Anyone tried this?

missangel89 · 2020-09-09T03:50:10+00:00

Omg I think it's actually called reverse catfishing woot

heleninthealps · 2020-09-09T04:44:47+00:00

My former roommate did this all the time and also to get now husband. Her makeup routine was over an hour and she woke up at 4 am to start.

I've done this once to my boyfriend on our 7th or 10th date. He came to pick me up and I had intentionally not prepared and instead been working my ass of until the last minute and he got to see me with sweat pants, hair in a messy bun, no showering and no makeup and he didn't act any different - still happy to see me.

But I wouldn't do it on a first date since I establish a standard for how he needs to dress and look as well. But after 1-2 months I want to see how they react on me not being dolled up. Even if my face isn't that different without makeup.

Pahapan · 2020-09-09T05:36:15+00:00

This sort of thing isn't really weeding LVM out, in fact it can attract them if they get the impression that you're "low maintenance" so they think they won't have to put in as much effort. I don't wear makeup, don't style my hair beyond basics like buns, ponytails, and the odd braid, I wear glasses, my taste in fashion isn't particularly feminine, etc. Still attracted a NVM who was more than happy to take advantage of me in every way conceivable.

lacyvulture · 2020-09-09T03:46:16+00:00

Yes LMAO 😂 it’s one of my shit tests

AbundantOverflow · 2020-09-09T04:04:54+00:00

My personal opinion: We should all feel confident in ourselves and feel beautiful, makeup or not. I don't think our looks should ever be grounds to "weed them out" by wearing no makeup and pajamas. Because we are cute that way too. 🤷 Just sayin'.

MissVvvvv · 2020-09-09T05:13:39+00:00

This is part of my vetting process.

Not to allow him to visit my home while I'm in my pyjamas but to do an outdoor day activity (like a stroll around a park feeding the ducks) that requires me to have my hair tied back, sneakers on, oversize t-shirt, wind breaker jacket, wearing only tinted moisturiser or bronzer & mascara (sometimes no makeup at all, depends on how much sleep I've had or if they sun is out in force)

If he's turned of by my average every day self he can jog on!

NottodayScrote · 2020-09-09T11:00:23+00:00

This will work if you have confidence. Otherwise some lvm will think you can be taken advantage of

anotherdamnloser · 2020-09-09T05:47:44+00:00

I resent that it’s implied that wearing glasses is an ugly thing. But then again, I’ve been hearing it for years. I will say - it has NOT been my experience. So that’s cool. But yeah I do love what she’s saying!

Warrior-Kai · 2020-09-09T14:00:35+00:00

I actually do this when men ask for pics on dating sites. 😂 I also put a bad photo on the sites. Ha. So many ghosts. I actually love doing it.

rebel4acause · 2020-09-09T08:26:04+00:00

Don't know how I feel about this. Only because I've seen men who have high-paying jobs say they lie about where they work to weed out gold-diggers. There was even someone on reddit who said his friend (who got rich off tech) says he works at Starbucks to women he meets.

It just... doesn't make sense to me. Just because you'd like your partner to be attractive or have a good job doesn't mean it's the only reason you're with them.

warinmymind94 · 2020-09-09T15:20:33+00:00

Nah sis. I think being a queen means actually putting effort into our appearances. For some that's a spray tan, maybe nails, maybe makeup, maybe a weave. When i go to work and go out for errands or lunch even alone I still dress nicely and do my face. It also makes me feel more confident and personally when in public I noticed I get treated better. I think if you have been dating someone for a while then its okay to not get fully done up, especially if you're sick or it was an emergency. But be careful some see it as you lowering the bar for them! Then they may want pajama dates where its just Netflix and chill all the time instead of proper dates. Seem it happen a lot.

solowolfwarrior · 2020-09-09T15:34:26+00:00

Never exactly did this, but when I was young I used to put on makeup etc for dates, now I don't bother. I don't want someone to expect me to wear makeup every time we go out, plus I was getting way too much positive reaction on first impressions, when I was still on the fence about someone.

Looking back I was never actively really excited or into dating someone, it was just that they "seemed" so into me, so I gave it a go, to "see where it went". No more, what a waste of time.

Blackishcat27 · 2020-09-09T15:41:14+00:00

I actually did this to my husband. 🤣I started wearing more feminine stuff, doing my hair and wearing makeup after we got married. I wanted to make damn sure he liked me for me.

htownbaddie · 2020-09-09T12:19:57+00:00

I love wearing makeup (I just love all things beauty etc.), and actually on more times than I can count I’ve had guys immediately tell me on the first date that they prefer less makeup (okay tf wear less makeup then??).... also the opposite holds true , wearing makeup is less assuming... they never guess that I have a graduate degree in engineering and worked my way up in my company (they are less threatened and don’t put on as much of a show) ... so I can also weed them as appropriate

FlashyKardashy · 2020-09-09T09:54:34+00:00

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2020-09-09T12:09:29+00:00

It’s true tbh our first date we went to a buffet and I ate so damn much.. he was shocked lmao “girls don’t usually eat much around guys like that” oh honey we are in an all you can eat that’s pretty much an eating competition for my money’s worth lol 6 years later and he’s still around.

lskfjd743 · 2020-09-09T15:05:16+00:00

Not sure if I totally agree with the women's strategy, however love the fact that she caught on to the need to ruthlessly eliminate scrotes that early on in life!

Unavailablerose · 2020-09-09T08:28:45+00:00

I used to feel insecure about how I look without make up and now when I face-time with my HVM RIGHT after I wake up,he often comments on how cute I look and how glowy my skin is ! Yes he uses the word “glowy!”. makes me happy and start the day with so much self confidence.

shoelaceys · 2020-09-09T13:03:30+00:00

Not this exactly but I have a similar mindset. I try to be my most authentic self (as in, what he would see if we lived together) as early as possible in a relationship. If a man cannot love me at my most comfortable or even emotional, he doesn’t deserve me at my best. It weeds out the ones who are just there for a hookup real quick.

I think it also plays into testing a man to see how he handles situations, which I didn’t do any of the times I wound up with LVM. Test, test, test ladies. I cannot stress enough that you can’t put your guard down in being critical (deep down) about them until they prove themselves time and time again.

Quodpot · 2020-09-09T20:25:34+00:00

I do this. If I need to burp or fart when he's around, I just do it (politely), but I don't try to hide it or anything. Like, if you're trying to find a life partner, they need to be okay with you being a regular human being. I refuse to be uncomfortable in my own home

Noemie_Mathilde · 2020-09-10T02:13:04+00:00

I think the idea is "wear whatver you're comfortable and feel good in"

If that means pyjamas or a ball gown--go for it.

goddess-of-compost · 2020-09-10T00:39:47+00:00

While I enjoy makeup, oddly enough a high percentage of the times I met future SOs and hit it off, I wasn’t wearing any.

dackaroo · 2020-09-10T05:14:10+00:00

I have! I caught myself an abuser that way.

Title	Anyone tried this?
Author	meowbrowbrow
Upvotes	818
Comments	49
Date	September 9, 2020 3:30 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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