Is living with parents one of the most repulsive traits to have?

spacespiceboi · 2022-04-09T13:00:56+00:00

Ok first off, to answer your question, it depends. It'll vary from one person to another what they want in a partner.

More importantly, i went through your post history. Man, I'm sure people have told you this before but you seem to desparately need therapy. If you can, please get therapy for the love of nice things in the world

an_altar_of_plagues · 2022-04-09T11:46:43+00:00

Nah. Plenty of people live with their parents for a variety of reasons - cultural, financial, etc. A good number of my friends briefly lived with their parents after college, and others did so when they were working simply to save up money.

The only time it isn’t something necessarily good is if the person living with their parents isn’t doing anything. Like if they’re living with their parents but not working or in school despite being capable, then that’s a bit of a red flag.

Inareskai · 2022-04-09T11:56:43+00:00

Why are thing always 'repulsive'? It's such a strong, emotive, word that is almost definitely overkill to use.

For some people, a prospective partner living with their parents will be a turn off. Or at the very least make dating a bit more difficult.

For some people, it won't.

Given that many people currently do live with their parents due to the current financial state of the world, it's unlikely to be a universal deal breaker.

lisalovesmango · 2022-04-09T11:55:51+00:00

There’s no one size fits all answer to that question. First off, it depends on why you live with your parents. But even if you just do it because it’s comfortable, there will be many women not ok with it, but some will. There’s not one single trait that makes you completely undateable.

pekkauser · 2022-04-09T16:08:53+00:00

It’s not really a bad thing unless the older son or daughter does literally nothing around the house or is incredibly rude to their parents.

DissonanceBadger · 2022-04-09T16:55:39+00:00

I know a dude who lives with his grandma in an apartment that he bought. He says women are OK with that version of living with family. Someone once asked him if he lives with his parents, and after he described the situation she called it “your grandma lives with you”.

Haymitch123454 · 2022-04-09T14:02:55+00:00

Repulsive is a bit strong, but it will definitely hurt your chances. I don't like it either, but that's kinda just the culture in America right now. Extreme individualism to our detriment. This is less of an issue and even normal in other cultures.

Dahks · 2022-04-09T14:47:51+00:00

Firstly: a situation is not a "trait".

Secondly: no.

sans_serif_size12 · 2022-04-09T14:57:23+00:00

In this economy? More of my peers live with their parents just because it’s too expensive to live alone or because of cultural expectations. Usually they either work or help with household chores and junk. It’s one thing to live with your parents and another to live with your parents and do nothing to maintain the household or have nothing else going on if you’re capable

Yesm3can · 2022-04-09T15:04:30+00:00

For me personally, I would not have dated a man or a woman (if I were bi or lesbian), who is still living with their parents.

It is because I'd rather be homeless (and I did live in my car for a week before I was approved for a new apartment during University time) than living with my own parents.

While I have good relationship with my parents (and I came from Asia too, where children usually lived with their parents until marriage), living with them is a no-no for me. I dunno why.

My husband has his first apartment when he was 16, eventhough he too, has great relationship with his parents.

I asked him would have he been interested in me if I were living with my parents when we first met, and he also said no.

Sad-Fee-4638 · 2022-04-09T15:34:38+00:00

nah. it's a world where we kind of need our parents. moving out is harder than ppl say

Tostitos153 · 2022-04-09T15:39:51+00:00

Only here in the United Stares; if you go anywhere else in the world, there is no stigma for living with your family. Most other places would even consider it the norm. The idea of moving out at 18 is a very American thing. With that being said, it’s more socially acceptable if you’re young (teens/early twenties) to still be living at home and dating. Most people will understand and don’t give it a second thought. Why do you believe it’s repulsive?

honey-bundy-88 · 2022-04-09T14:54:11+00:00

I lost my v-card to a dude who lived with his mom and had no door. I’d say no.

dumsaint · 2022-04-09T15:59:11+00:00

The west has certain settled mindsets and patterns of thinking that don't work well in other parts of the world. This being one of them. Though my mom lives with me, due to health issues, I haven't had much issue in dating or being in relationships for that particular reason.

Being an immigrant, but a citizen for 30 years, my thoughts on this are fairly balanced. In any case, if someone is repulsed at such a thing that's good. It just tells you they're not for you, if you're in such a circumstance, whatever the context.

In many "old world" traditions there are duties and responsibilities the children carry that in the west are sometimes accomplished by more capitalistic avenues, and sometimes quite poorly.

Be well. ✌🏽

GUlysses · 2022-04-09T16:15:08+00:00

I lived with my parents for a year after college. It was actually pretty great. Free rent and dinner allowed me to pay off almost all my debt within a year of college. Now I’m 100% debt free, and it feels so great.

2022-04-09T16:21:16+00:00

I’m 40, on disability, at home with my elderly parents, unemployed.. my hot af gfs about to graduate with a doctorate from one of the most prestigious unis on the planet..

Frame, and a twinkle in your eye and a relentless commitment to your Vision..

My Vision is getting well and being normal again.. I’m a relentless unstoppable beast on that front..

The viciousness with which you talk about yourself is the first problem my brother..

xvszero · 2022-04-09T17:27:56+00:00

I met my wife while I lived with my parents. Not going to lie, some people will definitely care. Others won't. I think the main thing though is have goals and be working towards them. If you're living with parents and just sitting around playing video games all day it will be a turn off. But nowadays, in this economy, a lot of people still live with parents.

DanMarinosDolphins · 2022-04-09T14:04:01+00:00

No. Especially not during these times. Having your own place does enhance your datability however. Dating a person is an experience. And part of that is where you spend most of your time with them.

difficultconcept · 2022-04-09T15:05:46+00:00

Share of Millennials who live at home with their parents in the United States in 2021, by age and gender

Living by yourself doesn't necessarily mean you're having a good time - especially if you live in the middle of nowhere. You probably need to be a doctor or a lawyer to be able to afford to live in a big city on your own.

If you're working class, you need a wife who also works full-time to afford a life in any larger city.

Hellion_shark · 2022-04-09T17:30:36+00:00

For me there are too many circumstances for it to be a straight-up turn-off. Sometimes you need t take care of someone, or it makes zero sense to pay rent, or you are gathering money for something. In some cases, it's just impossible to move out alone at the time.It would be a turn-off if the case is like... idk the 90day fiancee people, whose parents often abuse their so and control their lives.
It might make me wonder if the dude knows how to take basic care of himself or is he babied by mommy, but this would be made clear quickly enough.

oneofamike · 2022-04-09T17:51:32+00:00

I own the house I live in and another property. But I’ve gotten weird looks from a couple of women when I tell them my parents live with me.

lhy13 · 2022-04-09T18:24:03+00:00

I live in a city where the rental prices for a decent one bedroom in the city are above $2,000 a month and one bedroom apartments start at $600,000 or more. Many twenty somethings still live with their parents until even their late 20s because the city is simply so unaffordable. So it is context-dependent and where in life that person is.

Ill_Panda_6563 · 2022-04-09T19:33:45+00:00

No- it’s in context. I lived as home for years (as a woman) and dated a man who did also. Unfortunately, I am now building my first home, and he’s still at home (with inflation he can’t even leave if he wanted too). That’s repulsive.

FutureSignificant412 · 2022-04-09T19:37:04+00:00

It shouldn't be. Most of the time it's for the parents. The kids help out the parents.

stompbixby · 2022-04-09T20:05:48+00:00

i think if youre working and help your family with bills theres not only nothing wrong with it, but its actually quite admirable

but if youre just taking up space yea thats lame

bee_ghoul · 2022-04-09T22:05:39+00:00

That really depends on your culture/nationality. In most places it’s normal and is expected. I know some people see it differently but fuck them

2022-04-09T23:11:47+00:00

Id rather invest in my future and live with my parents temporarily then waste 2000$ a month on rent.

GoldenGrouper · 2022-04-09T23:26:05+00:00

No, being a greedy capitalist is

SimpleButtons · 2022-04-10T00:08:24+00:00

Nah, its chill. I wouldn't judge someone for living with their parents. Its very common to live with parents in many cultures, especially up until marriage. The US has a weird obsession with individualism and if youre over 18 and still live with your parents its seen as failure but there are so many reasons that someone can still do it from cultural to financial, you might have some mental issues or being neurodivergent can keep you behind your peers but theres nothing bad or wrong with it.

carritotaquito · 2022-04-10T00:30:08+00:00

Living with parents is only repulsive IF they are also funding the rest of your entire existence and doing everything for him. If my pre-teen son is already doing his own laundry and can cook basic meals, it is unacceptable for a full-grown man to not be able to do the same.

I do not have an issue with a man living with his parents if:

He is working and paying for all his living expenses. Basically, he uses his parents' house as a dorm and that's it.
He helps around his parents' home. Chores, laundry, cooking, and the like.
If his parents are elderly, disabled, and/or have a chronic illness, he's also caring and providing for his parents.

mammajess · 2022-04-10T02:34:59+00:00

Depends who the man and his parents are. Depends how they interact with each other. For me it was a plus sometimes. My family was kind of shitty so I enjoyed being part of other families as a younger person.

Randommia1916 · 2022-04-10T10:43:49+00:00

Ig it really depends on how old you are I would say if you’re being responsible and you have a job and you’re making advances to save up and eventually move out no matter how long it takes is a good idea and most people wouldn’t mind that

SatisfactionNo8233 · 2022-04-10T19:22:20+00:00

To answer quickly, yes. Most will find that really unattractive. Few wont give a shit but everyone with an opinion on this will overlook the fact that nearly every millennial still lives at home in america and that living with your parents only recently became a bad thing. Its a marketing strategy to get you to fall into debt in the housing scam.

The least repulsive thing on earth is a rich man. How do you become rich? The quickest way is help from your parents. Thats how everyone does it. People have short and selective memories, build your credit, stack your money, pursue a career you love while your living with your parents and watch how attractive you become

Also

Most people are good in this world but evil people have the most power unfortunately. Because of this in places like america we have millions of homeless people suffering abuse every single second of their lives. Many peoples parents are dead and no one loves them enough to care about what happens to them.

So in conclusion. Fuck what people think. If your dying on the street they'll walk over you on their way to starbucks. Fuck what people think. If you have living parents get on your knees and thank god for doing you such a massive solid. If your parents arent abusive thank god twice. If your parents can afford a roof over their own heads, thank god three times. If they have room for you, well you get the picture.

You my friend are privileged, wear that shit like a badge, your superior to most of us and have a massive advantage in life.

Now all you have to do is stop giving a fuck about strangers, get a therapist so you can keep your mental game strong, stay healthy and strive to be your best self and a good person so that hopefully one day evil people will be a rarity.

heytheredelilah91 · 2022-04-11T07:03:47+00:00

r/lostgeneration

dottywine · 2022-04-17T03:17:21+00:00

Depends how old you are and the circumstance.

PhilosopherHistorian · 2022-04-19T05:01:10+00:00

I live with my parents and most of the women I’ve talked to that seemed interested in me didn’t seem to mind; not overtly at least. I think if you still work a job, go to school of some kind, help out around the home, etc a lot of women may give you the pass.

If it’s the opposite and you don’t do anything besides hanging out in your bedroom and playing League of Legends or something similar, you might get some shit for it. All depends on your situation and how it’s perceived by each individual woman.

spaceshipwoohoo · 2022-04-09T15:53:14+00:00

Personally I wouldn't date a dude who's living with his parents. In my experience, these dudes are not autonomous, responsible adults and they have no basic life skills. They rely on their mommy to fix their things and expect me to be their mommy 2.0. No thank you sir.

That being said, I fully understand why people live with their parents, especially in this economy. I just don't wanna date them.

5MinuteMentalFitness · 2022-04-09T16:04:41+00:00

Live with your parents.

Save the money you would get paying rent for a future rental property (Perferably a fourplex) which you will live in one of the units and capitalize on first property taxes, low interest rate for first home etc.

Find a great tenant.

Don’t view your tenant as a paycheque rather an family employee whom you care for dearly.

Though you pay up front to have a healthy happy tenant, it’s free in the long run as you can write off literally everything (and I do mean everything) you do for them and even things you might not think you can do for them you can write it off.

(I.E: Take your tenant out for dinner to “negotiate the lease”).

Honestly, I think you can even buy them a car or the property a car and write that off too as a company vehicle.

I work in the tax sector and it’s amazing what you can write off.

But the point is treat your tenants well.

Invest in your property by helping the tenants out.

Your rent will be paid each time barring drastic unforeseen events.

Your property will be well maintained and go up in value.

And you’ll never have to worry about another tenant again.

2022-04-17T23:20:18+00:00

Yes.

spaceshipwoohoo · 2022-04-09T15:53:05+00:00

Personally I wouldn't date a dude who's living with his parents. In my experience, these dudes are not autonomous, responsible adults and they have no basic life skills. They rely on their mommy to fix their things and expect me to be their mommy 2.0. No thank you sir.

That being said, I fully understand why people live with their parents, especially in this economy. I just don't wanna date them.

Title	Is living with parents one of the most repulsive traits to have?
Author	Pomeranian111
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Date	April 9, 2022 11:41 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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