RP IN LOVE

Aaren_Augustine · 2018-01-08T07:40:47+00:00

I think a lot of men do a disservice to women by thinking they are unique snowflakes; appreciating a illusion rather than the actual person. Then she catches a lot of flack for not living up to the "Norman Rockwell" images you've painted in your head.

Basically, you don't ditch the reality by giving her a unicorn onesie. You simply love her for who she is

crackrocksteady7 · 2018-01-08T14:09:21+00:00

I've said it a few times, most incels and "mgtow" copers can have the misogyny sucked out of them with 1 crappy bj

If he's weak willed enough to drop everything like this, op is probably weak willed enough that he will eventually disgust her and he will be back with twice as much rage. And on and on life goes

BPremium · 2018-01-08T13:49:37+00:00

Its borderline magic, in a way. When you meet someone you just... get. Where the sun is a little brighter, the air a little sweeter, and the weight of the world is lighter. I have that in C, and Im the luckiest man on earth to be able to say that again. She makes me want to be the best possible man I can be, for her and us.

JustAnotherOmegaMale · 2018-01-08T08:59:41+00:00

That's men for ya. In the battle between our head and our dick, the dick always wins.

Merger-Arbitrage · 2018-01-08T07:12:57+00:00

Wondering if any other people have ditched RP teachings as soon as they fell in love again?

It wouldn't surprise me, but that doesn't mean one should completely let their guard down. Nothing novel there, though.

vandaalen · 2018-01-08T12:04:31+00:00

Oxytocin is a hell of a drug.

AstuteBlackMan · 2018-01-08T09:43:37+00:00

You're not in love. You're infatuated. 3 dates doesn't mean you love someone. You're on a natural high from meeting something new. It's like starting a good new tv show or getting sex for the first time. It's a high that will not last.

This isn't even a red/blue pill concept or thing. It's something that everyone needs to learn. The concept of what Love ACTUALLY is and what Love is PROMOTED as is entirely different.

Love is the willingness to work to make sure that person is well and stable. It's simply that.

You're not in love. You're infatuated.

newName543456 · 2018-01-08T09:13:09+00:00

RP dogma

doesn't exist anyway.

You are just under the influence of infatuation drugs. Big deal. Happens all the time.

caesarfecit · 2018-01-08T14:57:12+00:00

You don't know if you're really in love with someone until you've had a serious disagreement with them and come out the other end.

Try to resist the urge to fall into oneitis/infatuation.

IckyStickyPoo · 2018-01-08T09:10:37+00:00

Ditch RP teachings, but keep the real world teachings about caution and boundaries. It's what someone does that matters most, not what they say.

And remember that love is real - despite what RP says.

When I think about my partner, I feel a rush of love. That's after 7 years together. No 'chad' can come in between that. I mean, for what? A bit of worthless posturing and cheap, practised Chadly behaviours? - that's all as hollow as fuck.

RP fail to understand that.

notworthmuch20xx · 2018-01-08T07:59:57+00:00

I might be feeling it right now

wtknight · 2018-01-08T12:10:36+00:00

I am not Red Pill, but I think that as long as you keep in mind that she is not "wonderful" but rather a "person who you are possibly compatible with for the long term," and as long as you realize that there are other women out there who you could be compatible with and that she is not "the only one for you," then you should be fine.

truedemocracy3 · 2018-01-08T14:56:04+00:00

RP doesnt necessarily mean being single forever and just sleeping around with a new woman every month. You can still love someone, pursue an LTR with them, and be Red Pilled/adhere to Red Pill principles.

Whisper · 2018-01-08T19:43:27+00:00

You don't stop loving women because you are aware of their essential nature, you silly person.

You just stop projecting dumb ideals onto them.

NalkaNalka · 2018-01-08T12:36:07+00:00

For fucks sake, get a handle on your feelers. Sure enjoy them and all that but be aware that instant crushes are just a bunch of hormones in your head. When they pass, and they will, you better have something more substantial to base a relationship on.

thinkytoes · 2018-01-08T14:02:07+00:00

Personally, I am excited for you. I think RP is subhuman trash and that the people there are bitter because they are not experiencing this moment you are having.

Strong words but hey.

I hope this is what you think it is and beyond. It's such a sweet spot of human existance and a perfect design that, to me, is the best evidence of a "god".

(I am high off of baby cuddles. I am new aunt. My sentiments still stands)

prodigy2throw · 2018-01-08T07:20:58+00:00

Everyone backslides and gets bitten in the ass

Cho_Assmilk · 2018-01-08T07:39:49+00:00

I figured you would have waited til the 4th date to fall in love. She must be a special one.

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concacanca · 2018-01-08T07:40:12+00:00

What parts in particular?

There seems to be quite a lot of distance between core RP and married RP/LTR ideas. Presumably you won't stop going to the gym or being a fun person to be around.

TrueRustyShackleford · 2018-01-08T08:33:09+00:00

Given your relationship history I say you have to be a bit more cautious.

MercedesBenzoAMG · 2018-01-08T11:07:05+00:00

Sounds like limerence, nice drug enjoy it while it lasts because when it's gone reality will set in again.

DashneDK2 · 2018-01-08T11:15:48+00:00

It's fine to fall in love. Just always keep your options open and never commit to more than you can walk away from.

jax006 · 2018-01-08T15:48:44+00:00

Yep, I get this kind of oneitis pretty bad sometimes. Over long time scales though, it seems I return to cynicism quickly after the honeymoon phase, and promptly ruin things.

LewisCross · 2018-01-08T16:09:05+00:00

Have you had sex with her? General rule is she has to put out by the third date.

I haven't ditched RP teachings when I fell in love again. I've been married 21 years. But I did slack off and get complacent and lazy. And when that happened, the shit tests ramped up; I got smacked down for expressing negative feelings; I got sex deprived; she tried trampling over boundaries; and I had to step the game back up.

You can't let up for a second. Not one. She might be LTR, ok , but not marriage. You have to be able to get out quickly and easily.

EDIT: Dude after reading your post history just in this thread, you need an attitude adjustment. You've been married and divorced twice. You were engaged by your third date to your second wife. Try to think here.

LifterofThings · 2018-01-08T17:56:28+00:00

This is what AWALT is for. AWALT!

Congratulations, and enjoy! Just make sure you're not compromising your principles and your integrity, no matter how smitten you become with her. :)

Pope_Lucious · 2018-01-08T19:46:51+00:00

If your philosophy collapses at any infatuation, did you really have a philosophy?

[deleted] · 2018-01-09T02:18:10+00:00

It’s not delusional man

despisedlove2 · 2018-01-09T04:13:17+00:00

You are having a relapse.

Maikowski2 · 2018-01-08T08:15:57+00:00

No. The point of RP is to always keep it at hand. Or in your mind. While currently I am in LTR and act rather beta I still am fully aware of this and do it consciously and in calculated matter sometimes. RP doesn't stop being rp once you feel in love. Actually this is the time where rp is most needed since it offers you healthy perspective, do not keep your hopes too up and do not invest too much (which I failed to do by the way but... Whatever, can't be perfect)

Title	RP IN LOVE
Author	reluctantly_red
Upvotes	6
Comments	156
Date	January 8, 2018 7:08 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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