I swear you never know what is going happen when you cold approach.

bournit · 2020-01-03T21:14:31+00:00

Great ! For me it's a big thing seeing someone that actually does daygame and writes field reports about it . Good job bro, keep trying this. One year ago I started daygaming, and it surely is not the way to get a lot girls into bed (if you're a beginner), but I think it is a sustainable process that slowly will change us and our self limiting beliefs.

there does not seem to be a correlation between how hot the girl is and how hard it is to get a date with her.

In my experience, the hotter she is, the more she'll be a "Yes/No" girl : or yes, or no. And despite most of the guys prefer a uncertain chick, you'll find out how beautiful is when people say to you what they really think. Also because the ones you should avoid are the ones that make you losing time. So go for the hottest : you'll learn to deal with the top, and, when it will happen, sex will be really satisfying.

I would also suggest to open directly, with a compliment, like "ehi, you look cute, and what I noticed about you is that...". It sets a frame that is strong, not in "friend" mode, and makes her knowing this is all men-to-woman.

But for the moment, enjoy the coffee ;)

IssaDatBoiMura · 2020-01-03T22:07:31+00:00

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bert_cj · 2020-01-03T20:31:54+00:00

What do you say?

Hubblenobbin · 2020-01-03T22:20:47+00:00

Actually this is normal when you're doing really solid approaches. I've talked about this a lot in other comments. Hotter girls will be super into you, and will shit-test you much less often. But average girls will think you're making fun of them or know that they aren't good enough so they reject you for an ego boost. By getting a lot of rejections you become less reactive, hot girls can see/feel that and they respond well.

Last night I was in this venue that is typically pretty hostile to me, I'm using it as a training ground to maintain my state and bring people into a more positive headspace when they're being hostile/uncooperative. The last 5 approaches were lukewarm/blowouts. So I'm in kind of a 'fuck it, you know if you keep going you'll eventually get there' state of mind. I walk up to this legit 9. She is fascinated from the start. Her friend(8+) comes over and they both start competing for my attention. I end up isolating the 8 because I like her more. She was qualifying and chasing like crazy. It was the built up immunity to social pressure that did it (plus other solid fundamentals). Somatically it feels like this warm stone in the middle of your chest, radiating heat outwards. Newbies might not be able to feel it easily at first, kinda like when you work out it takes time before you can feel individual muscles contracting. I made a mistake later and lost the set to the friends, but the point stands.

britneybxoxo · 2020-01-03T22:41:11+00:00

As a woman: if the hottest man is eyeing me across the room and never approaches me, he won’t get the date. But if an average somewhat cute looking guy comes up to me and asks me out, I will say Yes. I love a confident guy.

EarthWarping · 2020-01-03T22:45:18+00:00

The moment you said hi is when you won.

Hubblenobbin · 2020-01-03T22:32:33+00:00

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deLarg0 · 2020-01-03T22:04:27+00:00

Congrats on being on the 1% percent of people that do gameday! Welcome!!! It's a magical place. Somedays you will feel invinsible and others you will want to vanish in the air hahaha. Gameday it's awesome bro. My advice: Don't get too excited on any girl until you fuck her. It sucks the amazing interactions you will have but a flake still happens.

SpanishIntuition · 2020-01-03T22:18:53+00:00

It's not just confidence on your part it's confidence on their part. I know it sounds paradoxical but it's for this reason that you'll find that you're more successful with attractive women than the average type with low to no social skills.

A_Silver_Sticc · 2020-01-03T22:48:16+00:00

Good fucking going man!

ChelseaDagger14 · 2020-01-04T02:45:56+00:00

There isn’t much correlation between attractiveness of girl and rejection rate, which is why I find it all the more far fetched when guys talk how they can get 6-8’s easy but 9’s and 10’s are oh so difficult.

In my experience a lot of the hottest girls end up going out with not remarkable looking guys in their friendship group.

TrumpOrTreason · 2020-01-04T00:40:03+00:00

The prettiest girls rarely get hit on.

lefty000 · 2020-01-04T06:29:05+00:00

I always find the hottest girls to be way harder to pickup, but maybe it’s because I get in my head.

Sephass · 2020-01-04T00:09:41+00:00

This is a perfect example of what Tim Ferriss mentioned in one of his books. Aiming for unrealistic you're very often more successful than aiming for regular, because average things attract more people and you have more competition. He even mentioned almost exactly your case in his blog post:

" It’s lonely at the top. 99% of the world is convinced they are incapable of achieving great things, so they aim for the mediocre middle-ground. The level of competition is thus fiercest for “realistic” goals, paradoxically making them the most time- and energy-consuming. It is easier to raise $10,000,000 than it is $1,000,000. It is easier to pick up the one perfect 10 in the bar than the five 8s." (https://tim.blog/2008/06/19/why-bigger-goals-less-competition-plus-eco-bounty-winners/ )

Even though I don't think it always works in general, I think this is a very possible scenario. Most people have a fear of approaching those who are uber attractive, therefore they might welcome your effort much warmer than the average person.

Gembloo336 · 2020-01-04T14:45:34+00:00

People should ask out pretty girls more, I think because they’re pretty guys are too intimidated to ask them out. You have impressive balls, rejection stings like hell even when it’s once for me lol

arteteco · 2020-01-04T14:59:55+00:00

Please report back after the coffee, everybody is curious to know how it'll go

putcoolusernamehere · 2020-01-04T16:19:16+00:00

Honestly I find not very attractive girls to be less receptive for whatever reason

FreddieFreckles · 2020-01-04T06:06:01+00:00

Fortune favors the bold my friends

ihavenonamela · 2020-01-04T13:06:53+00:00

I’m happy for u man, waiting for your date report

chief_yETI · 2020-01-03T21:01:46+00:00

nice work mate. hope it works out for ya! Where did this interaction take place?

jikol1906 · 2020-01-03T21:47:03+00:00

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DrixlRey · 2020-01-04T00:41:06+00:00

I get it now! I haven't been approaching enough 9/10 girls. Gota set my bar higher.

MuskIsAlien · 2020-01-04T00:56:04+00:00

alright op send over ur rule 1 pic

Basic85 · 2020-01-04T01:09:51+00:00

Wow cool

goldmedalflower · 2020-01-04T12:55:13+00:00

All about availability and demographics.

You could be the perfect guy in terms of looks, style, behavior, etc, however if she isn't available (she's taken, she's moving soon, whatever) it doesn't matter what you say or how you say it, she's not going to give you a chance.

Likewise with demographics. A 40 year-old lawyer would do great at an art gallery but would do terrible a young hipster bar.

You can never tell until you line the two up.

shiggydiggydooooo · 2020-01-04T20:11:12+00:00

Statistically, if you walked up to enough women and said, "ay yo baby, u want sum fuk," eventually one of them will say yes.

Jarin01 · 2020-01-05T02:41:47+00:00

It's also important to realize that looks are not the be all end all for women that it is for men. I think your perceived value counts for a lot more and that how you carry yourself can really effect the way a woman perceives you. I have been getting IOI's from this hot little Hispanic chick I know for a long time and until recently when I started studying game I didn't even pick up on them because this girl is a hard 9 and it never crossed my mind that she might be interested in me.

I went by her work today and asked her out and even though I wasn't nearly as smooth as I wanted to be she couldn't give me her number fast enough. Taking her ice skating tomorrow and hopefully back to my place for Netflix and chill after.

Latinguy4321 · 2020-01-05T08:40:18+00:00

Hell yea...not sure if it's considered daygame🤔

I have to quickly drop some advice if you wanna put your game to the test....

Unfortunately for me I bit off more than I could chew and couldn't close or see what I got myself in🤦🏻‍♂️

But in jury duty I sat next to a hot girl I spotted when I walked in...put my shit to the test.

Half an hour later saying something like I said"are you a model or something" arm up on the couch/chairs

She showed me pics of her in a bikin on vacation with her bf,to which I let her know I was happy to see her pics but not too overly excited. Tilted my head back chill af...and just let her do the talking. Asking open ended questions.

Minutes later she laid down and was on the phone with her bf while her head was next to my right thigh showing me her cleavage looking at me occasionally. More lusty eyes and flirting ensued.

We left in the same elevator along with the people who saw us flirting the whole time.

I couldn't figure out how to close all this.I never dealt with that much pressure before.🤦🏻‍♂️

Point being ...you never fucking know.

She was at least 6-8 years older than me btw and I'm pretty sure everyone knew lol

SpinPlates · 2020-01-04T09:15:45+00:00

This girl just lights up completely and enthusiastically agrees to go grab a coffee with me tomorrow.

She saw a fresh beta orbiter and is excited to farm endless validation from you. Be careful about investing too much time just because she acknowledged your existence.

Please report back if you actually get anywhere with this.

AbundanceLifeStyle · 2020-01-04T03:35:16+00:00

Good stuff brother, I love that you’re not afraid to still pursue women after getting rejected. That takes guts! Good stuff bro. Your story will so life many. Also these are some tips on what to look forward for when you’re approaching women. Pay attention to her body language. https://youtu.be/yFY_uOb7bRk

hullcrush · 2020-01-04T07:10:04+00:00

But you haven’t gotten a date with her - you got her saying she’ll go on a date with you

uptimex · 2020-01-04T07:30:04+00:00

It can be, you know why. As beautiful the girl in your eyes, as your non-verbal, you energy shows it. And she sees it, she feels it. That is why it is easier to get beautiful girls, because it is nature.

Title	I swear you never know what is going happen when you cold approach.
Author	jikol1906
Upvotes	896
Comments	118
Date	January 3, 2020 8:09 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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