Watching your wife go from your partner to your adversary is one of the most insane things I can imagine

xadmin1 · 2024-02-18T07:57:36+00:00

Do you see the sudden discard? That’s the hallmark of borderline personality disorder. Go read it and everything will make sense for you.

IllustriousCry672 · 2024-02-18T05:30:20+00:00

July will be 2 years for me, and I still haven't full processed it. I eventually got to the point where I just don't think about it. The first year, it was constantly on my mind every second, as it just doesn't 'check out' in anyway my mind could understand.

These days, I'll see something that reminds me of our 10 years together that literally ended from our highest to our lowest overnight, and I just get am empty ache inside, and I just ignore it until it passes

981AG · 2024-02-18T01:25:23+00:00

Men experience physical and psychological change …in that order. Women experience emotional and physical change….in that order Men must unwind neurons and dendritic action within the brain and that includes separation….you are feeling your brain change..with your body…it hurts…. Women change with their intuition…it very difficult for us men replace her intuition

organicwilly · 2024-02-18T00:10:54+00:00

Oh yes the old Jeckyll and Hyde.

AznJames704 · 2024-02-17T17:50:19+00:00

I can agree with this so much. I honestly can not stand mine

Long-Review-1861 · 2024-02-17T10:05:06+00:00

Bro you'll come to realize that casual sex just leaves you feeling empty. It's totally not worth it, don't believe societies lies

FlyingSaucer51 · 2024-02-17T06:55:02+00:00

2 years for me too and my story is pretty much the same as yours. No fighting. No complaints. No discussion. Cuddling and watching movies the night before. Moved out while I was gone for the day. Came home to chaos. My 12 year old cat stolen. Absolute hell.

It’s pretty cruel the way we are abandoned with no warning. It’s selfish. It’s childish. It’s not humane. It was like being an unwanted pet that was just set free.

It will never make sense.

Winter_Cattle_2133 · 2024-02-17T03:09:10+00:00

Damn 2 year blues today. This is the 2nd comment I've seen today about the 2 year mark. I was still a mess until like...year 4. That's not to discourage anyone making them think it will take that long. It usually doesn't. But it can. I read an article (and for the life of me can't find it again). That it can take 5 years post divorce for some people to recover. So that could be upwards of 6 years since seperation. We say "this ruined my life " for a reason. Not "oh my divorce was a mild inconvenience"

roshi-roshi · 2024-02-17T01:17:22+00:00

1 week in for me. I won’t survive if I’m still this way in 1-2 years. I don’t know what to do. I’m so lost.

Affectionate_Hawk236 · 2024-02-17T01:07:01+00:00

Yeah. My ex wife was my best friend. One of my only friends. Our son is the only light in my life. I truly feel bad for him because I can't go on. She said "When I look at you I want to leave" and I think the same thing, for the opposite reason. It hurts, and I don't see the future getting better.

BC594 · 2024-02-17T00:36:19+00:00

It is crazy. My ex has done it 3 times. I’m a cautionary tale of reconciliation. First time she cheated, second and third were all tied to our separation now.

I took her back after the infidelity. We were good for 7 years and then it happened again. All highly tied to the amount of stress the world was throwing at us, though she says that has nothing to do with it 🤨 We got back together for two weeks and then again it happened.

This time she preemptively separated so she didn’t have to feel bad for sleeping with other people.

All that to say, all of these times it was the same. One day she was good the next she wasn’t. Hell after the two week stint it happened from Sunday morning to Sunday afternoon.

Absolutely bonkers

GravityIsForRookies · 2024-02-17T00:33:30+00:00

I’m at about 2 years as well. 3 bodies unless I count the ex… none of the others mattered. I spend far too much time trying to understand WTF actually happened. It’s not that I won’t accept it… part of me just can’t seem to.

Title	Watching your wife go from your partner to your adversary is one of the most insane things I can imagine
Author	Ok-Barracuda-8970
Upvotes	81
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Date	February 17, 2024 12:17 AM UTC (2 years ago)
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