Question for the ladies

EulenWatcher · 2024-10-19T01:49:10+00:00

That's a disgusting situation really. I think knowingly being an accessory to cheating is almost as bad as being a cheater - utterly abhorrent. If a married man or woman tried to make a move on me, I'd collect enough evidence of their moral failing and send them to their spouse.

S0yslut · 2024-10-19T01:57:23+00:00

how you feel about hooking up occasionally with your long time crush who is currently married

That he’s disgusting and I should block him? Even at the lowest point of my life, with men I loved and who were attractive/funny I would never tolerate being a side chick. I’d find my dignity, walk out the door and block him.

I am trying to wrap my mind around this “morally” but can’t seem to find anything wrong with this.

Lol. Most moral systems consider lying to be wrong.. Being in on the lie does make it wrong, it shows you have no consideration for other people. Would I go tracking down side chicks in the case of infidelity? No but I’d never consider them a friend.. They aren’t trustworthy.

IcyTrapezium · 2024-10-19T01:51:33+00:00

Lots of women and men would. That’s why extramarital affairs aren’t exactly uncommon.

Why not? 1) they value marriage as an institution 2) they don’t want to hurt the spouse or kids 3) they find being an affair partner degrading 4) they don’t like sharing 5) they like having more access to their sex partners and playing second fiddle isn’t appealing

Queen_BW · 2024-10-19T03:19:27+00:00

I dont do casual, much less with a married man.

MyLastBestChance · 2024-10-19T02:14:32+00:00

Absolutely not. Zero chance and any man who would be open to that would instantly be eliminated as crush-worthy.

-Shes-A-Carnival · 2024-10-19T02:41:27+00:00

I don't care about the "he's married" part, I woukd never "hook up" more than once with someone I had a crush on unless we started dating

CatallaxyRanch · 2024-10-19T04:22:35+00:00

Having casual sex with someone I have a huge crush on, knowing it can never lead to anything more, isn't fun. It's excruciatingly painful. So I wouldn't do it for that reason alone. Add the fact that he's married and it becomes stupid and reckless. I don't want to take part in destroying a family.

DreaminInChocolate · 2024-10-19T01:59:28+00:00

I'd **** a bitch that fucked my husband and l would expect the same from his wife. Only idiots do that.

attendquoi · 2024-10-19T03:03:37+00:00

Repeat casual sex is not worth it to me. If you aren't worth dating, why would I fuck you again instead of finding someone else?
I wouldn't fuck someone in a relationship unless I had permission from their partner. That's drama I don't need in my life.

thelajestic · 2024-10-19T07:37:38+00:00

I wouldn't do it, and I don't think I'd continue to have a crush on a guy who was willing to cheat on his wife. Just gross. When I was single and on tinder I always turned down people who said they were married/in relationships.

Gillionaire25 · 2024-10-19T07:54:10+00:00

Him suggesting that is one way to kill my infatuation immediately.

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volleyballbeach · 2024-10-19T02:15:57+00:00

I would feel extremely icky if I were to do such a thing, so I would not

YouHateTheMost · 2024-10-19T04:43:00+00:00

This is a bait, isn't it? I feel terrible about it. I would never hurt any marriage like that. Even if I believe myself to be better than his wife - he made his choice, he's not single anymore, so there's no place for me in his heart, or for him in mine.

6teeee9 · 2024-10-19T05:08:16+00:00

i wouldnt, simply because hes taken.

WastedRadiance · 2024-10-19T05:42:17+00:00

If they are in an open relationship it’s not morally wrong. If I knew for sure that his wife was completely okay with it I might do it just once. But i’m not really the type who can have sex with someone repeatedly that I’m not attached to. If they are not in an open relationship though no I could never willingly be the other woman to a cheating man.

MiddleZealousideal89 · 2024-10-19T15:05:03+00:00

Pass. I have no intention of being involved in hurting another person like that. If the guy wants to fuck his marriage up he can do so with someone else.

serpensmercurialis · 2024-10-19T18:24:39+00:00

I couldn’t respect a man who would step out on his wife, much less be attracted to him.

I am trying to wrap my mind around this "morally" but can't seem to find anything wrong with this.

Because you lack empathy and character and are only concerned about whether or not you will be punished for your actions. All you care about is getting yours. As long as you can blame somebody else for how their partner would feel, you think it’s okay. Gross, honestly.

Makuta_Servaela · 2024-10-19T02:41:24+00:00

I mean, my current FWB is married, and I'm good friends with the partner. As long as all three parties know what's going on and are good with it, it's fine. It's just a form of polyamory. Works the same as if the wife wants another male fuck buddy and she, her fuck buddy, and her husband are all cool with it.

Title	Question for the ladies
Author	comsat101
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Comments	71
Date	October 19, 2024 1:46 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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