I'm choosing YOU!" You CAN'T (actually) cross the Complicit Line of participating in other women's desire for you - real, fictional or wife-hamstered. If you do, you DLV your…
/r/askTRP06/08/14 11:25 PM
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What women have done is not consistent with that. "Don't pay attention to what women say, only to what they do." Fogedabotit.
/r/TheRedPill06/08/14 04:05 PM
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I could take a cynical view and say that "a cock" vs "you make it complicated" means 'this relationship is turning out to be more than I want to deal with just to get a cock in me.' If (you think) that is her meaning, or even if you want to take preemptive action just incase, yes, I'd go with Dread Game, or even implied DG, combined with a smidge of anti-Shit Test humor - Say: "Anitabadcock, or for that matter, ANY of my harem women, never, ever say that to me." (See http://www.feministstripper.…
/r/askTRP06/08/14 03:05 PM
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"Under construction, eh? I'm fine with alternate routes & detours. Even taking a dirt road can be fun for a change. I'll see you at ____ ." It's very important that "training" be a part of new relationships. Your needs as a Man can't be stopped anymore than her needs as a women.
/r/askTRP06/08/14 08:54 AM
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"Most women want to please the man they are into. But it is the PROCESS of attracting and pleasing the Man that is exciting and pleasing to THEM. When a man puts a woman on a pedistal it is annoying and frustrating for her because it deprives her of the opportunity (as "Barbie" put it) to "work for it." *Author, author! .... * (Oh, that was me!)
/r/AlreadyRed06/08/14 08:33 AM
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She's saying that you are too concerned about her when you fuck. It's distracting/annoying to many women when the man is always trying to be considerate of the woman, make her cum or enjoy herself. (It's as much a turnoff as a beta trying to please by being nice and/or playing Chore Game to win attraction/approval.) Response: "It's complicated because you have too many clothes on." Pull off her pants, firmly position her, mount her and fuck her hard. NO lovey dovey kissing, etc. Don't worry abou…
/r/askTRP06/08/14 08:26 AM
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It sounds like she is in a holding pattern (probably mindlessly) waiting for something or someone to "happen." It could be some guy who gets/gives her attention that she has an affair with, or YOU could be that guy she would have an affair with. It's kind of a race to see which one "just happens." I disagree that you are typecast. Guys (like me) in 15-20 year marriages certainly could be labeled as typecast, but many of us HAVE completely turned the relationship on its head - by becoming the guy…
/r/askTRP06/08/14 12:20 AM
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Great. Now, get yourself "respectable." Get a good job or be getting training/education for one. Women WILL tolerate potential as long as they see you are making progress towards a defined goal. Define the goal for her (once only) and show by your ACTIONS that you are moving towards it. STFU and move on it!
/r/askTRP05/08/14 03:04 PM
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(It seems) you are understanding. You need to be the Leader with his shit together.
/r/askTRP05/08/14 02:58 PM
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Blowjob on knees (to completion if you wish), followed by doggie or anal. Walk away. No basking in the afterglow.
/r/askTRP05/08/14 02:41 PM
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I went back to college at 30+! (For my Masters & was a TA.) "Field Day" is an understatement, and I was only using DIY/self-realized Red Pill knowledge. With the RP resources that are available now? - Shit it would be like shooting fish in a barrel. Wish I were you! Enjoy!!
/r/askTRP04/08/14 02:42 AM
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Agree - If, if, if ... you are wanting to move this to an LTR. But, even in a marriage, one should occasionally play the delay text game - as well as others.
/r/askTRP04/08/14 02:27 AM
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I just was driving by two lovers making out on the street and it reminded me of this post. "GET A ROOM!"
/r/askTRP04/08/14 12:28 AM
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Yeah, the car thing does have its limitations - and it doesn't say much about your "value" if that is the best you can do or the most resourceful/creative you can be. How about you BOTH make contributions for a motel room? Or, you could go camping for a weekend.
/r/askTRP03/08/14 01:00 PM
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Her: "I'm gonna have to teach you how to treat me." You: "Now that you mention it, I hear '50 Shades' the movie is coming out."
/r/TheRedPill01/08/14 04:56 PM
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Here is a simple way to explain it: Have you ever seen early pubescent girls parading down the street or in a mall - looking to see who's looking at them? That's an early female sexual validation seeking behavior. They are seeking "validation" that their appearance is "working." It escalates (somewhat) from there all the way through their time as moms when they post pictures of their kids on Facebook - and BEYOND! Generally, women overtly seek and NEED EXTERNAL validation, while we rarely see me…
/r/askTRP01/08/14 02:42 AM
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Text back: "Now that you mention it, I wouldn't mind seeing you on your knees naked."
/r/askTRP01/08/14 01:08 AM
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I agree with the article - from experience and observation. (Always) Think about RP concepts in evo-bio-psyco terms and they make sense. Run the sequence of what a cave woman would need in terms of dynamic Alpha or Beta qualities from a cave Man. Her "need" in the relationship is constantly changing. The most "attractive" male will be the one with the Alpha and/or beta qualities most closely matching her need at that time. Thus, LTR Game is MUCH harder than PUA Game (also stated as "Marriage Suc…
/r/askTRP31/07/14 05:41 PM
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Read: "Why Being Asshole Alpha Works For About Six Months" over at MMSL. http://marriedmansexlife.com/2014/07/why-being-asshole-alpha-works-for-about-six-months/
/r/askTRP31/07/14 01:48 PM
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I said its up to you. Im free at x time on saturday then said i gotta go to work. This shows weakness. You should have told/reiterated what you want her to do - break it off with him and then we will talk. She then started telliing to me on whats app because she said he checks her phone or some shit and we should hang out at the time i set. She's cheating on him with you. She'll do the same with you and some other guy. That's the caliber of women she is. Plate her or end it.
/r/askTRP31/07/14 06:47 AM
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It's good to see you now replying. Your clarification and expansion helps on some things. I think you are confusing Dominance with BDSM, and probably have the wrong idea. I would suggest you do a search for the book, "The Sex God Method." You can find it on the internet as a free .pdf. Get it and read it. It is not going to DIRECTLY apply to where you are right now with this particular girl (because she is already too much in control of the sex). But, if you "next" or "plate" her, it will give y…
/r/askTRP31/07/14 06:09 AM
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I would NOT recommend you marrying this girl w/o knowing that sex with her is DEFINITLY going to be good - as evidenced by multiple times of having sex. Period. Between marriages, I had bad sex with far too many (sometimes virgin) 20-something's to learn that there is a difference and danger. I would suggest that you become much more confident and hot in your making out and push her over the edge to have sex - without prior discussion. If she DEFINITLY resists or gives you a HARD "No" end the se…
/r/askTRP30/07/14 01:48 PM
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"I'm a red blooded, healthy, hetero sexual Man. That's what I do. Be thankful, I hear that some woman discover that their husbands have been checking out men for years."
/r/askTRP30/07/14 01:26 PM
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Re: "decided to seek beta bucks elsewhere" Be prepared for her to return for at least one encore. Don't fuck around, just fuck her hard again. (BTW, her GF was jealous.)
/r/TheRedPill28/07/14 06:02 PM
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Finally the Calvary arrives! A good part of the battle is NOT listening to people tell you how old you should be - ACTING! - especially your SO or wife. Stay away from men & women who like to talk about how old they are and their aches and pains. LAUGH at anyone who tells you, "You really should hang with people your own age." (I'll be spending plenty of time with THEM when I'm dead!)
/r/TheRedPill28/07/14 04:15 PM
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Find / look for her flaws. Focus on them in your mind as 'something that really bothers you.' This will help you see her as less than "out of your league." Neg / tease her about one.
/r/askTRP28/07/14 03:46 PM
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Depends on your genetics and fitness. The Men in my family tend to retain their sex drives and drive for Life in general up to (literally) the day they die.
/r/TheRedPill28/07/14 02:16 AM
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Re: "What I'm wondering is if, as testosterone levels drop and menopause kicks in..." This sounds like you have an (innaccurate) notion that you feel victim to some inevitabily of a decline in your ability to partake in and enjoy sex. "No" is the answer. I've read of one spouse or the other as young as 45 years old thinking that they were at some natural point of decline in their sex lives. I'm here to say, "That's Bull Shit!" CAVEAT: Fitness training and/or medications may be necessary. More in…
/r/TheRedPill27/07/14 11:32 PM
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Yep, better get reading. You can skip (most of) the "Frame" parts and just flip to the smut. (That's what my wife does. I initially thought she was the worlds fastest reader when I followed her on our synced Kindle apps. Then I realized what was going on as she slowed down and re-read "certain" sections.)
/r/TheRedPill25/07/14 03:54 PM
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"... Consider the success of 50 Shades of Grey. The basic synopsis is that a powerful, rich, alpha man completely lusts and forcefully dominates a perfectly boring average woman. You'd think this banal concept would only sell to a fringe that gets off on this kink, but the book sold 70 million copies... Women want to be taken by force by a high value man." Women want "an offer they can't refuse." A Man must, however, have the "resources" (SMV) to make that offer and have the "cred" (Frame) that …
/r/TheRedPill25/07/14 03:44 PM
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She wants to keep you as an orbiter - an option. The "walls" thing means that you have not quite pushed her buttons - yet. She needs much more Alpha From you - INCLUDING your not giving a shit! Go with it. Add her to YOUR plate collection. But, the LDR really is not worth your concerning yourself too much her. Just text back, "Sure, text me when you will be in town again." Nothing more. It really does not have to make sense. In the meantime, work on getting rid of your apparent oneitis for her. …
/r/askTRP25/07/14 01:24 PM
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I agree ... kind of. A lot of women don't admit that they have read the books. And, when/if they do discuss them with other women, they bash them for being poorly written, etc. Then they go on to talk about the next volume in the series and whether they will be reading it. (Of course they will!) I've overhead this a couple of times while sitting near the mom's at kids baseball games. Being Red Pill, it's hard for me not to laugh out loud. The sad part is that none of these moms THINK will ever m…
/r/TheRedPill25/07/14 12:29 PM
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Your problem is that, like so many other men, you were never raised to be a Man. Your angst is that you have to UNLEARN being a beta - you have to get past all the cognitive dissonances that you are discovering now that you've taken the Red Pill. Being a Man, once you learn how, is great. All that angst in your wall of text won't matter to you once you do. Your woman will love you because ALL women lust for Real Men - AND there are (still) relatively few Real Men out there. Why would you, as a R…
/r/askTRP25/07/14 03:12 AM
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She/They DO want to be treated that way - (at least) all bazillion of them that read the books. But here's the catch . . . They want to be treated that way by THE GUY who has the FRAME of Christian Grey. (Not just any guy ... Or even the guy they love.) It's the Frame that they lust for. That's why the books are so long - much of what is there is to set, establish and reenforce that Grey is THAT man who they would WANT to submit to. Not just ANY man can be Christian Grey, and certainly not just …
/r/TheRedPill25/07/14 02:50 AM
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I'm going to take this a notch higher and say that (since she knew that OP did not want her to do this) she did it deliberately to have cause to breakup and get with her ride guy. Don't give her the satisfaction of breaking it off first. Just do it yourself NOW - cool and calm - no drama. Walk away as she melts down. You/we really don't need ("liberated") women continuing to think this behavior is acceptable in relationships.
/r/askTRP25/07/14 01:16 AM
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I intensionally did not indicate Dread Game. It often is taken the wrong way or too far by newbs. It can also be overused and then lose much potency for future effectiveness. In this case, boundaries (respect boundaries) need to be ATTEMPTED to be established first, along with some cage rattling. Yes, Dread is implied, but not as directly as it will be if she keeps being disrespectful.
/r/askTRP25/07/14 12:03 AM
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1 - She doesn't respect you and is too comfortable with your relationship. ** Don't have kids until you get this fixed. ** It IS fixable. 2 - You are going to have to calmly and decisively call her on the eye rolling, etc. (I'm speaking from experience.) You should give her a light comment the next time she does it. Something like, "You know, (her name), I have a "surprise" for you. It has always bothered me when I ask you nicely to do something and you XYZ. I feel disrespected when you do that.…
/r/askTRP24/07/14 06:34 PM
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DO NOT discuss RP with your fiancé / wife / SO. DO NOT discuss MMSL .... DO NOT discuss RP or MMSL with her or mutual friends. A fishermen DOES NOT discuss the kind of bait the fish prefers with the fish. I am (now) happily married - 21 years - three kids. I've been reading / doing RP and related for three years. I've read MMSL stuff as well. You can check it out if you want, but primary source information is HERE and on similar sites. Continue reading, digesting, internalizing and implementing.…
/r/askTRP24/07/14 01:29 PM
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Re: Yes, I told Justin about the cheating. I sat him down and told him everything, from the nagging “what if” to the act itself. Oh you did. Well back to the cock carousel then, because no self respecting man would ever It's not so much Justin's self-respect that is the toxin in this. It's the girls disposition and view of him that she can "sit him down" to impose her hamster on him. She does not respect him. She wears the pants in the relationship. Ultimately, the relationship will be over. Als…
/r/TheRedPill23/07/14 03:04 PM
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It's not obvious. Further, the OPs intent, meaning and the integrity of his writing is made nebulous by other grammatical errors and plan old bull shit that he is using to make his point. His end goal is valid and nobel, but he is trying to sell it with dramatic appeal and crap - aka, "pulling it out of his ass." PUA tactics should be reserved for picking up chicks, selling cars and the like.
/r/TheRedPill23/07/14 01:33 PM
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"daycare for the labor force." You are 100% correct. In most metro areas, God forbid that school might have to be cancelled for a day. The parents call administration complaining that they have no daycare for their kids. During summer months schools are pressured to run summer programs for the same reason - daycare. But, it IS because of the contempory composition of the labor force that schools are being looked to to do more and more of what that labor force (parents) used to do when both WERE …
/r/TheRedPill23/07/14 11:29 AM
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The OP's reference was to "bottom third of their college graduating class" - "college" - not high school class ranking. I could go on about definitions of "intelligence" in general and issues with standard tests, but to the point, the problems in schools is NOT the "intelligence" or efficacy of the teachers. The problem is that teachers, and the schools themselves, are being expected to do - blamed for not doing - whatever it is that is that someone thinks is lacking. Schools are being looked to…
/r/TheRedPill23/07/14 11:04 AM
1

There is a difference between a typo and bad grammar.
/r/TheRedPill23/07/14 09:57 AM
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Incorrect. The idealistic crusaders are filtered out because of, as noted above, Political Correctness. Passion is uncomfortable to many students and teaching collegues, and as such, politically incorrect. If you show passion for teaching, administration fears that you may step on PC toes. You are shown the door. Yes, those who are left are the (dispassionate) "professionals" who will make it to retirement - pension.
/r/TheRedPill23/07/14 02:10 AM
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Understand (because I'm a teacher) I know where you are trying to go and I'm sympathetic to your message, but you really don't want to piss off those who SPECIALIZE in getting information delivered and can help the cause - teachers. BTW Re: "She’s a strong independent woman who don’t need no man, so her child is just going to have to do without a father." - Unless you are deliberately mocking the dialect of the "strong and independany woman" (in which case you should use quotes), you should use …
/r/TheRedPill23/07/14 01:41 AM
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I'd like some sources and more "critical thinking" analysis on this as well, such as ... Are teaches really "less intelligent," or is it some other factor in the GPA calculations for ranking that makes them (us) appear less intelligent. Personally, my GPA ranking couldn't have been any higher. Beyond any of this, teachers REALLY don't need this shit at this time! !!
/r/TheRedPill23/07/14 12:49 AM
1

I love the description, "chore play." That's a RP terminology keeper for the glossary.
/r/TheRedPill22/07/14 11:55 AM
1

I would have never written that until of late. I've been reading a lot of RP stuff for about three years now. I agree with you that usually if a guy gets his Game together he can get/keep things going. But, I've PMed with guys to try to help them and read some things where (it seems) their wives have simply been digging in their heels since the start of the relationship, or worse, DAMNED to change back - even for Christian Grey. I'm not talking about the Bait & Switchers. I AM saying to guys to …
/r/TheRedPill22/07/14 11:52 AM
1

It reminds me of little kids dialogue: "I could do that if I wanted to, but I don't want to. So there!" Some women just DON'T WANT ongoing intimate sexual relationships with their husbands. (Do I dare say "some" women on this subject and sub?) Then it comes down to mate selection. A RP-Aware Man needs to discern early in the relationship if the woman is sexually low-drive (LL). If she is, show her the door before kids get in the picture.
/r/TheRedPill21/07/14 04:52 PM
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Agree. GTF-off FB. The LESS people (women) know about what you are doing the better. Stop getting sucked into the female-frame game of bf/gf. They love it if they can guilt you into it because it allows them to get lazy - and give you bargan basement sex, to boot. If YOU decide/agree to go exclusive, that's one thing. If not, MAXIMIZE the ride of women competing for you.
/r/TheRedPill20/07/14 03:40 AM
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Re: "She will always have those uber-beta moments of the past burned in her brain and his self-improvement efforts will be viewed as just a different form of beta begging/desperate/pleading for sex from her. (and this is the problem I have with some of the stuff I've read over at MMSL)" Setting aside the SS fuckup (I think it's more a fuckup than beta), are you disagreeing with MMSL that LTRs need to be a dynamically changing combination of Alpha and beta?
/r/TheRedPill19/07/14 05:22 PM
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"I blame this guy ... " From an informed RP perspective, sure, he's guilty. HE should have known better. BUT what has been bothering me is, HOW should he have known better? I mean, according to most of the world, TRP sucks and is bullshit, right? How about those wedding vows - "To have and to hold ... ?" Should he have been told at the Men's Club that has been invaded by women? Maybe by his dad? Well, Dad wasn't around because the feminists told his mother in sooo many ways that she didn't need …
/r/TheRedPill19/07/14 01:24 PM
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I was asking Summertime_Dimes if he "poled" that question in the process of his questions to women. But I agree, if women feel no obligation for sex unless THEY feel like it, in today's world there is no sense in being married. The beauty of this is, women screwed themselves by trying to make "marriage" a better deal for themselves. Now (more and more) Men don't want to have anything to do with marriage OR women. Now SOME women are seeing how they were screwed by their feminist "sisters" and the…
/r/TheRedPill19/07/14 01:04 PM
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On the subject of eating/being fed: Women are also socially programmed to believe (for example), "A way to a man's heart is through his stomach." And, in their primal brain women are programmed to keep their man away from other women. Feeding him until he is unattractive is one way to (unconsciously) do this. Buying him 'married man' looking clothes is another. Assuring him, "Love will keep us together" pretty much makes him think he can sit on the couch and play video games - until they need to…
/r/TheRedPill19/07/14 04:53 AM
1

It could very well be something as "simple" as they both like to eat lots of pizza. They both have fun eating pizza. Eventually they both get fat. BUT, she still wants the house and picket fence, so she "loves" him for being around to help PROVIDE that. However, he's fat and sexually unattractive and so is she. Her Disney brain tells her that they are married and in love, but her primal brain is saying he's unfit to breed with = He needs to get off, but "she" (her primal brain) doesn't see him a…
/r/TheRedPill19/07/14 02:42 AM
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You are getting some good advice below. I'm going to chime in here and say that my experience has been that woman can be MORE sexual than men. (Shit, I wished someone would have told me that when I was 19.) I've been with women who just wouldn't quit wanting sex - sex now, sex later, sex in the car, sex in the house. (Sounds like "Marvin K Mooney"). I've been with my wife for 21 years, had 3 kids. She's 14 years younger than I. I have NO idea what the 'declining male libito' talk is about! I've …
/r/TheRedPill19/07/14 02:04 AM
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Just curious, did you happen to ask if it would be ok with them (if they made their husband incel) if he got sex outside the marriage? (It's not a new idea - it (is?) was practiced amoung the upper class and wealthy for quite some time.)
/r/TheRedPill18/07/14 11:41 PM
1

That cuz this is every man's FANTASY (to grapicically illustrate what many woman regard as as 'normal' married sex life) and ALL women's nightmare (that he could be so "mean." Better shame ALL all their asses.)
/r/TheRedPill18/07/14 05:10 PM
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Her desperate efforts to 'make this work' (makeup sex) will be Epic! He should enjoy the ride THEN dump her.
/r/TheRedPill18/07/14 05:03 PM
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I think this guy has done a great job of graphically illustrating what "Bait & Switch" looks like. The institution of marriage and, now, divorce rape 'tells' women that it IS ok to bait and switch. "Our sex life has tapered in the last few months but isn't that allowed?" IF the woman did not have these contrivances of civilization she would have to rely on what nature gave her to keep her Man around.
/r/TheRedPill18/07/14 03:28 PM
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"Isn't it allowed to 'Bait & Switch?" <--- This is not the hamster speaking, this is RP Truth. The institution of marriage and, now, divorce rape 'tells' women that it IS ok to bait and switch. IF the woman did not have these contrivances of civilization she would have to rely on what nature gave her to keep her Man around.
/r/TheRedPill18/07/14 03:22 PM
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Well, creating/presenting a SS or tracking calendar, per se, is a bad idea. BUT, the timing, delivery, circumstances, response/lack of response and MESSAGE is OUTSTANDING! "Yeah Baby, this is how it feels. And yeah, when you try to call me to talk and I don't respond, it's just like when you say "No" the second, third, ... times." If he had the notion to create a spreadsheet, you can bet there is a history of similar denials. I'm beginning to conclude that some women conflate the whole "house an…
/r/TheRedPill18/07/14 02:57 PM
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I don't think she was really spying. I think she was just sitting there interested. When I hinted that she should leave she was ok with it, but kind of jokingly went around broadcasting it. So, I imagine she went to tell the women in the kitchen, who proceeded to all invade the area the men were in. I general, I think BOTH genders need to get a clue in certain situations and respect each other's spaces. Too often I hear, "I can be here if I want." But, that's another thread.
/r/TheRedPill18/07/14 12:31 PM
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I'll vote for Dread Game as well. But be careful .... Take a look over in TRP for a post entitled "My use of dread game in a LTR" by TAOofSTEVE. His performance is exemplary. There is good discussion there as well.
/r/askTRP18/07/14 01:10 AM
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Well ... Standard Operating Procedure in these LTR situations (with the female trying to get the male to be a Man) is to cut him off - no sex until he Mans up and starts getting his Man shit back together. The problem being that he is not taking you seriously and you need to get his attention. AND, it's a very truthful approach - he's really not doing it for you, so WTF, why "lie" and give him sex he doesn't deserve? It works chemically too because during/after sex the man's body gets flooded wi…
/r/askTRP17/07/14 08:06 PM
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Well, she knows cheating then. I find it interesting that she apparently has the artist lover throwing the beta emo fits and pedistizing the cheating wife. As I understand it, even Christian Grey (50 Shades) fans were turned off when he started going all mushy-beta at the end of Volume 3. Maybe she's trying dupe women into thinking that the guy they want to have an affair with wears his heart on his sleeve. I guess she doesn't have plans to write an "Addicted 2."
/r/TheRedPill17/07/14 05:40 PM
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Well there you go ... Even (especially!) with a "perfect life" and a hot husband, shits going to happen. Some things that come to mind from the clip: - Trust but verify - Never put her on a pedistal - NEVER! - Always keep her "working for it." Never profess 'Always and forever love.' - Be sure that you are not failing the "Work your ass off to provide (at the expense of your marriage) while she fucks around" shit test. Yeah, the artist dude's tantrums and emos are incongruent with a typical Alph…
/r/TheRedPill17/07/14 02:37 PM
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"Why is it happening ...? " - Because the contemporary institution of marriage and current divorce-rape laws, combined with feminists "Roar" cheerleading neutralize the woman's evo-biological motivation to do what it takes to work through the bumps of spending more than five years (one?) year with the same room mate. A woman's biological attraction for a Man (aka a "Woman's Love") PARTIALLY consists of her need for good sperm ... then companionship, security and protection - for herself and spaw…
/r/TheRedPill17/07/14 01:38 PM
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It depends on where you are on the spectrum from dating to LTR/marriage. On the LTR end, a Cad (and caddy behavior) is not very highly regarded by most women. Having high Preselection Value while remaining loyal (not flirting back) in the face of another women's flirting is impressive to a woman seeking a LTR. On the single end of the spectrum (just dating), your returning LIGHT flirtation can be a motivator to a single woman that she needs to step up her game. In either case, women are VERY fam…
/r/TheRedPill17/07/14 01:34 AM
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Correct, it's not "Dread Game, per se. It is, however, a good illustration of the power and significance of female "Preselection" - women's assessment of the Value of a Man based on what other women think of him. Further, a women's "Attraction" to a man is an ongoing cumulative sum total which INCLUDES her perception of his Preselection value. RP Lesson: Make sure you optimize opportunities for your SO to learn of/observe your Preselection value. If other women want you, she will too - more than…
/r/TheRedPill17/07/14 12:29 AM
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Please see discussions/links related to "Power Talk," mostly in Already Red.
/r/TheRedPill16/07/14 11:16 AM
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It's very easy and STUPID AS FUCK to "reveal" and/or have a SO discover that you have been reading, or otherwise coming to know about, Red Pill knowledge. It goes over as well with women, and is about attractive, as a toupee. I was at a wedding party the other night, sitting with a bunch of cigar smoking, (beta) guys who were bitching about their wives and their sex lives (Proudly doing "what all men do") INCLUDING the groom! (They had been living together for over a year. Sex was already in the…
/r/TheRedPill15/07/14 11:47 PM
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One thing that we (Men) get that is frequently overlooked is Preselection SMV points. Women go nuts for preselected Men and some women have a kink for married Men. (I can usually tell which ones they are at a couples gathering.) ALL women love competing with other women for the best men. I won't say I'd get married again in TODAY's SMP, but since I am pretty much "happily married" since I took the Red Pill, making Lemmon Vodka Martinis from lemmons has not been "So bad."
/r/TheRedPill15/07/14 08:31 PM
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Keeping guys unaware, shamed, contracted (married), whatever ... such that they couldn't/shouldn't fuck young women also allows women (wives) to become complacent (LAZY) in what they would/SHOULD be doing in their LTRs and marriages to keep them alive.
/r/TheRedPill15/07/14 06:16 PM
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"you'll be one more drop in the bucket of that nearly 50% divorce rate one day." [I believe is more like 55% now.] That is similar to what I told my wife of 20 years and three kids - after I had been working out and getting my shit (back) together for 2 years. Add one more year - as we are approaching or 21st Anniversary - OUR health, marriage and sex life has NEVER been better. Pity fucks are a thing of the past. ... RP concepts and lifestyle works. (And yes, my wife has noticed that 20-somethi…
/r/TheRedPill15/07/14 05:30 PM
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In short: "Shit Tests / Fitness Tests," as usually defined, test to see if the Man will maintain - "hold frame" - for all the characteristics of Alpha that are (initially) attractive to single (or "Alpha-interested") females. (See male protagonists in most Romance Novels or ... "Captain Jack Sparrow.") Alpha appeals to the female instinct because Alpha means good genes, strength, resourcefulness, etc. BUT, Alphas also tend to have ADD when other females are available or MAKE themselves available…
/r/TheRedPill15/07/14 04:52 PM
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I had a great uncle who, among other things, was a rum runner to speak-easies during the 20's depression. (He would meet boats off-shore at night and transport booze back to shore.) He was always the hit of any party he attended - with both the women and men. He could tell jokes, drink with the best, play cards, and dance with class. He was union tradesmen by profession, President of his union, and both a ladies man AND Mans man. As a child, I remember he and his wife BOTH had great times togeth…
/r/TheRedPill15/07/14 04:18 PM
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The "Whats wrong?" card (and what comes before it) is a Shit Test for creativity and leadership. She wants to know/see what you are going to/can do to break the funk. Passing the ST requires creativity and humor. "What's wrong?" I have things on my mind. "Like what." I'm considering becoming a monk. "Oh yeah?" Sex is always on my mind and I can't get enough of it. There's got to be something wrong with that. I figure I just need some personal discipline. (Silence ... ) So, it's been nice knowing…
/r/TheRedPill14/07/14 02:15 PM
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It looks like this ... http://www.aveleyman.com/ActorCredit.aspx?ActorID=15023 and ... the movie "Nine 1/2 Weeks" http://www.aveleyman.com/FilmCredit.aspx?FilmID=94 should be required viewing for any Man studying Game.
/r/TheRedPill14/07/14 02:02 PM
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"Why are you ignoring me?" Are you doing anything exciting that I should notice? Get naked and we'll talk. "Why are you changing the subject?" I'd prefer, instead, that we talk about getting naked. Honey, I've decided to start a harem with 26 girls. One for each letter of the alphabet. You get to be letter ____ . Overall, women "talk" this way to communicate their boredom. They are looking to you to be lead out of their funk. BUT, you need to have a positive / interesting frame into which to lea…
/r/askTRP14/07/14 01:37 PM
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See my post above. I'll add that (it seems) some women NEED Dread Game to snap their bean. My wife can go along for periods of time and be very platonic, but if she catches some other woman looking at me or if a woman says something complimentary about me while we are in public, she'll be DTF on the spot!
/r/TheRedPill13/07/14 10:20 PM
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That is a QUINTESSENTIAL example powerful Dread Game in a LTR. Yes, key in it was that you did NOT initiate flirting with the other woman and, better, you did not reciprocate flirting. The latter was the coup de grâce because it demonstrated loyalty. It's important that a Man optimize opportunities to show his woman that he is desired by other women. That's pretty standard fair in a non-LTR. But in an LTR a woman will also test for loyalty. In fact, I'll say that your woman has been loyalty test…
/r/TheRedPill13/07/14 10:08 PM
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I like this idea. I'd label the box . . . "Harem Lost & Found"
/r/askTRP13/07/14 03:42 PM
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Well done! Now see if you can not get oneitis.
/r/TheRedPill13/07/14 03:29 PM
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I'm going to throw out another consideration in this. As one poster noted below, she never used the word "love" in her post - anywhere. She's simply not attracted to him anymore and she's desperately at the Wall. He's probably worked himself into being overweight and possibly unhealthy. There's a good chance he looks like a heart attack waiting to happen. If - IF - such is the case, in addition to "teenage" issues pointed out, as well as normal hypergamy, there's a good chance that she's simply …
/r/TheRedPill12/07/14 02:00 PM
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I agree and that is what I intended to say. He doesn't have to follow through with a divorce, but he needs to make a statement that he is not going to let her rewrite what has been the long standing income arrangements in the relationship. As other posters have noted, they may have some catching up or possible downturns fiscally, anyway. Beyond that, he has busted his ass away from the home and (probably) somewhat alienated from his kids making a business work. If ANYTHING, she should keep her j…
/r/TheRedPill12/07/14 01:20 PM
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I smell an affair ... and a planned, unplanned or hopeful rendezvous on the trip. At the very least, she wants her last chance for a fling. And, she's just setting him up with a massive shit test for failure with her other unreasonable demands. She wants to escalate confrontation and conflict. He should hire a PI in the location she is going to - just incase he gets lucky. While she's gone he should go to an attorney and get divorce papers drawn up. Have them ready as a welcome home. Give her a …
/r/TheRedPill11/07/14 11:22 PM
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"Then shouldn't we be socializing platonically more with women in order to use them.for more social connects?" Would a fisherman ask a trout what it likes for bait?
/r/TheRedPill11/07/14 06:31 AM
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"Because a 20 dollar soap dispenser from Bed Bath & Beyond that matches the trim around your mirror without clashing with the tile surrounding the tub that you never use because you own a shower is totally better than just using the bottle that liquid soap comes in. My wife thinks so, anyway." and (like I do since I’m in the office 12+ hours a day)" WARNING, WARNING, Will Robinson! You are FAILING a massive and insidious MARITAL shit test. Part of your job as the Man in your marriage is to put t…
/r/TheRedPill11/07/14 06:26 AM
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It's called a "rhetorical question."
/r/TheRedPill11/07/14 05:09 AM
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I think we can assume they already feel like shit about themselves. We need to help them ... I also think that history will show that the "food industry (and related)" is as culpable as (for example) the tobacco industry in self-interested practices. But - BUT! - as seen in those States that have gone smokeless in bars, restaurants, businesses, etc, making people "feel bad" MAKES A STATEMENT. Societily, we have gone so far with PC shit that we can't tell which end is up. I had a land whale at a …
/r/TheRedPill11/07/14 05:06 AM
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Subcover, what if you could take a pill that would make you forget about the leverage your wife, kids, (and the legal system) have over you? - or at least leave your wife thinking you had lost it. How does she REALLY feel about cats?
/r/TheRedPill11/07/14 04:33 AM
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If he has internalized Red Pill - is living RP - it doesn't matter that she found his history. Hopefully he just did the "right thing:" Put on his best Mickey-Rourke-in-his-prime smirk (http://www.aveleyman.com/ActorCredit.aspx?ActorID=15023), lifted an eyebrow and walked away in silence.
/r/TheRedPill11/07/14 01:37 AM
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Have you ever tried to tell a whale to eat right and work out? You might as well spit into the wind.
/r/TheRedPill11/07/14 12:53 AM
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Add me to the club roster. I went to a new martini bar here in town. BOTH of the female bartenders were not less than 350 lbs - EACH!! AND, they have that, "Yeah, I know I'm obnoxious" attitude. What is the owner (reportedly a female) thinking?!!! While I'm sure she is "right up there" with them" ... business is business ... It's a nice place and all, but ... I'll only going back to see if/when they are gone.
/r/TheRedPill11/07/14 12:51 AM
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Wait ... she doesn't like gray hair? In us primates, the male with the silver back is The Man to be with. Me thinks she's just a bitch that feels intimated by a REAL Man. Yep honey, you keep trying for those little boyfriends. Nature will take its course.
/r/TheRedPill10/07/14 07:04 PM
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Another quintessential illustration of AWALT: Your mate would have gotten a similar answer if he asked a trout what it prefers for bait.
/r/TheRedPill10/07/14 03:37 PM
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I can relate to the impact of the psychological benefits. When I look at older couples who are close in age I generally see a lack of vitality. The relationships seem "frumpy." They talk a lot about how old they are - swapping ailment and medication stories. Really?! Who has time for that? Illustrative Example: I went to a local bar (sans wife) and saw a H/W couple who were my wife's age. I know them/they know me. He's a local, successful small businessman. They are very well off financially. BU…
/r/TheRedPill09/07/14 03:43 PM
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I guess the old saying, "You're only as old as the women you feel" is true. I married a wonderful woman 14 years younger than myself. That was 21 years ago. Overall, the marriage has been great and has outlasted the marriages of all her friends. We hit some bumps about five years ago which, absent my finding the Manosphere and re-applying (lost) RP concepts, would have probably caused the marriage to end. In a nutshell, to marry and keep a younger woman you must know and live Game, which means y…
/r/TheRedPill09/07/14 02:38 PM
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It pisses me off #3, but no more so than a lot of RP reality. But, I don't think it is anymore a conscious reaction for her than a man getting a hard-on. Its a female sexual response. That's why I'm ignoring all those whining posts about morality. This is not an ethical question/situation. It has been a "sexual technique" problem for BOTH of them since day one. OP admits he was responsible - albeit due to not knowing/being told better. Wife is reportedly loving the kink that snaps her bean. Obvi…
/r/TheRedPill08/07/14 11:46 PM
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I'd probably do and advise the same.
/r/TheRedPill08/07/14 09:25 PM
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I'm totally with you and know exactly of what you speak. I do think you are going to have to deal with the OW as related to your marriage. It's going to take some thought as to how to do so and still retain what is currently working for you ... Field studies of lion prides have observed the lionesses of the most Alpha Male sneaking off and getting some in the bush from lessor betas and retired Alphas. The thinking is that possibly the sexual demands of the Alpha Male were too demanding. (Too muc…
/r/TheRedPill08/07/14 09:08 PM
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It's more than just having value as an Alpha (but he/anyone does have to have high SMV to pull this off.). Women are hardwired to secure, assure, keep and protect their relationship by pleasing their Alpha Man. The "relationship" (prior to institutionalized marriage and now divorce rape) included his providing protection, security, comfort, status and validation that she was a Woman. Women also compete with other interloping women in the same way - the chemicals released into man's brain while h…
/r/TheRedPill08/07/14 08:51 PM
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Its great to see that you know that her lack of "training" was your fault AND that you have been able to rehab the bedroom from its previous ice cream parlor state. I did the same thing at 20 years of marriage ... At 18 years her reaction to trying DOGGIE was, "That was awful." Now, at 20 years, she's ENTHUSIASTIC about it. Yes, the magic was ... "Dread," but I didn't take it "quite" as far as you, but far enough for her to know that I was crazy enough (like a fox) not to give a shit about divor…
/r/TheRedPill08/07/14 08:14 PM
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To the OP: What was the sex like before you were married? Did the sex (or marriage) change with the unexpected change in the financial situation? If so, how?
/r/TheRedPill08/07/14 07:16 PM
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There is no easy way for a woman who has been married for 15 years to become single - unless she really likes cats. You own this situation - with ONE caveat - she WILL try for revenge. Best sleep with one eye open.
/r/TheRedPill08/07/14 05:08 PM
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"Then last night wife and I fucked like we've never fucked before, and this morning too she wanted to do it again, a rare occurrence in our sex life, then she texted me that she loves me and she's looking forward to fuck again tonight." THIS, ladies and gentlemen, is why marriage SUCKS! She is now fucking like she has never done before because she wants to keep her man. THAT is what she was SUPPOSED to be doing all of the 15 years and what her primal brain is hardwired to do! If she had been doi…
/r/TheRedPill08/07/14 04:29 PM
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I think that strong mod action and member reactions/replies/sanctions serves as better "education" to new members than the selectivity of members or new member exclusion. The new membership has to learn by the observation, interaction and reactions of elder members - "naturally." Sure, banishment may be used as needed for the hard-headed, but I've seen forums loose all vitality, vigor and enthusiastic members (for the sake of keeping it on track) because moderation was too heavy handed. That MAY…
/r/AlreadyRed08/07/14 03:34 PM
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I loved BP's hair preen. That's what's so cool about TRP, once you know your stuff it's like having learned another language.
/r/TheRedPill08/07/14 01:45 PM
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Ok ... I just have to (reluctantly) share: In in the 15th year of my pre-Red Pill, nearly sexless, marriage I was stopped, arrested and jailed for OWI by an over-zealous, small town, rookie cop while I was driving home from (no less) than than a strip club. My wife had to leave work at 3 am (?) to get me out of jail in a town she had never been to. She drove me home while the sun was coming up. I did a full confession and thought the world (marriage) was going to end. Anything but ... (close bli…
/r/TheRedPill07/07/14 01:36 AM
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The (my) point is (IME) ... if you want people to want something, tell them: They can't afford it, they will have to earn it, it's exclusive, it's by invitation, it's for only a few people, it only happens if ... etc. It works on most people ALL the time (sic). But, it especially works with women because they ruthlessly compete with each other FOR THE ATTENTION AND VALIDATION OF MALES. If a you (or a group of males) include (validate) just ONE woman all the others will climb Mount Aetna to be th…
/r/TheRedPill05/07/14 11:46 PM
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Try to think like you are playing Three Dimensional Chess.
/r/TheRedPill05/07/14 11:24 PM
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After they ask - after the first Guys Only party - respond (on an individual, word of mouth) basis, "The guys decided at the last party to invite "ladies" on an invitation only basis, but you have to bring your own beverages if you don't want our beer." Then go to stone faced radio silence ... and ... wait for it ... "Well, how do I get an invitation?" (Be sure to order extra beer.)
/r/TheRedPill05/07/14 04:25 PM
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Promote the party as "Guys Only." When the women ask (and they will) why is it guys only say, 'We got tired of inviting the women and them not showing or being bitchy." Women feel compelled to invade male only spaces.
/r/TheRedPill05/07/14 02:12 PM
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In the most analytical sense, it's not the woman herself who is the drug. She is only the "Drug Dealer." It's the women who caused the drugs (hormones) Dopamine, Oxytocin, Vasopressin to be produced and used in your brain. Romantic "Love" is no more than being "hooked" on the chemical cocktail that the woman has caused your brain to produce. There are also pheromones in the picture. Without these drugs (and testosterone) the woman would have no importance to the man. When you are "in love" with …
/r/AlreadyRed05/07/14 12:51 PM
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That's an interesting take on the Alpha behavior signaling/suggesting a Real Alpha. But then, there are still the fitness/shit tests to pass. Re: "what we do see is women that spend their youth having sex with alphas, then later settling with betas. Majority of these women use contraceptives and avoid pregnancies, but speaking from a biological perspective, she is essentially getting pregnant with another man’s baby, then having you raise them." Are you saying that because these women got the Al…
/r/TheRedPill05/07/14 03:00 AM
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There's a lot more than "fathers" in this. There's also infiltration of women into what was traditionally exclusive men's "spaces" - clubs, lodges, teams, organizations, etc. - and now Men's websites! "Shaming" and sanctioning of men for acting like (old school) Men - including (sometimes) "sexual harassment" charges. Mandated gender "equal opportunity" in school sports, yada, yada. And now ... arbitrary domestic abuse or rape charges when/if a woman OR WIFE simply feels inclined to bring them.
/r/TheRedPill05/07/14 02:03 AM
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(Other) Guys, NEVER get drawn into a female instigated "fight over me" situation. It's MUCH different than a situation where/if you are mate guarding with a self-motivated interloper. In the fight over me situation she is putting herself on a pedestal - essentially determining which guy(s) is desperate enough to try for sex (or whatever) with her. Even if she does go with the "winner," in the long term she still views him as a desperate Loser who she could manipulate with her vagina. The winner …
/r/TheRedPill04/07/14 10:37 PM
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With an attitude like that she had better pray 98 other men ask her out.
/r/TheRedPill03/07/14 11:40 PM
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What is VERY significant about this post is that now Men are discussing how to choose among options. That kind of thinking, and more of that kind of thinking (abundance mentality with Men as "buyers"), will turn the SMP on its head, and rightly so - finally!
/r/TheRedPill03/07/14 05:58 PM
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Re: "blue posting ... " Pure Red doesn't (entirely) work in LTR's and marriages. Women are attracted to the Red ("the flame") for "tingles" but need the Blue as a salve (to sooth their burnt wings). In fact, in a Pure Red LTR woman will test for the blue if she is burning out because of too much Red. If she finds too little or no blue, she will seek out a beta (for a while). The PUA/Player/"Asshole" can afford to, and actually benefits from, showing the women the door. (It raises his value as "T…
/r/TheRedPill03/07/14 02:52 PM
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A very hot stripper friend of mine (who I had a thing for) once told me (about giving her tips) while doing a lap dance "Make me work for it." Most women want to please the man they are into. But it is the PROCESS of attracting and pleasing the Man that is exciting and pleasing to THEM. When a man puts a woman on a pedistal it is annoying and frustrating for her because it deprives her of the opportunity (as "Barbie" put it) to "work for it."
/r/TheRedPill03/07/14 04:29 AM
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I thought the parts saying, 'You bring the worst out in me' and 'I actually didn't like doing the things we did together' and 'you are actually boring' and 'but when we makeup we have great sex and feel in love' were perfect illustrations of Red Pill concepts of women's "responsive desire" and women's LTR "calibration" to the Man they are involved with, ie, "water takes the shape of its container." I'm pretty "old" compared to most people on this sub. Thinking back with 20-20 RP Hindsight, throu…
/r/TheRedPill02/07/14 03:04 PM
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Yeah, I used to debate with a bean counter type who worked for IBM all the time about "feeling," "peak experiences," etc. He always was challenging for data/evidence he could plot on a spreadsheet. Now that he is probably in the last years of his life, all he posts on FB are pictures of him and his grandchild. I guess he "got it" - finally.
/r/TheRedPill01/07/14 08:27 PM
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"Symon" (whom I suspect is actually Simone) re "I know what she thinks she wants, I know what that thing actually is (i.e. it doesn't exist the way she dreams of it existing)" It - Red Pill Reality - does exist. Recall, Red Pill is based on reality. It's not what should be, what we hope to be, or an ideal of what some think they have "evolved" to. Since it's REAL and not just in her imagination or some contrived notion of what she should be thinking, but in her bed and in her vagina, I have read…
/r/TheRedPill01/07/14 08:10 PM
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"With that logic, I know I can't really feel that bad for a woman that ends up with a man from this subreddit." Judging by the sales of millions of copies of the THREE volumes of "Shades Of Grey," the "Twi-tard" Series and women's "romance/erotic novels" in general - ALL of which have Red Pill based protagonists - few women would consider "ending up" with a Red Pill man to be much less than (literally) a dream come true. To the above poster looking for "real world results," do a search on the ye…
/r/TheRedPill01/07/14 07:27 PM
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An LTR can also include a wife. While women are drawn to "Capt Jack Sparrow" (and similar) types for their Alpha fucks, the attraction is akin to a moth to a flame and they eventually become weary of getting their wings burnt, healing, chasing the flame, getting wings burnt, healing, chasing the flame, etc. In fact, they will often eventually reject the Alpha and take up with a beta just for comfort - later to crave the Alpha again. (Thus, the appeal of romance novels - that "none of them reads,…
/r/TheRedPill01/07/14 04:25 PM
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"If women hate the red pill and conservative masculinity so much then they should probably stop fucking us." And there it is, all you recent newbs, the proven effectiveness, viability and marketability of the Red Pill put in Free Market terms. Not only won't they stop fucking us, they can't stop fucking us, they won't stop fucking us, and they don't (really) want to know why they can't stop fucking us - even if you try to tell them (which you really shouldn't do). I would, however, advise you in…
/r/TheRedPill01/07/14 11:51 AM
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Re: "Why didn’t this motherfucking asshole in a white collar read Jane the same riot act about being loyal and responsible and not getting fat?!" Because the entitled Princesses parents paid for the wedding. Brah! And, they were probably celebrating good rid"dance" of her! If he was/is dumb-assed enough not to (try to) asset himself as to what he wanted in the ceremony, he pretty much deserves the life lesson he is about to get. Even 20 years ago I had a natural RP sense to be sure I made a toke…
/r/TheRedPill30/06/14 11:52 AM
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I'll reluctantly and cautiously agree with this as a caveat in hard core Red Pill thinking - IF one is thinking of marriage. It certainly would depend on an exceptional girl and exceptional circumstances, and it would only be the exception - not the rule and, at that, applied with full knowlege that ALL women are hypergamous. Even a conservative, old school, low-count, locked-down, women who wants to be in a locked down relationship (beyond wanting a "wedding") is going to be looking for options…
/r/TheRedPill29/06/14 01:02 PM
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I really get a feel that you are/would be her Plan B or fall back in this. If nothing else, she wants her conscience soothed that she tried to be "reasonable" and you remained an asshole. Neither one is acceptable, with the latter being the more detrimental to your reputation among other women. You don't want to be that guy who is so "nice" that he is ok with his woman exploring her other options while she is with you. Be the "Asshole" that she, and ALL women want, dump her unmercifully - no con…
/r/TheRedPill29/06/14 12:20 PM
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I am aware of what the sidebar says - and the position of marriage being a male sponsored institution. However, there are (other) Manosphere writings of the position that marriage, while instituted by "The Church" for the reasons you cited, was politically pressured into existence by WOMEN. While we can/won't/don't need to debate the historical details, the long term, eventual, current day insidious outcomes of the institution of "marriage" has all the markings of it being of initial feminine in…
/r/TheRedPill27/06/14 10:02 PM
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Re: " . . . because I am willing to give as well as I get" and "that's the hard truth. Fuck well, or move on." In actuality, the reason your W gives you what you want is because she knows your attitude is (has been internalized to be) that you will "move on." Good for you! As long as a woman wants/needs something from one man AND is NOT confident that she can get/keep it, she is consciously/unconsciously/biologically driven to do what she can to keep him = "tingles." This is the case unless she …
/r/TheRedPill27/06/14 09:57 AM
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I'll grant you that the kinds of things you noted do happen. They happen in ALL professions, not just teaching. I'll add that teachers unions (all unions) DO make behind the scenes deals as to which teachers they will defend and to what extent. BUT, the good FAR outweighs the bad. In my area of the country the Govenor was able to (essentially) totally abolish the power of the teachers unions. A lot of people thought this was THE dream they had been waiting for come true, and discussions were rif…
/r/TheRedPill17/06/14 11:37 AM
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This is VASTLY overblown BS about teachers unions. A much worse problem affecting entire schools and school districts of kids is (former) poor teachers or individuals with little to no teaching experience becoming education administrators. These individuals frequently go into administration because they have a chip on their shoulder about a certain type of teacher (one that 'gives a lot of homework, has high expectations, gives challenging tests, or doesn't easily back down' ... for example). A …
/r/TheRedPill17/06/14 02:58 AM
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The "best" thing that can happen to the teaching profession would be something analogous to MGTOW. I fully understand the passion that most have to teach. But societies overall reaction to that passion is, UNFORTUNATELY, no more intuitive or respectful than they are for a hound infatuated with a leg.
/r/TheRedPill16/06/14 03:37 AM
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And this, LADIES & GENTLEMEN, is why the power of Professional Unions is so important for TEACHERS!
/r/TheRedPill16/06/14 03:16 AM
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How about if the Red Pill flat mates sit Jeffie down and have an old fashioned Man to Man?
/r/TheRedPill15/06/14 11:20 AM
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This is a good sign - that some women are getting the message that their attraction has to be about more than their bodies. It just might be one of the better outcomes of RP and/or MGTOW, or even the high divorce rate. Adding to that, in some areas the SMP is flooded with woman competing with other woman for a man. If you're a divorced woman with a kid - "Yeah/no." So yes, the woman can divorce rape the guy IF she wants to spend the rest of her life alone. I've been going through a three year pr…
/r/TheRedPill15/06/14 11:09 AM
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Read his other posts.
/r/askTRP14/06/14 12:05 PM
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Frame? There is no frame if they are (drunk?) text yammering. If they are going to do that shit, he be better off sexting her, "Show me you're serious. Send me a pic of your left tit."
/r/askTRP14/06/14 11:48 AM
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Well, what she is "saying" ("I don't want to talk to you" and in other ways) is STFU! You guys talk and text way too much. She wants you to be a leader in this. 'Come back to YOUR bed and just fuck me.' (The 'for the kids' thing was just her trying to save face.) (BTW, NEVER leave YOUR bed or house. It's your throne. If she wants to leave, fine.) You're trying to solve this with "communication and negotiation." STOP! If she gives you the chance again, JUST FUCK HER - HARD! and then STFU! I've be…
/r/askTRP14/06/14 09:58 AM
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Women in LTRs test boundaries and they seek boundary definition as a sign of your desire, leadership and ... dominance. GNOs are "iffy" (circumstantial) as to weather they are out of bounds. Let's take it to an extreme. GF and her friends decide they are going to Vegas for a long weekend ... or even a week. Is that ok in a solid relationship? Would a Man putting his foot down be exhibiting signs of desperation . . . or would be be defining standards of acceptable behavior for the W/GF ... who is…
/r/TheRedPill14/06/14 01:32 AM
0

Young girls "like" the grey, too - IF you own it. The females - ALL the females - in a troop of gorillas follow the Alpha with the silver back. On the other hand, if you try to cover it it's a DLV - and usually a point of mockery by women.
/r/TheRedPill13/06/14 04:33 PM
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I was dating a 20-something (actually several) when I was in my thirties. At some point the subject of our relative ages came up. She said that she was "Honored that I was interested in her." I didn't get it (the honored part) at the time, but now I do. Age discrepancy shaming is female matrix tool to protect the "elder" women (and family structures). It is a social construct that does not exist in nature. It, along with rings and things, allows women to become complacent and unattractive in the…
/r/TheRedPill13/06/14 03:36 PM
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Women are hard-wire programmed to seek out strong, confident leaders who provide solid leadership in everything from the relationship to sex, aka Alphas. They are "attracted" to Alphas, and it doesn't matter if it is Jon Piccard, Chris Christie, or their Drama Professor. Your age is of no consequence to them ... unless/until it becomes a weakness or insecurity to you. Yes, little boys struggling through their 20s to establish their careers have "potential." But, an established, attractive and pr…
/r/TheRedPill13/06/14 02:42 PM
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You probably can save your marriage. You are going to have to work on your oneitis for her, for starters. Then, you are going to have to get her to HAPPEN TO see you are as desirable to other women as you say you are. I'm not talking about you flirting with other women or you pointing it out to her. Your W has to notice that you are noticed and are desirable to other women - that you could and WOULD leave her for them ("Dread"). The third part in this is what I call the "Captain Jack Sparrow" co…
/r/TheRedPill13/06/14 11:21 AM
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Re: "the author is openly suggesting Alpha Fucks Beta Bucks as a reasonable, legitimate "compromise" to the "problems" that women are "faced with" in our Progressive Society." The author is playing with us - flipping Nexting and Dread back at us. Although in a way, it's a valid (and really age-old) approach. If either side of a relationship can't/won't step up, fuck it or accept that other side is going to step out. The funk in all this is the divorce-rape laws, the antidote for which is "don't …
/r/TheRedPill13/06/14 01:44 AM
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Athol Kay's initial MMSL work and writings were close to where they should be in what we understand as Red Pill. Unfortunately, it seems that AK came to realize that Former Alphas and Recovering Alphas (usually) "get" where they screwed up in their LTRs and do relatively quickly DYI-fix their problem(s), once re-pointed in the right direction. If a guy is trying to make $$ fixing Men, that doesn't really work too well - because they basically fix themselves - once they get a clue. That leaves th…
/r/TheRedPill13/06/14 12:35 AM
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Thank you for collaborating the existence of such conversations. They can be bragging sessions as well, or at least veiled as such. You will notice I used the phrase/concept "Because (he who should have been) the leader in the relationship failed to collect on/enforce his interest in the relationship - sex." That phase covers a lot of territory, including the husband's physical and mental attractiveness, leadership in defining/calibrating fitness/attractiveness in the relationship, (yes) his ini…
/r/TheRedPill12/06/14 11:49 AM
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Re: "It's a pretty narrow viewpoint to assume it's only about sex - it's about intimacy, it's about relationship, it's about sharing your life with another person who shares her life with yours ... " It's a fine line marking the edge of a slippery slope. There are scores of wealthy subdivisions full of men providers who's wives had no problem using sex to establish the "relationship." Then, the sex dried up. Why? Because (he who should have been) the leader in the relationship failed to collect …
/r/TheRedPill11/06/14 11:54 AM
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Re: " thing is ... I have no desire to fuck other girls ..." Thing REALLY is: She can sense this, and this makes women's vaginas dry up, close up, and lose attraction to you. The women's sexuality engine is driven by the need to attract and keep. If there is no need to attract and keep (such as you being in looooovve) her sex engine will eventually shut down for lack of fuel. Her motivation to attract you was your desirability and success with other women. As a 10 herself, YOU were her challenge…
/r/TheRedPill10/06/14 12:47 PM
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+1 on the women on the MMSL blog/forum - no thanks! There are (were) a very few who added occasional insight, but overall, MmSL is not a Men's site, and it has succumbed to ALL the typical effects resulting from the infiltration of women into a "male space" - http://therationalmale.com/2014/06/03/male-space/
/r/TheRedPill09/06/14 07:44 AM
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Re: "I set up a home gym.' I’ve been doing a steady 5x5, with jogs on the off days. The results are my tummy is getting flatter and my chest and arms bigger. I look better and feel better." I started with a home gym in my basement and worked out there for about a year. Results for me, like yourself, were significant. The effect on the marriage was "C+" - OK. A dear Red Pill woman (whom I will call Anitabadcock - incase she is lurking) clued me into the "Gym Effect." It works like this: If you ar…
/r/TheRedPill09/06/14 01:42 AM
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THERE is a quintessential scenario of someone engaging a hamster, and a BSC hamster at that! NEVER engage the hamster! Just don't.
/r/TheRedPill08/06/14 11:39 AM
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I'd add to the list: * Get fit and stay fit. The gym is also a good place to meet men. Personally, skinny (frail, weak and thin) women are as unattractive to me as the whales.
/r/TheRedPill08/06/14 11:20 AM
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Millions of copies of the Twilight & 50 Shades books were printed and sold. Not many women admit reading or liking the books. But, someone bought the original books ... and subsequent books in the series! Maybe they were all sent to another planet? Seriously though, I don't know any/many blue pill women who will admit reading or liking these or similar "romance fiction" books. But they all DO read them, and then they read subsequent books in the series to be sure they don't like them. A Red Pill…
/r/TheRedPill07/06/14 12:59 PM
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I'd refer you to a other site specializing in your situation, but he has gone 'pay me to help you, bro.' You're (generally) on the the right track yourself now. Re: "In retrospect my ex-wife never desired me our entire marriage." I watched as my father did this three (3) times through three marriages. Women ONLY "desire" the WEDDING. Fine - give them the wedding, but never quite give them the marriage. It's all down hill from the second you let her put on that ring. Rings & Things = eventual Vag…
/r/TheRedPill05/06/14 03:45 AM
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And that is why a/THE "world power" (USA) only toys with the idea of electing a woman as President. In the Red Pill reality of the rest of a relatively ancient (Red Pill) world, "It don't mean a thing if it ain't got that (package) swing."
/r/TheRedPill05/06/14 02:02 AM
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Your "45 yo ass" is not as old as you think. There are (plenty of young) women out there who think your ass GOLD. (Believe me. I'm older than you.). Never - NEVER - DLV yourself !!!! Case in point: The other night I sat and listened/observed as this (initially) hot/cute guy poured himself out, beer after beer, to a hot-early-20-something women. They started out "leaning in" and all over each other. As he went (she lead him) through all the reasons he dropped out of college and "might" go back, s…
/r/AlreadyRed01/06/14 02:59 AM
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Great job - START! Welcome! I'll/We'll adopt you for FREE! No (PTP) to Pay To Post (like other owner moderated) Married Man SL... sites. Here for you, Bro!
/r/TheRedPill31/05/14 12:56 AM
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"Unpredictable" is the Red Pill takeaway. Vis-a-vis, Captain Jack Sparrow.
/r/TheRedPill31/05/14 12:34 AM
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Well ... There you have it - THE reason why the doors/memberships to "private" (secret?) Men's clubs, lodges, fraternities, guilds, orders, etc. are-were closed to the general public and women since ... forever. It's one thing to say STFU and chant "the first rule of Red Pill is not talk about the Red Pill," but realistically speaking, this site and ALL Manosphere sites, is simply publishing its "meeting minutes" (and lounge convo) for the world to see. Time to go classic (again).
/r/TheRedPill30/05/14 09:44 PM
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A good way to understand "why" people react to RP concepts and/or why you can't "talk" to them about RP ideas is to consider RP one religion and everything else another religion. Explaining your "religion" to someone who is not curious to know about it is fruitless. They consider you Godless and everything else. Don't bother. There is no 'way to handle it.'
/r/TheRedPill26/05/14 07:48 PM
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Leave the beta in the dark, take the rack (and the cannoli).
/r/TheRedPill18/05/14 11:49 PM
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I totally agree. The only refreshing / surprising thing in this is that she not hamstering why she is (seemingly/temporarily) opting to end the Alpha sex. If Alpha plays this right, IMO, she'll be back for more.
/r/TheRedPill18/05/14 08:30 PM
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There is no point or gain in informing her beta-provider. They will both hamster to protect what they want to keep. Keep what you have. If you see her around, she'll be coming around.
/r/TheRedPill18/05/14 04:39 PM
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Don't you just love it when they "tell" you that you have always been their Plan B?! Gentlemen, YOU are the Prize. Women may feel they are on the pedestal because they are sought after for sex. Women control the sex. BUT, Men are actually the Prize because Men control companionship, relationships, security AND a woman's standing among other women, who are continually scrutinizing her worth as a woman - her ability to attract and keep a Man. NEVER allow yourself to be the Prize to a woman who Pla…
/r/TheRedPill18/05/14 02:07 AM
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Women instinctually know guys who are fit are attractive to all/most/more women. A women who says that she does not like a muscular, fit Man is only verbalizing such because her forebrain knows that she would have to compete with other women to get and keep the Man. While she (her hind-brain) surely wouldn't turn town the opportunity for a joy ride, she sees the cost/risk of ownship to be too high.
/r/TheRedPill14/05/14 09:23 PM
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ATTRACT another girl/woman/plate/etc. I promise your present GF will think again about HER desire to "wait." More importantly, if she doesn't, it was not the five months she was waiting for, but rather the five months she wanted to explore her options. MOST IMPORTANTLY, right now SHE is in control of the relationship. That is always a bad thing.
/r/TheRedPill12/05/14 12:59 AM
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Re: "The goal isn't to get a specific girl, it's to improve yourself. And when you improve yourself, you can have any girl you want because you don't really care; you are the prize, not her." 'The goal isn't to get a specific girl, it's to improve yourself' ... to the point that you are the prize.' Women NEED men to validate their evo-biological worth. They start looking for their 'power' in their youth. Haven't you noticed early adolescent girls parading their newly found "stuff" - power - ASAP…
/r/TheRedPill04/05/14 01:21 AM
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Because LTR's become different than fucks or plates. I'm not saying that she was not dropping hamster shit. I am saying that the BEST motivation for women (and good sex) is the woman's insecurity - the ongoing need to secure the relationship. The man's best deal is to NEVER quite give that assurance. (I've been married 20 years, re-became Red Pill three years ago. I took my ring off a year ago and have no immediate intention of putting it back on. The bedroom has never been hotter.)
/r/TheRedPill04/05/14 12:49 AM
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The fewer words (better yet ... syllables), the better.
/r/TheRedPill04/05/14 12:35 AM
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Fantastic post. Men (and RP Women) need to hear this. While it IS true that there are women who (think that they) want their O (sometimes/most times/all times), men and relationship sex gets all f'd up when both genders start chasing "HER" satisfaction. Evo-biologically speaking, "she" was never intended to O from the act of sex ALONE, but rather in the CONTEXT of sex within her mental frame of having sex with the Most Alpha male. The most Alpha Male doesn't/wouldn't give a shit about her O. So,…
/r/AlreadyRed02/05/14 08:50 AM
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Game is game. If it weren't fun it wouldn't be a game. She followed you out the door and was there the next day at your beck and call - You won. Well done. 21 is fun!
/r/TheRedPill16/04/14 03:19 AM
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'Atta Boy! Be the prize!
/r/TheRedPill15/04/14 01:25 PM
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10 Seems to be a point of contention. Here's the "thing" - the Red Pill truth: Women - at the very least - want to know that a Man wants to fuck them. They start at a very young age trying to determine this. YOU can help them! (Why not?) Next, they DO want to fuck (as much as you) but they don't want it to be "their idea" that they "just happened" to fuck. Again, you can help them move beyond their limitations. Be THAT MAN that it "just happened" with.
/r/TheRedPill09/04/14 10:32 PM
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Let's see . . . She was "talking to" a figurine of a fantisiful animated cartoon in a Disney movie so that she can hamster (another) reason that it is OK to feed on a minimum of two bags of chips and a gallon of ice cream after dinner, while sitting on the couch, which has to be reenforced with steel rebar, so that she die of diabetes? If it looks like that and talks like that, it's a HAMSTER! ("Walks like" was deliberately left out of that because she ain't walking no where!)
/r/TheRedPill04/04/14 08:50 PM
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The nature of ALL women is to be hypergamous. They will try to attain the highest ranking and most desirable Alpha that they can attract and keep. It doesn't necessarily mean that they are a "hoe," it means they are a desirable woman. She was testing both her desirability and you in this situation. She did prove to herself that she could monkey branch to McAlphadick. But, your actions PARTIALLY - somewhat - showed her that she would possibly not be able to swing back - because you took up with t…
/r/TheRedPill02/04/14 10:08 AM
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Re: "marking me as her man and shit" Some rhetorical questions: Who is controlling the relationship? How did you actually react to her bad behavior and disrespect of you - What did your actions say to her - Did you sanction her, or reward her shit? Have you given her any indication as to what will happen if she pulls the same shit again? After your observation of her behavior in this situation, how would you rate her "quality" as a woman (while trying to give some consideration of the hypergamou…
/r/TheRedPill02/04/14 01:47 AM
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See "Crabs In A Bucket" syndrome: http://sherievenner.com/2013/crab-in-a-bucket-causing-fail/
/r/TheRedPill28/03/14 02:23 AM
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PUA is only "false advertising" if the PUA is a fake. Yes, it is true that many, or maybe MOST, For-Profit PUAs (FPPUA) are not truely Alpha, and they have sold themselves and Men out in order to make money. (In my mind, it's gotten pretty atrocious.) To their credit, they have helped some men get their heads out of the feminine fog of betadome to go on to be actual desirable and attractive Men - who are, or SHOULD BE, appreciated by deserving and discerning Women. If the PUA is a fake Alpha, an…
/r/TheRedPill18/03/14 05:08 AM
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Welcome! I'm not so sure that the 'tempering' process is so harsh as it may be presented. The toughest part (after realization) is acceptance and IMPLIMENTATION. A "simple" thing such as 'women really want you to be muscular and fit, regardless of what they say' is "SIMPLY" a bitch to assimilate into your (previously) blue pill existence.
/r/TheRedPill12/03/14 02:42 AM
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This was the best and most poignant post in that thread- especially to all of you who think you should try to "explain" Red Pill to someone: "Has anyone ever actually met a red pill person in real life? Like, someone who actually said this stuff out loud? I haven't, and I'd be seriously pissed if I did." If that poster HAD been fortunate enough to have a Red Piller waste his time on her, her panties would not be wet from piss. And, her hamster would be in overdrive trying to explain to herself a…
/r/TheRedPill11/03/14 02:48 AM
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Re: "As I leave I ask if we are ever gonna grab that coffee. She says sure with a smile, i say when?" Two questions = Two strikes. Don't - DO NOT - ask women questions as to what they want to do with you. You (should) have heard this before. Women want to be lead. They want YOU to tell them the plan. It makes them feel good about your (potential) leadership in a relationship. If you don't feel like placing yourself in a position of feeling vulnerable for rejection, just say the you are going to …
/r/TheRedPill10/03/14 08:45 PM
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Women LOVE True-Alpha ("Red Pill") Men - and so do their vaginas. They do, however, hate posers and men they find only to be PUAs. If anything, women's groups should be SUPPORTING any sites or means by which men can become the Men that women want (the ones in their million seller Romance-Erotic Fiction Novels). Maybe that's why the author listed The Red Pill - They need to rally to support this site and others like it (right?).
/r/TheRedPill10/03/14 12:16 AM
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BSC = Bat Shit Crazy Any sane, rational woman (I know, just go with it) in the current state of the SMP should know that she is fortunate - LUCKY! - to have a man seriously consider her as LTR material. Gentlemen, if you don't know it, it's a buyers market out there, and YOU are the buyer - IF you don't get duped into thinking that YOU should qualify yourself to a woman by chasing her or "fighting for her." Once you start that, the next thing you will find yourself doing is holding her purse for…
/r/TheRedPill09/03/14 10:08 PM
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The Red Pill helps you discern quality in women (or the lack of it). That can be discouraging/depressing and BORING - when/if you are hanging in a crowd rife with low quality women. Try changing your venue to one with higher quality women. You will find it, and them, more interesting.
/r/TheRedPill09/03/14 03:51 PM
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Any girl/woman who does that just "qualifies" herself as BSC. Ain't nobody got time for BSC in a LTR! Sure BSC can be a fun fuck as a plate, but the proper response to the "Test Breakup" is a Next. Men, the world of women is yours. YOU are the prize. Do NOT waste time with BSC, and always be on the lookout for it. Leave 'em for the betas.
/r/TheRedPill09/03/14 01:27 PM
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There are documented and filmed observations of female lions testing Alpha male lions for beta loyalty - for days. He wasn't getting any unless he showed some "oneitis" and stuck around.
/r/TheRedPill26/02/14 01:41 AM
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You did (survived) well with it - as far as it went. It should not have been allowed to go any further (anyway). NEVER engage the hamster! You don't WANT to engage the hamster. Your one-liner was excellent and a good stand-up to her shit. If - IF - her hamster had not fallen out of its wheel and she did manage to counter your call, the best response would have been LAUGHING at her and walking away. Engaging the hamster gives it life. DO. NOT. ENGAGE. THE. HAMSTER.
/r/TheRedPill24/02/14 11:34 PM
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To the hypergamous woman (sorry for the redundancy), an LTR is like rock climbing. She is testing her hand and footholds. If she can relegate/redirect your interaction with her to mundande shit, she has sufficient security to "move on up." The course of action is obvious ...
/r/AlreadyRed23/02/14 12:55 AM
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I like this line in the linked article: "Now, Reddit threads where guys lament their inability to level up with the women they've decided they're perfect for but just don't know it ... " It almost sounds like the libber writer's hamster is stuck for a word to sustitute for "Game," ie, "... guys lament their inability "Game" the women they've decided they're perfect for but just don't know it ... "
/r/TheRedPill21/02/14 02:21 PM
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PUA concepts in general, and the "Outcome Independence" (OI) concept in particular, are/is not new. The internet gurus of Game and Marital Sex Life have drawn from, compiled and recycled from many age-old primary sources. They include those related to the evo-bio sciences, religion, sociology, and even business management. Phrases and constructs such as, 'Managment only has to make decisions, not necessarily good decisions" and being deliberately "Consciously Incompetent" mirror the idea it is b…
/r/TheRedPill20/02/14 04:48 AM
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There was/is an entire related radio program with similar videos here: http://www.npr.org/programs/ted-radio-hour/
/r/TheRedPill19/02/14 10:53 PM
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'Studies show, if it happened over three months ago, it has little impact on your happiness.' View at about 3 minutes in: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LTO_dZUvbJA&sns=em
/r/TheRedPill19/02/14 02:01 PM
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You need to honestly inform her of your disposition regarding children! "She really really wants a family/marriage and knows her clock is ticking." vs "im not looking for a family or kids" If you don't do this you are disrespecting and misleading her and it WILL become a distructive resentment issue in a LTR (marriage?) with her. Give her the truthful information, then you both can honestly work through what is to come. ETA: Yes, be sure you are using condoms so she doesn't trap you with a child…
/r/TheRedPill19/02/14 01:05 PM
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I agree with "keep us wondering," Anita. Quintessentially, that's why it is optimal that the man NOT chase. It takes away the "wonder." Ideally, the man will always be the "attractor" - at best only making himself accessible. The woman should kept on her toes to qualify herself, relative to his other female options, which he should not fully reveal as actual or not. In LTRs, the rules change somewhat. The male should provide assurances of security and relationship comfort, but STILL make sure th…
/r/TheRedPill18/02/14 04:37 PM
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I'd fine tune the "wanted" part and change it to "attracted" to her. It's vital that the woman is aware / be made continually aware that the man has other sexual options - regardless of whether they are in a LTR or not. If she thinks she is the best he can have he, by definition of Alpha, loses Alpha status and her keen interest in attracting him to her. Alphas are desirable by multiple women, and the male sustaining that market desirability (value) is what makes him a "hot" commodity and her ho…
/r/TheRedPill18/02/14 03:32 PM
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Look her square in the eye and say, "All the women in my harem wear skirts or dresses, or they wear nothing at all." Do NOT release your gaze until she looks away. (If you do it right, her next move should be to go to the ladies room.)
/r/TheRedPill17/02/14 06:32 AM
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"Barbarossa has a good video on game and PUA...." Barbarossa is talking about Game solely for pussy. He also asserts that a desirable Alpha is defined by whatever (human?) women collectively determine as sexually desirable. But goes on to use an experiment within the lion animal species to illustrate / compare PUAs to male lions that have been made to appear to be the Alpha in the community. I understand what he is saying - or trying to say, but the analogy really does transfer directly to the h…
/r/AlreadyRed17/02/14 05:47 AM
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Short answer: Start collecting the REAL contact information of posters you like and feel you can trust. Then if this, or any gathering place of Red Pillers, Reborn Red Pillers, or "Ephificated" Red Pillers gets eliminated or even hobbled you/we can still contact each other as to alternate sites where to gather. I may post a response later detailing what has happened over at Married Man's Sex Life (MMSL - Athol Kay) as the owner/moderator of that site - Athol Kay - circumed to temptations and pre…
/r/TheRedPill16/02/14 05:30 PM
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Tell her you're a warlord. Check this date out - "Julie And The Warlord": http://playboysfw.kinja.com/julie-the-warlord-an-original-short-story-by-b-j-no-1503699838 Do you think Julie should fuck the warlord? Why or why not?
/r/TheRedPill16/02/14 04:03 PM
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The only one who can "win" in this situation is YOU - if you kick her to the curb. If you accept her back you have DLV'd yourself down the shitter in everyone's eyes, including hers. Internally, she won't respect you. This was no "accident," but rather a choice and exhibition of her character, which you/no one will be able to change. She will either do this type of thing again and/or her disrespect for you will be cause for something else to "just happen" in your relationship. Eventually she (he…
/r/TheRedPill16/02/14 03:12 PM
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If I were you, I'd STFU! Somewhere in the Top Red Pill "Rules" is the one that you don't talk about the Red Pill - ESPECIALLY to those who have no concept of it. RP is about a state of existence & demeanor, not yap.
/r/TheRedPill15/02/14 09:06 PM
1

Skittle her: Nothing says, "I Love You" better than a hand-made card cut from a brown paper bag with the words "Nothing in the rack was worthy of your rack" scrawled in your OWN handwriting in red. (Just buy a card with a fancy envelope, but pitch the card.)
/r/TheRedPill13/02/14 10:24 PM
4

Full disclosure and openness is very realistic and acceptable in LONG TERM - "exclusive" - Red Pill relationships, because ... by definition (of Red Pill) both partners are aware of the real tendencies of each other, among other things. Full disclosure is both insurance and assurance of exclusivity. It is Red Pill to "trust but verify." It is beta-slub to naively 'love and trust.' The latter pretty much defaults to the (beta) feminine construct of "marriage vows." And, we all know how well they …
/r/TheRedPill10/02/14 11:59 PM
2

Thanks!
/r/TheRedPill10/02/14 11:37 PM
4

You can't feed a women 100% Alpha in a LTR and expect her instinctual brain is going to "see" YOU as LTR material. Women are instinctually looking for beta security and providers - as well as Alpha traits. Yes, it is the Alpha that attracts their attention, gives them the gina tingles, and gets them initially hooked. But, if you don't (occasionally) show you have a beta side they instinctually start looking for betas. They don't necessarily know why, nor can they stop themselves (any more than y…
/r/TheRedPill10/02/14 11:34 PM
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Do check out the possibility that she is cheating, or has had some sort of affair. If such is true, you will need to confront her about it. BUT, do not do so unless you have FIRST gathered conclusive evidence because she will deny and trickle truth to her death. Don't "accept" her (current) token displays of affection as acceptable. Don't give opportunities for them. If she is interested in you, doing this should cause her to chase YOU. Right now she is using them as lazy assurances that you are…
/r/TheRedPill09/02/14 10:05 AM
2

You are exactly correct, she's trying to flip it back on you. If she WANTED to be up front with you she would have texted you BEFORE sleeping with the client. (She did sleep with him.) Cheaters cheat. If this didn't happen now, it would have happened later. If you accept her shit, and accept her back it will be at the cost of her loss of respect of you AND your overall reputation. Hold your course, hold your frame. Next her and elevate your status. Move on.
/r/TheRedPill01/02/14 10:06 AM
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