Why is waiting 3ish months to have sex seen as such a deranged/controversial thing?

betsybasset · 2021-05-08T03:31:10+00:00

Thing is, with OLD and digital connectivity proliferation, people get used to now now now.

What seems to be a decent wait to assess now becomes 'wasting time'.

DontAskTwice-A-Roni · 2021-05-08T03:48:09+00:00

People got used to instant gratification with the rise of social media and hookup culture. Men also feel entitled to the female body but are no longer shamed for saying they want nothing but casual sex.

companyofwolves · 2021-05-08T04:15:15+00:00

I mean... consider who is seeing it as deranged or controversial....

It's the pornsick entitled manbabies and the libfem-addled pickmes. Literally no one of actual quality would think it would be deranged to ""make" someone wait.

lunarfulminate · 2021-05-08T06:41:28+00:00

hahaha good luck finding a man who's gonna wait that long to have sex

Women aren't the ones who go on murder sprees because they get butthurt that they can't get laid. We do just fine with a vibrator and an electric blanket. It's the scrotes who act like rabid dogs because they've trained themselves to worship at the altar of porn and tricked themselves into really believing that there's something wrong with society at large if they can't get a woman as easily as they can jerk off to a video of a drugged human trafficking victim being raped.

PBJellyNutella · 2021-05-08T05:12:19+00:00

If people can wait till marriage to have sex, they can definitely wait 3 months! Ignore all the pornsick crazy men, a real man would wait!

Resident-Equipment95 · 2021-05-08T06:26:27+00:00

If a man won’t respect my boundaries he has no place in my life

Correct. Low self-worth will try to convince you of the opposite: that if a man won’t respect your boundaries, then your boundaries have no place in your life. Scrotes feed off this narrative. Keep shutting it down.

Platipus6 · 2021-05-08T03:45:59+00:00

Pornified instant gratification culture. Men can open their phone or laptop and have an orgasm within 5 minutes of being horny. They open an OLD app and expect the same.

Male sexual entitlement. "Making" a man wait is seen as a punishment, attack and flex of power that women are doing deliberately and maliciously.

Libfem bullshit that women are achieving equality if we act like men and have meaningless sex with strangers.

Self-objectification under the guise of empowerment. OnlyFans is full of women objectifying themselves and announcing that they're sexually available for a fee and a few clicks. Women in porn are sexually available for free. Women on OLD apps should thus be sexually available and free and not like those nasty ones on OF or porn.

If a man is fixated on having sex and believes I'm "making him wait" when I'm actually vetting him, getting to know him, building trust, and observing whether he even likes me or just wants some rape and murder, he can fuck off then.

souredskittles · 2021-05-08T06:11:00+00:00

Pickmes are just afraid of losing the guy. That’s really it.

The guys just hate anything that stops them from getting sex quick, that’s it.

janeaustenfan99 · 2021-05-08T05:52:30+00:00

Because there are lots of women out there are ready on the first “date.” It’s just odd to me that men complain about what an individual woman does with her body rather than choosing to just deal with the first night types only.

asoww · 2021-05-08T05:02:34+00:00

I guess it depends on where you are because I know tons of poeple who find it totally normal.

Davina33 · 2021-05-08T08:43:09+00:00

Don't listen to what other people say. They don't have your best interests at heart unlike us women on this sub.

Frogspocket · 2021-05-08T10:45:44+00:00

There are a lot of LV people with LV priorities. They think of and treat others as disposable, and they allow themselves to be disposable as well. I swear a lot of people just go through life in auto pilot and are barely awake. They treat themselves and each other like that and then wonder why they're miserable.

I've known men who agree that waiting 3 months is a good rule for both men and women.

Galileo_Spark · 2021-05-08T12:44:34+00:00

“Hahaha good luck finding a man who’s gonna wait that long to have sex.” = Men trying to fear monger you into having sex before you are ready. At least men who say this are advertising their selfish and harassing nature so you can better stay away from it.

WittyImprovement · 2021-05-08T06:47:43+00:00

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uwuwowowuwu · 2021-05-08T14:52:45+00:00

This. If a man doesn't wait "as long as it takes" for you to get comfortable with him, then he ain't it. This can be any amount of months, or even years. (Not that I would recommend wasting your time on a man you don't feel comfortable with for so long, but just for emphasis.) Only an entitled, rapist-culture-driven LVM would want to have sex with someone who isn't comfortable and enthusiastic about the idea. Drop him fast.

FDS-GFY · 2021-05-08T03:33:46+00:00

For the same reason him paying is. They feel Entitled to sex while doing absolutely the bare minimum.

hologothic · 2021-05-08T15:34:30+00:00

Because men are used to being allowed to use women for sex without the commitment, while claiming they 'might' commit to you if you're good/interesting/hot enough. They constantly compare us to test driving a car, as if we're also objects. It's all bullshit.

queenagave · 2021-05-08T15:45:03+00:00

I have never waited to have sex with someone and regret it so fucking much. My next relationship, I will be waiting at least 3 months, probably more.

relationship_reddit · 2021-05-08T20:06:51+00:00

They say the "good luck finding a guy who will wait" things, because they're hoping it will convince you to lower your standards. Like, no scrotes, the alternative is just being single.

tellmesomething11 · 2021-05-08T19:16:01+00:00

Because men rage at the power women have over them. I read a post once where a man said he expected sex on the first date or he never contacted her again. Many men said they expected the same, but who knows? I’ve never been asked that lol...I would laugh so hard! Men are ridiculous, a lot of them have nothing to offer. Nothing. I appreciate a gentleman , I really do, because many men out here are really grasping at straws. There’s pick mes out there that might give it up but men never want them🙄 They always grasp towards the high value women period.

katathe · 2021-05-08T07:47:21+00:00

Yep like 3months goes by really fast. And like... why don’t these men just have sex with their fwb’s in the mean time. Not saying that i would be fine with that, but these men who complain already be doing that.

veruscka · 2021-05-08T16:29:36+00:00

It’s not, at all. Sex is a big deal and women pretending it isn’t benefits men, not women.

_electrafire · 2021-05-08T18:50:38+00:00

Their level of vitriol exposes themselves

Crafty_Collar8183 · 2021-05-08T04:50:39+00:00

IMO sex = reproduction. Human babies are born out of love. Love is beautiful and rare.

No more no less.

Title	Why is waiting 3ish months to have sex seen as such a deranged/controversial thing?
Author	WittyImprovement
Upvotes	561
Comments	40
Date	May 8, 2021 3:24 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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