I has a situation in my marriage where things were great. I was still enjoying the newlywed phase and she told me she was too. We had several months in New York and had just bought a house back home.

Within the final months, unknowingly to me, she had started on a death spiral of tik tok and ChatGPT content. Tik Tok kept feeding her “independent woman” and abuse content that she engaged with. Instead of addressing marital concerns directly with me, she would ask ChatGPT which would give her what she wanted to hear and not necessarily reality.

For example, I made a lighthearted joke about people liking her more than me because she got to socialize while I busted my ass on the house. ChatGPT told her “I was resentful of the light inside her.” One night when we were out, I set a boundary and told her that if she continued to scream at me in public I was going home. Through her Tik Tok language and ChatGPT, she described this as “coercive control” and implied I wasn’t a man if I couldn’t take it. She ended up eventually leaving over the phone and framing me as abusive to absolve herself of any responsibility. I was horrified and hurt, but my real friends and family rallied around me.

I’m glad to have her gone. Basically every aspect of my life is better. But I’m 31 and very hesitant to get married again. It’s a minefield where the benefits don’t exceed the legal and financial risk. Why would I gamble my ability to retire, house, seeing my kids knowing that within a few months a woman can be influenced by her divorced friends, Tik Tok, perimenopause and just go insane?