I’m addicted to female attention.

seduction-ModTeam · 2024-05-27T02:01:02+00:00

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Cool story.

Rikthelazy · 2024-05-22T11:28:49+00:00

It's refreshing when people are honest with their deepest desires and are self aware.

EdUNC- · 2024-05-22T18:05:22+00:00

Genuinely curious to see what you look like

GoGetter0130 · 2024-05-22T12:50:09+00:00

I'm in a similar situation. I have always gotten attention but recently got more fit and I'm getting exactly what you're getting. It's gotten to the point where if they're not validating me (because not all women will) I start to get disappointed and question why. This is probably what hot women go through in their heads because of all the attention they get. Yeah it's addicting, but also a little exhausting.

Epiphanic_Eros · 2024-05-22T12:55:23+00:00

Everyone likes attention from the opposite sex. You’re learning to be desirable at first glance, and many women will respond to that. Enjoy it, but release the grasping into it

Urfuckingtapped · 2024-05-22T14:25:46+00:00

If anyone’s on this sub, I think they’re in the same boat as you in terms of the female attention addiction.

NChSh · 2024-05-22T16:51:18+00:00

The fucked up thing is i don’t mind not fucking these women as long as they give me attention. I’m literally becoming a woman.

This comes off as a little nuts. Validation from women is great obviously. You do not need to sleep with everyone.

A better way to think about women is that they have standards. If I go to a party and I look around and don't really feel any kind of way towards the women there, but would talk to one if they approached me to see if they were interesting but otherwise wouldn't bother, that would make me a "woman" lol. Getting involved in every girl you can is exhausting and not as fulfilling as it sounds. You just gotta act like you've been there before. I'm much more interested in getting the hottest or most interesting woman I can and don't really give a shit about numbers.

HyperByte1990 · 2024-05-22T16:42:41+00:00

Sounds like we are the same guy lol. I've been in and out of my "sexy phase" multiple times. I re lost all my weight again and was jacked before so I'm back to getting checked out and smiled at constantly. I went to a new nightclub last weekend and the number and attractiveness of the women staring at me felt like a VR simulation of being a celebrity or something.

I live in a major city so walking down any busy street and getting checked out by countless women is fucking intoxicating... even though the down side is creepy homeless dudes also hitting on me (even if they're joking around it's creepy af).

But I understand exactly how you feel. Not only am I physically attractive again but I've been funny enough since high-school that I could just use my sense of humor to get the hottest girls at school to be interested in me. It's a weird feeling like if you have a million dollars and can buy anything... but you're scared you'll waste too much money on the wrong purchase

blahbloopooo · 2024-05-22T18:02:40+00:00

You're insecure. You're definitely not everything a high value woman would want.

Develop a self-esteem based on something more solid and internal. Philosophy, religion, a vision, from your acts and things you've worked towards, and many other options besides...

If I get attention I just notice it, that's it. Doesn't affect my ego one bit. They are as you already alluded to, 2 sides of the same coin, if I don't get attention I don't care one bit either.

That’s what being secure means, it’s a strength. Being insecure means you are letting other people control and manipulate your emotions (in your case very easily), it’s a weakness.

My favourite poem, which says it better than I ever could:

""

If you can keep your head when all about you
Are losing theirs and blaming it on you,

If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you, But make allowance for their doubting too;

If you can wait and not be tired by waiting, Or being lied about, don’t deal in lies,

Or being hated, don’t give way to hating, And yet don’t look too good, nor talk too wise:

If you can dream—and not make dreams your master;
If you can think—and not make thoughts your aim;

If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster, And treat those two impostors just the same;

If you can bear to hear the truth you’ve spoken, Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools,

Or watch the things you gave your life to, broken, And stoop and build ’em up with worn-out tools:

If you can make one heap of all your winnings, And risk it on one turn of pitch-and-toss,

And lose, and start again at your beginnings, And never breathe a word about your loss;

If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew, To serve your turn long after they are gone,

And so hold on when there is nothing in you, Except the Will which says to them: ‘Hold on!’

If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue,
Or walk with Kings—nor lose the common touch,

If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you, If all men count with you, but none too much;

If you can fill the unforgiving minute, With sixty seconds’ worth of distance run,

Yours is the Earth and everything that’s in it,
And—which is more—you’ll be a Man, my son!

""

If - Rudyard Kipling

Moocowstorm · 2024-05-22T15:39:39+00:00

You need to try some therapy. I went through something similar. I realized I wanted the validation to come from within, not without.

Monsieurlegrec · 2024-05-22T14:38:25+00:00

First congrats. Honestly, if a lot of women are attracted to you and not shy to clearly show it… kudos to you. You said it yourself, it’s not a healthy mentality to have. I would suggest to be more concerned about using the attention that you get to find a woman that has all the qualities that you want. As a Greek guy I would suggest also that you read the myth of Narcissus. Don’t be so much concerned with the attention that you get to the point of falling in love with your own reflection! Take care.

spasfux · 2024-05-22T10:44:28+00:00

if u take too much testosterone inject, maybe check your estrogen levels.

legallegends · 2024-05-22T20:49:03+00:00

First off you must be young. When us males are young we are self centered, most certainly vain or narcissistic and yes want female attention desperately.

Slowly over time you will realize that female attention, although nice, is superficial at best, fickle and unreliable at worst. So I would suggest talking to a professional about this because if you are envious of other males receiving attention then it's an issue that will affect your personal and professional life.

It most likely stems from lack of self confidence, even though you are shredded/attractive etc...

From just this post you sound very shallow, nurture your mind as well as your body. My 2 cents, enjoy the hard work you put into your body. Enjoy the attention you get but that attention isn't what you should be seeking, family and friends, living a life of virtue are more important by far.

Wish you the best.

Legal-MorningW-24 · 2024-05-22T18:48:54+00:00

Not to get too deep but a lot of times when people seek attention from the opposite sex it's because they're trying to replace the love and affection that they didn't receive from their parent(s). It's stupidly common and was something I realized about myself when I felt like I needed validation and attention from women but not sex.

Whole_Day9866 · 2024-05-22T17:26:46+00:00

Get a better connection with your mom. Feel like the little boy has mommy issues.

nongo · 2024-05-23T01:56:37+00:00

Does this stem from the fact you didn’t receive attention from when you were younger?

Badguy60 · 2024-05-22T17:34:18+00:00

Not gonna lie I know how you feel lol

_Sarah_Tonin_ · 2024-05-22T19:47:46+00:00

You sound like you’re on steroids but this obviously isn’t enough information for me to know that

Last_Address_1787 · 2024-05-22T11:03:51+00:00

And this folks, is the state of men in 2024. He’s not even embarrassed to share this. 🙁

TRTGymBro1 · 2024-05-22T15:51:56+00:00

Join the club. The dark side is that you become dependent on it and develop neediness. Which will drive women away like nothing else.

what595654 · 2024-05-22T18:14:55+00:00

Look up what you need for a balanced life.

Feeling good doesn’t just happen

If one aspect in your life is going well, then move on to the next one. You can be into the attention/women all you want. But, how are your other aspects of life?

Do you have close friends you can trust?

Are you working on your heart health/mental health (not just your muscles)?

Are your finances in order?

Are you constantly learning and growing as a person?

Do you have beliefs you are cultivating?

I have a feeling that once you truly balance your life, this won't be an issue anymore.

TrueKeyBoardWarrior · 2024-05-22T10:51:48+00:00

Who cares if someone thinks it’s bad? That’s why I workout. Have you seen how Okan Serbes went from some average nobody to being checked out on the constant basis? He had discipline and motivation and earned it. Any man who’s got to that point where they’re very physically fit has earned it in my eyes.

It’s the reason I workout. Being healthy? That’s important. Having attention from women when I didn’t get much attention when I was in High School? Absolutely paramount. Making up for lost years. I’m the one spinning plates now.

I love myself enough now to work to build a good physique, and I’ll soak any and all the attention from women because I deserve it.

You’re doing good, fam. Keep it up. Bask in it lmao!

combustiblelemons9 · 2024-05-22T20:24:41+00:00

When I got a haircut and started doing walking with confidence I noticed women checking me out and I was addicted to that for a long time.

Snoo-74514 · 2024-05-22T23:05:57+00:00

I’m glad everyone in this group is so humble

Plebe-Uchiha · 2024-05-22T23:51:05+00:00

I was the same way but I grew out of it. It’s a journey. You can grow out of it too. My homie never has. It’s possible though. If you want to grow out of it. Because again it is a drug. It feels good. But, I disliked being angry at other men for getting more attention than me when I was “better” because I was more fit. [+]

Distinct_Attorney212 · 2024-05-23T02:32:44+00:00

Sounds like you have some narcissistic traits. I’m well aware of how this term is thrown around but I don’t mean it to shame you. Being addicted to validation is outsourcing your self esteem, as strong and fit as you are maybe it’s time to start working on your mental resilience as well.

I think addressing this will really improve your life. Having this kind of envy, resentment and entitlement is a weight on your life. As you age this desire kind of goes away as you find your worth through your achievements and hobbies rather than female attention. Age really humbles you as well as teaching you that validation is fickle and an endless pursuit. Best of luck to you.

theashesstir · 2024-05-23T03:46:20+00:00

i appreciatae and respect the honesty. But it reflects depth and complexity of character and security with yourself to hold space for the possibiilty that that other dude has something interesting and of value to offer, and to be receptive and oopen and thoughtfully observant of it. if you perceive it - or identify it - then it becomes a prompt for an another capacity in which you can grow

DogecoinArtists · 2024-05-23T13:58:14+00:00

Hilarious

Radiant-Positive-582 · 2024-05-24T19:30:34+00:00

Lol unfortunately, I feel this. Going out in public whether that's the grocery store, or a party.. I like knowing I'm being checked out. That's why I can't get rid of Hinge man, I see a bad chick I want her and they come in waves. I know I'm a top guy.

Several_Ad_8363 · 2024-05-22T18:21:03+00:00

How low is your body fat? Sean Nalewanyj says below a certain percentage it starts to affect your sex drive.

To your main point, I'm nowhere near shredded, but since losing weight, I've enjoyed attention for its own sake as well as the greater opportunities one actually gets. So your post isn't crazy to me.

A lot of the motivation of people on this forum is about seeking validation through women, not purely about the enjoyability of sexual intercourse (otherwise they would just pay).

YaadmonGyalis · 2024-05-22T16:37:33+00:00

I know the feeling, this was me before. I fell out of this mindset quick once I started hanging around real players

Comprehensive_Gas_16 · 2024-05-22T20:43:09+00:00

I thought I was the only one.. your on the right track with the vulnerability I have no doubt youll figure this shit out

isellfeels · 2024-05-22T21:05:07+00:00

Same here.

sixsevenzero · 2024-05-22T22:27:36+00:00

I would ask yourself deep down why you want the female validation, journal it out, and seee what you end up with.

dystopia061 · 2024-05-23T05:50:12+00:00

If you worked hard for it you should expect this from the world

Makakka2002 · 2024-05-23T05:51:37+00:00

Something’s not right here either troll or sick narcissistic fuck…me blessed with top shelf looks I’m slightly annoyed going out with these tons of iois. Yes here and there vn from top women but most are from -3 -4 i call it the trail…DONT LOOK AT ME is what I’m thinking it feels like a slight insult who do you think you are! That’s how women think you baffoon.

Another tip. It sounds manic so crash imminent

salutcemoi · 2024-05-23T12:35:17+00:00

I haven’t gotten shredded yet but I get female attention all the time tbh

waleedy25 · 2024-05-23T13:14:45+00:00

Hows lean your body is and what is your physique look like and fat% Thansk

clearbreezy · 2024-05-23T14:00:38+00:00

“I’m the leanest, [most] stylish and handsome guy.” Yeah, sure you are…

appolonysian · 2024-05-23T18:25:24+00:00

This sub: “confidence bro, confidence, you need to have it. It’s everything.”

guy has borderline delusional confidence

This sub: “you’re gay. Cringe. Seek help!!”

JGoonSquad · 2024-05-23T21:48:29+00:00

Damn you're turning into a chick wanting attention all of the time!

throwaway908456 · 2024-05-27T01:52:00+00:00

How is this supposed to help us ???? Wtf is this mod pls ban this right now wtf is this bullshit

fuggetboutit · 2024-05-22T16:53:06+00:00

How fit are we talking?

cloudedburst7 · 2024-05-22T18:13:42+00:00

I guarantee not as many women you think find you that attractive. Humble yourself before making a fool of yourself but ultimately it’s up to you

AlexCosta · 2024-05-23T00:15:12+00:00

OP has literally turned into a woman that seeks attention and validation from the opposite sex.

Good job taking care of your health, OP, but it sounds like you barely work out your mental health.

ConfidentMongoose874 · 2024-05-22T16:53:41+00:00

Well, are they ?

bannedcanceled · 2024-05-22T18:46:09+00:00

Autists when they realize chicks aren’t attracted to muscle

bytheninedivines · 2024-05-22T21:16:09+00:00

This is so needy. Lmao

nordik1 · 2024-05-23T00:21:35+00:00

This is the core issue of everyone who is into pickup and has big body count numbers too.

If we are honest, pickup and wanting a large body count stems from the addiction to female attention or else there wouldn't be any reason to do it.

There's obviously self-development benefits to be had, but its all in the pursuit of a woman giving you that dopamine hit, which is why its always about the next girl you can rack up once you smash one. Women are the most potent drug on earth.

For example my barber who’s a woman asked me whether a lot of women come up to me to flirt. When i told her it never happened she couldn’t believe me

Women are always amazed when they find out handsome guys rarely get approached (if ever)

Suspicious-Sink-4940 · 2024-05-23T00:54:22+00:00

Similar experience. I literally find myself angrily thinking about why that woman not showed me insane attention. Even small attentions not enough. It is a one drug.

bas4784 · 2024-05-22T19:04:43+00:00

"I’m literally becoming a woman." LOL

_I_dont_give_a_damn · 2024-05-22T19:59:52+00:00

I think you should be on The Oprah Show.

Fantastic-Life-2024 · 2024-05-22T15:44:49+00:00

What woman wrote this smh.

MindExplosions · 2024-05-22T23:22:58+00:00

Too bad you can’t type grammatical sentences

themalleableduck2 · 2024-05-22T21:38:00+00:00

what a fucking loser 😭😭

yaksoku_u56 · 2024-05-23T09:37:43+00:00

genuinely, i think that you used some steroids, it will boost your ego and you may feel a little edgy.

MuKund10 · 2024-05-23T12:27:19+00:00

Face reveal

RefrigeratorNearby70 · 2024-05-22T15:03:02+00:00

The same case with me as 6'1.5 tall dude, I'm used to being the tallest guy in the room, I hate it when taller ppl stand next to me, it feels weird.

_LookHereLookListen_ · 2024-05-22T16:17:12+00:00

Not an insult, just an observation: you're probably gay.

Title	I’m addicted to female attention.
Author	Worried-Schedule-124
Upvotes	253
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Date	May 22, 2024 10:28 AM UTC (2 years ago)
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