“young attractive women live life on easy mode” - why this is a mislead statement.

You see this argument a lot in RP/BP/incel spaces, that young attractive women have it easy cause they’re actively taken care of/always given stuff, are always given attention, always praised, etc - “life on easy mode”, is how its put.

Now, there are two obvious issues with this that often aren’t accounted for

1) these young women, most times, frankly don’t know what they’re getting into and don’t understand the ‘unwritten impact’ of their decisions - its easy to judge when you’re from the outside looking in, but imagine as soon as you’re perceived to be of age, you’re constantly being sought after and given attention to, love bombed, praise, given free stuff, etc from lots of men, but older ones especially. Of course, all these men want something in return, and more often than not a lot of these women find themselves in situations that they don’t know how to get out of, or situations that they just have to go with. Lots of these women get older, become more cynical and jaded, and often end up in situations they were guided to because they’ve never been given the space to develop their own agency. It becomes very easy to manipulate someone when you appeal to their insecurities, and the ‘image’ of maturity via these older men is exactly an in for this.

2) they hardly develop any real skills, personality, interests, etc - they’re not taken as seriously and because they’re only ever treated as objects to be sought for, they hardly have any agency and again, they don’t have the space to develop it.

What’s the result of all this? they get older, they haven’t developed anything usable in the long run, and suddenly, they’re left jaded and messy as the men who were initially interested in them have moved on. Suddenly, the only trait people valued for socially, the only trait people notice from you is feeling and you have nothing, no skills, no redeeming qualities, and frankly, a youth wasted.

That’s the sad truth for most attractive young women as they age, and its kinda baffling how the RP/BP expects people who’ve never had agency to have the forethought and wisdom to make better decisions when they’re actively bombarded by the same men reaching after them.