We have a son who is now 12. She quit working when she got pregnant and never went back. I have been shouldering the entire financial burden of this family for 12 years. I never pushed her to go back to work. I suggested it a few times and she always dismissed the idea for one reason or another. Her big excuse for a long time has been that my son, who is on the autism spectrum, gets a monthly SSI check. And if we started having more income, then those checks would stop. And that she wouldn't make enough to make up for that. But this month the SSI payment got reduced to a negligible amount going forward. So I suggested she seriously needs to get a job and she dismissed it again as usual. She also barely does any of the work around the house. It's always a mess. I do all the laundry, the trash, the yard work. I work a labor intensive job in a steel supply shop full time. So I calmly told her that I was seriously questioning why I was still with her. In the past when we've had arguments she tells me that I just have a bad temper and I should be on medication every time I suggest that she is doing wrong. I told her this time that I think I'm very patient and controlled. Plenty of people would have left her already. There are several other reasons that I won't go into now. I told her if things don't change I will divorce her. So far she seems to be taking it seriously. She's been putting job applications in around town. We'll see what happens.