He wants me to lose weight

Anonymous_fiend · 2023-01-23T02:21:43+00:00

You can't outrun a bad diet. Small lifestyle changes last longer than restrictive or fad diets. Consistency is key. Depending on your height, activity level, and weight check out r/1200isplenty or r/1500isplenty. R/loseit and r/volumeeating are good too. 3500 calorie is 1lb so -500 calories from tdee a day for a week is -1lb/w. That may be too aggressive of a goal depending on tdee. Tdee is how many calories you burn daily inc movement. Bmr is how much you burn if basically in a coma. Don't eat under bmr. You'll only reach your goal slightly faster but you can cause skin dullness, hair loss, brittle nails, lethargy, moodiness, etc.

Staying hydrated is important. It takes 20 mins for the brain to send fullness signals so eat slowly.

sunglasses90 · 2023-01-23T02:27:14+00:00

Diet and walking. Those are the two biggest factors. Cardio is great, but you can get the same results eating healthier and just walking. You need a caloric deficit to lose weight.

I’m not a fan of super strict diets, but eliminate fast food and learn how to cook. I haven’t had fast food in years and don’t miss it or the cost. Stick with mainly proteins and vegetables. Eliminate sugar as much as you can. I do not buy “snack” foods. We eat 3 meals a day. You don’t need snacks or desserts everyday.

A lot is genetic, but for what isn’t genetic eating heathy and daily walking will help significantly.

canadian12371 · 2023-01-23T02:23:44+00:00

One tip is to drink water. Humans sometimes confuse hunger and thirst. Every-time you have a craving that you know you shouldn’t have, drink a glass of water, and wait 10 minutes to see how you feel.

Flat_Shower · 2023-01-23T02:15:34+00:00

Focus primarily on your diet, and secondarily on your fitness. If you’re hungry and don’t have the energy to work out, don’t work out. Focus less on toning and building muscle. Count calories, and/or focus on cleaner eating and eating fewer calorie-dense foods.

Miserable-Read7597 · 2023-01-23T15:22:28+00:00

I agree with the comments above. Research shows diet change is the most important factor for losing weight while exercise is great for maintaining weight lost. Seeing a nutritionist can help as well. Especially for figuring out healthy meals you will enjoy long-term & managing eating out while keeping your healthy eating habits.

Im in the U.S. I have Blue Cross Blue Shield for health insurance and they offer apps for weight management for free. My favorite has been the Omada app. So that could be another great avenue as well! Good for you for taking constructive feedback and focusing on your health 💛

alittlebitburningman · 2023-01-23T15:32:57+00:00

Eat less! That’s honestly all there is to it. Sometimes it’s hard for us to wrap our brains around that but I promise you it works.

Economy-Criticism768 · 2023-01-23T16:48:29+00:00

Agree with what's been said. Diet is everything. (That's not to say you shouldn't be in the gym, though you need to be aware that going to the gym increases your appetite so it can be hard to loose fat when you're there) I lost 15kg and then only started the gym once I was at the lowest healthy weight possible and didn't like the look of my untoned body.

Something that worked so well for me was not actually counting calories, but becoming calorie aware. Basically I googled how many calories are in this or that until I could look at a meal or ingredient and grasp pretty well how many calories were in a meal. This works so much better than calorie counting bc the two main issues with that are 1. It's very time intensive and annoying to track calories, and 2. You can get hung up on the numbers and stop listening to your body.

Secondly, distraction. Keep yourself very busy. When you're doing things or socializing you have no time for eating.

Thirdly GRADUALLY cut calories. There's no point in going straight into a big deficit bc you'll end up binging and feel terrible. As you cut back your stomach literally shrinks so you get less hungry each day. Eat for example 1 less apple on the first day, the second day make your lunch portion 20% smaller, on the fourth day stop having dessert and so on.

The best trick I found was pushing my meals back as far as possible (breakfast at 12, lunch at 4, dinner 30 minutes before sleep) because the hardest part about a deficit is going hungry before bed. Imo if you're dieting NEVER go to bed hungry it's the absolute worst. If you ate too much today and you're hungry before bed JUST EAT, and start fresh tomorrow. Personally I am the hungriest at night and barely eat in the mornings.

Background: I have been 'chubby' since I was 13 and I'm now 23. I always thought I was 'naturally chubby' had 'stubborn fat', etc. But that's just a lie society tells women so that we don't feel bad about ourselves. You shouldn't feel bad ofc but don't think this is in any way genetic, that will just hold you back if you identify as a chubby girl. I always did and it really held me back from doing anything about my weight until I was in my 20s

ForeverMaleficent993 · 2023-01-23T19:45:41+00:00

Hey, once you change your diet and lifestyle - just eating clean, small portions and waaaay more cardio. Lifting weights won't make a significant difference if you still have fat you don't want. Honestly thats the only way to be slimmer is by moving a lot and sweating a lot. Walking/cycling everywhere, having passionate sex where you are on top more often and just dancing moving around more.

But honestly; its just important to be healthy than some unrealistic goal. A lot of what is considered 'attractive' is gained by an extremely unhealthy lifestyle. I used to be that small size 6 model look that many men like. I was extremely deficient/anaemic to stay that way.

neverforgettherain · 2023-01-23T21:55:13+00:00

I swear by keto/carnivore. Lost 14kgs with it, no portion control required. The best part of it all is how good I feel mentally and my energy levels. I'm all for being healthy, but make sure you are doing it for yourself and not your boyfriend.

WhatIsThisAccountFor · 2023-01-26T17:54:00+00:00

If you look at social media everyone hates on cardio. Everyone will tell you “lift weights instead! It burns more calories”!! They’re being dishonest.

DO CARDIO. There is no substitute. Modern society has us kive very sedentary lives, and cardio is the only real solution for that. Plus, have you ever seen a chubby distance runner? No one who is running 2 miles without stopping is over 23bmi lol.

redditheadedstepdad · 2023-01-27T00:05:16+00:00

You need to learn to fast. Most weight gain is due to bad regulation of insulin and sugar by the body. Humans weren't designed to eat a bunch of carbs at least 3 times a day.

yorunee · 2023-01-27T14:17:50+00:00

I also suggest intermittent fasting and working your way through it.

Personally, I just skip breakfast and eat only lunch and dinner. This way, I can pretty much eat whatever I like and am actually pretty thin despite very little exercise.

And once your body gets used to it, you'll probably also notice that you just won't be craving snacks either. However, this is mostly if you eat more fibrous food and less processed stuff since processed food can make people hungry faster too (as they digest faster as well.

Anyway I think that what can help also is eliminating/decreasing the snacks, juices, soda, etc in your pantry if you really want for it to work. They main key to healthy eating is really just making the healthier options more available and the unhealth ones unavailable.

Drinking water is also key in this since sometimes we interpret thirst as hunger. Just keep it to water as much as possible and stay away from anything with sugar/artificial sweeteners.

It will probably be hard so I do suggest not completely eliminating all these things but instead lessen them until the point that you will still crave for certain fast food/snacks but not as much as before.

Foxx_tails · 2023-01-23T03:30:05+00:00

Lifting is great for muscle mass building but unfortunately doesn't burn much, so definitely keeping up with the cardio is important. Myfitnesspal is a great app for tracking calories, you can also plug your stats into it and it'll give you an idea where to keep calories to lose weight. Also I recommend a food scale to weigh what you're eating, as it can also help you balance your macros (proteins, fats, carbs). Just make sure you keep good fats in your diet (avocados, olive oil, coconut, etc) so your body still has good hormone production (I cut fats too much when dieting once and suffered lol).

LeicaRedEye · 2023-01-23T05:38:39+00:00

Good for you for working out it's very important for your health.

Losing weight is 80% what you eat so your main focus must be your intake in foods and drink.

Don't drink your calories, only drink water, black coffee and herbal tea, and plenty of it as thirst is sometimes perceived as hunger. Drinks with calories will only add calories without the benefit of keeping you full. You will be hungry soon. No alcohol.

Search volume eating here in Reddit, it's basically filling up with lower calorie but high volume food, to keep you full longer, which means loads of high volume vegetables.

Polyfluorite · 2023-01-23T04:56:57+00:00

Try intermittent fasting or just fasting 1 day and eating 1 day.

In a 30 day month eat 15 times. In those 15 days you can have whatever you want but continue to workout. You’re body will adapt to the new lifestyle and eating structure as the first week will be rough but add exercise to it and that stubborn fat won’t be so stubborn.

I lost 40 pounds in 3 months doing this.

Unusual_Marzipan887 · 2023-01-24T00:23:53+00:00

I’m losing weight at the moment by: - reducing how much I eat. I have 1-2 coffees in the morning to try and suppress breakfast hunger and hopefully skip it or reduce the amount I have. Lunch is usually a THICK protein smoothie, I also add seeds, peanut butter and a handful of oats into it so it’s super filling. And dinner is whatever as long as it’s healthy and has veggies in it. - increasing coffee consumption (don’t use too much milk). - what I do eat is high in protein. Aim for 20-30 grams protein per meal. - exercising at the gym almost daily - chewing gum is your best friend! But please get the ones from the health food shops that don’t have artificial sweeteners in them (artificial sweeteners cause acne and a bunch of internal bodily issues like cancer, cardiovascular diseases and liver damage)

This way of losing weight is not healthy or sustainable but it does the job fast with not too much inconvenience or discomfort I’ve been doing it for about a month and it’s working alright. Losing about <1kg/wk. it varies as gyming is changing my muscular body mass. Once I lose weight to something I’m more happy with I will increase calories to a maintenance amount and definitely include way more fruit and veg. Also make sure you’re staying on top of you supplements and vitamins if you’re adjusting your diet ☺️ good luck! X

alady-in-the-streets · 2023-01-23T05:05:14+00:00

Keep yourself in a calorie deficit until you reach your goal. A 2,000 calorie diet will maintain whatever weight you are at, so I suggest a 1,000 calorie diet while you are actively trying to get rid of fat. Then return to a 2,000 calorie intake.
Be flexible with your weight goal. Weight can be made of muscle or fat, and so if you're doing strength training, then you could be putting on muscle weight. That's perfectly fine, so don't beat yourself up if you're not target weight; pay more attention to how you look and how you feel.
It's not super important to target areas of your body that you want to lose fat on when you exercise. Body fat loss is all-over, not in a specific area. The only time you should target muscles is if you want those muscles to be bigger or more toned.
Diet is very very important. Probably even more important than exercise. This does not mean you don't need to exercise. You will have a significantly harder time losing the weight if you neglect exercise. But, diet is your main source of nutrition, and as they say, you cannot outrun a bad diet.
It's not a diet, it's a lifestyle change. You will not maintain weight loss if you do not maintain the means that got you there. You cannot go back to eating how you did before. So, make sure you do your research and figure out what diet will work for you long-term.
Make sure you are getting probiotics. Your gut and metabolism will work 10x better if you're supplying it the proper bacteria to work effectively. You can take supplements or get it through food. Personally, I make my own kefir, which is very cheap and easy to make. I put it into a smoothie every morning to mask the kinda awful taste.
HYDRATE! Your metabolism, and your body in general, will wage war on you if you're not drinking water. Not soda, not coffee, water. A lot of people say it's boring, and it really doesn't matter. You need pure water.

AutoModerator · 2023-01-23T02:08:04+00:00

Title: He wants me to lose weight

Full text: Hey red pill ladies

Recently me and my boyfriend were discussing health and our goals for the new year and he ended up telling me he thinks I can benefit from a little weight loss. Ive been going to the gym and lifting and trying to get more cardio. My weight is sadly going up and down.

Im chubby for my height which I can admit I am not skinny I am very thick but have stubborn fat on areas where it would be sexier if I was more toned like my back and belly area. I love my boyfriend and want to be healthier for myself and for him. Any advice for weight loss?

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TheBunk_TB · 2023-01-23T10:48:39+00:00

Hire a (female) coach, find accountability partner/partners

MinutesTilMidnight · 2023-01-23T23:30:02+00:00

I’m actually on my own weight loss journey right now! My dietician told me that losing weight is like 80% diet, 20% exercise, and she put me on a pseudo-keto diet (less than 100g carbs a day, less than 2000 cal, and at least 150g protein) and it was super easy to get used to! The meals are really yummy, and if you have cravings for carby stuff like bread or chips, you can buy or make alternatives :)

ETA: I lost 50 lbs in the first 2 months on this diet without changing my exercise habits. Depending on how much you have to lose, you might lose a lot less than that at first.

pieorstrudel5 · 2023-01-24T11:20:59+00:00

Goal weight (lbs) X 12 = sustainable calorie deficit.

Example.... 150×12=1800.

Sounds like a lot, but if you try to eat 1200 long term you'll hate it and give up..

Additionally, you should eat .7×goal weight (lbs) to see what the barest minimum of protein you should eat in a day. Again, for 150 × .7 = 105. I try to eat about 120g of protein a day.

Lift weights..fuel your body. 7-10k steps a day.

hol4792 · 2023-01-24T22:41:31+00:00

If you don't mind me asking, what's ur height and weight? Just to get a feel for how overweight u are/ how much you would need to loose ?

balsamicsnails · 2023-01-25T09:14:29+00:00

unironically consider martial arts, such as kick boxing or bjj.

you won't wind up with a manly body, instead, you'll be surrounded by partners and an instructor who will constantly be cheerleading you and motivating you and challenging you to get more cardio then you've ever had in your life and it will literally be impossible for you to not get incredibly in shape. try it.

mburgi0534 · 2023-01-25T14:39:14+00:00

Are you tracking literally everything you put in your mouth? I mean EVERYTHING. Water every ounce of water. Every condiment. Everything. Weightloss really simply is calories in calories out. If your in a calorie deficit you will lose fat.

But if one day you say eat in a 200 calorie deficit, drink 100 ounces of water and have a rest day with minimal exercise. You will gain water weight from drinking an excessive amount of water. That's not a bad thing, you didn't gain fat but the scale might go up a tad.

So instead of only going by the scale you need measurments. Get a tape measure, not the construction ones but the ones you use in sewing. Measure you waist, hips, under bust, bust, both upper arms, your neck, both your thighs, both calves. Record this when you weight in as well. This will also help determine whether your gaining lean muscle or fat if the scale goes up.

Also eat whole foods. You can eat way more in terms of volume if it's whole foods like vegetables or meat compared to processed diet food, it will make you feel full longer and make this all a lot easier.

Ktakesthecake · 2023-02-20T03:57:25+00:00

Diet, diet diet! And I don't mean going on a diet. I mean focusing on nourishing your body properly. You body will naturally proportion itself out with REAL nourishment and staying active. I suggest looking into pro-metabolic eating and focusing on REAL food. I cannot stress this enough. I'm also not saying to restrict yourself either from enjoying life! Especially not that. But learn to make healthy, delicious and nourishing meals and eat healthy snacks. I like to focus on a variety of Proteins, healthy fats and healthy carbs. Plenty of fruits and vegetables. I rarely eat bread or pasta to be honest, as it's just kinda empty of nourishment, as that is my main goal when I eat. That's what food is for! To fuel our bodies. Never really any processed foods either.

Our grocery list is usually something like:

Mandarin oranges Apples Bananas Brussel sprouts Radish Asparagus Mushrooms Carrots Collards Cabbage Lettuce Russet potatoes Sweet potatoes Tomatoes Sweet peppers Onions Frozen broccoli

Rolled oats White rice (NEVER ENRICHED) Lentils Canned tuna Frozen chicken Ground beef Steak Eggs

Coconut oil, olive oil, butter for fat

Also probiotic foods like kraut (I make myself) and yogurt

And then we'll each get a bag of chips lol sometimes a box of Mike and ikes sours each. Sometimes a chocolate bar or some ice cream. Like I said, don't NOT enjoy yourself, but be limited about it. Everything in moderation.

I love learning about nutrition! I have not always ate this way, but I eat this way now and I feel amazing and I've never looked better!

Title	He wants me to lose weight
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