My ltr randomly dyed her hair pink and I hate it

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March 23, 2020
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I don’t know why but I’m so angry, it looks awful and she didn’t even ask or talk to me about it, just did it randomly. Why would she do that? And where do I go from here?


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Title My ltr randomly dyed her hair pink and I hate it
Author SonnyFFC
Upvotes 106
Comments 130
Date 23 March 2020 03:34 PM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit askTRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/357442
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[–]Aluhard172 points173 points  (17 children) | Copy

[–]jzekyll639 points40 points  (0 children) | Copy

It is op

[–][deleted] 54 points55 points  (10 children) | Copy

Hahahahahaha you caught me

[–]Foolishoe30 points31 points  (0 children) | Copy

I'd let it go. Doesnt sound like you are gonna marry her rn.

[–]oOMoltenSkyOo10 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy

Just to add another video to the list: https://youtu.be/90yJJbOPDHQ Rollo did an interview with Josh Fluke four month ago where he told Rollo about his failed marriage. The interesting part starts at 46:20 where he tells kind of the same story. His wife too colored her hair suddenly. Maybe this Interview helps you OP to figure some things out about your case.

[–]thelampshade254 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

[–]i-am-the-prize1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

nice +1

[–]Fromstatepharm1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Haha

[–]blueroomb0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Thank you

[–]southflsup282 points283 points  (15 children) | Copy

In nature, certain animals are colored brightly (shades of yellow, red , orange) to warn predators that they are toxic and should be avoided. The same thing applies to chicks who dye their hair crazy colors

[–]ramaga147 points148 points  (10 children) | Copy

Exactly. It's called aposematism. Humans exhibit it too. Western women who are unsuitable for LTRs exhibit it by getting tattoos, piercing their bodies in any place other than their ears, and dyeing their hair strange colors. I'd also argue that obesity is a form of it.

[–]AbsentTea42 points43 points  (5 children) | Copy

This perfectly describes my pre-trp LTR. I wasn't the smartest...

[–]southflsup49 points50 points  (3 children) | Copy

Society conditions you to accept these females as normal and that they are just “being themselves” and if you don’t agree you are a bigot. In my opinion , besides tattoos , weirdly colored hair is the BIGGEST red flag in terms of physical appearance. STAY FAR AWAY!

[–]RanaMahal17 points18 points  (2 children) | Copy

there’s a few safe tattoo spots i’ve found over the past few years (as long as she’s born in the 90s or later), they’ve become a societal norm at this point which is small tats on: fingers, wrists, ankles. if she has one of those she’s usually no more fucked up than the usual, but dyed hair and lots of piercings is always a no.

also these tattoos are usually like a little heart outline that takes 10 seconds to do, or is a tat for when her grandma/dad/mom died

[–]southflsup8 points9 points  (1 child) | Copy

I probably should have been more specific when saying tats , what I meant is meaningless tattoos covering large portions of your body on areas like the legs , back , arms etc. It is seen as a masculine thing and should stay that way.

[–]RanaMahal5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

yes, large tattoos on legs arms and backs are the masculine tattoo spots and i’ve never met a single chick with one of those who wasn’t exhibiting “badass masculine” traits. girls with sleeves have almost always had one side of their head shaved too.

i was just pointing out that the small feminine tats aren’t a bad thing since tats are really normalized for the under 30 crowd

[–]Ivabighairy10 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Most of us weren’t. That’s why we’re here.

[–]rita_lines1 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy

and dyeing their hair strange colors

what about animals that are coloured to atract the pray??

[–]woyspawn2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy

Those are males specimens

[–]rita_lines0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

I mean coloured females to atract males

[–]woyspawn1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Females select, never attract, with few exceptions like hyenas and seahorses.

[–]kellykebab15 points16 points  (0 children) | Copy

OP is dating a poisonous frog.

[–]cfbovernfl1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

aposematism

Interesting, thanks.

[–]salezman1265 points66 points  (0 children) | Copy

I dont understand why this is a conversation. If you don't like it, move on.

That aside, I like weird colored hair. Its hot (well you know, if the girl is hot in the first place). But...probably not LTR type of hot, more like, plate kind of hot.

[–]urbanfoh37 points38 points  (1 child) | Copy

You woman should always be concerned whether you find her attractive. If she doesn't she is not afraid to lose you and you shouldn't either.

[–]nandemonaidattebayo-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

That’s bullshit.

[–]bumbuff72 points73 points  (8 children) | Copy

There is a discussion is to be had.

If she's doing it because other woman are doing it and she wanted to try it, similar to most guy getting frosted tips in the 90's, then it's an easy one to get over.

However...

If she's idolizing 'non-conforming' women and following new ideologies that conflict with an ideal 'monogamous' household I'd next her hard. Or start bringing her to church.

[–]666Evo16 points17 points  (1 child) | Copy

This is the correct advice.

If she just thought it was cute and she will ask you next time, all good it will grow out eventually.

If she's an independent woman who don't need no man telling her what to do with her body, hard next.

The fucking spergs in this sub, man. Jesus Christ.

[–]when_its_too_late25 points26 points  (2 children) | Copy

Or start bringing her to church 😂 gold

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

It’s funny because non conforming women are the church ones

[–]Gawernator3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

This.

[–]WhatRemainsAfter43 points44 points  (8 children) | Copy

Damn. You LTR seem to have some underlying anger against the society and it is her way to say fuck you to them. Or has some serious daddy issues.

Is she super young? In teenage years, such phase comes.

Also, i dunno whether i will dump her but would let her know, I don't approve. It doesn't seem serious on her part to not even consult.

Create some dread. Let her know via action, you don't like such random acts of stupidity. If she consider you enough, she will clean her act or you save your time and move on.

[–]VigilantSmartbomb5 points6 points  (6 children) | Copy

That last part bam,

[–]rebirthandrecover16 points17 points  (5 children) | Copy

One of my good friends was dating this girl that would randomly take off in the middle of the night during a party and go home by herself. Eventually she started doing weird shit like showed up with all her hair cut super short, would cause fights between them all the time, etc. In the end it was pretty obvious that she wanted to end it, but didn’t have the stomach to follow through, and so was acting in a way where she would hopefully be broken up with to let her off the hook.

[–]femaledoglover610 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy

Girls do this all the time, then they blame the guy for breaking up with them lmao

[–]VigilantSmartbomb2 points3 points  (3 children) | Copy

Wow! Yeah I’ve seen stuff like that lol - guys just gotta respect their time more and not make their mission their woman. Sure you kno tho

[–]rebirthandrecover8 points9 points  (2 children) | Copy

To an extent - yes, but in general I’m of the opinion that groupthink is not a great way to live your life. Nothing that you read on here can replace the lessons you learn out in the world. I’ve gained some valuable info from TRP related communities, mostly to your point about self improvement and focusing on your own path in life.

A lot of people confuse this with being wholly self-centered though, which is pretty problematic if you’re looking to have a healthy long term relationship and a good relationship with yourself/friends/family. You can still make yourself available to being a helpful person and good listener, without taking away from your long term life goals. In fact, those are really solid life skills to have in the world of business and can also make you attractive as hell to women who value those things. To be honest, if you find a woman who does value things like being a good guy and doing the right thing, she’s probably less likely to cheat on you and dump you for showing emotion like TRP will have you believe every woman will do.

At the end of the day man, you have to do what’s best for you and have the confidence to decide for yourself what that will be. I hope you take what you need from here and leave what doesn’t serve you. Good luck.

[–]VigilantSmartbomb1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Honestly dude thank you :) you’ve got it

[–]rebirthandrecover1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

You’re welcome! PM if you ever want to talk.

[–]griz3lda0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

She's not gonna guess that it's her hair causing it.

[–]Endorsed ContributorNightwingTRP15 points16 points  (1 child) | Copy

You're angry because it's openly disrespectful. Women know their looks are a prime attraction for men. To change her look without caring what her boyfriend thinks is basically a giant middle finger to your commitment to her. That's why you're angry about it, because you're angry at her for disrespecting you and angry at yourself for choosing poorly. Typically this is something that demonstrates low relationship value. You should probably be looking at other options while downgrading her to plate.

If you're looking to approach any kind of conversation about it... you're in for some fun because it's borderline impossible to address this sort of problem without appearing beta and controlling. She will lose further respect for you if you fail this massive shit test. I think the only way to pass this one is with a combination of amused mastery and some heavy "I'm disappointed in you" delivered outside the usual womanese. (Of course, that cannot be done if you haven't demonstrated a fluency in womanese to begin with. If you've always been doing straight talk then you can't flip to it in a manner that holds weight. - When you do that it's essentially to tell the chick, your social skills are poor... so poor that I'm forced to use straight talk with your dumb ass.)

Any conversation like this would have to begin with essentially laughing at her. "Why on earth did you dye your hair like that?" blah blah, stupid reason. "It looks so unbelievably awful." Laugh some more at her. Be very clear that it is the hair which looks awful rather than her generally or you'll end up in a whole different load of nonsense. She might leave it at that, in which case you're on to a winner because she's sticking with the womanese and not bothering to defend her stupidity. At which point, withdraw attention, add some light dread, absolutely no sex with her but don't tell her why. The hamster will spin and eventually land on "omg my smv has gone down. Better reverse this."

If you get the possible pushback to the initial conversation like "you're trying to control me" and stuff like that. Drop the laughter suddenly and just address her clearly with something along the lines of "I've little interest in how you behave in your daily life. However, I've invested in a relationship with you and you have supposedly invested in one with me. Mutual attraction is a key component of any relationship. The fact you seem to think my opinion of your appearance holds no value is bizarre. It's like you've never had a mutually respectful relationship before." Some sort of disappointed tone and look should accompany this small bit of straight talk. Make sure you get away after that. She's likely to go very defensive because you've literally just called her social skills/relationship skills low value. Deflect all defensiveness with something like "I'm not arguing with you over dumb little things. I've gotta go do X. I'll catch ya later." Similar post-chat stuff of withdrawing attention, light dread when you do give attention and no sex for a couple of weeks.

Again, that should leave just enough for the hamster without falling into beta trying to control her territory. She'll probably try to defend herself by phone to you. Ignore the texts for good few hours and respond with "Ok" or "k" or whatever curt I-don't-care-what-you're-saying-here response seems to fit for you. This could work... but honestly I don't think it's worth the effort. It's easier and less emotionally taxing to just bed a new chick.

[–]anonimo4236 points37 points  (0 children) | Copy

Don't like it? Dump her bro

[–]marleyyyoolol15 points16 points  (0 children) | Copy

Its just hair at the end of the day if its a ltr i dont think you should continue if something like this bothers you

[–]life0365 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy

lol relax, it's not automatically some feminist statement. It's just as easily she's an anime / weeb / fashion nerd and she thinks it's hot as fuck, and she thought you would too.

[–]betatest20200 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Tell her you hate it. She can wash it out over a few weeks or get something to wash it out now.

[–]rentaljeep31 points32 points  (1 child) | Copy

Honestly she can do whatever the fuck she wants. If it bothers you that much then talk to her about it

[–]theUnBannableHulk29 points30 points  (11 children) | Copy

She doesn’t respect you

If you haven’t told her you dislike it tell her now and don’t apologize or explain yourself

Be cold

If she isn’t affected by your displeasure she doesn’t respect you

Your inner game is weak and you’re not masculine enough

Demote her to plate and work on yourself

ENFORCE YOUR STANDARDS

[–]Casanova-Quinn7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

This is it OP. Tell her you don’t like it and she should have asked you first. If she’s not apologetic and doesn’t fix it reasonable quick than it’s time to demote her.

[–]PachoHerrera0-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

The only response you need to see

[–]Whitefarmer5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

She should know if she did such a thing you would mock her relentlessly

Don’t get mad

[–]Gawernator6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

Have you guys discussed hair colors before? If not, she might have thought you would like it or something. How old are you both as well? Unnatural hair girls are usually messed up in the head / daddy issues etc but if she dyes it back then ok. If she’s doing it because she thought all the tiktok girls are in fashion and you’re only 16 then it makes more sense.

[–]Whitefarmer8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

Don’t you mock women in public with your LTR when they have coloured hair?

[–][deleted]  (2 children) | Copy

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[–]marcus8crassus11 points12 points  (0 children) | Copy

It’s easy for spotting trouble ahead mate.

[–]Gawernator0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Look at tiktok videos and you’ll see why

[–]11-Eleven-111 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I'm definetely in the minority here but if it looks good I'd be cool with it. I kind of like it when girls dye their hair red or pink granted she's not a total feminist cunt.

I also knew of girl who dyed her hair orange. Fuck that. It looked like shit.

[–]RobbyHagan1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

It's her hair, let her do whatever with it, but just don't lie to her about it and pretend to like it because it'll encourage her to keep it.

Don't be a dick either, like, "Eww, that's ugly as fuck."

But remind her that you prefer her natural hair color (or whatever color you prefer).

If she says she's keeping it and too bad, then you have some options. How bad do you hate it? Enough to leave? Then leave. Otherwise, you could try to get "caught" checking out girls that have the hair color you prefer. Like, if you like blondes, when you're out with your girl, check out the blondes that walk by. If she says anything like, "Were you checking out that girl?" Just say, "Yes, I was staring at her hair. Since you don't want to be blonde anymore I have to get my fill from these mall rats." Or something like that.

Overall, this seems like a silly thing to be this upset over, but it is what it is so here's some options

[–]zboo1h1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

You misspelled "ex ltr".

[–]nexther1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Honesty is the most important part of an LTR. Tell her flat out “I don’t like your hair like that.” Watch what she does. If she dyes it back to her original colour, then let’s it fully return, then you’re okay. But if she ignores your preferences then hard next her.

[–]dasani71 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

For everyone saying dump I have a question, let's say she dyed her hair purple but he thought she looked sexy....she still sis it without discussing. She he dump her? What if she dyed it black and he didn't like it? Black isn't extreme but it's still a major change. If he liked the pink color should he dump still because she didn't discuss or is it ok because he likes it but still didn't discuss?

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Permission? lol Anyway, If it was reversed and she said to you that she didn't like your new hair, how might you feel? I get it, it's a shock, and I might well feel the same. But, "your hair is your own affair" comes to mind. I'd think that you're the best one for judging your own emotions so, do you think that you are over reacting? Peace.

[–]zino1931 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

> he didn’t even ask or talk to me about it, just did it randomly.

She does not have to talk to you about changing her hair color, wtf?

> Why would she do that?

Maybe she felt the need for a change.

> And where do I go from here?

Tell her you hate it.

[–]3chazthundergut4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

Lol is this for real? Your GF dyed her hair and it makes you angry?

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Pink

[–]1rad_dynamic3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Don't worry man.

I'm living with a previously super reserved flatmate, and ever since the quarantine she's been putting on crazy eye shadow colours.

I think these girls are just bored.

The way you win here is by not giving it any attention.

Act as if her hair is as it always was.

Culture is changing cuz of the quarantine, people's real shells are coming off. Don't get angry, or controlling, stay stoic brother.

[–]__TheDon__2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

She doesn’t respect/value you enough to think your opinion means something, hence why she did it without batting an eye.

Demote to plate, or dump her.

[–]omega054 points5 points  (18 children) | Copy

Does she need your permission to dye her own hair? be serious man

[–]Popeman7917 points18 points  (1 child) | Copy

She doesn't need his 'permission' but a massive physical change is something that should definitely be discussed with your partner.

If she doesn't care whether he finds her attractive, then she doesn't care much about her man...

[–]TRP VanguardWhisper11 points12 points  (0 children) | Copy

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[–]TRP Vanguardnicethingyoucanthave10 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy

This is the sort of thing that's really offensive to blue pillers, but that's understandable. Denying reality is the core of the blue pill.

It often makes things easier to understand and less offensive to consider a gender-flipped example. Remember though, when you flip the gender of an example, you also have to flip the gender role. In this case, the story is about a girl's hair because men highly value a woman's appearance. The gender-flipped version wont be about hair because women don't value appearance as highly. For women, what they value is status.

So here's a gender-flipped version: "I met a guy who runs a company and is active in politics - for the first year we were together, we were constantly going to events and rubbing shoulders with important people. Today, he told me he's withdrawing from public life and has sold his company. He wants to study Buddhism for a while, so he'll be staying home 7 days a week."

Question: does he need her permission to change up his social/professional/religious life? Be serious man.

The truth is, this is a change that's going to affect how attractive he is to that girl. He's free to do it anyway, of course. He doesn't "need her permission" - but one consequence of him doing it is, he might lose her.

[–][deleted] 9 points10 points  (12 children) | Copy

A stupid colour I’d expect to at least be told, if I was getting a face tat or dying my hair pink I would tell her

[–]selfawareblue11 points12 points  (4 children) | Copy

The very fact that you have to tell her you’re doing something before you do it, and she doesn’t feel the need to, shows me a lack of respect on her end.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy

Yeah you’re right, what would you advise moving forward

[–]selfawareblue4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

Standard RP advice would say demote her from LTR. I’m just looking at the facts of your LTR - she doesn’t have enough respect, and it looks like you’re in her frame.

Keeping that in mind, you have two options —

  1. Leave her and work on your intrinsic value so that the next girl you get with enters and stays in your frame;
  2. Work on your inner and outer game while staying in this LTR, go through the levels of dread and give her a shot at entering your frame before you hard next.

You’ll make progress 10x faster if you leave the LTR. The choice is yours.

[–]johncillo1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

I think this is a symptom of something underlying about respect from her to you. This is no disrespect because everyone can do whatever with their bodies, but she doesn’t respect you in any ways and subconcsiously is trying to sabotage your relationship by changing her color without asking you nor letting you know. Look for the cause. Have you lost frame? Have you been too comfortable? Her pink hair is telling you she wants the fuck out.

[–]caoboi0250 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

This guy knows the shit man. Listen to this guy. Dump her before she dumps you.

[–]omega052 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

So you're the man with the problem. What are you going to do about it?

Also a face tat is permanent (mostly). Not comparable

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy

A face tat and dyed hair aren't the same, Jesus fucking christ. Incels are actually this sub now

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

You’re trying to meet trans girls online and I’m the uncle, at least I pull real women you faggot, stop trying to troll me you in denial gimp hahahaha

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

the fuck are you on about, nice fuckin argument. Others have made the same point that they are not comparable, I am sorry you're too fucking stupid to recognise your own stupidity.

[–]LethalShade1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

It's not about permission, it's about respect maybe? My ex asked me my thoughts every time she thought about getting her roots redone, let alone fucking dying it pink.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

There is so little info here, besides for your anger over the mundane. I hope this bitch dumps your ass after you waste your chance at role play with your new pink haired girlfriend. Dumb fuck Jesus christ. Hair grows back bitch, emphasis on the bitch part because she didn't even think to consider your opinion XD I can tell your such a little fuck XD

[–]yettymonkey5 points6 points  (2 children) | Copy

Get the fuck over yourself. Your frame is obviously weak if pink hair causes you to break lol. She is going for more attention which is also obvious and my bet its outside attention. Reflect and mediate on the last few months. Think back to past convos/outings and I bet you will see a trend and from there you will realize that YOUR TURN with her is OVER. Start distancing yourself/improve you situation so that your frame is made of IRON and not wood. Time to upgrade your life which in turn will result in an upgraded plate/LTR/etc...

[–]TRP Vanguardnicethingyoucanthave18 points19 points  (1 child) | Copy

Your frame is obviously weak

disagree.

The truth is, men like women because of their appearance. It's okay to admit that. It's okay to tell your girlfriend that. "but anon, do you like me for who I am as a person??" Sure. For the purpose of being friends, who you are as a person is very important to me. But if you want to be in a sexual relationship with me, then you have to be sexually attractive to me. And if you change something about yourself you might want to see what I think about it first.

There is nothing even a little bit wrong with dropping a girl because she changes her appearance, gets a tattoo, gets fat ... whatever.

The alternative: if you really don't like something and you just pretend it doesn't bother you, that's not holding frame, that's denying the reality of human sexuality - that's blue pill.

[–]southflsup0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

That last line was perfect.

[–]silly_old_sideben2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Ask her why lol. Who’s she exited to show it off to? Where’s she excited to wear it? Does she act more confident around you with it?

Could be just some image issues in her own head.

You are right to feel some type of way because she didn’t even ask what YOU would think about it. If she has mentioned it in the past and you were like “yeah I wouldn’t mind” is a bit different.

The only way to sort these things out is nuance. Pay close attention to her and how she’s responding and reacting. If she’s an LTR you should have a good gauge of her patterns to gauge how “off” this really is for her.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Damn if I was you I’d dump her on the spot. Don’t let anyone disrespect you like that

[–]strainer1231 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Why do you care so much, if you feel angry hatefuck her, its great to grudgefuck, deepdick that pink haired dummy.

[–]JustArtist80 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Massive red flag

[–]GloomySpeech0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

L E A V E

She doesn't respects you. She doesn't care about you. She is trying to get attention, so she is looking for a replacement.

[–]okay6160 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

At least she picked a feminine color 😬

[–]006rbc0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Eject

[–]Ivabighairy10 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

To me, it’s Peacocking. My experience with the changing hair colors is that she is looking for attention. Your branch is the launching point.

[–]dadfrombrad0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Tell her to die it back or you’ll dump her

[–]cyyr0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Why r women all dumb

[–]griz3lda0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

There are 3 cases.

  1. She was not aware you would prefer to have been consulted and thinks you don't care. (second most likely imo)
  2. She is misguidedly trying to impress you with novelty / hoping you will like it. (most likely imo)
  3. She is aware you would prefer to have been consulted but doesn't care. (least likely imo unless she has a history of intentionally provocative behavior / has BPD; most women would not purposely make themselves look ugly to others, esp their partner, bc they don't have the freestanding self-esteem to do so)

Take care to determine which case you are in before acting.

[–]WayThrownAway30 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Tell her you hate it, proceed to make her choke on your dick for at least an hour, hatefuck her, nut quick, and bust all over that nasty azz hair. Proceed to withdraw attention, create dread until she's wondering wtf is going on, changes the color or you demote her slowly to plate by continuing to withdraw attention. She's sure to dye it back, or not... Then she makes shit easier for you. Go bang other chicks.

[–]RStonePT0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Either you hate it enough to do something about it or you need to learn to get over it.

All you have is attention, affection, and commitment. Pull them commensurate with your boundaries man.

[–]DF-RP0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Girls know hairstyles matter a lot to how attractive they are. They spend hours and hours thinking about changing them. If they are into a guy, particularly if it's a sexual relationship, they tend to consult the guy if he likes idea X or Y.

Your girl didn't care about your opinion, or assumed you'd like her decision. Either way, there's either a big disconnect or more than likely, she doesn't really care to please you with appearances. That's getting into breakup territory.

If you want to recover this, you should make your stand now and be firm about it. Either she changes behavior or you are more than likely done. That, or you get to bend over backwards in everything from now on.

[–]taroorat0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Stay away

[–]Hungboy69694200 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Weirdly colored hair is often like short hair on a woman. Maybe 1 out of 100 pull it off, the rest look stupid imo

[–]bearbludaddy-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

Context of your clear set frame and boundaries are what's important. Every guy is different in his frame.

Is this something she knew you'd not like? Something she knew she should have gotten permission?

If so, then it's an atomic shittest and you push the fuck back or next.

If not, let it go.

[–]momomotorboat-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

We need more info here. Ages, length of LTR, does she know your preferences.

I assume she hasn't dyed her hair in the time that you've known her?

[–]northwest_iron-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

In some psychology personality typings there's categories such as "need for uniqueness" or "need to be special."

My experience with off color hair girls and those sporting more than one tattoo is they will tend to score very high in these areas, while often exhibiting lower impulse control.

As another user stated, it's the intent that will be the most insightful. Is it a trend, is it idolizing.

Also, consider the role of impulse control and "need for uniqueness" as it relates to your own, is this an area of life where you are compatible or where there will be frequent friction.

[–]DrJamming-1 points0 points  (1 child) | Copy

Let's be honest:

a) she fat.

OR

b) she's got short hair.

OR

c) she's fat and has short hair.

If a girl is hot, then doesn't matter what her hair color is, you'd still tap that. So in short - she's not hot, you're just coping with "what live gave you" and any deviation from her "accepted looks" causes you to go bonkers, because she's already a major compromise for you, and not the wild girl of your dreams.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

She’s not any of those

[–]Jacked5parrow-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

Just tell her that you don’t like it and she’s an extension of you.

If she doesn’t comply, begin to soft next

[–]LeEbinConchShell-2 points-1 points  (0 children) | Copy

she's about to smash some lil peep goth chad, demote to plate or ghost lololol

[–]Phontomz-2 points-1 points  (0 children) | Copy

Cucked

[–]Bone_Coat-2 points-1 points  (0 children) | Copy

as far as I know, if it's not a color that is masculine (purple,blue or green) you are safe



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