tl;dr Delete numbers after you get rejected.
I once met up with a chick at a party. I had seen her a few times before at social settings before, she's friendly with me, we haven't fucked yet, but I was planning on closing that night.
The chick and I were having fun. She shit tested me in front of her friends, but I returned those serves masterfully without breaking a sweat, making everyone laugh including the chick herself.
Booze was kicking in, she was getting touchy and needy with me, and she couldn't stop grinding me while we danced.
"I'm taking you home," I whispered in her ear. But I guess I fucked up here. Without even looking at me she walks away yelling like a possessed hag: "MY FRIEND IS TAKING ME HOME!" I knew which friend she referred to, the helplessly friendzoned beta with a limp handshake, The Her Designated Driver. God fucking dammit, I thought. Oh well, time to order a Lyft home for myself.
On the car ride home I deleted and blocked her number and Facebook. The next day, a mutual friend of that chick texts me. It turns out she "felt horrible" about me, wanted to text me, saw that I blocked her, and is "freaking out" that she offended me.
"I don't care for that bitch, bro," I replied to him. "And you can tell her I said that." So that was that.
Key points:
- The reason doesn't matter. She doesn't fuck me? Fine, I'll move on. Good salespeople don't badger uninterested customers with "Why not?" Instead, they just continue working on other prospects. It didn't matter why this chick rejected me that night. The only thing that mattered to me was not wasting more of my time and effort.
- No girl is worth more than two attempts. If she says no to my "wanna get drinks this Thursday?", then I either never initiate again or a week later invite her over to my place. I always try to escalate if the girl is giving me a token polite rejection. But two attempts max in a two - four week period. If she fails both, then...
- Delete and block bitches on the regular. Keep your mental real estate clean and focused for yourself. You don't want to fall into the trap of 'What if she reaches out to me later down the line? What if I text her again later and it works?' Trust me bro, that window of opportunity is as small as a kpop teen's cunthole. I'd rather keep my brain frame on me, not on a bitch who doesn't want to bang.
- Try, fail, repeat. Eat what you kill. Stay hungry, be active.
edited for grammar and added tldr
second edit after reading comments
Am I butthurt? Sure I am. It hurts getting rejected. I don't know where you alfa alfa mofos buy your emotion-depleting creatine, but I still have feelings.
Am I expressing my butthurt-ness by deleting and blocking? Shrug, maybe, I don't care. Who gives a shit about a bitch who rejected me? I'm forcing myself to not care by delete block.
Shouldn't I just keep her in my contacts and maybe later I get another chance? Naw. I want to fuck on my preferred timeline, not the bitch's. I probably get laid less this way but so be it. And also I probably I have a better chance with a new girl I just met rather than someone I met months ago. Additionally I prefer to challenge myself to actively avoiding hoes who want rebound dick. I am not rebound dick. Board man may get paid more than me, but I am Fred Vanvleet Fuck You Three dick.
I don't delete and block every girl who rejects me. Only the ones who I know I will be weak towards later down the line. I hate the idea they are enjoying the beta attention I give them when I'm drunk texting them at midnight.
Eliminate the what if and kill the beta orbiting. I buried the lead. This is my point. If you know you will be weak, cut it off.
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