Do you consider yourself to be the one your exes tell their current significant others not to worry about?

YaKnowEstacado · 2022-05-21T23:34:26+00:00

No. I haven't talked to any of my exes in years.

Kentucky_Supreme · 2022-05-22T00:11:30+00:00

I thought we were all obese incels living in our moms' basements lol.

baresquad · 2022-05-21T23:44:26+00:00

They’d be telling the truth. We been no contact 6+ and 4+ years now

That’s how it’s supposed to be. Healthy for everyone involved

Yummylicky23 · 2022-05-22T00:42:46+00:00

No, I feel like only deeply insecure people think like this lol wtf

doshkhaleesi · 2022-05-22T00:33:24+00:00

No way. I’m not that special.

2022-05-22T00:49:21+00:00

In one case all of his girlfriends have looked similar to me since we broke up. They should be grateful, not worried.

WingLeviosa · 2022-05-21T23:31:54+00:00

Like, don’t worry about him because she’ll never tell her current boyfriend I’m the one she thinks about? Or don’t worry about him because i never cross her mind?

TotalTravesty · 2022-05-21T23:36:33+00:00

I don’t think about my exes much. They all ended well so all the best to em?

2022-05-21T23:54:00+00:00

Yeah actually. My ex was head over heels for me, and I still talk to her. Problem was I had a way worse handle on my issues back then and these days I'm not that into her.

cautionTomorrow555 · 2022-05-21T23:57:05+00:00

Most of my ex girlfriends are on the level of casual friend I see a handful of times a year or are just facebook friends if we even keep in contact at all so it is an accurate statement.

Orange_Paisley · 2022-05-22T00:04:25+00:00

My ex-husband might because we talk to each other fairly frequently. And he would be right to tell them that because that shipped sailed decades ago.

TheEternalGhost · 2022-05-22T00:12:33+00:00

The one "not to worry about" has a different implication, but I think I understand the question you're actually asking.

The two places I put a lot of effort in to relationships are in the kitchen and the bedroom. I run a business where most of my work is from home and cooking is a hobby, so even FWBs I've had would eat 3 or 4 dishes for dinner whenever they came over. I also really like giving women orgasms, which tends to be appreciated.

Realistically there's a lot of guys that are good at sex, but there won't be many willing and able to cook like I do. That is the most likely thing my exes would miss the most.

localmicrodosechamp · 2022-05-22T01:08:10+00:00

Only the ones who cheated on their currents w me.

princessxmombi · 2022-05-22T01:43:44+00:00

I don’t know. I don’t call my exes. They still try to call and text me though (11 and 3 years later).

mgtowalternate · 2022-05-22T01:45:08+00:00

One of my exes still contacts me, I've stayed good friends with her. She does have a significant other so the conversations are private. About once per week.

She's never crossed the emotional or physical cheating threshold though.

MrMushySauce · 2022-05-22T01:50:10+00:00

Possibly...

We haven't spoken in a long ass time so I have no clue of her thoughts. She honestly heavily comes across as the type, though, that if she found out I was doing well she would try to get a piece of that.

So whoever she's with should hope I either fail in life or she never finds out lmao

wtknight · 2022-05-22T03:18:07+00:00

I guess. I don’t keep in touch with exes. They’re exes for a reason.

Ambassadior · 2022-05-22T05:54:29+00:00

Yes but not because I'm so great, I'm just a fuckable rebound friend.

Electrical_Coat_8714 · 2022-05-22T06:28:57+00:00

No, God, no

SwimmingTheme3736 · 2022-05-22T06:34:19+00:00

I don’t think about my exs.

I occasionally think of my ex husband but we share two children so he is art of my life still, but it’s in a are you able to arrange to pick our daughter up or are you going to a school even kind of thinking.

I would hope no one has to say that about me

DivineDaedra · 2022-05-22T08:50:49+00:00

Yeah, mostly because the incompatibilities romantically tend to end up making our friendships more distant as well. I’ve also always been the one to break things off and never had second thoughts about doing it. Usually it wasn’t over a mistake or anything, just incompatibility in the long term.

I also never had sex with any exes so it’s not like they’d really be able to miss it.

Insidious-Sid · 2022-05-22T00:15:13+00:00

We coparent and talk WAY too often for most people.

I'm a bit of a shit so it's kind of funny to me. Her last b/f was pretty cool about. I tried telling her when she was letting our coparenting/friendship thing encroach on healthy boundaries.

She didn't give a shit.

She left me. She would leave him too in a heartbeat. And she eventually did leave him.

Now I don't have a wive but an "ex that I am friends with".

So I get my fill of female drama and bullshit without actually having one in the house.

It's really not such a bad arrangement.

And it's good for the kids, to see their divorced parents get along.

I think it's made a world of difference for the kids. And maybe, if they learned one thing, if you leave someone, you don't need to burn them to the ground to move on with your life.

Guys, if you find out she "destroyed" any past ex's, just run run away. As fast as you can.

errrright · 2022-05-22T00:23:38+00:00

It would be strange if any of my exes mentioned me at all to their current partners considering I haven’t been in any of their lives for 4+ years.

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Barneysparky · 2022-05-22T00:36:27+00:00

Thinking that someone is thinking about you after is a is a Rocky Road toward mental illness.

If you take a psych evaluation for a personality disorder more than half the questions are about how you perceive others are thinking about you.

She's your ex, she's moved on. If you haven't, reach out ONCE just in case she's feeling the same way. Then get on with your life and stop thinking about what she might be thinking.

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ChibsFilipTelfordd · 2022-05-22T01:38:24+00:00

I would, however, I don't keep in contact with any of my exes. I simply don't reply when they hit me up.

We're exes for a reason. I'm easily manipulated. I don't need them or their drama

iwilltravel · 2022-05-22T09:07:38+00:00

Yeap. Prolly me. Thats cuz I've been in a FWB situation with most of my exes and have great friendship with them. I also have an above average schlong.

januaryphilosopher · 2022-05-22T09:49:01+00:00

I believe my ex said exactly that when I called him as he was snogging another lady in his car. He was right; we're good friends, but broke up due to a mutual lack of attraction.

Quealpedoestoy · 2022-05-22T09:58:45+00:00

Im betting one of my female friends tells that to her husband about me. The guy has barely any libido as far as she told me.

Soon-to-be-Catlady · 2022-05-22T10:09:51+00:00

I have been that person for several years because my ex and I lived in a shared flat while he was dating a new girl. His parents adored me and would still ask if I would go out with them (+ex) for dinner whenever they were in town. I became friends with his new gf luckily, they broke up eventually though. Now after I moved abroad he and I are still very good friends, so I don't think this will ever stop for both of us.

Pilling_it · 2022-05-22T11:20:00+00:00

I don't care about the lives of my exes really. I'm good with them as a person, can and will talk cordially if needed, but i'm not going to go out of my way to get in their lives.

Lift_and_Lurk · 2022-05-22T13:20:21+00:00

No. I am still friends with one of my exes, and in fact my wife is probably closer to her now than I am (girls nights, meeting up for lunch, etc) Her husband never needed to worry about me cause he’s a perfect match for her, and he met me when I was already married toy wife.

Most others you grow apart from. I mean they are exes for a reason. You focus on your life and they go off and do the same with theirs

iamthemovie1992 · 2022-05-22T16:40:29+00:00

No, I don’t talk to any of my exes. When the relationship is over, my rule is to cut contact. There is nothing I need to talk to them about, or have any reason to continue to have them be a part of my life. If we have mutual friends, I’ll be civil, but I have no desire to continue any sort of relationship with them

midwesternMD · 2022-05-22T22:11:20+00:00

Nope. I cut ties cleanly with my exes, and while I don’t harbor ill will towards any of them, they also don’t cross my mind unless my phone sends me a highlight picture with them in it. Short of an ex showing up on my doorstep, looking about the same as they did previously, and asking me to take them to pound town, I would also not touch any of them. So while I don’t know what any of my exes are thinking, they wouldn’t have anything to worry about.

Guitar-Master9891 · 2022-05-23T00:05:46+00:00

Three of my friends have dated girls I dated in the past (yes, I've dated around a lot). One of them accidentally, the other two were warned against it.

The three of them ended their relationships. The guy that introduced to our group of friends one of my exes without knowing ended it the next day, the other two became linda jealous with time and I know one of them couldn't handle the fact that his girl had been with me before and had to end it for that very reasson (both the girl and the guy told me that time after).

I don't know what the girls tell my buds, but I think they would be better not knowing hahaha.

Any_Drama3272 · 2022-05-24T01:26:23+00:00

An ex is an ex, not a friend. I don’t talk or have anything to do with ex’s.

Title	Do you consider yourself to be the one your exes tell their current significant others not to worry about?
Author	jarajara1861
Upvotes	13
Comments	49
Date	May 21, 2022 11:25 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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