Do you agree with this? "Women look for men with a good future. Men look for women with a good past."

HOLYREGIME · 2020-10-05T21:41:38+00:00

Women look for men who are good in the present. If he goes down, she’ll trade up.

PickleLine · 2020-10-05T23:21:02+00:00

Sort of true. The past predicts the future, so men are also looking for women with a good future.

heywoodsr · 2020-10-05T21:00:14+00:00

So true! The problem is a woman can always lie about her past. I mean what woman admits she screwed 20 guys when she meets a winner

YveisGrey · 2020-10-05T23:13:24+00:00

Absolutely not. Lol well women might look for fortune but men are mostly concerned with looks. I’m getting a little tired of people here pretending men are out here choosing unattractive women with “good pasts” over the women they actually find attractive who also were sorority girls in college. Men will usually choose the prettier woman with a questionable past over the ugly virgin. But sure all else being equal not being a ho is advantageous in attracting most men for marriage or LTR

funlightmandarin · 2020-10-05T20:35:36+00:00

Does a low n-count make it ok to golddig? 🤔

Edit: but hypergamy is literally the worst, apparantly. Thanks for confirming your hypocrisy, haha.

calvinjoe12 · 2020-10-06T01:51:55+00:00

Women care about the present for men and rate them as a prospect as well, especially women in their early to mid 20’s. It’s a plus if you’re good for them right now and yourself (LMS wise) right now as well, basically meaning set for the future too for those men. But you can also be good for women in the present and be a “prospect” for the future and they wanna buy low on you right now. For example, could be early 20’s don’t have a specific job right now or lined up as you’re finishing school, but you’re going to have that degree and work ethic that proves you’ll get that good job and lifestyle in the foreseeable future so there’s good value there.

This example is a good reason why, imo, some guys should still seek out a relationship with a girl or just try to get some action with them (whatever their specific goal is), even if they don’t have that great LMS thing in place at this specific moment in time.

dreamsynth · 2020-10-06T06:43:45+00:00

What people want and what people get are two pairs of shoes.

Suck-Less · 2020-10-05T22:38:31+00:00

Bonus points for the phrase.

I’m gonna steal it.

relish5k · 2020-10-06T02:34:20+00:00

That seems to inform many of the opinions on PPD, whether it's true or not...

I definitely felt my husband had "potential" when we got together and I was right.

I think he picked me because of my looks and personality, I don't think my "past" played any role whatsoever.

Ra0ulDukeDarko · 2020-10-06T14:30:08+00:00

Nowadays women aren’t slut-shamed like the used to be, your kidding yourself if you think you can get a girl who’s had fewer than 6 sexual partners. And honestly that doesn’t matter, as long as she’s not got stds it is an arbitrary point to fuss over. So long as she hasn’t got a history of cheating don’t compromise and risk getting in a LTR or wife who you don’t find attractive don’t get on with just because she’s virginal. That’s just stupid.

Also doesn’t everyone, men and women look for a partner who has a good future. Men aren’t the bread winners anymore and most families and couples live of two incomes: so men need a financially stable partner just as much as a women does.

2020-10-07T00:31:48+00:00

The problem with men trying to get a girl's past and n-count out of her...is so they can secretly "fuck zone" her and waste her time while making false promises and giving her hope in order to get the guaranteed pussy. Its unethical, as is friendzoning a guy and giving him hope of a possible relationship. If you are so concerned about the woman's past and don't feel she is being honest, then BE honest with her that its important trait for an LTR to you, instead of being a scumbag. Or, if she spills it when she's drunk, then end the relationship if its a deal breaker. Have some fucking abundance and find a more appropriate woman.

the-red_woman · 2020-10-05T20:35:11+00:00

I agree that women look for a man with a good future. So far I’ve never had a man ask about my past so I don’t think that part is true.

lillmama · 2020-10-06T04:24:22+00:00

Why do men care about a woman’s n count? I smell deep rooted insecurity. I would never tell the truth because it’s none of their business and I wouldn’t even ask a mans head count. I’m only interested in the quality of his relationships and how he treats others and I expect the same healthy curiosity. Edit: I want to add that no truly secure, understanding, high value individual would ask their partner their n count. It’s so high-school.

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CrabBucketSecurity · 2020-10-06T04:18:39+00:00

It works if you think all women and all men are the same

jdobrila · 2020-10-06T04:56:57+00:00

The ying-yang quotes, hovewer catchy, are almost never actually accurate.

psypD · 2020-10-06T01:36:06+00:00

No. Women wait at the finish line.

thasixohfour · 2020-10-06T01:39:44+00:00

It's not the n count (which I honestly couldn't give two shits about since I'm skilled and don't have a tiny peen.) Its more the pre-existing children that I find most off-putting. A woman could've been plowed by over 100 dudes, and still be an awesome partner. A woman who only fucked one guy, but has two kids? That's a pass.

xFallacyx69 · 2020-10-05T21:05:31+00:00

I’ve never heard that before, but it’s pretty accurate... but women also love a guy with a bad past that may not have a great future... seen it far too many times. I think women just like guys with rocky pasts because they want their love to be “special” and change him...

joesmithasdf · 2020-10-07T09:48:23+00:00

That sounds about right. Yet the only reason I don’t get more women is because there are practical limits. So why would I judge them?

Peacheslikeyou · 2020-10-08T23:39:03+00:00

Nope, women care about a mans past too.

If he's cheated/slept around? Pass.

Roachcluster · 2020-10-13T20:23:40+00:00

I don't look for women at all given that every woman has the opportunity to destroy my life on a whim.

Independent-Cash · 2020-10-05T22:59:38+00:00

Men don't care about a women's past, most men care about how attractive a women is for them mostly especially if they can parade them like a trophy.

The other is true though, women look for men with a future.

Expensive-Guitar3609 · 2020-10-05T21:30:25+00:00

I agree. It makes sense.

passepar2t · 2020-10-05T20:46:08+00:00

Too reductionist.

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