I learned fuck all, what'd you think? I'd learn shit by doing nothing? Pretty much recessed back into bluepill, got married, divorced, had 5 kids, think one's mine, started doing cuck porn to pay the bills...
Alright jokes aside let me reintroduce myself real quick for the new guys since I haven't written in a year. And damn, the sub is up to 211K. Was 120k when i started.
Started reading redpill almost 4 years ago now. engaged, dropped her, she sucked, read redpill every day for 2 years, went from 175 skinny fat to 195 ripped, doubled my count in around a year, endorsed in 11 months, currently have a 2 year plate and another going on 8 months, they're fantastic, cook, clean, porn star sex, educated and old school redpill girls and a healthy dose of self awareness. Setting up a threesome with them in a month or two, etc, etc.
This past year I saved up money to quit my job that paid great but was absolutely misery and soul crushing. Currently struggling to stay afloat but wouldn't trade the freedom for an ounce of what my old life was like. Currently studying compound investing my money, day/swing trading, options, forex, etc. as well as building my own business. Pretty much been monk mode all year focusing on me, barely read TRP at all, so here's what I've learned.
One Year Without TRP
Without a doubt I'm more pleasant to be around and engage girls easier. Reading TRP every day and having a constantly stream of sluts and whore stories definitely influenced me subconsciously and this is coming from a guy who never entered the anger phase or really cares about women's mischievous bullshit cause I've seen it my entire life even as a kid. With that said I'm not recommend you cut back your TRP reading. Infact I'd suggest you accelerate it. TRP is a resource not a creed or way of life. Take it as your own personal Man College but you don't want to be the dude on year 9 and 4 bachelors and fucking clueless where you're going in the world. No you want to treat TRP like your trying to make PhD in 6 years tops. Learn as much as possible as fast as possible and don't fuck around. TRP is a diminishing returns asset, you will max out on learning and shit just gets repetitive then. Don't be the dude reading TRP every day for 10 years straight because you identify with it or somehow tied your self image or ego to it. TRP should have definitely made it clear to you by now that maybe 1 or 2 people in life will ever really care about you. Us random dude on this forum could give two fucks about you, we've all got our own lives and problems to worry about. When you reach the point that you aren't getting anything out of something, stop wasting your time with it and find a new thing to learn from. Case and point, I also don't read TRP much anymore because it's the same posts over and over. However my constant self improvement has anything but slowed down. Infact it's accelerated, the majority of my time is spent learning the stock market, accounting and in general educating myself financially. That's my new TRP.
I'll close with saying that your attitude and demeanour is definitely indicative of the people you associate with, whether real life or virtual. When I was a blue pill women were wonderful and I enjoyed getting shit faced with all my friends blowing all my money. When I found TRP all women were sluts and whores(a lot are fyi) and I still enjoyed going to the bars but now I was banging girls when i did. Now that I'm studying finance I realized 90% of the population is abso-fucking-lutely terrible with money and they will die as broke as they were when they were 20, 30, 40 years old. I also don't like going out and blowing 10% of my net in a weekend over booze and pussy anymore, I'd rather reinvest it for 10% return a month and in a year my money doubles.
You know that 67% of American's don't even have 1k in the bank? That's how uneducated the majority of people are. Also, If you're in this bracket you need to educate yourself, you'd probably be rich as fuck in 5 years if you cared about finance as much as you do getting pussy
Assess your level or return from TRP because TRP does come at the cost of negativity. People are attracted to positivity and you making them feel good. If you've got a constant voice in your head of negativity it will affect your engagement with others. This might be pretty damn important for you depending on your life goals. Like if you work in corporate america where social interactions have a massive impact on your life and could totally destroy your life if you fuck one up. I have a friend who just recently found out his girl of 8 years was cheating on him, he's rightly pissed and in the anger mode hardcore. But, I can watch his interactions and his subconscious outlook is definitely influencing his confidence and ability to engage with others. TRP in itself is a minute dose of anger phase in my opinion if you consume it longer than needed. If you aren't getting much out of something, stop wasting your time with it and find something new to learn because it comes at the cost of your time and in TRP's case your subconscious demeanor. If not stay focused and don't be fucking around cause the only thing you're wasting is still your time. you get one life, do as much with it as you can.
Next thing I noticed obviously with not having a constant voice of sluts and whores is that I slacked up on standards a bit. Luckily I've always been kinda stonewall when it comes to principles and holding a person to their character. I don't wavier much on my standards of who I date or if a friend crosses me. It wasn't large things though, just noticing really small things. I'd randoming catch myself explaining myself on shit that I didn't need to or wouldn't have just a year ago. Nothing real serious but it was a habit from my past I developed from my mother and walking on eggshells for a few years of my teen years. I broke those habits with TRP and don't plan on letting it come back. I made it a note to reassess and check myself every so often. Just 10-30 mins of thinking about my relationship with the two chicks I'm seeing. going through a check list and comparing the health and quality of each encounter, etc. Comparing sex, how much or little we talk, are they slacking in the gym, moods different? Where's my confidence, what should I be learning right now to maximize my return? How much fucking off am I doing or need to to stay sane? General TRP shit, red flag checking, assessing where I might be slacking or can improve not just a relationship but myself as well. Once you get on the road of constant self improvement it almost becomes an addiction in itself. I don't read TRP anymore but I'm still just as obsessed with improvement anywhere I can.
Since slippage was the second biggest thing I noticed, I want to tie it back towards the attitude thing. I'm very... stoic and extremely critical when it comes to judgement of character. You might not be however and if your reading this your first week into TRP, you want to make sure you've got your shit lined out, demeanor on point, confidence, standards and boundaries in line. I have blue pill friends that have the spine of a mouse when it comes to chicks. If you don't have a strong backbone you're not ready to stop reading TRP because slippage will be the next big thing you notice. backbone and being resolute definitely prevent slippage. And a healthy dose of self awareness.
This is an interesting one. I'd definitely equate reading TRP every day to hanging around with a bunch of muscle bound meatheads hyped on synthetic testosterone. My confidence was higher with TRP but it was inflated confidence, not resolute or true confidence. It's like going out with the boys, you're on top of the world and take on anything only to wake up the next day with a hangover next to some chick you shouldn't have taken home. For that reason when i stopped reading TRP my focus on improving myself actually increased. The drop of confidence needed to be offset so I started studying more. Focusing on building internal vs external confidence. Starting my own business and leaving the comfort of a steady 40 hour work week wrecked me mentally depending on the week. Not having a steady stream of security definitely fucks with you no matter how confident you are. No surprise that my relationships would swing with the swings of confidence. Luckily TRP primed me on how to handle adversity. I don't talk about my problems nor let them know what's really going on in my head. I'm a firm believer in captain and first mate. Any movement in the relationship was purely them picking up stuff subconsciously that I was projecting, which I'd see their reactions too, note and correct as needed. Relationships are 100% your responsibility and you being a Rock or a cuck, the relationship doesn't care and will act accordingly. Makes perfect sense from an evolutionary perspective too. A female isn't going to stay with a starving, defeated or unresourceful mate. Not conducive to her or her offspring's health.
Three Types of Confidence
I think confidence can be broken down into three parts. One part External Confidence, people giving you validation, praise, scorn, rewards, successes, failures, etc. One part Internal Confidence, yourself achievements, goals, desires, education, ability to tackle obstacles, etc. and lastly one part Group Confidence or inflated confidence. this goes back to attitude. If you are hanging around blue pills, you're gonna be blue pill. You have to have something to offset a behavior or level of confidence. If you have shit for confidence we tell you to fake it. If you have bluepill friend we tell you to stop having them. I personally make a mental note of distant towards actions or behaviors I never want to have. but I'm also not influenced by external confidence much, I don't really nor have ever cared what other people think. I can hang with my bluepill friend and it doesn't effect me, in fact the opposite, they start acting more redpill. You might be a guy who's the complete opposite though so stay self aware of what influences you and manage to control it. I'd recommend and pretty much all of TRP does as well though, focus on building internal confidence. You can use external or group confidence to bang sluts but long term it will fuck with your self perception and inner confidence.
Hopefully my endeavors of suffering now will pay off in returns later. Right now educating myself financially has probably been the biggest thing to improve confidence even more so than what TRP did. I just got done reading a message from a newbie about him being worried of having sex the first time. Being a virgin till I was 21 I can relate. In retrospect, pussy is one of the most shallow and unfulfilling resources of confidences. It's purely external & group related. Focus on yourself & inner confidence as much as you do trying to bang sluts and life will be hella easier. Banging chicks becomes easy mode as well.
hope you guys have had a good year, probably won't post again till I get financially afloat and then I'll probably do a write up on how I did it. So far I haven't had a 9 to 5 in 6 months and it's been the best 6 months of my life.