As some of you might have seen from my previous posts, my wife has a boyfriend and we are currently separated, but living in the same house.
We have separated the financials. Nothing has been filed for separation or divorce, I believe she thinks at this point I will take her back if things go south with this guy who is a LDR(2 days drive).
I continue to stay lifting, reading, following my MAP and STFU because as you all say the stay plan is the go plan.
When this all went down her sister suggested we stay in the house till spring for the stability of our three kids (6,11,13).
I have been living like this with her talking to him all day and night in front of the kids etc since the end of July. As time has progressed she ignores the kids most of the time she is home to talk with him. She also recently got in trouble at work for her phone being in her face so much.
I feel like it’s my ego here, but I really want to just move on. My two oldest kids want out of the house with her also. The longer I let this go on, the longer I feel like I’m just letting her postpone the inevitable. The guy is such a nice guy doormat, that I don’t think it’ll last, but I don’t want to be stuck with her if their relationship falls apart and she’s all messed up from it.
So my question is, do I stay in this bs till spring, or do I just lay it down and say the house needs to be sold so everyone can move on. If she tries to say no, do I say you already made the biggest choice of this relationship, you made the choice that you wanted out. You don’t get to make the choice of how and when everyone else gets to move on with their lives.
She also keeps saying lets be friends after for the kids. I feel like I should treat this like any LJBF and say no we can’t be friends after this is done.
I guess I’m seeking advice from you all, since none of you hesitate to smack me in the face to wake me up to the reality I’m in.