It really annoys me.

One of the reasons for our divorce my wife declares is that she wants (instead of me) someone who shares her interests.

Granted, I enjoy videogames that are of no interest to her, I like sci fi books which are boring for her, our musical preferences barely have any overlap. She likes clothes and shoes about which I cannot feel any strong emotion. On the other hand, we share values, we work in the same industry and can reasonably discuss our work without giving a context lecture for every special term, we have the same style of parenting and the same understanding of who does what at home.

But that's all irrelevant. She has every right to not like one person and like someone else. Everyone's entitled to their selection criteria, right? I am short, every lady has a right to prefer tall men, I don't mind.

But.

If she has a selection criterion on which I do not pass, couldn't she have applied it earlier?

We moved to another country together, we have a kid together, we took out a load and bought property together. We have 2 cats with a statistical lifespan of 18 years. We've lived together for 10 years.

Couldn't she fucking say it before? Would be so much cheaper for both of us. I am totally fine with the idea that someone doesn't like me. But why now, why not a year ago, 5 years ago, 10 years ago? A lot of time wasted, and now the divorce is going to be another what, year and a half? Two years? Plus our son will have to move to another school and another city and deal with living in two places.