How true is it that women will mirror the way their SO feels or behaves.

Mrs_Drgree · 2022-11-12T20:40:20+00:00

Wait, isn't that just empathy?

FancyCocktailOlive · 2022-11-12T19:54:37+00:00

Moods are contagious. She’s not mirroring you, you’re putting her in a bad mood.

bunnakay · 2022-11-12T20:09:18+00:00

It's not mirroring. You're in a bad mood and it's putting her in a bad mood.

Striking_Builder_380 · 2022-11-12T20:45:18+00:00

No, it's just annoying to be around people in a bad mood.

EulenWatcher · 2022-11-12T19:36:58+00:00

My husband and I usually have the same reasons to be in a bad mood - we have the same problems and all, so often we do both end up with a shitty mood in the same time. And if he's sad/angry for a non-shared reason, I'll worry about him and try to make his day better. So it depends.

TermAggravating8043 · 2022-11-12T21:06:06+00:00

I don’t think this is mirroring, if your around negative energy there’s only so much you can do before that energy starts to bring you done too

RocinanteCoffee · 2022-11-12T22:42:26+00:00

Some of what you describe could also just be empathy. If she sees you are sad she might feel somewhat sad too. If she's deliberately and aggressively trying to one-up you that would be fucked.

saraimarsena · 2022-11-12T20:06:56+00:00

1000%. Especially for me personally about my boyfriend’s mood. But I don’t think it’s isolated to women in relationships… you ever hang out with someone who’s presence just feels like a dark cloud? It can suck the energy out of a room. When you’re hanging out 1 on 1 with your partner, if the other person is a dark cloud, it’s hard for you to keep up the energy and an air of happiness. Of course I work with him to try and elevate his mood, but it’s hard to be unaffected.

CimZim · 2022-11-12T20:19:22+00:00

I'm the opposite. If I notice that my guy is upset, I'll be sympathetic but deliberately keep my mood lighter to help out.

CruelAngelGradThesis · 2022-11-12T21:07:48+00:00

I don't think I'm so much mirroring him as reacting to his emotional state, which is kinda natural when you care about someone.

I feel sad when he's sad because well, I love him. I want him to be happy. When I manage to cheer him up I feel relieved because again, I want him to be happy.

He's the same way with me.

waffleznstuff30 · 2022-11-12T21:50:50+00:00

We don't mirror it. But typically from my experience when a guy is in a bad mood he makes it my problem too. And is short, rude, and snippy. When you act like that it puts me in a bad mood.

If my partner is sweet and affectionate with me I will give sweet and affectionate back because it's safe to do so.

KikiYuyu · 2022-11-12T22:25:14+00:00

Someone I care about being in a bad mood puts me in a bit of a bad mood too. I thought that was just empathy.

howdoiw0rkthisthing · 2022-11-12T23:07:51+00:00

I make a conscious effort to be peppy my husband is sad or anxious, but because that’s not my normal state I often “relax” back into a sour mood once his issue has cleared.

SamaraFallen · 2022-11-12T23:33:06+00:00

I don't know if I would call it mirroring, I genuinely feel down when my husband is having a bad time of things. My husband is also heavily influenced by my moods. We spend a lot of time together, we're bound to feed off of each other's behavior and feelings. We are very similar in temperament and personality so maybe that also plays into it.

TheCounsellingGamer · 2022-11-13T01:30:27+00:00

This is a concept that has been studied quite extensively. There has been evidence to suggest that we have neurons that fire not only when we ourselves are experiencing something, but also when we witness someone else experiencing something. These have been aptly named mirror neurons. The most obvious example of these in action is when someone else yawns and it makes you yawn. It has been strongly theorised that these neurons aren't unique to humans, however we do have more complicated brains so it's likely that they have a much stronger role to play for us than other animals.

I definitely mirror my partners feelings and behaviour, but he equally mirrors mine. If he's going through a tough time then it hurts me because I don't like to see my loved ones suffering. In the same vein when I'm going through a tough time I can tell that it upsets him.

NthKnife · 2022-11-13T06:06:19+00:00

Mirror neurons are thing. So is empathy. Some people are more prone to follow and mimic than others. It's not something exclusive to one sex. It's more of a personality trait or learned thing imo.

januaryphilosopher · 2022-11-12T20:17:37+00:00

I assume you do that too. People tend to be influenced by the moods of those around them.

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bubblegummybear · 2022-11-13T21:47:40+00:00

Literally just empathy. If you don't feel the same with her moods maybe it's worth talking to an emotional expert. It should be normal to feel empathy towards a SO.

Title	How true is it that women will mirror the way their SO feels or behaves.
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Date	November 12, 2022 6:23 PM UTC (3 years ago)
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