Serious question. Was she sincere?

AcrobaticStick2432 · 2023-02-15T01:26:31+00:00

FUCK NO.

I heard (read) the same exact f*cking words while she was already with her new guy.

If she's like my ex, she's trying to polish her image - to herself and the rest of the world. She might be the extremely vain type, again, like my ex, who could maybe, just maybe, be telling horrible lies about you and painting herself like a holy angel so she appears as the good girl on her own story.

If you keep attacking her, you'll just give her justification and make her story seem true to her family and "friends", like "see? i try to be nice to him and that's what i get".

STOP IT.

dragonfly323 · 2023-02-15T02:05:20+00:00

She doesn’t want to feel guilty for cheating so that’s why she is wishing you love, peace and happiness.

CrazySanta7 · 2023-02-15T02:00:07+00:00

The real question is.....why do you care? Any correspondence not related to kids, delete it. Don't respond. She does not care about you. You are the bad guy in her story and always will be. Cheaters blame others for their cheating and never take accountability. Set some boundaries by telling her not to message you unless it's about kids.

ranger69danger · 2023-02-15T01:56:48+00:00

She wants but she is empty. Her platitudes need not be your problem much longer. Block her. Block her yesterday.

MomentSpecialist2020 · 2023-02-15T03:26:21+00:00

She’s trying to rent space in your head. Do not engage, do not reply. Grey stone.

Alatornio · 2023-02-15T03:00:47+00:00

Just ignore and dont feed the trolls.

Trytosurvive · 2023-02-15T04:36:39+00:00

Reading comments this must be a typical tactic by females. Mine said the worst day of her life was the wedding day and was trying to keep from sobbing on the day. That I was selfish, unsupportive $%$#$ etc etc and that I was the worst mistake in her life - that i forced her into her actions. A year before, I was the most supportive guy, saved her from her mental illness etc.. I don't know why people reinvent the past as all the gaslighting makes it harder for you to improve as a person as you don't know what is true.

stent00 · 2023-02-15T11:48:05+00:00

Sounds like she's lacking mg in accountability like all cheaters are. They rationalize their poor actions.

Apprehensive-Cost496 · 2023-02-15T19:45:45+00:00

Learn this saying - She is not my problem any more. Let AP #4 wine and dine and give her cash. If you respond nastily, it will only aid in her justification. From here on out, be a polite b@stard, be nice to any flying monkeys and show nothing but class but disengage, disengage, disengage.

storm838 · 2023-02-15T02:40:19+00:00

Bro, ignore.

upvotersfortruth · 2023-02-15T03:47:35+00:00

I got the same thing. What it means, I think, is that they want to stop engaging emotionally with your pain but you will still have to engage with theirs.

Barkaat · 2023-02-15T10:20:09+00:00

Dude ignore that disgusting woman. She already has destroyed herself and made a mockery of herself of she ran through 4 guys in 7 months. This just shows how unstable and unhappy she is. She is miserable and wants you to feel the same. Don’t take her back when he comes back crying and begging. She had no anxiety. She was just a disgusting cheater who is justifying her actions. Go no contact with her. The life choices she is making shows she will be unhappy and regret her actions for the rest of her life

FreeMic408 · 2023-02-15T12:12:03+00:00

Ima be blunt she don’t give a shit about u and trying to make you the bad guy. I woulda told her I hope she finds true love and not stds

EvidencePlz · 2023-02-15T15:42:17+00:00

Why do you care about what a female has to say about relationship? It no longer means anything. In today's day and age you need to learn to look at women purely from a sexual perspective, purely for sexual reasons. Anything else and you are looking for trouble and will end up devaluing, dehumanising and emasculating yourself in one way or the other.

eastbranch02 · 2023-02-15T03:47:56+00:00

I’ve heard this before. What it really means: You’re such a miserable peace of crap. I hope you turn yourself around some day. Don’t give it a second thought. Carry on.

dday_throwaway3 · 2023-02-15T09:40:48+00:00

You expect women to be held accountable and responsible for their actions? You must be new here. :)

In all seriousness, it's called solipsism. Her affairs were simply part of her mate ejection strategy.

No-Exit6560 · 2023-02-15T12:49:37+00:00

Don’t let her live rent free in your head.

You’re better off without her in your life and unless there’s a medical emergency or something of the like there’s no reason for you to communicate with her.

Get busy getting on with your life.

jimsmythee · 2023-02-15T13:58:01+00:00

F-no. She wasn’t sincere about wishing you would find true love.

It is ALL about you, and how horrible you are for not sending her money. That’s all she cares about. New man in her life and then getting money from you.

samk002001 · 2023-02-15T16:32:59+00:00

Those are some corporates email shit technique she’s pulling on you, bro! It’s always start at your emotional or feelings first, then go into details about the shit that she wants! Ignore all those blah blah blah… lines.

pharmd718 · 2023-02-15T16:39:02+00:00

Don’t over analyze it. She and her anxiety are no longer your problem. Live your best life.

Zealousideal_Half576 · 2023-02-15T20:51:09+00:00

This isn’t about you. It’s the narrative she’s weaving in her head. There’s nothing that needs to be done. You could acknowledge it’s receipt but you don’t owe her anything. Also, there’s no upside to engaging other than thanking her for the well wishes on your future happiness. Which is just a neutral acknowledgment and letting her know that you don’t accept the crap she is trying to put on you.

Slow_Way1108 · 2023-02-15T23:42:40+00:00

She's doing one of two things.

fucking with you

Or

Trying to clean up her self image, for internal or external reasons or both.

Either way, don't give her space in your head.

NITAREEDDESIGNS · 2023-02-16T05:28:12+00:00

Did she really wish me to find true love, peace, and happiness?

Nah...that's just so she can claim to have said it...in spite of the Hitler reincarnation you are. Is she BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder)?

You CAN find those things, btw. Just stop letting her live inside your head. Focus on your little man.

Took me about a year of IC 'til I started to believe. My ex husband was the problem. I had a small child that I had to fake it for. I'm 4 years past the need to fake it. Come on over...it's nice not breathing "crazy".

I'm not a man but I wish you well just the same.

Theinvertedforest · 2023-02-19T14:58:17+00:00

Cheaters only do things that serve themselves. She was wanting you to think well of her - she probably had a nano-second of shame that she needed you to cure for her.

Title	Serious question. Was she sincere?
Author	DraftPuzzleheaded677
Upvotes	8
Comments	38
Date	February 15, 2023 1:11 AM UTC (3 years ago)
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