Separation, and a smack to the face

simbarlion · 2019-09-14T09:57:20+00:00

I'd be amazed if anyone says anything other than GTFO.

Toxic shit like this can be so hard to see when you are on the inside, but fuck man, you are in a prison of shit and you have to GTFO.

So, I repeat, GTFO - as soon as possible.

bowhunter857 · 2019-09-14T11:26:39+00:00

“My wife has a boyfriend” just read that over and over until it really sinks in

Daddy_ThunderCock · 2019-09-14T12:32:18+00:00

You think the kids seeing daddy as a cuck and mommy as a whore is good for them? Lawyer up and divorce asap. If you weren't a faggot I would say go fuck some strange.

_nivla · 2019-09-14T10:10:39+00:00

Don’t kid yourself, you’re the doormat.

Be a man. How are you able to let her impact you and your kids in this way?

File and move out. Arrange for equal time with the kids or for 100% custody.

SorcererKing · 2019-09-14T18:06:02+00:00

I think the crowd has covered this one well, but one thing I might add: get set up in a new place (in same school district) and make it kid-friendly. Your two oldest are probably old enough that the judge will consider their opinions on where they want to live. If they really want to be with you, show you're a good dad who puts his kids first, and get your kids ready to tell the judge they want to live with you (and why).

part_wolf · 2019-09-14T16:58:10+00:00

Why are you wasting our time? You’re still lying to yourself. There’s been no smack to the face, and absolutely nothing has changed since you posted 29 days ago about her sexting with this new guy. Wake up brother.

Here’s what’s going to happen. You’re going to continue being a major pussy. You’ll enjoy the sloppy seconds when your wife comes crawling back to you after Chad gets tired of her and her baggage (which is you), and your marriage will limp along for a while until your wife gets bored and finds another guy because she knows you won’t do shit about it. Your kids will never respect you again.

See you in another month with your next post titled, “things are getting worse, what should I do?”

Redpillbrigade17 · 2019-09-14T11:17:20+00:00

File for divorce ASAP.

See a lawyer.

You’re at risk that she gets primary physical custody, including right to move with the kids out of state. You become the far-away, visiting dad then.

If the house is jointly owned you can’t do shit. She can stay there as long as she wants including invite the boyfriend to live there, to intimidate you and make you move out.

Buckle up for the long war. Your plan should be to make her move out, leave kids behind.

Get yourself a clear support system for the kids that does not depend on her. Go to all their events, doctor appointments, be the model dad.

When filing for divorce ask court for primary physical custody. She can come visit from out of state or wherever every week or whatever. But you stay in the house. Do not move out until you have a custody order agreeable to you that’s signed by a judgeI ,if you care about your kids and your time with them.

And yes you’re the nice guy. Time to man up and tell the co-pilot turned terrorist to get their parachute and jump out. You’re flying now and will land the plane with the passengers (your kids) wherever and however you want. She’s done. Her doing calls like that with the guy and your kids too, in your own fucking house, is a huge no no, and a sign of what she’s capable of.

Good luck. Stop being a pussy.

tspitsatgp · 2019-09-14T10:12:57+00:00

Dude there is no relationship, sell the house and move on. She doesn’t need to agree to shit, she’s made her choice.

GTFO and read the sidebar. Start with NNMNG because the shit you are tolerating now is fucked up on so many levels that I struggle to think you have read anything and if you have you have internalized nothing.

Brother, move on.

IRunYourRiver · 2019-09-14T12:19:30+00:00

This isn't good for the kids either. They are more intuitive than you give them credit for. Move on. Make the transition into the next phase of your life. Don't use them as an excuse for inertia. (Edit - redpillbrigade is changing my mind on this, but I'll leave this comment up - good luck, brother)

themerovingian01 · 2019-09-14T23:48:52+00:00

I don't know how you could still care about a woman who has another man balls deep on the regular.

Praexology · 2019-09-15T00:20:44+00:00

As everyone else has said, GTFO especially if she is actively cheating on you.

That said, GTFO doesn't necessarily mean vacate the house. Make sure you arent giving up rights to your property or kids. Push for a finalization of the marriage and of how to split the house. Once your finances are divorced from eachother then physically gtfo.

ChokingDownRP · 2019-09-15T14:58:22+00:00

Holy fuck dude. I get that you're putting your kids first, and that's noble...but at the cost of your dignity and self respect.

Her sister suggested you should stay in the house with this cheating whore? Who the fuck is she to suggest anything about how you should live your life, or what's best for YOUR children?

Other than yourself, the only person whose opinions should matter to you is your attorney... You do have one, right?... Or were you just planning to let your wife's sister dictate that you should leave the house, the kids and all your assets with your "wife" and give her 90% of your income?

Grow a fucking set of balls already!!

redrulesusa · 2019-09-14T15:28:35+00:00

You are living with your wife while she’s fucking some other guy and he’s the doormat? You are showing your kids that you are less than a man by staying there and putting up with that shit. Go pay the top divorce attorney in your town yesterday and do every single thing they tell you. My first guess they will tell you to stop being a cuck.

adeptintact · 2019-09-14T22:56:35+00:00

You have to take the lead in this situation instead of being a doormat. After I separated from my ex-wife, I filed divorce and initiated mediation talks. I also told her we were selling the house, which we sold a few months later.

You are being indecisive because you don't want to let go of your old life. Don't use your kids as an excuse to be a cuckold. It's time for you to man up and move on.

_nivla · 2019-09-14T10:30:31+00:00

What are you going to do about it?

You know she’s with another man. This occurred while you are married to her. That’s cheating. You have proof? Recorded calls, trip/hotel receipts, anything? I don’t know how any state would punish you for moving out or on custody if you bring solid evidence.

Have you spoken to an attorney? If not that’s your next step-like now! My $20 bet, you let a week pass and don’t talk get one retained, you plan on staying with her.

RedPillGlasses · 2019-09-14T12:47:34+00:00

Get the house sold no matter what. Filing for divorce is probably the best way to initiate that.

I moved out with my kids from their drunk ass mom. She stayed in the marital home for THREE YEARS, and didn’t make one mortgage payment.

Guess what I could legally do (in NH)?

Not a goddamn thing. She wouldn’t agree to sell it, refinance it, wouldn’t agree to anything.

My credit went down to a 492, but foreclosure just ended, so in 2-3 more years MIGHT be able to buy another house.

Sell that house no matter what.

andyturbo2000 · 2019-09-14T11:24:10+00:00

She’s got the boyfriend in the house. You ignoring and carrying on your mission? WTF. The most beta thing I’ve read.

Her sister says stay in house for kids, so you do. Beta again.

No divorce proceedings, why not? You’re a cuck. As soon as this boyfriend has gone you’ll be on here asking whether or not you should take her back.

Operation Scorched Earth here my friend. Actions, not words. House is going on the market, it will be sold from under her and she’ll be given her share. You move into your own place and kids will probably follow.

The only right thing you’ve done in my opinion is stay in the family home.

lololasaurus · 2019-09-14T15:09:53+00:00

Talk to an attorney so that you don't accidentally hurt yourself legally, and if he gives you the all clear, move out and take your kids. Good grief that is toxic.

RedPill-BlackLotus · 2019-09-14T15:11:56+00:00

If your hamster starts to get the better of you, do some cardio man.

Keep pushing forward.

HornsOfApathy · 2019-09-14T11:07:29+00:00

In my time here at MRP I may have told one or two faggots they should seriously consider leaving ASAP. I'm a huge proponent of OYS first, then figure out their relationships.

First time I've said you need to get the fuck out before that.

Sepean · 2019-09-14T10:08:50+00:00

Dude, accelerate the go plan. Move on. This sounds bad for everyone but your wife.

First, see a lawyer. Maybe this whole boyfriend and always on the phone thing is something you can use but need to document.

And wtf would you be friends with her? Be friendly in front of the kids, be professional and businesslike when dealing with her about issues with the kids. It sucks when the kids has to see parents fight and the parents sabotage eachother instead of making shit run smoothly.

screechhater · 2019-09-14T15:12:56+00:00

perhaps you should consider telling her to get the fuck out

I think what shocks me most, is you allowed her sister's advice to dictate your future

Tell her to get the fuck out

Get some cameras and record her bullshit with ignoring the children she carried

apietroski8 · 2019-09-14T10:34:50+00:00

It sounds like you are the one waiting around for her to break up with her bf. Your entire post and all your comments are just excuses. Go see a lawyer. Go find a new place to live. Lift, find hobbies, be the best dad you can be, go hang out with friends. Forget about any type of relationship with your wife besides coparenting.

It is going to suck, you may get screwed in the seperation, your wife may come begging back to you, but you need to move forward with this.

Your kids will enjoy a happy Dad who is owning his shit more than a doormat who is living in fear and denial.

aita2899 · 2019-09-14T13:21:42+00:00

Go back and talk to a lawyer about the situation - you have done this right?

My state is funny with moving out of the house (not a dealbreaker but can hurt your). My plan is we ever separate to immediately sell the house and then we can get temporary custody’s arrangements, temp orders for support, etc.

I suggest you go that route. Who is on the mortgage and deed? Both of you or just her? Could she make the payments without your share? If the answer is no then you sell it and she doesn’t really get a say in it. Alternatively she can buy you out and refinance. But a lawyer is 100% needed right now.

Westernhagen · 2019-09-14T20:42:08+00:00

When this all went down her sister suggested

Dude, WTF? You are listening to advice from a manifestly biased source? You are in your sister's frame as well as your wife's?

She also keeps saying lets be friends after for the kids

You are going to have to communicate and cooperate for the benefit of the kids. It is best if you do so without confrontation. Is this what she means by "being friends"? Probably not. What she means is she wants to demote you to orbiter - you will be her dogsbody, handyman, and on-demand babysitter. Fuck that, don't do that.

See a lawyer. Get ready to play hardball, because you're going to have to do that to prevent her from moving the kids to where her LDR lives.

SailorAground · 2019-09-14T21:41:17+00:00

Why haven't you gotten a lawyer? You are entering into dangerous waters without having legal counsel to help you. You are NOT legally separated and need to get the paperwork squared away before you do anything else. Stop telegraphing your moves and telling her what you're going to do and just do it. You're about to go to war with this bitch and need to be prepared for it. Since you seem incapable of figuring shit out for yourself, here's the plan you should execute:

Go here: https://www.martindale.com/
Find a lawyer.
Hire said lawyer.
Get your legal plan in place.
Take care of your legal responsibilities to your STBX.
Kick the bitch to the curb as quickly as possible.
Stop being such a cringy faggot and man the fuck up.

Spez: Forgot to add: Why the fuck are you talking about your feelings to this bitch? She does NOT respect you or otherwise she would not have cheated on you. She doesn't give a fuck and will use these conversations as a means to manipulate you into getting her way, i.e. fucking you over. You and her are no longer friends, lovers, nor spouses but are now sworn enemies and you need to see it that way or else the horrors you're about to experience in the coming divorce will destroy you.

Two_kids_in_a_coat · 2019-09-14T15:04:26+00:00

You fucking dumbass divorce now. If you do it while she’s head of heals for this dumbass then she’s not gonna think about how much she hates you in the divorce and you can keep much more of your shit. You wait till it’s over and she wants you back then she’s gonna be pissed that you don’t want her. She’s gonna get a big money divorce lawyer and fuck You over hard. Seen this a million times.

And yes to the LJBF until after the divorce. Let her think it’s all ok. Then as little content as possible once it’s all settled

Captain_pants4 · 2019-09-14T16:23:31+00:00

Don’t let anymore time pass...pull the plug. Grab your balls and never again think about how you’re going to justify something to someone.

Even if 2 of your kids want to move away with mommy don’t let them. Kids are fucking stupid and have no idea about what’s good for them. They’ll come around eventually so make sure that you’re always in their lives and that they can feel your love.

By the way, your wife’s dream is going to become a lot less appealing when she finds out that she can’t move that far away from you when there are minor children involved

Glennus626 · 2019-09-14T16:32:52+00:00

How do you not have a lawyer and divorce proceedings? Hey look kids, dad is a cuck doormat.

You do you, but staying in the same house and paying for her lifestyle while she fucks another guy while still being married to you and in front of your kids? What a laughing stock you are.

crimson_chris · 2019-09-15T11:40:45+00:00

WTF is going on here. The fact that you dtart this post with "My wife has a boyfriend" tells me all I need to know.

Get divorced, don't get divorced. Stay and be a cuck or leave - does not matter. You don't seem to get it. MRP is about you. What is your purpose? What are your goals? I have been gone from MRP for a while and I can't believe the fagtastic cuddling you have gotten on this post.

Do whatever you want because it does not matter. Your wife and the strange cock she is swallowing is not the problem. The problem is you. Until you figure that shit out, you can't be helped.

JameisBong · 2019-09-15T17:50:48+00:00

Aww stay for the poor kids and share your lovely wife... sarcasm of course,you should be looking at apartments for yourself ASAP.I found one as soon as she cheated,paid the rent for the month and left as soon as she had her usual blow ups(She had BPD).

HappyChaos2 · 2019-09-15T19:10:08+00:00

"If she tries to say no, do I say you already made the biggest choice of this relationship, you made the choice that you wanted out. You don’t get to make the choice of how and when everyone else gets to move on with their lives."

This stood out the most to me, get out of her frame, you don't have to justify. GTFO.

redwall92 · 2019-09-16T14:03:27+00:00

Dude ... you actually know that your wife got in trouble at work for being on the phone too much. How did you find this out?

Why are you still spending your valuable time, your precious time listening to this woman make mouth noises?

I believe that you still NEED this woman. Your have such a scarcity mindset that you are holding on to the only thing you FEEL like you have - this woman.

You need to work on finding an abundance mindset. You are living your life afraid to lose something (that you've already lost). You want to get to a place where you're living your life in a way that you are getting what you want to get out of life.

Move on, bro. And for God's sake ... don't ask your kids what you should do. Man up and do.

Tbonesupreme · 2019-09-16T18:09:02+00:00

File for divorce FIRST.

Get a custody agreement SECOND.

GTFO THIRD.

You need to talk with a lawyer and see what your exposure is financially, and what you could lose regarding assets and custody.

Tbonesupreme · 2019-09-16T18:13:40+00:00

File for divorce FIRST.

Get a custody agreement SECOND.

GTFO THIRD.

You need to talk with a lawyer and see what your exposure is financially, and what you could lose regarding assets and custody.

In the meantime, figure out why this woman has ZERO fear of you.

Tbonesupreme · 2019-09-16T18:13:46+00:00

File for divorce FIRST.

Get a custody agreement SECOND.

GTFO THIRD.

You need to talk with a lawyer and see what your exposure is financially, and what you could lose regarding assets and custody.

In the meantime, figure out why this woman has ZERO fear of you.

redditguy61 · 2019-09-17T01:58:20+00:00

Who's bitch dis is?

Title	Separation, and a smack to the face
Author	aita2899
Upvotes	13
Comments	101
Date	September 14, 2019 9:47 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askMRP
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