If most women look away immediately as soon as you lock eyes with them, is this is good indicator that you're ugly? (NO COPE ALLOWED)

thebackupformybackup · 2024-08-24T00:23:20+00:00

Not necessarily.

If they do that consistently, yes. Either that or you’re staring really intensely which can be odd

Realistically most won’t stay connected for long. But if you’re attractive some definitely will

It’s allllll in the eyes. I have a high success rate once I figured out how to gauge interest simply by how a woman looks at me

rickyspanish12345 · 2024-08-24T00:45:14+00:00

This is based on a scientific study I read about 15 years ago:

If a woman looks up and away she's not interested. If she looks down and away she is interested.

DaygameCode · 2024-08-24T00:24:38+00:00

Most people tend to avoid eye contact with strangers because it’s not socially acceptable to stare at someone and most people tend to be shy and self-conscious when someone looks at their eyes. The reality is that people don’t usually look at someone directly, if they want to look they tend to prefer doing it when the person they look at isn’t noticing, and that is even more true for women who like to be way more subtle than men.

YangGain · 2024-08-24T02:11:53+00:00

I've found there's roughly 4 responses

You look at her she's looking at you and smiling, (she's interested)
If she's looking at you but quickly looks away she was lingering her gaze a bit wasn't wow'ed
She doesn't look at you, she's already looked at you and isn't interested
She has this look on her face like she just smelled a fart or something, she looked at you and she's revolted by you.

climaxingwalrus · 2024-08-24T00:53:55+00:00

Post pic and I’ll tell ya

examine8 · 2024-08-24T01:33:45+00:00

I'd be considered more on the attractive side than less attractive side however I don't have confidence so when I see a woman looking away I imagine she's not interested. Usually turns out they are.

So I'm in the gym tonight and I smile at the hot girl as I walk past and she smiles back. Then I walk back into the weights area and catch her looking and then nervously looking down as if she has been caught and doesn't know what to do. I ask if she's using the machine and she smiles, says no then walk away really quick. I think... maybe... she's just every awkward and shy lol

Literally_Autistic · 2024-08-24T13:59:45+00:00

They do that if they think you’re cute too.

If they’re not interested at all or think you’re creepy they won’t look back. If they think you’re cute they will.

Trick is to not be looking at them when they look back, but then catch her when she does. If you do, you should smile. If she smiles, she’s happy for you to start talking to her.

Don’t ever immediately avert your gaze when she catches you looking. To her that signals “he didn’t want me to see him looking, that might mean he’s trying to be sneaky, that means he’s creepy”.

It’s hard. Good luck!

Kobe_curry24 · 2024-08-24T01:00:25+00:00

Jesus you guys don’t talk to no woman at all Lmfaoooo

vladiVP · 2024-08-24T03:24:29+00:00

Brother you relaying on looks too much

ivecaughtawildgigolo · 2024-08-24T20:49:59+00:00

Coming from a girl! Staring/holding eye contact is usually an indicator that you are attractive, but not holding eye contact doesn’t mean that you AREN’T. Some may just be a little shy, I typically try not to make eye contact with anyone when I can help it (passing by others, in public.)

pendragon2290 · 2024-08-24T15:41:56+00:00

Not true, for the most part. Eye contact then looking away is also indicative of interest.

I'm not ugly, I'm told. Solid 7 according to sources close. But when I see eye contact like that multiple times I pounce on it. Most the time they've shown interest when I approached. But there indeed have been times that when I approached they absolutely shut me down.

Just gotta learn to read the room. I have 20 years in the dating game so it's kinda second nature to me now.

Dense_Researcher1372 · 2024-08-24T04:27:25+00:00

Your post history has me scratching my head on how old you really are? If your cold approach is as dishonest as the age you project here, then you are screwed.

nordik1 · 2024-08-24T03:49:42+00:00

no one here is going to be able to answer this with any reliability

United_Virus7901 · 2024-08-25T05:48:38+00:00

I think it depends there was this girl I’d talk to at work and sometimes she would stop making eye contact when talking , I had thought maybe she thought I was ugly. One day I jokingly told her in a serious tone look at me when I’m talking to you and then I laughed when she looked shocked and she said I’m sorry I’m just really shy and making eye contact makes me uncomfortable. I told her I did too sometimes and we both just kept talking but the vibe felt alot better We ended up dating not right away though

2024-08-27T03:29:33+00:00

This is a tough one, because people generally don't like to stare at people but I've had lots of women stare at me and make eyes contact as I'm walking by.

This would be a green light for me.

Significant-Jump5738 · 2024-08-30T03:31:13+00:00

Stop trying to act like you're Joe Biden and people will look at you better

dazedwombat · 2024-11-28T02:19:52+00:00

Unfortunately, this could mean anything and usually varies person to person. For example, my vision long distance kinda sucks, plus I have social anxiety, so sometimes I’ll look away purely bc I’m not sure the person I’m looking at is meeting my gaze in a mutually friendly manner lol so I get shy and look away so they don’t think I’m weird/staring. Sometimes it’s just that particular woman being awkward. There’s other times I look away bc it’s a guy I think is cute and I don’t wanna give away that I find him attractive. Some women are just awkward, some may find you cute, some didn’t mean to meet your gaze and look away bc they’re not interested, etc. It really will depend in each scenario.

stukoe · 2024-08-24T08:51:17+00:00

Women do this in general. They don't lock eyes with a man unless he's Fabio. The best way to tell why a woman has chosen to look away from your gaze is to pay attention to how she reacts. No noticeable change in expression usually means nothing. Women will also look away from the gaze of men they're attracted to.

I wouldn't base "ugliness" on whether or not women lock eyes with you.

Also, who gives a fuck if strangers have a staring contest with you.

Ok-Training-7587 · 2024-08-24T09:37:28+00:00

No. It might just mean they’re nervous, not in the mood, or socially awkward

No-Philosophy5461 · 2024-08-24T16:28:38+00:00

There's so much more to it than just eye contact. A fling I had over a year ago we sat next to each other a couple seats away in a class/course. There was no long eye contact but you could tell from your peripheral we would both glance and lean that direction to each other up til we broke the ice and talked. She sat in the same spot every day as did I. Usually you can just tell by body language, responses, and eye contact/proximity. It's a process but there's also people who are just in denial that every person is into them and everyone (especially men) need to learn to accept that and not be a creep.

AutumnLeaves420 · 2024-08-24T08:10:41+00:00

Hope you're sipping you're favorite cope, not-todays-idiot.

As a woman, the only people I intentionally hold eye contact with are my friends and family. It's a sign of deep trust & intimacy to hold eye contact for multiple seconds.

In fact, teenager of the day, healthy people don't maintain prolonged eye-contact with strangers, period. We don't, and we hope you don't hold eye-contact like it's some stupid masculine power game... that's called creepy as fuck. They (us girls) will find your maintained eye-contact overly aggressive, like some insane fuckin male animal stalking it's prey, unblinking, psycho like that.

You're in the seduction sub, so I'm betting you're going to have your ass handed to you just because you're opting for tactics of emotional manipulation.

Now, there are plotting sociopaths out there, just like you, and like attracts like, so.. you know... just talk with what you attract while you are like this... what could possibly go wrong?

Ampboy97 · 2024-08-24T14:57:51+00:00

No not necessarily. I’ve caught women looking at me multiple times and they’d turn away when I see them looking.

2024-08-24T06:00:08+00:00

It depends on their confidence and mood. I've been back and forth between fat/ugly and fit/attractive a bunch of times. When you're unattractive they will act like you're invisible. When you're attractive you will notice them staring. Some will look away when ymthey see you making eye contact with them and others will continue to stare or smile or eye fuck or all of the above and play with their hair depending on their mood and confidence level.

SecretComments · 2024-08-24T19:11:48+00:00

A caveat for you: some of this is type too.

As much as Seddit likes to suggest just being attractive or not there IS variance here that shouldn't be sidestepped. In the middleground mostly.

One woman's 5/10 might be another woman's 8/10. Yeah if you look like Ryan Gosling you're gonna get a lot of hard eye contact but not every woman would want even that, or the most chiseled, most conventionally attractive men.

I specify the middleground because if you're showing up to bars in an old bad looking shirt and you're smelly and fat and have a neck beard, and carry yourself like a total fucking loser virgin bitch then yeah, all the girls will avoid eye contact.

Pro tip: try dressing well. Randomly. Go to a fuckin dive bar in nice slacks and a solid button-up. Undo a couple buttons from the top. See what happens.

I'm not muscular and don't have a great face but I put effort in and what I find is some women if I approach or just exist near them will act like they're already wet just seeing me. Some women will be curious enough to talk and see where it goes. And some women will avoid eye contact or act like I'm not there. But I can see the difference too. I'm not their type AND they're not mine. It's the really basic straight haired blondes, the swifties, the "generically beautiful" glamorous girls who take a look at me and have no interest. Good. I don't like them either.

Figure out what you can appeal to and lean into that. I've gotten laid before just by wearing a silly shirt and letting conversations flow when girls approach ME and mention it. Be fun, have fun, and worry less. You're very very likely not innately ugly you're just either not managing your appearance well enough or you're looking for good reactions from the wrong sort of girl.

MrDownhillRacer · 2024-08-24T01:02:41+00:00

Can there be a full and total ban on these "if a woman scratches her nose, does it mean XYZ" posts?

People engage in all sorts of micro-behaviours for all sorts of reasons, and none of them are reliable indicators or 100% deterministic of any particular attitude, thought, judgement, or anything. If you just put yourself out there and talk to people, you won't have to ask questions like "does it mean their not receptive to me if their ponytail is on the left instead of the right?" You'll find out if people are into you from your success rate when you actually approach them, and then you can adjust your approach from there.

You have to stop treating half of the population like some foreign species. "What's it mean when my dog cocks his head sideways?" The reason we ask these questions about dogs is because THEY CAN'T TALK BACK TO US, so we have to decipher things from behaviours. But humans (and yes, women are humans) can talk back to other humans and decide to text them or not text them back, to go out or not to go out with them, so you don't need to decipher how they flutter their eyes or wrinkle their noses before you approach. You will find out how they feel about you.

Ntex · 2024-08-24T03:35:32+00:00

What if she locks eyes and doesn't look away until you look away?

OkResponsibility2470 · 2024-08-24T02:48:47+00:00

Consistent eye contact is more reliable tbh

elvissayshi · 2024-08-24T14:15:11+00:00

I locked eyes and she smiled. Looked again she smiled again. Looked again and she gave me this super exaggerated not happy smile. I walked away.

Dan-tastico · 2024-08-24T16:30:45+00:00

All of you are thinking about this way too much. If i am out and about. And I see a girl in my category (age, appearance, status).. you can fairly assume that she has some sort of attraction to you.

If you look at her and girl a smile/smirk (giving her some emotions).. you’re in. Now would be the time to jump in and say something interesting.

That’s it. You don’t need to pick up on hair flicking, or whether she looks left or right, or if her toes are painted that day.

Aktive_IV · 2024-08-24T16:40:32+00:00

Nah. It’s all about a confidence thing w them, some can find it intimidating, some will hold it to test you, some will look away out of disinterest, some will just plain look away just bc there doing something else. You never know what a woman’s thinking unless you make the approach or she approaches you.

AzizLiIGHT · 2024-08-24T18:08:15+00:00

Context? At the grocery store, perfectly normal for people to just mind their own business and not make eye contact with everyone.

Social scene? Yeah, your vibe is not vibing.

Puzzleheaded-Pin-558 · 2024-08-25T04:49:01+00:00

Usually when im about to give a direct compliment i look away because i get shy af, when i look back they are still looking at me.

I tried locking eyes with a girl, stopping her, and giving her a compliment all without breaking eye contact and Ive gotten mostly negative results.

So do try to make intermittent eye contact at first

alwayslearninggame · 2024-08-25T17:55:31+00:00

Why do you look away as I lock eyes with them?

newWorldAddress_com · 2024-08-24T14:15:45+00:00

No. It shows she is submissive .

SPKEN · 2024-08-24T19:52:54+00:00

No, if anything it's an indicator that they're shy or got caught staring off into space. Anyone who is dark skinned in a white space can tell you, people drift off into space in your direction or stare for many reasons, it's more about them than you.

Dzxrz · 2024-08-24T07:32:23+00:00

Depends

Title	If most women look away immediately as soon as you lock eyes with them, is this is good indicator that you're ugly? (NO COPE ALLOWED)
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Date	August 24, 2024 12:15 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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