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Wine tasting. Find a wine bar or something (we just found a nice one in a small town infused olive oil and vinegar store for example) near a place for a decent dinner. A setting that's kind of socially cool (the one mentioned also had a Christmas lights display in a park for example). Date is meet her, do wine tasting (Just say semi-sweet or dry wines, no sweets for the guy), then a bit of a walk around checking out whereever you are, then dinner. A dinner reservation that's a bit later kind of …
/r/TheRedPill01/12/23 06:07 PM
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If she'll cheat with you, she'll cheat on you...or worse. She's showing she's willing to devalue other people (your current GF) when it suits her getting what she wants in the moment. So not only will she cheat on you, you will also be more likely to be on the receiving end of a sudden discard / dumping when you're no longer the fun shiny new object and she's sick of you. Honestly, I'd urge you to not consider any kind of escalation in a relationship with her.
/r/TheRedPill19/09/23 11:34 PM
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Is there a toastmasters chapter nearby? Might help. Or think of a gimick to help you start talking. I knew a guy once that modeled himself on his favorite actor. He watched all that guy's movies and quotes or inspiration from things that reminded him of some movie in any particular situation is how he opened. It was not perfect, not always well calibrated, but it got him going until he grew his confidence and didn't need a gimick anymore.
/r/TheRedPill12/09/23 07:50 PM
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I think I saw a statistic that every famous inventor had several hundred fails before something that worked. You don't start a big success, you fail your way through learning experiences to reach success.
/r/TheRedPill29/08/23 12:17 AM
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you're in your own head too much. you are creating the bad interaction by being too worried about it and acting accordingly. what do you need to break you're own mental pattern? a new first date plan maybe? instead of sit at a lounge, sit at the bar and get the bartender to give a lesson on mixology? how the right ingredients mixed well spice up right? innuendo opportunity galore there. I also had success with short hikes the lunch after, a trip to a shooting range (very few girls weren't intere…
/r/TheRedPill27/08/23 01:49 PM
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You want a place near the nightlife, great. Go get one, have a nice balcony view of something cool. Decorate the place nicely with some cool art and sculptures, and have some nice lighting. Do decent sound system for good music too. Set up a decent little home bar and learn a few good cocktail recipes. Then have some pics on your phone of it all. If you meet a girl things are going good with, just talk about liking living close in, show some pics. Don't tell her how cool it is, let her see it an…
/r/TheRedPill16/08/23 05:44 PM
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Maybe instead of after parties just having a close place with a cool vibe (pics on the phone to show off of a hip looking and lit place and a nice balcony view of something), and if there's a girl you get on with well, it turns into a hook to end up at your place. cool art and paintings to see or something. i wouldn't want my place being shown off to lots of strangers constantly. youre guaranteed to get cased by someone that will come back with very bad intentions.
/r/TheRedPill16/08/23 02:05 AM
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the only answer with women like that is to dump them post haste. and ignore the following attention whoring behavior. it's the adult version of a 5 year old tenper tantrum. and it's not worth giving it more headspace beyond you fucked by engaging with it for so long, you've learned better, are rebuilding yourself now, and you won't make the same mistakes again. the rest is the past- leave it there.
/r/TheRedPill11/08/23 01:02 PM
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big difference between reacting and responding.
/r/TheRedPill11/08/23 12:57 PM
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When asked what I do, I tell people "I make smart people with poor social skills talk to each other". I get varied but universally inquisitive responses to that,always opens the door to more conversation. I'm a senior PM and design lead for large water/sewer projects. I end up dealing with all the engineering disciplines, the admin/billing people, schedulers, clients, contractors, etc. It's very diverse groups of people, all with very different personalities and job skill sets. Making them all t…
/r/TheRedPill02/08/23 03:33 PM
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Those two sound like they're made for each other. Leave them to each other, it will be the best revenge you can exact on them. I know it being so fresh and recent makes it hard to see this, but it really is true. No more contact with either of them, though. Delete any new messages from them unread. Hit the gym, focus on not derailing at work, eat well. Keep it simple, work some good self care into your life, and start building your life again.
/r/TheRedPill05/06/23 02:51 AM
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schools in america these days are institutions of indoctrination, not education.
/r/TheRedPill03/06/23 01:47 PM
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I'm 48 in a few more days. 6'2", 200 lbs. Am backing off heavy lifting - back and shoulders just don't bounce back the way they used to. I've now got a degenerated disc in my back - am getting decompression therapy for my spine and it helps alot but heavy lifting aggrevates the crap out of it the day after lifting. I've really started shifting to lighter weight, more reps for core exercises. Have also gotten into a gentle martial art that gives me a good amount of stretching and almost yoga like…
/r/TheRedPill16/05/23 03:19 PM
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Getting to the DGAF mindset is basically getting to where you are happy and satisfied the guy you see in the mirror every day. When you are happy with your true, authentic, genuine self and can be that guy anywhere, anytime, and don't worry if people (especially women) like or dislike that guy - that's when you'll kick that feeling of unworthiness. Counseling can only take you so far even with the best therapist - you've got be willing to go out there, be you, be happy with being you, and be hap…
/r/TheRedPill12/04/23 09:36 PM
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I've been where you are. My son is now 19 and aged out of the court orders so that phase of life is totally over. I will give you some advice learned in rather hard fashion. STOP. Right now, just stop thinking about LTR's. Doesn't mean no LTR forever, just means stop thinking about that right now. You're not even divorced yet. Finish the divorce and settle into the new post-divorce completed routine life. Get your feet under you first before thinking about another LTR. I'd say it's okay to spin …
/r/TheRedPill23/03/23 01:45 PM
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Go to the event, take a girl with you. Flaunt your date in front of her. Then at work tell her how much fun you had with your date at her event. Or - save yourself future aggravation with this chick, become very superficially friendly with her but nothing more. If she says "you should do this" just say "okay, we'll see". Non-committal to everything, and otherwise give her little to engage with you. Focus on other things, this chick ain't worth the time and energy investment.
/r/TheRedPill23/03/23 01:30 PM
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Meetups are full of weird and mal-adapted people. There's a reason the regulars don't have a normal social circle. There's a higher percentage of attendees that are white knight men, crazy women, stalkers, autists, etc. They can't maintain long term relationships because of the behaviors you describe encountering in your post. Meetup group leaders/organizers are usually somewhere on the spectrum of ackward to control freaks too. At least, that was my experience when I did the meetup club circuit…
/r/TheRedPill02/02/23 05:34 PM
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What does it look like in this modern day when the husband has been striped from positions of power? I don't know and thats the million dollar question I put out to you guys but all I can say is that she is worked in marriages that remain intact and stimulating. ​ To me - and I say this as a married man - figuring out how to keep yourself in a position of power is pretty key. It's getting more and more towards not marrying. She only gets to stay onboard your ship if she choses to fit into your c…
/r/TheRedPill29/11/22 02:37 PM
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there's two elements- why you pick them but also why they pick you. they are aware when you're more vulnerable to being taken advantage of. If they don't notice vulnerabilities, they move on. the answer is frame. if you have a strong frame you, you pick up on the BPD quick.
/r/TheRedPill28/08/22 11:49 AM
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if this is offputting (and it would be to me), then don't compromise yourself for her. she's not worth your self respect. improve yourself, go find a woman you don't have to compromise your self respect for.
/r/TheRedPill31/05/22 10:41 PM
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Re - Opening up: Sharing something that's challenging for you but in a way that say "this is hard, but I got it, it doesn't have me" is the key. As long as you are still a strong man in her eyes, you can get away with it. It's when you come off as not able to handle something hard that it will make her feel less secure and safe being with you. Then, the shit tests escalate, and she'll get more disrespectful because she's become mad that you don't comfort her like you used to before. Opening up l…
/r/TheRedPill17/02/22 03:11 AM
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So if she's a slut before LTR/marrying you, she'll be a slut afterwards too? Such a novel concept. /s I get many people need extra info. like studies to break through BP social conditioning lies that "sexually liberated" women are a good thing. But in the end, it's as simple as "a tiger doesn't change it's stripes." Once a cum dumpster, always a cum dumpster.
/r/TheRedPill10/02/22 04:05 AM
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as i said, this kind of behavior doesn't go away and you are seeing it. even if they can force themselves into temporary improvement. it comes back. it doesn't go away. i'd bet money she stopped seeing her therapist and since she stopped, this dysfunction has creeped back in? your response is basically you trying to bargain with yourself about staying with her, and staying focused on her instead refocusing on you like i described above. if you're gonna insist on this focus on her for your own se…
/r/TheRedPill08/02/22 02:35 PM
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1 - you're over analyzing like others said but given your OCD issues, it's understandable. You still need to stop. 2 - she might be BPD, or just manipulating with the hot/cold anger and guilting bursts. you call her out on legit out of bounds behavior that deserves calling out and she reacts with rage and anger. she's attempting to scare you into not holding her accountable for when she does this. she's at least partially succeeding. BPD's do this a lot but there's so much dysfunction in a BPD t…
/r/TheRedPill08/02/22 04:20 AM
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Being the toughest dude in the room is not only obvious to women, it's obvious to men. When women see the other men being certain to not step on the toughest guy's toes, it's a clear sign of the man with the highest SMV in the vicinity. Women WILL clue in on it too. I'm 46, definitely not in the "operator" category. I've done a ton of martial arts training, had some of my own rather violent experiences growing up in a rough area of town, though, and to quote the song "I'm ain't as good as I once…
/r/TheRedPill27/01/22 06:08 PM
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Don't depend on the coach service. If she's into it and wants to follow along, just tell to come grab an uber with you. Go to your place, her place, etc. I recommend her place, and uber home in the morning. Safer than her going into bunny boiler mode later and knowing where you live. If you're not gonna have your logistics straightened out, you aren't gonna solve this issue.
/r/TheRedPill26/10/21 05:38 PM
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I think what OP is saying is this: Things are getting worse. We see why. Yet we are just enjoying the decline and not crusading against the things that are driving the decline. Why not? I say the why not is because if we did, at this moment, we'd only succeed in alienating ourselves. What's wrong in society today is also so widely accepted as right that the only thing we'd accomplish by trying to act against it and turn the tide is to hurt our own success. Think of it like it was said in Fight C…
/r/TheRedPill13/10/21 03:12 PM
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Umm, echoing all the guys that are calling you out for your own naivity and explaining that she's trying to hook you into marriage while not being totally honest about her history. But I think there's something being missed here - she asked about you having sex so she could sheepishly say "me too" so she could bring up sex without feeling like a slut. She's thinking about it with you. She's also ASDing, so she's trying to maneuver so she ends up on the business end of your cock much sooner than …
/r/TheRedPill05/10/21 04:30 AM
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Social skills, especially flirting and recognizing IOI's, recognizing when she wants more, and just improving your game overall are like any other skill or muscle. To get better/stronger, you gotta train and practice. For most of people, it doesn't come naturally. Getting out of your head and stopping worry about rejection and if you'll be accepted by her are the simple keys. But simple in same way as getting so you can deadlift 400 lbs. Takes lots of repetitions, training, and practice on a con…
/r/TheRedPill23/09/21 05:56 PM
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yeah the girls that turn on the love bombing stuff and get too interested too fast also switch and turn off just as quick. i'd chalk this one up to her having a wild mood swing and that was it more than anything else. speaking from experience - you are better off without her. as for going soft - did i see in the original post you went soft after 1.5 hours correctly? if so, no wonder. eventually that physiological function that maintains erection gets tired and gives out. just finish sooner. if y…
/r/TheRedPill29/07/21 04:21 PM
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Broken attracts broken, and hurt people hurt other people. If a woman reveals multiple abusive partners, it could be: True - but a red flag that she's got something wrong in her that attracts them AND that she is attracted to them. Usually has to do with being a drama queen, the guy is also dipshit crazy, and they trauma bond at first, then their crazy bleeds onto each other and things blow up. Girls like this will try to recreate the crazy cycles with you, and will escalate their behavior to tr…
/r/TheRedPill24/06/21 03:12 PM
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At some point you have to make it on your own. That point is now for you. It means no more screwing around, no more soft landing. It means ALWAYS making the best, responsible decision, you know, like grown up men who have their shit together all do. Time to grow up for good. We all go through it, or if we don't we end up as chumps or worse. You won't get any sympathy from the men here about this. All you can do is join our club.
/r/askTRP24/06/21 03:26 AM
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At 23, I'd recommend apartment and living off campus. I lived in a dorm from 18-20 for 3 years, and it was a great experience, by I was also really glad to move off campus. You'll be the "old man" on the hall, and you'll have never ending hassling to go buy beer for underage guys on the hall. Dorm roommate experiences are good for a guy on his first time away from home. At 23, though, you should be past that and ready for the next step. If you go dorm, you'll likely end up with a mismatch with a…
/r/askTRP21/06/21 10:49 PM
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She wants you to move in with her because she's afraid of roommates. She's looking to leverage your resources. Honestly, everyone goes to college and gets roommates. That's how it works. You have to learn to live with strangers, it's a growing experience. Also, don't think you have to rescue her from a bad home life. You never know, she might really be a pain in the neck to live with, and you're hearing a twisted story about her home life. If you do follow through and move like this with her, th…
/r/askTRP18/06/21 05:50 PM
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You haven't missed out on a great social life. Know what? I don't see my old college friends at all anymore. They weren't the life long friends as advertised. We all move on, get jobs, move away, change jobs, move again, have families, etc. Life moves on. My best friends now are all people I met via various group activities or naturally at places like the neighborhood pool. One guy, he's a great friend now, we met on New Year's Eve on the neighborhood street because we were drinking, shooting fi…
/r/askTRP18/06/21 03:06 PM
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Okay - I'm not saying she's a unicorn but indications currently this girl realizes where her SMV comes from and she's not giving it away easy and often to a bunch of guys. She's trying to avoid the cock carousal. That's a key part of LTR material. I think you have a values call to make here for yourself. Do you want to LTR or not? Do you want to date and sleep with multiple women? Do you want to spin plates and not be tied down? Or do you want to LTR up and commit to one girl? My advice - if you…
/r/askTRP18/06/21 02:57 PM
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For men and women - nobody wants LTR/sex/etc. with someone nobody else wants. It's just how it is, you wouldn't want some low SMV land whale with chin hair that no other guy in his mind would want either right? Same principal just different priorities from a female perspective. So don't reveal your virginity because women see it as a sign there's something wrong and nobody else wants you.
/r/askTRP17/06/21 08:33 PM
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this doesn't get better. it only gets worse. i highly suggest next time she does this then tries to come back later, tell her there isn't a getting back together again. no more yo-yo'ing, you're moving on. this kind of push/pull eventually builds into very unhealthy and even mentally abusive levels. most of the time it will also escalate to physical outburts (hitting / pushing), keyed cars and vandalized homes, and even recruiting white knights against you. Save yourself the trouble and get away…
/r/askTRP17/06/21 06:14 PM
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women are consumers, they spend more. men are producers and save more. if men are subservient and producing as much as they can until they're worn out, discarded and replaced by the next man up, and women are catered to so they can spend to their heart's desire, then productivity and spending are both kept at max levels. that means max profits for business and max taxes collected from the economic activity for the government. there's a wealthy top 0.5% that sits atop the economic and politcal py…
/r/askTRP16/06/21 04:45 PM
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this.
/r/askTRP16/06/21 04:38 PM
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i started with strong lifts 5x5. it's a barbell program - back squat, dead lift, bench press, row, overhead press. 5 lifts per set, 5 sets each. i started at a gym, bought a barbell, 400 lbs of weights, and built a lumber squat rack in my garage when COVID shut everything down. the plates also have hand holds, i do a kettle bell swing with the 45 lb plates too. And I have a few dumbells i've added to the collection as well. if you're that new, go do 2-3 coached sessions in a squat rack for prope…
/r/askTRP16/06/21 04:37 PM
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women are smarter than that, but they play dumb really well too so they can appear to not to not understand, they can go out after and tell all their friends how they got dumped for now reason, and avoid accountability in their own minds and convince their groups of enablers of the same. ending it simply by saying either "it's just run it's course for me, good luck" is probably what's gonna result in the best outcome for you. giving more explanation, should you do so should be limited to somethi…
/r/askTRP16/06/21 01:22 PM
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tell her it's enough that she's got work to do to measure up but you feel that you've not been enough of a manwhore so far that she can't pretty easily top the performance of those before her if she tries.
/r/askTRP14/06/21 09:54 PM
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I'm betting you're young. Take it in baby steps. Don't try to escalate your first date ever into sex. Seriously, there's no way you don't fuck that up. Walk in the park, stop by a coffee place for a drink and a snack, maybe a stop by a bowling place or mini-golf are very good ideas. Something very casual. Don't look like a slob but don't look like you're going to the prom either. And don't drown in cologne. Try to entertain yourself in your interaction with her. Be fun and have fun at the same t…
/r/askTRP14/06/21 08:29 PM
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Answering question asked - tell her you have a headache and can't help her move.
/r/askTRP14/06/21 08:09 PM
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I agree with this one. If you fuck up, you need to own up to it. That goes for all areas of life, not just LTR's too. The "you're right, i over reacted, i'm sorry" line is simple and brief and all that needs to be said. Don't take it to some simping sniveling apologies. I'd see how she reacts before proceeding further. If she takes it in stride, and the make up engagement is on, great. If she tries to twist the knife or use it pile on, then you say "i've said my peace, hope you feel better soon,…
/r/askTRP14/06/21 06:46 PM
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I paid for 3 trainer sessions when I first started. I did pay a good amount for them but it was really helpful for me and worth it. Basic coaching on proper form with a barbell for a variety of basic compound lifts. The money spent was worth it. I'd recommend you could do the same, don't need a trainer for ever and ever, but get coached up on the basics for starting. It's only a few sessions at most.
/r/askTRP14/06/21 04:50 PM
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roommate was a complete tool in this case. girls are right to be upset about it. you are right to think roommate was a complete a tool and in the wrong to do what he did too. i would recommend the following: less is always more when it comes to handling drama in interpersonal dynamics. i'd just tell the guy you think he overreacted but he can do him and you can do you. then i'd stop wingman'ing together like that with him because he's not gonna learn just because you and a couple of girls disagr…
/r/askTRP11/06/21 01:32 PM
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Disclosure first - I've kept and spun plates in the past, got sick of it. Am now more satisfied and content as a married man, screwing just my wife. I'm 46, she's 45. Better connection, all that. Saying that so you know the perspective of the guy behind the keyboard for this comment is personally, I value a single LTR type connection more than plate spinning, which I fully acknowledge is not what most here do, but I also think that a little bit of advancement into late 30's/40's brings on a diff…
/r/askTRP10/06/21 01:26 PM
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it's nexting time. she wants to go on a date with another dude. that's fine, let her. but i'd tell her i don't LTR girls that also still go on dates with other guys. i'd advise you this too - she's asking if you're uncomfortable because she already knows you will not be good with this. she also knows, deep down, that what she is doing isn't right. but she wants it anyway - that's female entitlement and hypergamy at work. she's trying to manipulate you into thinking it's okay, though, with asking…
/r/askTRP09/06/21 02:30 PM
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Re: First paragraph - I get being tired. I work my ass off. I make a good living, make good money, have a great life. It takes work to maintain it. It's one of those things that is hard to build up and very quick and easy to have slip away if you don't work hard to maintain and keep growing. I find myself continually exhausted sometimes because a successful life becomes a demanding life. It's satisfying, but it is exhausting. Main thing is to find some way to recharge yourself along the way, tho…
/r/askTRP09/06/21 02:56 AM
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i would make a copy of the recording, keep it in a safe place. i'd also advise you to keep your mouth shut, don't show the recording to anyone, and say nothing in response to anything she or anyone else says. don't defend yourself at all. let them spin their hamster wheels. if you have a law enforcement contact about it, then especially say nothing except "i will respond to you after i talk with an attorney." women post and throw all kinds of stuff out online all the time. the more she posts, th…
/r/askTRP07/06/21 04:23 PM
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^^^ this is the main gist. Forgiveness is for your own peace of mind. Forgetting is entirely different. It's also entirely up to you what kind of boundaries you feel are best enforced with your mother. Some level of boundary that stops future attempts at manipulation and esmasculation are definitely appropriate. It might be as simple as an occasional check-in but if she starts her routine, you simply hang up, leave, etc. No arguing, no trying to correct her, simply end your engagement with her w…
/r/askTRP07/06/21 04:14 PM
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if you're new to this and starting at entry level, then you start at entry level based on experience, not age. like every other field, you gotta pay your dues and earn your way up.
/r/askTRP04/06/21 07:45 PM
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the more you prop up those around you, the more you will have to do it in the future. you mask the problems of others to management when you do that as well. if you let them fall on their face, you give them the opportunity to learn from it and grow, or show themselves to be non-producers. either way, letting either happen is actually essential. i've learned more from my mistakes than anything i ever did right the first time or from something someone taught me. let them make mistakes because it …
/r/askTRP04/06/21 07:35 PM
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Money is gone. You're not getting it back. People that need that kind of help get into those situations for a reason and they don't learn better later. Sex is not a good reason to get married. It's the worst reason actually. Her forgiving you for fucking up - no shit, she had to. Her family would have been screwed if she didn't. Maybe there's reasons for boundaries with your parents, maybe your parents don't like her and her family because they don't like you being mooched off of like this, etc.…
/r/askTRP04/06/21 02:37 PM
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there seems to be a strong correlation between hotness and red flags, Get on youtube and google "hot crazy matrix". The guy graphs it out in a way that is entertaining, but it is so true. As for whether to LTR this girl or not, she sounds from your description like a good candidate to be honest with you. The next thing I would say to start vetting for is what will she do when you're not as available? When you're struggling with time demands at some point? Will she start to get bitchy if you're h…
/r/askTRP04/06/21 02:29 PM
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I'd distance myself from the deadbeats. In fact, I did. I wouldn't make some grand proclamation or anything. I'd just stop calling them and stop responding. If they call you to hang out you just say "man, i'd love to, got other plans already though. some other time." and then some other time never happens. Better to make it basically a soft next than something that feels like a jarring insult to them, trying to not stir up any drama with them as you make the exit.
/r/askTRP02/06/21 02:54 PM
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FYI - the couple in my example did not go into college with that plan. they didn't plan, at least from the beginning, on coming back home to do what they did. it just worked out that way, so they had never completely lost touch, they reconnected, and did what they did. you might well find even if you and her were back in the same place that you still don't want to LTR or wife her up in the future. that other couple was okay that with each other knowing they'd both had their fun. not everyone wou…
/r/askTRP01/06/21 06:31 PM
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It's the playing games to make you jealous and continuing playing Tinder games and what not, the head games. It's not LTR standards. I don't doubt she wants you to LTR her, and I don't doubt that she's fun and satisfying for you to be around, but she isn't grown up enough with the crap you describe her doing. Those are deal breakers. Time to move on.
/r/askTRP01/06/21 04:23 PM
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i know a couple that are married, high school sweethearts, been together for something like 20 years now. they went to different colleges. they basically broke up or had an "open" policy for 4 years. they dated and screwed other people at their respective colleges, then when it was all done, they graduated, both moved right back home, got married, and started punching out kids. for your LTR to stick, either you both gotta be committed to being loyal which will be lonely and hard, or you both got…
/r/askTRP01/06/21 03:16 PM
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if the offer alternative specific times, that's a clue. if they don't, that's a clue too.
/r/askTRP28/05/21 04:16 PM
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You and her are both young. She wants to ride the CC and expend her youthful SMV that way. She will hit the wall, splatter, then want to get back with some guy in her past, maybe you. By then, you should have built your SMV more, and be able to have better than her. It's just how it is. Younger women have higher SMV than younger men most of the time. Once you both hit 30, it will change. Men age gracefully and get more distinguished. Women just age and get worn out. Don't take her back, it ended…
/r/askTRP28/05/21 02:12 PM
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"you’re too stoic, people feel insulted when they can’t disappoint you” i think it's saying people feel insulted that you have a low enough opinion of them all that when they do something disappointing that you aren't surprised or bothered. instead, you expect it. that means since you have a low opinion of people to start with, and they all know it, they feel insulted because you have a low opinion of them. that also means people want you to have a better opinion of them, which means they see yo…
/r/askTRP28/05/21 02:07 PM
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Hate to break it to you but there are men of all races that have no standards. Correct, they're known as "Navy guys", "squids", or "sailors". And after 8 months at sea, it's understandable why they'd have no standards when they finally get off the ship.
/r/askTRP26/05/21 08:44 PM
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Echo'ing the guys saying it's none of this chick's business. I'd ignore or even block her. I'd also consider nexting said GF. Would definitely make it explicitly clear that this contact from the friend is not acceptable, and I'd be tempted to tell her something along the lines of "I don't kiss and tell, and I don't want to be with someone that does this kind of stuff. My sex life is not going to be the subject of girl gossip. We're done."
/r/askTRP26/05/21 05:14 PM
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Women have a tendency to want to influence you so your SMV drops, that way other women won't try to steal you as much. They all do it. Then they get pissy when they're successful but you're not as attractive. It's just one of the things that doesn't make logical sense about them. Keep hitting the gym, let her spin her wheels about it, tell her if she's worried, then maybe she should join you to keep up with you instead of trying to drag you down. If she continues to try to sand bag you, get rid …
/r/askTRP26/05/21 03:29 PM
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This. Stay away from the really insecure one's. You can never give enough to comfort to make up for they're own perceived inferiority.
/r/askTRP26/05/21 02:26 PM
22

sounds like a faker. probably some dude in a basement on the other side of the world.
/r/askTRP26/05/21 01:08 PM
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she broke things off because she wanted more but didn't think she would get it. she keeps saying her "feelings diminished" because she's lying to herself, her feelings didn't diminish. she's denying how she really feels. she's getting pissy because she wants more and is jealous. she was expecting you to chase more when she broke it off. now she's hurt because you didn't, she's feeling rejected and hurt that you didn't really return the same feelings she did. she's continuing to be adamant about …
/r/askTRP25/05/21 01:27 PM
0

Hitting was a loss of composure. Although, in a way he did deserve some level of consequence for being such a dick to you growing up. You're learning to stand up to up to his abuse now. Don't think too harshly of yourself now for hitting him (if you do at all). Think of it as learning a new skill - holding boundaries while also maintaining self control, composure, and grace under fire in situations that distress you. It's like learning a new tennis swing - if you get the skill right at first, yo…
/r/askTRP25/05/21 12:51 PM
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Do you want to be with a woman that you have to dread and give ultimatums to in order for her to want to take care of herself and be the best version of herself she can be? I bet not. I get you miss "her", more likely you miss the companionship. You miss the boxes that she did check. However, you've realized that despite those boxes, she still didn't check other boxes for you and that was a deal breaker. Being with the wrong woman will prevent you from getting with the right woman when you meet …
/r/askTRP24/05/21 03:50 PM
6

Tell him it's a mindset shift that starts with deciding on focusing on building yourself into the best version of yourself you can be and not letting anything sidetrack you. It's not that you don't care and don't get attached, it's that you aren't willing to expend your value points on women. You only allow them compliment you, add to your value as you add to their's, and when they turn out to not do those things, you get rid of them. Focus on lifting/gym, good diet, and good career. Be the best…
/r/askTRP21/05/21 04:07 PM
1

I'll phrase this as a question - have you been living your life as more trying to make others (mother as kid, and it just continued as you grew up) instead of yourself? Have you been trying to live to others expectations and have them see you as something specific? Living to others expectations and not yours? If so, I'd honestly suggest take inventory of all that. Think back - when was a time when you were pursuing what you've accomplished so far but thought "man, I wish I could go do that" but …
/r/askTRP21/05/21 01:06 PM
2

It can be hard to interact more, especially in groups where you don't know people as well and don't know what mutual interests there might be. I get drug to the wife's gatherings with friends that are all SCUBA divers and they all start talking about diving. I'm not a diver, can't really contribute much, so I occasionally make a crack about something, but otherwise end up just not engaging. Figuring out how to find something to connect on and build common ground isn't natural to everyone. For me…
/r/askTRP20/05/21 03:08 PM
3

8's and up get approached and flattered constantly, and by mostly guys they would never date. They have their pick, so you kind of have to wait until they are in circumstances where they want to be approached or in a more social setting where it's natural, such as ending up at a social event together. Outside of those circumstances, they're just gonna send you away because they've very likely at least got some guy (or guys) railing them already if they're otherwise single. The attention outside …
/r/askTRP20/05/21 02:59 PM
1

she's simply showing her immaturity by crying when you say "i don't think having so much contact with other members of the opposite sex is appropriate if you're seriously dating someone." she's trying to make you feel guilty by crying and making you feel bad for setting a boundary for your LTR that she doesn't want to hold herself to. she wants you to feel guilty and bad so you will back off the boundary, that way she can continue to talk to all these guys, soak up the orbiter attention, and be …
/r/askTRP19/05/21 07:23 PM
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LTR'ing Tinder sloots is a bad idea. LTR'ing at all at 19 is a bad idea. These days at least. But you're going to anyway, so if you want try to build more trust and comfort with each other - get rid of dating apps, reduce social media overall for you both, and you both stop talking to other members of the opposite sex as much. Interact with them publicly face to face only, when you are both present. Set boundaries for yourselves to be trustworthy yourself. You both have to do it as well. If you …
/r/askTRP19/05/21 03:29 PM
1

Therapy is one of those things, where if you have to ask seriously if you need it, the answer is probably yes. In her case, it's gotta be her decision and it's gotta be solely for her own sake, not for you or anyone else. Ie- she'd be doing it if she were single, LTR'd, etc. If the nuns were abusive to their students, chances are she could use a bit of therapy but really just to validate her feelings of hurt but also to coach her on growing past it. If she's not just looking to expand her victim…
/r/askTRP19/05/21 03:24 PM
2

they like them when they want a quick bang that nobody finds out about. they don't like other people finding out about it.
/r/askTRP19/05/21 03:20 PM
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To get her to chase you, she has to miss you. That means you have to not be present and she has to see you being attractive from a distance. So, withdraw attention, find another chick or two, post a few pics for to see you moving on and doing well (being attractive). Simply tell her in response "no sweat. good luck" and then go silent. Don't respond to her in the future unless she's trying re-engage for real. And then, when it happens, don't accept being 2nd place with her. Stick with one or mor…
/r/askTRP19/05/21 02:53 PM
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What to expect from women - sugar and spice and every known vice. Beyond that, expect a lack of a sense of humor. Make them laugh by having fun with them, not necessarily being funny the way a man would think is funny regarding humor. It ain't real complicated.
/r/askTRP18/05/21 08:35 PM
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you're overthnking things. she reached out. now seize initiative, be the relationship leader, and talk to her. take the lead in resolving a conflict. tell her you felt disrespected by her being bitchy about a joke and getting insulting towards you. but be composed, matter of fact, non-emotional in how you deliver it. in other words, tell her without being a whiny butt hurt little bitch yourself. if she reacts badly, honestly it's a red flag and you should re-evaluate continuing to date her.
/r/askTRP17/05/21 08:50 PM
1

There are many people that will feign being victimized in an interaction to cover up their aggression. There are a lot of people that fall for the "always believe her" shit too that reinforces it. I learned an acronym once - "DARVO" Defend Argue Reverse Victim Order. It's basically a strategy that women like this use when they are wrong, they know it, but don't care. It's the out of control entitlement we see from so many women these days. They pull entitled shit and then DARVO when confronted. …
/r/askTRP17/05/21 12:55 PM
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What I learned from my dad was really a no-nonsense attitude and even when shit goes wrong that ain't your fault, it's your job to still choose to accept accountability for how you react to it. He had a no whining rule under all circumstances. It was okay to be tired, worn out, need a rest, but there was no whining and no crying "no fair." I also learned the value of composure (frame as it's call on here) - not letting your emotions get the better of you. It doesn't mean you don't feel, it just …
/r/askTRP11/05/21 02:14 PM
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sometimes a woman gets under your skin more than others. it's actually supposed to happen that way, the issue these days is the things with all the women around that have led to TRP, MGTOW, etc. i'm 45. there's a girl from college 24 years ago that is still a bit under my skin. seen her once in all that time, i think it was 8 or 9 years ago. ithere were things that made her a bad match for me ultimately, so i just ignore it now when it hits. we were FB friends, but i deleted it and now have no f…
/r/askTRP10/05/21 02:44 PM
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i've had a vasectomy. only side effect has been peace of mind of knowing that i won't be having to change diapers at 3 am again. am 45 years old now, by the way. got it at around age 43. haven't had any impacts to my sex drive. had little pain or discomfort from the procedure as well. it was very easy and has remained so ever since. re: sleeping around without condoms - if you haven't been afflicted by some infection passed on from a girl yet, at some point you will be if you won't use condoms. …
/r/askTRP06/05/21 05:28 PM
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i agree with the "dump her now" crowd. no relationship is worth the drama that's happening, regardless of the causes and whose fault. cut your looses and move on.
/r/askTRP05/05/21 07:21 PM
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you gotta wait for her to ask you to intervene. if she is letting the guy keep going, and if in particular if she's egging it on in front of you, there are a lot things that could be driving why she's doing it, and none of them speak to anything good in her character. better to just step away and not watch. later you can simply tell her you thought it was disrespectul of her to that especially in front of you, and you left because you weren't going to tolerate it. what she should do, by the way,…
/r/askTRP05/05/21 02:44 PM
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Just scrolled through and skimmed the responses. I'm 45 myself, have a son, have been through divorce, custody fights, dealt with women that were physically abusive, dealt with DV charges, false allegations, etc. I sit here writing this with a clean record, a great relationship with my son (age 16), a great job and income, no current on-going drama, and even a new wife of 3 years that is as close to a "RP'd woman" as you can get. First - as another said, you have to love yourself as much as you …
/r/askTRP04/05/21 04:41 PM
1

yeah, tell her when you're feeling something but don't let her be a crutch to support you.
/r/askTRP04/05/21 03:05 PM
1

she doesn't want you back for you. she wants you back because she doesn't want to feel bad for being held accountable for treating you like shit. it's totally for herself. couples counseling for a couple that doesn't live together or isn't married is a farce. one of two things will happen - she'll run into a counselor that will call her on her shit and she'll walk out and refuse to go back. or she will find a counselor she'll coopt into an enabler role and then use to triangulate you with. women…
/r/askTRP03/05/21 02:53 PM
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Good job on holding frame during the breakup. When they scream like that, they are just trying to create an emotional response because they're emotionally driven creatures. If you were already done, then not playing into it, letting her shoot her wad, and then letting her go away is best way to go. Being as reactive as a grey rock would be to her screaming is the best way to make sure she doesn't come back. You're still really young, focus on education, career, etc. Don't let women sidetrack you…
/r/TheRedPill29/04/21 05:07 PM
2

i just finished a 6 month smiles plan about 6 weeks ago. i had braces as kid, and they slowly over time shifted, crowded, etc. they're straight again and i love it. i'm 45 by the way. for me, i was getting periodontal issues starting so had to do something as it was more than just visual problems. to me, it's worth it. just shop around - invisalign, 6 month smile, traditional braces - they've all got their place and which one is best for you will vary. heck, i took my son to an orthodontist scho…
/r/askTRP29/04/21 01:16 PM
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Would never happen but if the app developers were to add a "flaked on me" vs. "we actually met in real life" button you could click on a chick's profile so guys could see how many times she's followed through and met vs. just strung dudes along for attention, it might cut down on girls doing this to guys. The guys would stop messaging as they'd see she wasn't a real option for them. But that would require holding women accountable...
/r/askTRP29/04/21 01:09 PM
2

lifting is about more than looks. getting into it and keeping up with it is also about ingraining discipline in yourself. it's about ingraining that hard work pays off with good results. that lesson carries over into over areas of life. it trains your mind to grind through something hard to a successful outcome. lift, don't think of it as a visual attractant only. it's much more and very easily done. if gyms are closed, find a way to get yourself some home weights. i bought a barbell and weight …
/r/askTRP28/04/21 01:28 PM
1

if she'll tell others he's rapey, she'll tell others you are rapey. it's all manipulation game for her. hard next.
/r/askTRP27/04/21 05:45 PM
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she was indeed. she was the lesson that no matter how wild in the sack they are, some women bring a level of drama and baggage with them that ain't worth the crazy sex.
/r/askTRP21/04/21 01:41 PM
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Not at the altar, but I've had women suddenly just leave while giving vague reasons and not willing to talk about it at all. I later always found out one way or another it was because of another dude. I'm echo'ing everyone else, she did him a favor by doing it before the wedding. Edited to add: Relay this to him - a guy online told you a story about an ex- that he thankfully didn't marry. She went on to marry some other guy, they had a bunch of DV issues because she was nucking futs and instigat…
/r/askTRP21/04/21 03:50 AM
1

She'd have branch swung or cheated at some point. It's hypergamy in action. If you'd have LTR'd, she'd have been thrilled, then gotten settled, then gotten bored, then monkey branched back to the cock carousel. It's not a reflection on you, it's just women. Eventually they crave "new" when they're younger. They aren't really ready to settle until they hit the wall and it's forced on them. You simply averted the branch swing and/or cheating ahead of time.
/r/askTRP20/04/21 04:50 AM
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Yeah - hostile dependent is a term a learned on another site. Context there was a SAHM / non-working wife that would spend you into oblivion, creating a circumstance that made it hard to pay for a divorce to get away. Or pay for a new place to get away because you were too in debt. Or any number of other ways a dependent LTR/wife can sabotage you and make it harder to just kick them out on the street. Fact is - they create their own circumstances that become detrimental to us. It's up to us to g…
/r/askTRP20/04/21 03:37 AM
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Sometimes you just have to be willing to be the asshole. You're allowing misplaced obligation to drive your decision making instead of your better judgement. I'll share a story - I'd been with my now ex-wife for a while before the wedding. She had escalating migraine headache problems. I stayed with her because of feeling obligated to not leave her while she was sick, and I followed it all the way through to marrying her. I otherwise knew there were deal breakers, but I did it anyway. Bad idea, …
/r/askTRP20/04/21 01:23 AM
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JMHO - average size doesn't matter. If it's big enough to do the trick, it's big enough. It doesn't have to be huge to get the job done. Based on many convo's overheard over the years, though, it is possible for a guy to be too small. However, that's a very small percentage of men with that affliction. If you're slinging average, you're fine in that department. Just figure out how to use it right. ;-)
/r/askTRP20/04/21 12:48 AM
1

Paternity test. If it's his, then he's one the hook for the child support.
/r/askTRP19/04/21 09:14 PM
1

I've met many women that were visually attractive and then when the opened their mouths, showed themselves to be pretty shallow and rather stupid, the attraction died. I never fought it or tried to force it. For me, I just moved on after experience proved that for me, dealing with a girl's bullshit isn't worth the sex. Her pussy ain't made of some magical cure for cancer. It's just pussy and if it's connected to a dumbass, it ain't worth the hassle that said girl's dumbass'ery is gonna inject in…
/r/askTRP15/04/21 02:47 PM
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if she has ex- issues that affect her with you, time to hard next her. just tell her you're worth being with a woman that won't punish you for the sins of her ex- and be done with her.
/r/askTRP12/04/21 05:53 PM
1

i have one i use on my wife when i'm going down on her. it's not huge. shaped to hit her gspot when i'm sucking her clit. she's reduced to wife-jelly when it's used. that said, if you're getting it because you're not around to satisfy her, it's a temp solution that she'll very likely eventually replace with chad or tyronne (or both together) when you're traveling. can she travel with you? at least sometimes?
/r/askTRP09/04/21 04:08 PM
1

they're banking that you'll stay professionally courteous and not call them out for being dumbasses too harshly. i started working in my career for a guy that had no problem with calling them out harshly, though, and people did not test that guy ever. if they're asking stupid questions, either figure out an A&A (like in response to questions about a project car in your example - "oh i saw them do that on fast and the furious" or "yeah, they were messing around with that kind of thing on pimp my …
/r/askTRP31/03/21 02:51 AM
1

with students - kick 'em out of class, write them up. no tolerance. make 'em do ISS or after school shit at the drop of hat. no arguing, no BS. just let them experience a GTFO reaction. let the principal deal with them. get trouble making distractors out of the classroom, have 'em sit in ISS with class work to do. just next the little fuckers the same as you would a troublesome woman you had dated. with co-workers/principals - shit dude most schools are buildings full of women as far as professi…
/r/askTRP31/03/21 02:30 AM
1

or just decline her offer to hang one on one in the futre, and don't offer yourself. sometimes simple is best and "less is more". let your actions tell her on their own.
/r/askTRP30/03/21 12:03 PM
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hang out with the group, don't go be alone with the one girl again. if she asks, just a simple statement that she's allowed to want to go platonic, and you aren't butt hurt about it but you are also allowed to decline, and you'll see her around with the group. it's okay to not want to be just friends with a girl. they aren't entitled to you like that. when you're around her with the group, just smile, she's just another member, and be the one that is okay with things.
/r/askTRP30/03/21 02:17 AM
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Less is more for you right now with "John". Just stay cool, stay silent, let things cool off. John will one day, sooner or later, be in a position where he just can't white knight his bitch wife and justify her behavior despite being married to her. I suspect you'll hear from John again at some point in the future. Do you, if you don't want to be around her, then don't. I'd also block the ex- in everyway you can.
/r/askTRP30/03/21 02:14 AM
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If there's IOI's, talk to them at the gym. Just keep it short and sweet, make 'em laugh, then get your workout done and talk more later. Tell her to meet up with you after the workout at the smoothie bar or something and you'll talk to her later. If there's no IOI's, she's not in a mindset to be approached at the gym, so don't go there. You'll just be labeled the creepy guy that ogles girls in tights.
/r/askTRP29/03/21 07:14 PM
1

I knew a guy that joined the US Army reserve at 39. Went through basic, AIT, ranger and jump school, and did a deployment to Afghanistan. Don't think age is a deterrent for you. Some guys don't have or like the more disciplined and lifestyle that's impacted by the hierarchy of rank. Some guys get in and thrive in it. I'd not let a friend with a bad experience influence my thinking if I were you because you never know which he is. And going for officer would be the way to go if you can. I will as…
/r/askTRP23/03/21 07:06 PM
2

Personally, I don't mind breaking up with a girl via text if said girl is a uncourteous and disrespectful girl. You're girl didn't rate better than a text, especially if she's running around and it's either text her or stay with her longer until you can see her again? Screw that. When you're ready to move on, move on and if you can't track her down otherwise, send the text, do what works for you and move on. You don't owe her better. Especially her in your case.
/r/askTRP23/03/21 03:52 AM
1

Mainstream society, mainstream media, even the alternative media outlets, and especially social media - if you're gonna watch them, you gotta at least read all sides and realize the truth is somewhere between polarized viewpoints you're seeing. Best way is to go talk to people in the community with an open heart and open ears. Listen more than you talk too. You'll start to get a feel for what's real, what's not, and how much of both truth and lies people are buying and rejecting. Figuring out th…
/r/askTRP23/03/21 01:47 AM
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I think there's some crossover into TRP from PUA, but TRP focuses more building one's self into authentically being more attractive. PUA's are teaching you how to fake it personality wise and it's very limited scope in terms of benefit to you for the time invested. The authenticity along with self improvement from TRP then carries over into other walks of life besides sex and helps improve those too - particularly social life overall and career.
/r/askTRP22/03/21 06:45 PM
7

I won't preach at people, just sharing I'm personally a Christian. However, it's best for believers in anything to others that don't share that belief live and let live. Those that get interested will come exploring. Share with them. Don't try to push it on masses that aren't interested. Even says in the Bible (from a believer's standpoint) that none come until touched first by the Holy Spirit. When you feel it, it's unmistakable. If you haven't felt it, it's impossible for me to share in a way …
/r/askTRP22/03/21 05:40 PM
5

Patrons don't necessarily have to be employed by your firm. A valued client that sticks up for, requests you by name, etc. can be just as valuable. You can also have multiple patrons, clients and coworkers. Having both can be a huge boost to your career.
/r/TheRedPill20/03/21 02:28 AM
1

Having been to the Walmart in Pidgeon Forge, TN, I feel you. Tennessee is feast or famine. Nashville, Chattanooga, Knoxville- the downtown areas are stocked with decent chicks. Get into more tradcon TN, and they get big.
/r/askTRP19/03/21 02:47 AM
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Atlanta here. I'm married and don't fuck around, but before I could get laid at will, and the women were decently attractive. All you had to do was be fit, be attractive, not be a simp, and know how to be a little flirty. It was fish in a barrel if you just want grow you n-count. That said, 90% of the women were empty headed, insipid, shallow cunts. There were very very few worth more than what was between their legs. A bunch of them were cunty enough that what was between their legs wasn't wort…
/r/askTRP18/03/21 09:19 PM
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Fishing. Which is code for sitting on a shore line and drinking while not getting bites. Of course, when you finally do reel in a keeper, it jumpstarts the addiction. Same for hunting - sitting in the woods in the cold and being bored, but when you finally get something and experience the adrenaline rush of a big game kill, you're instantly hooked for life.
/r/askTRP18/03/21 02:51 PM
3

I've seen an increase in people that are in the wrong but getting aggressive when called out. Heck, I almost got into a head on collision yesterday with this jack wagon weaving around and in the wrong lane yesterday, and he went by me after swerving back to his side of the road honking and giving me the one finger salute. I was standing on brakes and swerving off the road to avoid taking a header, but how dare I drive on my side of the road! People are getting more and more entitled and selfish …
/r/askTRP17/03/21 08:38 PM
1

Everyone goes thru a motivation lull. Making yourself go, fight thru it, and do it anyway is what builds dedication. It's where you hone yourself to be able to fight through things you don't want to do but need to do. It will translate into being able to do that outside the gym. You'll benefit from building that in yourself in your career, in your personal life, etc. because you'll be able to better do shit you don't wanna do. Such as dump a chick when you know you should but don't want to for w…
/r/askTRP17/03/21 02:50 PM
1

"I'm not apologizing for your issues from your ex-. Otherwise, good luck to you. No hard feelings on my part." Then do yourself a favor and hard next this girl. She's giving you clear red flags she's got emotional baggage that she's gonna try to saddle you with so she doesn't have to deal with her own shit herself. This never goes well and ends worse. You have the exit ramp in front of you, take it post haste.
/r/askTRP16/03/21 04:21 PM
1

Totally agree. My main point was to advise OP who has a medical condition that results in more wear and tear from less intense workouts on ways to still get decent exercise and not destroy is body in the process. He's got different needs than most of the rest of us. Ultimately, OP getting help from a properly knowledgeable trainer would be best. My sister has a 4 year degree in health/nutrition/exercise, and a bunch of other training and certs now, manages a private health club, and actually spe…
/r/askTRP12/03/21 03:53 PM
1

I'm harkening back to my karate/martial arts days. Do 500 jumping jacks, 200 pushups, and a host of other things all in one workout. Your joints will hurt. Mine did at least at points. It can get to a point similar to repetitive stress injuries. Another example is jogging all the time - especially on hard, paved surfaces. My knees would kill me if I did it too much. These days, at age 45, I eat right, lift 3-4 times a week, go for mild jogs and walks. When I lift, I do a combo of some heavy lift…
/r/askTRP12/03/21 01:39 PM
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respond with "aw man. i bought new handcuffs just for you. seriously though, no problem. see you some other time." if she reaches out, great, if not, it's not a big deal anyway.
/r/askTRP11/03/21 02:31 PM
1

Nodding to the point that calisthenics can get pretty rough on the body. I think for you, maybe a combo of body weight exercises, swimming, walking, jogging, and light weight lifting / high reps is probably the best. Mix in some other physical activities regularly like hiking if there are some challenging trails. Maybe mixing it up a lot will keep you from getting pounded and degraded too much from any one activity? Another thing that might be good for you would be something like yoga or Tai Chi…
/r/askTRP11/03/21 02:28 PM
2

it's about generating engagement and interest on her part. texting can be part of that as long as you calibrate your messaging correctly. if you can create in a feeling in her of "always wanting more" when you meet her and maintain it, she'll respond accordingly. just be careful, when they want too much too quick for the circumstances you're in, it's a red flag. if at a club or some party scene, vacation, etc. - a girl that wants to go get it on, that scenario fits. if you meet at a park on walk…
/r/askTRP10/03/21 06:15 PM
2

I think sometimes the fantasy is great but experiencing it for real turns out to suck. We build up this false belief based on the fantasy that isn't real or correct. Another poster in this thread also said it - once he indulged he figured out the fantasy and reality were very out of step. It wasn't what he thought it would be. It sucked. The fantasy was dispelled by reality. You are thinking the way you are because you already realize the reality of your fantasy is not as good as the fantasy adv…
/r/askTRP10/03/21 02:19 PM
2

well, i'll be honest with you in that i'm one of the few guys that reads here and doesn't outright reject LTR's, marriage, etc. it's the TRADCON values in me. while marrying her to save her is a bad decision, it's okay to recognize that men and women that match well and compliment each other well are good for us when we find it. i don't necessarily hold with the thought that we're all better off staying more unattached. we're better off staying unattached from women that are bad for us. there ar…
/r/askTRP09/03/21 07:27 PM
2

Learning to accept that sometimes things just don't work out how you want them to. She's gotta go due to immigration issues, and you don't want her bad enough to marry her so you don't lose her. Handling it mentally just means being fully in lock step between your emotions and your logical brain. Things are conflicting because you aren't there yet. Your logical brain is saying "don't marry her, I don't want that, I have other plans for my life". Your emotions are saying "I love her, I don't want…
/r/askTRP09/03/21 05:52 PM
1

I'd keep it to myself and try to forget about it. Ask yourself - what will telling dad change or improve FOR YOU. It's on your dad to keep tabs on this shit for himself. Not your job to mind your parent's marriage. All telling will do is introduce family drama that you don't need, and it won't change your opinion of your mom at all. Work on yourself, you're just launching your life. Family drama like that could very well turn into a drag on things you do for yourself.
/r/askTRP09/03/21 03:43 PM
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Someone else mentioned it but you were looking at her dating app profile, which means she still has her's up too, but you're letting her get you all defensive about you having one too? Just tell her "pot meet kettle." Hell, tell her "I was wondering how many guys might be still messaging you since your's is still up too. And oh, by the way, mine comes down when your's does." If she gets aggressive or upset more, escalates, and is clearly going into you can't but she can mode - she needs to becom…
/r/askTRP04/03/21 09:40 PM
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Masculine and feminine compliment each other. Nothing wrong with wanting your own piece of that included in a relationship with a woman. Just understand that in order to get it, you gotta vet and screen women to find one that isn't infected with western feminism radicalism. Such women don't compliment RP'd men well. Of course, they don't compliment BP'd men either. That said - wanting a chick to cry in your arms - nothing wrong wanting to the strong one, but specifically finding a chick that wil…
/r/askTRP04/03/21 07:20 PM
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I had sex with one ex- a few times before cutting it all off for good. First couple times was pure punishing, quasi-violent, hate fucking. Was a kind of cathartic release for me after lots of drama. That woman reveled in being on the receiving end of it too, her enthusiastic consent to being pounded like that is the only thing that kept it from being quasi-rapey as it's impossible for it to be rape when their begging and egging it on so much too. Then, the last time she started trying to turn it…
/r/askTRP03/03/21 06:07 PM
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ask them when they're gonna buy you free meals too.
/r/askTRP02/03/21 04:27 AM
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You're right, when you're a child, you don't owe the adult raising you for raising you. The adult needs to realize that the best pay back is for the child to launch successfully into their own life. It's part of building legacy and passing on to your kids. You invest in them and they carry on the investment with their own success as the return on your investment and carrying on your legacy. At this point, the sooner you are launched and building your own life, the better. What your step father i…
/r/askTRP01/03/21 02:51 PM
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Blatant disrespectful of her. Hard next.
/r/askTRP27/02/21 05:56 AM
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no more contact with her. just be silent. save the text convo's, and even get yourself a backup app that will back them up to a google account or something. i know a few lawyers that have all told me their biggest issue is their client's inability to simply STFU and how they've had many cases they could have won if they're client didn't do themselves in. she probably did this in retaliation for ghosting her. understand though, until you hear from the cops, this isn't real. she might be just ratt…
/r/askTRP26/02/21 04:01 PM
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so you have a transactional relationship with this girl. you spend $$$, you get to fuck her with a condom on, and then she leaves and has the same deal with other guys. she's using her pussy as a meal ticket for being wined, dined, and showered with attention. is that what you want? sounds like probably not. if you want just one that's all your's, she's not it. and being with the wrong woman will prevent you from getting with the right woman. the sooner you get rid of her, the sooner you open up…
/r/askTRP26/02/21 02:50 PM
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Eat better. Lift. Don't think that your own empathy and having heart for a woman having a rough time makes a basis for a relationship or marriage. It's okay to not date them or cut them loose when their hard time starts becoming your hard time and they are doing nothing to themselves to fix it, but are instead making it worse. Find the highest SMV male friends and/or network you can. Don't be afraid to let guys that are swirling their lives down the toilet swirl off into obscurity from yourself.…
/r/askTRP26/02/21 02:37 PM
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Trust should be given until it's broken? Huh? WTF? Trust has to be earned. People are in general too shitty to trust until they prove they're worthy of it. Being more idealistic and giving everyone the benefit of the doubt is gonna get you burned over and over.
/r/askTRP25/02/21 02:40 PM
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Echo'ing first guy that said get training. Start with basic firearms safety course, and build from there. There's a lot more to it than even what you do when you punch holes in still paper targets while standing in a still, upright, no pressured stance. There's even technique on how to safely draw and reholster. It's all got to be learned, practiced, and then practiced how to put rounds on target while moving, the target is moving, and all kinds of crazy is happening, and then you might have a c…
/r/askTRP25/02/21 03:21 AM
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You don't have to be outspoken to others. If they ask YOU directly, it's okay to give the big picture summary - you don't date single mothers. The good men are at the gym under a barbell or at home or at work developing shit for their well being and building themselves into becoming the prize, not out chasing and throwing their hard earned cash after thots that really don't bring anything to the table except their ass. And be aware - when they ask "where are the good men?" they're really complai…
/r/askTRP24/02/21 01:38 PM
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You're right you, you can't control her, you can only control your own choices. She can go see her ex-partner, spend time with him, and as a result since you don't like her doing that, you can make the choice that she can't see you anymore. And seriously, it's not out of bounds to want a GF that respects you and has the courtesy to not do this. Seriously, next her. She'll complain but it's just whining that you're not giving her the do whatever you want, I trust you, disney princess treatment. I…
/r/askTRP24/02/21 01:34 PM
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Tell him he either pulls his weight, pays rent, share of utilities, cleans up after himself, gets a job, starts being a fucking grown up and doesn't act like this anymore, or he has to move back home. It's okay to not want him there under this scenario even if mommy and daddy are paying his rent and bills. I wouldn't want him there either. If he refuses, evict him. He'll be a tenant at will even if not on the lease (if he's there as his permanent home, regardless of how long, and things like if …
/r/askTRP24/02/21 04:46 AM
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The "no judgement" thing refers to a humble attitude and not getting "holier than thou." God doesn't judge or favor us over one another on our own merits. It's simply if you accept Jesus and live for the next life and not this one and love others as God loves you. God extends grace to us in that circumstance. It's a given gift that we're accepting, that's all. "No judgement" means not considering yourself as having higher standing before God than others. Nobody does. And there's a big difference…
/r/askTRP23/02/21 08:20 PM
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My bible doesn't say you have to settle for low quality women and hambeasts to be a Christian, dude. Having compassion for people doesn't mean you have to compromise yourself, your values, and your desires in a partner. I get a lot of religion teaches it's what's inside, not outside that counts, but what's outside is a reflection of what's inside. It's a false teaching that's rooted in trying to not be mean to girls who are otherwise not good LTR material. You can be a Christian and still wait f…
/r/askTRP23/02/21 04:45 PM
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So you're a typical 16 year old teenage guy who lost the genetic dental lottery and doesn't have confidence in himself so he simps for girls. Congratulations, you're normal and in the middle of growing up, and you're figuring out that life doesn't really work the way society around you wants you to think it does. You're ahead of me when I was 16. Getting your teeth fixed will be a good thing for you. Hopefully the braces will also help correct the overbite. They did for me. Just do yourself a fa…
/r/askTRP23/02/21 02:33 PM
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Find a local Toastmaster chapter, join and start going to their events.
/r/askTRP22/02/21 09:50 PM
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She sees you have high SMV, she knows girls, she knows girls will try to steal you. If her insecurity is too much, honestly, she could become rather hard to have an LTR with. At some point, that insecurity becomes a turn off for a man because her trust is undermined despite you doing nothing to give her reason to not trust you. If she starts to act out more from her insecurity, understand you can't fix her, and there's nothing you can do to prove yourself to her because that's what she'll aim fo…
/r/askTRP22/02/21 05:03 PM
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Congratz first of all! That's the result of putting in the work. Next, I think to answer your question (will try not to get long winded): First, you aren't done yet. You've landed the job. Now your challenge is to get in there and do well. Keep pushing to learn your craft and improve. What is your next career step after this one? Do your job well with an eye towards building to what's next. On the same subject of the point above: There are stages of a man's growth. You go from childhood, through…
/r/askTRP22/02/21 02:37 PM
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You could try a local ToastMasters chapter. And these days, membership in Masonic lodges is waning bad. They're jonesing for new members as their current guys are aging and dying off and not being replaced in high enough numbers to maintain the organization. They might be willing to look at anyone depending on the local lodge conditions. I've thought many times recently one of the problems with men's growth in today's western society is we tend to congregate only with guys of our own age, and th…
/r/askTRP19/02/21 03:36 PM
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You're suspicious and trying to get smoking gun type proof she's cheating before giving yourself permission to act and dump her. You're doing this because you're afraid of leaving her. You have a fear reaction of leaving or losing her and you're trying to hamster your own way into believing this is all innocent and maybe she isn't doing anything wrong. You're here posting, though, because deep down you know the truth is she's being deceptive to you in a way that should not be tolerated. I've bee…
/r/askTRP19/02/21 02:09 PM
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When she asks "What's on your mind?" you can filter that through the womanese translator and understand that what she is really asking is "What are you feeling at this moment?" She's asking this because she's looking for shared feelings with you through which she can connect with you emotionally more strongly. It's not a shit test. It's not necessarily a comfort test, but it is a comfort outreach on her part. A blend of cocky/funny answers and true sharing is what's needed to form the stronger e…
/r/askTRP18/02/21 06:48 PM
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Thanks. One other thought to share. Usually, if you're trying to grow to be better and get past BPD, the singler you are the better. Anyone you'll around, you'll repeat habitual patterns with them. Especially close family, LTR's, etc. An extended period of monk mode and keeping distance from family would probably benefit your efforts. Doesn't mean you don't love them or care about them, it means you care about getting yourself straightened out first. You might make big improvements, re-engage mo…
/r/askTRP18/02/21 06:32 PM
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I have dated BPD women before, had an extended LTR with one, so with how I'm going to respond, I wanted to throw out my background for your frame of reference. My experiences and observations (which included counseling from a Forensic Psychologist to help me figure out the dynamics involved and best way to deal with them) is the BPD, at it's core, is really about fear of abandonment and rejection. Something happens to people with BPD at a very young age, some form of significant childhood trauma…
/r/askTRP18/02/21 04:18 PM
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Sounds like you handled it as best as could be expected to be honest. As others said, letting her friends pull her off worked out great. Not hitting her was a good move. Pay no attention to the peanut gallery in the bar saying otherwise. They no nothing. In general, when it comes to physical fights, the cops are trained to look for a "primary aggressor" as the perpetrator. This is NOT the person that starts it, as the laws are written. Instead, it is the person that uses the most violent force. …
/r/askTRP17/02/21 06:20 PM
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Most women at your age have never really had to work for much. They've all been raised to think they are princesses, deserve "equality" but never have been challenged to bring much to the table besides their ass to a dating situation. Therefore, for a guy like you, they come across as boring. And that's because they are. They literally bring nothing to the table besides an increasingly banged out vagina and perhaps the results of prior men's semen in their vaginas (ie - kids). The key is to find…
/r/askTRP17/02/21 04:25 AM
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I don't know about permanent monk mode, but if you aren't ready for a relationship right now then you aren't. Pushing it will only hurt you more. I'd advise you to go see a therapist that specializes in helping adults with autism learn new skills. Just because you haven't learned "people" skills as it relates to dating doesn't mean you can't. Just being here asking this tells me that maybe with the right coaching, you can learn. It just hasn't come naturally to you. Try getting a little speciali…
/r/askTRP17/02/21 03:20 AM
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Simp'ing isn't easier. Those multiyear relationships where the guy just simps to some girl are very hard on the guy. It just doesn't work out well for the guy. You end up run down, worn out, sex starved, and heart broken when she finally branch swings to some guy she's been banging on the side. Better to be single as a man than be a man in a relationship like that. While AWALT is true and there are no unicorns, there are women out there that aren't so conniving. When a girl shows red flags, you'…
/r/askTRP17/02/21 03:08 AM
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I don't have time explain the details, but women that do this to you are only trying to manipulate you into feeling bad. Don't fall for it. They know exactly what they are doing. If a woman walks, then comes back later complaining about it, the only response that's good for you is to shut her down instantly and send her packing immediately and for good. Suffice it to say, if she's into you the way a LTR should be, she won't do this to start with. It should be a deal breaker for all us and I don'…
/r/askTRP16/02/21 08:49 PM
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Go to a range with no range officer, field off away from everything on public land, or some place where you can throw out targets beside paper circles. Things like cans, water jugs, reactive targets (rubbery things you throw on the ground to shoot at, they bounce around when hit), etc. If you have a private land spot to do it, can throw out things like old lawn mowers, washing machines doors, suspend them so they react when hit. Throw a bunch of shit out into a big shooting gallery. Then take a …
/r/askTRP11/02/21 04:37 PM
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Hunting. Those few seconds out of long hours and days when all the scouting, putting up with bugs, studying and learning an area, figuring out patterns and how the right spot to be in when you finally get your sights on target, squeeze the trigger, and see that critter drop (talking deer, hog, turkey...big game) - feel the adrenaline rush and "buck fever" high just once will have addicted for life. And out in the wild, off trails, away from everything, it will definitely reset your mind. On a le…
/r/askTRP11/02/21 03:59 AM
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either her birth control failed and she's pregnant again, she's planning on "accidentally" getting pregnant again by you, or she's planning on getting pregnant again by another guy. might be an opportune time to check in to see if she still feels the same way about holding off on another kid. just ask her how she's feeling about holding off? if it's still the same as last time you talked. she'll say yes, no, or why are you asking? if she responds with why are you asking, just tell her because fe…
/r/askTRP10/02/21 03:54 AM
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just be careful that you don't text something that makes it look like you did anything rape-like or are admitting to something like that. be careful with your wording. might be best to be silent and not say anything at all. and i'm definitely in the camp of moving on. this girl is a lot of things potentially, but good romantic company is not one of them.
/r/askTRP09/02/21 03:37 PM
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She's either an insecure narc or you're her girlfriend.
/r/askTRP08/02/21 08:58 PM
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my wife involuntarily squeezes her legs together when she cums, especially at the end of her orgasm. she says she can't help herself, just something that happens. i've taken to driving into her to the hilt, and instead of thrust, grinding myself around on her clit without the in-and out. keeps the stimulation going and extends her orgasm a little more. i do it until she says she can't take anymore and she tells me to stop. i get a kick out of fucking her into submission and crying uncle like tha…
/r/askTRP08/02/21 06:13 PM
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If my mom did that, I'd tell her she removed herself from my life when she abandoned my family. I'd also tell her as long as she's doing shit like with the car she's also hurting me and my future by ruining what dad could pass on to me and I don't want people who hurt me in my life. As for your dad, he's been betrayed and had his life ruined by someone that took an oath to always be there and there is no recourse for him. You can't fix that, but you can show you get it and he's not alone. Just b…
/r/askTRP06/02/21 02:54 PM
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I've just done it when she was smiling and leaning in towards me. I've asked first. I've told her something like "come here, I'm gonna kiss you now." Usually, if she's wanting to be kissed she doesn't much care about the details. There is usually a better reception if you read the signs right, and just do it, or tell her more affirmative/assertively you're gonna do it, than if you ask permission. Generally, she wants you to be clued enough to not have to be verbalized that you have her consent. …
/r/askTRP05/02/21 11:11 PM
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I just stopped in to say when I first scrolled through my eyes initially saw the thread title as "Soft Nut is not for LTRs?" Had to do a double take.
/r/askTRP05/02/21 09:39 PM
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Totally agree with you. He posted another update, though, and the dumbass actually called her back. That's not the action of someone trying to move on. He's gonna undermine his case for a RO by doing that kind of shit.
/r/askTRP05/02/21 09:37 PM
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I commented on prior posts about this, but will just reiterate this: Your best move is no further contact with her. All you've taught her by taking the call is the level of manipulation she needs to wratchet up to in order to get you to re-engage now. Now she's always gonna go right to threats to kill herself, blaming you for her rep, and all that other crap. She's a bunny boiler looking for a place to explode and she's trying to do it in your life. These people tend to accumulate a host of enab…
/r/askTRP05/02/21 04:48 PM
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Start with implementing a healthier diet. See how much if any difference that makes. From there, if you get no relief, proceed to trying some sort of supplement. Probiotics are one. There are many many more. Eventually, if no or little relief, time to see a doctor. For background, my wife has issues with her digestive track. Life long thing. She eats clean, takes a bunch of supplements, probiotics, and if she's not careful she still has issues. She's seen docs', nobody has ever figured out any r…
/r/askTRP04/02/21 08:09 PM
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"I know that's not true." Gives them an out to be innocently wrong instead of out and out lying. The other thing is to simply state what you know is true instead of asking questions or trying to trip them up. An example would be when I confronted my ex-wife the first time over cheating. I simply said "you're cheating on me with <name>." Lots of denials. "you're lying. i already know you're cheating on me with <name.>" it went back and forth, she wore down and eventually admitted to some of it. d…
/r/askTRP04/02/21 07:17 PM
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test some waters. next time there's the chance, tie her hands behind her back with a neck tie or something, bend her over standing at the edge of bed, and let her have it. give her a good ass smack, pull her hair, grab her by her elbows and pull her back into you while thrusting hard. hell, put her in a full nelson and keep her forced over while tied like that. when done, figure out some WWE jokes to crack at her too.
/r/askTRP04/02/21 04:56 AM
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See the Hot Crazy Matrix A Man's Guide to Women https://youtu.be/pInk1rV2VEg
/r/askTRP04/02/21 03:10 AM
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She's just trying to take control of the breakup for some reason. Don't give it to her. I guarantee you she's ghosted dudes before. You called her and told her. She's not entitled to anything from you, including indulging her let her unleash her hamster on you under the guise of "closure". I'd advise you to ignore her and move on.
/r/askTRP03/02/21 10:12 PM
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probably an elevated fear of conflict, so you avoid starting conflict even when you shouldn't. that usually stems from not knowing how to focus on the issue vs. the person. now, sometimes you get a person that you bring up a conflict, intending to not beat them up and just stay cordial and courteous, but you still end up with a bad reaction from them. nothing you can do about that, it's simply them revealing their true nature to you more openly. when they show you who they are like this, believe…
/r/askTRP03/02/21 06:49 PM
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extroverted vs. introverted. and some attention mongering, likes the eyes it brings when she slaps a guy's ass, likes others thinking "she's a bit wild". if you're in uni, honestly it probably doesn't matter much. good chance of going separate ways at some point. you can either make a deal of it, enjoy things right now and let them run their course. i will say don't put a lot of energy into finding a life partner. if she fits for right now, great. let her until she doesn't anymore, and don't str…
/r/askTRP03/02/21 05:28 PM
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i agree with the "let her do what she wants" statement but i also agree i'd not be comfortable with her slapping other dude's asses. my stance is always an LTR should be able to properly police herself, i shouldn't have to be in the role over her. if you're only 2 months in and this is going on already, you're in a rough ride with this girl. don't mistake being able to have a good time and good fun with her vs. her being a good LTR that shares values, respects you and values the relationship, an…
/r/askTRP03/02/21 02:38 PM
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she probably was fucking someone else. she tried to branch swing and it fell through. the rest is all a panic reaction to abandonment. she's not acting or thinking rationally. she's a slave to her feels, whatever they are in the moment, and that can change between fear, anger, self loathing, anger at you, or many other things at the drop of a hat. don't try to make sense of it beyond she's not controlling her emotions, she's not in control at all. there won't be any more making sense of than tha…
/r/askTRP03/02/21 02:32 PM
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having something play out publicly can feel embarrassing, but everyone has things go wrong. if you show yourself handling it like a boss, when it's all over and you just say "well, that blew up. it's over now, good luck to her. onward with life" to everyone you'll be fine. maybe even better than fine. observers will know you can manage grace under fire well. regardless of how corrupt or honest a cop is, if you aren't in the same room and aren't physically able to contact her, you'll be alright. …
/r/askTRP03/02/21 02:29 PM
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Oh - and if the cops try to get you to cave to make their lives easier, DON'T. Officer, she's an ex-, she's not invited, she can't stay here, she needs to leave. She don't have to go home but she can't stay here. No officer I won't change my mind. Please make her leave. Don't engage in any kind of relationship history beyond you broke up and she doesn't live with you. She'll try to engage them to get sympathy. They might fall for it. Hold the line if they try to pressure you.
/r/askTRP03/02/21 04:35 AM
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Actually, yes you can. All you have to do is not open the door. If she shows up DO NOT OPEN THAT FUCKING DOOR. If she's on the other side banging on it, tell her to leave. If she refuses, don't open the door, let her make a scene, give it a few minutes. Someone else might call. Let them. Cops show up, take charge, you say "yes sir" a lot. You show tell them she's from out of town, an ex-, and you have not laid a hand on her. Then you tell them about the breakup, the attempts to re-engage and you…
/r/askTRP03/02/21 04:30 AM
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I agree with the no cops advice. Cops are not there to protect the man. They aren't there to help resolve things. They are there to arrest somebody. That's what they do. Anyway, before a restraining order would work you would also need to show you had told her specifically to not contact you again. I'd just keep blocking her and all her flying monkeys, eventually they'll give up.
/r/askTRP02/02/21 07:47 PM
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From an online "girl" - she's a time waster at best, more likely a dude catfishing you, some kind of scammer, or something else that isn't a real potential dating opportunity. I suggest you cease contact and go find other options. Not worth the trouble regardless of what the reality is.
/r/askTRP02/02/21 04:08 AM
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One more point - nothing is certain. Your unicorn could still turn out to be a disaster. And divorce is a ruin to a man's life. So be very, very discerning before marrying anyone. I'm a professing, practicing Christian these days, and I still tell my son (16 y/o) that marrying is dangerous and only getting worse for men these days. Not gonna sugar coat it for him and teach him there's some unicorn for him somewhere. It's about values and boundaries. How does she live her life? Does she hold hers…
/r/askTRP02/02/21 03:39 AM
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Yup, I'd tell 22 y/o me to marry the unicorn if the option were open to me. I have a friend that did just that. He's never been divorced, and therefore never divorce raped. He's never had false allegations, never had stupid women troubles, etc. That decision protected him from the fallout of other choices he could have made. He's in his 50's now. Kid's are out of the house. He's got life on easy street. There's a reason all the religions recommend the unicorn wife / husband partnership they do. …
/r/askTRP02/02/21 03:33 AM
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it's about values and how you live your life and the position you put yourself in. you're putting yourself in position to meet girls that just want to fool around. if you want to meet LTR worthy girls, gotta figure out new hunting grounds and ways to meet them.
/r/askTRP02/02/21 03:08 AM
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I gotta tell you this - you can go off looking for new experiences with other women and it will prove in spades why TRP exists. I'm divorced, had other LTRs, ONS, fuck buddies, and now remarried. I'm remarried because I got sick of parading different women through my bed. They weren't worth the trouble they brought. I was seriously falling into a peaceful MGTOW type mindset (no anger, just happier on my own without the BS that most women have attached to and falling out of their vaginas) when I …
/r/askTRP02/02/21 03:05 AM
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the question "what are we?" can always be translated as "i want you to LTR me" when you're dealing with a plate or FWB. never think any different. your FWB wants more but isn't pushing too hard. at the same time when she's see you messing with other women, she's hurting and jealous. chances are she's also hurt a bit that she's messing with her ex- and you don't care because it implies you care less for her than she would like. i must be softening in my old age but regardless of what she says, si…
/r/askTRP01/02/21 06:10 PM
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She might not have been flirty or anything but she showed she's got the propensity to be sneaky and do something that anyone would find questionable. And keep doing it and try to hide it. That means when she wants something that will be bad for the relationship, she'll go do it and try to hide it. Think of it in these terms - 3 years from now you're married and find out she's been secretly running up debt because she wanted to spend on frivolous stuff and hid it from you. All the sudden that hou…
/r/askTRP01/02/21 03:24 PM
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At 17, you won't be the best version of yourself. Men peak at 30. That said, to reach your highest peak you can in the future, it's a pretty simple recipe. Lift, eat well, alcohol in moderation, no drugs, and work hard a developing a successful career. Beyond that, many a young man has been ruined by getting mixed up with the wrong woman. Or the wrong women. Don't knock one up, don't live with one, and stay smart so you don't catch false allegations complaints. It won't be long before the slacke…
/r/askTRP29/01/21 08:38 PM
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I've experienced that a few times. Certainly might not be this, but when I have, the girl always later told me she had boyfriend. Her agitation was really more related to her own guilt and feels over messing around with me instead of her boyfriend. Usually said girl also later said she mad at him or some shit, and the feels she was having over being mad, cheating, her hamster spinning out of control, and her emotions got out control. I said that to say this - whatever it was, it was likely nothi…
/r/askTRP29/01/21 04:50 PM
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See "Fatal Attraction" and the term "Bunny Boiler".
/r/askTRP28/01/21 09:22 PM
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I get wanting to help. I get wanting to tell him to wise up. I don't think it's necessarily bad to tell him you think she's full of shit about the cancer, you question is the kid really his. I don't think it's bad to tell him to get a paternity test, or look for some kind of paperwork that validates the diagnosis. Be prepared when you say this for him to cut you out of his life. At some point, he will completely shit the bed, crash and burn, the truth will come out, and even if it's years in the…
/r/askTRP28/01/21 05:22 PM
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You're lifting, eating clean, recognizing you need something else. I'm gonna guess your job prospects are hard right now, so I'm gonna go out on a limb and say the biggest thing you lack is being your own man, independently in life. A sustaining job that actually produces something useful and lasts. Restaurant work, aside from the highest end places, usually doesn't produce an income that can get you what you need for self-fulfillment. So instead, you need to start looking to develop a better ca…
/r/askTRP28/01/21 03:02 PM
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She wanted an LTR, was hoping you'd chase when she broke it off. You didn't, so now she's chasing still wanting an LTR. She doesn't know how to simply sit down without playing games, tell you she's caught feelings and ask for what she wants. It's fear of being rejected so she won't do it bluntly. I don't think disrespect was intended. I think it's immaturity on her part and typical of women today.
/r/askTRP27/01/21 08:14 PM
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She broke up with you, she got what she asked for which was to not being dating you anymore. Maybe she didn't expect you to move on. Maybe she expected some groveling or something that would reset the power structure where she'd be in charge after her envisioned reconciliation. No matter what was in her mind then vs now, she was likely playing relationship fuck fuck games in some manner. That alone is reason enough to simply keep moving on from her at this point because who wants to be with some…
/r/askTRP27/01/21 08:08 PM
1

you didn't ask to be there. they made you. at some point you're totally on there dime, but it does transition from that to you becoming not on their dime. it's a process, though. not sure how old or where you are in that process. it's necessary to grow from one to the other as they won't be around forever. are you able to afford rent somewhere? maybe with a roommate? especially if you got a place close to school and close to job if that's possible? i didn't have a car in college. rode the bus an…
/r/askTRP26/01/21 04:40 PM
1

Perhaps telling them that instead of helping him with the needs of the moment, you're focused on building yourself to the point where you can get out on your own and not be an obligation of his anymore. Not being another mouth feed would be a bigger load off him than any amount of helping at the hospital cafe. He could hire someone else to help at the cafe too. He just wants his family around him. Nothing wrong with that, but the bigger picture is you, and he, are better off with the path you're…
/r/askTRP26/01/21 03:49 PM
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I am a now remarried, divorced father. One son that is now 16. I have cunt of an ex-wife that in the past has pulled all the same crap you mentioned your baby-mamma pulling, trying to sabotage my life after the divorce as much as she could out of simple vindictiveness. These days, things are on a much better footing. I have officially 50/50 custody, but he's here most of the time in reality. Figuring out how to get back to incorporating some time for enjoying the pleasures of female company as d…
/r/askTRP26/01/21 03:42 PM
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Consider this - i'm sure the boss knows everything you're stating. boss doesn't care. chances are, more people in the company power structure also know, and they let it go on without caring either. Now ask yourself - what does that say about the company's overall professionalism? It means there are issues. It also means if it was this issue with this woman, it'd be something else because the company has professionalism issues to start with. Chances are, there are other things that maybe you have…
/r/askTRP25/01/21 09:03 PM
2

then stop electing him. i see so many people complaining, it's enough that plenty have to be still voting for them. in the end, we get the government we deserve in democracy.
/r/askTRP25/01/21 01:01 AM
2

I'm married now to a girl that would fit the absolute definition perfectly of for the type of woman TRP says to find. And I gotta tell you, she's about as close to "unicorn" status as one can get. That said, I have an old college flame that I never fucked, only kissed her once, and she still floats in my thoughts sometimes. We were FB friends before I deactivated, and the only reason I might reactivate is really to keep tabs on her, to keep the connection. Which is totally fucking stupid. Someti…
/r/askTRP24/01/21 10:13 PM
2

Even if you got digits, you'd be starting it off on a footing where you are giving her free shit. She'd be expecting that to continue. Don't do it. Also, no shitting where you eat, mixing business and personal, etc. - standard stuff there. If the owners are down with it, wear some kind of funny hat or something. Something as an attention getter in addition to the regular get up. Or have a funny hair cut. Something so they remember you. It's bound to happen that some cutie will be on the beach ne…
/r/askTRP24/01/21 08:00 PM
2

sounds like a girl that wants the LTR upgrade. not crazy, just falling for you but doesn't know how to pursue the upgrade in a healthy way. used to guys falling for her so she gets to choose and have the power, instead of now where she doens't have the power. she just doesn't know how to behave in the role reversal. which means she's not naturally submissive in LTR's. she might be in bed, but outside of bed she's gonna be trying to beta-fy you and take the lead. there are too many women out ther…
/r/askTRP24/01/21 03:27 PM
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I'm always weary of when the girl's history is abused by everyone around her. In my experience, when I've gotten to know the girl more and more, usually it turns out "abusers" are people that wouldn't enable some fuckery of her's. The level of claimed "abuse" varies from chick to chick, but it's always turned out that way. These days I simply avoid women that claim to be victimized by lots of people.
/r/askTRP24/01/21 03:01 PM
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She knows about hypergamy and branch swinging, and she sees you as SMV, so she knows another woman could make a pass. She's worried a higher SMV woman could steal you away from her. She wants you to isolate yourself from women to reduce the risk of losing you to a branch swinging slut. She's really needing comfort. Even if you wanted to, you can't just promise to not have contact with 50% of the population and actually keep that promise. It's not doable. I can't tell you how to give her the comf…
/r/askTRP22/01/21 07:45 PM
1

at 41 I was 50 lbs overweight, no real strength, decent job but just kind of lost and floundering. one day i just decided to change. started lifting hard corp, keto and intermittent fasting together, lost 50 lbs in 2.5 months. i also went from shitty to decent physique, revamped style, etc. decided to be my best and project my best by always looking my best. my career jump started. friend circle expanded and improved. social life jump started. family respect skyrocketed. my son caught on and has…
/r/askTRP22/01/21 03:50 AM
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If it ain't broke, don't fix it.
/r/askTRP21/01/21 06:38 PM
1

My wife (and other women as well) have all expressed the fantasize about being used sexually by Chad. So sometimes, be Chad, and don't be tender about it. Jump in there and use them how you want to. When they see you as high SMV, they love it.
/r/askTRP21/01/21 04:16 PM
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First time I told my wife to give herself a helping hand while had her in doggie style, and then while she was riding me, she came like a water fall. After she told me she hadn't done that before and couldn't believe how much extra it turned her on. I very soon after had her start doing it during blow jobs too. Her enthusiasm is definitely heightened while sucking and cumming at the same time. It's rather fun to receive it.
/r/askTRP21/01/21 04:12 PM
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Be a bit dominating. Grab her, turn her over, spank her ass, grab her by the hips and lift her up on her knees, and go to work. Direct her into what you want to do. Another good one is straddle her chest, grab her hair by the back of her head, and direct her mouth to your cock. Be dominating and in control, but not overly aggressive to the point of violent and causing pain. When she's gone limp like that, she's surrendering to you. Accept the surrender and become her captor. She's saying through…
/r/askTRP21/01/21 04:06 PM
1

Crab bucket jealousy. Best response is not reacting. Just wait and see if anyone else asks about it. If they do, "what do you think?" is a great retort. People are always going to pull this kind of thing. When you get out of high school you get to get away from it a little though. They are the same people you'll find waiting on your table in 5-10 years when you're moving up in the world and they're still being jealous of gains but not lifting a finger for themselves.
/r/askTRP20/01/21 08:39 PM
2

I'm in the don't block camp. Blocking is reserved for chicks that are being antagonistic. Otherwise, it relays butt hurt emotions that even if you feel them, better to stay composed, stay in control and project better self composure. Fact is people all know we all get a little emotional and butt hurt, that's part of being a human. People also respect it more when we don't act out stupid when feeling those emotions. It shows you're on a higher rung of the manhood totem pole. As for responding to …
/r/askTRP20/01/21 02:57 PM
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Stop worrying about passive aggressive, covert communicating through instagram songs. Don't react, don't participate in that shit. If she can't see you for 2-3 weeks, she's not your girlfriend. She's got another guy on the line and is trying to reel him in before letting go of her backup plan (that would be you). Just be upfront and tell her things aren't working for you, wish her well, and end the LTR. Don't tell her anything else, just be brief and be done. And no more social media bullshit. A…
/r/askTRP18/01/21 05:59 PM
3

Grey rock her. That means be as interesting and reactive to her as a grey rock. Just do your job, be professionally courteous to your coworkers, and do not respond or react to her. What will happen is that what others hear her say vs. their own experience of you will not match. It will become obvious where the problem is, ie - HER. If she organizes things without you, she does it. Don't let on it bothers you. A guy with options wouldn't be bothered, he'd go hang out with his other options. If yo…
/r/askTRP18/01/21 04:52 PM
2

Whether she's diagnosably BPD or not, that's still a lot of red flags, as is her still trying after a year of no contact. It means she's a really broken woman, not fit as an LTR even though she's probably genuinely pitiable. In other words, it's okay to feel bad for her, hope she gets help and heals herself, but feeling bad for a damaged woman is not a good basis for an LTR with one. If you're looking for confirmation that you're doing the right thing, you are. All further involvement with her f…
/r/askTRP18/01/21 03:51 PM
1

I say this as a guy that knocked up a hookup. The lady got an abortion, she was never in question, just wanted help paying for it. For my part, I was relieved and guilty at the same time. I still feel awful about it. I was willing to do a part as a non-married, non-custodial father. Wasn't gonna marry her and raise a kid together. Having said that, you did what you did. Need to find out what she wants, if she wants to keep it, then she keeps it. In that case, get a DNA test to confirm paternity.…
/r/askTRP18/01/21 03:46 PM
1

I'm a Christian. In terms of sleeping around, there isn't any difference in rates of sleeping around between believers and non-believers. The good book says there should be, but it also recognizes that even Christians are still sinners, they still sin about the same as everyone else. She's lining you up as her rebound guy after dumping the last guy. It's that simple. Don't go into this thinking of her as anything other than an older woman that wants to smash some and then will discard you when s…
/r/askTRP15/01/21 07:09 PM
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Umm, if this is serious, not only should you end the LTR with her, you should have already done so. It's real simple, if she wants to be with the other guy, tell her to go be with the other guy. Don't be her backup or backburner guy.
/r/askTRP15/01/21 06:41 PM
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Stepping out to get in a fight in the middle of traffic with a yoyo guy like that would have been really stupid. Him following you just so he could cuss you out really shows he's a total idiot with no composure or self control. You not rising to take the bait shows you are actually higher on the "real man" totem pole as you held frame, stayed composed, and didn't do anything stupid yourself. That guy, if he doesn't grow up, will be undermining himself with stupid, emotional decisions for the res…
/r/askTRP15/01/21 02:18 PM
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it's real simple. she wants to go have some "on her own" time. regardless of what she does on said time, if she's wanting to do it, it means she's not in a settled state in life and therefore not suitable LTR material for you. chick's with chaos in their hearts will create the same in the lives of those around them. all you've done is freed her from any moral obligation to the life she's running from. you've done her a favor. her reactions to being dumped is very likely driven by insecurity. she…
/r/askTRP15/01/21 02:12 PM
2

Totally agree. I think only those that either pay taxes or are true public servants (military, cops, firemen, etc.) should have voting rights. Anyone pulling in the earned income tax credit should be barred. The contributors are being out voted by the non-contributors.
/r/TheRedPill15/01/21 02:49 AM
3

Very close to my own thoughts. I didn't like him personally, but he was a better advocate for my values overall though than Hillary or Biden. I keep telling people - vote based on values in the general election, even if you don't like the candidate closest to your values. Vote for the best person in your view in the primaries, though. If conservatives didn't like Trump or were turned off by him, they could have found someone to challenge Trump for the nomination and voted that guy into the nomin…
/r/TheRedPill14/01/21 09:34 PM
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Facebook, Google, and others are even now laying their own privately owned long haul cable systems and plan to sell excess capacity. Won't be long before the Big Tech companies have a monopoly in every way over telecommunication, and to communicate at all remotely, you'll have to conform to their views and agendas. And as all totally privately, non-government entities, they'll have a right to censor you as they see fit. And just think, Mark Z. started FB as a platform to rate women hot or not. A…
/r/TheRedPill14/01/21 09:26 PM
0

Ha! I'm an American as well. My fellow Americans are accelerating just how stupid they are by the minute.
/r/TheRedPill13/01/21 05:29 PM
1

Unfortunately latching onto small things that don't matter and missing the important point is now the American way.
/r/TheRedPill13/01/21 03:04 AM
3

It's because most of the guys aren't as bad ass as they post. They finally score with one kinky chick and it's super exciting because they've never done it before. Hence the excitement. After you've had your way with a bunch of them, especially the ones that are super kinky from the get go, you find most of them are damaged goods and the hot sex isn't worth the trouble they bring outside the bedroom. The better ones are the "good" girls that you have to train a bit, and create the kink in her. T…
/r/askTRP12/01/21 02:57 PM
2

Doesn't hurt to send a comfort text. Just something brief. She just wants to know that you're thinking about her. Just don't over do it, both with number of texts or length. Keep it light. Don't text long love letters, don't text long daily updates, etc. Vary the subjects. Sometimes it's a quick question about something you know she was doing - like how'd that thing at work go? or a a quick update about yourself - like man i killed it at the gym today. Sometimes it's a sappy meme with a teddy be…
/r/askTRP11/01/21 07:30 PM
2

If he's not open to hearing, then he's not open to hearing. Fact is, wives cheat because they have lost their respect and value for their husbands. That happens in many cases because the husbands stop respecting themselves, demanding respect from others, and enacting consequences for when others disrespect them (ie - nexting people that disrespect them). In other words, the husbands become weak in their wive's eyes, not worthy of being respected. He's only continuing to do what he's likely alrea…
/r/askTRP08/01/21 04:15 PM
1

Better to be honest, but be blunt but gentle. At this point, you've likely fucked yourself out of all chances with all of these girls. I honestly recommend you simply cut your losses and cut off things with your girlfriend. Move on. You'll never completely unfuck this at this point. You'll be doing you and her a big favor to end it and move on. On a side note - I gently and bluntly honest and not the "brutally honest" cliche because every person I've ever met that described themselves as brutall…
/r/askTRP06/01/21 11:23 PM
1

Some people don't take tests like that well. They stress out, get stuck on questions, get fooled by trick answers, etc. There are strategies to compensate. There are a gazillion test taking strategy articles on the web. Try googling for them and reading up. One tip is to read through all the questions first without trying to answer. Simply mark them as "easy, medium, hard". Then go through and do all the easy ones so you don't get suck on a hard one and miss out on getting credit for other easy …
/r/askTRP05/01/21 04:49 PM
1

The longer you let a bad situation continue, the deeper the hole you dig for yourself. You'll take a hit when you leave. It's a matter of a hit now, or a worse hit later. Man up, take the hit, be the asshole now. Be equitable to her in the process so you can look yourself in the mirror in the future.
/r/TheRedPill02/01/21 04:06 PM
2

I'm 45 and finishing braces treatment to correct a bunch of teeth problems. It's been building up to it for a long time, if i'd have had the money prior i'd have done it sooner. That said, even with crooked teeth, I collected my share of bedroom notches. You're fam might be short on money, but once you're on your own, ask yourself if you'll be able to get into a position to pay for it yourself later? (Hint - answer is yes as long as you don't screw up your life and make wise career and financial…
/r/askTRP22/12/20 10:51 PM
5

Gonna be a hard hearted guy here but if you break up, move out, take the dog. Just do it. There won't be any rules about who gets the dog other than possession is 9/10th's of the law. You don't need to tell her about it ahead of time. Just find a place and move out, and take the dog, without warning to her. You don't owe a woman that has devolved like that the courtesy of prior notice. And giving it to her can actually lead to things that are bad for you, like false allegations and court orders …
/r/askTRP22/12/20 10:42 PM
1

You're welcome. And obviously those old horrid movies are good to watch if the girl likes them but likes them more as an excuse for some netflix and chill time.
/r/askTRP22/12/20 02:37 PM
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George Clooney and Leonardo DiCaprio seem to do okay and not get nitpicked to death for their parade of women. They even get celebrated for it. As long as they spout off the popular progressive social warrior crap in public, nobody seems to care that their lifestyles vs. their mouths don't seem to line up. I get what you're saying though. Society loves a guy that builds himself up but then seems to love to tear him down too.
/r/askTRP21/12/20 03:32 PM
1

whether she cheated or not, whether it was prank or not, it's not something to prank someone with. between that, the sudden distance, and her new 1/2 long distance thing that she has seemingly decided solely on her own, i see enough to warrant nexting her immediately. this is a girl that wants to have it all her way, otherwise she'd have asked and not told about the long distance stuff, she'd be saying she understands if you decide to walk instead of "i don't want to breakup". you're dealing wit…
/r/askTRP21/12/20 03:23 PM
2

come with creative ways to fuck her to stay interested. bend her over with her hands tied behind her back and ball gag in her mouth. push her head down and hold her down while you hammer her doggie style. make it a somewhat uncomfortable posture for her. next day, it's anal sex time for her. next day, throat fuck her. next day, just make her give you a hand job. seriously, this isn't hard to figure out.
/r/askTRP21/12/20 03:19 PM
1

in my experience, when a woman goes from loving you to disrespecting you, talking shit about your friends and family, and being a bitch, then she's probably cheating. they have make up shit to themselves to rationalize why it's okay for them to cheating to soothe their own guilty conscience. there isn't much you can do to stop a cheater. a cheater's gonna cheat. plain and simple. to focus on you - develop yourself better frame and self control. that requires a strong healthy ego (note - not a na…
/r/askTRP21/12/20 02:52 PM
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not sure what country you're in, but three steps to start with: -Gym. Get a lifting coach, do a few sessions for basic technique coaching so you don't hurt yourself, and then go 4 times a week. Just do basic lifts for a year, hit the jogging machine for cardio (or jog outside somewhere - park where others jog is a good one), and eat well. Keep it simple. After a year, get a coach again and learn some more intermediate/advanced lifts and exercises. Build on the foundation and keep growing. -There…
/r/askTRP20/12/20 09:30 PM
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I agree - best revenge you can take is to send her hamster into overdrive. Don't reveal you know about her cheating. No reason to. And honestly, she'll figure it out eventually anyway. Don't bother trying to tell the other guy. The key here is to get her and the drama that she can bring with her behavior out of your life, not invite more of it. Telling the other guy simply keeps you connected to it all. Cut the strings and move on.
/r/askTRP20/12/20 08:13 PM
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I've experienced this, seen other guys experience it. I agree with others, there is no reigniting her attraction. It would require a "reset" for her to see you as an entirely new guy instead of the guy she's known for 4 years. A reset like that to overcome 4 years of prior pre-disposition is extremely hard and almost impossible, to the point that OP would be best served to cut ties, not waste anymore time or investment, and move on immediately. One of the reasons she is doing this is because she…
/r/askTRP20/12/20 07:12 PM
1

Note one other thing - once King David had boned her, he was no longer so taken with her. He was back in his right mind (sort of) trying to distance himself from her. In other words, if you end up being kind of taken in by and mesmerized by a woman, it won't last forever. Eventually the petals fall off the rose and you realize how stupid you were to pedestalize her to start with, regardless of how attractive she is.
/r/askTRP18/12/20 08:43 PM
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Women talk to much. We all know this. So if you are jabbering too much, you are being like a woman and that's not attractive to a woman, even a lesbian. Men say what's necessary and don't bother with more. Far too many males these days, though, jabber on like idiot women, and it simply dries out pussies. When a male turns out to be a man, the pussies get wet again, and the women line up for their turn.
/r/askTRP18/12/20 06:07 AM
1

In some circles, the biggest thing you can get from women is when you have a good one on your arm and all the other guys know you're fucking her, then it helps you move up in the guy-hierarchy.
/r/askTRP18/12/20 05:18 AM
4

Some women like to be looked at. She's probably one of them and she makes sure there's something to look at. As far as not being able to keep your eyes off her, I believe that every man has his "Bathsheba". No matter how RP'd, how much composure and frame you have, for every man there is a woman out there that will mesmerize you. For those that don't know, in the Bible, there's a story about King David being mesmerized by the wife of Uriah, her name was Bathsheba. David had to have her, so had h…
/r/askTRP18/12/20 01:37 AM
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I'm gonna go out on a limb and say that RP doesn't mean treat people like shit. If her shit talking is a deal breaker, it's a deal breaker. Next her and move on. If you're gonna keep her around, then it's on you to treat her with a little respect, not for her sake, but your own. Being the best version of yourself isn't just about lifting and career. It's also about you as a person. There's an aspect of treating others as you want to be treated - with respect and dignity. Again, if you can't do t…
/r/askTRP17/12/20 09:51 PM
2

My advice is that if she's catching feels and you aren't, better to hurt a little now with honesty and cut her loose than hurt her a lot more later by stringing her along. Next bit of advice, if you only see her once a week and don't have any other interaction besides sex, and she's falling for you - that's a red flag about her. She has attachment issues in that she's becoming very attached despite not having a wide enough range of experience with you to justify said attachment. She's falling pr…
/r/askTRP17/12/20 03:43 AM
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Life is hard. It's harder when you do stupid shit. She's gonna have a stomach and pussy full of his spooge when she leaves. It was a big mistake to date a girl like this to start with, and a continuing big mistake to think that she'll not be a cum dumpster slut with this guy now. A tiger doesn't change it's stripes. You need to get away from her, just next her and be done with it.
/r/askTRP15/12/20 04:22 AM
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Women always want a man that other women would want too. So if you're in a relationship with a decent girl, other girls will see it as social proof and it will raise your SMV in their eyes. The caveat is if you mis-apply TRP or backslide to BP'd simping, it can backfire because girls talk and they'll all have the message going around that you are a fake man, not a real man. There's a bible proverb - "better to be silent and thought a fool than open your mouth and prove it." or another version " …
/r/askTRP15/12/20 03:00 AM
1

if it's the lie that bugs you, i'm a fan of calm confrontation with your mind made up. it's not a discussion or debate with her. just a simple "i know you lied about what you told me. i'm ending things and moving on." and then end the interaction. say nothing else to her. respond to nothing else. if she says some form of "no i didn't!!" then simply say "good luck to you but goodbye." if you do anything you only invite the opportunity for her to lie more.
/r/askTRP15/12/20 02:48 AM
1

I have some friends whose son just dumped a girl because she was boring him. As they talked about how she couldn't keep up intellectually, all I could think was TRP perspective on girls, how feminism and beta'd guys and the current trend that every girl is princess has created an entire generation of girls that have very little between their ears and think they don't have to offer anything to a relationship. I kept most of my thoughts to myself as they told the story, and just said something lik…
/r/askTRP11/12/20 06:21 PM
1

It simply means you aren't pedestalizing women solely because they have a vagina attached to a cute body. You're standards are raising and you're willing to next the girls that don't bring anything to the table besides what's between their legs. This is a good thing, you don't need to fix it. You need to embrace it. It will keep you from making bad decisions where you pursue pussy at the expense of bettering yourself and your life.
/r/askTRP11/12/20 06:16 PM
2

when you fuck up, and realize it afterwards, own up to it. be accountable. at the same time, if you want to continue the LTR, you gotta talk out the issue and set the boundary for what you will and won't tolerate. don't give her orders, though. she can do what she chooses. you decide what you'll do based on her cleaning up her act or not. statements should be along the lines of "i don't like <whatever it is>. i'm asking you to stop." it's okay to ask, just don't order. if she doesn't stop, then …
/r/askTRP09/12/20 06:34 PM
1

she's just shit testing you. it's banter. banter back at her. briefly. and don't engage too much via text. there's a balance - it's like you're bouncing a ball on a string for a cat that wants the ball. you keep it out of reach and keep the cat stalking trying to catch it. bounce the ball for her, keep her stalking, but don't go so far with attention as she feels like she's got the ball. build the anticipation and the want for more in her.
/r/askTRP09/12/20 02:54 PM
1

Ignore. Let him post whatever he wants. Block him, or at least don't look. Ever hear the expression "Don't throw your pearls before swine"? What he's doing isn't worth devoting attention and energy to.
/r/askTRP09/12/20 03:27 AM
1

I think you're getting catfished, or at best set up for a flake out. Too much talk. Girls that want action quick don't spend that long talking. They have plenty of suitors, don't need Tinder, and they go out and get their quick action rather easily. I'd have unmatched her by now. Either she wants to meet up and see what happens, put it to her that way. Tell her where you will be and when, she can come or not. Then don't message her anymore. If she doesn't show, unmatch and move on.
/r/askTRP09/12/20 03:25 AM
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Just my initial thought - when texting with a pissed off girl, less is more. instead of asking her over after her first 2 texts, the best response would have been patience and frame. the "come over now" response only served to put her back on the defensive. it was too fast. at this point, you're best served by going silent / wait to see if she contacts you again. also, NEVER explain yourself. the "i needed time to not be emotional" was not the right thing to give her. remember this - BIFF. Brief…
/r/askTRP09/12/20 03:20 AM
1

I've had a prior BPD relationship. It does fuck with your head. If it's been 18 months and you're still whigged out, chances are you are experiencing the old adage that "when you lie down with dogs, you get fleas." You've got "fleas" from her. That's a simple way of explaining that BPD women are abusive and abuse causing injury. It's an unhealed injury to your psyche. Unfortunately, most therapists these days are more BPD apologist (goes along with being feminized beta programmed people) and are…
/r/askTRP08/12/20 03:26 PM
1

It was All Monsters Attack, I think. The old '60s Godzilla movies from Japan are really only fit to watch if you pair them with a decent amount of whiskey, nachos, beer, and a crowd of people to share the experience.
/r/askTRP08/12/20 02:47 PM
4

I used an old 60's, man in a rubber suit crushing models with super bad special effects and english dub job japanese Godzilla movie once. If that worked, anything can work. She doesn't care about the movie, she just wants you to make her feel comfortable and help her not feel like a slut as things happen. That said - Godzilla was really more of an experiment on my part, erotic thrillers were usually my go to. Basic Instinct, 9 1/2 weeks. Gone Girl actually had a 100% hit rate. Tickle the lizard …
/r/askTRP08/12/20 04:36 AM
1

women love vagueries so they don't have to commit in case they want to change their minds later. ask yourself - do you want to patch things up or do you want to move on? if it's move on, i suggest return the gift. depending on what's in your head, either with a brief note that the gift is not necessary but thanks for the thought and good luck, or with no note at all. both send the message you're moving on. if you want to patch things up, a simple "thank you for the gift and note" text would be a…
/r/askTRP07/12/20 06:04 PM
1

Gym, lift, small group through church, decent friend's circle made of good guys, and a few challenging hobbies. I took up hunting deer on public land. So different than sitting over a corn pile or food plot on a farm. Anyway, you gotta have long term goals and be persuing them. That's how you avoid ruts. Keep chasing goals, keep making progress towards them. Live your life and do things that are a match for your values. You'll meet similar people along the way, and maybe even a decent woman or t…
/r/askTRP04/12/20 05:03 AM
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her boyfriend or whoever calling mid sex is a red flag here. if she is looking to make excuses to some other dude for getting laid off tinder, then this is what women do to try to pass things off as not her fault to whoever this other dude is. she could have had a dozen orgasms but would do this to put on a show for the other guy later on. i saw on another response, but yeah, never apologize. either stay silent, don't respond at all (lawyers will all tell you that a great many of their clients t…
/r/askTRP02/12/20 03:42 AM
1

Not your job to be her daddy and comfort her. When she's in bitch mode, just avoid her.
/r/askTRP25/11/20 02:55 PM
1

Either tell him now, or when he finds out later, never reveal you knew. Personally, I'd tell him. Just once, and be careful to phrase it in the manner of "dude, I know this gonna suck to hear, it's hard for me to say it, but I found out something that's really bad news. your girl..." and then end the conversation. once you've told him, walk away from that conversation other than to say there isn't much else to say except if he needs a bro around, you're around. If he finds out later and finds ou…
/r/askTRP25/11/20 01:59 AM
10

shit, let him become the baby daddy. he can take that bullet and not you. you can't fix stupid.
/r/askTRP24/11/20 02:40 AM
2

Being with the wrong woman prevents you from getting with the right woman when she comes along. Recognizing that she wasn't the right one, despite the fact she had good qualities, doesn't change she wasn't the right one. It also doesn't mean it's going to feel good to make the break. Breaking up is hard. It hurts. Especially when you care about her but know she's not the one due to whatever the reasons are. You made the tough but right choice, it was always going to hurt you when followed throug…
/r/askTRP24/11/20 02:10 AM
2

2 possibilities - she's trying to make you jealous with other guys because she wants to try to get your commitment or she's trying to make you jealous in on-going frame tests. Women never quit testing your inner frame and inner strength. Even in LTR's and marriage, they never, ever quit. Even if they otherwise love you, they test you to make sure you're staying the strong guy they love. In this case, it could also be a combo shit/comfort test. The "dont you care when i'm coming back?" is another…
/r/askTRP24/11/20 01:50 AM
2

drop chasing women for a while. even if it means having to sit in your home and figure out "now what?" women are a non-fulfilling distraction until you find a woman that vet's out well for an LTR and can be more fulfilling. (I'm one of the few guys that posts here that still thinks the right woman can be a huge blessing for any high SMV man, gotta remember than in addition to the wrong woman can become a complete calamity for any man of any station). The virus will run it's course, or we'll get …
/r/askTRP18/11/20 05:02 AM
3

Recommended response: "Wow. You caught me a bit by surprise, but it's not bad. I don't feel like the rest of the conversation is fit for texting, I'm gonna go to <name place> and grab a cocktail. You should come join me." Going for non-committal, and at the same time receptive and inviting - if you want to explore this more. Whatever you do, don't go confessing undying love or anything. She wants to know if you're a strong man, moving on without her, and doing what strong men do, not being pathe…
/r/askTRP17/11/20 08:23 PM
1

The ranks have their own understanding and language for this, but basically BP'd guys sign up, get sucked into marriage by an act from a woman known as Dependa-ho's or Dependapotumus' as appropriate for her weight, said woman just wants dependent privileges from Uncle Sam, but when her meal ticket goes on deployment and she's stuck in shitty base housing, she bolts and takes as much as she can from the poor bastard as she can on the way out. Dudes enlisting need to remember, we're not at war, th…
/r/TheRedPill17/11/20 01:25 AM
4

You're boundaries are for you. You never try to enforce your boundaries on others, especially women. They can do what they want. And you should encourage them to because they will show you their true colors faster. It's real simple, if she wants to go out with GF's and other dudes, she's already showing you she's not really thinking you're her No. 1 forever. I'd honestly tell her I want a LTR that I'm "fuck yes" enthusiastic about, but I want my LTR to be "fuck yes" about me too, and what she's …
/r/askTRP16/11/20 02:29 PM
3

Dude - I've been zero'd out in life 3 times, between the ages of 32 and 42. Weight at ballooned up to 250 lbs (6'2"), been flat broke multiple times. I'm 45 now, 198 lbs, slim, trim, and fit looking. I'm making $150k per year now (not super, but very comfortable), own my house again, and am putting a decent amount away as "fuck you" and retirement savings.. 1 1/2 more years and my child support ends and that will be a big bonus to my monthly savings. It's never too late to start over. You have a…
/r/askTRP16/11/20 02:24 PM
4

I'd recommend to not consider this in terms of what girls think. Instead, just think in terms of your health. If you have a condition that needs to be addressed, go do it. It's about your health and making your body last as best you can for yourself. Not for acceptance by girls.
/r/askTRP13/11/20 02:23 PM
2

"I want to be in your mouth", said whilst holding her hand on your man meat.
/r/askTRP12/11/20 06:59 PM
2

Haven't read the other comments, but I'd say it's because this BPD woman was basically like a drug addiction. She caused the same reaction in you that snorting a line would. And she resulted in the highs and crashes. You're still in withdrawal, still wanting another fix of the same high, even if not with her, and you're finding that non-BPD women don't give the same high. So two things. One, maybe give it more time to get over the addiction. And that's gonna suck. Might even mean staying away fr…
/r/askTRP11/11/20 06:25 PM
2

Designed it myself. It's similar to the pic at the address below except I have cross bracing between the vertical elements for added stability. And I use a few coolers as my bench, lol! https://www.pinterest.com/pin/17029304815155414/
/r/askTRP10/11/20 05:40 PM
3

1" galvanized pipe, with sand bags or concrete blocks suspended from the ends. Or if you can find one, buy a barbell and weight set. It's what I did in the last shutdown. Then I got some lumber from a hardware store and build a primitive squat rack. it's a few 2x6', and the rest 2x4's held together with wood screws and gussett plates. I can even disassemble it quickly to allow for folding up against a wall so it doesn't take up too much space.
/r/askTRP09/11/20 09:43 PM
3

this, plus girls just like the emotional kick out of seeing drama play out in front of their eyes. for them it's fun entertainment. even if it isn't real drama (which i don't this was) but to them it feels like drama (which to her, you kicking out a girl you were fucking will feel like drama).
/r/askTRP06/11/20 07:00 PM
1

be brief, just say it's not working for you anymore, and you're ending it. then leave. don't get sucked into any further discussion or closure bullshit. don't hit her with things like she's boring, depressed, no hobbies, no ambition, doesn't take care of herself, doesn't work to better herself. i'm sure you've said it to her before and it didn't go well. so just don't go there again. i'd suggest to go see her, say it as quick as you can, and then be gracious, wish her good luck, and leave. then …
/r/askTRP06/11/20 04:31 PM
2

when i was on online dating apps, i found the best results came from matching, msg'ing, getting a phone number quick, and getting her to come out to meet quick. if it takes more than 2 days, you'll never meet her. try getting matches wednesday/thursday, and set meets for friday evenings and saturday lunches. suggest quickie after work drinks before heading out for the night's carousing plans, or lunch/coffee meets on weekend afternoons when there are less likely to be big plans happening. even l…
/r/askTRP06/11/20 04:25 PM
0

He's not gone forever. In the meantime, you gotta be your own man now. It's scary. Take the time you need for your own grief, if you stuff it to be strong for everyone else, eventually it will eat you up.
/r/askTRP06/11/20 03:23 AM
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Don't just treat her like any other girl, double down on treating her like she's not even one of the top class options in your stable. Whip that hamster over her's into overdrive. A little disdain for the online attention she gets as being meaningless and not real just might do the trick. For sure don't reveal you found her YT channel.
/r/askTRP04/11/20 05:08 PM
0

"Female power", lol. The only female power females have is by flaunting the prospect or fantasy of letting a guy's dick in their pussy. And the worse party in that is that guy's buy it and give them the power.
/r/askTRP04/11/20 05:06 PM
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Control never works. Leading does. You have to lead her to a place that she doesn't want to cheat. You can't do that with every girl either. There's a subset that will be a values match for you to make it work with. And you have to maintain high SMV, and stay on task pursuing your mission. You're leading her to the same goal you have, and she has to be committed to it like you. If you slack, she'll wander. And nothing's 100% certain. My comment reduces her chances of cheating, but doesn't cheat …
/r/TheRedPill03/11/20 02:27 AM
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when stopped asking and started telling her what i was doing and that she should come join me, i rarely got a no. when asked if she wanted to i mostly got no's. if they're not initially attracted but you demonstrate some balls, it starts attracting them and makes them curious and intrigued. all you have to do to intrigue her is make her feel something she's not used to. she'll like and want to explore more of it.
/r/askTRP29/10/20 11:21 PM
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The best revenge is living well. Build an awesome life, better than either of them will ever have. Fact is they've proven they are the ones that are not worthy of you in their lives. Nothing else. It's hard to get over, and you keep questioning why you were discarded, betrayed. Why were you so worthless to them? There's an answer to that - it's because they are worthless people to start with. Therefore, because they are worthless to start with, they don't hold themselves to a worthier standard, …
/r/askTRP29/10/20 10:33 PM
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Instead of telling her you don't tolerate that, just don't tolerate it. Cancel her visit. Just send a very brief message that you're bothered that she'd start yelling at you over a bad connection and now it won't be a good visit. tell her you'll let her know when a good time is later. then let her stew in it and figure out how to proceed after seeing who her response in the coming days.
/r/askTRP28/10/20 05:04 PM
1

Loving life. My 20's were pretty good too. My 30's involved an ugly divorce, financial ruin on 3 separate occasions, and pretty bad track record of LTR choices. As I slide into 40, I got things back on better track and my 40's have turned out to be better than my 20's so far. It's a combination of wisdom that age brings, building life and having the seeds you plant when younger start to really grow and blossom. If you do your 20's right, your 30's and 40's will be where the good payoff's start h…
/r/askTRP28/10/20 04:17 AM
1

i agree with the guys saying good job on nexting a time waster. there are too many of chicks that are just plain boring. life is too short to try to salvage bad dates. fact is that it's not all on you to do the salvaging, and if she's not gonna meet you half way and just keep being a bad date, then just leave. "i'm not feeling it. gonna go. good luck." that's all you gotta say. i wish i'd been quicker to pull the plug when i was younger instead of trying to salvage things, make her think i'm a g…
/r/askTRP28/10/20 04:11 AM
1

don't be over-eager. learning the right calibration to express still interesetd in seeing her again but not needy and desperate is something that takes time, and it changes from woman to woman. welcome to the game. what i found worked well was a brief "enjoyed you last night, see you again sometime soon." message immediately after. wait for her response. if she responds quick or slow or not at all tells you something. calibrate how you proceed to that.
/r/askTRP26/10/20 08:30 PM
1

consider - facial hair. if you have it, how's it look shaved? if not how's a goatee or beard wear on you? hair style - same thing. longer? cropped? shaved? gel'd and spiked up? let it lay flat? Different guys have structure that looks best with specific options for facial and head hair. Play with it a bit, find a good barber that can style you a bit too. As for ghosting, it takes time to internalize that women are fickle. Sometimes, they just want a romp and you get chosen. Then, they want you t…
/r/askTRP26/10/20 08:25 PM
1

Just text her to come over for a few glasses of wine and door dash dinner. And tell her to bring dessert.
/r/askTRP26/10/20 08:19 PM
1

Oh, and think through one more thing. Say you have kids with some woman. You go manage to pull off raising decent kids with good values somehow without marrying the mother. The kids grow up and start their own lives. What then? What's your relationship with their mother look like after that? If you've maintained the LTR for the kids, do you keep it? Do you send her off to her own life and go looking for new women? Have you been spinning plates all along? Think this through. And understand one ot…
/r/askTRP26/10/20 02:39 PM
1

There really isn't a good answer to this. Married mom and dad give the kids a sense of security and stability that is key to them growing up into stable adults that just isn't there otherwise. I've honestly thought the best fall back to protect your own interests from divorce rape is to never live with or marry a woman, just knock her up and pay the child support, and do the visitations. Note - that's prioritizing your interests over the kid's need for security growing up. Preferrably, knock up …
/r/askTRP26/10/20 02:34 PM
1

i see a guy that's feeding the troll. no need to do that, man. just remember that anyone that has to tell you how great they are and how upstanding they are instead of just being that way and letting you see it, then further like this chick does and says you are missing out on someone as great as them, they are ego maniacs and you are so much better off nexting them. and they are never really as great as they claim. i've heard so many variations of someone saying they are just "brutally honest" …
/r/askTRP26/10/20 02:16 PM
1

when you change like that, you generally need to go find a new social group. the old ones will not accept you because you remain the old person in their minds. the whole first impressions last a life time thing. what changes it is time away from old people. enough time so when you run into any of them again, it's like things reset and they are meeting a new person. go find a new group, new people.
/r/askTRP24/10/20 10:43 PM
1

another poster said it too, but crab bucket and women are petty. best way to deal is lead her to new, better people via your actions and who you are around and who you expose her to.
/r/askTRP23/10/20 05:12 PM
1

I would say something very brief, then leave. A lot of guys don't know how to keep from getting sucked into a verbal sparing match, so mostly on TRP, it's recommended to just STFU and act. women are covert communicators, they'll know why, don't worry about that part. when you're more verbally calibrated and skilled, you can know how to say in simple terms that she's disrespecting you if she's flirting and egging on attention other guys, so you're leaving then and there, then follow through and l…
/r/askTRP23/10/20 05:09 PM
1

If she flirts with other guys in front of you and is that disrespectful of your feelings, the first time she does it you need to just tell her along the lines of you're not gonna stand there and watch that shit. not gonna let her subject you to it. then you leave. let her catch a ride home with whoever else, uber, etc. you can't control her, but you don't have to stand there and watch it either. then you don't contact her again. let her contact you. if she doesn't, you're dodging a bullet. later…
/r/askTRP22/10/20 04:49 PM
2

Talk to the one in the group that produces the largest gravity well first. Get your target a little jealous so she starts trying to produce attention for herself, and she'll naturally isolate herself when the timing is right.
/r/askTRP21/10/20 03:13 PM
3

If men en masse were to reject women that act like this and turn them all into cat collectors, it would end rather fast. The bigger part of the problem is all the men that simp and support the "you go girl" attitude, thinking it will get them laid. These same guys are the ones that complain how the girls friendzone the nice guys like themselves and sleep with the assholes. The saddest part is the women actually hate those the most because of how pathetic they all are, the dumb asses just don't r…
/r/askTRP21/10/20 01:13 PM
2

Well, you say you haven't message her in a long time. She says you have as a way to justify her message to you. If you really haven't, and she's making shit up right out the gate again, what's that say about her? Nothing good, I'll tell you that. It's some form of attempted manipulation for whatever her purposes are. You're best response is silence, and just delete the message with no response. Just ignore the baited hook. Anyone she cares for genuinely, she wouldn't try to bullshit and manipula…
/r/askTRP20/10/20 02:12 PM
1

Others said it too but just say "you know what, i'm not feeling it right now. i'm gonna go. enjoy the rest of your day." and then bug out.
/r/askTRP19/10/20 04:49 PM
1

you gotta wait for him to invite your advice. you can''t make him want it. if he asks, give it, in brief fashion. use limited answers and focus on pointing him in the right direction, not just giving him everything all at once. he has to go through the learning process to internalize it. the best way to start if he asks, is to turn it around on him - "i dunno, why do you think they only flake?" then lead him into a line of discussion that goes "well, doing the same thing over and over and expect…
/r/askTRP19/10/20 04:46 PM
9

she's just looking for another orbitor, dude. if you want to confirm, bluntly tell her that you don't want to text and be pen pals. you're only interested in actually meeting people face to face. you will likely get unmatched. or just unmatch her to start with and move on.
/r/askTRP15/10/20 07:51 PM
1

When you respond to the constant "yeah but..." stuff people like this, you are actually trying to qualify yourself and your position to them, and get their acceptance of it, which means you are seeking their approval. The problem here is NOT that he does what he does, it's that YOU keep trying to give your reasons to get him to accept your decision. Instead, stop justifying and explaining yourself to people like this. You don't need their agreement or approval. Instead, if you say "I'm trying th…
/r/askTRP14/10/20 08:21 PM
1

I don't mind it. Enjoy it sometimes. Just hop in the shower after. Sometimes it does give her a pussy a different feel, too, which can be nice. But it's like this - if you want to try it, try it if she's willing. If you or her would rather wait for Aunt 'Flo to leave, then wait. It's honestly not that big a deal either way. Just put a dark towel down, and double fold it in case she's got heavy flows.
/r/askTRP14/10/20 08:14 PM
1

yeah, it's easiest to think of it like this for these situations. "Not my problem." You're married to her, but she's still an adult and should be handling her own shit. Don't wade in take over for her. And help, but don't take over solving shit for her even once she starts inviting your involvement. There's a balance between leading her to a place she can do it herself and doing too much. And a social skills calibration to know how to do so without setting off comfort alarms in her head, while a…
/r/askTRP14/10/20 08:05 PM
3

make a joke while you're walking by to her. something like "hey, careful with that 5 lb'r, i saw a power lifter the other day hurt himself with that exact one!" i actually used one to the effect of "i've got those same yoga pants at home. they look better on me." was a chick wearing a set of tight leggings with some really crazy pattern on it. it's just an opener, not serious, not gym bro meathead-ish. get her name, suggest getting a protein shake or something after the workout together to get t…
/r/askTRP14/10/20 05:27 PM
1

it's not really tricking. it's just keeping your mouth shut and not problem solving (aka "white knighting"). offering a few statements of comfort and then shutting up is usually pretty effective. my wife will now approach and say "okay, i need some help problem solving" because she knows i don't do that until invited to. and then i don't take over, we talk about what i can do to assist her as she solves her problem.
/r/askTRP14/10/20 05:21 PM
1

at work, especially with women, i use this tactic. takes some practice to calibrate right so you can't be accused of anything, but as you practice and get better, it works well. off employer grounds, in public, off company time, it's a whole different ball game.
/r/askTRP14/10/20 05:19 PM
1

the A&A approach works well for this sometimes in a manner of speaking, as in she starts bitching about smoking, instead of being nice, letting her yammer, then responding, simply turning around at her first instance of bitching and blowing a puff of smoke in her face with no other words - says "fuck off" without saying a word to her at all in no uncertain terms. i've gotten so i don't talk to people in a manner to try to resolve anything with them at the outset of a conflict. my initial respons…
/r/askTRP14/10/20 01:57 AM
2

Because they stay driven by their emotions first. They don't want to solve problems, not at first anyway. They want to feel, and what they feel, they want to feel good. When you put solutions in front of them, the part where they get to feel gets skipped. They are feeling bad about the problem, so the solution feels bad, hence their reactions. You gotta learn to lead them to a transition of some sort of good feeling first before solving problems. Or not problem solve for them, period. If you foc…
/r/askTRP14/10/20 01:51 AM
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They do this because they are women. If they don't have something to bitch about, they manufacture something. The best policy is the less engagement, the better. Keep a low target profile, give them less to bitch about. For example, next time just email your boss privately and don't try to talk it out with coworkers first. I'd also start minimizing all contact with them at work to the bare minimum. No more friendly coworker chit chat, be BIFF (brief, informative, factual, friendly), and keep eve…
/r/askTRP13/10/20 01:31 PM
3

Note - same concept works with wives. My mistake in first marriage (well, one of them) was giving her too much, too easily, without her having to earn any of it, at the expense of my own happiness.
/r/TheRedPill13/10/20 05:16 AM
1

Sometimes they like blatantly obvious, and if you're living abroad temporarily and not going to get a permanent place right now before going back to your home country, they'll know the score. If you are going to get a more permanent place, you could invite her to hotel room to look at maps and other information about where a good place for you to look is, I guess. You might score AND get good intel on the area for finding a place.
/r/askTRP13/10/20 05:05 AM
3

This, she's being manipulative regardless of if there's another dude or not. It's like this - if you like her and want to LTR her, then do so if she vets out right. If you don't want to, just be honest with her that you don't want to change the way things are with her right now, but if she's looking for more then gently and kindly tell her you're not there in your life right now. Then it's her decision - stay, go to other guy, or go to other guy but keep getting railed by you on the side. No mat…
/r/askTRP13/10/20 05:01 AM
2

I can confirm, as a father, married, divorce, remarried - the kids are important but they never are the top priority all the time. Sometimes they are, but no more than 1/4 of the time. Make 'em wait for shit. Make 'em be subordinated to other shit. That way you can knock the entitlement out of them. They have to grow up wanting stuff and not getting it. That way they're willing to work to get it later in life. If they never have to work for it growing up, they never learn how and end up as whiny…
/r/TheRedPill13/10/20 03:23 AM
2

expect her to string you along for attention, money, etc. - that's what strippers do. and she probably has no idea if you seen her at her club or not. and doesn't care. regardless, she didn't accept the DM because she thought you were cute or anything. at the moment, you're just another chump. if you ever, just once, go see her perform, throw money at her, or buy her even a bottle of water, you'll never get anywhere with her.
/r/askTRP13/10/20 03:16 AM
2

As others have said, it's up to you. I advocate looking for indications as to both "recent" past and overall past. As in her overall n-count, but also last 2 years n-count. And other things. Sometimes a girl will have high overall, but last 2 years are really low. Not always, but it can be an indication that she's learning not to give away her SMV so freely, which is a good thing for an LTR. Of course, could also mean she splattered against the wall and is losing out in her target demographic of…
/r/askTRP13/10/20 03:11 AM
1

I found my performance on exams had as much to do with my mindset during the exam as studying. I would know the material, get into the exam, and if I were too keyed up, I'd make dumb mistakes and still bomb. Then see the score and grading and be like "crap, I knew that, how could I miss that?" When I was more relaxed, I always did better, because it allowed me to think clearer and I catch myself before I made stupid mistakes. So I started doing my heavy duty studying well before the exam, and th…
/r/askTRP12/10/20 02:48 PM
2

I think lifting but focusing on low weights, high reps would keep you lean, and also improve your athletic performance. Stronger core leads to better balance, better gross motor control, etc. Blast through as fast as you can, and you'll be getting quite a good cardio workout simultaneously.
/r/askTRP12/10/20 02:39 PM
1

Find one you actually like - and think in terms of your values. LTR should share your values and outlook on life. Then when you find one, follow the steps you have to now, but only to a point. The idea is to make her want more of you. I heard it put once "Always leave her wanting more". If she does, she'll chase you. She has to miss you a little. And she'll want to feel a little chased as well. It's a balance. A little push/pull, but calibrated and not to a level that is off putting, can create …
/r/askTRP12/10/20 02:37 PM
1

you got in the friendzone by not escalating sooner and giving her validation and feels while getting nothing in return. you either never get out, or in some cases, by becoming scarce. make her miss you. and some time later, you can sometimes force a reset by it being long enough that when you bump into her again, she feels something different about you. it helps if there is something different - grow a beard or have bigger muscles, something. but dude - never tell a check your feelings, especial…
/r/askTRP09/10/20 06:00 PM
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Recommended response to her: "Come over again tonight. I have unfinished business with you." Then, no booze, no fapping until then, and when she gets there, jump her as soon as she walks in the door. After - then break out a bottle of wine or something.
/r/askTRP09/10/20 01:57 PM
1

I built a squat rack for my garage out of lumber and bought a barbell set when this virus stuff hit and the gyms shut down. Also have an assortment of dumbells up to 25 lbs but hardly every touch them anymore. Stronglifts 5x5, plus front squats, barbell curls, etc. The plates I have also have holes/handles - I use a 45 lb plate in place of a kettle bell to do swings.
/r/askTRP09/10/20 01:53 PM
1

When you love yourself first and focus on yourself first, build yourself up, build your SMV, and make yourself the best version of yourself of you can be, you'll naturally attract others. If you focus on attracting others, you tend to push them away instead. If you want to attract a woman, than you need to become attractive. It's really not that hard. Get fit, eat a good diet, be focused on advancing yourself and being tops in whatever you're doing. And a little decent style helps - good fitting…
/r/askTRP09/10/20 01:48 PM
1

As long as Uncle Sam can keep printing more money and paying people to do nothing, the real decline won't start. It won't last forever, eventually all that paper will be worthless. Then we'll be left with those that know how to survive, and those that want to prey on them. After the blood letting is done, there will be very little left and people will start over, and the whole cycle starts again.
/r/TheRedPill07/10/20 07:01 PM
1

More old people with lots of health problems. Not enough young people to create the resources/wealth to take care of them, given the socialist society there now. The next generation is going to carry a very heavy burden there, and a lot of them will break. Of course, China has no respect for human life, they might just start euthanizing old people to lessen the load.
/r/TheRedPill07/10/20 06:58 PM
2

Used to be you could just give a guy like this a good right cross to the jaw and that was that. And even the cops would look at him say "well, you were acting like a jackass and deserved it. have a good night" and leave. These days it's arrest everyone for the slightest thought crime and then sue the pants of them as well. We're enabling it to get worse as a society by insulating these assholes the consequences of being assholes, and we're really doing more damage to our society than the avoidin…
/r/askTRP06/10/20 04:37 PM
1

figure out how to approach but stand out. asking the dad if he's a photographer and can share some tips. focus on something else besides her. and be funny, engaging, interesting. if she's trying to join in, string her along, cockblock her by going back to the dad some, and then say "gotta go, but if you want to chat more, i'll be at that bar later on tonight. maybe i'll see you." then smile and walk off. if she shows, guess what, you generated interest. if she doesn't, that's not her dad.
/r/askTRP05/10/20 03:59 PM
3

One thing that is attractive to BPD girls are guys that aren't intense, but instead are laid back with moderated moods and attitudes (guys that are chilled out all the time). It's a moderating influence to them and, for a time, can help them tone down the emotions and crazy in their head. It helps them calm down to have a moderating influence in their lives. Like all other things, though, a BPD girl will destroy said guy because she won't be able to stop herself from uncorking the crazy on said …
/r/TheRedPill05/10/20 02:07 PM
1

Knock on door - then say "she needs to put her phone number on my bottle that I'm sure she took to refill with fresh ice and water for me." She's trying to get your attention and see if you're man enough to come get her. She stayed on the simply to make noise and be sure you noticed her. Your move.
/r/askTRP05/10/20 11:37 AM
5

my son was born when i was 29. i can't imagine the long nights and demands of a new born in my 40's. same for the physicality that comes from playing with him when he was really little, constant days at the park playing and chasing him around the playgrounds and what not. at 45, i can do anything i ever could still...once. but keeping up over and over...it hurts. things get stiff easier and quicker. another baby and growing into a rug rat, that would be rough at 45 right now. he's 16 now, so tha…
/r/askTRP02/10/20 05:19 PM
6

thanks. one more thought that just hit me about marriage - if you're considering it or want it one day, make the decision about YOU. it's not about the girl. it's about what you want out of it, and can you get that out of it with her. the girl will seem wonderful leading up to it, they all do before tying the knot. don't make your decision on how great the girl, that can be deceiving because the girl can be deceiving. be selfish and make it a decision to do it or not all about yourself.
/r/askTRP02/10/20 04:53 PM
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Gonna respond - been married at 28, divorced at 32, then remarried at 43. Have a son. Think I can provide some perspective. Honestly, marriage ain't for everyone, man or woman. Be honest with yourself, if you really want to be bound like that. For those that do well in marriage, you gotta find a woman that is traditional, conservative minded. One that understands she's hypergamous by nature and therefore is willing to hold herself to boundaries that keep her out of positions to be hypergamous be…
/r/askTRP02/10/20 03:03 PM
6

There's a concept that's illustrated by "put your own mask on before put the mask on your children" when going through the safety briefing before a flight. The thinking is you can't help anyone else if you don't take good care of yourself first. That said... -You're parents are both NOT YOUR PROBLEM TO FIX. You can't no matter what you do. They both contribute to the problems in different ways. You're mom might be trying, but I guarantee you she is also contributing to the problems. This is not …
/r/askTRP01/10/20 09:40 PM
2

If I was you, I wouldn't say anything to her yet. Instead, just plan an exit since you live with her. Go find either your own place or another roommate somewhere. Figure out what your liability is to leave (costs to break a lease or whatever, it's usually a few extra months rent to leave early, pay it). Get everything line up, and MOVE. Maybe tell her before you move, but not until you have your arrangements made and it's all final. And don't tell her a lot about other guys texting her, her hook…
/r/askTRP01/10/20 08:23 PM
1

i thought of that scene when i wrote that response.
/r/askTRP01/10/20 04:08 PM
1

that's women. no accountability. you can continue to let it bug you, or you can let it go and just disregard it when it happens, and do everything you can to limit your risk from a woman's irresponsible behavior. that's part of TRP actually, being the captain and leader and not letting her take control of your life.
/r/askTRP30/09/20 06:52 PM
1

as a man, given western culture and the gender bias to women, we're actually better off knocking a girl up - the same girl multiple times if you want more than 1 kid - and pay the child support. never cohabitate. never marry. and when women complain and cry foul, tell them that it can be different when the gender bias in the law and courts ends. getting all men, or the majority of men at least, to do that is a pretty tall order though.
/r/askTRP30/09/20 05:15 PM
3

Been there, done that. Still not totally recovered from it financially. Likely never will be, but I'm well on my way. To this day, my ex-wife won't admit that her cheating is what ended our marriage. Instead it was that I couldn't get over it. What kept me going - I have a son, have to be there for him. Also, bad finances or not, I've figured out how to have a good life while finances suck. Then, I eventually worked my out of the financial hole and am actually in a pretty good spot. It could hav…
/r/askTRP30/09/20 05:12 PM
3

Actually I had 3 going at once, and had been bouncing between 1-2 (at any one time, they came and went and usually was 1-2 active) mostly for about a 2 year period. Of the 3, one was really bitchy, one was super boring. There was one weekend where I hit one on a Friday night/Saturday morning, a quickie with #2 during the afternoon (on way home from #1), and then #3 Saturday night. Time wise, I just got sick of it, next weekend I took off, hung out with guy friends, hit some outdoor trails, blew …
/r/askTRP30/09/20 03:30 PM
3

Just remember the "don't shit where you eat rule". Chances are, you won't be her only dude too. Don't get attached, and keep it real light and bolt at the first hint of drama. Otherwise, you'll be dealing with girl drama at your home.
/r/askTRP29/09/20 03:24 PM
5

Has to do with your values. Seeing so much western media focused on glorifying women being sluts, having a bad side, etc. - it gets ingrained in us that the good girls are too boring or something. What cures that is a few relationships with bad girls. Bad girl = a girl whose just a bitch. You get a few of those under your belt, you start to realize what's been fed to you by society isn't all that great, and you start looking for alternatives. As your values change in response to getting burned o…
/r/askTRP29/09/20 03:21 PM
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monk mode is honestly a rather great thing. i did it for a while, was one of the best things i ever did for myself. regarding feelings for girls you haven't slept with, most girls have a guy or guys they manage to suck in as orbitors and call them "just friends". i made a rule for myself that i don't be friends with girls i wasn't sleeping with. i stopped participating in more in depth interactions with them on a "just friends" basis. i met several after making that change and they expressed sur…
/r/askTRP29/09/20 03:08 PM
3

lots of times the more mentally unstable NPD/BPD women are also quasi-idiot savants when it comes to reading people. it's part of how they are such master manipulators and it grows out of whatever trauma in their background twisted them so badly. they had to learn the skill as part of their survival adapting to their prior or even current circumstances. she might also have been just looking for a purely ONS to scratch an itch, she might have been out cheating for whatever her reasons are, she mi…
/r/askTRP29/09/20 02:57 PM
15

You're just like every other guy that has gone whaling occasionally, and that's all of us. Don't get all self shaming about it.
/r/askTRP29/09/20 12:50 PM
6

this is a definite nope. even if it's not a scam or setting up a robbery, a chick asking for that would be just plain mental. don't try to figure out exactly what it is. just back away.
/r/askTRP25/09/20 01:23 PM
1

watch some basic shibari tutorials - they're pretty good at showing how to tie a chick up and not have something accidentally cinch too tight and cut off blood flow. blind fold her too.
/r/askTRP25/09/20 01:21 PM
1

A woman that is into you will want to please you. When she's in this phase and mindset, you can train her to your liking, with some limits. There's "good slut" where she's a slut just for you and likes it. Go for that.
/r/askTRP21/09/20 06:20 PM
13

There's a difference between having a heart and being an emotional tampon. Having heart means having compassion towards a pain another person has. Not being an emotional tampon means if they are stuck in that pain, you don't stick around to be stuck with them, and you don't try to or let them try to get you to carry that torch for them. They gotta grieve and move on into acceptance, and figure out how to live a healthy life for themselves. I'd recommend mostly just listen, offer few comments bey…
/r/askTRP21/09/20 06:17 PM
2

As long as you focus on building yourself in to the best version of yourself you can be and don't let yourself get sidetracked from that, you'll be fine. That's the crux of it. Do it, you become attractive, and more so than 90% of other men. Then you get to pick and choose from the women that will be trying for your attention. Just remember, if you slack off, your SMV drops much quicker than it takes to build it up. So don't slack off.
/r/askTRP21/09/20 05:35 PM
9

It's about right place, right time, and face to face interactions. You gotta know someone that gives you a foot in the door. Otherwise, you're just a piece of paper and don't resonate with an employer looking to hire like someone with more connection. Find ways to meet people in the field you want to get a job in. It will take time and effort, and 95% of the effort will be fruitless. It takes persistence and dedication, and a DGAF attitude about the things that don't work so you don't get discou…
/r/askTRP21/09/20 02:11 PM
1

Don't officially break up. Just be cool, and when the distance creeps in, and she seems to losing interest and gravitating away, let her. When training is done and you're back, if you reconnect so be it. If not, so be it. Just understand that while you were gone and she was all lonely, she was very likely not actually lonely and had other male attention going on. Good luck in training. Focus on that, not women. Get through the training, be in decent shape, and they'll be lining up for their chan…
/r/askTRP16/09/20 01:47 AM
2

Talk more and focus on the ugly cock blockers first. Engages 'em so they don't feel left out, they're less likely to cock block then. Also will inspire just a bit of attention jealousy in the better quality girls, so when you then switch attention to them, they jump at it. This does, of course, mean if you're in a group of guys, occasionally someone has to jump on the grenade for the sake of his bro's and take the ugly one home to get her out of the way. Those are special friends willing to do t…
/r/askTRP16/09/20 01:41 AM
2

just let her go, man. if/when you hear from her again, and wait for her to contact you at this point, have other plans. i don't care what it is, but set the tone that you don't wait around for her to live your life. if she wants to see you, just make her do it on terms defined, set, and scheduled by you. and if she doesn't follow the schedule, and if she continues to try to go silent, plays hot/cold, etc. - just drop her permanently. those games just aren't worth the mental power most guys expen…
/r/askTRP15/09/20 07:39 PM
6

when she moved out before fixing the wall, fair or not it became your issue to fix, dude. just keep her distant, and keep the material pick up as short and sweet as possible with as little interaction and try to be as unemotional as you can.
/r/askTRP15/09/20 07:35 PM
4

I agree with canceling dinner plans. I get her being paid up on the lease, but once she moves out, there's landlord/tenant/resident laws that govern that. She moved out on her own. She doesn't have the right to come and go as she pleases, it's not her home anymore despite money and key access. She has a right to get her things, that's it. So pack her stuff up, and have it ready for easy pick up. Maybe just leave it outside the door. Politely tell her you are canceling on dinner. No more explanat…
/r/askTRP15/09/20 07:32 PM
2

crab bucket mentality.
/r/askTRP15/09/20 01:30 PM
2

i was gonna say, you might be sticking it in crazy dude.
/r/TheRedPill11/09/20 10:01 PM
2

You feel harder than she did. You were more invested than she was. She recognized it. She recognized she wasn't going to fall harder and get more invested. So she ended it rather than lead you on more. Honestly, it needed to happen under those conditions. It hurts, it's gonna hurt more. I don't mean to sound flippant because I've been there too, but you just have to grieve through it now. In the end, having been through the same myself, what it really does and you recognize in hindsight is it ma…
/r/askTRP11/09/20 01:59 PM
3

Usually after things like this it's better to move on. Find a blank slate and improve yourself so you don't make the same mistakes. In your talk Friday, if you carry through with it, I think all you tell her is you're going to improve you for you, and that's it to start with. She can keep in touch, not, it won't change what you're going to do to build yourself. I'd be weary of her never getting the past out of her head and it leading to troubles down the road. You could be perfect from here on o…
/r/askTRP02/09/20 05:53 PM
2

So in summary, you got lazy in terms of staying a RP man in how you dealt with her, she wandered, you took your balls back and dumped her and then moved on to demonstrate value again. In the midst she did immature, hypergamous woman things, tried to bait you with jealousy, violated boundaries in at least stringing along some past guy and flaunted it to you. And when you RP'd back up and dumped her, and then showed you weren't a simp and capable of moving on, the demonstration of mental man stren…
/r/askTRP02/09/20 05:25 PM
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Women don't make consistent, rational sense. Just gotta learn to accept it and stop trying to figure it out all the time. They are creatures of emotion. Learn to stop trying to make sense of them and how to start making them feel what you want. You're successes will go up once you start to figure that out.
/r/askTRP01/09/20 01:56 AM
2

Not official if you're both not official. And you have oneitis. Consider this - if she were "hell yes" about you like you are her, she'd be down to make it official public to people. She'd be excited and happy, and not like she is. In my 45 years when I've seen and experienced this in the past (everyone does eventually), it was because the person in her role was also stringing along other suitors and didn't want to scare anyone off. They hadn't made up their mind yet. Maybe it's another reason f…
/r/askTRP01/09/20 01:54 AM
1

As I said originally - excellent opportunity for vetting her if interested in more than just stringing out how long you can keep fucking her. Me personally, if she's more deeply infected with the radical feminist stuff, I'd rather find out and dump her. I don't care how hot a woman is, if she's one of those types, high SMV men should be shunning them.
/r/TheRedPill31/08/20 01:12 PM
1

You're not talking about true friends though. You're describing female acquaintances that you have a mutually beneficial arrangement with where you both get something out of it. That's not friendship. That's having friendly business deals and transactions. Point about not being a simp with lots of girl friends and giving free attention and validation to sluts as an orbitor and intellectual whore still stands.
/r/askTRP28/08/20 02:50 AM
1

regardless of simps devaluing male attention, what i'm starting to see is attention from low SMV simps is being devalued by women too. it's too free and easy, and just means less to some of them. they also realize those guys are low SMV, and the value of their attention is therefore lower or even worthless to start with, and it ends up being not validating at all. some will go berserk trying to get attention and approval from higher SMV men that don't give it away for free.
/r/TheRedPill27/08/20 05:28 PM
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Rip the bandaid off. You're not interested. She fell for a guy that isn't interested. Guy's fall for girls that aren't interested too. Just politely but firmly tell her. And then the kindest thing to do is go no contact with her. She's gonna hurt, but it will force her to move on and she'll get over it one day. Allowing her to hang around as your orbitor will just keep stringing her along, and keep hurting her more. Be honest, be polite, be gentile, but don't let her get strung along. You'll fee…
/r/askTRP27/08/20 01:52 PM
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Actually, I avoid having girl friends. Guy's that are good friends to girls are only that way because they can't make good guy friends. There is something off kilter in them. The girl's know it too. So the girl's turn them into orbiters that they know won't even try to fuck them and enjoy the attention and validation and pedestalizing they receive from those orbiters. I can't think of a single guy I've known that once I got to know him I could respect him if he maintained lots of girl friends. T…
/r/askTRP27/08/20 01:34 PM
2

In terms of grieving, think of it this way: If you were comforting a small child version of yourself, what would you do? You'd be kind and loving, but you'd still need to get said kid to get up and not allow them to stay stuck in sadness. You'd need to coach them that since he's gone, the best way to honor his memory is to get to work making yourself the best you can to show the world that he raised a good man. Not saying it's easy, and it's okay to give yourself a break when you need a breather…
/r/askTRP25/08/20 09:00 PM
3

Hunting. Sort of. Been trying for a few years to get a public land deer. Seen 'em in archery season out of range. Haven't seen 'em during rifle season, or I'd have shot one. But the target shooting to keep the rifle sighted right, and the archery shooting is pretty fun. 3D range near me is set up like a golf course, 18 stations, etc. Fun times to go through and shoot the fake animals in the balls.
/r/askTRP23/08/20 08:15 PM
1

so I'm in a minority, but i think there's a difference between total n-count and more recent n-count. a chick with a recent low n-count that only slept with a boyfriend in the past one or two years might be seeing that it's better for her to not sleep around casually, even if she did sleep around casually more farther back and has a higher total n-count. might. a recent high n-count is a red flag that you need to pay attention to. but if you don't like her past, next her. don't settle. let her c…
/r/askTRP23/08/20 02:50 PM
1

To directly address your question regarding how to deal with the insecurity and depression you get - best way is to biild your own healthy ego and confidence in yourself. Act in a way that you can be proud of yourself. What's the response that you will look back on and say "I did that perfectly"? You want to focus on what will help build your own confidence and security in yourself. In this case, if I were you, I'd have already dumped her in my head, she'd be referred to as my now ex-GF. I would…
/r/askTRP23/08/20 01:18 PM
2

You're overthinking this and too invested, especially for a guy that is leaving the area soon. Girls flake. There isn't reason to it. They're slaves to their emotions. And they don't care about n-count, otherwise they wouldn't screw so many guys so casually, so having sex once isn't something that registers as an important reason to see you again, even if you made her orgasm multiple times. I'd recommend not trying to make another set plan, just if you're gonna go have a drink or something, text…
/r/askTRP19/08/20 05:40 PM
1

She's not entitled to the things you were providing. She bit the hand that fed her. I'd urge you to not worry about if you taught her a lesson, or if she even learned her lesson. I'd urge to instead consider your own self respect. Did you respond in a way that you will look back on and say "self, I handled that right" or "self, maybe I didn't do that quite right" or "geez, I really screwed the pooch on that one"? Personally, if she's hitting and showing disrespect for a man that's providing for …
/r/askTRP19/08/20 04:27 PM
3

I see nothing wrong with expressing an opinion that you find many strains of radical feminist thought to be unattractive for the simple reason they all attack men. Equity for women is good. Forced "equality" (which today's feminism is) really only happens when tyrannical force is applied, and it usually gets applied to the best and brightest in very limiting ways while the worst and dumbest get celebrated for nothing. I also see nothing wrong with expressing that you are a man who intends to be …
/r/TheRedPill19/08/20 11:28 AM
6

It's common for soon to be ex-'s in divorces to still smash regularly. I won't try to tell why, too many various reasons, just be aware it's a lot more common than you would think. It's also common for ex-'s not married but still cohabiting to smash too. So just be aware of it. In this case, she's very likely getting boned by her XH when she sees him. It will be like an addiction for them both, especially if there's an abuse history between them. What it adds up to is this chick is not relations…
/r/askTRP18/08/20 09:02 PM
4

if she's this demanding after a few texts and one day, imagine what she'll be like after you've met and had sex with her? Now ask yourself if you want to put up with it?
/r/askTRP18/08/20 08:55 PM
1

it's possible but not in the way you're asking about. if you're trying to prove yourself to old girls, it's a lost cause. basically, you have to DGAF to the extreme and not see old girls for a long time. then in a chance encounter, if enough time has passed, old girls can (but not always) experience a reset if you are dramatically different than you used to be. has to be different enough that it's literally like them meeting a guy they've never met before. this usually only happens once you've m…
/r/askTRP18/08/20 08:02 PM
1

i could go 3 times easily when younger. sometimes 4. then would need a breather and something to eat before anymore. now in my mid-40's, once is more than enough. after that i'm ready to ready a book or remote scout more hunting areas.
/r/askTRP18/08/20 06:42 PM
1

I think you're stating through your questions really that by "enjoying the decline", we're simply contributing to things getting worse because we're still participating and enabling hypergamy and women's entitlement, which is really what feminism is all about especially these days. And I think you're right. RP'd men need to be willing to endure being called sexist, pigs, women haters, mysogynists, etc. We need to be willing to be fired, sued, falsely accused, etc. That's what would happen if we …
/r/askTRP12/08/20 05:00 AM
13

She's proving why her being an ex- is a good move for you. Nothing more.
/r/askTRP12/08/20 04:36 AM
2

Others on here probably won't agree with this, but I've been there, done that as to what you're going through. This is just my experience, not saying it's good or works for anyone else. One - gotta give it more time. And keep no contact. It didn't work for a reason, and even if you improved your side of those reasons, no telling what her side would look like if you reunited. And it's hard to change someone's impression of you. Two - what ultimately worked for me was meeting a woman that was bett…
/r/askTRP07/08/20 04:15 PM
3

No woman will every completely make you happy. You need to build your own life that makes you happy, and she becomes a compliment to it if she sees it as being worth being a part of. You, as the man, should be leading your entire family to this stage in life where together you all are content with life together. Leaving her now won't solve your problem. You'll only end up repeating the same mistakes and be in the same situation in the future. You've started lifting and losing weight. Great. What…
/r/askTRP07/08/20 01:28 PM
1

So trying to have reasonable mind about this, my first question would be does this kind of thing happen regularly between them? Do they have these mix up's often but maybe they don't affect the plans you and her have made before now? Was the ex- actually at the bar she went to? If he picked up kid late, wouldn't he have (hopefully) been going and staying home with said kid for his daddy visit time? And most importantly - reading the post, it sounds like she was meeting her GF, not you? Or were y…
/r/askTRP06/08/20 08:20 PM
1

Every man will go through an experience where you just get zero'd out in life. It's not easy to go through, but you're comeback life afterwards is really where you get to build up what you want. You just don't have the experience to have the wisdom to build the life you want until going through it. The only thing you can keep doing is keep working, keep trying, take the dead end job to start over, and step stone your way to better. Education helps a lot. Degrees and certification are important t…
/r/askTRP05/08/20 03:47 PM
1

https://markmanson.net/fuck-yes <-try reading this. there are many TRP's that aren't big on mark manson, i personally really like several of his articles though and this one in particular would be good for you to read, i think. If she's not sure, then that's all you need to know. She's wishy washy about it because she's a woman. It's what they do. She's stringing you along because it's in her interest to for some reason. Who cares why? Might be another guy in the background, might be other thing…
/r/askTRP03/08/20 04:59 PM
2

BTDT. I agree with the rest, dump her and move on.
/r/askTRP02/08/20 03:09 AM
2

Get that mission going and let that be your focus. Then as women come and go, they are an enhancement to your life. And if you vet and churn you will eventually find the one that will be happy to ride to hell and back with you. I wanted to expand on this more regarding vetting and respond directly your question about vetting. Basically, vetting is more about your values than anything else. You get a mission going that's aligned with your values. And you don't let anything pull you off mission. H…
/r/askTRP31/07/20 02:31 PM
3

The growth it takes to go from being a guy that likes messing around to man that is a head of household, leader of his little kingdom (mother of his kids and his kids), etc. doesn't happen overnight, and it doesn't happen without good examples to follow. It requires a man to be able to draw joy and contentment from seeing his family thrive. Next time your daughter is crying, just pick her up and hold her. Or if she's inconsolable, put her in her room, stay in there with her, close the door, and …
/r/askTRP30/07/20 12:57 PM
2

You feel like the broken one, but you're not the one cheating. You're the one getting cheaters out of your life. Doing what's healthy and good in the face of something like this still doesn't feel good to anyone. Feeling bad isn't the same as being broken. Feeling bad after this is actually healthy. The girl and your brother are the broken ones. They're the cheating liars. That's behavior of broken people, and it lead them both to broken lives. Your decision to get rid of her and at least distan…
/r/askTRP28/07/20 08:25 PM
2

Let the girl see it, will turn her on to know she's turning you on so strong.
/r/askTRP28/07/20 06:26 PM
2

only thing worse than an abusive ex- (real or faked, doesn't matter) for a woman is a girl that had a guy she loved die. the abusive guy stays in her head and you're constantly compared. the dead guy stays in her head, and gets pedestalized, and you can never compare or compete cause the dead guy is never being pulled down from saint hood in her mind.
/r/askTRP28/07/20 03:48 PM
1

A lady I was dumping once told me "all you wanted was sex! asshole!" I simply said "all you have to offer is sex, you have nothing else. if you want to be treated different in the future, figure out how to bring something to the table besides what's between your legs." Her hamster basically fell out of it's wheel because it simply couldn't spin faster enough to generate anything new, she stood there dumbfounded, and I left at that moment. I've been called all kinds of names for voicing that opin…
/r/askTRP28/07/20 01:28 PM
4

After you bang enough women, you realize it's not a big deal. At some point, you might even start to look down on women as they walk by and eye-fuck you. It turns into a sign that she's just another hypergamous slut, and on that basis, no matter how hot she is, she has low SMV character. All most of them have to offer you is what's between their legs. Therefore, she doesn't deserve the honor of having a high SMV man blast a load of his spooge in her. You might even start to develop some real mis…
/r/askTRP27/07/20 03:23 PM
3

With the pandemic, some people are taking it on the chin employment wise. It's hard. So being on unemployment isn't necessarily a killer all on it's own right now. Question is - is she still looking and trying to find new work? What is she willing to do? Is she willing to change roles? Find something in a new field? Or is she just sitting at home feeling sorry for herself and getting used to being a couch potato? In terms of taking care of herself - what is she not doing? Good diet? Working out …
/r/askTRP27/07/20 02:44 PM
1

Try switching to decaf.
/r/askTRP24/07/20 05:31 PM
1

I have an individual thought of my own, that n-count is important, but so is recent n-count. if she's at 50 total between ages 15 and 30, but at age 30, the last 2 years n-count is 2 and both were from some sort of dating relationship and not slutting it up, it says something about her current state of maturation and growth. Not saying to LTR a low recent n-count girl on that basis alone, could also be she hit the wall, her inner bitch is coming out more as she gets older and bolder and she chas…
/r/askTRP24/07/20 05:07 PM
7

let it sit, see how things play out. does she not respond? does she say "this past guy just msg'd me" and delete in front of you? does she say nothing but still delete it without responding? or does she respond and start using the guy for validation or her emotional tampon? or will she try to go see him? let her SHOW you who she is. you've got a front row seat to the real her, not the her she allows you to see. don't waste it.
/r/askTRP22/07/20 07:01 PM
1

Long story short at the end of the argument she says "you're lucky I'm not dumping you over this, I can do better". I just texted her and ended the relationship. Just said that things weren't working out and that I wish her the best. Thanks for the input guys I had a gut feeling this one wasn't salvageable. You might have screwed up from RP perspective at one point, but you handled the aftermath of that comment like a champ. I agree with the rest, if a girl says this, the relationship needs to b…
/r/askTRP22/07/20 06:57 PM
1

In your 20's, the 'burbs will be tough hunting grounds for the most part. There are exceptions. I live in a large metro area, big city, and then 'burbs and smaller downtowns with a bunch of surrounding smaller cities. The smaller downtowns are all being or have already been redeveloped into bar/restaurant/mixed use residential-commercial areas. They actually do attract a fair amount younger people, as well as they're a playground for the mid-30's and up crowd. Still not as focused to your demogr…
/r/askTRP22/07/20 03:22 PM
8

You're right to drop them. They were spying on you for your cheating ex- for pete's sake. They don't deserve to even be told they're dropped. They aren't worth the courtesy. You're mom's wrong, but don't bother arguing with her about it. Not worth it either. It's just one of those things that if she gets pushy in the future, just tell her you didn't invite her to have input into that decision to drop them, and you're still not, decision is made, and you don't have to justify yourself to her.
/r/askTRP21/07/20 07:01 PM
1

i got laid when i was more BP too. i just didn't keep the women around and interested, or ended up with cunts that would withdraw the pussy and try to keep me begging for more after i got laid some. being more masculine and not chasing so much, not showing her what a princess she is, is the better way FOR THE MAN, regardless of if said man gets laid or not.
/r/askTRP21/07/20 03:57 PM
1

She's pulling this again as a manipulation because she thinks she has you cornered and you can't get away from it while on the trip. End the relationship, finish up the trip separated from her, send her home early, or go home early yourself. Don't sleep with her. She'll try to get pregnant to trap you back with her. If it means you don't get laid on the trip, than that's what it means. Consider this having to learn the hard way that you should have dumped her the first time she pulled the breaku…
/r/askTRP20/07/20 03:17 PM
1

It's worth it for the right major. It's not worth it for the wrong major. Do your homework, look up salaries for various fields and degrees. Then figure up costs to get said degree in said field. Then it's a question of is the income earned worth the cost invested? What's the return on the time and money invested? Most degrees these days don't pay for themselves. Some do though. I honestly think if I had to do it over again, I'd look harder at trade schools than college. Skilled trades are makin…
/r/askTRP16/07/20 08:33 PM
2

Video games are a big time waster. Let go of it, let go of them, and let them waste themselves. Be better, and eventually it will pay off. You'll be sitting on a nice beach somewhere one day with a hot girl beside you, and realize you're accomplishing shit, and their still playing xbox and jerking off. I think old "friends" like that are a bit like ex-girlfriends. Some things are better left in the past. Going back is like rifling through yesterday's garbage.
/r/askTRP16/07/20 08:11 PM
2

I'm in the Metro-Atlanta area. Generally more women than men, but the game is brutal here. The women game as hard as men and hypergamy is off the charts. Men are weird mix of non-white's of all types, and white urban guys, and white Georgia rednecks. The cool part is if you gym well, stay fit, and have a stable income which was pretty easy to come by until the pandemic, you weren't just top 20%, you were more like top 10% automatically. As there are more women than men, a lot men take off from t…
/r/askTRP16/07/20 08:08 PM
1

Sometimes less is more. Just wait for her to reach out again, if she does. If she does, be honest and tell her that trying to make you jealous is something that will always lead to you ignoring her and you're not going to be manipulated. Let her head explode and let her leave, then go focus on important stuff.
/r/askTRP16/07/20 08:03 PM
4

I can't tell you how many women have commented within my hearing how hot they think bald guys are. Now, there's an unspoken caveat - bald guys that are in good shape are hot to them. Like always, lift. At 45, I'm starting to hurt more than benefit from always lifting heavy. At least it feels that way. I've changed my routine some, especially for shoulders and arms - more reps, lighter weights instead of less reps, higher weight. Seems to be helping, and I'm noticing shoulders and arms defining m…
/r/askTRP14/07/20 09:17 PM
1

I'd suggest finding a few places close to home that are walkable or bikeable. That way when you need to get out, or find an out of home place to study, you're not beholden to the car. I could never study at home in college. There was a student center food court I always ended up at. Wasn't too loud, wasn't too quiet and isolated, could grab a drink or snack if I wanted, and didn't have a lot of distractions. There were a few TV's, I could have a game on in the background, there was an outside be…
/r/askTRP14/07/20 02:30 PM
1

My opinion on this kind of thing - if the Red Pill can open your eyes and get you to start pursuing a mission in life and building yourself into the best version of yourself you can be, then you've gotten out of it what you need. If you take that as a value to live by, it's going to attract women because they are attracted to high value men. At the same time, most women will try to start to redirect your efforts from building yourself to serving them. That's most women's idea of an LTR. If you r…
/r/askTRP14/07/20 02:12 PM
3

JMHO - sometimes it's better to go along to get along when you benefit from it long term. you're old man is likely still hurting from losing your mom, as well as the current stresses that COVID brings, and what not. bringing over the new doctor wife, okay, but that's likely a salve for other stuff for him. Just focus on what's best for you. You're only 21. Put up with the home living long enough to graduate and get a decent job and start a career while staying debt free. Go along to get along as…
/r/askTRP10/07/20 01:43 PM
1

Last minute flakes are an indication of what's to come. She's used to getting away with it too. Only advice - next time try to be more neutral in your flake response. Just say something like "I see." or "okay". Or be silent and don't respond to the flake message. Her reaching out like she did, she might be beta testing to see if you come running, or see if you're with someone else. If you wanted to try to bait her in some, a response is needed, but not going to see her. Something like "thanks fo…
/r/askTRP10/07/20 01:34 PM
7

her coming back to your door - might have been a good chance to let her in, let her crash on the couch, document it, etc. kinda hard to honestly say "he made me have sex with him" with the prior messages AND that she ran back for a white knight rescuer after getting beat up by a jealous fiance. at least if he marked her up, you've got cover that he caused all the marks and not you! but seriously, stay no contact now, save the evidence, screen shot the texts and save them online in a cloud backup…
/r/askTRP10/07/20 01:09 AM
12

She's trying to get you to shift your main focus from your mission to her. Be careful with this. Don't let yourself get distracted like this. Better thing to do would be to incorporate her into your mission. Put her to work with you (for you really, but make her think it is with you). The regular routine for her get's reset because she'd be doing new stuff. But that's only if you want to integrate life with her more tightly. And there's a later pitfall, she'll start to feel ownership over the st…
/r/askTRP09/07/20 01:27 PM
5

Flip the pressure - own it proudly. Yes, you're a straight guy, you like sex with females and are attracted to them. So what?
/r/askTRP07/07/20 08:14 PM
1

I would advise gathering proof first. I would also consider whether to tell or not. What's the fallout for your life? How old are you? What are family finances like? What are your future prospects for education and what not? How would this affect all that? If exposing your mom would compromise your future, I'd honestly be careful about that. If you do decide to expose them, I'd honestly tell them both you want to talk to them, sit down, and drop the bomb on them both at the same time. But don't …
/r/askTRP26/06/20 05:46 PM
4

I looked at online dating contacts and meet ups like this - first meet was a first MEET, not a date. I'm vetting them before anything else because until I met them in real life, they weren't confirmed as a prospect I wanted to explore anything with. Therefore, I only did first meets as coffee/lunch time meet ups, only intending for it last an hour or so. I always had something else ready to go do after. Sometimes, I'd be willing to roll right into an instadate following the initial meet if the v…
/r/askTRP25/06/20 02:30 PM
1

i got snipped at 42. have one son. i gotta say fatherhood is demanding but i love it. that said, yeah, there's medical help that you can use to have a kid after getting snipped. in today's world, i kinda think it is smart to get snipped young then go to the doctor for help when you choose to knock a girl up. recovery was easy for me. one day at home with frozen peas, a few days of ibuprofen, and after that I was actually fine and back in action. you gotta wear a condom the first 10-15 nuts after…
/r/askTRP25/06/20 11:53 AM
1

My opinion - have an abundant mentality and forgo thoughts of banging the dude's girl. That's just getting you more mixed into the whole thing. There are endless numbers of girls. Go find a new one that isn't related to this. As for telling the other chick - one don't feel obligated. Not your monkeys, not your circus. Not telling also helps keep you separated from the situation in the future. Also, not your relationship, and you owe this girl nothing. If you do tell, keep short and sweet. "hey -…
/r/askTRP22/06/20 01:04 PM
3

One - she's responding to your flirting and liking it. So it's not you that is messing with her relationship, it's her lack of boundaries and self control. She's bringing it on herself. But don't confront her with that, she's just being immature and not being accountable to herself. Which is typical for about 90% of humanity these days. Explanation is she's trying to blame you for what she's doing and how her own behavior is making her feel guilty. I'd advise to just go silent with her, not conf…
/r/askTRP16/06/20 03:04 PM
7

You don't have to adapt to her conditions. You both have to follow the court orders. If she refuses, the remedy is contempt of court. Like I said, minimal contact, no engagement, only text to confirm logistics of pickup's and drop offs. Try it one time, send the pickup text a few hours before pick up time. Send nothing else, respond to nothing else she sends to try to create negative engagement. If she calls, do not pick up. If you arrive at the appointed time and she's screwing with you, just r…
/r/askTRP16/06/20 02:09 PM
23

Stop calling her. Send a simple text. "I will be there at the specified time for picking up kids at the court ordered time and place. Have them ready to go." Be a grey rock otherwise. No emotional engagement. She will try to bait you into it. Do not lose your composure and give in. She will escalate her attempts, still do not lose your composure and give in. Also, do not retaliate or attempt to give any verbal jabs back. It's like this - she's a miserable twat. She's acting like she is and ridin…
/r/askTRP16/06/20 12:50 PM
3

Go but be ready to bail if it isn't going well. Talk to them both and initially talk more to the uglier one first. Win her over, but be giving IOI's to the hotter one (eye looks, beginning KINO). Eventually switch to the hotter one (assuming it's your date but doesn't have to be depending on things role). Then, build some more comfort, and eventually move to isolating her for one-on-one. If the 2nd chick just won't take a cue and back out, she's been told not to leave no matter what. Gracefully …
/r/askTRP15/06/20 10:43 PM
10

They enjoy the sympathetic martyr status they are given in our culture for being single mothers. But they also resent being single mothers deep down as it drastically reduces the amount of freedom they have. Or they end up being shitty mothers and neglecting their kids. The posts they put up are a front. Just another voice in the self deluded echo chamber telling them how great it is. They're doing it to try to convince themselves how great it is. The ones that get worst end of it are the kids.
/r/askTRP10/06/20 01:24 PM
1

Sometimes you hook up with a girl that once your naked and it's game on, you find the two of you just don't match up well in bed. I had that happen a few times. It wasn't a lot, but occasionally. It comes across as the girl is just harder to get off. The reality is it's harder for you to get the girl off because the physical chemistry is just out of whack. In my experience, it was maybe 2-3 out of every 10 that things turned out that way. Best bet is to just move on and not take it personally. N…
/r/askTRP04/06/20 02:34 PM
11

I'd seen it as women that acknowledge they want their man to be their leader. And they want said leader to be a masculine man, with a mission that they can join in on and be his helper. I agree it's not the greatest forum, though.
/r/askTRP04/06/20 02:28 PM
1

Think of it in terms of composure. Stoicism is really more for not letting adverse or hard situations provoke you into acting out and making bad decisions. It's about maintaining your composure in the face of adversity and trouble. It can happen as a cheating woman, kids acting like fools, workplace dramas, or even keeping a cool head while in the middle of a dangerous situation like a riot. It's fine to be expressive of good moods, have a good sense of humor, and be a fun and engaging person. J…
/r/askTRP02/06/20 04:39 PM
4

I think men need to realize a nuance to beating or not getting oneitis. We focus on not pedestalizing a woman, but I think we also need to not pedestalize the idea of being in a LTR to begin with. The idea that we need to be in a relationship is wrong, period. Getting comfortable with being single and being okay with it was a big growth leap I finally made. The MGTOW guys are half right - you gotta learn to be okay on your own, and be happy with it. Once you're there, and you figure out some chi…
/r/askTRP26/05/20 08:31 PM
4

Hit the gym, go do some things interesting/fun/etc. separate from her - work on building your SMV and attractiveness, and make her miss you. If she doesn't miss you after experiencing more separation, that will confirm she's trying to use denial of sex as a way to exert control over you. If she misses you, sees the gains, and her attraction restarts, you'll know it was you losing SMV in her eyes. From there you have a choice - what work do you have to do maintain high SMV to keep her wet and wil…
/r/askTRP26/05/20 08:22 PM
3

She's gonna have tripletts. And she just gave you gonnasyphylherpieaids, as well as coronavirus. Seriously, chicks like it raw too, dude (my vasectomy was one the best things i've done, i can raw dawg all day long and not create another little shit kid). Feels better to them as much as it does to us. Learn to unroll a condom better and stop being an autist about it.
/r/askTRP22/05/20 04:03 PM
3

Go buy a barbell and weights. Build a rack from cheap lumber. Start lifting again. When the gyms shutdown, that's what I did. My rack is all 2x4's, screws, some steel gussets to strengthen joints, and 2x6 bases. Cost about $40 in materials, and 3 hours of time with my circular saw, cordless drill, and impact driver. And go finish that Masters while you're at it. Job wise - it's hard especially right now, but keep looking. Even if it's just a job doing labor or stocking shelves. If you need to bi…
/r/askTRP20/05/20 08:10 PM
1

Where to start...first, when a woman is attracted to a man, she wants to fuck him. It's that simple. And women like to fuck attractive men, just like men like to fuck attractive women. So it's not that she doesn't want sex, she just doesn't want sex with you. Also, when women are attracted and want to fuck, they also want to please. So they'll experiment with a guy that attracts them and turns them on. They don't experiment with a guy that doesn't give them the tingles. Be honest with yourself a…
/r/askTRP18/05/20 06:05 PM
1

Proceed as planned. Mouth and butt fuck her all weekend.
/r/askTRP15/05/20 05:37 PM
1

If she's several ex-'s she says were assholes, why would you end up any different when you're her next ex-?
/r/askTRP14/05/20 02:20 PM
2

Having a good woman's support as a compliment to your life is not the same as having a second mother. I wouldn't want my wife to start trying to be a mother to me. That shit would get smacked down quickly, no matter what else was going on in my life. Hell, my own mother gets smacked down when she tries to inject too much "mothering" into my life at this point!
/r/askTRP13/05/20 03:43 PM
82

Learning to deal with grief like this and to maintain your ability to function in life at the same time is one of the ultimate challenges men deal with. Stoicism is a learned skill that helps you learn to do this, this won't be the last time you have to do this. However, I think there's a misconception about Stoicism out there. It means learning to rule your emotions and not let them rule you. We all need to learn to not let strong emotions drive us to act out and do or say stupid shit that is s…
/r/askTRP12/05/20 04:54 PM
99

I'm sorry. It hurts to lose people. There isn't much advice anyone can give other than you'll grieve, and it's gonna suck. You're gonna miss your friend and it's gonna suck. Best advice I can give is to stay busy, make sure you eat right, get some good weight time in, and I think it is okay to say goodbye and move on. It doesn't mean he didn't matter to move on. It means exactly what I said before, you say goodbye and continue with life when someone close passes. It's all we can do.
/r/askTRP12/05/20 12:16 AM
1

i'd advise to just be silent on it, and get with her again before too long so the urge isn't so strong and you can last longer. if she brings it up again, don't make a big deal, just say something "just wait until next time - you've got a good pounding waiting for you."
/r/askTRP11/05/20 05:18 PM
25

so it's sometimes a turn on for a girl if she can make you cum super fast. she knows she turned you on so much that you just couldn't help yourself. the key is to not be a minute man on the next encounter and have her panting and gasping for air after making her cum intensely. she texted you again, so she's maybe up for the next round.
/r/askTRP11/05/20 02:06 PM
7

The boss might also pick the one that has built better relationships with everyone else i the office and is more entrenched. Show you're in it for the long haul, can work well with others and provide leadership, and he doesn't have to worry about replacing you in 6 months or a year (unless you get the proverbial offer you can't refuse, in which case he should congratulate you and wish you well).
/r/askTRP11/05/20 01:45 PM
3

Guys, there's a procedure where a doc can stick your nads with a needle, withdraw semen, and use it to impregnate the woman of your choice. It's pricey, but not as pricey as kids with some woman you'd rather cut ties with. It allows you to get snipped young and still have a reasonable shoot at reproducing should you decide you want to.
/r/askTRP05/05/20 05:19 PM
2

Select a LTR/mate that has values similar to your own. Have mission, the LTR/mate should share your values, see the benefit of your mission, and want to come along help accomplish the mission.
/r/askTRP05/05/20 05:16 PM
4

Go see him in the hospital if you can. Offer to just listen and let him talk. Don't try to correct him, you'll see a combination of truth and pity party that comes out, but just let him get it out. Then, what you do is just tell him he's family, you love him, you don't know to fix things with your parents, likely can't anyway, but you want him around. Then just encourage him that life can get better if he puts in the work to make it better for himself, regardless of how things go in the future w…
/r/askTRP30/04/20 02:30 PM
1

Just say things with her aren't working for you so you're ending it. Don't get into explaining more. No need to start telling her what's wrong and risk her taking it bad or as badmouthing her and then her reacting. Just wish her good luck and leave. Short and sweet. Clean cuts hurt the least and heal the quickest. I personally don't like the slow drop in contact, it leaves the situation on your mind when it resolution drags on. Just rip the band off in a quick, mature manner while trying to mini…
/r/askTRP29/04/20 12:57 PM
1

Punishing her is a sign of weakness and being too thirsty on your part. You need to let that shit go. Just tell her that you respect her decisions, but you have different values, so you won't be continuing to pursue anything with her due to those value differences. Tell her it would create too much conflict, you're both better off simply finding better matches for yourselves. After that is said, there isn't a need to say anything else to her, so just stop responding further.
/r/askTRP27/04/20 01:55 PM
2

My opinion here - it's the girl, not the guy. The girl's pair-bonding ability is out of whack when she's okay with her man banging other girls. I wouldn't consider a relationship with a girl like this an LTR to be honest. More like FWB but not exclusive. Don't get attached to one.
/r/askTRP23/04/20 04:26 PM
5

Hard pass. Find a girl that doesn't drag baggage like this along with her. This is sticking it in crazy, there will be fall out for you if you do it.
/r/askTRP23/04/20 04:19 PM
3

They aren't loyal once they hit the wall, they're more desperate instead. She went back to her ex-. There was a reason they broke up originally. It will not have changed. She's set herself up for another bad relationship and outcome. Don't be surprised if she hits you up for a discrete hookup while still staying with her provider. He'll get boring to her, or otherwise unsatisfying, and she'll go looking for satisfaction in another man's arms. If I were you, I'd reject her. We enable hypergamy li…
/r/askTRP23/04/20 01:34 PM
1

We're already doing group zoom calls every saturday or sunday evening with an extended friend and family group. And every few days evening driveway drinks with neighbors where everybody keeps distance but we're in our front yards talking.
/r/askTRP23/04/20 01:10 PM
7

Just my opinion, but even BP'd, you were right to cut her off. If she'll disrespect him like that, she'd have done the same to you eventually. So good job on dodging that particular bullet.
/r/TheRedPill22/04/20 03:53 PM
1

It's okay to show compassion without trying to fix it for her. Show some heart, etc., and then ask her what she can do for herself to address whatever her problem is. I learned a principle once called "S.E.T.", Sympathy, Empathy, Truth. Follow those steps, in that order, building to the truth that it's her job to fix herself, so she should proactively make the effort in order to build herself into a better version of herself. If she won't do it, and continues to try to dump on you as her emotion…
/r/askTRP22/04/20 02:24 PM
1

She's very extroverted. Being isolated from people this much has her rather blah emotionally most of the time. I did manage to generate some spark in her last night though. I'd finally found a barbell and weight set on Craigslist and managed to snag it before anyone else, did my lifting, came in took a shower. When I got out, I spiked my hair up like a porcupine just to be a bit nuts with it. That got a decent laugh and seemed to generate some energy.
/r/askTRP22/04/20 01:37 PM
5

find a back roads way of getting home and go home.
/r/askTRP21/04/20 01:31 PM
3

She's been scorned and she's now lashing out in revenge and retribution. Normal people will recognize it for what it is without you having to say anything. Just stay stoic and quiet about it. If anyone brings up her badmouthing, just say that bitterness drives people to do crazy shit and you hope she gets over her's soon. Don't otherwise respond or retaliate. This is a chance to see who is worth being in your life. The people that get it and pay it no heed, those are cool people to have around. …
/r/askTRP20/04/20 06:30 PM
6

If you can move with a little rhythm and coordination, it's a chance to cement Chad status in her head. A little attention from other women can confirm to her that her man is wanted by other women, therefore must be high value. Can result in more submissive girl. I went to a dancing spot with my wife about a year ago. We'd been on and off the floor, were taking a break and having a drink, her arm was around mine. I got tapped on the shoulder and there were literally 4-5 girls behind us, looking …
/r/askTRP20/04/20 01:42 PM
1

Park's or places for a walk. Get take out from somewhere, bring a cooler with a bottle of wine or something.
/r/askTRP17/04/20 03:05 PM
1

I think the better way to phrase the point is "what doesn't kill you CAN make you stronger". the whole tough times don't last, tough men do thing. when you experience a tough time/incident, what learn in figuring out how to overcome it not only overcomes the setback, you also end up with expanded/increased abilities you can then use in the rest of your life. adversity is the mother of all invention, after all. but this is only if you are willing to own your own accountability to yourself for the…
/r/askTRP17/04/20 02:59 PM
4

Yes. Ruger SR9c is my normal carry. I have a subcompact .380 as well, can go right in my gym shorts pocket. The SR9c is similar in size to a CZ or Glock 19. I prefer a belt to suspend the holster (IWB), the 380 is for when I'm not wearing a belt. I also have other pistols, rifles, and a shotgun.
/r/askTRP16/04/20 05:04 PM
4

This leads to conversation about her asking me if I would have a threesome with them. Response needs to leave plausible deniability to not step on her ASD landmine. Something like "if we've had enough to drink before hand, we could even video it!" Something to sound like a joke in response, not serious, but still plant the seed of how it can happen and her hamster can later spin to let her off the slut hook were it to actually happen. But yeah, she set up a catch-22 question for you. Other optio…
/r/askTRP16/04/20 02:29 PM
2

When she see's you as her Chad, she'll submit to whatever you want and follow you around like a puppy, constantly hoping for a morsel of your attention. Trick is how to keep it going once the honeymoon phase wears off. And she likely likes her legs hurting after she's been dicked down good.
/r/TheRedPill15/04/20 04:27 PM
-3

In my 40's my own count was not small, I remarried to a woman in her 40's, never married. Obviously she had her own non-small count as well. What's more key to me is what I'll call "recent body count". My now wife had settled herself emotionally and no longer slept around for gratification. Her running last 3 year's body count was actually really really low. This showed me she'd grown up and had grown into a more high SMV woman that didn't give her value away easy. The days of virgins are gone. …
/r/askTRP14/04/20 03:51 PM
1

moving away from my hometown was a great thing ultimately. i still screwed up plenty before becoming more RP'd, though, but it's a big enough metro area that it's not as big a deal. can cast off people as needed, there are always more. sometimes local environmental influences help to keep you backsliding, the crabs in your bucket can be hard to escape. moving away helps with that.
/r/askTRP13/04/20 07:14 PM
1

JMHO - I had it done at 43, have already passed on my genes, don't want another one. It's been great. Recovery was easy. No complications. As for reversal - there are reversal procedures that have high variability of success. It is also possible for a doc withdraw semen out "upstream" of the snip where sperm can still be obtained by inserting a needle into the right spot and drawing out the fluid. They can then use it to inseminate a woman with your sperm if you and her decided to have kids in t…
/r/askTRP13/04/20 03:30 PM
2

I don't think most of men like you describe have life on easy mode. They constantly work hard, with focus and discipline, and the achieve the results that turn them into high value men. They don't whine or make excuses about setbacks, they just roll up their sleeves and figure out how to work around or through setbacks, own their accountability for when a setback is their fault, and even when it's not their fault, they own their accountability for how they choose to react to it. I don't know if …
/r/askTRP10/04/20 07:13 PM
1

From a TRP perspective (my biased take admitted to as well) - we know that most of society doesn't hold frame and composure well. In general in western society, people are mentally soft and can't handle adversity and hard times well. Everyone looks for someone else to blame, thinks they are owed something, thinks when something not their fault hits them in the mouth, someone else is supposed to make it better for them. It's the same with other setbacks that aren't our fault. Getting hit by a dru…
/r/askTRP10/04/20 02:38 PM
2

She's giving you the run around. No woman that does this is worth the effort. Women that do this are generally disingenuine, dishonest, and manipulative. Currently she is manipulating you. Leave her, go find a woman that is not manipulative like this. The "friends" that undermined you - you don't need friends like that either.
/r/askTRP10/04/20 01:57 PM
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Just my humble opinion - it's okay to be human. Send her a brief thank you. Even if you are done with her, learning to apply TRP with class is only going to stand you in good stead for the future.
/r/askTRP06/04/20 05:34 PM
1

Conan what is best in life? -Crush your enemies, see them driven before you, and listen to the lamentations of their women!
/r/TheRedPill02/04/20 01:53 PM
5

Women are like cats - if you chase too hard, they run. If you sit still, the ones that are interested will move in to check you out more. Then, if you dangle a toy they like, but don't let them have it easy, they'll stick around and try to get the toy they like. There's a balance, if you make it too easy for them, they get bored. They have to like you and be interested, but they have to miss you some too. It keeps them wanting to see you again. You have to create the space and absence for them t…
/r/askTRP02/04/20 01:51 PM
3

She is mentally ill, and so is her mother. This isn't a red flag, it's a giant red nuclear mushroom cloud. You are not responsible for her mental unfitness, or whatever happened to put her in that state. No "boy issues" are enough to drive a girl low enough to kill herself. That she couldn't handle you nexting her is not the cause of her suicide attempt. It is instead a symptomatic sign that something is really, really wrong with her. At that this point, you are so much better off not going to t…
/r/askTRP01/04/20 11:36 PM
2

It's a balance. Message enough to keep her interest. Don't over message, though. Think of her as a cat and you're dangling a string for it to play with. Let her have it too easy, and she'll lose interest. Keep bouncing the string, but not let her have it, and she'll keep trying to get it. Unless a more interesting toy happens along. The key is to engage enough that she misses you and wants more of you. If you give her too much, that's when you'll screw it up for certain.
/r/askTRP01/04/20 11:29 PM
3

Isolate yourself from these people. Just don't interact with them as much as possible. For you need to, keep it as un-intimate as needed. Grey rock them - ie, be as interesting as a grey rock to them, and as reactive as a grey rock. This includes family. Trying to guilt you for things 10 years ago - it's ridiculous. Look at this way, you can't make people do anything. You can only control yourself. So control what you do and don't let into your life. As you stop letting this crap into your life …
/r/askTRP01/04/20 03:14 PM
2

I spent the night in the county clink after a false allegation. I beat it eventually and the BPD woman ended up losing custody of her own kids after they went to school counselors for help as their mother unraveled. I learned that if a woman gets physical, let her. Make sure she's not marked and you are as a man. The only way to deal with cops in that situation is if you can demonstrate she used more force, and you used none, and you'll need to have marks on you to prove it.
/r/askTRP31/03/20 11:12 PM
1

For starters, stop work. Inform them you're stopping work due to unpaid invoices, but you are willing to resume upon payment or other mutually agreeable negotiated terms. Said terms might be partial payment to get something in the bank account? If they don't pony up, or can't, there are other reliefs. My company, for example, has set up a way to document costs incurred by this virus. The feds are providing some level of relief to companies that can document loses. Maybe not 100% recoup, but ther…
/r/askTRP31/03/20 09:46 PM
9

I don't disagree with you. I tend to advocate a less intense approach to non's mainly because holding onto anger and bitterness after being on the receiving end of their behavior doesn't do the victim any good at all. It can actually be counterproductive and leave you vulnerable to the next predator that comes along. Best to figure out a way to let it go, establish better composure and mental frame for yourself, move on, and next time you see the same red flags (because you will), just withdraw …
/r/askTRP31/03/20 05:44 PM
1

tell her you were texting the other girls that are trying to snatch you up in her absence but you're texting them to let them down easy. ;-) on a more serious note - a man on a mission communicates what is needed when needed. he doesn't do trivial stuff, like texting inane shit just for the validation that comes from attention. figure out a way to politely say that to her.
/r/askTRP31/03/20 03:31 PM
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I wouldn't tell her. Most girls won't like hearing their guy doesn't know what he's doing. Although some enjoy the idea of deflowering and training a noob the way they want him, and some enjoy the idea of being treated like a goddess by some simp who will pedestalize them as his first. If she's like that, telling her will engage her "predator" instincts about it all, and still might not be good for you overall.
/r/askTRP31/03/20 03:17 PM
1

If you've read the sidebar, and about how to escalate, I think you need to apply that advice to yourself in a fashion. If you've never kissed a girl, how did you come close to sex with her? With no kissing, you likely didn't come close. If it's all words and flirting, a girl's word games to keep you engaged and orbiting aren't the same as her following through. Take it in slow steps. Touch her first, arms, legs, etc. Just brushes, gentle, unthreatening, comfortable. Let her get comfortable being…
/r/askTRP31/03/20 02:53 PM
1

If you don't want to have sex with her, then don't have sex with her. Don't let some perceived pressure in your mind to have sex drive you to do things you don't want to do. Focus on building yourself, your SMV, making you the best version you can be. You'll know you're getting there in reality when the girl that wants you is a high SMV woman instead of a hambeast. Think of your SMV this way - hold it high in your own head and only share it with women that are worthy of receiving it. It's a diff…
/r/askTRP31/03/20 02:41 PM
2

Your dad sounds like a Jekyll and Hyde type personality? Sometimes trying to be gentle/beta, then sometimes losing his shit and being an extreme asshole? On one hand - he's putting you through college. On the other hand, he and the rest of your family inject problems into the lives of those close to them. That's common in dysfunctional families. After you finish college, I'd advise you to establish distance and independence from your family of origin. You can see the dynamic and life choices are…
/r/askTRP31/03/20 02:34 PM
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BPD is all about fear of abandonment. They're insecurity is on steriods. Anything that triggers that fear of abandonment (like you not picking up the phone when they call, not texting back within 4 seconds, spending a day with your family without them, etc.) results in them losing control and dysregulating. The fear is "I'm a horrible worthless person because he doesn't want to be with me, I must punish/hurt him because he thinks I'm so awful." Very black and white thinking, it's called splittin…
/r/askTRP31/03/20 01:51 PM
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is the long distance thing short term? long term? hate to say it but you're young, she's young, you're both gonna get sick of the remote stuff and eventually go out and start looking for local side action to scratch the itch for more. best bet - pursue a mission and when you talk to her, telling her about progress pursuing goals always provides a never ending supply of new material. expect her to have nothing new most of the time, though. women consume, men create. she will not create much new t…
/r/askTRP30/03/20 06:00 PM
1

stop thinking about how to impress your girl more. start thinking about how to build your value and how this bonus can be put to work to do that. what can you invest it in that will build YOU?
/r/askTRP27/03/20 03:13 PM
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In other words, she's a slut but you inadvertantly hit her ASD mental shields weak spot. She attacked in response. It's a "don't go there or I'll hurt you" response, inspire fear and intimidation (fear that she'll be mad, maybe break up, etc.) to get to you stop. This chick ain't LTR material, dude. You might have a good time together but you just saw a bit of what she's really made of. Reality checks that she doesn't like cause her to go into denial and anger and lash out. Might be time to star…
/r/askTRP27/03/20 01:45 PM
1

do yourself a favor and let go of thinking about trying to make life be exactly as you want it right now. instead, start thinking about what you need to do to make your circumstances work. once that's done, start working to better your circumstances so you can make life work the way it sustainably in the future. you have to build yourself up and make something of yourself. You start at the bottom, like the rest of us. get into a rental with a roommate. my best roommates were always guys i didn't…
/r/askTRP27/03/20 01:39 PM
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She has to miss you before she'll turn around. You need to be absent for her to miss you. You did something wrong, you apologized and have tried to atone. That's all you can do. Past that, anything else is just begging and groveling, and that will look pathetic to her and drive her away more. Stop contact. If she settles down, misses you, and re-engages, she will. If she doesn't, let it be a lesson in what happens when you lose your composure, and move on. Won't feel good, but pain is a teacher.…
/r/askTRP26/03/20 10:35 PM
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You likely can't make a big dent in her insecurity. You're supposed to say things supportive of her body looking good if you're sleeping with her. She'll expect something from you, but it won't make a dent. I'd advise instead of complimenting her outright, just tell her something like "well, i like you in it so wear it." divorce your comment from her insecurity somehow. you can lead her in the interaction, keep her happy, and not start taking on responsibility of trying to make her genuinely fee…
/r/askTRP26/03/20 04:56 PM
1

As a rule, I'd encourage all you guys to not just ditch beta friends. Maintaining relationships in good status is good for all kinds of life growth opportunities. You never know what those relationships will inject into your life down the road. Now - bad relationships, or where people are using or all take and no give, those are good to ditch. But be a passive good example of better for your beta male friends, just don't get all preachy and better than them acting. And don't try to be a TRP miss…
/r/askTRP26/03/20 04:50 PM
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Harry is a never ending publicity fodder for Megan's public exposure. She knows it, and she knows there's no bad ending for her. Either he completely succumbs to her beta-izing him, and she keeps her publicity avenue, or he leaves her and she gets to play victim and spin how bad the whole royal family treated her. Either way - it's publicity and profile advertising for her that nothing else can compare to. (this is considering she's after the publicity first, and she's not after an actual health…
/r/askTRP24/03/20 06:19 PM
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Just tell her you're not going to reveal that. It's not important to the relationship, and you're not interested in learning the same thing from her. Key phrase to use "not going to" vs. "don't want to". Be assertive - tell her what you will and won't do, not wants/feelings. Don't justify why you won't either. Don't give reasons, at least until she calms down and respects that you're telling her "no" basically. I can think of reasons why not to reveal it - don't want her then escalating to who t…
/r/askTRP23/03/20 08:31 PM
1

secure men with nothing to prove don't chase. they get chased instead.
/r/askTRP23/03/20 08:24 PM
1

Double down on the insult - she apparently took it as you calling her a drunk. Or at least is making it out that way as an excuse to be loud in front of everyone and get attention on herself. So just tell her if she's so sensitive about being a drunk, then she stop being a drunk instead of lashing out at others to deflect attention from her being a drunk. Ie - ramp it up and directly call her a drunk. Then offer that she can step in the ring with you at her convenience. Or go tell the management…
/r/askTRP23/03/20 04:48 PM
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"Come over and you can share my cake and ice cream."
/r/askTRP23/03/20 03:29 PM
1

Hotter girls are on it, but you gotta be fit and attractive AND be able to post up some pics that show your attractiveness well. Pics should tell the story of an attractive guy with an attractive life she wants to join in on. The profile write up should be short, sweet, and somehow make her feel something when she reads it. The algorithims won't start showing you to the ones you want unless/until the more attractive women start swiping on your first, so you also need to put out a good profile th…
/r/askTRP23/03/20 03:09 PM
1

I so very rarely drink to the point of being impaired these days, it's limited to a flight at a brew pub or a craft cocktail, and I enjoy it as more of a desert/treat than anything else. I'd suggest this - hit the gym, if you need to initially while making this transition, then just stay home. See friends during the day before the parties get rolling. Find other things to work on and put the new extra time into something that improves you. Other ideas - I've known plenty of people in hiking and …
/r/askTRP16/03/20 05:00 PM
1

My stocks have taken a nose dive, but they'll come back. I've got extra cash I'm holding back from pumping in right now. Waiting for the moment when it seems like things are on the rebound. If I had time to pay attention to it more, I'd think about trying buy/sell at peaks and valleys, and ride the wave to build my account balance. My company could potentially look at putting people on unpaid leave if we end up in a big enough work slow down while this plays out. I've got plenty of cash to get t…
/r/askTRP16/03/20 04:36 PM
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she's doing it because she's a petty twat. that sick feeling is because you know she's trying to hurt you. it's not from not being over you. you thought better of her but she's showing you different. if i was you, I'd consider bullet dodged. this is who she was while you were dating her. don't tell your friend though. let him learn himself. if he'd known you were dating before he'd have clear signs already, and now he'll just think you're jealous. you're in the better spot coming out of all this…
/r/askTRP13/03/20 10:30 AM
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She has to start to miss you in order to flip it. You have to not be around or contacting her for her to miss you. It usually also requires to revamp yourself so at some future point when you see her again, it's like she's meeting a new person. This breaks the association in her mind with "that guy orbitor from way back when." Now stop worrying about it and go find new girls that you don't have to mess around like this with to start with.
/r/askTRP06/03/20 06:22 PM
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1st - she's got a self esteem issue. Lots of girls do. She's looking to this to fix it. Trust me, it won't do it. That kind of thing is only fixed by getting right with one's soul. 2nd - women get attention from men constantly, no matter how big or great the tits are. this likely doesn't have much to do with male attention if she's cute already. 3rd - however horrible we think women treat men, women treat other women even worse. they are hyper competitive with each other. i'd guess she's more co…
/r/askTRP03/03/20 05:41 PM
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Be boring and beta. She'll loose interest and move on. Likely quickly.
/r/askTRP01/03/20 06:49 PM
1

I think I saw an FBI statistic that 90% of street fights end up on the ground. BJJ is great for that. That said - if there's an MMA gym around that will teach you some each, you'll be really well positioned. Boxing teaches so much about gross motor body skills because you learn to punch with more than just your arm, and you learn the different ways to punch well which comes in handy in a fight as distances and angles shift around. BJJ or other ground fighting skills teach gross motor skills too,…
/r/askTRP28/02/20 02:39 PM
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Call authorities, report that he made a suicide threat and you believe he's serious. It's something you're not likely experienced enough to deal with. Beyond that, simply reiterate to him that there's no amount of money or whatever that has the same value to you as him. You're mom abandoned you, tell him he better not check out on you as well. Maybe ask him or tell him "do you want to sit here and feel bad for yourself, or do you want to come to the gym with me? if you sit here and feel bad, you…
/r/askTRP20/02/20 04:25 PM
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Differences between fandom or admiration vs idolizing. I watch sports sometimes, I admire the athleticism, appreciate the strategy, etc. I don't idolize anybody though. Keep things in proper perspective. That said NFL, NBA, etc. - they don't get my cash. No tickets, no jerseys, etc.
/r/TheRedPill08/02/20 12:56 PM
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Need healthy carbs to build muscle. Don't gorge on pizza and what not, do a bit of research. Fresh potatoes, quinoa, brown rice, etc. - all good if prepared in healthy fashion (don't fry!).
/r/askTRP07/02/20 05:29 PM
1

If you're attached and she's not reciprocating, I'd say don't go dude. If you do go, act like nothing happened, let her show you if she's interested in continuing or not. Otherwise, stay cool and composed, outcome independent. If anything happens with her, great, if not, that's fine too, at least act like you're good either way.
/r/askTRP07/02/20 05:27 PM
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Whether true BPD that would be diagnosed by a doctor, or some other character/mental disorder, when those kinds of behaviors are present, run for your life. Don't focus on the diagnosis or trying to figure out exactly what label to put on a chick that does that stuff. It doesn't matter. All that matters is not sticking it in crazy and keeping those kind of crazy chicks out of your life.
/r/askTRP07/02/20 03:50 PM
1

You're basing your internally perceived SMV on the outcomes with these chicks. When it's a bad outcome, you perceive low self SMV. There's the usual advice - lift, focus on your mission, etc. You already know it, but you haven't made the jump and had the message and it's nuances sink in yet. Outcome independence is a thing for a reason. What do you need to do to shift to being able to main high self perceived SMV regardless of outcome? A lot of the guys on here base it on being able to pull the …
/r/askTRP04/02/20 03:43 AM
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Too many angry incels in there. True MGTOW aren't angry, they're happy dudes.
/r/askTRP03/02/20 04:19 PM
2

If the closer gym has barbell racks, a good selection of dumb bells, kettle bells, etc. and some treadmills and ellipticals, I'd go for the closer one. It's all you need. Mine's a national, commercial chain gym, but they've got all that, plus a pool and hot tub, all the idiotic zumba classes and what not. I can lift, find a spot to stretch, then go soak in the hot tub, dip in the pool, etc. It helps me recover easier to soak and dip, alternatively. There are tons of people in there for gym selfi…
/r/askTRP27/01/20 03:48 PM
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None that ever worked for me to be honest. I lift 3 times a week. I'm 44 years old. 6'2", weight 200 lbs. If I lift more or less, I find I stop progressing strength wise, and even lose some. 3 times for me lifting heavy per week seems to be my sweet spot, balancing working out vs. rest and recovery. I don't seem to gain weight, but strength and goes up slowly. I eat to maintain 200 lbs and not put on extra. At 44, I'm not really looking to be like some jacked 25 year old. It's different at this …
/r/askTRP24/01/20 09:27 PM
1

I'd recommend to ignore. She's an ex-, she's sending messages trying to get you to re-engage but not in a genuine manner. She's playing games, proving why she needs to remain your ex-.
/r/askTRP24/01/20 05:05 PM
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So she's taller than you I think from other posts? And you're slimmer? I've been a hard gainer as far as mass goes my whole life. I can lift, work out, eat great, eat surplus calories, etc. and if I'm otherwise working out regularly, I just lean out. I gain strength, but mass has always been hard to come by for me past a certain point. That said, I'd advise workout for strength building, eat a surplus, and if needed get input from a trainer and dietitian. Regardless of size or looking bigger or …
/r/askTRP24/01/20 02:29 PM
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Could be not enough rest between lifting sessions, could be bad nutrition, could be a bad program, could a combo of them all, plus more. Understand you get stronger by recovering from lifting heavy. Recovery is as important as lifting. Suggest you dial back the bench press frequency, let yourself recover more. Start with taking a week off heavy lifting. Go to gym, work out light, do some cardio, light/fast reps on what you do lift, etc. Everyone needs a rest period occasionally. Then experiment …
/r/askTRP23/01/20 05:54 PM
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First - in order to get an ex- back, she has to miss you. To miss you, you have to be gone and absent. So if nothing else, understand that by staying present, you are undermining getting back together one day. Second - as we always say on here, build yourself into a better version of yourself. Gym, career, etc. Stop bad habits, replace them with habits that will improve you. Third - understand you're human, not perfect, and make mistakes. Stop beating yourself up for it, let it go, and move on. …
/r/askTRP23/01/20 02:44 PM
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Well, in my case growing up, I just watched and waited for the chance when there wasn't anyone else around. Took patience, see opportunity for some uninterrupted time to "work things out", and like I said, you go in, you get right to it, no talking, etc. Usually just a few pops, a few seconds, and it was all over. Dude would be cringing or otherwise out of it. At most, say something to effect of "don't f*** with me anymore." and then walk out. Most dudes won't want to admit someone got the bette…
/r/askTRP22/01/20 07:38 PM
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We used to settle these things in the bathroom, where there were no prying eyes. I gave out a few shiners to guys that way. Then, the challenges stopped. They also didn't go report it, they didn't want it to get out they got their butt's kicked. Just had to have intent from the instant you walked in the door that you were going visit violence upon the person that had it coming. No waiting, no talking smack, etc. Just walked right up and popped 'em in the mouth. When it was done, you didn't go ar…
/r/askTRP22/01/20 06:15 PM
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Make yourself more marketable and valuable. Ie- go back to school, get trained in a better paying skill set. College (either business, accounting, or something more technical), skilled trades, etc. Maybe even Real Estate. The right personalities can make big bucks in real estate, and at least here, it's an 80 hour course, pass the course test, then pass the state's licensing test, and you can go find a broker to work for. The bigger brokerages even have training programs for entry level agents t…
/r/askTRP22/01/20 04:26 PM
1

If she'll cheat with you, she'll cheat on you. Stop trying to get with her, tell her as long as she's with the other dude officially, you're not messing around anymore. Then go find a single chick. At least, that's the best way, IMHO. If you want to push things with her, learn some boyfriend destroyers like "I don't need to hear about your personal problems!" when she mentions him, delivered in a jokey, fun kind of way. And then make yourself kind of scarce to her, still show up with some Tinder…
/r/askTRP22/01/20 02:20 PM
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Echo'ing the others - get away from this chick. Break up, do not see her again. Do not be in private with her. Do not respond to texts or other messages further. Do not call her, etc. Only exception is perhaps a break up text. Keep it simple - "Dear LTR, this relationship isn't right for me and not what I want. I'm ending it. No hard feelings, I wish the best in the future. Good luck." Then do not respond to another thing. Save all the other crazy texts and documentation for now. If you run into…
/r/askTRP17/01/20 04:30 PM
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I'm 44. I find that I get up ,go to work, hit the gym, get my kid and go home. Take care of dad duty stuff, make sure my kid is staying up on his homework and what not, etc. By the time I'm done with the daily grind, and when you add in a weekly grocery store run and other shit you just gotta go do, then consider as you get older and more established in a career, sometimes it takes extra time as well. You'll find that focus on and pursue a mission, still make time to hit the gym, make time to pr…
/r/askTRP17/01/20 02:50 PM
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You did the right thing. The trying to guilt and shame you into her frame won't get better. It only gets worse, especially if you progress things to living together, marriage, kids, etc. Go find a better woman that won't pull that shit.
/r/askTRP17/01/20 02:36 PM
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i guess that's another option. move out, break lease, pay the penalty, and move on. he might also be liable for the landlords fees if the landlord has expenses to remove her if he's the lease holder and she's not on it. he'd be in the clear otherwise, though, she'd be SoL.
/r/askTRP14/01/20 08:21 PM
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Get documentation. Take to local magistrate. File for restraining order to have her removed. Next, especially if the lease is only in his name - start the eviction process. Usually, it's notify them to leave, if they haven't within a specified time, you can go file the court paperwork. Go through the process, get Writ of Disposseory, take to Sheriff, Sheriff goes to residence and executes the eviction. Heck, the eviction can go forward even if she's making false accusations. It can weaken her ca…
/r/askTRP14/01/20 08:20 PM
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The raging hormones are driving lots of guys to respond "set it up, close the deal", but consider this: She's in your class, and will be a coworker as well, right? You know your life better than anyone posting on the internet, so just remember "don't shit where you eat" as well. Make a smart decision, don't get #metoo'd later on.
/r/askTRP14/01/20 02:50 PM
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In the workplace - after 20 years in it, I BIFF and grey rock women in the office. BIFF = brief, informal, friendly, factual. Grey rock is otherwise be as interesting as a grey rock to them. Keeps you out of HR issues and no #metoo BS from them towards you. And never be behind closed doors where you're the only guy in the room. Not even with multiple women. If you can manage it, have another dude (of like mind as you, not some guy trying to ingratiate himself to the females in the office), and k…
/r/askTRP13/01/20 06:40 PM
1

If she's sick, tell her you don't want to get it so you'll see her when she's feeling better and she should go home, go to bed, and get better. Then leave.
/r/askTRP08/01/20 08:24 PM
1

Stay silent. Don't respond. 99.9% chance that she's not pregnant and making it up if she's really BPD. If she is BPD, admit nothing. If she persists, then all you say is if she really is pregnant, you want a paternity test when the baby is born, and that's it. I'd be a paycheck you never hear from her again.
/r/askTRP08/01/20 08:22 PM
1

Health is 80% diet. If you're not eating healthy, you're just pissing into the wind at the gym. Remember, if you want the cut, chiseled look, then abs are made in the kitchen first. You gotta eat to lose body fat so you don't have the layer of blubber covering what very well be strong, toned muscle underneath. It only shows through when you get your body to burn off the fat.
/r/askTRP07/01/20 09:27 PM
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make it clear you're stopping becuz no sex. don't be butthurt, just tell her it's cool, but you're also limiting your blue balls, that you don't want to get super worked up and not be able to go all the way. if she can't respect that then leave and next her.
/r/askTRP06/01/20 10:41 PM
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Change positions. Flip her on her back, raise her legs, and stay upright on your knees above her. Use the head of your cock to massage her opening, clit, etc. Rub your shaft up and down on her vaginal lips too. Alternate with penetrating a little, stop, repeat above, penetrate more, lather rinse repeat until you can penetrate her comfortably. If you do it right, it can be very erotic and arousing. You also get to control, solve the problem, lead her through the experience, etc. She'll love it. E…
/r/askTRP06/01/20 08:43 PM
2

BP feminized society only stands because enough men have bought into it and support it to their own detriment. Without lawmakers, judges, and cops with guns (mostly men) to enforce it, it wouldn't stand on it's own. It's just another veiled form the State's use of force to exert control over society.
/r/TheRedPill04/01/20 06:09 PM
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Something not commented on yet - if you're in a LTR, if your LTR enters a transitional space it is a higher likelihood time that she'll cheat. "It just happened" will be her explanation. However, if you're with her in the transitional space, it's also the time she'll be more open to new things with you if she sees you with high SMV. Trying anal finally, or going skydiving with you, etc. New territory both sexually and otherwise can be covered.
/r/TheRedPill03/01/20 04:05 AM
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I'm married and content currently. It's my 2nd marriage. First one - it was never quite how I imagined it. Ended in a nasty divorce. I have a kid with her, "coparenting" is a pain with someone you detest. New wife is solid woman and worth putting up with woman stuff for. I have married friends that are content, others that are miserable. Also have single friends that are content, single friends that are miserable. It's all about yourself in the end. Are you content with you whether your married …
/r/askTRP20/12/19 02:45 PM
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She is getting consequences. She lost a high SMV man. Her punishment is to go on about her life, doing exactly what she's done before, and continually ending up rejected by the high SMV men all women want, or ending up stuck with some beta BP man that she won't respect or value, cheats on, etc. Eventually even the BP guys get tired of this and leave, or become so pathetic in their passive aggression that she'll leave them out of her own miserable disgust, disgust which she really will bring on h…
/r/askTRP19/12/19 06:07 PM
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I'd recommend ignoring it. Just be composed and cool at work about it. Don't bring it up. If someone else does, just be gracious and not talk shit about said drunk co-worker. Say that for your part, your good, your job and work you're doing is good, so no problems. Beyond that - grey rock it (means be as engaging and exciting as a grey rock about it), be BIFF (brief, informative, friendly, factual), and move on. Last bit of advice - never listen to a woman. They're usually full of shit and manip…
/r/askTRP19/12/19 05:58 PM
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You're not responsible for other people's feelings. And as quick as she is to get clingy online, I guarantee you she's just as quick to cut someone off without a thought. You do you. Let her do her. I also always recommend not really considering online contacts "real people" until you meet in real life. Online people can hide and pretend too easily to be something they aren't. You don't see who they really are, therefore, they shouldn't be considered real as they present themselves until you hav…
/r/askTRP18/12/19 04:22 PM
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You made such a good decision here. A woman like this going to inject drama into your life one way or another, and getting laid isn't worth it. Go find a woman that doesn't have a kid, doesn't have a husband that can get pissed off, etc. Don't invite this kind of drama into your life. Again - good job!
/r/askTRP17/12/19 09:29 PM
1

When I stopped buying any kind of pre-made food, I lost a lot of weight. Shop around the edges of the grocery store, keep to the fresh meats and produce sections, and the frozen veggie section. It was really that simple. For guys that want to get to 10% bodyfat, deadlift 400 lbs, etc. - obviously you need more. If just want to be normal and healthy, have a healthy BMI, etc. - StrongLifts or similar, and shop around the edge of the grocery store. Will get you into the top 20% of men in 3-4 months…
/r/TheRedPill17/12/19 03:19 PM
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Not a good chick to get naked with, dude.
/r/askTRP17/12/19 04:43 AM
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And you can beat your head against a wall trying to get him to wake up, or go live your life. Both options result in the same thing in that he doesn't wake up until he's ready to, so you might as well save yourself some aggravation.
/r/askTRP16/12/19 08:52 PM
2

Everyone loves the idea of self-improvement. Starting tomorrow, as soon as they polish off the last piece of pizza in that leftovers box. You have to wait until he invites your help. Until then, you can reach out, offer for him to come meet for a drink, catch up, you can tell him about your own efforts and pay offs, successes, failures, things that haven't yet reached success but are still building, etc. Set the example, let him see it at work, but wait for him to reach out before doing anything…
/r/askTRP16/12/19 06:53 PM
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Comfort test - she was fishing for an overnight invite. I dunno what could have been a better response or if what you did was the best thing. It depends on you, her, state of the LTR, etc. Only you can know that for certain. I do think the pressure flip questions below are good responses that can be folded in as well. One other potential response is recognizing she wants an overnighter, if it's not a good night for it, then offer it at another time. This is only if you want to give her that comf…
/r/askTRP16/12/19 01:29 PM
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I'm a water engineer, I do pipelines, treatment plants, etc. I'm a Project Manager and design lead, I end up overseeing the all the different disciplines, doing the management and invoicing, project finances, etc. It's not real exciting unless something breaks or doesn't work like it's supposed to after it's built (ie - something goes wrong). When asked what I do - I paraphrase all that by saying "I make smart people with poor social skills talk to each other." I don't focus on the technical par…
/r/askTRP13/12/19 07:12 PM
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They're crazy in bed because they are craving your approval. The crazy sex is something they know guys want, so they do it to meet that want get the approval. It's a hallmark of daddy issues, past traumas, abandonments, etc. At some point, whatever you're actions and behaviors are won't be enough to make her feel approved. They're needs always grow and escalate, it will get to a point you can't meet it because nobody can. When that happens, she'll turn the crazy claws on you as punishment for no…
/r/askTRP13/12/19 05:59 PM
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Put it to you this way - when in a LTR, work harder at improving your SMV than before the LTR. don't let yourself go. LTR will see it, she'll see other women look at you, she'll know women will swipe you from her if they can, and she'll work that much harder to keep you herself. You don't need to actually talk to other women in this process. Just be high value and let LTR's hamster do the rest.
/r/askTRP12/12/19 02:35 PM
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Abundance means not mate guarding. It's only 2 weeks in too. This is a perfect chance to practice abundance and frame control of yourself, and to let her show you who she really is. If she cheats, better to find out now. If she doesn't, it tells you about her too. Let her demonstrate who she is by her actions. I'd just respond back that she can make her own decisions, you're not her boss, and you hope she does well on her test.
/r/askTRP11/12/19 04:35 PM
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She's dangling orbiter bait. Delete and don't respond. If you need to for your own sake, then block her as well. Keep in mind, the epitome of DGAF here is to be able to receive, read, and delete said text while feeling nothing about it. If it causes some reaction in you, block away. But if you can get to where you can receive this stuff without being affected, that's the best place to be.
/r/askTRP10/12/19 02:05 PM
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Don't burn bridges with the old social circle, but start developing a new one too. This advice is similar to the "get your ex- back" advice that's out there - be scarce. Then improve yourself. When you end up re-engaged with old people, they have a chance to reset their image of you after a break and building yourself into a better version. Without the break, they see the slow mo process, and it doesn't really click with old people. The sudden new change will impact some people, though, but not …
/r/askTRP05/12/19 09:04 PM
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You did the right thing. Her text justifying her behavior and defending what she did, instead of apologizing for being disrespectful of you, further shows this chick is not a good one for you. She's gonna end up worn out with the 1000 cock stare in a few years, and you'll be glad you jumped ship when you did even more so then.
/r/askTRP26/11/19 05:26 PM
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i think it's "birds of a feather". guys that don't like it and don't want to live with it come here and agree with each other. guys that don't mind it go elsewhere and flock in other places, then end up here when they find out their snowflakes were banging their ex- again. me personally, if she's talking to some ex- or FWB a lot or regularly, it's a turn off. i wouldn't make a big deal, i'd just quietly fade away. if she asked me why i faded, i'd say why but not in a judgmental way. just matter …
/r/askTRP21/11/19 10:03 PM
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It's gonna bug you more and more. This isn't going away. At the same time, you're also right that making demands, mate guarding, etc. isn't the way to handle it to. You can't control what other people do, just what you do. So what can you control that you don't have to put up with this in your relationship? There's really only one option and that's next her. Sorry man, but if she's not gonna give up the old flame, this is only gonna get to be a bigger issue for you. Deal with it and get it behin…
/r/askTRP21/11/19 09:16 PM
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People have been deceived and now have gender "equality" and gender "equity" confused. True equality is impossible, as those that believe this sub's points about feminism have long preached. Equity, however, is totally attainable, and as human history extends back thousands of years, people figured out a long time ago how to attain it with men and women each performing their role in a partnership. They don't do the same work, but each's contributions can be seen as equitable when it's done in se…
/r/TheRedPill20/11/19 08:00 PM
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Not married to her, no need to save documentation, etc. For the guys reading, OP did ok with this, confronted and got rid of the cheating girl. Next time, just need to say "you've been cheating with so and so, it's over." then leave or kick her out depending on if you're out, at her place, at your place, etc. keep it short and sweet, no need to get her to confess, etc. it's about your dignity and self respect, part of which is about not playing games and giving time to listening to a cheater lie…
/r/askTRP17/11/19 02:28 PM
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i get it, dude. sometimes i'm just not feeling like being charming. don't have the mental energy. i've gotten so i just say it. "you what babe? i'm worn out right now. been working my ass off and simply gonna be chill." if the woman is into you correctly, her caretaker genes kick in, and it usually results in "let me get you a drink?" or "let me make you a sandwich?" or "how about this backrub?" which then escalates quite nicely most of the time. do yourself a favor and stop trying to be "on" al…
/r/askTRP14/11/19 09:45 PM
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If it ends up that there is a "sign-up" fee you have to pay at the start, it's a scam. If there isn't and the agency just gets a cut of each "transaction" you take on, maybe there's something to it. If you don't need to shell out cash to start, I'd say give it a try. If they say "you pay us a sign up fee", I'd tell them to pound sand.
/r/askTRP11/11/19 06:14 PM
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Just say she's bitter because she misses plugging your ass and all the other crazy sex stuff the two of you engaged in. Add in that her recent guys are too vanilla, and that prostate stimulation is the male g-spot. It ain't gay if it's a woman doing it to you, dude!
/r/askTRP06/11/19 08:51 PM
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pullback to match her. don't have to pull the plug totally, though. you should be living a life that is making steady progress towards fulfilling a mission for yourself. the invite for a woman is to join you pursuing that mission. if she backs off, go chase your mission. if she comes back, can be good. if not, no biggie. wait for the next woman to check out if she wants to join with you or not.
/r/askTRP05/11/19 08:00 PM
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she told your friend the same thing, dude. girls know how to stroke an guy's ego.
/r/askTRP05/11/19 01:45 PM
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You're welcome. I'm 44, not as quick to puff my chest out anymore like a bunch of other posters here. Most of them are just trying to figure life's sh*t out, and the internet is a way to act tough without any threat of consequences. They'll figure it out better eventually. Life has a way of knocking the rough edges off.
/r/askTRP04/11/19 02:17 PM
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Honestly, you at 45 and her at 25, you're still rebounding. This isn't gonna last. Have your fun but don't be exclusive with her. She'll want kids at some point, at 45 you won't. Just tell her you've been thinking, like her company but recognize there are inherent things between the two of you that don't lend themselves to long term, exclusive relationship. The age difference and difference in life experiences ensures it. Don't be blaming towards her, just tell her that's how you think it is. Th…
/r/askTRP01/11/19 05:24 PM
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I wear khaki/grey/black slacks and either short sleeved collared polo, or long and short sleeve button up collared shirts, brown belt and brown leather shoes, or black belt with black shoes. Slim fit, straight/tapered leg. Not skinny jeans type cut. I've been complimented by many women for coordinating those! I also have a nice watch for a little bling when I want, and I can break out my college ring for some extra. Don't wear it much anymore, it's gigantic. Shirts are sized XL or L, depending o…
/r/askTRP31/10/19 01:45 PM
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that drunk, you could not have gotten it up anyway.
/r/TheRedPill31/10/19 02:32 AM
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Meh. Women aren't worth the trouble with other guys. Go find a find a new woman and parade her in front of the other guys. This chick that's IOI'ing you will be disappointed, jealous, etc. but this ain't about her. She's not entitled to you. If she says or asks about it, just politely tell her you have a mate that was hot for her, and while you knew she was interested, you passed because you didn't want to stir up that kind of trouble. Let her down easy, affirm she's a good girl, just bad timing…
/r/askTRP29/10/19 03:45 PM
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Well, you nuked her. Some chicks calm down and after a few more weeks and dates with other guys that have no backbone end up calling you back again. Be prepared for the hamster though, she'll bring it up if she calls back. Honestly, though, a tiger doesn't change it's strips. There's a difference between qualifying herself because she wants to be accepted and bragging/showing off to demonstrate her superiority to others including you. I'd consider this an experience in learning it's better to th…
/r/askTRP29/10/19 01:38 PM
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Only thing I might have said to say different is add on a "See you around" to make it obvious you're comfortable and not butt hurt. But you did fine too. Don't be surprised if you hear from again soon, break up or not. Just decide ahead of time if you want to risk dealing with a pissed off boyfriend if she's looking for excitement on the side if she reaches out again.
/r/askTRP28/10/19 02:36 PM
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Be quiet, and do/accomplish shit. Don't brag, don't talk about shit constantly, don't be caught up in mundane shit. Stand out by being a guy that get's shit done that matters. Let people see competence, and go our own way. And be attractive. Don't be unattractive. People will gravitate to you and follow.
/r/askTRP25/10/19 04:00 PM
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Her: "Are we dating?" You: "My other girlfriends might not like more competition for my time" or "If you have to ask, the answers probably not yet at least." then followed by "is that what you want?" Ie - flip it back on her to push for commitment or not. If she does, and you are wanting it, great. If she does not, then if you push when she doesn't want it, she's gonna run.
/r/askTRP25/10/19 01:41 PM
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I'll share this, I've been ghosted or dumped many times, and most of the time the chick ended up married to the next guy within the next year. I used to joke that I should charge a date fee because if they went on 2-3 dates with me, they'd be guaranteed to meet the man of their dreams shortly thereafter. I say that to say this - it's so common that chances are she really does have another man in mind, or multiple other men, that she wants to go play with. Look at it this way, she's showing you w…
/r/askTRP24/10/19 04:30 PM
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Don't mention your accomplishments. Let them be shown in other ways. May take some thinking to figure it out, but you can do it. Or at the least, don't bring up old accomplishments. Bring up new ones and ones you are still working towards. I've found with my friends that since I've made a jump in success (4 years ago was at around $80k income, am now at $150k, there's a few other things that have taken off better too) if I wait until they ask me how I'm doing, what I'm up to these days, etc., I …
/r/askTRP24/10/19 01:37 PM
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Just keep seeing her, have patience, and enjoy. Don't try to force it one way or the other. Let her show you who she is, however that turns out.
/r/askTRP22/10/19 02:59 PM
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I see the mod's are questioning this OP's authenticity, but for anyone else as well, there is a simple answer to the question posed: LIFT. Lift heavy and consistently. Do it when you feel good, do it when you feel bad, do it when you're tired, do it when you're still sore from last time. Squat, deadlift, and bench press - every time. Fight through the pain, discomfort, low motivation, etc. and just go do it. No excuses.
/r/askTRP08/10/19 06:14 PM
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"I prefer more connected forms of communication now. I'm going to be at *such and such* place after work tomorrow - you should come meet up with me. We'll sample a beer flight and we can catch up."
/r/askTRP04/10/19 05:14 PM
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Lighter weights, higher reps, done with very short breaks between sets. It's great cardio when you hit the right balance.
/r/askTRP03/10/19 05:56 PM
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90% of the posters are men who have matured to about the level of a 17 year old. They've never had a decent father figure who brought them up to real masculinity. TRP's message is basically to grow up, dude, and start being a man. Be fit and capable, learn to keep your composure and let your emotions get the better of you in stressful situations, work hard to build yourself, find your mission, and pursue it while not letting yourself get sidetracked by women, beta's, and bullshit (drugs, video g…
/r/askTRP03/10/19 01:31 PM
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put your money into the gym and a few of those classes they all have. get interactive with the dudes and women, hit a yoga class to stretch out, etc. you'll find some guy friends and rekindle the social muscles needed for maybe even reattracting the wife and avoiding a divorce. raise the SMV, become attractive again to her. in the meantime, give her space and distance. gotta give things a chance to reset, otherwise she continues to see you how she does now. let her decide to chase again. of cour…
/r/TheRedPill30/09/19 02:36 PM
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Focus on achievement. Build up other areas of life that contribue to SMV. Build some healthy guy friend relationships as well. Keep lifting. It's not for making yourself attractive to women. It's for your own sake. I'd consider getting into a few hobby clubs too. Something you enjoy. You'll run into like minded people. Build a life for yourself that is attractive. It will pull an acceptable woman at some point.
/r/askTRP27/09/19 04:33 PM
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Quoting after_fapocalypse here as it's a good place to start: I think there's a difference between the God we're taught to believe in and the God who really exists. This. I'm a believer, but I also believe that the outreach and message isn't done right these days. The Church at large has become horrible at spreading the message. I do believe it's possible to be RP'd and believe in and follow God at the same time, but I'm not going to expand on that. I don't think this is the correct venue to do …
/r/askTRP27/09/19 02:41 PM
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Wanted to chime in - your mom and sister's alliance and treatment of you is simply them keeping people away from them that make them look at their own accountability. They are doing it so they can keep their heads in the sand and keep going "la la la la" and ignore various hard truths in their lives. They don't want you reminding them. They use things like the hair pulling, as ridiculous as it is, as simple rationalizations so they don't have to admit the truth to themselves. So don't take their…
/r/TheRedPill25/09/19 06:25 PM
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Grey rock her. Just be as interesting and entertaining as a grey rock towards her. She'll get bored and move on.
/r/askTRP25/09/19 02:35 PM
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I've got a litany of things - all mostly outdoor related and I used to also train martial arts pretty hard. Hiking, caving, rafting, backpacking, camping, etc. Tried a beginners SCUBA thing recently too. That was really cool, but it's an expensive hobby. I'm also a bit of shooting enthusiast. Even if you don't own a gun, rentals at ranges are cheap and easy! Nothing like grouping therapy! I've also taken up hunting. Have a bow, hunting rifle (bolt gun, nothing fancy), and 3 shot pump shotgun for…
/r/TheRedPill24/09/19 05:59 PM
1

Is this what Reddit has become: just a bunch of close-minded hate mongering and butt-hurt people? That's the internet as a whole these days.
/r/TheRedPill24/09/19 03:23 PM
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It's called stress and feeling powerless. Sometimes, no matter how hard we try, we all find ourselves in a position where we just need help. The joys of living in a fallen world. Accept the help, and be glad the Good Lord has blessed you with a lifeline. Just remember to pay it forward one day when your chance to be the lifeline comes.
/r/askTRP23/09/19 04:30 PM
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Take the help. Get a big payoff, pay back your benefactor, and then some. Then go back to school and finish up.
/r/askTRP23/09/19 04:28 PM
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44, one 15 year old son, 50/50 custody. Divorcee, and remarried about a year and a half ago to woman that's as close RP'd as you can get. Been through 3 custody fights, but that phase seems to have settled down. TRP has been great, I had a naturally RP'd dad, but he wasn't real good about transmitting it and he was also a bit messed up by FOO issues and Vietnam combat related PTSD. Most of TRP I knew, but TRP put it in articulated fashion and made it easier to recognize playing out in life. I'm …
/r/askTRP23/09/19 04:25 PM
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Regarding increasing your earning quickly - refer to the 80/20 rule. Get yourself into the 20% of producers, and it's stupid easy to do. Then get yourself into the top echelon of producers by reading, learning more about, and mastering your craft. The working world is thirsty for producers. They are scarce. If you are a top producer, it won't be long before you're recognized and the opportunities start flying at you, as long as you are doing the other things right that get you recognized one way…
/r/TheRedPill19/09/19 04:53 PM
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Next time your LTR seems annoyed, tell her if she doesn't like it to stop responding. It's that simple. If he makes an issue at work, she can simply tell him she wants to keep things more professional and work related, then escalate with HR and what not from there as needed. If she doesn't take steps to make it stop, you know she's getting off on it in some way.
/r/askTRP19/09/19 01:15 PM
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she's pregnant, dude. face it. get yourself a pink stroller as you're gonna need it when she punches out your little girl!!
/r/askTRP18/09/19 04:19 PM
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Should've just sent her the link to apply for the show and told her you look forward to watching her compete against a bunch of thots as they all compete to see just who can bang his brains out the best, then told her you need to get up early for work/hit gym before work/etc., and wished her good night.
/r/askTRP18/09/19 04:17 PM
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Alternative thought - accepting occasional extra work, but at a higher rate, might be good for you. Tell them "my rate for assignments that will require exceeding 40 hrs per week is at a 150% premium." That way they will send it your way when they really need it, but it will discourage them from burning you out because it gets too expensive for them on a regular basis. If they are willing to pay it on regular basis, shows you are undercharging to start with. It will also give you a nice little i…
/r/askTRP18/09/19 03:28 PM
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"I don't date anymore, I just have flings." "I'm overqualified." "Dad's never like me."
/r/askTRP18/09/19 02:44 PM
1

it's amazing how much money and aggravation you can save by learning basic maintenance. just remember to turn off the breakers if messing with electricity and close the valves on anything water or gas related before messing with them, and take pics of everything before disassembling.
/r/TheRedPill17/09/19 04:21 PM
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Just tell her you're not going to engage with her if she's shouting and yelling and what not. Then, don't. If need be, leave, ignore, etc. Tell her you'll talk when she can conduct herself like a grown up and not be so nasty. Then stick to it. Expect her to escalate to worse before it gets better (if it does). This is when, if a chick is gonna get violent, she usually does. Be careful, if that starts happening, leave post haste, don't touch her, etc. Just leave.
/r/askTRP13/09/19 07:47 PM
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Read thru the comments, I understand a bit of hypervigilance after getting burned badly in the past. Not gonna run OP down for it. I see nothing posted that is a red flag, based on this being a single/first occurrence. She gave you enough advance notice, and is offering to make it up. That's plenty good enough. Proceed as usual, go to lunch, etc. Just file it away and be mindful, if it starts happening a lot maybe reconsider what is happening but you're not at a point of concern yet based on wha…
/r/askTRP12/09/19 04:03 PM
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Think logistics, pick a spot to sit where you aren't across a table. Be at 90 degrees or on a couch in the coffee joint together. Make an excuse to get closer, like lean in to whisper about some chick's hideous shoes or clothes or something (goth or other weird styles, etc. - she'll love it). On a couch in a coffee table, pick a magazine and point stuff out in it to joke about, again gives an excuse to lean in some, brush arms, touch her arm, hand, thigh, etc. You just build up the touching. At …
/r/askTRP11/09/19 05:34 PM
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Pretending to be surprised WAS her ASD, dude. "I didn't know he wanted to fuck me, but I got drunk first and then one thing just led to another and I ended up gargling his jizz." She's fooling herself into thinking she's not purposely being a slut, nothing more.
/r/askTRP11/09/19 05:18 PM
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I heard it called "Elevator Theory". Goes like this - when you get in an elevator, you're used to pushing a button and getting an expected response in that you go to that floor. Women like yours have grown accustomed to pushing your buttons and getting an expected and desired response from you. Well, when you change the response they get, like in an elevator when it doesn't do what you want it to, they push the same buttons, just harder and multiple times. If you give in when they are pushing th…
/r/askTRP10/09/19 05:09 PM
1

Good instincts, bad execution. If you're really done, then no need to respond. Just be done. If you respond, then just be lighthearted and tell her where to meet you. Unfriending after 1 week is a bit quick. Leave her on there and let her show on your friend list. Social proof for future women.
/r/askTRP09/09/19 11:09 PM
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Dumping her immediately is correct move. I think there's nothing wrong with saying it's because you know she's cheating on you with her ex- and that's unacceptable to you. I would strongly advise against revealing how you know or showing her any evidence. Just tell her you know she's done it, and that's that. Do not approach the ex- to talk to him. His side with her is his problem, let him figure things out. Go find a new woman. Hotness and amazing in bed is actually pretty common. Think abundan…
/r/askTRP06/09/19 12:53 PM
2

Sounds like maybe your mom didn't tell him about you or got rid of him somehow? He's asking her if she's okay with him talking to you now when you're 31? I'd lean towards she told him to take a hike, especially since she never told you who he is. I'd say the decision to meet, at age 31, is between you and him, you're mom don't enter into it. Go meet him if you want, be prepared to hear some things that are hard to hear, both about him and about your mom. It could be a messy story. Take everythin…
/r/askTRP05/09/19 05:16 PM
2

Several months ago, I was having a beer with a friend at a bar. This girl was there with a few dudes. Then another dude shows up. Girl goes apeshit. She's mad at him, making a scene, etc. A bunch of other beta guys are all whispering "somebody should kick that guy's ass". My friend and I just watched and figured he'd hooked with her and then not called or something, but we were silently on his side from our vantage point. The guy didn't supplicate or try to soothe her. He held frame and composur…
/r/askTRP05/09/19 03:57 PM
2

First - for me personally, I have job that if I get tested, I stand to lose too much from a positive test. Not worth it. Second - again for me personally, I've developed a taste for quality whiskey, especially single malt scotch, and tennessee or rye whiskey, and I've gotten so I just like them better than smoking. It's a personal preference. Third - I got busted for weed in college once by the cops. It sucked going through the legal crap and getting it all expunged later. Again, I don't like it…
/r/askTRP05/09/19 02:11 PM
2

Took me 3 months from when I rededicated myself to getting back there, and I was 41 when I started. In your 20's, especially with more and more men becoming fat, lazy slobs, all you really need to do is get off electronics, get a decent haircut and wardrobe, be clean and keep a clean home, and be working towards a decent career path. Add in some healthy diet and lifestyle habits (moderate drinking, no drugs, no smoking) and a decent gym routine, and you'll be top 10% in your peer group rather qu…
/r/askTRP04/09/19 07:26 PM
1

don't listen. don't get mad. stay composed. you have goals, pursue them. period. don't let other people dictate your goals. don't justify yourself to them either. next time they start in on you, instead of saying "well, i'm just doing this for me..." or some other such otherwise seeming rational explanation, instead ask them why they think they get to dictate or have a say? what gives them the right to tell you one way or another? who are they that they get to do that? don't justify or explain y…
/r/askTRP03/09/19 07:20 PM
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I'm an outdoors junky. Hiking, backpacking, caving, rafting, etc. Last few years I've gotten into hunting. The rush of "buck fever" is real, and very addicting! I usually go hit a local trail or go scout out potential new hunting spots when I've got the odd free day that comes up. I also like to read, so sometimes I'll just go hit the gym then sit by the pool or hot tub afterwards and read for a while.
/r/askTRP29/08/19 02:53 PM
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Think of it as a woman that values serving and nurturing you, and perceives an increase in her own SMV as a result of doing it. Women are natural nurturers, but these days the socially programmed to be different. They end up miserable as a result. If you find a woman comfortable being a nurturer in the face of today's message against it, consider yourself very lucky. There are precious few of them out there these days.
/r/TheRedPill28/08/19 04:44 PM
2

Your family cares about you but they care about themselves more is all it is. It's very common. Just try to understand 95% of humanity prefers the status quo. People get comfortable and don't like change to their world. Don't take it personally because your family's treatment of you isn't about you. It's about them. Also don't spend a lot of time trying to figure out what their problem is because it's their problem, not your's. The details beyond "crab bucket mentality" don't matter. You know wh…
/r/askTRP27/08/19 02:05 PM
2

Gonna go against the grain here a bit. She's clearly liking you as more than just sex. She's wanting more but not outright asking you for it. The angry text is coming from the disconnect in her mind - wanting more, wanting to move on if she doesn't get it, but not wanting to move on yet because she's hoping if she sticks around, she'll stick with you eventually. There's also a bit of mixed signals/messing up comfort test/etc. as others noted. The against the grain part is this - you're post give…
/r/askTRP26/08/19 02:58 PM
1

Had a doc tell me I was Vit D deffecient too. Gave script for the supplements. I did a bit of research and decided to try to fix it without supplements via more time outside. In my case, it worked. I'm an outdoorsy guy anyway, win win all around for me. Had gotten too complacent and lazy, getting away from screens and electronics at home turned out to be a better thing for me than I would have thought prior.
/r/TheRedPill23/08/19 02:40 PM
2

Depends on the situation. If she's a BPD bunny boiler, ghosting and blocking is what I'd go with honestly. You're not interested in honor and courtesy here, you're interested in self preservation and minimizing drama. At most, a message (not a call that gives her chance to try to engage or suck you in again) that says "LTR isn't working for me. I'm ending it. Good luck." Nothing else. If it's a more normal thing that is just running it's course for whatever reason, especially if LTR will be in y…
/r/askTRP22/08/19 01:38 PM
1

it helps right out of school, but after a few years nobody gives a shit. for comparison i graduated with a 2.7 in major and a 2.5 overall. just by the skin of my teeth, basically. i'm now making well into 6 figures and am in charge of all kinds of people and shit, with the path open to another major advancement soon as the bigwig corporate officers are all retiring soon. the high GPA helps get you in the door, but once you're in it very quickly changes to work performance based advancement. it's…
/r/askTRP21/08/19 05:21 PM
1

if she's not comfortable with the mess then she'll throw out a bunch of hamstered excuses such as her pain and dead starfish excuse. you're not addressing how she feels about sex on her period, you're only addressing how you feel about it. it's actually a common thing orgasms can alleviate pain from cramps. i've actually grabbed a vibe or bullet and gone to work on my wife when's hurting and after she's cum, she feels much better. there's something about it that gets the uterus to relax and quit…
/r/askTRP21/08/19 05:17 PM
1

Just tell her where you're going to be and when and she should come out to distinguish herself from your other instagram/snapchat gallery of girls.
/r/askTRP21/08/19 05:10 PM
2

been there, done that. the way you handle it is drill down to what's most important in this season, and focus on those things. other than that, you just do your best. i'd recommend the following order of priority: -Basic health - good diet, work in what's reasonable for your gym routine, but don't stress if you can't put the time in needed for big gains and what not. get enough to help maintain your health, after that give priority to other things. -bachelor program - that's the next thing. make…
/r/askTRP21/08/19 03:06 PM
2

First thought - I've been to Pittsburgh and yeah it's a great place. That said, there are others that are similar. I've recently been Nashville and Knoxville (my employer has a strong presence there) and both are actually similar to Pittsburgh, growing/strong economically, etc. Especially Nashville. And Knoxville - one word. Coeds. UT is right there and they are out in force. Charlotte NC is another great alternative. So main thought is there are other options that are very similar to environmen…
/r/askTRP20/08/19 05:46 PM
1

If she said these things in response to being soft nexted, she's probably feeling rejected, it is hitting her in the princess feels, and she's angry and lashing out because you aren't being the good little beta and submitting to her very entitled frame. I would just drop contact with her without further response and move on. If she's acting like this now, how much worse will she get if you get more involved with her? No sex is worth the trouble she's going to bring to you. Silent hard next.
/r/askTRP19/08/19 08:20 PM
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It's obvious you aren't completely over the oneitis, as you state, because you still care why she paraded new guy in front of you. The good - sounds like you didn't react, controlled your emotions at first, then let it go and had a good time. That's called maintaining composure, and it's a good thing. Where the work to improve yourself comes in - learning to let go more completely. Not trying to run you down or anything, this shit is a learning process and it takes time, so don't be hard on your…
/r/askTRP19/08/19 08:14 PM
2

Wanted to chime in - her drama with this guy doesn't mean she's a bad chick. It means she's not grown up enough to be LTR material as shown by the fact that she won't do what she needs to do (restraining order/cops/etc) to get rid of him. The way she is handling this has more drama for you in the future written all over it. Leaving the relationship is the right thing to do for you. You're simply setting a boundary that will prevent her drama from spilling over into your life because she doesn't …
/r/askTRP16/08/19 01:31 PM
2

She's used to guys running when she suggests LTR too quick, especially guys that are new. She's, therefore, trying to seem chill and not pressuring for commitment too quick so you won't run. And of course she wants more, she's just not sure if she wants it with you yet, hence why she's going out with you but saying what she's saying. This adds up to she wants to see if she thinks you might be a good guy for her to try to LTR or not. You're being vetted. Vet her just as hard back.
/r/askTRP14/08/19 09:00 PM
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Keep lifting. Don't stop doing or living how you did before the LTR. She'll try to sidetrack you, even the best women throw shit at you to distract you sometimes. Don't take it personally, it's just part of AWALT. When you're out away from her, maybe practice flirty stuff still. Just don't follow through and cheat. I've found if I get eye contact when out, just saying "nice prison skirt" (said this today to a woman in the elevator at work - it was one of those white/black broad striped full leg …
/r/askTRP14/08/19 05:41 PM
2

Wear tighter, supportive underwear, avoid the boxers.
/r/askTRP05/08/19 03:49 PM
1

hunt and kill your own. i've come to love it since i started.
/r/askTRP02/08/19 03:11 AM
1

i saw a guy bench 415 recently. he has little definition, but lots of mass. i didn't count the plates when he squatted and deadlifted. was way more than I've ever seen anyone else do.
/r/askTRP02/08/19 03:02 AM
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will be funny when his GF shows up and wants to fuck you. she's probably already talking about you, he's jealous because of that too. btw, don't fuck her. plenty of women out there, being involved in cheating is gutter rat behavior.
/r/askTRP02/08/19 02:49 AM
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Tell him you're doing it to raise your pecking order profile among men, not for women. Women aren't that important, adding points to your man card will result in better jobs, income, etc. in the future. Much more important than women.
/r/askTRP01/08/19 02:13 PM
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she was disrespectful but i think you reacted well. don't show her outrage in outright expression. show better composure and frame control like you did. just next time she invites, politely decline. instead have your own plan that she come join you in but she is not necessary for you to enjoy the activity. make her fit into your world.
/r/askTRP01/08/19 01:54 PM
1

I did three sessions with a trainer for instruction in proper technique. Cost about $75 per session. Was worth every penny. Focused on the lifts for Stronglifts 5x5, and worked on kettlebell exercises as well. As for overcoming the first few weeks - I suggest just using the bar or very light weights until your body gets used to the motion and you get the technique down. After that, start adding weight little by little and see how it goes.
/r/askTRP29/05/19 02:48 PM
1

I've had some of my best nights while out solo. I usually picked a place with a local band I liked. Went with the intention to enjoy the music. That way, even if the crowd turned out to be a dud, I could enjoy something for the night. Some nights were good, some it was just the band that was the highlight. The key is to have more built into the night to enjoy than whether you hook up or click with people.
/r/askTRP24/05/19 12:48 PM
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It's a good way to go. Especially if you locate yourself in area that is booming. I live in Atlanta, it's booming here and that isn't going to change anytime soon. Anyone in trades is making big $$$ right now in this area.
/r/askTRP23/05/19 01:29 PM
1

Universal morality at it's core pretty easy. Don't hurt others. If you think you need to do something that will harm another person in pursuit of a goal, find another way. Also, if others harm you similarly, don't retaliate/escalate, but simply "send them away" - get them out of your life or otherwise take action that ensures they can't do it again. Protect yourself without escalating conflict. The problem is people are selfish, we get impatient, and we prioritize what we want so highly sometime…
/r/TheRedPill23/05/19 01:08 PM
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Dumb idea to get with her again as others have noted. However, what she did is criminal. How to handle it? Depends. Definitely do not ever contact her again, and if she reaches out, ignore. Don't let her over to your home, etc. If you want to pursue more, make a police report and get a doc checkup of your wang, include the doc's report with what you turn over to the police. If you can document she did it, or if you can convince them to do some kind of bite forensics and match her teeth outline t…
/r/askTRP21/05/19 08:19 PM
1

I wouldn't call it a salary. I'd call it an allowance and I see nothing wrong with a responsible, reasonable spending allowance for a SAHM. If you are gonna be a provider type husband/father figure, and have a woman that stays home as a home maker and takes care of the kids, it's reasonable to budget for some level of allowance to the woman. That's part of being the provider for her and the family. You just need to make sure it fits the budget and doesn't detract from reaching financial goals. I…
/r/TheRedPill21/05/19 07:32 PM
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The actual feminine women avoid the more disgusting places to begin with because being classy and not crude is part of femininity. Therefore, you don't find them in bars typically. Upscale dance clubs, sure, but you gotta start aiming at higher class, upscale places to find them. As for the women whose idea of seduction is shaking their asses and sticking their tongue out - that's their idea because these days, it works. It's all they have to do and they attract a gaggle of orbiters to choose fr…
/r/askTRP21/05/19 06:28 PM
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Gonna go against the grain here and suggest maybe she's not a slut. You know, a higher value girl and is interested in not having the thousand cock stare, destroying her ability to pair bond,etc. Not saying a unicorn but there is the occasional girl out there that gets this stuff and doesn't give her value away so freely. Frustrating but also potentially better LTR material if that's what you want. If it's not what you want, then I suggest moving on because one way or another, you're not gonna g…
/r/askTRP17/05/19 02:24 PM
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What course of action will have you looking back on this in 3 months and feeling that you handled in the way that best served your self-respect? Ghosting is usually recommended because most guys, at least posting here, don't have the frame control to go tell her why it's over and maintain frame in the face of the denials and female hamstering that will be thrown at them. It's also the easiest and a girl that is cheating isn't worth more of your consideration than ghosting. If you do go confront …
/r/askTRP15/05/19 01:44 PM
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If you give her a second chance, YOU are missing out on feeling the satisfaction of upholding your own self respect. It becomes self-reinforcing the more you do it too. You're frame, you're sense of self, you're sense of self worth - if you give her a second chance, you miss out on how much you can strengthen yourself. There's nothing quite like putting yourself first, living per your values, holding your values, and refusing to compromise. If you give her a second chance, you are putting someon…
/r/askTRP13/05/19 07:23 PM
1

wait for eye contact, a smile, etc. something akin to body language invitation to approach. another great one is a place that is crowded, no untaken tables. ask to share the table.
/r/askTRP13/05/19 04:13 PM
3

Coffee shop. The ones around here always have a few solo girls reading a book or surfing on a tablet or laptop. I used to have success at least getting a smile and a reaction at the grocery store too. Walk by while she's looking at something healthy and make a crack about how it lacks the recommended daily amount of grease and processed sugar that is now known to be beneficial for you.
/r/askTRP13/05/19 01:12 PM
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Attend the wedding, if he asks you to be best man, etc. do it. That said, if he ever opens the door to your honest opinion of this decision, give it in. Don't give it in an asshole sort of way, but give it none the less. Just wait for him to open the door and indicate he's open to hearing it first.
/r/askTRP13/05/19 01:10 PM
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If she acts like this when you meet her next, then just leave. Don't be ugly towards her, just tell her that you're not going to respond to her behavior or accusations, and that you are just going to leave rather stay and let things continue to escalate. Then politely get up and walk away. Be classy, don't be butthurt and ugly. Maintain composure, be emotionally neutral. Don't let yourself get provoked into an emotional response. Just end the interaction and leave. Then, don't respond to calls, …
/r/askTRP10/05/19 05:31 PM
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Well, Christianity isn't fucked up. Most of the people claiming to practice it are, though.
/r/askTRP10/05/19 02:16 PM
1

Borderline Personality Disorder. It's similar to bi-polar, a lot of the same symptoms, but different underlying cause. Bi-polar, used to be called manic-depression, is a brain chemical imbalance that cause extreme mood swings. Borderline exhibits the same highs and lows, but it's not a physical issue like bipolar is. Borderlines are usually created by being abused as kids and never getting help or never being able to be safe as kids. Bipolar can be relatively successfully treated with meds. Bord…
/r/askTRP10/05/19 02:08 AM
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In mental health terms, BPD is driven by a lack of "object constancy". Object constancy is basically the ability to realize that someone is a stable, constant presence in your life whether physically present or not. It's developed from infancy. An example is a new born baby - care giver puts baby in crib and leaves. Baby cries, fearing care giver won't come back. Eventually care giver comes back and gets baby, baby learns care giver is still around even when not immediately physically present. B…
/r/askTRP09/05/19 03:05 PM
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I understand. Please don't think I'm trying to convince or convert you. Trying to keep it to express my own beliefs while not being judgemental/preachy/etc. to an audience that otherwise doesn't want to hear it. I do see a lot of debate and what I see as big misunderstandings of Christianity on here, though, so figured I'd try to explain it all in a way that gives better understanding without having to accept it all.
/r/TheRedPill06/05/19 07:02 PM
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One of the things that stands out to me in the Bible, my reading of it anyway, is that it drives home how Earthly existence is just plain imperfect. As it is now, it can never be perfect. We live in a fallen world, stained by sin. There is no getting around it. So in every instance of man's justice or equality or equity, it is always flawed. Churches that basically say "everything we say is just" are very wrong in saying that. The statement needs to be "what God says is just, God's Plan is just,…
/r/TheRedPill06/05/19 06:16 PM
2

I'm a believer, wanted to respond. Not trying to convert anyway. More trying to provide some insights that I don't think get put out there well by the Church. Religion's problem is religion, but it's the way that religion is expressed by the believers! I don't see an effective outreach from the Church today. The Church has a hard time following, understanding, and spreading the Word that is relayed in the Bible. Throw in that people are people, believers or not, so you get ego's involved, holier…
/r/TheRedPill06/05/19 04:27 PM
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Live your life, lead yourself, pursue a mission. Make sure she knows what the mission is. Make sure she knows she is welcome to join you in that mission, but she will not be taking the lead. It's her choice to join you or not. Just don't display getting all butt hurt with her. Be composed. Going to use a word here that has a bad rap - but be "meek" in a Biblical sense. Not as we understand it today, which today meek is gentle/week/mild/etc. Instead, Biblically, "meek" really meant not easily pro…
/r/askTRP03/05/19 01:09 PM
1

She's setting up what's called double binds. It's a catch-22, damned if you do, damned if you don't sort of scenario. It's intended to put her in a one-up'd position compared to you, make her the victim and you the victimizer. Only way to deal with this is to call it out for what it is and withdraw from interactions. If she doesn't stop doing it, next her. This shit doesn't get better based on anything else you do or don't do.
/r/TheRedPill02/05/19 02:43 PM
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Personally, I'm a loving person, and after forming a paternal relationship with a child I thought was mine but wasn't, I'd still love the child. It's not something I could turn off. I might stay for the child's sake, however, the cheating wife would relegated to the role of my live in housekeeper and babysitter. If she didn't like it, she could leave and take the kid with her. JMHO, but if you want to encourage men to not abandon the child in this situation, who really is an innocent and likely …
/r/TheRedPill30/04/19 02:43 PM
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You're progressing in life. She's looking to latch onto someone progressing and benefit without doing the work herself. You don't need that. Being with the wrong woman will prevent you from getting with the right woman when you meet her. Sounds like you didn't dump her just for social media likes. Sounds like it was the last straw and there were a lot of other issues. I think you did the right thing for you.
/r/askTRP30/04/19 02:11 PM
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it's okay to feel what you did but develop better composure and frame so you don't let that butt hurt shit out of your mouth. best response was no response and ignoring her.
/r/askTRP30/04/19 12:25 PM
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Stay off online dating. If the divorce isn't final, depending on your jurisdiction and the judge, if it comes out it can influence the judge to stick it to the evil man who is already dating, so chances are he's a douche and needs to be punished. Some jurisdictions count it as infidelity as well. So don't advertise it. You're just better off that way. Real, serious dating while divorcing and even resettling life in the aftermath of divorce is a horrible idea. Speaking from experience. Wish I'd j…
/r/askTRP30/04/19 03:20 AM
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Have some abundance, if she's seriously making an invitation, decline. I'd steer clear of more discussions with your group, wouldn't bring it up at all. If she does it again just discretely do something to get it to stop, go to the bathroom or get a drink or something. Cheating with her would be more trouble for you than it's worth. There are plenty of girls out there that don't have this drama potential. In other words, don't shit where you eat.
/r/askTRP16/04/19 04:07 PM
1

Stronglifts 5x5 has done wonders for me. I suggest doing 2 or 3 sessions with a trainer who can teach your proper form so you don't hurt yourself. It takes me an hour and a half to get through the routine (I also do some curls and kettlebell work in additon to the 5 compound lifts in 5x5). I'm aged 43, I do it 3 times a week. Have it worked into my weekly routine to hit it Tuesday, Thursday, and once over the weekend. I sometimes go in and just hit the treadmill or elliptical on off days when I …
/r/askTRP12/04/19 01:44 PM
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You won't stop thinking about her instantly. Unfortunately, men are built to love. You're no different, and when that love gets broken, it hurts. Plain and simple. TRP just gives you greater awareness and understanding so that you can act on facts and logic rather than emotions and keep your life in a better state. There will be more women, let go, get comfortable being alone. Usually takes 2-3 weeks for the brain chemistry to start to change and for what you're feeling right now to start to sub…
/r/askTRP04/04/19 02:54 AM
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Just stay composed. Otherwise be BIFF - brief, informative, friendly, factual, but also otherwise very unemotional and unengaging and uninteresting with the friend. It's called "grey rocking" someone. Be as interesting and engaging as a grey rock towards her. It will give her as little to interact with you as possible. That will minimize how much direct drama she can start with you. Other than that, let your LTR deal with any other issues with her. The friend is your LTR's problem, not yours. Ju…
/r/askTRP02/04/19 05:16 PM
3

"You're dog must not like your boyfriend because he's trying to introduce us!"
/r/askTRP02/04/19 04:38 PM
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Echo'ing others - go to a sports injury/physical therapist. I have several old injuries that I work out with. Have been to doc, PT, and done sessions with a trainer. Got the 3 of them involved to get figure out how to work out effectively without aggravating anything or making it worse. There might be limitations on some lifts and exercises, but figure it out and then get back in the gym.
/r/askTRP26/03/19 12:35 PM
1

Nice to know I'm not the only one that thought of this.
/r/TheRedPill25/03/19 08:38 PM
2

Just echo'ing others in that it has as much to do with the character and values of the girls you select as anything else. If you want better than to be part of the hypergamy cock carousel at large for women in mass, then you need to be much more discerning in who to select to start with. You need to recognize that younger girls biggest asset is what's between their legs and further recognize that the girls that give that value away easily don't make healthy relationship partners. Instead, a girl…
/r/askTRP20/03/19 08:54 PM
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Think of "controlling" more as "leading". If you lead her competently so it's in her benefit to follow, she will.
/r/TheRedPill20/03/19 03:19 PM
1

The Pareto Principal is even brought up in the Bible in Jesus's parables. It's been a recognized phenomenon for a very long time!
/r/TheRedPill20/03/19 03:16 PM
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She's either: turning into a real manipulator and things are going into a really bad place - ie the more you give in the more she demands, nothing is ever enough, and this ends very badly (i've been ther) Or she's trying to test your resolve. Honest, the best response to either, considering her wife status, is to be respectful but strong with boundaries. Either way, she's being disrespectful. Be respectful back but set boundaries with the disrespect. You'd be surprised the power of just not sayi…
/r/askTRP18/03/19 05:39 PM
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In general, it's really hard to save your way to independence. It involves: Always having lower expenses than income, so you have surplus income to save. This includes surplus while still having enough for the occasional "extra", vacation, etc. Our current society is engineered to fleece you of as much as possible. The current health care laws, tax schemes, and pressure for phones, internet, etc. and everything else that didn't exist 50 years ago that costs extra money. Add to it how the cost of…
/r/askTRP15/03/19 07:59 PM
1

Eat protein, lift once a week, or lift same weights, just less reps, less often, so instead of going for gains just going for maintaining? I think with any training program - BJJ, Muay Thai, boxing, etc. or even football, basketball, soccer, that lifting regularly is still very important. The calisthenics are important for adding endurance and stamina, but especially compound lifts for core body strength are doubly important for any sport or martial art program.
/r/askTRP15/03/19 06:01 PM
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I could only think OP wrote "she threatened to kill herself" that it would be a better way to dissolve a marriage than divorce if she off'd herself. Especially with all the BPD theatrics. Kids would be better off remembering her than growing up with her twisting them. Glad you're out. Sorry she has hostages, I mean kids, to use as pawns for her games. Maybe she'll make good on her threat to free you and the kids from her for good.
/r/askTRP15/03/19 04:12 AM
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It means either she's been thinking of sex with you but her ASD is kicking in, or you're friend zoned. Usually if a guy is friend zoned, a girl won't even bring up the topic of sex, though. Therefore, more likely she's thinking about you sexually but due to ASD and not wanting your social group to see her as a slut, she is acting as she is. The female version of "don't shit where you eat" is on display.
/r/askTRP14/03/19 03:13 PM
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You're welcome. Sharing the voice of experience here, been through it myself. My advice is based on how I wish I'd reacted when it was my turn. In this case, less is more in terms of communication with her. Say as little as possible from here on out. Just act and otherwise be very matter of fact, boring, and unemotional about it all. And don't let her drag you into any kind emotional exchange.
/r/askTRP13/03/19 05:48 PM
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Sorry man, but she definitely slept with him. Stop trying to find proof, and start proceeding as if you already have it - BECAUSE YOU DO. Your wife would not be having that text discussion over "emotional" stuff, or the type of bullshit she's otherwise feeding you. You know this, but you are in denial and are looking/hoping to find out you are wrong and that she didn't screw another guy. It's not happening. A Reddit post is too short a venue to tell you what to do next beyond a few things: Don't…
/r/askTRP13/03/19 04:02 AM
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My son has always needed to be pushed to achieve. His mother turned into a dependapotamus after he was born, and it's a constant struggle to keep that from rubbing off on him too much. Maybe "push" could also be expressed as "encourage" as well, but it's always a push/encouragement of things he expresses interest in doing. I don't push him to do things I enjoy so I can live my childhood again vicariously through him. He picks the direction, and I make sure he follows through once he starts. And …
/r/TheRedPill08/03/19 05:39 PM
3

I grew up with 2 sisters. I love them both, but let's just say one is the source of more issues than the other. At one point I wanted my son to have a sibling or two. I decided I didn't want another kid not too long ago for a variety of reasons - with a new wife I didn't want another kid because I didn't want the son I already have to feel displaced by a new kid that would be 14-15 years his junior. Also, being 43, as I said before, the prospect of small baby life again just isn't appealing. I d…
/r/TheRedPill08/03/19 05:35 PM
1

she makes eye contact. nod at her, smile. then walk up to her and say "seen you here all the time while i'm waiting for the bus to school, i'm kaiser wilhelm." set the hook for her to respond "i'm HB7, me too. which school?" have a cup of coffee or something. in the conversation work in "thank god the bus ride gives me time for the coffee to kick in, otherwise i'd be a zombie when i get there". so then you've set two hooks for conversation - school, waht your studying and that can lead into disc…
/r/askTRP07/03/19 02:53 PM
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if it were real, she'd give details and wouldn't be giving you the run around. she's messing with you, making drama with herself as the center of attention. the vagueness ensures no way to respond and her victim status. it's purposeful. there was no call. if i were you i'd tell her unless she can cough up more details and be more straight up in her accusations instead of keeping things vague, she can take a hike.
/r/askTRP07/03/19 02:52 AM
1

never stick it in crazy. she's either crazy or looking for a revenge cheat fuck after catching her own guy with another chick. or she gets off on screwing other chicks' men. something is up. be mindful of the drama she brings, is the drama that will come from her after sex worth it?
/r/TheRedPill06/03/19 04:06 AM
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Men don't need committee's, fairs, and other bullshit. We know how to work and earn what we want instead. If everyone put as much energy into just working and earning their way, performing well, etc., instead of all the shouting about SJW bullshit, we'd be flying solar powered cars to the moon and back, eating from Star Trek style food replicators, and never working a day because we'd all own robots to do all our work for us.
/r/TheRedPill05/03/19 01:01 PM
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I'm 43, divorced, one 14 year old son. Share 50/50 custody with his mom. Divorced after she went off the deep end - cheating, over spending, treating me like shit for holding boundaries with her, etc. Same overall sob story as lots of other guys. Financial impacts to me (and my son via trickle down effects) have been pretty major. I'm on a good footing these days, though, after a lot of hard work and sacrifice. To just go question by question - Do I want children? Going to mod that one to MORE c…
/r/TheRedPill05/03/19 02:47 AM
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men are meant to move out, get out on their own, and live their own lives. if you let your guilt about your mother's enmeshment with you guide your decision, you'll royally mess up your life. it's okay to feel bad for her, but fact is parents are supposed to take care of and raise kids to learn to be independent. parents are the support to kids until kids don't need them anymore. kids are never supposed to be their parent's support. if you are, it's going to or already has messed you up. leaving…
/r/askTRP02/03/19 09:07 PM
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Just wanted to chime in - good on you for not pedestalizing sex in general. Just because we can plate a girl doesn't mean we should. If you think of yourself as the prize in strong enough terms, you also start to have the thought "does she deserve me?" A chick with the history you describe definitely doesn't. Note - this isn't about exacting revenge. It's strictly about being the prize and not giving yourself away too easy to those that don't deserve it. There are plenty of women more deserving …
/r/TheRedPill28/02/19 03:52 PM
1

what you have experienced is exactly what get's guys to wake up, unplug from the matrix so to speak, and start seeing the truth that led this sub. now do yourself a favor and understand a few things: -you understand there is something to this RP shit, but you don't understand TRP yet. don't post anything else until you read the sidebar. -read the sidebar again. -every text you send your now ex- drives her farther away and excites her to open her legs for other cock. -at least she did you the cou…
/r/askTRP26/02/19 04:27 AM
2

meh. make women register, but if draft is ever needed again, they can structure the classifications in a way that the call up a lot less women than men anyway. women are fine as docs/nurses, rear area support roles, etc., but keep them out of the combat roles.
/r/TheRedPill25/02/19 10:53 PM
2

one - should file a police report with pics/documentation, and for a civil RO against this nutjob. whether it goes anywhere or not, she needs to get it on record that she's concerned. two - since it's a dorm, i'm assuming there is a college involved? she needs to ask the RA/hall monitor who to report it to with the university, and then go report it. again, she needs to document her concerns and the situation. three - you need to stay the fuck out of it. don't take anything into your hands. let h…
/r/askTRP25/02/19 09:10 PM
1

It's A LOT of guys that are/were nerds and losers. They were raised and indoctrinated in a way that they realized wasn't working as the indoctrination said it should. So they went looking for explanations and alternatives and found themselves here. Some have genuinely improved themselves, others are still a work in progress.
/r/askTRP25/02/19 03:58 PM
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It means people with unhealthy mental outlooks, histories of family of origin dramas, etc. tend to fill out the ranks of mental health professionals. I.e. - YOU. Don't go into it because you're trying to learn how to straighten out yourself and/or your family relationships. Your parents are going to continue to try to push you into a spot to stay dependent on them so they stay in control. The sooner you establish your own independent means of subsistence, including paying for your own place/room…
/r/askTRP22/02/19 10:06 PM
1

Not extreme, but even in my 40's, and them in their 70's, they sometimes still break out the guilt tactics and try to intrude too much in my life. Telling them what I've got going on is fine by me, but they get pushy about what they want because "they lurve me". Once you figure out whatever they are upset about is not your problem, it gets much easier to shut the door on whatever they are trying to push on you.
/r/askTRP22/02/19 10:03 PM
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NPD parents try to get and stay overly enmeshed in their kid's lives. Overall, the final goal for you should be to establish your individuality and learn to set boundaries with them that eliminate the over enmeshment. Note this will not be easy, or it won't seem easy while doing it. Chances are as you set boundaries (means telling them "no"), they will react by trying to punish you in the form of withdrawal of love, support, and resources at a minimum. They will likely also tell other family and…
/r/askTRP22/02/19 05:27 PM
2

As an American - I agree with this. Rejecting the constant media bombardment, the focus on consumerism and materialism, media/celebrity worship, etc., it was one of the best things I ever did. I even got extremely lucky and met an American woman that had done the same. We're married and more satisfied in life than ever now. TRP way of dealing with Western women really developed as a reaction to how feminism has twisted and made so many women in the West, and the USA in particular, into totally u…
/r/askTRP22/02/19 04:36 PM
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I distanced myself from a social network I had created for myself twice in the past. Both times it was because said networks turned into something that was holding me back, not compatible with where I wanted to go in life. They wanted to do nothing more than spend all their spare cash and then some in bars, and were otherwise very superficial. I wanted more. What I've found is 95% of humanity is rather superficial. I have a much smaller, but much higher quality, network now. It's much more satis…
/r/askTRP22/02/19 02:36 PM
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Got her number anyway - pay attention to this, listen to her actions, not her words. Wait for the audit to be over, then go message her one day not too long after that you'll be grabbing a bite after work at such and such place and she should come join you to see more of your writing. Women are fickle so she may or may not come, but plan it for some cool little spot you haven't been to, go and check it out, that way you get something out of it whether she shows or not.
/r/TheRedPill22/02/19 01:55 PM
2

i'm a father too. parenthood is weird. there's no manual, and every kid is different, right from birth they display personality traits that never change. no such thing as perfect parenting. it's easy to not know what to do with your kid sometimes, so you just end up doing nothing and being silent and being silent and distant. just remember he's a flawed human, so are you. but he did something right because you're starting to act with some good values that were instilled in you, even if they were…
/r/askTRP20/02/19 01:09 PM
3

you can rebuild a better relationship, for sure. just need to have boundaries for yourself so if he goes into a rage, you remove yourself as the target. other than that, be successful so you're satisfied, not to make him happy. him being happy and proud is fine, it's a great byproduct, but shouldn't be the goal. i'd suggest not having some big tearful, man hug event of trying to bury the hatchet. just start building your life, and let him know what you are doing occasionally. let him watch from …
/r/askTRP20/02/19 04:44 AM
2

yup, once you get to a "comfort zone" income, there isn't a big jump in quality of life unless you either open your own business and make it big or win the lottery. long hours and a higher corporate salary don't really gain you much. i speak to that personally. the key is understand how individual taxes on income vs. business taxes work. Totally different. If you can operate a business successfully, and justify ownership of otherwise personnel assets by the business, tax rates change to dramatic…
/r/askTRP20/02/19 04:38 AM
1

Used to be you could just go kick Bob's ass, let the truth come out in the aftermath, everyone would go "well, bob deserved it" and that would be the end of it. These days, though, it's tough. I'd recommend transfer to a new school, and also explore what recourse against Bob, his organization, and Sally is. Run it by a lawyer first, see if said lawyer can make some case stick for harassment, slander, etc. Stay away from the school's administration, at least to start. They're so BP'd and feminize…
/r/askTRP20/02/19 02:46 AM
2

So at 28, working a cashier job, no car, etc.. No disrespect intended but start working on a better career. If college and academics aren't your thing, that's fine. Employers are screaming for skilled trades these days. Electricians, mechanics, HVAC, plumbing, etc. Heck, the guys that just replaced the windows in my house were obviously not highly educated, but they were well trained and new their trade and work very well. Many employers are now taking guys off the street and training them in sk…
/r/askTRP18/02/19 03:34 PM
3

Echo'ing others - find an independent barber shop. Not a chain hair cut place. Male stylists are better, girls just want to flirt for a bigger tip and otherwise move you through as quick as possible so they can put another butt in their chair and get another tip.
/r/askTRP15/02/19 10:19 PM
6

Gym membership or a home weight set. Squat rack/bench/barbells/plates. I don't have a convenient space in my home for a home set, or I'd have one. Since I have to go to a gym, I use one that also has a decent pool, spa, hot tub, outdoor pool/hot tub for when weather is nice, etc. I lift, then go soak in the heat, jump in the cold water pool, then heat again. It seems to help me with recovery.
/r/askTRP15/02/19 10:17 PM
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Good male fashion advisor - find a decent, old school barber. And honestly, an older black gentleman barber. He won't lead you wrong. This is coming from a white guy, btw.
/r/askTRP15/02/19 10:14 PM
2

Because TRP formula isn't a guarantee. Occasionally you run into a girl that doesn't give away her value so easily to a smooth talking player, no matter how he engages her or makes her feel, even if she's super attracted to him. We complain about high n-count girls not being LTR worthy, etc. Maybe you found one that is genuinely keeping her n-count low and understands that the thousand cock stare is a bad thing for her to develop. More likely that others are right and this didn't go as perfect y…
/r/askTRP15/02/19 09:00 PM
1

You're finding that a man needs more than just sex with a pretty woman (or women) and fun in life to be truely satisfied. A man needs achievement that leaves a legacy. Something he and others can look at and will be impressed with. Hence why we all need to find our mission and go after it. It's about more than women and money and other aspects of consumerism and materialistic life. That stuff is fleeting. What do you want to be your legacy 100 years from now?
/r/askTRP14/02/19 01:40 PM
2

echo'ing others. box her stuff up. have it ready for a quick handoff if she shows up for it. document she blocked you, so you can prove you couldn't send her a "come get your stuff anytime" message. sometimes women will claim you refused to give it to them to try to keep engaged with them and keep a string tied to them. research abandoned property laws too. there's a time limit. if she fails to retrieve her things after the statutory limit, you can get rid of it, or it becomes your's legally. yo…
/r/askTRP12/02/19 06:11 PM
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Good man. Keep it brief. No extended discussion, don't get sucked into word salad if she tries to start a talk about issues, problems, throws in mental gymnastics about a bunch of stuff, etc. Don't be angry, just recognize the problem and that it's cause to acknowledge it's time to move on with best wishes for both of you. Being with the wrong person prevents you from getting with the right person when they come along. If you guys ain't the right people, better to move on sooner than later.
/r/askTRP08/02/19 03:30 PM
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Next. Just tell her you want to be with a woman that is into to the point that hanging out with ex-'s or other guys apart from isn't appealing to her. You want an LTR that is all in, and she's clearly not all in. It's a concept of all in. With LTR's, all in is the only way it should work. Read Mark Manson's "Fuck Yes or Fuck No" article. He lays it out very well. Don't make it personal, or butt hurt. Just be comfortable, brief, casually friendly about it, etc. Just be assertive and otherwise mak…
/r/askTRP08/02/19 03:20 PM
0

The convo with the school counselor is not about steriods. It's about being medically neglected by your parents. School counselors are mandatory reporters. You have that convo (that you think you need to see a doc to check your okay, but parent's won't take you so they are medically neglecting you) with the counselor, they are mandated by law to report it to social services. Social services should then show up and get after your parents about it. Might make waves with your parents, but the choic…
/r/askTRP06/02/19 06:33 PM
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Regarding parents refusal - recommend going to school counselor and voicing the concern. Parents will get pissed, but if there's an issue and they are refusing to help their child, that's neglect. Is it an option to go somewhere yourself without their consent? The school counselor should be able to help figure that out. If you're not working, get a job somewhere. Not enough hours to impact your school work negatively, but make a few spare bucks. Use it to get some extra calories, fitted clothes,…
/r/askTRP06/02/19 04:23 PM
2

Skimmed through the thread, offering the following: -You're feeling rejected and trying to find the magic pill to reverse the rejections. There isn't one. -Accept you didn't win the genetic lottery. Being undersized for your age, I'd recommend go to a doc and get an endocrine work up. Make sure there isn't anything out of whack. -Go to a nutritionist. Even a free one at a vitamin shop would be better than nothing. Get some professional advice on diet to put on mass and even stimulate growth over…
/r/askTRP06/02/19 03:57 PM
1

Recommend trying to change your mindset. You think of others first too strongly. You're more worried about how they will react than asserting yourself and living by your own values. Reverse that. Assert yourself first, just in a way that is still gives respect even when disagreeing. And if someone gets belligerent in response, don't cave, and don't respond in kind or escalate. Instead, just tell them you won't interact in that way, you're also going to assert your values in your decisions, and t…
/r/askTRP06/02/19 03:00 PM
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I'm 43, and will agree wholeheartedly with this guy. Salsa classes around here for some reason are always stacked up with women. Not other dance classes like ballroom. Just Salsa. Hot Yoga at my gym is a pure parade of fine pussy in and out of that room for each class, and like 10 ladies for each guy that go in there. The other training classes have a lot of women too. I actually had a lot of luck with outdoor and hiking clubs. Find one that does easier treks, goes on the occasional rafting or c…
/r/askTRP06/02/19 01:59 PM
2

I do 16-8 fasting during the work week, and sometimes on weekends. When I first rededicated to lifting and good diet, I did the fasting strict 16-8 as well. Results were rapid, significant weight loss, increased energy and focus, etc. Noob gains happened initially with lifting, but gains kept happening at a pretty high rate after noob gains were done. I also do fasted morning workouts once or twice a month on weekends. It's hard at first, but then the body adjusts metabolism and the energy hits.…
/r/askTRP05/02/19 05:21 PM
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Better to make a comment on a general shared experience. Like drop a joke about the professor, or his goofy teacher assistant you saw during his office hours. But hey, you approached, and she's likely just as awkward about it as you, so it's all good. Just wait until next class, then say hey to her, and strike up a convo about the super bowl. "Enjoy the game? It was great, if I wanted to watch a bunch of guys not score, I'd have taken some buddies to a local bar instead."
/r/askTRP04/02/19 09:16 PM
2

I had one done at age 42. Divorced, remarried, have a kid, etc. Didn't want another at this point in life. New wife is 42, she didn't want a kid either. So I got clipped. Did it many months ago (not quite a year). It's been nice not having to worry about it all. Had a little discomfort after the procedure but handled it all with OTC advil. Nothing else. Stayed off my feet for a weekend after, then had to be a little careful moving around, going to work, etc. for about a week. Wasn't severe pain,…
/r/TheRedPill04/02/19 05:53 PM
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Something made her think of you. As others said, she just got dumped, or alpha-widowed, or pumped and dumped, etc., or something else negative. It could be just a long dry spell for her. Who knows? The key here is you are best served by never finding out. I suggest just don't respond. Read, delete, let her see it, let her not see it, whatever. Doesn't matter. As long as you don't respond and keep on with your life now, it's all good.
/r/askTRP01/02/19 10:12 PM
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"I have a boyfriend" response - "since we're gonna talk about shit that doesn't matter now, what do you think of this weather?" Adapt as needed, if there's a guy walking around mowing grass, or whatever else environmental you can reference that is common for you both in the moment.
/r/askTRP31/01/19 05:54 PM
1

I had success with Tinder where success was defined as getting a response and contact leading to meeting women in real life. That said, I never met a quality woman on Tinder, or any other dating app. I never tried a paid service, I'm told those are better as the having to spend money part screens out a great portion of the dregs. I don't know that dating apps for BP's only, some RP style guys I know also use them with varying degrees of success. I do agree that you get better results overall fro…
/r/askTRP28/01/19 06:09 PM
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Soft next him. No need to call out or make drama. Just gracefully back away. Sometimes, as you grow, people that have been in your whole life become just another crab in the bucket and try to hold you back. One way or another, don't let them.
/r/askTRP22/01/19 03:27 AM
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This is way beyond TRP type discussion about women, sex, and growing past all the blue pill programming out there. This is domestic violence, plain and simple, and you are being victimized by your mother. My honest advice is to get together with your father and aunt and have a come to jesus talk about why your mothers behavior is not acceptable. I also suggest you go fill out a police report with your father and aunt. What she did is illegal and is grounds for criminal charges. Next, go find a l…
/r/askTRP22/01/19 03:24 AM
2

Toyota cars are pretty reliable and hold their value. Do your homework and get the right Toyota and you'll get a lot more than 3-5 years out of it.
/r/askTRP21/01/19 06:36 PM
1

I look first at "would I want to work there, for that operation? who would be my boss? who would be my peers? who would report to me?" You want to determine if you can be successful in the role based on your skills vs. the skills required, as well as are there any issues with other people? Is the right support there? Then, also think in terms of long term goals. Does the position set you up for the next step up later? Is it the job you need to prepare you for your next job after? Approach it lik…
/r/askTRP17/01/19 04:34 PM
1

I think it has to do with how you live your life. You can live a lifestyle that exposes you to bar sluts and whores regularly, or you can choose a lifestyle that gets away from clubs, materialism, and superficial bullshit and instead focus on a mission in life that is more fulfilling. As you live that mission, you will be exposed to a different category of people that are trying to do the same thing, and eventually you can meet women that share your values and one will want to come with you on y…
/r/askTRP17/01/19 04:30 PM
2

excellent opportunity to talk dirty via text.
/r/askTRP16/01/19 03:33 AM
4

First, congratz on becoming a father. I am one, too. It's an amazing thing. The non-father guys on this board trying to unprogram the BP from themselves have no idea, and won't for a long time. Second, you are right in how everyone seems to think they get to tell you how to be a dad and how to support your child's mother. None have any right to tell your business in that regard when such input is not invited by you and your wife. Tell them all to STFU and butt out. ​
/r/TheRedPill15/01/19 03:21 AM
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In my online days, I found flakes completely went away when you set up a first meet as a true first meet, not a date. Just plan on coffee or a lunch time snack, and no more. Perfection seemed to be "i'll meet you for a coffee after i'm done with my workout". No pressure, no need to primp and look great, and easy enough to tell if you like her in person without wasting an evening figuring it out. No pressure for her either. Typically, it usually led to her wanting to see me again later that night…
/r/askTRP14/01/19 03:36 AM
1

One armed side hug and cheek kiss with this history. Then, early in the 2nd date, KINO and go for the lip kiss early. No tongue. Just a lingering lip kiss to start, then eye fuck her up close for a second. Then, proceed through the rest of the date as normal, entertain yourself and have fun, which will lead her to having a good time, while throwing in more KINO escalation. But tease her, always leave her wanting more. She'll be begging to have her clothes torn off by the end of the night if she'…
/r/askTRP12/01/19 07:08 PM
-8

"you're as cute as the other girl that sent me nudes last night."
/r/askTRP12/01/19 06:24 PM
1

I'd say don't just ditch him, but next time he's bitching just ask him what his oneitis, complaining, etc. is getting him in life? Ask him when he's gonna man up and start building himself? Maybe share what self improvement has done for you. Basically, invite him to start climbing the mountain with you, but make it clear that you won't stay at the lower levels with him. And keep climbing, if he won't join you, then that's the way it is. Then it's not ditching a friend, it's growing out of an old…
/r/askTRP11/01/19 02:40 AM
2

I'm gonna break with most conventional "once a hoe, always a hoe" a little here. Occasionally, a woman will realize she needs to make a change and will change. However, it doesn't happen as quick as your case (as you describe). A woman that gets off the cock carousal will do her own version of monk mode. She'll end up with a high N-count, but a low recent n-count, very low or zero if she is really serious about it. As in her immediate prior year or two, she won't be sleeping around anymore. That…
/r/askTRP10/01/19 03:39 AM
3

If she takes the offer, enjoy her until she moves. Then just let things peter out once she's gone. Breaking up now says "I'm mad at you for leaving me" and reeks of butthurt. Don't break your frame like that. Btw - if she's seriously considering this, and given the shorter duration of the relationship, you might see it as a LTR, but she doesn't. So stop treating this like an LTR because it isn't one.
/r/askTRP10/01/19 03:30 AM
1

she's just about to graduate and fresh out of a relationship with red flags of prior drama. dude, she ain't in no place to be getting married. you're just filling her time until she's ready to move onto the next phase of her life, which is coming soon. if she was a long termer, there would be something really wrong with her. if she's acting in ways that give off red flags, consider that maybe she realizes she's not in a place to settle down in life yet and she's feeling you are looking for that …
/r/askTRP09/01/19 11:00 PM
1

Oh - work on raising your SMV. she's willing to stay with you now, but in order to keep it that way, you gotta keep lifting, working, educating, etc. keep progressing towards goals and achievements that will gain you better lifestyle and prospects in the future. as long as you do that, and you let her join you in pursuing all that, you'll be fine.
/r/askTRP09/01/19 04:50 PM
1

look dude, if she's living consistent with what she tells you, then honestly, don't try to talk to her about TRP stuff based on her shocked reaction to a RP TV show. her reactions don't indicate she's ready acknowledge RP truths yet. don't judge her honesty by RP posts and sidebar material you read online. judge her honesty by if she her actions match her words, and based on the OP, it sounds like they do. other than that, don't poke the bear and instigate problems that are there currently.
/r/askTRP09/01/19 04:48 PM
1

She responded that there are plenty of single mums who work and look after their kids and do just fine. And the government is there to fall back on, should things get too tough for her. Sorry - but this line of thinking discounts that usually there's a child support order and dad pay's mom. She runs around claiming "I don't need a man" but the fact is most still do and instead of securing that need via a relationship, they secure it through government backed force. (ie - a form of violence). And…
/r/askTRP04/01/19 05:42 PM
6

Not sure what order this would all go in, but: -You're current home town is a dead end place. Sounds like a goal to move to an area with more opportunity should be part of your plans. -Physically - you need more than just lifting right now. You need to physically rehab your body for basic physical performance. Exercise is a big part of it, but is there a physical rehab resource in your area? Go find one somewhere, go get an eval and recommendations for how to correct issues. Even if you can't af…
/r/askTRP04/01/19 05:08 PM
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don't try to mess with her. just deny her your presence and value by cutting her out of your life. you don't even need to send her any kind of "friend breakup" message. don't express any anger to her, just ghost. if she calls or messages, don't pick up. if you're linked on social media, i wouldn't unfriend/block/etc., i'd just unsubscribe her and otherwise ignore her. friends don't do what she did, regardless of if they are fatty's, guys, girls. they just don't. people that do what she did aren'…
/r/askTRP04/01/19 04:51 PM
2

if a chick has BPD - only smart response is to go no contact as soon as you can after you figure it out. do not attempt to confront, or get closure, etc. do not attempt to correct a BPD's behavior. it will turn crazy. it's just not worth "being right" or "winning" to invite more BPD drama into your life.
/r/askTRP02/01/19 08:06 AM
2

Get in gym, lift, etc. Consult a trainer or physical therapist about exercises that will be good rehab for the torn ligament. You'll need to strength up the muscles of the damaged joint to compensate for the tear and improve stability. After working out and making progress, consider returning to martial arts if you want. For what it's worth, I used to train juijutsu, MMA, etc. I know have various old injuries as a result - partially torn ligaments in both wrists and a shoulder that got separated…
/r/askTRP21/12/18 05:06 PM
1

you can do that too, if she breaks up with him. for now, i'd just keep it light and playful, and not bring up the BF again. and then only to say a response like "see you when i get back ;-)" if she says "i dumped him". something really brief that doesn't get you into a discussion of him or why she did it, etc., but just moves the interaction past her talking about it.
/r/askTRP21/12/18 03:33 PM
1

given this - there are two options. don't shit where you eat or bang her and risk the alienation. if you bang her and it comes out and causes problems, best to just own up to it, say "yup, i banged her, she's hot and i've got a sex drive." and then use the line that girls try to get away with all the time - IT JUST HAPPENED. then let the chips fall where they may.
/r/askTRP21/12/18 02:52 PM
2

She's either looking to have a BB bf for resources and AF (you) that she can carry on with in secret, or she's looking to straight up branch swing from him to you, but hoping to hold onto BF as a backup in case she can't swing to you. She's literally demonstrating AWALT and hypergamy to you. Suggest proceeding as you would with any other AWALT woman that you are trying to add to your lineup, and disregard the fact that she's hotter than most you've pulled before. Neg and tease her back for her p…
/r/askTRP21/12/18 02:49 PM
4

hard to explain on a short reddit comment but kids will want to be part of the act when it comes to a divorced parent's new relationship. very hard to keep it from turning into a brady bunch situation. also, i'm just flat weary of what influences i bring around my son. just cause you screw some gal regularly doesn't mean you've gotten to know her well enough to understand what influence to a kid she will bring to the table. to all dad's - vet new women with extreme detail before letting them aro…
/r/askTRP20/12/18 02:40 PM
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It's like this - if you have your kids and you're not introducing her to the kids yet, then she can't be with you when you have your kids. Hence why she was probably a bit rude about telling you about this trip. She'd rather be with you, can't, and isn't liking it. Not saying you should intro her yet. Just saying think about it, it makes sense. So next, if you won't let her be with you when you have your kids, you can't expect her to just sit home and do nothing. LTR or not, she doesn't owe you …
/r/askTRP20/12/18 05:44 AM
0

"It's just in my values that I want to be with a girl that will show she respects and values me by, among other things, not clubbing around drunk with a bunch of other loser guys. Regardless of if you're not hooking up or not, the image it gives is more club and bar fly that at the very least flirts for attention and drinks, and at worst is a girl that cheats on her guy when she can get away with it. It reflects badly on me that I'd be okay with any of that. I want a girl that's classier, doesn'…
/r/askTRP19/12/18 05:58 PM
7

Let her down easy. Tell her you're flattered by her interest, but you are going to keep all your professional relationships strictly professional, both with her, and other women you work with. Other than that, be cool and composed, friendly, and don't hint at any threats of HR reports or any other bullshit. That things are all good on your side, but they are going to stay professional. I wouldn't say much more than that. I would, however, keep copies of the messages she's sending in a secure, sa…
/r/askTRP17/12/18 06:26 PM
1

Go talk to the parents. Tell them kids need to turn the music down and stop the disruption. If parents are agreeable, then give them a chance to handle it. If parents deny their little snowflakes are causing a problem, make noise complaint to cops. If it persists despite parents being agreeable, make noise complaint to cops.
/r/askTRP15/12/18 04:05 PM
1

gotta say - if i were young again and enlisting, i wouldn't try to maintain LTR with a chick back home. jody is real, and i'd want to feel totally guilt free if had my own dalliances while off on my military adventures.
/r/askTRP14/12/18 09:27 PM
2

This. Most of the time, less is more. If she hits you up but you want to do or are doing something else, just tell her you can't meet up at that moment. Then, you can meet up with her sometime when you aren't busy with something else.
/r/askTRP14/12/18 08:01 PM
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End it. Don't go meet her parents, and tell her you're going to your parents place alone now. If you can get refunds for airfare, do it now. Other than that, tell her you want her to sleep separate from you, it's your lease, you get the bedroom. Ask her to move out as soon as she's reasonably able to. Other than that, you and her are roommates who will keep and respect each other's space and distance. Then you just have to keep your composure until you and her don't live together. Don't display …
/r/askTRP14/12/18 04:53 PM
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https://www.teamlaw.org/LandPatents.htm See this. No tax liability can stand against a Land Patent is you go through the process correctly.
/r/TheRedPill14/12/18 02:35 PM
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https://www.teamlaw.org/LandPatents.htm Just one source. There are a lot of them out there, but there's also a lot of misinformation. You honestly need an attorney that specializes in Land Patents to help you run through it all if you ever wanted to do this.
/r/TheRedPill14/12/18 02:32 PM
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I'm just gonna say TRP rules are more like guidelines and there situations where deviation from guideline is appropriate or at least won't hurt. Texting back to some of this stuff with more than robot level response can be okay. Here's the thing, don't try to have serious discussion with texts or messaging. Save that for face to face, or at least phone. But it's okay to send back some non-serious, flirty banter occasionally. 1-2 texts for every 2-4 of hers. Keep them brief, but sarcastic or supe…
/r/askTRP14/12/18 03:56 AM
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TKD is a sport, not a martial combat art. You try those kicks against someone moving, ducking, bob'ing, and weaving, you're chances of landing a solid hit with anything but a simple front kick are very low. Never kick above the knee in a street fight. Learn some grappling. Per FBI studies, 90% of street fights end up on the ground. Grappling and ground fighting are king on the street. Learn boxing and/or juijutsu for standing fighting. And I mean a true "Koryu" juijutsu form. Koryu means it's an…
/r/askTRP14/12/18 02:46 AM
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Research the idea of a "Land Patent". Way back in the history of the USA, at one point there were no property taxes. You owned land, nobody could take it from you. The instrument of ownership was a "Land Patent". Then the government came up with the idea of various local services (schools, roads, etc.) and floated the idea of property taxes, and the instrument of ownership became a "deed" instead of a "land patent". By deeding your ownership, you agree to pay said property taxes, and you agree t…
/r/TheRedPill14/12/18 01:03 AM
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Is it possible you are meeting women that are a bit more "high class" or higher SMV women that aren't the typical shit testing, hypergamous whores that we are so used to? Are you running into better quality women? Just a thought. AWALT, but still - some are better controlling themselves than others, some still have grown up and emotionally matured into adult women instead of overgrown adolescents.
/r/askTRP13/12/18 10:27 PM
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Become like a robot. Stop being nice. Be all business. Just do your job and otherwise stay disengaged from these women. Women are slaves to their emotions. They are never consistent. Hence why the receptionist is sometimes okay and sometimes not. They talk and backstab and gossip. The more distance you establish emotionally with them, the better off you are at work. And never, ever be alone one-on-one with a female coworker in a private setting. If you're in an office with one, the door stays op…
/r/askTRP13/12/18 04:19 PM
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You can either break it off due to lack of attraction or work on ramping up sex to be more exciting. Soft and slow has never made a woman orgasm. She might be tender, might need to start of soft and slow, then slow ramp up to more faster and more energy. Experiment with different angles to see if you can hit a sweet spot for her. And try turning her over on her stomach after she's worked up. Then after a couple sessions of htat, pull her up on her knees for doggie. This is the sex version of kin…
/r/askTRP11/12/18 08:20 PM
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Just echo'ing others - don't be one on one with any coworker or professional peer of the opposite sex. Never shit where you eat. Be a robot emotionally to the opposite sex in the work place, no jokes, no talking about who won the game, no water cooler talk, etc. It's all business, and it's all conducted in the open with no chance for a false allegation from a one-on-one, his word vs. her's scenario. Now further - do YOUR job, not anyone else's. If others aren't pulling their weight, don't try to…
/r/TheRedPill10/12/18 07:42 PM
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go for the jason statham look, or just shave it all off and grow a beard. enough women dig the look of either that you won't lack for options due to balding.
/r/askTRP10/12/18 04:19 AM
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She messages a boring opener and you respond "that's a lame opener! can't you come up with a better one? if you were to start over and try again what would you say?"
/r/askTRP10/12/18 04:17 AM
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why are you giving them any input?
/r/askTRP07/12/18 02:53 PM
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i like being dominant sometimes in bed, submissive sometimes. however, when i'm submissive, there's still a sense that she's "servicing" or "pleasuring" me, so i guess maybe i'm still in the dominant role, just passive in action while she's the more active person during those times? Maybe it's the same for the OP?
/r/askTRP06/12/18 04:14 PM
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When someone's actions and words tell a different story, believe what their actions say and not their words. She undermines other guy, but is going out with him anyway. Says his weed is an issue, but your's isnt. She's giving all kinds of red flags, and there's no way to know the real truth of her. So ask yourself this - is she worth figuring it out? Does figuring her out result in resolving her red flags and make her a higher quality character individual? or does it just refine the red flags an…
/r/askTRP06/12/18 03:08 PM
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How much drama do you want to invite into your life? 'Cause screwing a married woman will invite a whole lot at some point.
/r/askTRP05/12/18 06:36 PM
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yeah, the cats analogy is one of my go-to's. also like cats, if you chase a woman hard, they run. but if you sit still and be attractive to the cat, eventually the cat will come up, check you out, purr some, and jump in your lap and settle down, especially if you act like you don't care.
/r/askTRP05/12/18 01:45 PM
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Women are like cats - if you put a ball on a rope and bounce it in front of a cat, it will try to swat and get the ball. If you pull the ball out of reach whenever the cat tries to jump, the cat tries harder to get it and it drives the cat kind of crazy. So, like when teasing the cat, you need to figure out how to dangle something fun and intriguing in front of the girl while not intending to let her have it yet. Tease her with it until you are ready to give it to her. This has the added effect …
/r/askTRP05/12/18 01:31 AM
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You work for her daddy. Be careful with this. No need to watch her sexcapades in real time, but a general, brief "i'm good. enjoy your trip." response wouldn't hurt anything, and it would help keep her from telling daddy you're being a dick to her (ignoring isn't being a dick, but daddy will listen to which of you if she complains?). so - polite, and include something that is a definite conversation ender at the same time.
/r/askTRP04/12/18 06:57 PM
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There are other TRP-style articles that explain better than I can, but a woman being promiscuous is a woman that can't bond well with a man. Not in a mature, grown up fashion. I just think that women that sleep around tend to be rather immature as well, and immaturity interferes with functioning in an LTR like a grown up. The sleeping around is a symptom of bigger maturity and emotional issues, in my humble opinion. Now, a woman with an overall high n-county, but whose n-count only over the last…
/r/askTRP03/12/18 07:14 PM
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Promiscuous or not, maybe she did catch feels and is now lashing out with anger after being rejected? There's definitely an attempt to flip the roles in her own mind by devaluing you. Makes it so she can justify painting you black in her own mind, make you the bad guy that hurt her, and there's nothing wrong with her at all. That way she doesn't have to look in the mirror and confront herself with her past of slutting it up, and change. That said, this happens when you spin the plates and do FWB…
/r/askTRP03/12/18 06:44 PM
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I got girls by "accidentally" being alpha, and then lost them by going beta. TRP helped me recognize why I kept repeating the same cycles and ending up with same failures. I would stop working to improve/maintain SMV in lots of ways to "sacrifice" for the relationship, and things would fall apart. When I learned how important it is to put even more work into SMV maintenance once in a LTR or having a few girls around as plates, things really improved overall in my relationships with women.
/r/askTRP03/12/18 03:46 PM
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This story exemplifies exactly why trying to mess around with an exLTR usually has major diminishing returns.
/r/askTRP29/11/18 06:17 PM
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TRP will help you build yourself into the best version of you that you can be. Learning to showcase it in order to attract women, there's TRP advice to do that, but it is harder to learn and effectively implement, especially for guys that are more STEM inclined as interpersonal things tend to not come as easy to us. I will say the area where you live has an impact. Population demographics near you, number of women, total population, etc. - small town areas and less density tend to limit opportun…
/r/TheRedPill29/11/18 04:11 PM
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as others said, she doesn't owe you exclusivity, so try to control your emotions and not be real but hurt. that said, i wouldn't want to have sex with a girl that had just banged some other guy. i think most guys would feel the same way. for me, it's was always the thought of some other dude's fluids and what not transferring to me. i always hated the thought of it. in response to her asking if things are okay - i think it's okay to say something like "saw the hickeys and condom wrapper from ano…
/r/askTRP29/11/18 03:28 PM
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Don't give her a 4th kid.
/r/askTRP28/11/18 01:44 PM
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wait for one to be walking by you when neither of you are actively working out. make eye contact. then make a comment like "i have those same tights at home, i almost wore them today but decided against it." this works better obviously when you're referring to some crazy color scheme on a girl's yoga pants. next line to add in during some banter is something like "well, they look better on me, i'll wear mine next time." just come up with some stupid banter to make her laugh and remember you. the…
/r/askTRP27/11/18 07:07 PM
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big difference between motivation and dedication. it's easy to go to the gym when you're motivated at the start. keeping with it means going when you don't feel like it - that's dedication. set up a weekly routine, go on routine, and then build it into habit. it helped me, though, to do a few training sessions with a trainer, learn proper form, etc. when you look like you know what you're doing, the other guys nod and are supportive while you are there. you're one of the "club". being one who be…
/r/askTRP27/11/18 04:26 PM
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Personally, I've been where you are with this and I can say I think the best reaction is to next her. She's the past, she can stay in the past. She's either seeing the improvement in SMV and wants a piece now, or she's trying to suck you back into orbit. Or maybe a bit of both depending on how you pass the shit tests she sets up for you. Either way, it's not as good as the new girls you've got options with. If you decide to explore adding her to your list though, don't talk to her on the phone, …
/r/askTRP27/11/18 04:22 PM
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I've had a vasectomy. I had it at age 43. My wife can't spend enough time riding my cock now. She loves not having to worry about catching a silver bullet. So as for how it affects your sex life, I'll just say your mileage may vary. That said, I wouldn't recommend vasectomy for any man unless he's sure he wants to be done making kids.
/r/askTRP27/11/18 01:51 AM
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Commenting as I've got some knowledge of these issues that was learned the hard way. If confronted with a situation where you are a man, and a woman or women are being physically violent towards you, follow these rules: Never call the cops. They will not be your friend. Period. Regardless of who's house/home it is, you've just plain got to wait out the incident. It isn't fair. It isn't right. But it is how it is. This is an extreme test of your frame and composure. Grey rock the woman/women invo…
/r/askTRP26/11/18 04:25 PM
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Her blocking you should be a big enough red flag to disqualify her from LTR status. Adults get into arguments but don't react like that. They cool off and come back later and work shit out. Do yourself a favor - don't respond. Some guys recommend downgrading to plate to keep her as an option for sex, but especially with a girl that has acted like this, you're just inviting opportunity for new drama by doing that in the future. You've got the chance to put your self respect first. If you want to …
/r/askTRP26/11/18 03:57 PM
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maybe. i just never considered myself a "hot" guy. it's more along the lines you can make yourself attractive with work and style, and then set yourself up in circumstances where there's an excuse to approach you. the cliche of having a cute dog and going for walks on nice days at the parks where women like to run comes to mind. give them a reason to stop for you. bait them in so to speak. same for when you approach a girl - having a bait/hook to dangle for her helps a lot. an attention getter t…
/r/askTRP21/11/18 09:28 PM
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she might not have been into you strongly at the time until you nexted her. it works like that sometimes, they don't what something until they can't have it.
/r/askTRP21/11/18 09:04 PM
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that's just not true. i'm not top 1% looks, but i started getting approached A LOT when if first rededicated myself to me. making me the best version of me that i could. it surprised me to be honest. started happening at the grocery store, in the gym, etc. one chick actually sat down next to me a church and started a convo, another was at an engineering conference. it's not hard to make yourself stand out these days. it might seem like, but it's really not. get in a gym, do stronglifts 5x5, do a…
/r/askTRP21/11/18 08:09 PM
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the guys getting laid like warlords, most of them didn't start that way. they got in a gym, started lifting serious weights, stopped drinking overly much, stopped/never got into drugs, don't waste a lot of time on video games or TV or social media, and they started working to make something of themselves. they have mission and they pursue it. they have no fuck-around-itis in their lives. and then they prioritize the actions in the paragraph above women. all of this increases their SMV. and it ev…
/r/askTRP21/11/18 07:21 PM
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Hard next. Don't even both responding. Just ghost her. No pussy is worth tolerating disrespect and these kinds of games.
/r/askTRP21/11/18 07:05 PM
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especially today, marriage only works with a traditional minded woman that wants to accept a man's sovereignty over her in the marriage. i wouldn't have believed they were out there until i met one. the flipside is such a woman only wants to submit herself to a man she perceives as a true alpha, and she'll still test the man she submits to in order to check if he really is that alpha, even after marriage. if you as the man don't maintain alpha status, it will lead to problems. if you do, though,…
/r/TheRedPill21/11/18 01:10 PM
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You've grown since your prior interactions with her, you've outgrown her. Go find new women, don't rummage through the past. The past is garbage.
/r/askTRP14/11/18 06:16 PM
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yup. 39 year old guy in the dorms with mostly 18 and 19 year olds. he was a farmer all his life, and had decided to get an agriculture degree. he'd left the farm his family owned (rest of family was still working it) and was doing the school thing with plans to go back with new knowledge to make things run better and more profitably. not certain if that worked out for him or not, never saw him again after that academic year ended.
/r/askTRP08/11/18 03:35 PM
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we had a 39 year old freshman on my hall one year while i was living in the dorms. he was awesome, nobody underage had an unstocked beer fridge that year. that said, i expect you'll probably be better off getting yourself straightened out like you're saying, and finding decent off campus housing. then just go to classes, study, and do well. focus on that first. don't worry about people ostracizing you. hell, you'll be older than most of the seniors! i will say that most of the girls seeing someo…
/r/askTRP08/11/18 03:07 PM
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"plate 2 was actually hiding under the bed, not wanting to be caught last time you were here but taking notes on how to out do you when it's next her turn with me. she left and took her necklace as soon as you were out the door."
/r/askTRP07/11/18 05:28 PM
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It takes 2 to tango, always. Like others said, she was at the party while having all this background drama? If the background drama is real, she's participating and stringing it along. Which probably happened before he became an ex- too. Might explain some level of this guy's reactions to all this too, even perfectly rationale people can get roped onto the crazy train and have an out of character experience before they realize their mistake and pull back from it all. Or she's making shit up. Or …
/r/askTRP07/11/18 05:08 PM
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Echo'ing others - don't put women as the priority. Invest your time in you. Find a gym, even if it's just one of those $10 a month crappy ones if that's all you can afford. It's better than nothing. In conjunction, figure out a better diet. Shaping up is 80% diet, 20% exercise. Then, do a little style update - nice clothes that fit well, nice shoes, maybe an inexpensive but decent looking watch (watches make great bling for men), decent hair cut. Go to a classic barber. Don't go to some SportCli…
/r/askTRP07/11/18 01:58 PM
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I agree. I lived with parents for my first year after college. Worked, paid off student loans early, etc. Then moved in with a roommate. During that year, I did get laid, it was just mainly at other girl's places. When they saw I was otherwise working a high paying job, fresh graduated, and paying off debt from school, there were enough that didn't bat an eye at living at parents given everything else that I didn't lack for options.
/r/askTRP29/10/18 01:17 PM
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Yeah, I lived with my parents for a year after college. Was making good money, I just saved it and paid off all my student loans after that year. Then moved out to a roommate situation that was very affordable. Even managed to get laid a few times, never at parent's house though.
/r/askTRP26/10/18 08:07 PM
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Stop worrying about girls. Start worrying about launching into your own life as an individual and a man. Goal is to get out on your own. To accomplish that, you need means to support yourself, so you need a job that will pay the bills. Can you get a job in the City that's 40 min's away? Is there a train to take to get there? Might be tough at first, but save some money, then move there, close enough to work that you don't need a car to save expenses? Something like a roommate situation? Regardle…
/r/askTRP26/10/18 05:42 PM
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Dance lessons are easier and you get more out of it if you have a partner that has some aptitude for it. I've done them solo, switched partners throughout, sometimes ended up stuck with some girl that had no coordination, and it sucked the whole time. Don't worry so much about whether you'll score with your girl, worry about whether you can practice well and get better with her as your dancing partner! To make the un-stated obvious - don't go take dance lessons with a primary goal of scoring wit…
/r/askTRP25/10/18 07:07 PM
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Bit of advice. Talk less, be more calm and collected, and escalate touching. Start with mild brushes of her arm or shoulders. If she seems okay with it, move to her back or top/outside of her thigh. Lean in some, get close while talking. Again, remember to talk less, and keep what you say short.At some point you'll be leaning in close enough to go for the kiss. Don't surprise her, be obvious you're going for it. While you're still learning to read the cues she wants it, reach up and touch her ch…
/r/askTRP22/10/18 07:31 PM
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why not ask them how come redpill gets quarantined to protect people from things they might not want to see but subs that are dedicated to porn, chicks pegging guys in the ass with dildos, etc. aren't? oh wait, libtards - they actually support all forms of degeneracy and radical destruction of all things male.
/r/TheRedPill19/10/18 09:51 PM
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It might very well be. However, what I'm trying to get at is that she turned into a pain in the ass before, and no level of pain in the ass is worth putting up with for sex. Sex is too commonly available with other women. I think you should vet her some and see if she's still gonna be a pain in the ass before going there with her again. Don't think only with your dick, dude.
/r/askTRP19/10/18 04:15 PM
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perfect opportunity to seize frame control. just tell her "instead of my house, meet me at the coffee place right around the corner. i'll be stopping there before going home." keeps it from implying you're dining her or buying her drinks out and what not, keeps it low investment for you both, and gives you the out if you need it without needing a more escalated "get out of my place" moment if things aren't gonna work out.
/r/askTRP19/10/18 02:06 PM
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"run. quickly and immediately" means end the relationship with her immediately. i always advocate a simple, brief, tactful message to her along the lines of "this just isn't working out. i'm ending things and won't be seeing you anymore. good luck." can be a brief phone call, if the girl isn't fruitloops or even face to face. you're girl is a bit nuts, though. for self protection reasons, i'd recommend a phone call or even a text. don't be within arm's reach. she could lose it and freak out. the…
/r/askTRP19/10/18 01:54 PM
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the chick that wrote that has more issues than national geographic. no matter you do, or what you could have done differently in the past, she would always taken it and twisted it in a way that was going to lead to that text. and she will do so with every other involvement you have with her in the future. this is a no win for you, and any other guy she ever is involved with. it has nothing to do with you, you can't fix her or make it better, and any attempts to do so will only result in more shi…
/r/askTRP19/10/18 01:41 PM
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meet her someplace near your home to start. if she's same old, same old with shit testing, just bow out gracefully. tell her was good catching up, but you have other stuff you need to attend to. if things go well, you can take her back to your place for fun time. you proceed w/out fucking this up by not succumbing to her testing or letting her beta-ize you. don't pedestalize sex with her. prioritize yourself and your self respect and your frame over sex. be willing to walk away instead of jump t…
/r/askTRP19/10/18 01:22 PM
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Adding my thoughts - dump her. And maybe a good response to "accusing" you of being money minded, thrfty, calculative, etc. about money, is to just say back to her "And?" or "why are you trying to make being fiscally responsible and smart sound like a bad thing?" And follow up with "you're an adult, you should be able to contribute to things you're going to get something out of." We all know what's really going on here - she's trying to guilt you into being her beta bux. Don't fall for it. Sched…
/r/askTRP19/10/18 12:51 PM
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All women do it, but some do it more than others. I've found the more egregious shit testers are also usually more insecure than most women. That elevated insecurity is where their more extreme shit testing comes from. I've also found there is nothing you can do that will ever fix her insecurity. You can keep passing tests, but at some point, nobody bats a thousand, there will be one that doesn't get passed. Either because you fuck up, or because a particular shit test is simply unpassable. I hi…
/r/askTRP16/10/18 04:49 PM
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she might be attracted and testing your frame, too.
/r/askTRP10/10/18 06:01 PM
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"You're walking along smiling like an idiot. You must have a hot date!" When she says no, she'll generally stop, and you've got your window. If she's walking a dog (had a lot of success with this one) "You look like you're being taken for a walk" and then "he's a pretty dog" (stop to pet dog, makes her stop, then start talking about the dog - segways into discussion). A little riskier and doesn't work on them all (it pisses some of them off actually), but if you say something like "bad hair day?…
/r/askTRP05/10/18 12:59 PM
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She's 42. Doesn't smoke, doesn't drink heavy, not a virgin but not a high n-count, never been married, no kids, didn't want kids at this point. She actually looks much younger than most other women in their 40's as she takes care of herself and her health. Has her own job and money. Her dad is retired stock broker, she's in line to inherit a huge chunk of change when he passes. She'd actually spent 3 years living overseas at one point, getting out of the USA and it's consumerism really solidifie…
/r/askTRP04/10/18 06:17 PM
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I found once I purged belief in the disney myth romance ideas of relationships and started focusing on what else a woman could bring to the table besides what's between her legs, most women couldn't bring anything else at all. It wasn't because they weren't capable of better, it was because they were just as mislead by BP-feminist thinking as men are. It's just women have no incentive to change because there are just so many men out there that don't hold them to higher standards, all they have t…
/r/askTRP04/10/18 04:48 PM
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I don't think there's much you can do about it to be honest. Attractive women online never lack for options. They don't look at a guy as "real" until after they've met him. Until then you're just a digital picture. Best thing is to treat them the same way. I always recommend a first meet should be while doing something you'd be doing anyway, and very low investment. Coffee/lunch break, or stop by a spot for a bit and a drink on the way home from work, the gym, etc. That way, no wasted time, no w…
/r/askTRP04/10/18 04:13 PM
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During my first marriage, I was the loneliest I've ever been. Nothing sucks worse than lying next to a wife at night and feeling disconnected and apart from her, when she's only 1 foot away. You mention religious married family having a bad attitude towards a person that eschews marriage - but that's very hypocritical of them on religious grounds. Paul actually writes in several of his Epistles about the virtues of staying single and not marrying. He talks about how life stays simpler and easier…
/r/askTRP04/10/18 02:11 PM
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tell her you'll go shopping with her to pick out the new stuff for her, and then she can wear it for you that evening.
/r/askTRP03/10/18 03:10 AM
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Be careful she's not a super clinger. Those girls are the ones that #MeToo you or come slash your tires and scratch up your paint job when they finally get it through their thick skulls that you're not interested.
/r/askTRP02/10/18 04:13 PM
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I'll say it again, the Liberal/Progress Democrat agenda is about enforcing conformity with their ideals and vision of what society should be. They are couching it in other terms like equality and justice, but it's really just them fooling the masses and getting the masses to conform to their agenda by appealing to the greedy side of human nature (wealth envy and class warfare), and fooling people with emotional arguments not based on fact (modern feminism). I'm starting to see signs people are w…
/r/TheRedPill02/10/18 03:04 PM
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When you change and take the next step up in life, you need to be prepared to cut loose a girl that won't take it with you. If she tries to hold you back, get rid of her and find a girl that won't do that.
/r/askTRP01/10/18 02:28 PM
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All I'll say is decide what's right for you and what's not right for you. Then live according to those values and don't worry if it's a bit different from other guys, especially other guys posting shit on internet forums. Regarding screwing girls attached to other guys, there is an element of if she's cheating with you, that's between her and the guy she's betraying as far as what it between them and you don't need to worry about it and should stay out of things between them if you do knowingly …
/r/askTRP01/10/18 02:17 PM
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TRP message needs to be put out there with an articulation that doesn't come by a bunch of online weenies and angry young males. It needs to cleansed of the "locker room" talk for mass media consumption. The offensive and crude language so many use is precisely what alienates the wider audience. And while I do believe there is something to hypergamy, AWALT, female solipsism, etc. - for God's sake those things need to be left out of the "mass market" message. Those things plus the language that t…
/r/TheRedPill01/10/18 01:54 PM
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The key is the stand has to be taken without frame breaking. We have to maintain composure, not go along with their agenda, but do so peaceably. Let them show their asses. Think of it like this Gandhi quote: "First they ignore you. Then they laugh at you. Then they fight you. Then you win." He never confronted with any kind of escalation or anger. He used peaceful resistance. Non-violent civil disobediance. He just didn't go along with the program of British rule. He simply spoke truth and would…
/r/TheRedPill28/09/18 07:24 PM
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The current crop of radical liberals and feminists say words that gaslight the masses into thinking they want equality, to right wrongs of the past, and justice for the oppressed. The reality is the policies they pursue and the actions they take indicate what they really want is power and control over the rest of us in order to enforce uniformity and conformity to their model of what society should be like. They don't want true freedom and justice. They want everyone to conform to their beliefs …
/r/TheRedPill28/09/18 05:39 PM
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Had it done 6 months ago. I'm 43. Have one son, at one point wanted more kids but that has passed. I don't want to be in my 40's dealing with a new born. That would be rough. Just my $0.02 here - if you're under 30, don't do it yet. Wait until you're in your 40's or after you've reproduced however many times you think is enough.
/r/askTRP26/09/18 01:24 PM
1

Thanks for laugh!
/r/askTRP24/09/18 07:40 PM
1

first, nobody is too low-IQ. people learn differently and have different "gifts". those that get classified as low-IQ, etc. are those that don't fit in the neat little box our school systems cram everyone into. and yeah, accounting, IT tech certifications, other business degrees - they aren't rocket science. you can make a good living doing them. a business degree combined with a real estate license can be a potent combo. as for physical/attractiveness limitations, with some gym time to rehab/bu…
/r/askTRP24/09/18 05:02 PM
2

She's just jealous and trying to screw things up for her roommate. Crab bucket mentality playing out. Just tell her to go find a nice, hard dick to ride, there are plenty of options out there for her.
/r/askTRP21/09/18 05:52 PM
2

Just stop contact. When she contacts you to get together, just tell her you're not proceeding any further and need to focus on other things in life right now. If she questions more, it is possible to tell her that you are focusing on studies and finding another girl that doesn't split her attention between multiple men. Be polite, discrete, and brief. Have an attitude that she can do whatever she wants, date multiple guys, others can go along with it fine, it's just not in your values so you are…
/r/askTRP18/09/18 01:24 PM
1

Just to clarify - he needs to understand this isn't done out of revenge or retaliation. It's done for self preservation. The legal system has remedies to protect people, if you don't try to use those remedies it's hard to justify claims of severe abuse and danger. The thinking is if you were genuine in your claims, you'd also be taking steps legally that are commensurate with those claims. That's a long winded way of saying your actions need to match your words - if she's that abusive and danger…
/r/askTRP17/09/18 03:28 PM
5

Nothing wrong with wanting more. Not gonna meet a girl for more on Tinder (or any online dating these days), and not gonna happen at a bar or club either. You gotta change where you go to meet women. The ones that are fit for what you want, they don't go online or get picked up in clubs.
/r/askTRP17/09/18 05:15 AM
1

Yet another guy that's dealt with this kind of thing here. No matter what she escalates to physically, he CANNOT respond physically. No retaliation. If he can, he should just let her hit him. The police are trained to arrest the "primary aggressor". That's the person that exercises the most force, not the one that starts the fight or throws the first punch. Him being a man, if he retaliates, he automatically becomes the primary aggressor because men are stronger. If at all possible, never, ever …
/r/askTRP17/09/18 03:29 AM
3

I don't say "TRP" or use red-pill coined phrases and terms, but I do sometimes express the ideas using different expression, and I also pose the ideas in the form of questions to get people to think. I usually only do this when someone expresses questioning of mainstream BP/feminist stuff to start with, though, so it's only when there's been a door opened already. I just give a little nudge. And I never include anything that could be construed as misogynistic or racist. I just focus on self impr…
/r/TheRedPill13/09/18 02:50 PM
3

I'm 43. Worked my way up from college graduation to now supervising a large multi-disciplined engineering team over the past 20+ years. What you are experiencing is reality showing how jobs turn out. It's all of them. What makes it tolerable for me is the following: We design big infrastructure stuff. I get to see it through and know that I was a main, if not the main, driver behind it. It benefits humanity when we finish this stuff up and get it in service. So there's legacy there, most of thes…
/r/askTRP11/09/18 04:15 AM
3

Age 43 here. I am got to showing decent abs again at age 42 from Stronglifts 5x5 and good diet. Started at 41 after years of neglect and floundering. Before 41, it had been since about 23 since I'd been in any decent shape. To keep from being a flabby mess at any age, it's 80% diet, 20% exercise. Focus on good diet in your life, don't drink, smoke, snort, or shoot a bunch of poison into your body, and you'll be just fine.
/r/askTRP11/09/18 03:55 AM
1

She can act however she wants, it's not based on the reality of the event. It's based on her desperation to not get dumped by her backup guy. It's actually pretty pathetic of her, and of him to stay with her. Why get upset about a woman that is this pathetic? She's not worth it, dude.
/r/askTRP10/09/18 05:12 PM
4

you could show the BF the texts where she tried to branch swing and you rejected her. she then went back to her BF as her no. 2 back up option, only after cheating and getting caught she's trying to convince him that's no.1 to save her own ass. only a matter of time until he's demoted to No. 2, she'll meet another guy to that she will try to branch swing to. of course, that would invite needless drama into your life, so i don't recommend it, but hopefully this clears up for you what really happe…
/r/askTRP10/09/18 04:44 PM
5

Comfort test. Either A&A with something witty, or address the comfort test directly without being needy or justifying yourself to her. When my witty powers aren't flowing well, I just resort to saying things like "you referring to me not being in touch as much? i'm just comfortable with you, that we're an item without needing to reassure myself through your attention towards me." Pressure flip it back to her. There's a deeper psychological thing at work too - it's called object constancy. That's…
/r/askTRP07/09/18 04:23 PM
1

One - I understand feeling stuck for 3 years, but I bet there's a way out. Even if it's something like moving overseas to study as part of a study abroad program? Seriously - you mentioned a false impression of the world given by your mother? Give some thought to developing a stronger open mind and even if it's against cultural norms, how can you get out sooner? Social and cultural norms shouldn't be part of keeping you in a bad place. Two - while you're still there, "grey rock" and "BIFF" her. …
/r/askTRP05/09/18 02:20 PM
2

you realize you just described all the major plot points of a borderline personality disordered woman? i know you won't so i really say this more for the audience, but you should drop this chick pronto. too many red flags.
/r/TheRedPill04/09/18 07:59 PM
0

Postpone the trip. You seem to want to explore things and see if they work out. So go ahead and do it. Just be outcome independent. Be okay if things get better, and be okay if things go down the tubes. If they get better, reschedule the trip. If they don't, you dodged a bullet.
/r/askTRP31/08/18 07:25 PM
1

she can reflect on what she wants friend wise, then figure out where to go to meet them. hint - not a bar.
/r/askTRP29/08/18 02:06 AM
2

if she pays and all is good, no problem. if she pays and tries to hold it over you, remember you owe her nothing in return in reality and next her.
/r/askTRP27/08/18 03:34 PM
1

mostly agree, except the worst trained dogs I've seen have all been women's dogs, lol!
/r/TheRedPill22/08/18 04:37 PM
1

don't put as much credence in her "weak" comments and "scared eyes" as you are. you handled this like a pro. she was just trying to push buttons and provoke a bad reaction out of you, that way she could label you the bad guy and justify to herself that she's not being a bitch. you denied her and sent her on her way. good job in that regard. her text later apologizing is still more of the same, making excuses about not being good at healthy relationships, etc. she's now trying to justify in her m…
/r/askTRP21/08/18 04:33 PM
2

if not able to do hard core lifting, go start with something. at this point, it's not so much lifting and training, it's more along the lines of rehab for you. all the various weight machines, 5 lb dumb bells, treadmill, etc. make your body do what it can and start rebuilding it. do a few sessions with a trainer, explain your illness background, and get said trainer to put together a program to start with for you. don't shy from the situation. go attack it.
/r/askTRP20/08/18 04:43 PM
2

"We matched! Doesn't the Tinder fine print say we have to set a wedding date next?"
/r/askTRP17/08/18 04:30 PM
2

In a lot of ways, it's harder to find a purpose, in some ways it's easier. In past times, survival was harder. You hunted, farmed, etc. to feed yourself and your family and hoped you didn't get sick or hurt because recovery wasn't certain. Then you served whatever overlord was around because if you didn't, he killed you and made your family his slaves. So focusing on survival was about all they could manage. Contrast that to today - we sort of have the freedom to try to aspire to more than survi…
/r/askTRP14/08/18 08:40 PM
2

Tell her to get her ass in the gym with you. You lift, she can go do all the cardio and yoga shit.
/r/askTRP13/08/18 01:14 PM
4

Echo'ing the people supporting him staying, waiting for the coast to be clear, then leaving. With a dysregulated BPD, that's the correct course. You've dug yourself a whole just by being involved with a BPD, you aren't getting out without some sort of pennance. If his was simply one more night sleeping next to her, his was really not that bad. Mine involved a night in jail, one of those dumb 24-week DV classes, etc. It got dropped later, and totally expunged like it never happened, but was defin…
/r/TheRedPill02/08/18 02:41 AM
5

he won't unplug until the life he built for himself destroys him. and unplugging will be a slow, painful process; marked by defiance of truths staring him the face, bargaining in his mind about how if only this or that happens, things will get better, etc. when all that fails and life falls apart anyway, and he's lost everything, then he'll start asking "what is going wrong?" then unplugging is a possibility. speaking from personal experience as i went through the same thing.
/r/TheRedPill02/08/18 02:14 AM
3

Depends - if you have already met her somehow, then yes, it's a great idea. If it's a Tinder meet or something, meet up for a coffee early afternoon, then if you're feeling it, invite her to come along on the bouldering trip. Think about logistics though - tell her the plan. Coffee, if you both are like "this one's pretty cool", then she should bring or wear clothes and shoes for it and be prepared. I did this with a hiking girl once. It was match, meet for lunch at a greek place (we connected r…
/r/askTRP01/08/18 03:40 PM
6

Yes, being comfortable and confident is key. DGAF attitude about what others think, be comfortable with yourself and let other's discomfort be a filter to remove them from your life. The one's left will be the ones you click well with.
/r/askTRP31/07/18 04:22 PM
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Chiming in to say don't do it. Way too many red flags with this. Invites so much drama potential into your life. There's don't shit where you eat, there's also getting mixed up with anyone that is into this cucking stuff is just not a good idea - I guarantee you these two are fucked up people. You can see it in the girl's crack whore face. In fact, I'd be looking for yet another new job already. If they ask why looking for a change so quick at an interview, tell them straight up the people at th…
/r/askTRP31/07/18 04:19 PM
2

You're giving off a creeper vibe somehow. Hard to say what it is exactly from here. Just keep lifting, keep taking care of you, and try to start learning better social awareness. It doesn't come easily for me either. One thing that helped me a lot was getting a bunch of meetup groups. It's an environment at the meetup's where people are supposed to look at each other and interact. Even if you suck initially, it gets you into situations where you get to meet people and start conversations. You'll…
/r/askTRP31/07/18 01:56 PM
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Hiking, hunting, rafting, shooting - anything outdoorsy. Have made a fair number of lake house weekender trips lately. Keep making friends with people that have them and keep getting invited. House projects. They never end. Dad duty to a 14 year old. Fuck the tits off my wife on a regular basis. As long as we're in town, I make time to go lift at least one day each weekend. I've got a fair sized friend and family network, we go out and meet up with lots of different people. Or occasionally I eng…
/r/askTRP31/07/18 02:21 AM
2

loving someone doesn't mean you have to let them hurt you. it's supposed to mean being extra careful not to hurt you, but too many use it as a free pass to be shitty. so yeah, only way to deal with this is establish distance. get job, move out. until then be around less. work, lift, boxing or mma, and get into a hobby outside the home. grey rock and low information diet when around him.
/r/askTRP28/07/18 01:41 PM
1

Totally agree men collectively should just ignore all of them. Problem is too many men won't do it. Whether white knighting or BP desperate incels flailing around trying to get laid, they haven't woken up and unplugged from the Matrix yet. The last, worst part, is that BP'd/feminist men are programmed also to hate other men that reject feminism. We can't fix female feminists, and if we try to fix the men, we're just white knighting towards the men, which we all know is just as stupid as white kn…
/r/TheRedPill26/07/18 04:22 PM
9

OP - I know it's eye opening. Here's another aspect though - this chick is using you as her emotional tampon. Women will slot men into roles - one guy will be her beta bux provider (husband for this chick). Another guy, or guys, provide dick and excitement (husband's brother duo friends). Another guy is her confidant, aka emotional tampon (THIS IS YOU). In this case, this chick has everyone all lined up as orbiters that each play a different role for her (roles are provider, dick, and confidant …
/r/TheRedPill26/07/18 01:47 PM
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Take note - OP's "who gives a shit what her reactions was" is the best answer anyone can give. And we all know what her reaction was, even if she didn't react at the time.
/r/TheRedPill26/07/18 01:17 PM
3

Read your update. Not much to add - and it's definitely time for distance with your sister. Just try to keep it in your head that it's not about punishing her. It's simply about self preservation. People that actively plan to try to hurt you don't get to be close to you, family or not. You are right to set a boundary that will keep her from doing it again. Regarding your mother taking her side - I'm assuming it's a case of like mother, like daughter? Again - distance is your friend when it comes…
/r/TheRedPill24/07/18 02:58 PM
1

lift and build strength. develop your abilities better before worrying about polishing your presentation (ie - looks). looks will come naturally anyway as you build muscle and strength.
/r/askTRP23/07/18 10:49 PM
1

"hey I'm stopping by xyz bar for a brownie sunday drizzled with rum at @pm. you should come join me so we can ppl watch and make up stories about everyone else there." booze, banter, and bullshitting. if she's interested like you think, she'll be there.
/r/askTRP23/07/18 09:40 PM
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just reaffirm that you know it hurts, but he's doing the right thing by himself. his opinion of his own value will be higher once he's on the other side of all this for not tolerating what shouldn't be tolerated. we're all worth better when we hold ourselves to that standard. it's a choice and action we take to be worth better, & it is sometimes rough doing it.
/r/TheRedPill23/07/18 06:03 PM
1

set the example you want him to emulate. then wait for him to make comments or ask questions that invite your input.
/r/TheRedPill23/07/18 05:37 PM
13

A few key points to maintaining attractive - it's summed by saying to maintain attraction, BE ATTRACTIVE. That means: -Keep lifting and eating a good diet. Don't let yourself go. Don't let yourself get sucked into sacrificing gym time to be with her. -Lead the relationship. But don't lead from a stand point of tyrannical power. Lead from a position of authority established through competence. In other words, have your shit together and make good leadership decisions. Let her see a man whose deci…
/r/askTRP23/07/18 02:33 PM
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This is about as perfect a way to deal with this situation as you can get. OP is correct - she doesn't respect him, therefore she doesn't deserve respect back. The guy acted in his own interests first, which is exactly what one should do if married and being cheated on. And yeah, it hurts terribly unless you are a pure sociopath and incapable of feelings. It hurts to be betrayed, it hurts to kick someone out of your life that you love because even after betrayal, those feelings don't just stop. …
/r/TheRedPill23/07/18 02:15 PM
-1

you forgot to include a description of the smelly t-shirt, stained with cheetos streaks from wiping off fingers.
/r/askTRP20/07/18 12:57 PM
-5

"I know I'm cute, if she's got something cool to offer, I can let her cut ahead of the rest of you that have lined up for me." Said with a smug, shit eating grin.
/r/askTRP19/07/18 07:59 PM
3

First - I do think international travel can be a great thing. Until you've experienced life overseas enough to get an idea of what life there is truly like, you don't really truely appreciate your own native home land. You also don't truly have a good idea of the pro's and con's of both your own home land and other countries. That said, a guided trip with a selfie stick doesn't count. Tourist treks and other trips that don't expose you to real life there, not gonna be nearly as enlightening as s…
/r/askTRP19/07/18 05:16 PM
1

There are lists of them all over PUA sites. I just googled for PUA lines (beyond just pick up lines and what not) and got them. Things like shit test responses. Then, I saw some I liked and adapted them for my own personal idiom.
/r/TheRedPill19/07/18 12:43 PM
2

I found out after I googled her and her ex-husband's names together. A lot of things weren't making sense, so I did of personnel background digging. First result was a link to a PDF'd newspaper article about the incident. Apparently the idiots circulated a flyer about the girl dying to coworkers, friends, etc. I have no idea why other than poor us, pray for the girl, etc. A coworker, thinking it suspicious, called the cops. They had never reported it as it was home birth, it turned into a mess. …
/r/TheRedPill16/07/18 04:30 PM
1

i like the line "i only pay for chicks I'm sleeping with." they know a lot of women just take advantage of men for free shit. puts her on notice you aren't one such idiot.
/r/TheRedPill13/07/18 10:33 PM
6

had a crazy bunny boiler myself. well, she instead of a bunny it was a backyard bbq cremation of her 1 month old baby (home birth, not reported) that died of neglect and abuse. she was trying to cover up what happened. originally told me baby died of SIDS. i about shit when i found out the truth. you think the 1000 cock stare is bad, try the watched my baby's corpse burn up in pyre stare. she did good faking normal for a while but the crazy eventually uncorked and dear lord was it biblically med…
/r/TheRedPill13/07/18 09:59 PM
13

Yup. It's literally inviting "Fatal Attraction" or "Gone Girl" type lunatics into your life. Hope he enjoys the slashed tires, dead animals, false accusations, broken into houses, and other drama the women this kind of shit attracts bring with them.
/r/TheRedPill13/07/18 07:02 PM
44

Hmm, recipe to create your very own bunny boiling, BPD stalker. Enjoy the crazy drama that this results in if you're dumb enough to do it on purpose.
/r/TheRedPill13/07/18 05:54 PM
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I love the line "I don't need to know all your private personal problems!" given in a playful/amused mastery sense when she brings up ex's, or even current BF's. Regarding buying drinks for a girl, I also like the line "I only buy drinks for girls I'm sleeping with." in situations like what you described. Me being a guy that sometimes has brain fog, can't think of wit and good banter quick unless I'm in a specific mood for it, I tend to use pre-thought out lines. It's not always natural, never h…
/r/TheRedPill13/07/18 04:39 PM
2

oh my wife doesn't have a high n count. what i meant was she is one of the few i've encountered that has taken a look in the mirror and acknowledged her own AWALT tendencies, and made concrete steps to stop herself from AWALT'ing. What I mean by this - she moved to get away from the club and bar scene. She cut loose old "friends" that were bad influences. She went overseas for 2 1/2 years to work to ensure she got away from the "old scene" so she could kind of "reset" herself. She acknowledged t…
/r/TheRedPill12/07/18 04:38 PM
3

My take - women and men experience sex differently. For men - it's either a romp and truely nothing, or it's a very strong emotional bonding physical action. For women - it's never nothing. If it's not a bonding activity, it's pure ego stroking and validating for her. It's never just a fun rump. If a woman is using sex and sleeping around for her ego, she's got other red flags that make her a no go LTR wise. If it's a man, well, only high SMV men manage to do it to start with, and high SMV men d…
/r/TheRedPill12/07/18 12:18 PM
1

Go Mechanical or Electrical - both lead to career paths in higher level technologies. There's more $$$ in that than most other engineering fields. Whatever you do, DON'T go civil/transportation/structural/geotechnical. Those fields are heavily dependent on government spending or development. Government contracts don't pay engineers well, developers are even worse. They totally see the field as a commodity and not a profession. Get your EIT while in college, get your PE as soon as you can, and ei…
/r/askTRP11/07/18 04:44 AM
1

Big difference between what is God's Will and what God allows. Not the same thing. Again - it's a matter of freedom will. To have free will, the ability to choose evil has to be allowed. He also allows his creation to be stained by sin, even though it was not His original intent. And He has a means of redemption for his stained creation. He has a plan, and He doesn't explain Himself to us. He's not accountable to us. Believers hold that we're accountable to Him, instead.
/r/TheRedPill11/07/18 01:51 AM
1

hell, i'm 43, married to a pretty hot woman now, and most nights i just want to go to sleep. sex loses it's primacy in life as you get older. you're more worried about taking care of yourself, succeeding and building for yourself, etc. JMHO - but worry more about selecting a woman that will take care of herself. the wall will approach and hit her, but how well she takes care of herself will determine if she gracefully she negotiates it and maintains herself as a still attractive and classy woman…
/r/askTRP10/07/18 05:19 PM
1

I can only say it has to do with choice, and it's a longer discussion than one could have on a comment thread on Reddit. People come to faith because of a variety of reasons, it's always very individually specific, but it usually involves feeling like something in the worldly/secular way of thinking isn't right. They then go searching for alternative answers to questions they have that the secular world either can't answer, or the answers they get don't feel right. They try going to church and s…
/r/TheRedPill10/07/18 04:50 PM
1

It's actually paraphrased from Paul's letter to the church in Rome, aka the Book of Romans.
/r/TheRedPill10/07/18 12:37 PM
1

So by that logic - you go and murder a five year old tomorrow because you can - and it's not your fault because you're performing as designed? Therefore, it's God's fault instead?
/r/TheRedPill10/07/18 12:36 PM
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We live in a fallen creation. We're all marked by sin. God didn't do that to us. we've done it to ourselves, that's what the story of Adam and Eve illustrate. Christianity teaches that despite our fallen nature, God created us and still loves us, so He has given mankind a way to redemption, but we have to choose it. Choosing it puts at odds with a fallen world. It's a tough existence, but eternally rewarding. Now, God could take control of everything, make everything perfect, etc., but not witho…
/r/TheRedPill02/07/18 12:01 AM
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Primary aggressor is the one that uses the most force. Since men are stronger, it's the man automatically....UNLESS you are well versed in how all this works and are smart enough to ensure the cops CANNOT determine that you used any force at all. Best way is to make sure that you are marked, and she is not. No marks on either, just her accusation - man arrested. Marks on her from self defense (think grabbing her wrists and holding them to keep her from hitting you) - man arrested. You're literal…
/r/TheRedPill29/06/18 12:52 AM
1

too much, too quick. he couldn't absorb it BP filters in full force. less is more for responding to guys in these situations. something like tell her "do what she wants, but if she does this she won't do it and stay married to him". then advise him to distance from her, lift, and work on building him, separate from her.
/r/TheRedPill28/06/18 07:32 PM
3

met my best guy friend shooting fireworks on the neighborhood street for new year's. we got competitive about who had better explosive stuff and started shooting bottle rockets at each other, then adjourned to drink beer together.
/r/TheRedPill28/06/18 06:54 PM
4

Meant to add - as men, we really are the more emotional gender. We feel things stronger than women, that includes all emotions - joy, happiness, etc., as well as anger. It's okay to care. It's okay to get angry. It's how we are made. What isn't okay is lose control and let those emotions rule over you. All men should learn to rule over their emotions, instead. Keeping control of ourselves and maintaining our composure while we are feeling intense emotions is an absolute necessity. It's what is m…
/r/TheRedPill28/06/18 06:00 PM
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Advice in how to communicate with her - less verbally said and more communicated through actions is best. Withdraw attention. Make plans to do things without her. Do not tell her, just do it. At most, say in as short fashion as possible that her conduct on the last outing was disrespectful and that she doesn't value you. Then tell her that you see no need to be around someone disrespects and doesn't value you. After that, STFU and go live your life. Don't respond to any angry responses, hamsteri…
/r/TheRedPill28/06/18 05:50 PM
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don't take her seriously. and never qualify yourself to her (like tell her what you like to cook, do yoga, and stuff). slip in bits about you as you relay other information. for example - "look at that fat chick in the yoga pants. there's several hambeasts like that in the yoga class i go to so my muscles don't get too tight from lifting."
/r/askTRP26/06/18 01:53 AM
13

don't fuck random sluts in the women's bathroom to start with and you avoid needing all the recordings and hijinks after the fact.
/r/TheRedPill25/06/18 02:15 AM
6

I'm 43. I've been married before to a woman that turned out to be a cheater. One confirmed affair, more suspected but she never admitted (the never admit the full truth, only partial to allay the guilt the hamster dredges up, or just what you can prove). I can confirm divorce rape is real. My case wasn't nearly as bad as others because my now ex-wife pissed off the judge at the hearing, but having to pay that bitch still in the name of "child support" is still a sore spot. He's almost 14, so alm…
/r/askTRP22/06/18 12:57 PM
2

If you told her this already, then there's no need to repeat it. If you haven't told her, it can be relayed via text or other messaging means. No need to say anything more than what you wrote above. Remember, you don't owe her an explanation. Just saying you won't meet for a closure discussion is okay too. Sometimes, people are just different. Have different values and goals. It's better to move on in those cases rather than try to force it. I'm sure you and her had discussions about differences…
/r/askTRP20/06/18 03:21 AM
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The anger phase could result ultimately in realizing how much priority to give to girls at this point in your life - which is almost zero. Let women earn priority with you, and then understand, especially in your age bracket, AWALT and hypergamy will ensure they don't earn any priority. Then give your priority to building your future - grades, finances, etc. Just rubber up, don't knock up any girls, stay away from drugs and addictions, don't run up a lot of debt, avoid STD's, etc. Try to avoid e…
/r/TheRedPill19/06/18 01:36 PM
1

I love martial arts training. Started when I was 13. I don't get mat time much anymore simply because there isn't a decent dojo near my house so I can't make it to any classes at a place that is worth a damn with any regularity. That said, I'd recommend everyone get at least a few years of training in a place that doesn't require contracts, doesn't do tournaments, and has all mild mannered (except on the mat while training!) and polite yudansha and owners.
/r/TheRedPill15/06/18 09:34 PM
6

They instead spent all of their money on ketamine and xanax and sat in their dirty apartment doing drugs all day. Still, I saw it as an opportunity to get laid and it lured me in. Umm...here's the lesson right here. OP was thinking with his dick and knowingly stuck it in crazy. NEVER STICK IT IN CRAZY. There are enough willing women out there that you never need to resort to sticking it in crazy. Go find them instead of crazy.
/r/TheRedPill12/06/18 05:25 PM
2

This is just a skill that takes time to develop if you're not a natural. Hell, I'm not a natural. The biggest thing I've found though is to get out of my own headspace and not give a shit. I tend to be a bit of an autist naturally, always taking everything people say on face value, and just responding directly. When I make myself get out of that mind mode and focus instead on not just being a direct response machine, but joking around and giving them a bit of shit (within limits of being playful…
/r/askTRP12/06/18 04:25 PM
2

It pisses me off to think where I would be in life if I had learned the lesson of the text you bolded earlier in life. I'm talking big time financial difference, maybe complete financial freedom these days, a paid for house, a paid for getaway property, the complete ability to have "fuck you" type security so that I could walk from any job, anywhere, any time, tell an employer or client "fuck you" and not miss the money from the paycheck they were giving me. Hell, I'm 43, and if I had learned it…
/r/TheRedPill12/06/18 02:07 AM
1

they don't mind when chad looks them up and down. they like it actually. bitch shields are just for guys they don't find attractive to start with.
/r/TheRedPill11/06/18 11:25 PM
3

More fully explained, not being her bitch means not regularly doing things and chores for her that she can and should do for herself, especially at the expense of keeping up with your own shit. I've made this mistake in horribly egregious fashion in the past in my first marriage as well as other pre-TRP relationships. For example: -Ex-wife - she was a stay home mom. At times, she'd have these bad headaches consistently. I'd do things like make her breakfast, lunch, etc. for her and once my son w…
/r/TheRedPill11/06/18 08:58 PM
32

Dread works wonders guys. Its powerful as fuck. I like to hang out with her, during sex she did everything I wanted without hesitating. I dominated her, but i still have to get alot better at it. She will come around again. Guess i plate her. shes a easy girl personalty wise. I have a still a long way to go, but i will get there someday. Dread - nobody wants to be with someone that nobody else would want. it actually makes a lot of sense when you frame it correctly. no LMR, submissiveness - attr…
/r/TheRedPill11/06/18 02:20 PM
72

keeping sex flowing when married is similar to when not married. if you want a wife to be attracted, then be attractive. keep fit, keep a good wardrobe, stay groomed, lift, etc. same shit that gets preached on here regularly. and don't turn into her bitch. remain your own man, pursue your mission, and guide her/lead her where she helps you pursue that mission. you gotta marry a woman that shares your values to make that happen. she has to see the wisdom and competence of the mission, and believe…
/r/TheRedPill09/06/18 01:35 PM
3

i spent a week and a half on business near Stuttgart. saw a bunch of stuff. i thought the local swabian girls were conservative looking but fit and attractive. very few ham beasts. the brothel in the town we stayed (schwabish gmund) only charged something like $79 euros. i didn't partake in it, but thought it was cool that nobody seemed to be outraged by the brothel right on a main street. overall, good workers, efficient, had a "as long as it's victimless, let people indulge their vices" attitu…
/r/askTRP08/06/18 01:01 AM
1

a not insignificant portion (which is growing by the way) see no value in themselves. they get to a point where they don't care about throwing their lives. this manifests in kids joining gangs, drop outs, and shooters. a side effect of the red pill is you feel your value, especially as you see results of the work you put in. but then you aren't just another member of the sheeple masses, so the media will never address making hard work and achievement "cool".
/r/TheRedPill08/06/18 12:39 AM
2

Dick move by him, but keep your composure. Just be like "whatever, cool." and send the message she means not much to you by not saying anything else. or even say "oh good for you dude! i hope you guys work out!" then go do your thing while backing off from this dude. be friendly but not friends with him. don't share anything in confidence anymore. all that happened here was he showed you his true colors, and she showed you AWALT. both of which will continue to happen when she cheats on him with …
/r/askTRP07/06/18 02:33 PM
1

Definitely, and it's easy to dismiss an instagram model's following because deep down, she know's it's meaningless because the followers are all low value, thirsty, desperate guys. Deep down, SHE didn't value the large following. So she was willing to try to qualify herself because she knew she had met someone that wasn't just another thirsty, desperate dude. Now, sometimes, when you disregard what another has invested time into, all you do is piss them off and then they pull away. So be careful…
/r/TheRedPill05/06/18 04:03 PM
5

I've tried to post about the importance of downgrading the priority of women overall in your life, some get it, some continue to think with their dicks and prioritize the quest for more poon at the expense of the more meaningful growth that could happen if they really started focusing on putting their energy into other things. OP seems to have realized that when you prioritize your energies into things besides women, that can yield a return on investment worth so much more raising your N count. …
/r/TheRedPill05/06/18 03:45 PM
1

It takes time to cast off old people that drag down your life and replace them with better people. You gotta open up space in your life, and keep it open until something worthy to fill it comes along. While doing that, that open space can lead to some lonely moments. Just understand that it is leading to better in the future.
/r/askTRP04/06/18 07:21 PM
6

Just another aspect of BP'ing and making men at large giant pussies. It's all about control.
/r/askTRP04/06/18 07:18 PM
2

99% of approaches that go well are going to end like OP's did. AWALT but a lot of girls still need you pass shit tests and rev up their comfort in a manner that takes place over several encounters before you end up in bed with them. My only comment to OP is try not get too excited about this one girl in particular. Be excited about your own growth and progress, don't get oneitis for the girl. There's a big difference. Keep abundance thinking as an unspoken influence in all your interactions with…
/r/TheRedPill04/06/18 05:26 PM
3

Anything that is NSF 53 rated. There is another rating, NSF 42 - but that's only for aesthetics, not for health. If there's not rating at all, consider it totally worthless. Pitcher filters, or even filters fitted to fridge water lines, etc. - if they've been tested and rated, they will have it listed on the label somewhere.
/r/askTRP01/06/18 12:56 PM
15

I'm actually an engineer that does water and wastewater treatment work. The issue with micro plastics and pharmaceuticals is real. There's no way developed yet in the water treatment industry to remove them from both water incoming to the potable systems, as well as on the wastewater side there's also no good way developed to remove them from wastewater before it's discharged back to the environment. The solution is to get the populace to quit taking so many fucking drugs but that's a different …
/r/askTRP31/05/18 03:13 PM
1

I've been in some men's groups through my church. One of them has a quasi-RP flavor - they don't advocate spinning plates obviously, but they do advocate working on yourself, raising your value, not pedestalizing women, etc. It's actually a great group of guys. The old school men's refuges are all going away for the most part because they've been trivialized and made "uncool" and the guys that rose to leaderships roles in the last 20 years weren't up to the challenge of maintaining the dignity o…
/r/askTRP30/05/18 05:17 PM
1

2nd'ing this post too. OP - move on from her. She's bad news.
/r/TheRedPill29/05/18 02:57 PM
6

This. Walk away from this girl. The push-pull she's employing is intentional. She's trying to suck you in. If she is successful, you'll see why her past fiance's left. Better to leave now and not find out.
/r/TheRedPill29/05/18 02:56 PM
1

You learned a lesson about "Situational Awareness" the hard way. Next time, keep your distance enough to observe the whole group and don't focus on one guy that is trying to distract you. Also, there is no such thing as an unfair street fight. As for the scrawny friend, remember that sometimes that scrawny guy has training and knows how to leverage his body and center of gravity into a rather good punch. Technique is important. You can learn stuff like this in a good martial arts dojo. Next, und…
/r/askTRP29/05/18 02:49 PM
2

she cheated. you know. time to next her. closure, msgs, etc. - don't bother with any of it with her. she's not worth it. if you to block for your own sake so you aren't looking at her shit, do it. if you can be stoic, maintain DGAF, etc., don't block. she shouldn't matter enough for you to care one way or another. if she calls or msgs, don't answer or respond. just leave her hanging. you owe her nothing, she deserves and is worth less.
/r/askTRP27/05/18 01:38 AM
0

To me, the concept of AWALT can be alternatively described like this: There is a BIG difference between feeling ATTRACTION and feeling REAL AFFECTION towards another person. However, our Disney myth feminist programmed society has confused all those things together and people mistake ATTRACTION for REAL AFFECTION. Women, being slaves to their emotions, have no concept of what REAL AFFECTION is because their father's have all been cuck'd and BP'd to the point their father's mostly don't recognize…
/r/TheRedPill24/05/18 05:20 PM
2

Sounds like she's selling it.
/r/TheRedPill23/05/18 06:26 PM
2

Frugal gets you savings. Little by little until you have enough to invest it something that will start to give you returns. Then stay frugal, and reinvest your returns in your investments along with the additional savings from being frugal. With smart investing, the total value will build pretty quick. First, you'll have 6 months income built up. Then a year's, then enough to own a home outright. Then own the home and a getaway outright. It doesn't happen overnight, but it isn't out of the quest…
/r/TheRedPill22/05/18 03:10 AM
2

no sex yet but she's text bombing rage at 2am? you have a first rate clingy bunny boiler on your hands. next!
/r/TheRedPill19/05/18 11:53 PM
4

I'll just repeat what I said on your other thread (and I think you're basically on the right track). One - tell her parents. Check, done, good job. Next step - step back and stay out of it. You're in high school, legally a minor, you weren't there, and you aren't her legal guardian. It's up to her parents now. Whether they go to the cops, or not, it's not your deal. Stay out of it. Now, as for moving forward with her, I recommend take things slow and easy. See if or how pissed she is you told he…
/r/TheRedPill18/05/18 05:29 PM
2

"Oh, I misunderstood why you came out to see me. I thought you wanted more than just talk and a bite together. I'm not gonna be "just friends". If you aren't interested in more, I've got nothing personal against you for it, but I'm gonna bow out of this." No butthurt displayed, but clear boundary set.
/r/askTRP18/05/18 04:09 PM
0

So I'm assuming you're in high school, and therefore, very likely still a minor age wise. Assuming the same thing for her. So that said, SHE NEEDS TO TELL HER PARENTS. Her parents, as her legal guardians, then need to go to the local police station and file a police report about the incident. Documentation (pics of bruises, marks from the restraints, etc.), as well as the other girl that was with her need to go and give statements as well. You personally need to stay the fuck out of it, other th…
/r/askTRP18/05/18 03:58 PM
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I've heard it said when your sex life is good, it's 10% of your life. When it's bad, it's 90% of your life. I think one of the keys to growth is to understand when it's bad, it's still only 10% or less. A good sex life should be a compliment to an already otherwise good life. It shouldn't be what makes your life good.
/r/askTRP18/05/18 03:31 PM
2

well aware. probably a good idea to go get a sperm count down every few years after getting snipped. i just got snipped last week, they used this laser thingy to cauterize the tubes shut. even if they grow back together, they'll still be closed off. after my 3 month check up and getting the "all clear", i'm still gonna get it checked occasionally to make sure!!
/r/askTRP17/05/18 05:05 PM
1

reading the other responses - there's too much talking btwn you and her. shouldn't have told her anything, other than "i get it. see you around." when she said she wanted to stop hooking up. then all you do is see her in group setting when people are all together, be cool, treat her normally, and just wind down the one on one contact without saying anything about it. slow down text responses, and be very brief. just "okays" or "i'm doing great". other requests to hang out one on one platonically…
/r/askTRP17/05/18 05:03 PM
1

i never did. even in my pre-TRP days, i never had a problem finding willing women. TRP, for me, resulted in changing/improving the quality of willing women. then i got remarried to who i consider to be the closest thing to a TRP ideal woman as you can get. sex has only gotten more frequent and more open and experimental since saying our "i do's". so for me, at least at the moment and hopefully it stays that way, no need at all to consider paying for it.
/r/askTRP17/05/18 04:16 PM
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i get it, but i also urge all men - use condoms. birth control fails sometimes (hell, certain herbs and diet supplements can cause it to happen). and even LTR's. unless your actively trying to have a kid, or are married and she's on the pill, or you've been snipped, wrap it up.
/r/askTRP17/05/18 04:09 PM
1

fuck em. come back in 10 years, fit, trim, successful and with a gorgeous hb9 plate on your arm. you'll be amazed just how many of them, men and women, hit the wall hard and do nothing with their lives. you don't need people like that around anyway.
/r/askTRP16/05/18 07:15 PM
0

not sure the best way to articulate to her, but teach her about SMV. women's starts high and ebbs away. men's starts low and grows as high as a man can build it. she needs to be aware of this, and she needs it imprinted on her that she should use her peak SMV to land a guy that will build his SMV later in life when her's is ebbing away as she approaches and hits the wall. and she needs to be prepared to help him build his SMV as she approaches the wall. his higher built SMV after she hits the wa…
/r/TheRedPill15/05/18 08:07 PM
18

OP - I'm a divorced father myself. Caught ex-wife cheating. I could have written your post. I screwed up so many things in the aftermath of discovering her infidelity. You sound like you are doing better than I did in the aftermath (wish TRP had been around for me in 2007). Just be smart, and set yourself up to move on in the aftermath of divorce as easy as possible. Biggest issues are custody and division of assets/debt. I always recommend men pay off every bit of debt before the case is filed,…
/r/TheRedPill15/05/18 07:57 PM
3

I'd get an offer, accept it, and then give 2 weeks notice at my current job. In that order. If current job wants to try to keep you, they'll counteroffer. Don't tell them exactly how much your offer is for. Make them pony up blindly what they really think you are worth. Then, if it's more, ask them why they didn't offer it to you before and leave anyway. Most of the time, if you stay, when raise time comes around they say "you got yours already" and pull that kind of shit. You're always better o…
/r/askTRP15/05/18 06:55 PM
3

I saw an article once that for tech industries, one needed to switch jobs every 2 years to stay at the front of the salary growth curve. Remember, especially in today's career environment, you only owe your employer you effort in the immediate time frame. You don't owe them commitment of a lifetime career, or even several years. Employers look at "human resources" as interchangeable, expendable resources. They talk about loyalty, but give none. Understand if you leave, and it leaves them in the …
/r/askTRP15/05/18 06:52 PM
5

I agree with others. You need to let this one go if there's no LTR with her for you. It will only get worse the longer you let it continue. So steel yourself, you already feel guilty. Letting her go is gonna hurt her. But not letting her go is gonna hurt her worse later. It's an unfortunate side effect of spinning plates. They get attached, you don't, and presto. One thing to remember is people are responsible for themselves. You aren't responsible to protect her from getting hurt in the world o…
/r/askTRP15/05/18 06:42 PM
7

Being used in a civil case against you as a free man is still much better than opening your mouth and landing yourself in jail.
/r/TheRedPill15/05/18 06:31 PM
3

So glad I don't live there anymore. My family still does live in Va Beach, though. I go back and visit occasionally. Not a bad place overall, but there are definitely better places to live. I hooked up with a few ODU girls in college (I went to college 300 miles away from ODU) when I was home for summers. It was extra easy. They dated Navy guys because the local guys their own age all left the area as soon as they could if they had any brains. Navy guys were all that was available to most of the…
/r/TheRedPill15/05/18 04:28 PM
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I grew up in Chesapeake, lived in Va Beach for a long time (they are right next to Norfolk). The dynamic of Navy guys and the girls associated with them is right on. I grew up watching it, and not just with the Navy, but the whole area is one big bastion of the Military. The Army, Navy, and Air Force all have multiple major bases there, the Coasties go in and out there, and the Marines have their own smaller spots and attachments on several of the other service's bases. I never served, but if I …
/r/TheRedPill15/05/18 02:59 PM
2

adding to shooting sports - archery, trap/skeet, IDPA, 3 gun, long distance sniping. don't get into hunting unless you're prepared for a new addiction. long hours, scouting, year round work, lots of boredom, and the very rare 10 seconds of heart pounding adrenaline when sighting in on a good sized buck that makes it all worth it. i blew my first chance at a kill because the adrenaline hit so hard i couldn't steady the cross hairs on the buck. didn't shoot as i didn't want to wound it and loose i…
/r/TheRedPill15/05/18 02:05 AM
3

don't respond. if she comes at you in real life, don't hit her back. just laugh at her and how even her physicality, and a few marks or scratches from her is still beneath your notice. above all leave no mark, and if you have a mark, good. makes it obvious who battered or assaulted who for the cops. I'd be weary of hanging with people that associate with others that text threats. if you go to cops, go to precinct, ask to talk to desk officer on duty. show him texts, ask him how their policies an…
/r/askTRP12/05/18 08:22 PM
1

it's about accomplishment. you train and work hard, grow, start becoming able to do things that you couldn't before. between that and getting in shape, confidence grows.
/r/askTRP12/05/18 01:24 PM
6

go to cooking classes. they're cheap, and you can meet new people at the same time.
/r/askTRP11/05/18 09:58 PM
3

first rule of fight club...
/r/askTRP11/05/18 12:19 AM
2

Yeah, and also not letting her have a big part in driving your emotions. Otherwise, she'll start using that shit to manipulate you if you let her.
/r/TheRedPill10/05/18 05:50 PM
5

Just my humble opinion - it's okay to demonstrate emotion and vulnerability at times as long as you maintain a strength and still demonstrate you are in control and know what to do during moments of crisis. women know we men aren't stoic, unemotional robots, even when we act like it. i think it's comforting to a woman when you display emotion, but also display you're still in control and not being ruled by your emotions. you might be upset or stressed, but you are still the man in control and kn…
/r/TheRedPill10/05/18 05:35 PM
9

have a "fuck 'em" attitude. don't let them push you into the old you. abundance works for friends same as girls. if you keep an abundant mindset, say no when needed, say things you think even if you know they won't like it, and remember they are replaceable in your life...you'll be fine. if you demonstrate growth and set yourself apart and higher smv than the guys, don't be surprised if panties drop en masse. you're basically rebooting these relationships. make it a point to show it. you're seei…
/r/askTRP10/05/18 01:44 AM
1

either ignore or a simple "these days, amazing so I'm told constantly."
/r/askTRP09/05/18 09:51 PM
1

Regardless, an adult can say "hey i don't like that" and not just leave. If she couldn't speak up, then she's not LTR material.
/r/askTRP09/05/18 04:15 PM
4

I'm reading between the lines of your post, are you sure you weren't on the receiving end of a "narcissistic discard"? In my experience, women that come on real strong like you describe are usually doing it because they value the ego stroking you provide in response. They are doing it only to get something from you. They don't really value "you", they value what they can get from you. What happens is somewhere along the line, the ego stroking looses it's effect. They no longer value it, and you …
/r/askTRP09/05/18 04:07 PM
3

Yeah, but she's not evil just because she doesn't want to the focus of your life. Women want to compliment a man, and be supportive of his mission in life. They don't want to be a man's mission in and of themselves (at least the one's worth having don't). They want a man with more going on than just his woman. Nothing evil about that.
/r/TheRedPill08/05/18 03:27 PM
2

all things in moderation. don't fap every day. just every few days. let the urge be built up but not desperate for release so when you see her, you're ready to go, but not overly amp'd up and too quick to finish.
/r/askTRP07/05/18 06:40 PM
1

with the history of other issues in your prior posts - i'm echo'ing everyone else you need to end this and move out as soon as you can. that said, keep your composure. don't loose your cool. don't go nuclear on her or anything. just be neutral. minimize your interaction with her. no dates, no sex, one word responses to anything she says, and then keep it monotone and level headed. be a "grey rock", be as interesting to her as a grey rock would be. nothing emotional, no engagement. until you can …
/r/askTRP07/05/18 06:36 PM
4

she didn't give IOI's. she gave you a great big sign saying "come and get it." you could have just msg'd your tinder date that something came up, not gonna make it, then fucked this girl. or fucked her, then gone on tinder date, and seen if you could pull a 2nd girl for the night.
/r/askTRP06/05/18 01:18 PM
2

Depending on your personality, getting into the sales side of engineering can be big money. I deal with vendors constantly for the pumps, screens, blowers, valves, pipe, etc. Sales reps usually have a line of multiple different equipment types they sell. I'd thought about trying it myself, but they travel a lot, and that's hard for a guy with a kid like me. I know a guy that was making $300k a year selling blowers and boiler equipment to power plants at one point.
/r/TheRedPill05/05/18 01:43 PM
2

First, at 23, you're not too committed. You're young enough to backtrack. It might be harder, but it's not impossible. With a 4 year civil degree, if you wanted to explore another discipline of engineering, you can if you go back and get a masters degree. Say a masters in mechanical or electrical. Both can be related to civil depending on what exactly you're doing on a project. Another avenue is to go back and get a Masters of Business Administration, or even a Masters of Public Administration. …
/r/TheRedPill04/05/18 08:25 PM
2

either just wait for her to reach out again, and when she brings it up again, just tell her you're focusing on getting established, yada yada... alternatively, just send her a text that you were thinking about what she said about not wanting to support a guy, felt you needed to tell her that you're happy with status quo for now, and focusing on finishing degree and getting established before bringing a marriage type relationship into your life, and it's up to her to decide what she wants and whe…
/r/askTRP04/05/18 06:11 PM
3

This is a "don't talk about fight club" moment. Some kind of amused mastery or agree and amplify response and then move on. Maybe "those are literary masterpieces! they rival the bible with the scope of their power and wisdom!" Whatever you do, don't lose composure. Don't justify or explain to her. Emotional highs and lows are actually a good thing sometimes for women. Let her have her up's and down's. She can hamster away at this, and then she'll remember she got dicked good, she'll miss you an…
/r/askTRP04/05/18 05:40 PM
2

You sound like you really like her. And hey, it's not the TRP spin plates and never commit lifestyle, but shit man, if you like her and want her, I'll just say having consistency in a relationship in your life that is good and healthy is very good thing for a man. You just have to hold up your end of the bargain and keep being the man. That said - you have finishing the degree to focus on. Then whatever else you want, be it finding a job in your degree field, growing the lawn business, etc. Some…
/r/askTRP04/05/18 05:20 PM
2

Civil is one of the lower waged engineering fields in the USA too, except for a few niches. I got lucky to get into one of the niche spots. I get people asking me to talk to their kids who express interest in engineering. I tell all of them to avoid Civil. It's treated as a commodity, not a profession, these days. Instead, get into something focused on higher technology in the mechanical and electrical fields if you want engineering. Much higher pay ceilings in those. Of course, where I am, a te…
/r/TheRedPill04/05/18 03:53 PM
11

or a HB5 that thinks she's a 9 that has the same or bigger materialistic expectations and narcissistic demands.
/r/TheRedPill04/05/18 01:50 PM
3

Regarding clean up - I do the same thing, but for me it's just texting and FB messages (don't do snap, whatsapp, etc.). I find my phone runs smoother and faster when I clear out the storage on it. JMHO - she's either truthful and things are fine as she's otherwise open and giving you access to everything, or she's extra conniving and has a second phone somewhere you don't know about that she uses to contact her side guys. I'm a fan of baby steps. I'd not say anything, keep my composure, and give…
/r/askTRP04/05/18 12:46 PM
2

That's a different problem. I've found that my coworkers and colleagues are what makes the big difference for me. I've worked in miserable offices, and a few great ones. If it's the work itself you don't like, well there are several sub-branches you can get into in Civil. Traffic, roads, storm systems, water/sewer stuff, other environmental work, surveying, construction engineering. Try a few different ones out before throwing in the towel. If that still doesn't work, hate to say it but you're l…
/r/TheRedPill04/05/18 12:31 PM
3

Move to Atlanta. Civil Engineers are in short supply and great demand here right now. The City is going bonkers with growth inside the perimeter, they have a rather large program to widen highways that will be going on for the next 15 years at least, and there aren't enough engineers to fill out all the work load. And as a single, straight man, you're out numbered by single, straight women here. With just a whiff of decent style and attractiveness, all you really need to do to get laid is not be…
/r/TheRedPill03/05/18 08:15 PM
1

Part of growing into a man is learning to maintain your composure. It's ok to acknowledge you don't how the guy behaves and that it makes you made. It's not okay to lose composure over it. So - what's it worth to you? You have mutual friends that tolerate this guy. The basic advice is to let it go and just not be around this guy anymore. Can you do that an keep the other mutual friends? If not, is it worth moving on from everyone associated with him? If you don't want to cut ties with more peopl…
/r/askTRP03/05/18 06:46 PM
0

Okay. You're complete right. Have a nice life.
/r/TheRedPill03/05/18 03:05 PM
-1

you're ranting like a PMS'ing woman. good job. i relayed an experience. nothing more. why you're so emotional about it and willing to post such like his about it - where's your composure? get a grip dude.
/r/TheRedPill02/05/18 02:09 PM
0

Not disagreeing with you regarding conservation of energy and mass. I'm a licensed engineer by trade, have a rather good understanding of it actually. That said, something had to happen to all that mass. It went away that quick. Now, maybe the body didn't burn it for energy, but it was metabolized for some reason and used for some process. Doctors and other experts disagree on exactly what, I've seen some say it's converted into something that is needed for burning energy, not used for energy it…
/r/TheRedPill02/05/18 02:52 AM
1

she clearly didn't care about your LDR. keep your mouth shut and just tell her she should meet you for a drink. give her place, time and time it so it's logistically natural to head for a bed after an hour appetizers, drinks, and kino.
/r/askTRP02/05/18 12:25 AM
2

maybe you're gay. /s seriously though, you need to relax and become outcome independent regarding the outcome of sex. you've got yourself wound tight over this, it's becoming self fulfilling prophecy. somehow you gotta let go of whatever is in your head psyche'ing you out.
/r/askTRP01/05/18 11:09 PM
9

I wouldn't believe it was possible if I hadn't experienced it. I started looking into the biology and metabolic chemistry of it all, and it actually makes sense once you understand the biological process of it. It's actually not related to caloric deficit, it's making your body run on fat, then your body realizes there's extra fat, and just burns through it. Lifting and fasting help, but aren't the centerpiece of how it works.
/r/TheRedPill01/05/18 08:54 PM
1

I did a lot of reflecting, and very much exited things too late. Those issues and problems don't happen to me anymore.
/r/askTRP01/05/18 08:50 PM
4

The multitude of people that experienced the same would disagree with you. There's a body chemistry change at work that causes the weight loss. You basically piss it out, if I understood the way the doctor explained it to me at my last physical. Hence why drinking a lot of water is key to Keto and making it work.
/r/TheRedPill01/05/18 08:35 PM
1

I think every single one of my ex-'s from any kind of extending dating/relationships came out better than when they entered it. The entitled cunts still hated me at the end because I refused to keep doing it when they didn't appreciate it or value me for it. I shudder when I think of how codependent and thirsty for being needed I was. Ugh.
/r/askTRP01/05/18 05:42 PM
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When I dropped a bunch of extra weight, I was amazed at how simple it was. I get people asking all the time and they want to start talking about a gazillion minor details and then get annoyed when I won't go there. Losing weight is really simple, it's the discipline to stick to how you change your eating for it that's really the part that isn't always easy. And for the record, I did Keto and intermittent fasting. Dropped 50 lbs in 2 1/2 months. And staying on it, with some deviations for fruits/…
/r/TheRedPill01/05/18 03:57 PM
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just get her on top, then grab her hips tell her "do it like this" and then guide her how you want her to move. talk to her about much you like it, how much she's satisfying you, how sexy she looks while she's doing it. you know - validate and stroke her ego while guiding her. you'll have to do something to overcome whatever headspace issues she clearly has. she's likely very insecure about something with sex, knows she's not good at it, and telling her that just hits her in the insecurity, henc…
/r/askTRP01/05/18 02:18 PM
4

She might have been nervous and not resistant when you put your arm around her. I used to interpret that nervousness as disinterest, but then I learned sometimes it's just a girl that's got butterflies and is getting all in her head about not making mistakes because she's really attracted to you and doesn't want to mess up.
/r/TheRedPill30/04/18 01:44 PM
2

keto diet believer here. and find gym time. you can do it.
/r/askTRP28/04/18 03:03 AM
2

Dude I related to you. This is gonna be a partial RP, partial not RP response in that the RP part will focus on your own work to build yourself, the non-RP part will be focused on your desire to find a woman to build a connection with as opposed to just getting laid and keeping the stream of women that come and go intact. First - you're 20. You're young. Men really don't become attractive as life partners and mates to women until they get older. You're not even old enough to buy beer yet. This i…
/r/askTRP27/04/18 01:56 PM
3

we've all been there, wanted to lash out because we were still harboring hurt feelings. and we've all given in one time or another. just go silent, don't message her again. go no contact with her. no need to block, just ignore further messages. delete them as/if you receive anymore. don't beat yourself up for a minor fuck up like this. learning to be better, it's like learning a new tennis swing. you don't always get it right when learning. you gotta fuck up and learn from mistakes before you pe…
/r/askTRP26/04/18 03:53 PM
1

Some people are master manipulators and skilled at deception. She appears to be one of them. She has just revealed her true self to you. That's all. She's not the great woman she sold you she was. She is, instead, a flawed human just like the rest of us. In her case, very flawed. For right now just be lucky you weren't married to her and can get away with nothing more than hurt feelings. Those heal a lot easier than financial ruin and other fallout from divorce, or having to move out of a cohabi…
/r/askTRP26/04/18 03:48 PM
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first good on you for steering clear of married chicks. that's just good business practice. next, you can try grey rocking her. that means be as interesting as a grey rock. monotone, 1 word responses, no emotion. give her no feels. or just tell her you want to concentrate on your work out, but if she wants to chat over a drink after that's fine. tell her to bring her husband along. you'll either never see her again, or if you do, she's looking for a MFM 3 way.
/r/askTRP26/04/18 03:49 AM
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learn some boyfriend destroyers.
/r/askTRP26/04/18 03:12 AM
1

because society has fed them disney princess horseshit all their lives, starting with their parents. their conditioned to be attention whores from birth.
/r/askTRP25/04/18 09:36 PM
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Following "the rules" has proven very effective for me in all other aspects of my life. I have a great job, a great family, great friends. What the heck was happening with my romantic life? Why was my wife, who I treated so nicely, not sleeping with me? I went to therapy - and my therapist taught me to communicate more. Super BP thinking, which resulted in nothing. Yup. Been through this before. The biggest problem with couples counseling is that they always focus on "communication" and other ho…
/r/TheRedPill24/04/18 07:09 PM
1

A thought that has helped me, in particular with work, but also with choosing which women to let into my life, that I keep in my mind at all times now: I'm not going to let you let me fail. With women - so many of them are just looking to leech off your resources. They will do it until you are all used up and then move on to a new host when there is nothing else for them drain from you. Don't let them do it. Be discerning with which women you let into your life. Make them work for it and earn it…
/r/TheRedPill24/04/18 05:54 PM
2

well, of course, but even their mothers and aunts are sick of the men they've created. their daughters are just fucked. they've been spoonfed the same BP-disney princess crap by both parents and will never even know how to recognize that crap is a ticket straight to relationship hell for all involved. they'll just be unhappy, blame the guy, and move on to the next white knight, and then lather-rinse-repeat. with the occasional tryst with RP chad thrown in.
/r/TheRedPill24/04/18 04:14 PM
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I think it's typical for lots of guys to be slobs that don't exercise any form of self care or put effort into building themselves. They don't care about being fat, looking nice, etc. There are so many of them that women are sick of them, it has lowered women's standards. They now are happy if a guy just takes care of himself. They don't care if he's an ass or not. Hence why TRP works. You take care of yourself, work out and get fit, don't be needy, and just be fun to be around. It's enough to s…
/r/TheRedPill24/04/18 02:19 PM
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A sub dedicated to sexual strategy and nailing as many women as possible might not be the best audience to ask this question of. That said - your kid's mum isn't responsible or trustworthy until she proves it in the eyes of the court. Don't let heartache for your kid's and their mother's shortcomings cloud your better judgement. If she wants more time, let her ask for it. Let her go through the steps to prove she's fit for it. Let your parents help you, lean on them more than the kid's mum. Othe…
/r/askTRP23/04/18 08:03 PM
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since i'm married (happily I'll add, she's a great woman and takes great care of me and my son from another marriage), i'll bite. obviously i say it's not bad under all circumstances. my wife actually has alot more at risk financially. she's never been married before, never had any big hiccups. i've had several. her dad was a good stock broker, has her set up. the bottom line is she's got much more $$$ than me. i'll have to hit some really big investment profits to ever catch up with her. since …
/r/askTRP23/04/18 04:51 PM
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Hard to know how to throw in details about a death occurring when you're young and never been exposed to anything like that. It's like it's not real, especially immediately after it happens. Takes some time to process heavy shit like that. OP being so young, no way he'd be able to process it, much less post, more effectively than was done in this post. Lesson to learn is not to get too drunk and keep your wits about you at all times. Acting stupid can have stupid consequences, such as falling of…
/r/TheRedPill23/04/18 03:53 PM
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Hmm...imagine you're this guy, when his now ex-wife comes up and says she wants a divorce. How can his reaction not be "Thank Gawd! I can get free of this twat!" That's a sarcastic question - I know his reaction was very likely extreme hurt and feeling like a big failure. I hope he realizes by now he didn't fail anyone, and he's much better off now without a wife that was nothing more than a boat anchor chained to him. His ex-wife failed him and their child quite spectacularly.
/r/TheRedPill23/04/18 03:47 AM
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"i don't date. i just have flings."
/r/askTRP21/04/18 11:42 AM
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If you've got a girl like that, then yeah, she's a great workout partner. I see many, many girls at the gym that just fuck around, though. I've seen many couples trying to work out like OP describes too, the guy looks frustrated and not able to really work hard. The girl gets pissed when he pushes her harder, because he wants to up the work for himself too. That said, there are 2 couples at my gym I see come in that they are good partners for each other. They are not common, but they are out the…
/r/TheRedPill20/04/18 02:06 PM
2

I workout at a Lifetime in the Metro ATL area. I can confirm, it's a fun show to watch. I workout alone, it's my unwinding time. Some days, it's wall to wall HB9's, some days it's all 'roided up dudes. It's always interesting. It's a little pricey, but for me, the pool, hot tubs, outside pool area, etc. - I can get a soak in, take my son, have him lift with me, then get some dad time poolside with him in. OVerall, it's worth the $$ to me right now.
/r/TheRedPill20/04/18 02:02 PM
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I had the disposable cash so I hired a trainer for 3 sessions to train me in proper form and help me figure out what best weights start at with a basic 5x5 program. I was 40, had done lots of martial arts, and other fitness, but never a dedicated lifting program. I also have torn ligaments in both wrists and a minor shoulder issue from martial arts injuries, and a ruptured muscle/ligament (doc's aren't sure witch) in my lower back that happened when I was doing some heavy physical work in my yar…
/r/TheRedPill20/04/18 01:43 PM
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Just got done browsing this thread. I just wanted to give prop's to OP. The self-improvement described sounds great. Keep it up. Regarding your wife - sounds a lot like my ex-wife, except mine didn't get a job after our kid was born until I filed for divorce and kicked her out. She was technically a SAHM, but didn't do shit except sit in the corner rocking chair doing sudoku puzzles. I worked full time, then would come home, do daddy-son play time, take care of dinner, laundry, house work to the…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/18 04:28 PM
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takes longer than 15 days to ingrain new habits. don't change anything, keep up what you're doing, and don't do the self reward thing. progress and success should be reward enough.
/r/askTRP17/04/18 09:03 PM
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always meet in public first. you can get catfished, robbed, or worse if not careful. most tinder girls i met before i deleted were masters of making their selfies look 3 points higher SMV than reality. meet in public first for safety and to screen her.
/r/askTRP17/04/18 02:35 AM
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