I just got an amicable divorce. What should I do now?

DeadBedroomRealTalk · 2023-11-02T18:58:49+00:00

Move forward and don’t make the same mistake of planning your life around a woman.

Ever-learning271 · 2023-11-02T19:44:38+00:00

Get to a gym or set one up in your house, play golf or go for walks at nearby trails/parks, find a support group or therapist, read, read, read self help books….focus on YOU! Good Luck❤️‍🩹 welcome to freedom!

henrysmyagent · 2023-11-02T19:15:25+00:00

Build your EMPIRE.

Your EMPIRE will look different from other men's empires. A writer will create a body of work, a painter or photographer a portfolio, an insurance agent a book of business.

What do you want your empire to look like?

No matter what it is, even if it is a wife & kids, NEVER make a woman the focus of your life.

A woman is meant to be a companion on your journey through life - not the goal.

Vett the women you date to see if they would make a good companion for you as you struggle to make your dreams come true.

Honestly, most women couldn't give 2 shits about helping you achieve your goals. Worse, some women will selfishly thwart your efforts.

Pick your next companion carefully.

OpeScuseMe74 · 2023-11-02T21:07:00+00:00

Figure out what you like to do. Find or start a social group that also enjoys it. Volunteer somewhere that gives your free time more purpose. Take a fun side job. I love music and work part time at a local concert venue. Splurge (but don't go crazy) on something you've really wanted. For me, it was some cool Lego sets for an adult budget. Someone else suggested self-help books. Become a better you. The best you will attract a better mate. Take yourself out to a sit down dinner and a movie. Ain't nothing wrong with going out alone. Find out who you are now and who or what you would like for the future. Make a plan to get there.

You got this, bro!

Imagintheworld · 2023-11-02T23:58:41+00:00

Go and get laid

dnbndnb · 2023-11-02T21:03:20+00:00

Meetup.com can become your first start of a new social network. Other options include the gym, sports clubs, church, charity groups, and similar. You have to put yourself out there.

S4z3r4c · 2023-11-02T21:10:35+00:00

Gym. Forever.

Lumpy-Prior3261 · 2023-11-02T21:40:09+00:00

Go to the library and meet a good woman that's smart and beautiful I would rather want to meet one there than at a dam club . I like to do alot of different things since I ended my first marriage I got into Rick climbing,mountain biking more than I was before, making all kinds of wooden furniture .was already a carpenter but I do the furniture at home . I got into fly fishing way to much I ended up quitting my job that I was at forever .and went flyfishing for 3 months ,plus I tracked around the country to visit family I have on the east coast , Virginia, , DC , New York, then I got bored so I started my own business with a friend we were banking had about 30 guys working for us. Then the housing burst in 2007 and 2008 and couldn't give a job away . So we closed the doors on that but in 2010 started a new business just myself dam I wish I would have done this business the first time I could have retired by 45 yrs old but it's cool I'm about ready to retire now I'm 54 yrs old , and want to go play the rest of my life .

l3tsR0LL · 2023-11-02T23:37:27+00:00

Same here

My therapist keeps telling me to meet people and do stuff. I've been a husband and a father for so long I don't know what to do

I mean, I do know but it's hard to transition

Diablo_Canyon2 · 2023-11-03T03:54:56+00:00

Celebrate.

smooth-vegetable-936 · 2023-11-03T12:20:44+00:00

Don’t get remarried again. U can still have a great relationship with another person. I got divorced and mine was amicable too . After it was done she knew that it was a big mistake. She signed on everything and her wish was 45k plus a car, I gave it to her. Last month she wanted to be married again with me on paper and didn’t mind giving me the money back but I refused bcs I don’t wanna be married on paper ever again. We do have a relationship again and actually we still live together bcs we have two daughters. But our finances are separate. I don’t mind as long as we are not married. See now it’s easier to go our way if something happens and we have been way better together since we’re divorced. I actually like it bcs I have goals for myself only and my daughters. She chose this path and sold it for 45k meanwhile I should be a millionaire in 2 years if the market recovers. I’m 43 . Sometimes things happens for a good reason.

techrmd3 · 2023-11-02T20:41:13+00:00

what to do?

Take the lessons this experience has taught you.

1 - "you can't have the rest of your life" tied to one person anymore. Today relationships are shorter and more transactional than ever before.

2 - You can't expect to be "married for life" anymore

3 - need a reason outside of a woman "to get up in the morning"... I suggest a Dog. More loyal and less nagging

4 - Find a mission in life you believe in. I suggest career development. or big education goal like learning a new language (you can double up by learning a new language that is likely to gain you female companionship in future)

5 - Learn to date. Spend the time read a few dating books. As in 10+ it works

MightBusiness7231 · 2023-11-03T01:57:15+00:00

Get on antidepressants.

Join a sports team and make friends. Join a church and go to the potlucks and the coffees. Get outdoors.

Gattsama · 2023-11-03T03:24:43+00:00

A man needs to work being ft. Physically fit, emotionally fit, mentally fit, and financially fit. If not already start working our regularly and eat healthier. Work on any emotional or mental health issues as needed. Stack, save, invest / set up passive come streams.

The rest of it: hobbies, women, travel, etc. will declare themselves as you work on being fit. The goal is to work on living your best life and being the best version of yourself possible.

upvotersfortruth · 2023-11-03T09:57:01+00:00

Come visit us in Bangkok.

cleats4u · 2023-11-03T12:33:07+00:00

I got myself an E-bike and hit the bike trails. But I'm old. You might want a regular bike. Lol.

Timely_Froyo1384 · 2023-11-03T12:58:12+00:00

Get yourself a plan of things you want to try.

Write them all down and then do them.

Humans need not just physical activity but mental activity as well. You need a challenge. So thing to look forward too

Mountain_Collar_7620 · 2023-11-03T13:41:46+00:00

Live your Life, Celebrate Your Victory ✌️

phuckyew18 · 2023-11-03T15:08:00+00:00

Volunteer somewhere. Adult literacy, ESOL, Soup kitchen, Food bank. You will meet new people. If you EVER feel as if you want to get married again PRE NUP!

TheSpaceBoundPiston · 2023-11-03T16:10:31+00:00

Hear me out... racecar?

dudefromyork · 2023-11-03T18:12:55+00:00

Whatever the fuck you want to do. For the rest of your life.

organicwilly · 2023-11-02T20:54:05+00:00

Buy a lottery ticket

laser_scalpel · 2023-11-03T17:35:51+00:00

Make new friends, meet new people. Doesn't have to be dating. meetup.com for hobbies.

Title	I just got an amicable divorce. What should I do now?
Author	ThrowRAtsatcheese2
Upvotes	20
Comments	35
Date	November 2, 2023 6:41 PM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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