Women who married shy/timid/cowardly men, how did it turn out for you both?

FightMeCthullu · 2022-02-17T01:39:33+00:00

My mum married my dad who is fairly timid. Not shy perhaps but, she is very bombastic and out there and he is not traditionally masculine at all.

They are super happy. Thirty plus years, many children, financial strife and bankruptcy never broke them apart. They spend their days enjoying each other’s company and pursuing their passions and they are so in love.

So I didn’t marry a shy man (although my partner is fairly low key) but my mum did kinda and growing up around that affected my view on gender roles very much.

quiturbitchn · 2022-02-17T01:28:02+00:00

I’m in a LTR with a very quiet and reserved man. We balance each other out but I’m the approacher/initiater for a lot in our lives

Barneysparky · 2022-02-17T01:58:21+00:00

Everyone who gets to know my husband absolutely loves him and considers him highly intelligent, ethical and trustworthy.

So much so that his past relationships parents still loved him. He's just a likeable guy being that he is all the things listed above (and more).

He is a little awkward socially, but not in any mean-spirited way. He's a bit feminine with long hair etc, he's not someone I would call a coward, but he's never been in a fight, as he considers being violent because of a conflict to be absolutely ridiculous. Also he doesn't get on peoples nerves, so except for a few comments that he can easily dismiss because he gets the source saying them hes never been bullied.

I'm sure some ass could call him the things you listed, but no one that knows him would use those adjectives.

dump_in_a_mug · 2022-02-17T07:12:23+00:00

My husband is reserved, somewhat shy, and introverted, but not timid nor cowardly. If you confront him, he won't cower, but he doesn't seek conflict. His reservedness has not stopped his career progression, nor his ability to love, seduce, and fuck me. Privately, he is sexually dominant, which might surprise people that meet him.

In my opinion, it's going well. Almost 7 years together (5 years married), and we are trying to have a baby. Sex is still incredible, and our communication/conflict resolution has drastically improved over time. He is a homebody, but so am I. Friends joke that we are "hermits".

Being shy isn't a bad thing, but please don't assume all shy people are cowards.

flipthescript95 · 2022-02-17T03:15:52+00:00

We were happily together for 10 years. He was everything I was looking for: kind, sweet, shy, etc. We loved each other very much. We were engaged but not married, he kept pushing it off. We broke up for “other reasons” (lack of support towards me and issues with communication on my part). But at the end of the day, all the issues stemmed from him being too afraid to embrace the life he truly wanted.

After we broke up, we went no contact for almost a year. I wanted him back but it turns out his depression was caused by his hidden longing to cross dress. Things didn’t work out.

SavageAnalFissure · 2022-02-17T06:49:42+00:00

Shy, Timid even maybe.. that’s fine but how is cowardice a positive aspect of any human beings personality?

Novadina · 2022-02-17T02:48:59+00:00

My husband is shy, quiet, and introverted, but I wouldn’t call him “timid”. I happen to really like shy people, I think they are adorable.

I’m his only relationship, and he was 30 when we got together. He asked me out, which is pretty surprising for him, it was because we were friends already for a couple years and he was comfortable with me (I had already found ways to connect with him and open up like I do when making friends with shy people). He’s dated before when he was younger, but I’m apparently the only person he’s ever asked out. (I think the others were dates people set up for him.)

We’ve been together 15 years, I think it’s turned out great so far. He doesn’t initiate change in our lives much, big things like buying a house or trying a totally new thing have been initiated by me. And all new friends we’ve made are from me meeting people (we hang out with friends together usually, so I introduce new friends to him and he usually considers them a friend too after we’ve all hung out awhile). He has a few friends too but they are from when he was a kid. I am very happy with him, he is so sweet, and I love that he’s all shy and quiet but then really kinky in bed.

Initial_Chemical7121 · 2022-02-17T02:33:30+00:00

He’s shy ish and reserved. In front of people he doesn’t know very well you’d think he’s mute. We contrast each other, it’s nice. Strong silent type.

Edit: We’re engaged not married yet

Effective-Walrus1157 · 2022-02-17T03:00:47+00:00

My outgoing grandma was married to my shy grandpa until he died.

I'm an introvert constantly mistaken for an extrovert cuz I know how to project confidence, and my boyfriend is very shy. I adore the hell out of him. Always had a thing for shy men. I strongly prefer them to more social people cuz I dunno, they're often the most interesting to talk to once you get them to open up.

accountantladyreads · 2022-02-17T07:06:12+00:00

My husband is reserved but certain neither cowardly nor timid. He's the strong and silent type except in private. He's fantastic

chalkandapples · 2022-02-17T09:38:12+00:00

It worked out great, very compatible with my personality. I'm like that too.

RabbitNRaccoon · 2022-02-17T01:27:26+00:00

🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

These traits are a sliding scale.

The vast majority of men possess these traits in decent amounts. Which is why most men are considered "beta".

Masculine men are rare AF.

Most of yall are soft.

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studiocel · 2022-02-17T02:31:57+00:00

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CrazyBaby8891 · 2022-02-17T13:53:38+00:00

My husband is shy but not cowardly, and we're happy together. I found (and still find) his humility endearing; none of that conceited douchebaggery (I guess known as "Chad" 'round these parts) for me!

januaryphilosopher · 2022-02-17T10:09:51+00:00

We're not married yet but it has turned out ideally. I didn't exactly "react" to his personality as I knew it before I asked him out and that was something that attracted me to him. I'm pretty much the opposite so he complements me well, I like having a quiet and calming influence and he likes having someone who can make decisions and get rid of spiders. I can see it being a problem for more timid women but I'm not one so it's all good. Both sets of our parents are the same, a more extroverted woman with a shy man (his side especially) and that seems to have worked well, if only in making sure our dads actually go outside.

Title	Women who married shy/timid/cowardly men, how did it turn out for you both?
Author	dnyl1
Upvotes	14
Comments	71
Date	February 16, 2022 10:06 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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