You did the right thing! ✨👑

zorra666 · 2021-04-12T08:27:57+00:00

I needed to hear this today. Not about dating, but about my career.Just put in my resignation because sometimes your job IS the abusive relationship.

I feel great and there is nothing like looking your boss in the eye and knowing you can block them when your contract is up.

Potential_Affection · 2021-04-12T12:21:54+00:00

When your gut telling you something is wrong, it's your instinct telling you someone / something is incompatible with your belief system.

Believe it.

Your gut is there for a reason beyond digestive purpose.

onceuponasea · 2021-04-12T12:36:47+00:00

Yes. My ex used to guilt me into thinking I was giving up on our relationship. But I literally stayed with him for years trying to make it work. Its bc they don’t want to look at themselves and see that they were the cause for the relationship failing. Women try so hard. Too hard.

RecordingImportant94 · 2021-04-12T11:37:25+00:00

Yep. My ex attempts to guilt me into taking him back on a weekly basis. Nope. Not happening. I won’t even discuss it when he begs to talk about it. I don’t need a guilt trip about escaping his abuse and I most certainly am not going back even though he proclaims he has changed and would do anything (he hasn’t, and he won’t) I’m not a bad person for leaving him, it’s not my responsibility that he is unhappy without his mommybangmaid. We have to remind ourselves of this constantly to counteract the conditioning women are given to be kind and forgiving.

Sage_Planter · 2021-04-12T15:01:32+00:00

As much as it sucked, I am extremely grateful that I was able to walk away from my NVM with absolutely zero guilt. In the end, I found out he had been lying to me for our whole relationship and causing problems that could have been avoided had he been honest. I had always felt guilty about the thought of breaking up with him before I found out about his lies, and I was thankful that his actions absolved me of any guilt whatsoever.

Oh? He needs to move out and scramble to find an apartment? Should have been honest with me! His kids are going to be sad about our breakup? Maybe he should have thought about that before building our relationship out of lies! Shucks.

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gas_station_jax · 2021-04-12T18:59:28+00:00

Thank you for the reminder. Women are basically brainwashed from childhood to ALWAYS think "I can do more, I can do better, I just have to put up with this abuse a little longer, I just have to be the 'strong' woman that doesn't complain and can do it all a little more. My husband/boyfriend/boss/friend/coworker/etc. will finally see my worth and treat me better." and I am so sick of that. Anytime a woman unapologetically walks away from any sort of abusive relationship I feel like men RACE to berate her and call her weak as a form of manipulation. "cOmUnIcATe" fuck that noise. You don't need to sit there and worry over if you truly did everything you could. You did. Don't let trash men neg you into feeling otherwise. You wouldn't have been pushed to leave if you felt there was anything else you could've done. You're by default, in general, HUGE givers, and unfortunately trash men will often try to take advantage of this. Don't let them. Walk away with pride, knowing that you are respecting yourself.

emziewemziee · 2021-04-12T12:12:13+00:00

exactly. we know our own emotions better than anyone, i will never stand to be told i’m too emotional

chipcrazy · 2021-04-12T14:38:51+00:00

Fuck. I needed to hear this today. I don’t think my marriage is working out.

gjorde_jag_det · 2021-04-12T12:17:22+00:00

I needed to hear this, thank you! Just going through a separation from my NVX and was feeling massive guilt for ripping our son's family apart because I finally had decided to prioritize my mental health. Thank you!

AyemHerself · 2021-04-12T11:55:56+00:00

Thank you for this.

imstah · 2021-04-12T12:52:33+00:00

I really did need to hear it today.. I've been feeling bad about kind of screwing over my LVM, except it was less that i screwed him over and more that he tried to screw me over and it backfired epically. Like EPICALLY. And he's furious at me, talking about how he's gonna sicc the cops on me cause I have an 11yo but allegedly sometimes smoke weed (I live in an illegal state). I have no doubt he actually made the report lol.. i just feel bad for him

JaneD-oh · 2021-04-12T15:49:56+00:00

Recently blocked someone. He didn't give a shit about me, never did. He showed me that so many times. It was still kinda hard to do, he had reached out and told me about some health issues he had been having, and told me that they could have been the reason he behaved the way he did a few years ago. There was no apology of course, just an explanation. He wanted me to provide some entertainment, a distraction from his life. I told him he needed a therapist and blocked him.

ferociouslycurious · 2021-04-12T19:29:00+00:00

My ex said he was leaving. This time I didn’t ask him to stay let alone beg him. He claimed later I was giving up. Dude, you never once tried and I stopped caring. IDGAF what you do.

lunadelsol00 · 2021-04-12T15:50:58+00:00

Jesus christ. I JUST put up a new profile picture on WhatsApp, where I'm alone, replacing the one in which we are together. I thought maybe I was overreacting. I open up reddit and this is THE VERY FIRST THING I SEE.

Xiena78 · 2021-04-12T11:43:03+00:00

I need to hear this. Thank you.

rideoffalone · 2021-04-12T18:13:46+00:00

New Taylor Swift song addressing this exact situation

potmakesyouparanoid · 2021-04-12T18:27:36+00:00

I needed this, recently cut off a toxic friend, no explanations, just delete block because she has been incredibly manipulative. I was feeling guilty but honestly not having her around gives me space for more positive things.

FreshStarter0 · 2021-04-12T14:00:45+00:00

If anything, my guilt and resentment are about what I did to myself by tolerating the human leech for so long. I wish I could make my former self come to her senses before I sacrificed so much time and energy that my career suffered to the extent that I jeopardized my immigration status (and eventually had to move continents due to unemployment). I have forgiven myself for the most part, but I can't help but wonder where I would be now if I had made better choices. At least my life is finally back on track again. It is also comforting that I now know why I got sucked into that situation and I don't think I'll find myself in that position ever again.

honeybaby02 · 2021-04-12T10:46:54+00:00

I needed this. A guy that played with me for months, and then ghosted me, messaged me after a year. I gave him sooo many chances and he had me looking like a clown. Here’s to better things💞.

MysticalGoldenKiller · 2021-04-12T12:56:14+00:00

I needed this like 3 years ago, but I'm glad it's here for those who need it now.

waddamelone · 2021-04-12T20:00:32+00:00

Thank you. I already knew. But sometimes confirmation is needed. 🥰

zagreus8me · 2021-04-13T04:34:04+00:00

Its 5.32am and I have had zero sleep in my 24hr shift. I needed this thank you. I was seriously on the brink of insanity. I made a cup of tea and sat down to open this. Thank you.

divingrose77101 · 2021-04-12T13:38:04+00:00

Except, stop trying so many time. That’s a waste of most of those times.

throwaway-rhombus · 2021-04-12T14:51:37+00:00

This is probably what my LVX thinks too though...

He barely let us try, we barely got a chance. We were happy like 95% of the time, and like most avoidant men, he just let the issues pile up without telling me and then just gave up and broke up over a text, expecting me to just know how he was feeling

galian84 · 2021-04-14T07:12:56+00:00

Thank you for posting this!! I just broke up with my emotionally and verbally abusive bf. Of course he was guilting and shaming me and doing everything he could to try and get me back. It was only when I told him he should be glad to be rid of me if he really believed I was a chronic liar and cheater, that he stopped with the text spamming.

Sometimes you just hit that breaking point. Do what’s right, don’t let them try and convince you otherwise.

foreverdreamgirl · 2021-04-12T15:15:05+00:00

Appreciate this.

edoth · 2021-04-13T02:46:19+00:00

Thank you so much I broke up with him a lvm a few months ago and I just started dating again and I felt guilty now I know what it’s okay because I deserve better and I’m not going to wait around for him to accept that I’m moving on 🥂

Krissybelle · 2021-04-12T14:24:29+00:00

Thank you for this. It's not about an ex but an exfriend.

Title	You did the right thing! ✨👑
Author	AcadiaLeather5071
Upvotes	3048
Comments	43
Date	April 12, 2021 7:45 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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