Are women who approach men low value?

LowCreddit · 2020-07-06T20:24:47+00:00

I have a friend who was the master of aggressively making herself available. She would pick a man and seamlessly insert herself in his life. She was amazing at getting men to invite her to things while making them still think they were the one initiating. It was a marvelous dance to watch. She was a master at girl game. She is definitely not low value by anyone's measure, looks or otherwise.

TheBookOfSeil · 2020-07-06T21:09:42+00:00

When men talk about how much they love to be approached I always ask them "what happened to the girl?" They never have any idea. They remember how flattering it was to be approached, not how they turned the woman down.

TheBookOfSeil · 2020-07-06T21:00:52+00:00

Are women who approach men low value?

They can be.

Does approaching a man make a woman low value? Absolutely not.

Edit: As said elsewhere, I find it weird that women would think that women who approach men are low value while also thinking that men who approach women are high value. I think other women don't really like it because it provides active competition. Women are so used to not approaching that it's become a norm for them not to approach. It's almost like women are attracted to being the center of one's attention and all things surrounding that, like being approached.

Prismatic_Symphony · 2020-07-06T20:18:51+00:00

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gayAdamLanza · 2020-07-06T21:32:17+00:00

No. If you want something, taking the initiative to go and get it is one of the most high value things you can do. If, just because it doesn't want you, your pride is hurt, assess how valuable you actually are. There are women who approach once, get rejected and take it to be a low value thing to do. Like, bitch, your reaction is what's low value. A man telling you no wounded you that much? Do you know how damaged and closeted all men would be if we didn't suck up rejection and go again?

thetruthishere_ · 2020-07-06T23:34:13+00:00

Any man I ever approached it went nowhere. It felt like it did not because they didn't do the chasing.

Only went anywhere with men that came after me.

woxmintari · 2020-07-07T00:33:55+00:00

Women approaching men will become more and more common in the me too era because men are way less likely to approach women now in public, bars, in the workplace etc.

dylang92 · 2020-07-06T23:05:22+00:00

No. I’ve seen legit Stacies approach Chads, you gonna tell me those women were low value?

geyejoe7 · 2020-07-07T06:05:31+00:00

Absolutely not.

2 girls approached me. Ever. And it was only after I got engaged. If I hadn't been, I'd say yes. It's incredibly rare, but it's amaizing that some do that.

Business-Welder · 2020-07-07T12:12:23+00:00

Either way, men who are approached (by women) are really high value.

wtknight · 2020-07-06T20:42:41+00:00

They're usually lower value than the man who they are approaching. That doesn't mean that they're low value women, though. Somewhat attractive and pleasant women often approach very attractive men.

gayAdamLanza · 2020-07-07T01:21:08+00:00

I wouldn't date a man unless I could be the one who approached because being approached turns me off.

ProperUgly · 2020-07-07T06:11:55+00:00

This is really stupid.

Being of “low value” is also relative to the other individuals current perception of value at the time.

spacechicken1990 · 2020-07-07T08:07:16+00:00

I would say no, I am a woman so maybe I'm biased.

Approaching takes confidence usually a good trait, but them again men prefer submissive women so maybe to certain men it would imply undesirable traits.

I personally have approached both the men I've had relationships with and it worked out both times, I think it's normal to show interest in someone you find attractive.

I'm very bubbly and somewhat confident and could never be with someone who didnt like these traits so by being assertive I weedle out the guys who I wouldn't be compatible with anyways

Both guys were pleased I made the first move as they knew where they stood immediately, no need for headfucks.

Kentucky_Supreme · 2020-07-07T14:05:06+00:00

I would say they're way more logical if they approach since they're generally way more selective than guys. Just think of all of the headache, awkward situations, and harassment cases it would save if women were generally expected to approach the men that they were comfortable talking to.

And I don't know if you're referring to simply initiating a conversation? I wouldn't call that "sexually aggressive" at all. Or maybe starting a conversation with a stranger is a huge deal for women?

I was walking at the park yesterday and these two girls asked me to take their picture. I would never think "Omg, she's so forward. What a slut." Just for talking to me, lol. That sounds ridiculous.

madddtbbkj · 2020-07-07T16:49:12+00:00

Absolutely not.... it takes confidence to approach someone and what’s the point sitting around hoping he will come up and talk to you, if he is interested the great of not oh well. I am a woman and I was the one who approached my now partner and started the conversation after us both checking each other out all through the night. I was only 19 at the time and never had I approached a guy at the pub before but here we are now 18 years later and 4 kids and going strong

the_purring_jew · 2020-07-06T20:15:56+00:00

Dora_Bowl · 2020-07-06T20:45:56+00:00

I would not say it makes a woman low value, but it is probably a sign because men are typically expected to initiate, and it kind of shows no men worth her time are doing it.

SaBahRub · 2020-07-06T21:30:47+00:00

Whether or not they are low value, nobody respects free shit.

12112019 · 2020-07-06T21:08:55+00:00

Yes usually, or at least lower value than the man she approaches

NockerJoe · 2020-07-06T22:04:43+00:00

I've been approached by women who swear they don't and shouldn't have to do the legwork. I've also been approached by some of good women. I never thought of them as low value for it.

Women who say this shit are usually a bunch of lazy pillow princesses who are afraid that the guy they like won't aniff their farts on command.

skullirang · 2020-07-07T03:22:13+00:00

Some of the hottest girls I've banged approached me first and initiated sex first. Psychologically speaking yes they are lower value in relation to you, the girl will have to feel like you are higher value than them for them to see the value in approaching you.

But in terms of other women, they are usually higher value than other women. Most attractive girls are tired of being chased and some of them like to take matters into their own hands by approaching higher value males instead of continuously being approached by lame guys.

Suck-Less · 2020-07-06T21:31:50+00:00

Women that approach men are women that take on self agency. If anything is says they have courage and are willing to handle rejection. It’s women that don’t approach men that are low value and chicken shit. (Same goes for men).

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HOLYREGIME · 2020-07-06T22:00:10+00:00

Your boss may want to put you against your co-workers for the benefit of the company, but taking that competitive tone with your SO will not benefit your relationship.

That made absolutely no sense whatsoever.

The mentality guys have when it comes to achieving life goals, career goals and relationships goals is the same throughout. Be decisive, patience when needed but go after what you want.

Doing this would make a man high value.

Doing this would make a woman “low value” according to you, especially when it comes to relationships.

gayAdamLanza · 2020-07-07T01:56:56+00:00

Why was I the only person who upvoted this? Looking at the comments tons of people agree with it and I don't even agree with it but I was the only person who upvoted it? What?

LeJacquelope · 2020-07-07T05:47:23+00:00

Fuck no.

Mr-Throb-of-life · 2020-07-07T11:09:52+00:00

I don't know why actually there is talk about approaching. We are all socially connected via internet, Facebook,dating apps, etc... but still no coming together between man and woman.

Sth is off with the female gender.

The distribution of sex, intimacy has become even more unfair.

So who cares about approaching. No one really should have to approach anybody anymore.

I deleted all dating apps, no chance, and I am not even unattractive. Still women have better options there.

So I resort to pay for prostitute. Imo women have decided about the whole thing already.

JesterMcGavin · 2020-07-07T11:53:07+00:00

If a woman approached me, I'd be absolutely inclined to oblige and get to know her better, that would show that she doesn't care about "men gotta ask the women out" bullshit and legitimately is interested.

Too bad I have a better chance of winning the next Powerball or w/e it's called now.

2020-07-07T23:55:04+00:00

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SeemedGood · 2020-07-06T20:16:20+00:00

Good indicator of the type of woman who is actually sexually attracted to you, and as such, a significant positive.

ArminoKink · 2020-07-06T20:28:20+00:00

Not at all, they just seem to intimidate insecure men who then call them “low value”...strong, confident women are the future of all mankind!

rubbooyuri · 2020-07-06T22:32:18+00:00

A women who approaches will be successful at getting sex, but will probably hurt her chances of getting a relationship. I don’t know if that’s considered low value or not

Mrs_Drgree · 2020-07-06T20:28:03+00:00

They are more likely to be low inhibition, socially defunct, masculine, and high n. So yes.

goneaway2thewind · 2020-07-06T20:50:07+00:00

I get approached by the women who know of me because they know I have many options. But women approaching is the most pathetic thing ever to me because it's not of genuine interest its "Hey, I'm giving you the chance to chase me." Not "Hey, I would like to get to know you better"

Women are low value across the board if your main priority isn't sex because that's about the only thing they contribute, everything else is of service to them.

TheGirlGetter9000 · 2020-07-06T23:10:57+00:00

Some cases yes, some no.

I’ve been approached by a couple dozen women throughout my life probably. Some, including my LTR, have been high value. Some, mostly the girls I reject upon approach, have been low value.

Depends who we’re talking about getting approached here. The higher value the man, the higher value woman who approach him.

2020-07-06T23:47:07+00:00

When I was younger I tried approaching and taking initiative and it always turned out badly. The type of men who like being asked out by women are timid and passive guys who never take initiative in life. Dead end.

Grave_Heresy · 2020-07-07T00:51:28+00:00

Low value? Maybe

Low risk? No

Sid_Insidious · 2020-07-07T04:54:22+00:00

> What kind of woman are we dealing with here in this instance?

Angels. We are dealing with angels.

It's a mixed bag though. One time I was cowboy drinking (staring into the mirror behind the bar and getting shit faced drunk in a suicidally depressed manner) and the bartender, she took me home. She was a bigger girl, but there was something sweet about her. (Probably the fact she was buying me drinks as if she needed alcohol to accomplish that.) Trouble was, Mr. Happy was as drunk as hell and the little guy just passed out and went to sleep. Whiskey and Sambuca shots and draught beer... not good for running the old flag up the flag pole. The sex was bad and I'd love to make it up to her one day. But, for a guy getting picked up, this was not a bad experience. It was kind of nice for a change, really. I'll never forget the bar-maid that picked me up. Oh wait, there was another one. God, older women preyed on me when I was a kid. Definitely some cougars tending bar back in the hood. God bless them all.

The other angel was this big woman with a deep voice, the size of college football linebacker. (Her, not the voice.) I tried to drink enough to sleep with her one night. I got alcohol poisoning and almost died. My last conscious words were... "Still....can't.... do it...."

So yeah, it happens but it's really over-rated. I prefer the drivers seat. thank ya very much.

PickleLine · 2020-07-07T05:22:46+00:00

Not low value in the traditional sense but it triggers n-count/impaired pair-bonding red flags.

If a woman doesn't have inhibitions on approaching men, then she can date (at least short term) and sleep with men way above her SMV (i.e. men much better than me).

Title	Are women who approach men low value?
Author	PhazeJGW
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Date	July 6, 2020 8:14 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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