Had an Amazing Night, Then Got Completely Ghosted Why Does This Happen?

BlueCobr · 2024-10-18T00:14:05+00:00

Sometimes girls get angry at their bf and go out to cheat and then change their mind later.

Wean1eHu11 · 2024-10-18T00:25:14+00:00

Sometimes you go out for the night and forget the world and all your problems, but then real life sets back in and you have laundry to do, bills to pay, work to go to, and the enthusiasm just dies. It happens to guys and girls and probably doesn’t have anything to do with you

OkResponsibility2470 · 2024-10-18T02:42:18+00:00

You can do everything right and still lose. I wouldn’t think too much about it. Have literally met girls, made out with them, banged, gotten their number, kissed me goodnight, and blocked me the next day. LOL

Radiant-Case9070 · 2024-10-18T01:51:03+00:00

It’s just what girls do bro. Move on and find a new girl.

Carrera1107 · 2024-10-18T01:17:36+00:00

It could be for a million reasons. Didn’t see a future with you, currently fucking someone else, moving soon, not as into you as you thought, you said something weird. I can come up with an endless list. No point in speculating. Move on. Also, maybe text instead of call the first time reaching out.

Kidcouger · 2024-10-18T07:10:51+00:00

Hey man if it makes you feel better, I had a great date and a great sex after with a girl, went multiple rounds, eating out, she even deep throated me and went the whole nine yards. Slept over for a few hours and she didn't want me to leave but I had work the next day so I left her place and texted her when I got home.

Didn't hear anything back the next day, even double texted a few days later saying I wanted to see her again and basically got ghosted.

It stung but I moved on after like 2 weeks.

InstructionAbject763 · 2024-10-18T04:35:38+00:00

Sometimes women just get drunk and enjoy the one night rush

But then wake up sober and realize they don't have the energy and mental fortitude to text back. Set up a date and make an effort to clear her schedule and have to talk and get to know someone

I'm one of those people where the beginning stages are like pulllling teeth

So, sometimes I just don't care enough to move things forward. Because it's so much effort to have to talk and actually hangout

It's like. Would you rather stay home on a rainy day or go to the aquarium

Probably stay home. Not that the aquarium is bad. But sometimes good things just aren't worth the effort when NOT doing something is so much EASIER

Get up and walk to the table to get a donut? Or just ignore it and sit on the couch doing nothing for another 1 hour.

It's the concept of not doing anything is always easier for people.

Edit: it's like going to the movies drunk. You'll enjoy it. But you didn't actually reeeally see it

Thus when the much better rated sequal comes about. You may not care to see it, since the first movie didn't really count since you only remember is how good you felt DRUNK

Thus when you're sober, it's a lot easier to just not see the movie you don't have any relation or attachment to

Which is why women in alcohol states like wjen they party have a low chance of responding

Since they remember the alcohol and not you

gtaIIIstan · 2024-10-18T13:00:17+00:00

But when I called her a couple of days later, she completely ignored me. No reply, no text back, just silence.

Well, you wrongly assumed that a woman you barely know would pick up the phone out of the blue or take the initiative to call you back. She prob doesn't even know what the heck you want.

In the future, hit her up with a playful text within 24-48 hours, and also sign your name at the end of that text so she knows who you are. You can even begin that communication that night. Get a back and forth going and then ask her out. This is all that is required in 2024. Save out of the blue phone calls for women you know well.

Finally, as always with nighttime interactions when alcohol may or may not be involved, the best time to make moves is in the moment. A number is my LAST resort, not the first thing I settle for. Instead, I try to invite her/the group to an afterparty and then maybe get the girl I'm interested in 1 on 1.

miyass_miyass · 2024-10-18T08:32:29+00:00

For women flirting and getting attention from the opposite sex is an end in and of itself and getting laid or not is not as important (as a general tendency)

For men they generally want sex so they'll systematically move things forward no matter what

This is why you need to approach more and not get too excited about individual "good interactions" (but do enjoy them for their own sake, as women do, and count them as wins while you're learning)

SnooHesitations4922 · 2024-10-18T00:23:01+00:00

Sounds familiar...i think the reason she ghosted is the fact that you had an amazing night, which can reveal your interest level leaving little room for her to chase.

I can practically guarantee whoever she is sleeping with did nothing correctly when they met, and he likely stirred up some drama among the group. That drama usually involves gaming multiple women in front of each other or sleeping around within a friend group. Women reward the things that piss them off in every way except with their words.

I used to question guys who seemed like they loved drama. I now see that certain men hate drama as much as I do, but they were being the cause of and not the effect of it.

Next time ruffle some feathers, don't worry about having an amazing night out.

Historical_Maize3857 · 2024-10-18T04:56:44+00:00

That’s pretty normal at bars. One time I was chatting it up with a girl and we were having a bunch of laughs, mind you it was very friendly so no flirting. And she actually asked for my number. We went out to brunch once but after that she just went completely dry.

Fantastic-Life-2024 · 2024-10-18T08:02:19+00:00

One word drunkenness. She may have forgotten who you were the next morning. If a girl really likes you she will get back to you.

4025808 · 2024-10-18T12:21:29+00:00

Various reasons:

Could be they wanted a one night fling, and then life goes back to normal. Maybe they even have bf and they were fighting, but then decided to resolve the relationship instead.
Could have changed their mind, or found someone better.

That's why try and escalate as much during that same day, if one night stand sex is what you're looking for.

If you want a relationship, well.... that's a whole different story all together.

afterthought871 · 2024-10-18T01:28:41+00:00

Not sure how drunk you guys were, but alcohol may be a factor. There's been a few times where I've been out drinking, and girls were very flirty and even kissing me, only to be ghosted the next day. One girl texted me just to apologize for her behavior and said she had drank too much.

IGetBoredSometimes23 · 2024-10-18T05:14:31+00:00

A whole lot of people are guessing, but truthfully none of us know because we weren't there, and unless you have a video recording of everything that happened that night, we'll have no idea.

There's an infinite number of reasons why it might have happened. Maybe she sobered up and decided she didn't like you after all. Maybe you did something that gave her the "ick" and kept pretending to be interested to be polite. Maybe she's already in a monogamous relationship. Maybe she was a spy and didn't want to get you involved in her latest mission. Maybe she died. Maybe she got arrested for child trafficking and can't get to her phone because she's in jail awaiting trial. Seriously, infinite possibilities.

Best thing to do is just let it go and move on to the next one, buddy.

jjboy91 · 2024-10-18T06:36:32+00:00

They were just having fun and unfortunately today it's pretty common to give contact info just to avoid conflict or saying no

Dandys3107 · 2024-10-18T07:12:17+00:00

I believe there are two issues that stick out. Despite having good emotional connection, you seem not to escalate anything in terms of physical intimacy. Also, you snoozed to keep up the fire throughout next few days. Therefore, after that time, she can only recall having good time, but now it is just a memory, nothing extraordinary happened between you and radio silence kinda confirms it.

Charge36 · 2024-10-18T07:23:56+00:00

If there was drinking involved it's not unusual for people to feel like they're having a great time and wake up with only a vague fun memory that's not specific to you. When you're out of the party environment that enthusiasm fades.

That said, I would probably still try texting her at least once. Girls get spooked by direct phone calls like this when they don't know a guy very well.

mufasis · 2024-10-18T15:40:35+00:00

What you think of as a perfect night is drastically different from a woman’s perspective. When you say perfect or amazing, what does that mean? If your interest level was too high you probably gave it away too quickly, don’t show your interest level ever and see your results change.

Conscious_Chemist372 · 2024-10-18T02:37:59+00:00

Did nothing wrong bro, could even be as simple as she has a bf and doesn’t want to get exposed. I definitely wouldn’t beat myself up over this. Dm me if you want to talk though bro

SkratchFBA · 2024-10-18T04:17:20+00:00

She might have been annoyed you randomly called her

therealwoujo · 2024-10-18T04:47:48+00:00

You waited too long. Why wait a couple of days? You should text her the next day. Also sometimes the vibe just dies and she forgets about you.

Eezay · 2024-10-18T15:06:40+00:00

But when I called her a couple of days later

Why you wait so long? Just text her the next day. I know there are guys saying you should call over texting to stand out, but I wouldn't do that. If she wants to respond, she will. I'd say calling is actually more risky because nowadays chances are that rather it's going to come off weird than 'ballsy'... stupid, but it is what it is.

Aside from that, shit happens my brother. Truth is you will probably never find out what happened in this specific case. Only thing you can do is let your skin thicken and move on ASAP. Women are more fickle than men when it comes to dating, they might change their mind in an instant, it just happens, sometimes for no particular reason. Women are more in the moment than men, maybe she was just feeling you that night but the vibe didn't carry over. Maybe she's freshly broken up or already meeting someone else... Thousands of reasons my brother, but you will never find out and you also don't need to find out.

Just take two things with you:

1) Her reaction doesn't say anything about you. Rather view her actions as a reflection of her own self, not yours.

2) You learned a little bit. You liked that girl, you probably know why you did, so you will have an easier time in the future to meet somebody that really fits you.

KoleSekor · 2024-10-18T19:32:15+00:00

Always take it as far as you can the night of. Escalate and make your move one step at a time. Make her shut you down for going one small step too far. So you probably should have tried to kiss her. Then if she liked that, you'd try to make-out. If she likes making out with you, then you start using your hands on her body. If she likes that, then you need to get a room and get busy.

I also would have texted her on my way home and told her how cool she is and that I can't wait to hang out again instead of waiting a few days to call her.

_aubergine_lover · 2024-10-18T19:51:07+00:00

This is the problem I have with nightgame. The last time I went to nightgame I got 2 numbers in one night, my best result.

But they both flaked.

And it's logical. Alcohol is involved, it's an overstimulating and exciting environment for the girl.

So it's very easy for them when their judgement is impaired to be too friendly and hand over a number. And then regret it the next day.

Nightgame always used to be the go to suggestion to get laid.

But I have to say, it is overrated.

Not to mention, by the time you have paid for the hotel, you are looking at £55 quid minimum just to get to the venue.

The only good thing is, you know everyone is supposedly at least 18, so you can approach with reckless abandon. Well, as long as they don't have any fierce looking blokes with them!

That's why I prefer daygame, you are appealing to a girl's sober judgement. But then I get very inconsistent results in daygame.

It's so mood dependent. Girls will very rarely stop and chat.

Normally a daygame interaction is over in 5-10 seconds without them even fully stopping.

And you have the problem where you can't tell how old a lot of girls are so if you do approach you have to be over cautious and indirect.

So I can see why apps are popular but even then you need a load of pictures of yourself with other people and not everyone has those. Plus if you are running daygame as well, you wouldn't want your pictures up so you could be recognised as a potential weirdo from failed daygame interactions.

Edit: whoops, that became an essay. But yeah, nightgame sucks, daygame sucks, apps suck.

It's not easy and the older you get the more dangerous approaching attractive women becomes.

goldenboykintarooe · 2024-10-19T01:11:12+00:00

Should’ve smashed

neverendingsnowday · 2024-10-20T00:03:08+00:00

You waited too long to reach out if it was days later IMO. She probably has other options. I would have assumed someone wasn’t that into me if they waited several days, which is a turn off, and maybe even insulting if you were holding hands by the end of the night, which is rather intimate.

cyberxsoda · 2024-10-20T15:00:19+00:00

Hey I’m still trying to comprehend this girl I picked up. From start to finish it was great. She was orbiting around me in the club, and after seeing her reject a guy, I shot my shot, we were grinding the whole night. After the club she wanted to stick with me, I hit a few clubs that are close and open late, but can’t get in. She suggests we just go to my house. Get to the crib, foreplay commences and she’s begging for me to lay pipe. See I would have thought my sex was the reason but it’s hard to rationalize when she was saying “please” that I shouldn’t pull out, literally using her legs to stop me. So like any dumbass I nut in her. And while I’m still trying to recharge, she’s talking about a round two, 3 minutes later. We fucked the 2nd time and same thing with the pulling out, stopped me with her legs, but she was truly bad enough I didn’t mind making this girl a single mother. I had to ask if she had a “seeding kink”, I think I meant breeding lol. Apart from that, I have a whiteboard in my room with business ideas and she genuinely helped me find clarity within the chaos. The fact that she even cared enough to give me such insight was a green flag

After that, completely ghosted. Now it may sound strange I didn’t have her number but she was already following me the whole night so I had no need to secure it. And I got her ig, which is usually what I go for cause unless a girl is really giving me energy, I already know I’m not wasting the time of pursuing most women I meet. At least with ig, I have something nice to look at(window shopping) and can invite her to future events. So I say all that to say, I got her ig which I requested sometime that night, even sent a message request wishing she got home safe. But my follow request still hasn’t been accepted (it’s been weeks), added her on snap which is in her bio, still pending. At this point I thought she didn’t get home safe from that. I had to know now. Luckily, that night I met her, her friend was with us, we randomly ran into one of my friends and he got the friend’s ig. I got that from my friend and sent her a message about how I haven’t heard from her girl and if she’s okay. To my surprised she said me checking in was sweet. Told me her friend is fine and she’ll tell her to hit me up. STILL NOTHING. So yeah, women are volatile, just gotta charge it to game as usual.

BamboozledYetAgain · 2024-10-18T08:46:02+00:00

Bro who the fuck calls i 2024? Text always

MrParallelogramUser · 2024-10-18T01:55:13+00:00

I think this is a tale as old as time. You went out and got attached to her, followed her around like a puppy and were afraid of losing her. All that made you seem like a guy who has to be super careful/nice around women BECAUE HE AINT GETTING OTHER BITCHES. And I may want to add that you are indeed a man who doesn’t get/have other bitches if you are so distraught over one ghosting you.

Gulbul-bebuz · 2024-10-18T03:58:47+00:00

I once met my best friend's colleagues at her place and connected with a guy. However, I ghosted him after a few days because he wasn't looking for anything serious, and I couldn't tell him that I take a long time to become physically intimate, even in a relationship. Maybe u are dealing with something similar.

Standard-Nectarine72 · 2024-10-18T00:12:07+00:00

how long has it been? might not be ghosting - to give you an example she could be super-unstable or super young and have a lot going on. Girls tend to feel super anxious and overwhelmed so best thing to do is to give her space. She will come back when she's ready. What I would do is not communicate with her at all. Add her to your close-friends on instagram and drip her as well as many other girls content of you to build trust. Then in the next 1-3 weeks she will engage with you. It takes a bit more patience, but it reminds her that your going about your path and also keeps you top of mind with her without looking or coming across needy.

No-Philosophy5461 · 2024-10-18T01:39:40+00:00

Guessing you're the ugly friend out of the group? You should've escalated and brought her home

Title	Had an Amazing Night, Then Got Completely Ghosted Why Does This Happen?
Author	Individual-Goat-4641
Upvotes	45
Comments	72
Date	October 17, 2024 11:58 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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