BEING PRODUCTIVE IS BEING ATTRACTIVE. When I've been busy and had more important things than girls, I did a lot better with girls. When I had too much time and thinking too much about girls, I did worse. This may not apply to everyone, but I discovered for me my best results are when I'm productive.

Dwerg1 · 2020-07-21T06:53:45+00:00

Some years ago I was constantly thinking about girls, where to meet some, how to get them and all that. I burned myself out over it, at that point I was so sick and tired of it all, I felt like shit. At that time my priorities changed, all I cared about was making myself happy. I then realized that's what I wanted all along, but I had been seeking it through women when that was not necessary at all.

That lasted about 3 weeks, talked to a girl at a party, not for the sake of getting anything in particular out of her for a change. Had a lot of fun with that, kept myself amused first and foremost, but it happened to amuse her too. Before I knew it we were making out, oops, didn't intend for that to happen.

I didn't bother contacting her again after that night, after all I was taking a break from it all and I didn't think anything would come of it anyways now that she was sober. Well, I was wrong, she sent me a text 2 days later saying she'd like to see me again. Now for the first time I didn't just jump right on it and say yes, I no longer felt a need to have a woman. I had a dilemma, do I reject her or do I jeopardize the peace and happiness I had just recently found by seeing where it goes?

I had a 2 hour think before even opening the message revealing that I had seen it, I knew what it was about from what little was shown in the notification bar. This was not me playing games, I honestly didn't know if I wanted to take the risk. She was enjoyable the night I had been with her, but that doesn't mean I know her or that she is what she seemed. Nonetheless I took the risk and we planned a date, thinking that at the moment my happiness is disturbed I can always pull out and go back to my happy place.

That moment never came, here I am today after exactly 5 years together on next Friday, married for a year and a baby coming in about a month. I love her so much!

Point is, whether you're productive or otherwise taking care of your well-being, women will just happen. It's when you have no need for a woman, just go about having the best time you can have at any given moment and you least expect women to be a result of anything you do that they'll all of a sudden come at you. I'm not sure I fully know why that is and neither do I care, I just care about having a good time in life with or without someone by my side.

CompletelyPresent · 2020-07-21T05:25:04+00:00

100%

I've seen average, hard-working dudes get very attractive women.

Having purpose is sexy all around. Imagine a wishy-washy girl that never knows what she wants; that's unattractive as well.

TheBookOfSeil · 2020-07-21T04:45:02+00:00

There's two ways of looking at this:

"Girls will want you when you no longer want them."
"Girls will want you when you want yourself."

Sometimes it looks like the first one but it's actually the second one. That being said, when you finally want and have yourself, don't cheat on yourself with anyone no matter how hot they are. Marry yourself if you have to. Don't ever let anyone else come between you except you.

jmquotes · 2020-07-21T04:13:37+00:00

You are right. Don't be desperate for girl's attention. A gorgeous girl have her own insecurities for sure. So she is continuously seeking validation from the surrounding environment. When you ignore her and indulge in your own, more serious businesses, she is naturally attracted not to you initially, but to why someone is not giving her the attention she deserves.

l1ght- · 2020-07-21T07:33:03+00:00

Health first, mission second, women third.

starry_eyes222 · 2020-07-21T05:14:28+00:00

I think this applies to everyone. When you're busy you instantly seem more attractive. You're not waiting by the phone seeming desperate and needy for this person's attention. When you're living your own life but still enjoy their company you will seem more attractive.

habsfan619 · 2020-07-21T04:59:19+00:00

This is true, how can a girl love you if you don’t even love yourself. Put yourself first kings.

TheGreatConst · 2020-07-21T02:53:51+00:00

How about just not putting girls too high in terms of importance to your life? You don't need to be busy to do it, lol.

shinn497 · 2020-07-21T05:25:47+00:00

I make six figures and always have shit to do and girls don't think I am attractive.

screamifyouredriving · 2020-07-21T02:14:44+00:00

Yeah another way of putting this is it's harder to get dates as a neet lol

Derk_cone · 2020-07-21T05:31:20+00:00

 Also sidenote: your own personal progression and growth that lasts you a lifetime matters more than some side piece that would last from one night to a few months anyway.   Know your worth kings, stay educated, get that bag, build that career, and the woman/women will naturally follow. You'll meet women through work, going out and doing things you like, ect.

Buster-The-Kaiser · 2020-07-21T08:09:27+00:00

Guys, there is no need to be productive to attract girls. You can also enjoy your best life with your friends and attract girls too. Stop being needy and desesperate, talk to her in a way that she will feel attraction for you, don’t let her take the lead ! You’re the man and she is the girl. You need that masculinity to attract her and she will feel respect and attraction for you. I agree that being productive give us masculinity but don’t forget something, girls feel the masculinity in our behavior, way of acting and the « relationship » we have with the world around us.

DrixlRey · 2020-07-21T08:23:28+00:00

100% - I recently found the same results.

relentless_pma · 2020-07-21T09:30:49+00:00

But you still have to put time in meeting girls right? Being productive gives you a more busy life and might lower your needyness and that are advantages I think.

Thoughts?

Righteous_Dude · 2020-07-21T14:35:26+00:00

That same post title was used three months ago by a different account.

The OP account ('traveljungles') is only one day old and already has over 12,000 post karma. Apparently OP is copying other people's popular posts in order to gain karma.

feetareforwalking · 2020-07-21T04:37:45+00:00

That makes sense , cause you don't put getting girls your number one target in life

littlemissaxolotl · 2020-07-21T05:58:09+00:00

It’s called opportunity forgone Having a prime focus in life makes everything else including courtship subsidiary, same for guys and girls

anon1880 · 2020-07-21T14:43:23+00:00

If you don't approach girls productivity will not save you, unless your point was that you increase your confidence by being more productive.

Jonnywhoop · 2020-07-21T18:01:10+00:00

“You will lose money chasing women, but you will never lose women chasing money.”

Savaaage · 2020-07-21T05:26:25+00:00

No. You should dedicate all your free time to cold approach as this sub says.

recyclablebanthas · 2020-07-21T09:46:57+00:00

It's not so much about being productive, but having your own life.

freeskee19 · 2020-07-21T10:44:56+00:00

I went through a bad breakup 2 years ago, honestly haven't tried to date or even seek it out since, been working out, working all the OT I can, side hustling, and just generally trying to be a better person, which has kept me insanely busy and not even noticing any attentiontion I may get.

2 weeks ago I put up an iron fence in some dudes yard as a favor for a friend, and for 2 days, the amount of women who slowed down to check me out was absolutley bonkers. Like blatantly eyeballing me... is there something to the workboots and dirty hands ladies? I'm not ugly but I'm no Brad Pitt here, I swear if I would have even stopped focusing on that fence for a minute they would be on me like rabid dogs.

Wild stuff.

charmbrood · 2020-07-21T12:20:03+00:00

1 million % agree with you bro! Keep on being productive :)

Cyphex555 · 2020-07-21T15:41:46+00:00

That is absolutely on point. "She" likes to chase a hero. A "Hero" is made from something other than girls. Unless you are born with some amazing genes then its just sex lol

Hourglass51 · 2020-07-21T16:50:25+00:00

Exact same, in order to win the game you have to leave it

tc470 · 2020-07-21T17:21:05+00:00

Agreed

hoothoot6996 · 2020-07-21T02:16:45+00:00

Yes totally understandable. When I'm feeling good about myself cuz some girl fucked me over and I used that sadness to fuel up my productivity, every bitches in the area is eyeballing and get all kinds of compliments, them flirting

misterandosan · 2020-07-21T11:36:49+00:00

I've had a ridiculous amount of women tell me straight to my face that ambition is one of the most attractive things you could possibly have. It's not a joke.

busyguy00 · 2020-07-21T12:12:33+00:00

💯👏👍🙌🏼

Edit: that’s why im busyguy00

thesoapster69 · 2020-07-21T18:11:36+00:00

its true, when i joined cross country and started caring more about my grades i found dating to be so much easier! Getting physically fit and mentally better is a win win overall

RedditReading10 · 2020-07-21T18:11:51+00:00

Also adds more content to your conversations when you are busy as you can fall back on talking about what you've been up to if you find it is interesting.

SantiSolar · 2020-07-21T18:18:11+00:00

This is because girls like a man with purpose and ambition. If you don’t have a purpose in life besides girls you wont get girls. But if you have things going on in your life that are not girls, girls will be attracted to you

2020-07-21T19:20:33+00:00

When I am focusing on a task, for example studying at a coffee shop, my sole priority is to get the job done and get out of there. Ironically, when I am in that mindset, that's when the universe starts raining really attractive men. However, I can't allow myself to initiate contact knowing that I'll be too busy to see them later on. I can't spare anytime to see them because exams got me in a time crunch and even all nighters can't get me through the shit ton of information I have to memorise.

Environmental-Ad9912 · 2020-07-21T20:27:15+00:00

My Brother, THANK YOU FOR THIS!! I thought I was the only one. The only time they swarm me is when I am very concentrated on completing things I LOVE or things I mandatorily how to get done. Question is, how do you smoothly switch that lever when the time is right?

mykittyhitsme · 2020-07-22T01:36:13+00:00

I had an ex who used to say "unavailability is hot." As in being unavailable due to being busy with one's own interests.

Sankara-Lumumba99 · 2020-07-21T02:21:20+00:00

Very very true.

klashnikov55 · 2020-07-21T03:32:21+00:00

Absolutely true!!! Keep working passionately and never complaint before them raises you as a high smv man.

girthy_bigmac · 2020-07-21T04:39:01+00:00

This is it king, nice work.

Shashankmiller · 2020-07-21T03:37:46+00:00

True man

catblack8008 · 2020-07-21T05:51:40+00:00

True

throwawayvirginac · 2020-07-21T08:47:16+00:00

I'm almost constantly trying to be productive,the problem is when I'm the most productive is at my job which consists entirely of men.

saulisdating · 2020-07-21T10:27:55+00:00

That's true only because you behave differently when you don't obsess over girls all the time.

Productiveness isn't really the key here, you're mixing up cause and effect. You can achieve the same feeling while not being very productive and simply employing the abundance mentality.

Ttree333 · 2020-07-21T13:51:15+00:00

Totes mgoats

njugiste · 2020-07-21T14:38:57+00:00

Sadly it still doesn't work for the best of us.

lovatoariana · 2020-07-21T15:03:05+00:00

Never made a difference for me. When i had a job, i just had less time for myself, was overworking (applies for 90% of jobs, they want u to work weekende etc.). Of course, being busy with something you love doing brings more substance to your life.

Gloomy-Jicama · 2020-07-21T15:24:49+00:00

Mental masturbation homie. Being attractive = being attractive.

Being more confident with women is a result of having continued prolong success with them, which comes from experience.

geffchang · 2020-07-21T16:44:33+00:00

I'm so busy at work. I don't have time for girls, and I frankly don't care about getting girls anymore.

GweethGod00 · 2020-07-21T16:59:55+00:00

Less available you is to a female the more she go b on yo nuts

LakersAreTerrible25 · 2020-07-21T19:15:07+00:00

Women are still not gunna chase you no matter how high value or good looking you are, thats just reality. They have options up the ass and even if they think you're attractive, you're still disposable. Focus on your purpose and when you wanna approach a particular girl, do it. At the end of the day, you're gonna have to pursue the woman until she has built enough of an attachment, for her to even care about you. Purpose is for your enjoyment and possible monetary benefit. But it isn't gonna magically make girls wanna pursue you or your success rate go up all that much. The only real difference will be your increased success with women who care about guys having their own place and shit together in general

SeaBreezyDay369 · 2020-07-22T00:47:55+00:00

I think that goes with anything in life

thrashourumov · 2020-07-22T01:05:43+00:00

For sure women probably don't dislike guys that keep themselves busy, have some sort of life, projects, are working their way to something great or better. You may sound more independent and definitely less desperate to please.

feliscatusss · 2020-07-27T22:11:46+00:00

Im a girl and RELATABLE!

slumpttx · 2020-07-21T06:10:46+00:00

We working 60+ hours a week boys, going for 70 and even 80 the more my hustle picks up. No time for these trashy women anymore 🤮

frogpeoplearecoming · 2020-07-21T11:58:21+00:00

Applies to some.

If you are productive you feel good about yourself.

When you feel good about yourself you are more attractive.

Why you feel good about yourself depends on you. What productive means is also subjective to you.

So whatever makes you feel good about yourself.

throwawaygang21 · 2020-07-21T18:07:42+00:00

I'm so tired of this stupid philosophy that ignoring women and being on your purpose makes women magically appear out of thin air and blow you. It's bullshit, unless by working on your purpose you mean getting ripped, dressing stylish, or becoming a famous rapper that is not how the world works at all.

How tf would a woman know that you're on your purpose when you're just in the grocery store. Can she smell that you just filed an LLC from the pheromones you're emitting that draws her in to spread her legs? Like bruh stop this shit.

I spent my teens and early twenties playing video games and just not trying with women. It got me nowhere because I never put myself out there. Once I worked on my body, my grooming, my style AND I put myself out there, that's when the women came. You still have to put yourself out there, they do not just show up at your door because you decided to focus on your school instead of pornhub, that's illogical.

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