How many times in your life have you been rejected? How often do you have dates?

omega05 · 2022-10-20T16:06:24+00:00

Who keeps count of their rejections lol

It happens to many guys. Why worry about it? All part of the game

CompetitionFair7686 · 2022-10-20T19:02:48+00:00

Online dating isn’t a true reflection of your worth as a potential dating partner.

People on the internet don’t behave the same way they do in real life.

It’s all facades, and fake online personas, and if you take it seriously when all of it is mostly fake, your self esteem will suffer.

JustinianIV · 2022-10-20T18:00:27+00:00

On apps probably like 99% rejection rate. In real life, more like 50%. Not to say my game is any good in real life, it’s pretty bad tbh, the difference is probably i’m more likely to shoot my shot online.

Canadian-Seductioner · 2022-10-20T16:51:00+00:00

I don't keep track of my rejections, that's a bit extreme. As for dates, I'm meeting girls pretty much every day lol

berge7f9 · 2022-10-20T17:55:39+00:00

37 year old male. I’ve been on about 6 first dates. Never been on a 2nd date.

I can’t count how many times I’ve been rejected. But then again I search for dates via online dating. I don’t hit on everything that moves. I’ve never asked out a woman in real life.

cryptosis420 · 2022-10-20T21:52:13+00:00

Brah. I still get rejected and i still go on dates. Many people cant approach. This is our advantage, approach approach approach.

Competitive-Bill-612 · 2022-10-20T18:06:26+00:00

I’ve had rejection rates of 80% but average around 50-40% every sesh.

But out of those 2-3 dates when u get lucky with one of them and ur lying in bed with a shit eating grin, are u still even gonna remember those rejections?

Oh_Debussy · 2022-10-20T18:20:26+00:00

I don’t know how many times I’ve been rejected but I remember all of them

CautiousSea4815 · 2022-10-20T18:46:43+00:00

Enough times to know it happens to everyone.

Ironically, the women who rejected me over the years were not as attractive as the ones I dated/slept with.

rftg345 · 2022-10-20T21:52:17+00:00

Dude, you are doing better than most men in getting consistent traffic lol, appreciate that. As the others have said about online dating being bs (yeah for the most part lmao), and that rejection is part of the game, yeah it is. All men get rejected a lot until they find some success.

Anyway my perspective is a bit different on the nuance of rejection. Just try to analyse what’s actually causing it before coming to any conclusion. If this is consistent there are often behaviours that we may do without knowing that leads to a higher rejection rate, then you may want to change it up. If it’s things about the approach, how you talk, your fashion, flirt and escalate then you will need to improve these things and test your insights out on the field to get some improvement in your situation. Like the point I’m trying to make is, rejection is just a form of feedback that you can weaponise to rapidly improve.

However don’t go super overboard with it, like you gotta understand when the fine like with what you can control and change. Like sometimes we get rejected due to the most random ass things like “oh I wasn’t feeling his shirt” type shit, like that’s more of a preference kind of thing that’s out of your control. Also even for the biggest of players, sometimes they just get rejected because the girl simply doesn’t like them even if they did everything right. So don’t be too hard on yourself, maybe all these girls rejected you for things that aren’t really bad about you.

About online dating though, yeah it can be bullshit most of the time, but it’s not in the way that most people on this page are actually thinking. Girls are obviously looking for long-term relationships via the apps, otherwise there wouldn’t be any dating app stories and shit. The problem is that most women even with the most mid of profiles, get unlimited amounts of attention from 100s of dudes, unlike most men. This changes their entire mindset on dating. They are there and are going to pick dates with their “best” options and sus them out. Basically even if you go on a date, the odds against you are out of proportion as most people with many options are in the mindset of being picky to the point where it doesn’t actually impact how the potential relationship could go, and fair enough they have the right to choose what they think is the “best”. This also puts many , not all, in a mindset where they can consistently misbehave, such as ghosting and stuff, and get away with it. Also the apps physiologically set your mind to compare profiles by the person’s appearance, so if you ain’t conventionally attractive, you will have mere chances.

This doesn’t mean that dating apps isn’t a viable tool, as it’s seem to be working out in terms getting consistent number of dates for you, it’s just one of many tools. Don’t ditch the apps because you get rejected, keep it and persevere and improve on cold-approach game.

There are also other ways to get women, such as talking to them in real life through a common platform, and if you are good at flirting and able to carry yourself, you actually have higher chances of winning. Of course the consequences of rejection here are higher, but mastering this outlet where there is way less competition, you can win more often.

Anyway that’s my 2 cents.

quietmoney215 · 2022-10-20T19:21:50+00:00

Well, I think different than most dudes.

And this isn't being arrogant or nothing negative.

But I never get rejected....EVER!!

The reason for that is because when I approach a chick, I'm not looking for acceptance, I'm looking for compatibility.

I don't think: I hope she likes me.

I think: I hope she's a cool chick and we vibe.

I also don't rate chicks 1-10

I rate chicks "Not attractive" or "Attractive"

That way I ain't putting so called 8s 9s 10s on pedestals.

Game is all about mindset and psychology at its core.

dheidjdedidbe · 2022-10-20T18:00:28+00:00

M25. Combined I probably have several hundred rejections. I don’t count but over the years of putting myself out there adds up.

I have never been on a date

Usual-Cat-5855 · 2022-10-20T18:05:22+00:00

You can’t expect to match everyone you meet. You need to have an abundance mind set. so when meeting girls, just picture it as two adults having fun getting to know each other. If anything comes from it great if not, then move on. You did ok before with out them and you’ll be ok after meeting them. Take every rejection as being one step further to finding someone who’s right for you. Have this mindset and you snd you will have much more success. Hope this helps

leashes-enjoyer · 2022-10-20T21:38:56+00:00

Rejected? I think 3 times; and it's been more than 3 years since the last time I had a date.

R0ZPIERDALAT0R · 2022-10-20T22:22:59+00:00

I’m at the point, where even oh so rare successes are rejections, haha The one girl that aggreed on going out, quite eagerly even, ghosted me straight after. Same goes for tinder matches - no response. So you can say 100% are rejections. But hey, gotta keep on trying I guess. At least my gym accepts me :-)

Anussauce · 2022-10-21T00:36:38+00:00

Cannot count. Well over 1000. Many more online than In-person. A large part of my job is cold out reach sales… so it’s nothing phasing.

sweetnbrattyy · 2022-10-21T15:27:47+00:00

i have been rejected a lot cause i was a weird kid due to trauma and shit and always went for the WRONGEST ppl without even realizing it and scared off everyone who tried to approach me. I changed some thing about me and i start learning how to love myself first. now im really happy with where my dating and general sex life is going :) hope things will get better for you too! try starting from self love, it’s always a great idea!!!

Good-Phrase · 2022-10-20T16:37:48+00:00

If I had to guess I’ve probably been rejected about 5x if we’re talking about asking someone out for the first time. I’ve only asked about 13 women out and I’m 26. 5 of them led to short-term/long-term relationships. I probably go on 1-3 first dates per year if I’m single on average. I’m super picky and I usually only go for it if I’m catching some signs. Probably should note that I don’t use OLD ever and I’ve only cold approached like twice and it didn’t work.

billoverbeck00 · 2022-10-20T17:14:35+00:00

I don’t know but I will say this this year alone I went on 3 first dates and never got a second one lmaoo

ElevatorBig6322 · 2022-10-21T09:51:58+00:00

Never got accepted . Lol 🤣 im ugly , now I know there is no such thing as internal beauty.

great_account · 2022-10-20T17:22:55+00:00

Total rejections in my whole life? Jeeze I lost count. I get dates whenever I want.

2022-10-20T17:40:08+00:00

I don’t keep track but a lot. I rarely go out of my basement

chillbill1220 · 2022-10-20T17:54:07+00:00

In online dating what counts as rejection? I find I usually need to match with about 20 girls to get 1 date. But I haven’t been flaked on in awhile. Mostly just unresponsive matches or girls that never truly agree to a time and place.

13-bald-turkeys · 2022-10-20T19:34:35+00:00

If you can remember how many times you've been rejected, then either it's not very much- which means you're not even putting yourself out there, or you're really upset about it because you're insecure and needy.

2022-10-20T20:53:33+00:00

I treat rejections from dates the same as work: i only need 1 yes

Acrobatic-Fun-3281 · 2022-10-20T21:16:48+00:00

How many times have you been rejected? Forget about counting. They don’t make numbers that are high enough.

More troubling is how women have taken to ridiculing guys who had the guts to approach them, and making videos/posting them on Tick Tock. Or doing something equally stupid or insipid.

But as long as you don’t care, you’ll do fine

RandomFish83 · 2022-10-20T22:44:54+00:00

About 50% of the time online, never irl so far. I think I'm one of those guys who has good personality but not good looking enough (I'm like a 6) that most girls who've known me wanna give me a shot.

Impossible_Yellow751 · 2022-10-20T22:45:58+00:00

I’ve been rejected by every crush I’ve had and I’ve been on zero dates with no man I am not meant to be in love with anyone cause no one cares enough to love or spend time with me I’m not special enough to be easily dateable

Crixusgannicus · 2022-10-20T22:58:55+00:00

Never. I only discover if a woman has good taste and/or good sense

or not.

If not...not my problem. Give no shits.

If you're countin', you're carein'

STOP IT!

moderndayfez · 2022-10-20T23:16:14+00:00

Too many to count or to keep track of. But it's kind of the of the point you don't focus on your losses, don't get me wrong you focus on what may have gone wrong but you're not always going to win. That's just part of the game dude.

The ones that get really good at this don't care if they get rejected or not and in essence that only projectors more confidence which in turns get you more girls

Milksteaknow · 2022-10-20T23:32:18+00:00

Going by the last three years, probably 150-200 rejections. 40 dates exactly. 2 relationships, 2 FWB, and 16 lays

OctanBoi · 2022-10-20T23:58:55+00:00

I’ve been rejected 11 times by age 17 (pretty much 12 times). Not a single win my whole life. I’m fit, tall, dress well, and put a lot of effort into being polite and sociable, but I still get shot down every time.

Raphael1758 · 2022-10-21T00:00:26+00:00

I've tried to get about 5 girls numbers not dates but it's 5/0 for the women 🤣🤣

hulk181 · 2022-10-21T00:14:09+00:00

Don't count your rejections. It'll only make you want to give up. Who cares if you have a 0.005% success rate if you're with a hot girl you're happy with or you're doing much better than you were a year ago? Failure makes you stronger. A diamond is forged through heat and pressure.

Least-Recording-2073 · 2022-10-21T01:19:57+00:00

Never rejected, because I've never asked.

Sonechko_K · 2022-10-21T01:45:37+00:00

100 dates in 90 days🙋🏼‍♀️

lildudefromXdastreet · 2022-10-21T01:57:59+00:00

I have no idea how many times I’ve been rejected, but I go on a date about 4 times a month, sometimes more, sometimes less depending how free my weekends are. Once or twice with a return customer and the rest new girls

distawest · 2022-10-21T07:01:50+00:00

Do not bother with nonsense ... statistics of failure do not provide any benefit.

Drawing lessons from your failures is most fruitful, but to start logging them is hopeless

Forget all about it and proceed with your life

miklas143 · 2022-10-21T10:32:55+00:00

No Dates tbh, m20 Not sure how to really get them because Apps Dont work for me

Ok_Reindeer_2975 · 2022-10-21T11:11:15+00:00

0 cuz I haven't tried really lmao

BestAdviceYouCanHave · 2022-10-21T11:18:29+00:00

If you can count the number of rejection you have as a guy, you’re going in too few times!

devilkingx2 · 2022-10-21T21:25:41+00:00

You need to fail more times than you can count if you want to succeed even once.

You need to get rejected by 10 girls to find 1 that has low interest. And then go through 10 low interest girls flaking for 1 that has high interest.

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