Ex-wife of 4 years cheats. I realize how much of a loser I am with woman.

Night159 · 2018-01-03T20:35:57+00:00

Take a fucking decision, i dont give a damn if you are 30 or 20, she lied to you? fuck it, ditch her man even if it hurts for years. go rebuild your life, life is not about being a bitch. if you start going out slowly you will met surely a girl that loves you in less time that you would think. were you really happpy with the relationship? or were you just because of your little girls? take your shit, and do something about it.

Shakydrummer · 2018-01-03T22:13:59+00:00

First off - I'm really, really fucking sorry dude. That's harsh.

Kick her out of your goddamn life - she isn't worth your time. Your kids on the other hand, just be a good father to them in the best capacity you can. Don't be petty, don't shit talk their mother around them - be the best damn parent you can be despite the situation.

As far as you though - go take care of yourself. Refocus and Rebuild, and become happy with yourself first. The confidence with women starts from the confidence with yourself. If you need a counselor, get one. If you feel the need to hit something, go learn how to fight. Not happy with how you look? Get your ass in the gym and get the revenge bod. You catch my drift - take the time you need to hurt and grieve, but then take all the anger and pain you're feeling and funnel it into something positive.

Also for the love of fuck, don't do any substance abuse, it's a problem waiting to happen.

Best of luck man. Wish you well.

Bricemck · 2018-01-03T21:03:00+00:00

Your wife messed up, you are finished. If she can't be faithful, then she shouldn't have gotten married. Do you think this will be the only time? She may quit for a time, but if you accept this behavior, you will get cuckolded over and over for the rest of your life. You'll find yourself home alone with the kids while she's out every Friday doing blow and letting other men fuck her in the ass. And she'll be using your credit card because she lost her job and she'll be relying on you.

Don't believe me? I've seen it happen to good friends. To good men. Honest and faithful men.

Yes you have work to do, but you are going to be better off in your next 4 years if you get rid of her now.

Honestly sex with another woman is the least of your problems now. You need a WOLF of a lawyer, and you need him YESTERDAY. If she did drugs and slept with another guy, you could make a case that she's going to be a bad influence on your kids.

Be the bigger man, take the high road. Don't focus on other women right now, you need to worry about your kids and the kind of example your wife is setting for them with her behavior. You need to worry about your finances, because if she'll betray you sexually, then she will damn sure betray you financially.

Pay for her rehab if you feel led to help her, but you do NOT need this woman having access to your finances any more.

BestSC86 · 2018-01-03T23:48:01+00:00

Get a divorce attorney......

Then Thank God that you were shown the true nature of this horrible woman at such an early time in your life. You will look back when you are 60 and thank the heavens that your limited time on this planet wasn't WASTED on such a horrid piece of shit.

She is a piece of shit...end of story and you are fortunate that you found out before you wasted years.

And don't let a person who is so worthless as to leave her children to go do cocaine and fuck other people n parking lots anywhere near your children...that is child abuse.

NilacTheGrim · 2018-01-04T07:08:44+00:00

Oh jesus dude. That's a nightmare. I think you're doing the right thing in ending it with her.

I realize you feel sick in the head now. You're staring into the dark abyss -- and it's staring back.

You know what happens in times like these? It sounds cheesy as fuck -- but you grow. You're confronted with the darkness that exists -- the spectrum of human behavior and human nature which ranges from disgusting stupid evil to glorious sainthood genius and everything in between.

Take your time with this. Try to be a good person. Also BE GOOD TO YOURSELF.

You'll be fine if you keep walking this path.

I definitely think ending it with her is a great thing. Also, don't spend too much time "talking" to her about what she did or your issues. She may use your "weakness" now to mindfuck you further. She should go fuck herself, basically, for being a piece of shit.

If you want to feel better take a pussy vacation. Go to Thailand or Eastern Europe and fuck some cheap hot ho's. I know this sounds like shitty advice -- but it will keep you walking the path of darkness and give you perspective. You'll be paying for it -- but it'll be temporary, will be new pussy, and you can fuck the pain away and feel like a man. Fucking 15 women in 15 days is pretty awesome, even if it cost you $1k-$2k.

I don't normally give this advice -- but you sound like you need a break from this reality.

That being said -- there are other ways to turn the page. This one is just the quickest one that comes to mind. I had a friend in your situation and he came back from his sex vacation with newfound confidence. He got in touch with his sexuality and his maleness.

There are other paths. But basically dumping that ho is the first step.

It's harder because you have kids and she'll be around as their mom forever -- but you don't have to use her in any way to validate your masculinity or your sexuality. Cut her off from that shit and walk your own path with regards to that.

Good luck man!

allemande1979 · 2018-01-04T06:21:55+00:00

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koolbro2012 · 2018-01-04T01:11:35+00:00

Jesus....have some respect for yourself. Lawyer up and divorce her.

ajpiko · 2018-01-04T06:19:03+00:00

Bro, women who do cocaine are not wifey material.

Give it a few years and you'll be able to spot thotties like this from a mile away. Consider it a hard lesson learned. Hope she seeks out the mental health counseling she so desperately needs.

ImJustSo · 2018-01-03T23:51:23+00:00

So here's the deal: Being cheated on is never the person's fault that got cheated on.

That has absolutely nothing to do with you. It is entirely the other free thinking, free deciding, totally autonomous person's choice.

Separate yourself from her decision, because if you had fucked 100 women while with your wife, then the blame wouldn't be on her. That's all you. And same thing goes for her.

IcarusWright · 2018-01-04T09:22:36+00:00

Go downtown, and sign up at a boxing gym.

juanappleseed · 2018-01-04T05:17:17+00:00

Read no more Mr. Nice guy. Do the exercises don't just read it.

You need to experience a lot of anger and practice setting boundaries in increments in order to transcend your depression and feelings of helplessness and lack of self worth. I recommend therapy (somatic experiencing), meditation, (the right kinds), and lots of work with anger and expressing it in a healthy way, and go out and interact with women consistently. You will learn and grow over time.

There are no shortcuts. Lifting weights seems to help a lot of guys as well.

All this advice comes from someone who has been working though and overcoming these feelings for years, successfully.

I hope you actually listen to this advice because while it will be often hard and painful, it will save your life.

Or pickup a cocaine habit and have extra for fiending ladies if you're looking for a shortcut.

Good luck. Shit takes a while.

TheFrenchTaunter · 2018-01-04T07:37:25+00:00

I can only imagine how you must feel. I've had a slightly similar experience before (ex cheating), and I'm having a hard time moving on, too, but it was in no way a shitshow of this magnitude. It's been better lately, though.

I'll be honest: it took a really long fucking time. I've spent the last 2 years moving on, and I'm still not there. That being said, I know you can do it as well. She did the lowest thing one can do to you, and that's unforgivable. Leave her to rot. Get rid of her on social media, delete her number and pics, and never see her again. Try not to long for her at all (easier said than done, i know). Do new, exciting things. Pick up a new, cool hobby to throw yourself at.

Dunno how you feel about this, but therapy, heavy music about love, playing my guitar and Dungeons and Dragons are the things that helped me cope. Everyone's different, so I don't know if this will work for you, but it's worth a try ;)

As for books, I haven't really taken the time to start reading this type of literature, so unfortunately, I can't help you with that.

Stay strong, dude, and good luck!

sn00p3r · 2018-01-04T10:53:41+00:00

and then there goes my wife and proves to me that the rest of the world IS actually better than me.

She didn't prove that anyone is better than you but she has proven that she is a slut. Lawyer up, secure your property, drain joint bank accounts and get a divorce. You deserve better mate.

Sharpshooter90 · 2018-01-04T03:44:36+00:00

Wow I am so sorry dude.

All this ugly dude had to do was hit her up in the morning to see if she wanted to hang out, and then give her cocaine so she would get horny to fuck him.

Your ex decided she was gonna fuck him long before there were any drugs involved. Fuck her...you deserve better.

albus_scirocco · 2018-01-04T00:12:57+00:00

[Next] ----> This bitch

That's your answer.

Ihatemost · 2018-01-04T02:12:15+00:00

then there goes my wife and proves to me that the rest of the world IS actually better than me.

Your wife cheating doesn't reflect on you, it reflects on her. Even amazing people get cheated on. The fact that your wife was so quick to cheat shows that SHE is weak, SHE has problems.

The good news is you can only go up from here. Maybe you need some time on your own before working on your skills with women. Work on self-love. Be there for your kids. Once you feel ready to put yourself out there, work on your skills with women. Like all skills, some people are naturally better than others. It doesn't mean these people are inherently better than you. Your self-worth doesn't come from your ability to bed women.

sasuke478 · 2018-01-04T07:10:36+00:00

Do one better . Fuck three of her friends / if possible make the bitch watch . Whichever you want .

bugxter · 2018-01-04T02:55:15+00:00

Bro, that's harsh. I know people over here are telling you just to get her out of your life and that's it, and that probably is what you need to do... but I can imagine how hard it can be, specially because you have 2 kids.

Believe me man, right now you should not be thinking about "seduction" or asking this stuff on this sub... go see a professional (psychologist, counselor, whatever), you need better help than what you will get here.

Raltie · 2018-01-04T13:18:09+00:00

I know its not normal in this sub, but as one human to another, I'm praying for you man.

needhope1985 · 2018-01-04T13:39:09+00:00

What really helped me change was watching videos on youtube by Coach Corey Wayne, man knows what he's talking about.

untouchable_0 · 2018-01-04T13:49:15+00:00

Honestly her behaviour sounds more like drug seeking behaviour than cheater behaviour. It is easy to fuck people who need a fix. Your wife may have been hiding an addiction from you for years without you knowing. Cut your losses and leave.

hunterpua · 2018-01-04T14:23:59+00:00

This is the best and worst place to go to for this kind of advice.

Unfortunately Game has the same problem that martial arts does. There are methods that work really damn well no matter what your personal circumstances are and there are also methods that only seem to be a number's game or they only work if you get a better body or make more money.

The thing is, at least there are individual subreddits for martial arts so at least its very unlikely you get Systema advice in a Muay Thai subreddit. Its not the case for seduction. You will likely get all kinds of conflicting advice and you won't know what to follow.

I've been in this game for about a decade and I've seen all kinds of things. When I was a beginner I did all kinds of crazy useless things that really made my social skills worse than were when I started. I started off absolute shit with women and now I'm fortunate to have gotten good enough to be able to date and sleep with multiple women at the same time without having to lie when I'm single and have intense romances with one girl that I adore who feels the same for me when I'm in a relationship.

If you look to the sidebar under "Seddit AMA Interview Series" you'll notice the names of really well known dating coaches. Click on "Rest Here" to see all of them. Let me tell you the one's in that list that I've personally found to be very helpful, some I've been lucky to be able to work with in person and that really made a huge difference. This is in no particular order:

Richard la Ruina
James Marshall
Brent Smith
Simple Pickup
Rob Judge

EagerSleeper · 2018-01-04T15:17:39+00:00

When your ex-wife of 4 years is right in front of your face, she will be able to use every bit of knowledge of your emotions to manipulate you into taking her back, that way you can continue footing the bill for things.

The only difference is she will have lost ALL respect for you, and will start not even caring if you know she's leaving the house to do blow and fuck men you've never met.

Don't let her.

For all you know, this woman is a narcissistic sociopath, and will NEVER actually care about you. It takes a messed-up person to get up one day and decide to simultaneously do a highly illegal drug, fuck some gross dude from high school, and ruin a marriage in some dirty parking lot.

It might be easy to dissociate from the great advice you're reading from strangers on this Reddit post, but remember a lot of these guys are in their 30s and 40s with a similar situation that fucked up years of their lives before building the courage to have self-respect. They just want to help, and they are giving you SAGE advice.

Stop talking to her, get that lawyer, build yourself as a man, and lean on those that actually have respect for you.

1nfam0us · 2018-01-04T15:47:03+00:00

You mention books. I can't recommend you anything on women, because I find much of it to be hyper subjective or a touch too manipulative for my taste, but I can recommend something that has helped me immensely with my own depression.

I recently became interested in Stoicism (As it seems to be somewhat of a zeitgeist lately). The basic principle is that you are not upset by something that has happened, but by your estimate of that thing. Thus Stoicism proscribes that you concern yourself only with things that are within your control and seek to work around those that are not. Our virtue and strength of character are derived from our actions, not our circumstances.

One of the central works of the philosophy is Meditations by Marcus Aurelius. And if you are especially depressed I would recommend The Consolation of Philosophy by Boethius. The latter was written during Boethius' imprisonment awaiting execution.

An aside: stoicism is not a religion. There is some metaphysics in the canon, but they can be safely ignored if you prefer. It should mostly gel with whatever religion you subscribe to or don't.

How does this tie in to women? Well, it sort of doesn't, but that's the whole point. A healthy relationship cannot be premised upon making you whole because you'll just be taking from someone else. You have to refine yourself into a whole person first.

Aside from teaching yourself to think in a healthy way I highly recommend getting a hobby and joining a community. Make friends with mutual interests. I recently got into HEMA simply because I have been interested for years and I have always had strange interests. Pursue what brings you joy and give that joy to other people. Once you are able to focus on making someone else happy, then you will be able to have a healthy relationship.

This will take years to get over and it will hurt immensely. Whenever I find myself in a situation that hurts and I either can do nothing about or must work through, I always remind myself of what my mother used to say to me.

This too shall pass.

thetahill · 2018-01-04T15:56:09+00:00

I feel for you, but let me lay it out. In my business and consulting I deal with the reality of actual relationships (i.e. I don't deal in "pleasantries" like what you see presented on Facebook) and I can tell you that many, many women harbor deep feelings for an ex, even after 10 and 20 years. And, they often marry, not out of love, but because a) they feel like time is running out and b) the ex they really like won't settle down. So, they settle for a guy they aren't that attracted to. Then, after a few years of this, they end up cheating or leaving.

Study after study related to short-term and long-term relationship success shows that for men, being physically attractive isn't as important as being bold and dominant. So this guy may be "ugly" but he took the initiative and your wife responded.

And, no offense, but I doubt she needed cocaine to be horny for this guy. It was probably years coming.

So, that aside, what you need to "do" is tell her to hit the road and work on yourself. Get to the gym. Work on your social skills. Learn what women find attractive and focus on being bolder and more confident like that guy (minus the cocaine).

Others have recommended Mark Manson's book "The Subtle Art of Not Giving A Fuck" which is great, as is his other book, "Models." Those are great places to start.

thatgibbyguy · 2018-01-04T17:39:11+00:00

Yo man, I'm coming in real late so a lot of what I'm going to say to you may have been said. If so, I apologize, but let's take this in stages.

Stage One - see a professional therapist. A lot of people on here may look down on that, but that's because, well, they aren't professionals. What you need is not tips on how to get laid, but tips on how to live in this world which is sometimes vicious. If you do not want to see a professional I'll tell you two of the things that they have taught me which has done wonders:

You do not have control of everything, forget about the things you cannot control. You already make distinctions about what you care about, and most of what you don't you do not control, apply this to everything you can't control.
Learn mindfulness and how to achieve it. In one session my therapist told me to be mindful and I responded to them "what you're asking me to do is to change my natural reactions, that's like asking me to change how I breathe." they responded "well, you know how to hold your breath don't you?"

Stage Two - go to the fucking gym. make this time for yourself. humans need physical activity, it will make you feel better and it will make you look better AND it will make you look like you feel better.

Stage Three - now that you have looked after yourself, you can start looking for others. you will have had time to move on from what this person did, you will have had time to understand the effect it had on you and your life, and you will have made yourself someone who can acknowledge what they have control of and what they don't.

If you notice a theme here, this is all about getting comfortable with yourself. That is absolutely crucial. If you aren't comfortable with yourself, nobody else can be comfortable with you.

Also if you notice, I haven't talked about your ex. Yes, she is your ex, it's done. Cut ties, move on. This is non negotiable.

jeremyjack33 · 2018-01-04T19:11:19+00:00

Take some time off. You need to separate and grieve. You're wife just destroyed a relationship you spent years building together. Let it all out and get some therapy. Then worry about rebuilding yourself. Other girls should be the last thing on your mind. If you need a lay, consider an escort.

thivagar05 · 2018-01-04T20:16:33+00:00

That ugly guy probably got his heart broken once, once a hoe, is always a hoe. Ditch her, shame her if you can and let everyone know why it happened.

Matt22blaster · 2018-01-04T01:31:07+00:00

You're basing you emotional well being off of another person's actions. That's a sure fire way to never be happy, at best you'll just exist. I feel like you are under the impression that another person can make you happy. She can't and wont. The cheating will always be in the back of your mind and you'll never fully forgive her. Only yourself and your kids can make you happy. Start working out and eating right, you need self esteem stat, and that's the best way to start gaining it. Find some hobbies, fishing, hiking, biking, skydiving, whatever just get active. You have start working on numero uno today. It might take 6 months or it might take two years, but eventually you'll be mad at yourself for being so wrapped up in another and giving that person so much power over you. You can be happy, but you can never be happy with someone else until you learn to be happy on your own.

Slabbomeat · 2018-01-04T06:04:47+00:00

Men cheat to stay in a marriage. Women cheat to get out of one. Lawyer up!

WhatMixedFeelings · 2018-01-04T04:40:48+00:00

Don't ever, ever let a woman get away with cheating on you. Dump her ass and move on. It will be a long road, but your self respect is worth more than your infatuation with her. You can never trust her again, and she will cheat again.

Focus on yourself for a while. Focus on bettering yourself as a person and please don't turn to drugs or alcohol. Deal with this on your own. You'll get through it bro.

RandomHabit89 · 2018-01-04T07:09:45+00:00

This has nothing to do with your ability to get women. All this says is that your wife is an easy drugged up whore.

KINGCOCO · 2018-01-03T23:35:04+00:00

Everyone here is saying dump her - and maybe they are right. But we really don't know anything about your life or your relationship. Two kids are involved and divorce is going to be brutal. I don't know where you live, but usually the laws are pretty favourable to the wife and you're going to get fucked. The result is that she takes your kids, your house, and half your paycheck. Now you are broke living in a shitty apartment without your kids and trying to start over.

Before you go through with ending your marriage, it might be worth examining why she cheated and if the relationship can be salvaged. How did you find out? What was her explanation as to why she did it? Are you sure this is the first time? The fact that you are posting your breakup in seddit and seem more upset with your lack of seduction skills adds a whole other dimension to this.

And keep in mind most of the people giving you advice here are probably under 25 and have no idea about kids, mortgages etc.

pibechorro · 2018-01-04T05:35:38+00:00

Even if you want to stay with her. Putting your foot down and walking away is the best way to show her you are a man and not an appendage she wears like a purse. Your feelings matter.

enkae7317 · 2018-01-04T06:15:16+00:00

Sucks bro. What you should probably do is take long time to look at yourself and your relationship. Do you see yourself with this girl in the future again that will be hit up by some druggie and then take drugs and fuck him again and again?

You are better than that. Move on. Work on yourself. You have kids so I'm 100% sure the moving on part will be fucking hard as hell but you deserve better. Always be growing and never remain stagnant.

2018-01-04T09:10:50+00:00

You had no inkling whatsoever of this side of her? Or did you guys also play with drugs yourselves?

2018-01-04T10:56:07+00:00

Get your life on track, she can keep doing crack and fucking 3's in parking lot all day if she wants. You don't need someone that pathetic in your life.

domable19 · 2018-01-04T11:24:03+00:00

This real news or fake news, you guys serious? Fse, I'm not gonna kill myself over a chick.

JefemanG · 2018-01-04T13:41:00+00:00

Cut her out your life the way she been cutting coke behind your back. I highly doubt this is the first time she's screwed a guy without you knowing to get some drugs. Remove her from everything, block her number, and move on. You shouldn't be crushed by some woman who cheated on you. Only trash takes a marriage vow and then breaks it. That's literally as sacred as vows should be.

2018-01-04T14:08:52+00:00

Focus on the cocaine in order to get custody and GTFO.

ezwip · 2018-01-04T15:29:46+00:00

I wish I had an answer for you but I don't. The women in my family are ruthless and cunning. I expect nothing less to avoid shock but women still find a way. Don't blame yourself though, that much is certain. You already conformed for her I am sure in the past. It did not matter right? It's not you bro it is society. Focus on what makes you happy for a bit. Go buy a new stereo and refuse to turn it down play Eazy E all night long. Invite your old friends over, get drunk, and ignore her... hit the strip club at midnight.

jwang26 · 2018-01-04T15:51:23+00:00

Hey I hope this helps but.....

Right now don't worry about anything else besides yourself and your kids. As difficult as it may seem to to see this as an opportunity to restart your life and rebuild yourself.

You don't want to be trapped with someone who isn't who you think they are and will cheat / use poor judgement in life especially when it comes to having kids.

I would highly suggest working on yourself and fixing how you think of yourself. The fact that you see yourself as weak, depressed, unhealthy/ codependent are all things you need to fix first. Seddit/Seduction isn't about picking up woman it's about self improvement an when you're happy with yourself your not only more confident but naturally attract other people as well.

As some have suggested speak to a therapist or a professional if you need it, there's no shame everyone needs help sometime. Also I would suggest reading: The subtle art of not giving an fuck, and joy., listen to some Joe Rogan motivational stuff.. Don't worry about woman, it's not going to fix any of your issues. But don't feel pity or anger towards yourself it's not going to make anything better, take today as a new day to work on yourself write a list of what you want to improve or do and work towards that.

Good luck, you'll survive and be a better person through it, it may not seem like that now but you will.

LimitedContributor · 2018-01-04T16:25:47+00:00

It won't be the same now, man. The dude is twisted but, if he's pretty unpleasant to look at, your wife is most likely to cheat in repeat with another "attractive" dude.

allemande1979 · 2018-01-04T16:33:26+00:00

He spoke to dude about his role in things. It’s not just this single event but a series of events that led to it. Etc.

It was thorough and thoughtful, not just the usual “you have oneitis” comment.

2018-01-04T18:20:18+00:00

You divorce her. That's fucking bullshit and you are not going to allow someone to do that to you. You can do better.

toohot2rockice · 2018-01-04T18:40:31+00:00

It hurts now but give it some time boss man, if you’re above average like u say u won’t have any problem meeting a nice woman. Godspeed

DirkDieGurke · 2018-01-05T02:31:15+00:00

You need to realize that this is more about her than you. There is no magic seduction technique. A person does what they want, not what somebody 'seduces' them to do. Especially combined with drugs. She's a piece of shit.

Splatchu · 2018-01-06T07:14:00+00:00

For attachment issues you can attend free meetings called “Alanon” they primarily focus on codependency issues but some meetings can branch out into different sub topics. Just google alanon near me, the meetings are pretty popular

2018-01-07T05:07:58+00:00

I don’t blame your wife for cheating. Unfortunately you are a loser. I recommend staying married as I don’t think you are capable courting another woman. Just carry on being a cuckold

Ninjarro · 2018-01-21T07:42:28+00:00

From what I’ve read, you sound like a loser man. You seem to have no or low confidence in yourself and seems like you haven’t been thriving for personal growth.

Don’t worry, you and I are in the same position but my gf broke up with me and I realized I have nothing on myself.

Go out and build on yourself. It’s up to you whether you want to stay with her or not because you have kids but you need to work on yourself.

Go to social outings, hang out with a positive group of friends who excel in the real world, start working out and eating healthy.

2018-06-30T23:29:22+00:00

Oh my sweet god I hope that you did not get back together with her. As someone who is familiar with cocaína, I can promise you it certainly doesn't make you cheat on your partner.

Sometimes emotional pain takes a while to heal and sometimes you need to seek help from a professional, this sounds like one of those times. You have to practice a lot of self-care after situations like these; improve your diet, exercise, spend time outdoors and with your kids, find time to go on a date, the list goes on but I think you know what types of things would feel restorative to you. Go do those things.

MartMillz · 2018-01-03T21:32:43+00:00

Sorry to hear man. I'm probably not as emotional/affectionate as you but I think the best thing to do is start mentally preparing yourself to leave. If you really want to stay together tell her that you are prepared to leave but if she wants to stay together your marriage is now open until you decide it's not.

I would start seeking out a new fling immediately and make it pretty obvious. I know you said you're not feeling confident around women now but this is about making a point. You have to let her know you are preparing for life without her and you no longer feel obliged to recognize the trust in the relationship that she threw away. I would even go so far as to hiring a decent escort and have her show up at the house and pretend to go out on a date if necessary.

Edit: And if she tries to one-up you on the dating then you know it's time to leave.

stampyvanhalen · 2018-01-04T00:09:14+00:00

i think the lesson is your wife is bored. i mean you can get all pissy about it or you can go and buy some coke and have sex with your wife outdoors. up to you. option 2 sounds pretty good though.

jglover82 · 2018-01-04T03:57:54+00:00

Girls are emotional creatures. They are going to fuck whoever they want and there's nothing you or I can do about it. Dump her ass, you can do better. Find someone who respects you. She emotionally cheated on you a long time ago. Screw her

GoBlocks · 2018-01-04T03:24:23+00:00

Don't beat yourself up. He baited her with drugs, which does the trick. It says a good deal about her.

It's tough to say this, but if you don't take any action after this, it's going to be your fault. She'll start doing it over and over again if nothing is done. Cut her out and stand your ground, even if she tries to spin it around on you.

Mourn for a bit after that's done. Then get your life back together. No woman's worth it

aznsin12 · 2018-01-03T21:24:20+00:00

Im going to disagree that its a good idea to be attached due to family. The question you should be asking yourself is whether you should allow your children or future children beloeve that this behaviour is acceotable by keeping your ex-wife in the family in the first place?

There are a few book recommendations in the sidebar that will help you. One is Models and similar books by the same author.

Lastly, be kind to yourself. Just as you said, you believe to be more physically attractive than your counterpart. Believe in yourself as a person and women will be drawn one way or another.

levelUpLA · 2018-01-03T21:56:06+00:00

good now know your value as a older man, learn to portray that to younger women, bring them home when you dont have your kids and fuck them.. dont date women with kids for at least 2 years

hardmodeornomode · 2018-01-04T03:38:17+00:00

This has been an eye opening story. It may sound cliche, but you really need to take a lot of time for yourself to rebuild your own happiness and confidence. I wish you the best for the future

2018-01-04T04:14:51+00:00

Start working out regularly. Everything else is bullshit

2018-01-03T23:01:22+00:00

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2018-01-04T06:10:59+00:00

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sd4c · 2018-01-04T03:43:15+00:00

Take her and the kids somewhere far, far, far away on a wilderness camping trip.

Arrange it so her life, in fact each of your INDIVIDUAL lives, depends upon having a decent but, of personal responsibility. E.g., tying a knot correctly so your hammock stays above snakes during the night, or remembering to do X Y or Z so that Very Bad Thing doesn't happen to you.

Somewhere that only a concientious, sane, careful and humble person can expect to survive. Like hang-gliding in the Congo.

When you all return safely, you'll have newfound respect for your lovely wife.

szech1sauce · 2018-01-04T06:10:49+00:00

Do you not-do cocaine? Do you have a legitimate reason for not-doing so (e.g., you get drug tested at your job) or are you just a square? Not trying to troll or say it's your fault, but referring to cocaine as "drugs" (with the same stigma as heroine etc) makes you look beta.

Title	Ex-wife of 4 years cheats. I realize how much of a loser I am with woman.
Author	roarkhoward777
Upvotes	296
Comments	123
Date	January 3, 2018 8:30 PM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/7nxg61/exwife_of_4_years_cheats_i_realize_how_much_of_a/
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