709,179 posts

Wife Moving Out

Reddit View
August 27, 2019
49 upvotes

35M Married to a 37F single mother w/ two kids from her ex-husband. We've been married 6 years.

I'm 165 lbs, lift, sidebar, own a home, and a successful company. I've been reading here since January.

Last weekend we were suppose to go to a wedding together. A couple hours before we were to leave she says she's not going and drops the bomb that she's moving out within the next month. I stay calm and say I'm sorry to hear that. She's been saying she's not in love with me and she's unhappy for the last 2 or 3 years. I tell her I'm still going to the wedding because it is my friend and I RSVPd.

I changed my facebook status from married to nothing.

I get to the wedding and she's texting me like mad. Begging me not to hook up with anyone until she leaves. Begging me to come home. Freaking the F out. Telling me she loves me. In all she sent me about 90 messages. I DARED or ignored all of them.

Fast forward a week and she's saying my responses were narcissistic and emotionally abusive and she's still moving out.

She bought boxes and started looking at apartments.

I've been strong but I'm just not sure what to do right now. Need some support brothers!


Post Information
Title Wife Moving Out
Author themerovingian01
Upvotes 49
Comments 158
Date 27 August 2019 09:18 PM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit askMRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/251172
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/cwaqdh/wife_moving_out/
Similar Posts

Red Pill terms found in post:
single motherlift
Comments

[–]BobbyPeruRed Beret47 points48 points  (8 children) | Copy

You should have ghosted her on the texts. She said she’d wants out, but she wants to make sure you’re not hooking up. She has no right to have an opinion once she said she wants out. Then, the manipulation saying she loves you suddenly. W. T. F.

Texting is for logistics. Otherwise you are playing in her ballpark

Hold frame going forth. No DEERing. Simply say, “if you want out, the door is right there.”

She’s most likely branch swinging, but if she is she’ll keep it on the DL so she gets to be the victim. It doesn’t matter. Stick with the mantra: “If you want out, the door is right there”

[–]JudgeDoom6910 points11 points  (1 child) | Copy

the manipulation saying she loves you suddenly

u/themerovingian01 this was what we call Hysterical Bonding. When you went to the wedding without her, the reality of divorce hit her, so she sent you the love bomb texts. It means nothing and is just part of the process of her leaving you.

The best move in this situation would be to turn your phone off and leave it in the car. Let her rationalization hamster run wild with thoughts of you looking good in your wedding suit and chatting up some pretty bridesmaid.

[–]umizumiz2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

And if he returns after this mindfuck she's putting him through then chances are he'll become more mentally enmeshed in her frame through trauma bonding.

[–]themerovingian01[S] 3 points4 points  (5 children) | Copy

I should have but I thought she might show up and cause a scene.

[–]BobbyPeruRed Beret18 points19 points  (3 children) | Copy

So what? That would just make her look bad.

Cut the bullshit excuses.

Texting is for logistics. Period.

Get prepared for the storm that’s coming... because it’s coming. Holding frame is your number one priority. Being ready for the storm and being prepared to STFU will be key. Words /arguments are her home field.

What’s your mantra?

[–]themerovingian01[S] 7 points8 points  (2 children) | Copy

Keep calm and carry on.

[–]Flynnjacklepappy2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

Swing and a miss.

[–]themerovingian01[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children) | Copy

Go plan is the same as the stay plan.

[–]Onein1024th5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

her causing a huge scene would only help you

hell, it might even pique interest in you by some bridesmaids

[–]itiswr1ttenRed Beret30 points31 points  (2 children) | Copy

Things you cannot control:

  • You will be sad

  • You will want to salvage things

  • Her behavior, esp her attempting to tarnish your reputation to justify this crazy decision

Things you can control:

  • Your attitude

  • Digging through the garbage - this relationship is over. Start acting like it

  • The company you keep - you're about to get a completely free lesson on who matters to you among the gradually separating venn diagram of your friends

  • Your frame

Focus on category 2. It is YOUR CHOICE that moves this forward in the right manner. Do what you know is right.

Edit now I remember you. You posted a single OYS then peaced out. Be glad you're rid of this trash relationship.

https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/bj0vtc/z/em6f2qm

[–]themerovingian01[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

I agree I need to post on OYS weekly!

[–]Iammrp24 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yeah this bitch is crazy. Next her OP. Fuck that drama.

[–]red-sfpplusHard Core Red37 points38 points  (2 children) | Copy

No kids?

Who fucking cares.

Stud.

[–]themerovingian01[S] 7 points8 points  (1 child) | Copy

Thanks.

[–]An_Actual_Politician2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Can she take a run at claiming "ownership" of half your company through the divorce process?

If theres the slightest chance she can get shit that isn't hers through divorce, you can bet your ass she'll try.

[–]simbarlionRed Beret18 points19 points  (11 children) | Copy

I'm just not sure what to do right now.

Seems pretty clear to me. You're young enough with no kids.

Oh, and a gentleman would help her move her stuff out.

[–]InChargeManRed Beret2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

No Kids

Watch, he'll still end up paying alimony.

[–]IOwnMyShit1 point2 points  (8 children) | Copy

Why would he want to be a gentle man though?

[–]GandMeChattri15 points16 points  (7 children) | Copy

Cause it's like a seal on an envelope. Who the F wants this disgusting 37 y/o anyways? OP is lucky af, he had no kids with the hag.

[–]Bedtimeshine4 points5 points  (6 children) | Copy

Please. she wouldn’t be taking one step toward that door without another schmuck lined up

[–]whakahere2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Rational female ??... Fuck women do stupid things to play victim and yes they do move out without a good plan. Fuck her and move on and who gives a shit if she has someone or not. Pass that bitch.

[–]Onein1024th0 points1 point  (4 children) | Copy

if she doesn't have the schmuck on lock-down, OP can force her hand by helping her move.

[–]themerovingian01[S] 1 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy

How does helping her move help?

[–]Onein1024th1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

get her the f out of your space bruh

[–]friendandadvisor2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Don't listen to that shit. It is just another way for her to control you, and to get you to do work for her for free. Make her and her whelps move her. She wouldn't give a flying motherfuck if you were dying and she heartlessly lets you emphatically know that you are worth nothing to her. Is doing hard work for her a way for you to improve yourself??

[–]Thorondor_Rising1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

It gets her out, and you moving on with the rest of your awesome life....duh!

[–][deleted] 13 points14 points  (2 children) | Copy

You insisting that you want to stay with this woman after all of this is so troubling.

[–]umizumiz7 points8 points  (1 child) | Copy

Trauma bonding. She's prolly mindfucked him the entire 6 years.

[–]themerovingian01[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Probably true.

[–]RStonePT12 points13 points  (0 children) | Copy

Lol, single mom of 2 left you and you are wondering your next move?

I'd suggest adding 20lbs of muscle, but that's me and my dignity talking

[–]Tiway229 points10 points  (2 children) | Copy

Something tells me she’s just putting on a show. Help her with the moveout/divorce.

Keep your head up. You’ll be fine.

A year from now you and your 25yo hottie girlfriend will be laughing about your ex wife’s hilarious attempts to annoy you.

[–]themerovingian01[S] 2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

True, true.

[–]blackswan2whiteswan2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

You'll know you are the real deal when at your burial will attend both the wife AND the mistress. Oh wait... not your children.
I wish you were a troll, but sadly you are not. .

[–][deleted] 8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

As hard as it may be to do... you should turn off contact from her and just enjoy the evening.

Like really just be a good bloke and friend and make the most of the wedding, you can make time to chat with her at a later time.

It’s one thing to bail on a wedding invite leaving you in the lurch and another worse thing to freak out over TEXT MESSAGE when you’re heading there.

She wants to derail you

Don’t be derailed

Bring warmth and make new friends at the wedding...

Hey maybe get a sneaky number from a single lady if you’re on your game

EDIT.

Just realised this already happened.

DONT USE TEXT MESSAGE TO DISCUSS ANYTHING EXCEPT LOGISTICS

1 RULE: DO NOT WRITE ANYTHING YOU MAY LATER REGRET IN COURT

If she writes anything that could get you heated YOU REPLY:

“I’m sorry you feel this way, I disagree and happy to chat over the phone to discuss”

[–]HornsOfApathyMod / Red Beret6 points7 points  (5 children) | Copy

Thought about this some.

She wants one last ride on the CC.

Send her away with a smile and a wave as she goes round and round...

[–]LetsGoAllTheWhey2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

And make sure to change the locks.

[–]themerovingian01[S] 0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy

Yeah good luck w/ that. She is quite pretty but she is a little chubby(5' 3" and 160 lbs). Her body was wrecked from the two kids too. SMV probably down to a 5 or 6 now. I accepted it because I loved her but I think it'll be tough in the marketplace for her.

[–]wkndatbernardus7 points8 points  (2 children) | Copy

(5' 3" and 160 lbs)

And you're thinking about taking her back because?

[–]FoxShitNasty832 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

I still would (was a joke)

[–]themerovingian01[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

Exactly.

[–]HornsOfApathyMod / Red Beret27 points28 points  (15 children) | Copy

My neighbor recently went through something almost identical. He's a dude from Harlem. Doesn't give a fuck how crazy his wife is. He deals just fine.

His wife recently did the same thing, and he just held frame. She went so fucking far that she put the house up for sale, bought another house, he bought a house, she put everything in storage, sold a bunch of shit... the whole time he's just telling me: "Whatever dude, if this is what she wants, she'll do it. She be crazy bro."

A week from closing on three properties with shittons of money tied up in them.... I see my neighbor. We are having a beer together when he says, "Yeah, so Katie ain't leaving man. She's staying. Fucking hell that bitch went pretty far this time. Whatever though. It's going to be all ok."

You could learn from this dude. If it's going to happen, it's going to happen. Nothing you can control. This is the moment of your life where you maintain frame the strongest if you want to pass this test.

[–]themerovingian01[S] 20 points21 points  (11 children) | Copy

That is absolutely nuts. I would have cut her loose way sooner. I've already made up my mind. If she actually moves out I'm not letting her come back.

[–]simbarlionRed Beret11 points12 points  (1 child) | Copy

If she actually moves out I'm not letting her come back.

You and Horns are talking like this is a little girl tanty, but No this is much more serious.

Exhibit A

saying she's not in love with me and she's unhappy for the last 2 or 3 years

Exhibit B

She bought boxes and started looking at apartments.

Fuck that

[–]hack3geRed Beret15 points16 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yep 100% right - she’s fucking someone else and trying to branch swing and wants to keep her option open because she’s concerned he’s not a sure thing.

Dump her cheating ass and laugh in her face when her branch breaks.

[–]RStonePT3 points4 points  (2 children) | Copy

Let her make the decision, a divorced mom of 2 has a great track record of taking the lead

[–]themerovingian01[S] -1 points0 points  (1 child) | Copy

Right.

[–]friendandadvisor1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

He was being /s.

[–]friendandadvisor1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

What if she doesn't move out? You going to stay married to some slag that would treat you like this?? You're getting to raise her two kids, she's two years older than you, past the wall, and says she hasn't loved you for the last 3 years???

You should move out tonight and never look back.

[–]HornsOfApathyMod / Red Beret1 point2 points  (4 children) | Copy

She never actually moved out - that's the kicker. Three homes all up in the air then she gets her feelz met.

[–]InChargeManRed Beret2 points3 points  (3 children) | Copy

Fuck that, who is in charge there? She sounds like a financial terrorist to me.

[–]HornsOfApathyMod / Red Beret3 points4 points  (2 children) | Copy

He's a trophy husband. Ex-military, discharged with full benefits/pay for PTSD. Solid dude, set for life.

[–]InChargeManRed Beret4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

And...

No way I would passively "hold frame" and keep a wife around who is doing shit like selling my house to satisfy her feelz.

[–]cheesewindow2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Agreed. That’s no way to live.

[–]WolfofAllStreetz2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

I work in Real Estate. You would get sued hard for doing that to three families. (Bailing on 3 properties) without cause.

[–]HornsOfApathyMod / Red Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

They lost all their due diligence money for sure. Not sure beyond that.

[–]themerovingian01[S] 9 points10 points  (16 children) | Copy

Meanwhile she's also going around telling all her friends, family, and colleagues that she's leaving mean and she's trying to create negative advocates out of them.

[–]RedPill-BlackLotusRed Beret28 points29 points  (12 children) | Copy

They all do that. She will make you out to be the villian. It's just par for the course.

You handled that situation well, keep pushing forward.

Go plan is the same as the stay plan. This changed nothing for you and everything for her. If she reneges, I wouldn't take her back, I would go forward with this. You do you man.

Dont lash out, dont let her see you hurt. It's ok to feel terrible and weak, it's not ok to Express it. Keep your mouth shut and put in the work, improve yourself.

You lost a single mom with 2 children that are not yours. It hurts now, that's ok, hang In there, this was a gift.

You are free man.

Go live your life.

[–]An_Actual_Politician1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

People in general but especially women - when they're about to do something awful to someone they'll reengineer an entire backstory to make that person the bad guy, which in their feelzie brain makes treating people like shit more justified.

[–]themerovingian01[S] 1 point2 points  (9 children) | Copy

Thank you. The hardest part is just being sad. I really do love my wife and the shred life we have built.

[–]SorcererKingMod / Red Beret16 points17 points  (0 children) | Copy

shred life we have built.

You'll claim mobile typo, but I call Freudian slip.

[–]HornsOfApathyMod / Red Beret8 points9 points  (2 children) | Copy

You didnt build SHIT with her bro. Those your kids? Fuck no. Not in that time. You'll be fine.

[–]hack3geRed Beret3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Even if they were his they would still be his after it’s over.

It’s weird to see this shit and realize I used to think this way and was so blind to everything. Now I hear these stories and literally just meh.

[–]blackswan2whiteswan1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Maybe he was a trophy husband. His carte will show Mrs Ambassador's husband. You must be married to be in diplomacy....

[–]Chump_No_More3 points4 points  (2 children) | Copy

I really do love my wife

This is the oxytocin talking. Give it time... it will fade and all that will be left is anger at yourself for being a dupe.

Oxytocin is a motherfucker for men, because it only flows one way... Men --> Women --> Children.

This is as nature intended because, otherwise, men would continue to fuck everything in sight and not invest in their progeny.

Just understand that this is your body fucking with your head and you will get through it.

Your whole life is ahead of you and you will be fine. Ask me how I know.

[–]Elvis_Death0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

How do you know?

[–]Chump_No_More0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

How do I know what?

Obliviously because I've experienced it personally.

[–]friendandadvisor0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

But, she doesn't love you.

She said that for 1/2 of this shared life that you've built, she wanted to be gone from it.

[–]peaceandlug0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

You love a whore that destroyed the life that you've built. BTW, she hasn't loved you for at least 2 years... can't you understand what that means??

[–]blackswan2whiteswan1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

So. Why to keep her around?

[–]friendandadvisor0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

But, you're still willing to take her back...

[–]peaceandlug0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

And you're STILL entertaining the idea of taking her back????

SMH.

[–]apietroski83 points4 points  (31 children) | Copy

Keep owning your shit. The stay plan is the same as the go plan. Get all the good lawyers in your area on retainer. When she brings up again that she's leaving, ask her if she needs some help packing. When women throw childish fits, they get treated like children.

The more you maintain frame and act like you are not phased by her threats, the angrier she will get. It sounds like you are not very interested in fighting for the relationship.

There is a chance she will come back to you and beg for you to take her back. You have to ask yourself what value she brings to your life. If there is a reason, besides feeling guilty about her spreading lies about you to family and friends, you need to put your foot down with this BS.

Someone once told me they have seen the world end a dozen times, but they are somehow still around and its still spinning. Now when my wife makes some comment about not wanting to be with me, I just laugh because I know it is just a test.

Worst case you can go and utilize your RP knowledge to go find some plates and have a good time.

[–]themerovingian01[S] 3 points4 points  (30 children) | Copy

I already met with the top 5 divorce attorneys in the area just in case.

I am interested in saving the relationship but I'm not sure what more I could to do fight for it.

Honestly when I think about it rationally with a RP lense there's not much value she's bringing...especially when I read some of the posts in rpwomen and rpwives.

True story, at the wedding a cute girl gave me her number.

[–][deleted] 9 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy

Why do you want to save it? Seriously. It’s a hard lesson to learn but she doesn’t care about you at all to pull this shit. You need to get to the point where you don’t care about her.

Whoever cares the least has the power.

[–]umizumiz2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Save what? She's willing to walk out on you, and only tell you she loves you when you aren't destroyed. She wants you destroyed, all to make herself feeeeeeel better.

[–]vplatt0 points1 point  (24 children) | Copy

It's unfortunate that she is putting the kids through this as well. Only you know if her real needs are being met, so only you know if you have owned all the real problems here. That said, I have to wonder if you shouldn't set new ground rules with her if she doesn't actually leave. This business of going "off and on again" is a test in its own right and more than just a comfort test. I would keep her from redefining frame again for you, because that's what this could be really about. I saw another post about getting her some counseling too, and that seems like a very reasonable demand given the scale of trauma she must be causing overall.

[–]themerovingian01[S] -1 points0 points  (23 children) | Copy

I have also decided that if she stays there will be a post-nup. I'm not going to continue building wealth just to get divorce raped later.

[–]BobbyPeruRed Beret6 points7 points  (8 children) | Copy

I have also decided that if she stays there will be a post-nup.

So, you’re leaving it up to her to stay or go after the bullshit she pulled. Of course she’ll stay if you are a willing cuck. I already know how this plays out- have seen it dozens of times. She tries to branch swing, cucking you. The branch pulls out after getting his fill of your wife’s pussy... she suddenly has a change of heart and decides she wuves you after all (not a typo). You fall for it, and you think you saved the marriage. Rinse, repeat until she gets a firm branch to swing.

[–]themerovingian01[S] -1 points0 points  (7 children) | Copy

I made it clear years ago that I have a zero tolerance policy for cheating. Even if she moved out and then slept with someone I would not take her back.

[–]BobbyPeruRed Beret1 point2 points  (5 children) | Copy

That’s cool in theory, but 9 times out of 10 you won’t know she’s cheating. Therefore... I’m sticking with my scenario above.

One of the most sure fire signs a woman is cheating or has been heavily flirting for a branch swing is the woman suddenly telling you she doesn’t love you anymore. That’s Rollo red pill 101. Either way, if my wife told me she didn’t love me anymore, I’d be gone gone gone. But you do you... but do it with eyes wide open

[–]hack3geRed Beret1 point2 points  (4 children) | Copy

/u/themerovingian01 you need to listen to this. She’s definitely fucking around or has someone giving her feels.

Very few men come back from ILYBINILWY. It takes balls of steal and an immediate change in frame. The issue is even if she does change her tune and come back it won’t ever be the same. Pretty sure in almost every case he ends up leaving and regrets not leaving in the first place.

[–]BobbyPeruRed Beret1 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy

I’ve literally seen it dozens of times once those words are uttered. Rollo spells it out pretty clearly also. Is she cheating or have a potential strong birch swing? Not certainly, but very highly likely

[–]hack3geRed Beret2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy

I got those words as well - she was likely cheating but she certainly was working on testing a branch swing with a coworker.

My wife fucks me pretty much whenever and however I want now and goes out of her way to prove she’s changed and yet I know deep down it’s inevitable that I will end it. It’s impossible to stay with a woman who acted that way once you value yourself even if it was all your fault.

The real question is when am I going to hit that point.

[–]friendandadvisor0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

She's already sleeping with someone else, and you're unwilling to see it.

[–]vplatt1 point2 points  (8 children) | Copy

I didn't know there was such a thing. Even so, I've heard a lot of scuttle that those aren't actually respected in many cases. I would research it if you're serious about it. Personally, I'm on the hook for the full meal deal if she ever left, but we've been married 25 years, so I don't imagine it will happen now; especially since I've seriously started owning my shit.

[–]themerovingian01[S] 1 point2 points  (7 children) | Copy

The attorney I retained said they are enforceable in my state if properly drafted and executed. Ie, wife has to have plenty of time to read it, has option to seek counsel, can't be coerced, etc.

[–]umizumiz2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

She'll claim the fear of being a single mother "coerced" her into signing, just wait.

[–]vplatt-2 points-1 points  (5 children) | Copy

Best of luck man! It's not a fun situation I'm sure, but it sounds like you're equipped to come out of it to a better place; whichever way it goes.

[–]peaceandlug0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy

Are you kidding??

[–]vplatt0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

I realize things can get a little caustic in here, but why would anyone kid about wishing someone the best of luck?

[–]peaceandlug0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

I'm mocking the "you're equipped to come out of it..." part.

He's on a donward spiral.

[–]themerovingian01[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Thank you.

[–]umizumiz1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

You need to divorce her.

Continue the relationship afterwards if you want.

It's why I have an exwife who does shit for me and sucks my dick and stuff. Divorced her when she pulled some shit like this, cancelled every single marital benefit, and moved the fuck on.

She seems happier, too, tbh

[–]themerovingian01[S] 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Interesting relationship. Do you both date other people too?

[–]umizumiz1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I typed a whole damn comment and lost it.

I don't keep up with her like that, I don't tell her what I'm up to, and I don't listen to anything she says. When she gets a "serious"(lol) bf, then she gets bitchy for a while but I don't mind. Nice change of pace for a while. And it doesn't effect our daughter, so I'm happy.

I didn't push for this or anything, she did this mostly to herself. I pay her light bill and throw her some money for her time with the kid, she breaks me off with some pussy when I want it.

I think this is why they say never to date a single mom, especially when baby daddy is still around... Lol

[–]friendandadvisor0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I'm sure she'll sign it

/s

Dude, you are hamstering that og you let her get away with this shit, she'll straighten up and fly right. It don't work that way.

Btw, she's got another penis lined up. The only reason she hasn't left is because he's getting cold feet and stalling, but, still telling her that he wants her so they can fuck some more.

[–]peaceandlug0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

What if she refuses the post nup? You don't have the balls to enforce your ultimatum. She's been making a faggot of you for 2 years, and you've been thanking her for it.

Further, the post nup will be thrown out of court.

[–]FlyingSexistPig3 points4 points  (4 children) | Copy

You are doing just fine.

Stay strong.

Take pictures of everything you care about before she leaves with it.

You know for a fact that she will lie and tell you anything she thinks you might want to hear just to get you to do what she wants. She knows that if she was at that wedding alone, she'd 100% be looking to hook up with a dude there. Weddings do that to women, and she knows that other women find you attractive.

Stay strong brother, stay strong.

[–]themerovingian01[S] 1 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy

Good idea on the pictures.

I could not believe the level at which she was freaking out regarding that, but now she's stone cold.

[–]FlyingSexistPig3 points4 points  (2 children) | Copy

As a man, you're not used to experiencing your full emotional range. It causes you stress.

For women, it's quite the opposite. If they get to experience the full range of human emotion in an hour, they are HOOKED. That's why chick movies have women experience the full range of human emotion and guy films just don't.

That's why we say that when a woman makes a statement of emotion, add a '...right now' to it.

"I love you forever!" ...right now.
"I will never leave you!" ...right now.

None of it means anything.

[–][deleted] 9 points10 points  (1 child) | Copy

I got pretty sad when they killed John Wick’s dog. Then excited as hell as he killed the motherfuckers.

[–]FlyingSexistPig0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Loved the first one, didn't really like the second one as much. Too much suspension of disbelief about the indestructible German shepherds.

I connected with John Wick when that happened to him. But I wouldn't say I was sad. It provided some solid plot development, and a casus belli, but It wasn't like they spent an hour of the movie developing the relationship, with long montages of John and his dog playing, and bonding with lots of internal dialog voiceover.

I didn't experience sadness, terror, outrage, joy, exultation, betrayal, love, hate, surprise, disgust, anger, etc., etc., etc.

The focus was on action and plot.

[–]Neoduder2 points3 points  (3 children) | Copy

She's clearly fucking someone else

[–]blackswan2whiteswan1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Of course

[–]themerovingian01[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

She could be but she's never 'out' for long. Just work, home, and kids stuff.

[–]FereallyRedHard Core Red3 points4 points  (4 children) | Copy

She wants out so do that. Do a legal separation so any new debts/windfalls aren't mutual property. Kick her ass out.

She's got it good with you, but Briffault, so give her what she wants.

Go cold. She doesn't want you anymore.

She doesn't want to be around you.

Give the lady what she wants.

And stop marrying single moms. There's a reason babydaddy left the scene.

[–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

And stop marrying single moms. There's a reason babydaddy left the scene.

This needed to be said? Yikes.

I mean, who fucking cares about babydaddy, don't cuck yourself.

[–]themerovingian01[S] -1 points0 points  (2 children) | Copy

She does have it good with me. Her deadbeat babby daddy is a grade a pyschopath and doesn't pay for anything. I've had to pretty much support her and her kids for the last 8 years.

[–]FereallyRedHard Core Red4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

So she's alphawidowed and you're betabux.

GTFO.

[–]blackswan2whiteswan2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

No he is the trophy husband. You can't be so Stu. You know.. Steve McQueen and King O'Stupid

[–]Ketonian_Empire2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Facebook status...... Dude delete that shit. Facebook is blue pill training in my opinion.

[–]DirectChemical1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Best of luck man, seems like you're in control of yourself so making the right choices ought to be more straightforward than if you were emotional. Hope the kids take it OK.

Stay blessed.

[–]beachedseacow1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

find a lawyer and say no more to her

[–]themerovingian01[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

done.

[–]ReddJiveRed Beret1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Watch what she does. Not what she said.

If she can drop you and 6 years with thought so can you. Realize she’s been thinking about it a lot longer. You’re just catching up but it changes nothing for you. Your path is still the same.

She’s once again a single mom with 2 kids.

[–]blissfullyaware001 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Not sure if you've read the Rational Male yet, but I just went through the part where he describes women's peak SMV at 23 and men's at 36. You are at your fucking peak SMV right now! Go slay brother.

[–]themerovingian01[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I have it.

[–]RicoDunne1 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy

Make sure you are not on the hook for child support to the two kids, as you were playing the part of cuck sugar daddy to them. Your short term goal is to avoid child support and alimony to it.

Take an inventory of all of your stuff and photograph/video it.

Joint assets- just decide now who gets what. Stuff that is under contention- leave that for the court to decide if you can't. Unless it's a pet, then it's replaceable. Just get her out the door.

[–]themerovingian01[S] 4 points5 points  (2 children) | Copy

Luckily my state doesn't have child support for step children and no alimony if you've been married less than 10 years.

I'm working on protecting assets now.

[–]peaceandlug0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

If there's no alimony, the best way to protect your assets is to divorce her now. You'll fuck around long enough till the 10 year mark has passed, guarantee it.

[–]themerovingian01[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

That's the plan.

[–]reddit-guy611 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Don't see the problem. Help her pack.

[–]bmrdriver1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Delete the Facebook dude

[–]onionknightofknee1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

lol, 37 with kids ending a relationship with a successful business owner

[–]themerovingian01[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

'But we're just not clicking.'

[–]themerovingian01[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Yes I agree it is way more her loss.

[–]UnPussified0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Buy more boxes & help her pack as quickly as possible.

Hire a moving company if its more than she can carry on her own.

And keep an eye on your own shit.

Take the trash to the curb, pour bleach all over it & say your final good bye.

Take down all photos of her & shoe box in the attic.

Then toss everything ELSE you kept, that still reminds you of her, into a metal bin & burn it at 2:00 am Saturday nite in your back yard, while getting stinking drunk.

Then with your freshly cleaned house, start re-investing in yourself.

[–]maljo240 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Marriage counseling and don’t get your advice from the internet.

[–]themerovingian01[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Marriage counseling didn't work at all.

[–]themerovingian01[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Just an update: A therapist I saw said she very likely has borderline personality disorder.



You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

© TheRedArchive 2020. All rights reserved.

created by /u/dream-hunter