Ex moved her stuff out of the house today. I'm shattered and a mess.

Strange_Button_3330 · 2025-09-07T22:07:59+00:00

Yes: this too shall pass. This too shall pass.
You've got this.

Dismal_Wishbone3021 · 2025-09-05T23:50:58+00:00

Hang in there man It gets better. It really does

Vollen595 · 2025-09-05T23:27:17+00:00

I packed all of my ex’s shit and told her to come get it. I haven’t seen her face since. Maybe it was the level of betrayal and that she tried to involve our kid but I don’t miss her in the least. 20 years. 13 in total hell. It took her 6 months to realize I wasn’t joking about divorce. About then I asked her why she hasn’t signed anything and she says ‘Are you serious?’ like I was offending her. She gets it now, and the no contact order. She can continue cratering her own life. It’s been epic.

Better-Pizza-6119 · 2025-09-03T11:33:36+00:00

Ok I' m 65 , ex 59 she filed . 6 months into divorce. Knew her for 28 years , married 18. We drifted apart in these pass few years. I was devasted when she came one day and removed all her stuff while I was away. And moved out.

1 . I reached out to my support structure. Reddit was one of them

I started cooking my own meals . I used to cook whislt married . She was a lousy cook. This helped bring warmth back in the kicthen . I rarely buy takeouts. Cooking is one of my therapies
I created music playlists. " Songs that heal " " Meditation music" " Podcast that heal" 4 . In my darkest of days . When she was about leaving i joined a dance class. The best thing I did. I am meeting fantastic people and new relationships are blooming. My dancing is starting to improve as well so thats giving me a new sense of confidence. I developed a Dance playlist.
I cleaned every drawer by drawer in the kitchen and bedroom . I don' t sleep in that room . Sleep in the guest room . Single bed . Easy to make.
I run marathons so that helps. Did 6 marathons in the height of divorce proceedings.
I walked a lot .Listened to all my downloaded stuff. This inspired me to walk the Camino next year . Leaving Easter Monday 2026. A divorce present to myself.
I joined a very affordable therapy help centre. Was not my own belief system . But they are terrific. The emotional trauma of divorce is universal.
I used AI extensively . Punched every question that came up in my head . And the possibilities it presented were incredible.

bluephotoshop · 2025-09-03T02:30:52+00:00

On the other hand, you now have free rein to do whatever you want to the house. Like rebuild car engines in the living room. Or install a wall-shaking stereo.

Hereforthatandthis · 2025-09-02T14:37:26+00:00

Not alone man! Best advice I could give: don’t run away from any feelings that come up. If you’re angry, feel the anger. If you’re sad, feel that sadness. All important part of the process. Also celebrate the little victories: a movie that makes you laugh, a song that makes you want to dance around the house, etc. Feel all the shit that is going through something like this, and then get back up. The worlds needs you bro. And you’ll both find happiness again if you want to.

myxyplyxy · 2025-09-02T01:29:44+00:00

I am sorry. I moved my stuff out today. Broke down. Hardest thing ive ever gone through. Sending my best

No_Association_1788 · 2025-09-01T13:01:45+00:00

Time for you to become a passport bro

Only-Measurement2166 · 2025-09-01T10:52:12+00:00

Congratulations on your new life! You have been preparing for this your whole life. It will get better. Time.

suspicious_bag_1000 · 2025-09-01T10:47:48+00:00

The ex moved out of the house and took all her trouble and negativity with her. Now you can have lots of new women over to your house for consensual adult fun. Problem solved

tango_one_six · 2025-09-01T09:30:12+00:00

If I may offer an advice, you need less poetry.

"Ghost of a broken marriage", "echo in the rooms" is very beautiful, yes, but may I suggest returning to Earth? What do you need to buy now that her stuff is gone? What can you do with the place now that you can decide without consulting anyone? How do you plan to allocate this free space you now have?

Or whatever other earthly concerns you might have.

In a way, it's easier for people who move out - they have a lot of earthly concerns.

It is also somewhat easier for the people who have to fight (only in this specific sense, otherwise it's much more difficult).

By the way, you might also want to appreciate how easy you have it (comparatively speaking, I know it's not easy) with her moving out and your biggest issue being the echo and the ghost. Read this sub about how some guys are getting it right up their asses, get financially ruined, don't get to see their kids, have to endure abuse and years of litigation. You know, they'd choose a best friend's ghost any day of the week, I'm sure.

OogyBoogy_I_am · 2025-09-01T06:57:39+00:00

Time to rearrange the house OP.

It may sound strange but it is a good thing to do. You make the house yours and clearing stuff out, moving it around and putting it where it makes sense has a way of clearing your mind.

I highly suggest that you give it a try.

the-don-carlo · 2025-09-01T06:32:04+00:00

The problem is you guys all think your wife is your best friend no she is not,and it’s not supposed to be that way and no amount of therapy will convince you of that. They are not partners , they’re supposed to be wives when you realize you’ll understand loneliness is only in your imagination

BackpackJack_ · 2025-09-01T06:04:28+00:00

Right now, those empty rooms reflect your loss and a huge change in your life. But someday, they'll be an opportunity for a fresh start as you fill them with new interests, hobbies, or decors. Things will start looking up. One day at a time.

6StringFiend · 2025-09-01T05:19:29+00:00

I feel this. It’s been about a month or so and I said that same thing. I feel Like a ghost in this house. The empty closet and I feel so lonely. Sorry you’re going through this. It sucks. My heart is broken.

LampGenius · 2025-09-01T05:16:16+00:00

You tried. Let's look to the future my friend.

No-Boysenberry3045 · 2025-09-01T04:30:58+00:00

I'm sorry your going thru this. It was a terrible day. I doubt I will ever forget . Leaving my forever home and everything we went thru to own it and take care of it.

Driving away was the absolute worst. It's coming up on two years now. I won't ever drive thru that neighborhood again it's 7 miles from me.

I don't have any words for you other than I understand losing her and starting a whole new life I didn't want alone.

I am alone by choice I can't go thru that again. The risk is to high for me. It's not worth it.

Stick close to friends talk about it. Keep moving standing still was definitely not my answer. I still don't sleep that great.

My heart goes out you.

eastlibertypj · 2025-09-01T03:41:43+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re suffering in this way. I may be about to go through the same. I’ve been self-abandoning myself for decades and I see that now. Can you share how you and your therapist perceive the role your self abandonment played in getting you here? Hoping to learn from someone who knows more than I do.

modernmanagement · 2025-09-01T03:39:52+00:00

You are grieving. Allow yourself some grace. Give it time. Feel all the emotions. Let it hurt. It is through the wound that we find our truth. Not by soothing it and pretending everything is fine. Don't rush to heal. Just let it be. And it will take as long as it takes.

Mickyfrickles · 2025-09-01T03:31:41+00:00

I just spent my 45th birthday packing up my stuff. Moving out next weekend. It sucks.

Ptsdveterannavy · 2025-09-01T03:30:00+00:00

It's going to hurt like hell, live and grow through it. Many of us have.

congo_sire · 2025-09-01T03:17:07+00:00

sorry man, just take care of yourself; get outside, walk. one day at a time.

94Questra · 2025-09-01T03:16:16+00:00

I'm dreading this. My wife has been packing for weeks. The house is full of boxes. I know that one day, the movers are going to show up (I don't plan to wait around while she moves out) and I am going to come home to an empty house. The thought of it honestly scares me.

Subtle-Catastrophe · 2025-09-01T03:09:54+00:00

Ride through. It sucks and you will feel that pain. You will also get through it and see great days ahead.

Title	Ex moved her stuff out of the house today. I'm shattered and a mess.
Author	tango_one_six
Upvotes	39
Comments	32
Date	September 1, 2025 3:07 AM UTC (10 months ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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