I keep getting “maybe” replies when I ask if/when she wants to meet up. Next step?

1keentolearn12 · 2021-07-13T13:10:27+00:00

She isn’t interested and every time you send her message you come across as even more desperate

Move on

AdClassic4119 · 2021-07-13T12:33:06+00:00

Just ignore a girl thats not interested in you instead of wasting your time on her

mjornir · 2021-07-13T13:16:22+00:00

"Maybe" is womanese for "no" move on

Legitimate-Lies · 2021-07-13T15:43:14+00:00

Just say “okay hmu” and never hit her up again. She isn’t interested in anything and your availability has turned you into an option. If it isn’t a fuck yes, it’s a no

CautiousAbility5963 · 2021-07-13T14:28:52+00:00

From my experience, when it is too hard to meet up with a girl, the date will always end up being shit

Teraskas · 2021-07-13T15:32:30+00:00

Experience has taught me: If she doesn't match your effort/responses, then don't waste your time and energy on someone who isn't interested.

Famous-Quantity3731 · 2021-07-13T17:06:01+00:00

Bro women aren’t that mystical and different from us.

Let me ask you this, if a girl you found attractive and wanted to hook up with or date asked you to hang out, would you respond to her attempt to make a set plan with “maybe” and then leave her on read?

No, you’d set it up if you were interested and found her attractive.

This girl isn’t interested in you. Any girl whose vague, non committal or hardly conversational isn’t worth attempting to pursue more - you’ll make her LESS attracted to you. Trust me, she knows you want her.

RosyClearwater · 2021-07-13T13:52:19+00:00

Move on. If she were really interested she would chat you up and move worlds to see you. Move on.

Intelligent-Toast · 2021-07-13T13:35:44+00:00

Put the ball in her court and peace out like she’s never going to get back to you. Be like, hey it seems like you have a busy schedule so I’m going to back off. If you want to get together, reach out when the time is right for you. If she ever reaches out, don’t say yes to her first request, but do say yes to a second. Being too available is a turn off.

File-Complex · 2021-07-13T14:22:25+00:00

She’s not interested

dontbanmeagaindudes · 2021-07-13T13:50:59+00:00

The next step is to move on.

TheSunshineMan · 2021-07-13T15:12:16+00:00

** and then suggested a time (left on read).**

Don't message her again - wait for her to initiate.

if she doesn't - then you can message her in two weeks one last time.

quickjump · 2021-07-13T13:45:08+00:00

Bro I wouldn't ask again, move on.

bigm5995 · 2021-07-13T19:36:28+00:00

find another chick or ask her "this do you even want to go on a date with me" if you ask let her know that it's not gonna hurt your feelings

froze_gold · 2021-07-13T20:35:30+00:00

Best chance at reconsideration/display of valuable self confidence is this example:

"Hey meet at x for drinks at 7" "Maybe" "Ok another time then" puts phone down/texts another girl/goes out alone and owns it without thinking about girls and intent to have fun

I pulled this when a girl tried changing the plans I made. She pulled up at the assigned destination immediately and have been screwing her since.

Keezymac34 · 2021-07-13T19:03:01+00:00

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Wu_Pao-chao · 2021-07-13T15:21:16+00:00

First off you should be spinning several plates, so you should be trying yo line up 2 to 3 dates just in case one falls through.

secondly, ask her what kind of trouble is she getting into this week or this weekend, then throw out your plans, "lets go this really cool bar that has good drinks on friday .. Saturday" etc.

its another way of asking her availability and then being a man and leader by already having a time and place to take her

l0s3rSant0s · 2021-07-13T15:22:23+00:00

she doesn’t really want you. drop her

JB_NSA · 2021-07-13T16:22:15+00:00

Unless a woman gives you a definite and/or enthusiastic "yes", her answer is "no".

Move on and don't allow yourself to be treated as an option.

Robobvious · 2021-07-13T18:07:50+00:00

I just went through this with a chick, if she only seems interested late at night when she’s bored or horny, she’s not really interested. Go find someone that actually wants to make plans with you and isn’t just in it for the attention or the fantasy.

r1bb1tTheFrog · 2021-07-13T20:19:38+00:00

If she engages when your conversation turns to suggestive stuff, then ask her if she wants to come over. No planning. No date. No tomorrow. Simple.

And if she doesn’t respond, don’t send any more messages. If she deflects, leave her on read.

Ivabighairy1 · 2021-07-13T20:47:13+00:00

Next step is abundance

katietakespictures · 2021-07-13T23:48:52+00:00

She is not interested. Move on.

If you really want, tell her something like “I’d love to see you again, let me know when you’re free” but then you have to let it go and accept if she never reaches out again.

Jack_Blesus · 2021-07-13T20:01:55+00:00

Soft next. Pursue others and in a week hit her with another “hey let’s do this” she’ll either agree and y’all set plans or say “maybe” again in which case you just soft next her for another week. Minimal effort and still keeps her around as an option. Once whoever she’s entertaining at the moment breaks her heart or loses interest in her you’ll get your turn.

ThenIJizzedInMyPants · 2021-07-13T20:04:57+00:00

Why are you asking if she wants to meet up? Just suggest a date/time/location and if she is not interested, let her suggest an alternative

If she doesn't do that, cut your losses and move on

GrandRub · 2021-07-13T20:24:22+00:00

dont say anything - dont chase.

if she doesnt want to - next.

otapita · 2021-07-13T20:35:07+00:00

Been there

She just wants the attention. Delete her number and move on

PuppersGoneWild · 2021-07-13T21:42:46+00:00

Either move on or last ditch “lol you never got back to me” but don’t have any expectations for a response

just1nc4s3 · 2021-07-14T00:03:59+00:00

Give her a choice-close. Instead of saying “Would you like to do something tonight?” you would say something along the lines of “would you like to do x or y?”. This limits the kind of answers you can get to two choices. If that doesn’t work, it may be time to cut and run. Don’t waste your time. She’s just getting her rocks off.

1sa712 · 2021-07-13T17:44:19+00:00

You just need to find another way around,I was trying to sleep with a Mexican girl,it took me 2 years before I fucked her,before that I received a lot of "maybes" from her,after two or three new approaches she gave in and we been fucking since .

klippklar · 2021-07-13T19:50:57+00:00

If she was truly interested in a meetup (and not just messaging) she'd offer a different date.

For women it's not a pipeline to sex and neither should it be for you, Try to enjoy every step of the way. And try to seed the date as soon as possible.

rhajin1999 · 2021-07-13T19:06:30+00:00

Ignore em

mjornir · 2021-07-19T17:24:00+00:00

Update: asked what she was up to, asked to see if she wanted to do the wine/movie thing, got another maybe, removed her from my Snapchat contacts. On to the next

greyman0425 · 2021-07-13T20:47:46+00:00

Maybe = no, move on.

OkGuidance4639 · 2021-07-13T21:01:56+00:00

Ask her to marry you

seeeker775 · 2021-07-13T21:28:16+00:00

She’s half interested, but not enough to commit. Meaning, she’s not interested. She’s probably waiting on better options too. These are games. Just ignore her and move on.

Caution: when you ignore her, there is the possibility that in a week she will message you. This means her options have run out for now and she’s finally hitting you up. Overall though this is not a recipe for love.

Just move on.

LAdude71 · 2021-07-13T21:34:43+00:00

Leave her alone. Stop contacting her. She isn't interested and is just using you for validation.

She's more than likely showing off your texts to her girlfriends and making fun of you.

I would ghost her. Preserve your dignity.

Droseph13 · 2021-07-13T23:09:05+00:00

She's interested but in a if nothing else works out kinda way. You're giving her an out, and she's taking it. Just ask and if she says yes give her time and date. If she flakes out ask someone else and go. She's literally wasting your time.

Moon_whisper · 2021-07-14T00:46:33+00:00

Either she is not interested in you, or she is playing the field with a "richer catch"...hence the maybes to anything concrete...or she is married with sma children and can't commit due to trying to avoid her husband.

Regardless, NOPE out of the drama.

Papa_Musk · 2021-07-14T01:03:07+00:00

only invite her to large gatherings where she is not the focus but could be cool if she showed up and if she doesn't show up after you invite her a couple times, delete her number from your phone

2021-07-14T01:28:18+00:00

Send her a pic with you and another hot girl on a fun date and say “this could’ve been you”

IcyKindheartedness95 · 2021-07-14T01:29:16+00:00

According to Mark Manson, in models, You do the 3 strike policy. Ask her 3 times..2 if preferred. The first 2 times should be asking her out ,giving out some plans for meet up. But the last strike should be firm , more of something like this- I thought you are interesting and maybe funny ,(Whatever you like about her honestly) and thought we will have a great time out together. Be a little more adventurous and suggest me some time when we could spend out some time together. If you don't also, thats also fine. You can instantly get the answer to your question from the horse's mouth if you tell this up. Even then if its a no and still want to stick around, you can read up some manipulative stuff, that might make her fall for you but is definitely not worth the time. So make your choice.

autogizmo · 2021-07-14T01:41:45+00:00

I don't think she ever considered meeting you and she's probably not interested. Move on, dude

ethical_slut · 2021-07-14T02:17:59+00:00

Say “hi” to someone else.

V4refugee · 2021-07-14T03:33:50+00:00

Just text the next girl. You won’t get dates from every girl you talk to, just like you won’t end up talking to every girl you meet. You also won’t have sex with every girl you kiss and you won’t kiss every girl you take out on a date. Good job on talking to a girl, now you know you can do it again and maybe the next one will work out. Maybe this one will work out when you start talking to the next one, it happens. Just don’t waste your energy on her, have some self respect.

-Bran- · 2021-07-14T03:48:41+00:00

Instant next

itslucb · 2021-07-14T20:00:32+00:00

Hit her w a "maybe?"

jimbimbob · 2021-07-14T01:29:22+00:00

“If it’s not a fuck yes, it’s a no”

Title	I keep getting “maybe” replies when I ask if/when she wants to meet up. Next step?
Author	mjornir
Upvotes	109
Comments	100
Date	July 13, 2021 12:29 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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