My ex wife has moved on with someone else

Shot-Combination-496 · 2024-04-19T02:17:11+00:00

I moved on with my new partner. My ex husband dipped and left me with 3 kids. He wasn't emotionally there for me or the kids and I stayed longer than he deserved. Long enough to have.3 kids he isn't there for. He was soooo upset and is still soooo upset that I moved on 6 mo. Later, even tho he's the one who checked I out. and me and my new guy were soooo happy and ended up getting pregnant within 2 months. Still together 5 yrs later while my sad ex refuses to co parent and fight w me and my boyfriend over everything...... moral of the story, he has a sad story too and is the victim and I'm the villain. BUT If he was a good guy at all, he'd still be taking care of his kids with us and stop being so against us.... if he can't be decent after the relationship ended he obviously was worse during it.

If you weren't what she was into anymore you either grew apart or you stopped giving her what SHE needed. It's not all about you guys.

Dnutzfour20 · 2024-04-18T20:05:08+00:00

I am in the middle of losing my business as I am not able to mentally be there for my customers.

ProblemEconomy9213 · 2024-04-17T13:35:14+00:00

Your not . God has a plan for all of us “losers” You keep thinking of yourself in that way and that’s where you will stay. It’s time to wake up thankful for another day on this earth and that you have the opportunity to control yourself and what you can do moving forward.

Just finalized my divorce this year. If she hasn’t finalized the divorce she was probably really to this the whole time.

Masypha · 2024-04-16T21:45:25+00:00

Depending on your age would you be interested in joining the military as a reservist or national guardsmen?

Dnutzfour20 · 2024-04-15T22:28:11+00:00

Walked in on mine and someone else. Counseling for 9 months I crack her socials. She was seeing a guy for 9 months well I was in counseling with her. 4 months after I say fuck this. She is telling my kids she is going to marry a new guy( not the same as counseling) moves In with him. I lose every lawyer battle and pay her 80k.... Bruh... Be strong. It could be worse.

FuriousSasquatch · 2024-04-15T18:50:34+00:00

Put the trash out on the curb and let it go. Easier said than done, I know.

Fine-Lake7501 · 2024-04-15T18:35:54+00:00

Aye man I know how you feel my ex wife left in the middle of the night took my step daughter with her that I had raised since she was 2 years old (7 now) she left Wednesday night and Friday morning posting pictures with her new man (she should of found someone bigger than I am) I know it hurts like hell I know the anger I know the sadness I do but it ain't worth it, it ain't worth stressing or beating yourself up about it really ain't. Move on find someone better. Then blow her back out record it and send it to your ex.

jrr087 · 2024-04-15T16:19:01+00:00

Mine was dating almost immediately after separation, but she met some schmuck 3 months ago and is already moving in with him (with my 6 yr old daughter). Women like that are garbage. Only thing you can do is rise and be better. Keep fighting brother

MidniteOG · 2024-04-15T14:43:02+00:00

I know this feeling too. It’s also fresh for me. The first one will sting the most. I was lied to, given false hope and had the rug pulled out from under me as I was trying to reconcile. But her mind was made up. 11 years gone, within 6 months. I’m told she downgraded, I try to act like I don’t care, but it’s tough. Especially since I have to see her multiple times a week for custody exchanges

Specialist-Camp-3798 · 2024-04-15T14:20:09+00:00

It sucks, but nothing you can do. Don't focus on her or what she does - she isn't your problem anymore. Focus on you, your hobbies, your kids, and self-improvement. You need to view her with indifference. If she died tomorrow, your world wouldn't be any different - embrace it. Things get better, but only if you're willing to let go and move on.

summitsummitsummit · 2024-04-15T13:08:15+00:00

My still wife (currently going through divorce proceedings) moved on within 2 month and is now pregnant with his child. We are 9 months into separation with 3 kids of our own. Absolute shit show and it broke me but we fucking rise from this shit. I wish you the best. You got this and when you get to the day where you can be okay with everything you’re gonna feel great. Grind it out. You got this.

Sufficient-Snow1151 · 2024-04-15T12:56:11+00:00

They Monkey branch. Mine did the same 3 weeks after separation.

As hard as it is, got to just not care about them as they don't about us.

Surround yourself with good friends / do things for you / eat well and stay off booze. Enjoy your own company and be the best you can.

I have a 4 and 3 year old and just putting energy to me so can continue to be the best dad for them.

2024-04-15T11:37:12+00:00

She wasn't yours. It was just your turn. Time for you to let her go, find a new chick, and fuck the shit out of her.

savage_cabbages · 2024-04-15T10:19:09+00:00

So did mine OP, you get over it eventually, how long it takes is up to you.

DarkEnergy67 · 2024-04-15T09:41:52+00:00

OP is weak and needs to man up. Sounds horrible of me but I mean well.

It is all about control. Ex wife controls OP because he still cares about what was in the past. She may not even know or care that she is in control. But ex wife has moved on and does not care anymore, sad but real.

To be a man is to not be controlled by others, even ex wife.

The way through this is to analyse the relationship thoroughly and recognise it is ended. OP needs to let go of a past that cannot be again. Then OP can be free.

An outward sign of this might be called grey rock attitude.

Read the advice of so many other men- read philosophy and hit the gym. Work on yourself without regard of ex wife. It is all about OP now. Time to be a little selfish. All that said, remember that you don’t have to be a dick about it.

Good luck.

FaithlessnessNo281 · 2024-04-15T03:04:35+00:00

I’m in a different spot since we were separated a few years while going through divorce. But my ex moved in with a guy before the divorce was done. I honestly hope they work out. It keeps her off my ass and my son won’t have to witness her riding the carousel with a different dude every couple weeks. Use it as motivation for self improvement if it’s really bothering you.

dday_throwaway3 · 2024-04-15T01:56:39+00:00

You've got work to do on yourself. You've allowed your wife to control you since you got married, and she's emasculated you. If you want to change that, then there are two books you need to read and internalize:

* No More Mr. Nice Guy by Dr. Robert Glover. It will address your validation seeking behavior and covert contracts.

* When I Say No I Feel Guilty by Manuel J Smith. The Assertive Bill of Rights is written with you in mind.

After you read each chapter, I recommend you watch the corresponding chapter video on Rian Stone's YouTube channel. It will help you absorb and internalize the information faster. Don't skip ahead to the video - you need to read the book part first.

Subtle-Catastrophe · 2024-04-15T01:40:46+00:00

Send that dude a thank-you card, for taking such a problem off your hands. At least mentally.

DblShots · 2024-04-15T00:34:19+00:00

I allowed my Ex to stay in my home until she was either ready to buy it from me or move out to something she could afford. In the divorce decree it stated that neither of us could have stay over guests passed 10pm at night. She told me that she had met someone and they were pretty serious and I may see him at the house. I told her how it was not comfortable for me and I thought it would be confusing to our 5 year old to meet Mommy's new guy while Daddy still lived downstairs. It was unbelievably fucked up. He basically was there 24/7 on her off days. I mentioned it again to her and she basically told me to grow up and it isn't a big deal. I had to get hotel rooms until I was able to find a place of my own to move out. 3 months later she was shacked up with another guy and moves my kid to NJ. I sold my home and immediately got a place close to my daughter in NJ, but getting time has been difficult. My Ex says she will sell her home and move again if I attempt to buy a home in the same neighborhood as them. It is a total shit show cause I believed that we both would handle shit amicably. Please do not make the mistakes I made. Get lawyered up and get yourself the best parenting plan possible on paper, even if you think it is in excess. You never know when someone will go sideways on you. It's going to take me years and a lot of $ to fix what I could have easily done in the original divorce decree. Good luck.

DivorceRecoveryMen · 2024-04-15T00:21:16+00:00

I feel for you. But, soon, what she does won't affect you so bad. Hard to get her out of your DNA at first. You;ll realize that someone else has that problem now. It's a marathon and not a sprint.

BabyYoda55 · 2024-04-15T00:15:43+00:00

It sucks. But, just think, you will probably have someone else’s ex someday. Circle of Life. Focus on yourself first though. Do anything you can to better yourself and everything will fall into place.

RevolutionaryLaw8854 · 2024-04-15T00:13:21+00:00

Go to the gym and listen to this song on repeat bullet for my valentines- your betrayal. Get jacked and slay biatches

TheWormTurns22 · 2024-04-14T23:27:16+00:00

The loser is that guy who will now soon suffer like you did if not more, good luck to him with that harridan.

ReinventingOldDog · 2024-04-14T23:17:18+00:00

My stbxw moved on the day after we separated. Haven't even filed papers yet.

Just trust that they suck.

WakeUpAndGoooo · 2024-04-14T22:40:58+00:00

My ex has moved on with several people. It was a gut punch at first. But now it's just meh. You will make it through. Do not worry about what she is doing or feel you have to be doing the same or better. Do what YOU want to do and what makes you happy.

Title	My ex wife has moved on with someone else
Author	integral218
Upvotes	51
Comments	59
Date	April 14, 2024 10:33 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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