Has reconciliation ever worked?

CommercialConcern828 · 2025-05-21T05:40:51+00:00

Never root through the trash.

Whatever was valuable wouldn’t be there and no sense in your neighbors seeing you do it.

BlackBruceSkee · 2025-05-19T07:46:33+00:00

As soon as she left I should have made it official...went thru an extra 2 years of bs, money, fights, charges, etc....dont do it bro

Paddle_Pedal_Puddle · 2025-05-19T00:12:07+00:00

Once, but should have walked away then. Once a cheater, always a cheater.

Cvdiva · 2025-05-18T21:40:05+00:00

Once and should have kept walking away. He held a grudge for a good 2-3 years. It impacted the kids but this time when I said I was done the kids supported me and also told me things I didn’t know cause they felt they were protecting me

CaliDude75 · 2025-05-18T17:45:49+00:00

I offered the olive branch, and left the door cracked open for a little while. But I think her pride kept her from pursuing it further, because she didn’t want to admit any fault. After radio silence on her part, I assumed she wasn’t interested in reconciling, and I moved on.

Ancient-Homework7557 · 2025-05-18T16:09:17+00:00

No. It’s delaying the inevitable. I stupidly went back and forth with a mentally unstable drunk for years. “For the kids” I was blind, wrong, and my thinking was completely backwards in trying to do what I thought was right for my children. If there’s abuse No respect No trust It’s done. Don’t waste any more of your life in that situation and do the hard work that will ultimately be the best for you and your kids.

Any-Dare-7261 · 2025-05-18T12:46:12+00:00

I don’t wheel my trash down to the curb and go digging through it for anything sentimental. I don’t cry about replacing something broken or worthless around the house.

You don’t ever go back to old girlfriends, jobs or towns

probebeta · 2025-05-18T08:45:43+00:00

I think the question I would ask is what is there to be gained by going back?

SteveSan82 · 2025-05-18T05:10:40+00:00

If the wife cheated then no it never works

If the other suddenly got wealthy, no it never works

If she initiated the original breakup then it will never work

henrysmyagent · 2025-05-18T01:01:48+00:00

My friend, I don't know if infidelity had anything to do with your wife's decision to divorce, but I really recommend you read about The 180 and implement its recommendations.

The 180 will get your mind back on track so you can go in any direction you choose go regardless of her intentions.

Basically it advises you to pursue YOUR happiness and live YOUR life without consideration for the soon to be ex-wife's plans.

http://www.survivinginfidelity.com/healing_library/confrontation/simplified-180.asp

Altruistic-Meal-9525 · 2025-05-17T23:51:35+00:00

Yes. It has.

But bud, if you're not the one who asked for divorce, and she's not trying to win you back, then you have to shelve that thought. It does you no good.

Live your life as if she's not coming back, build yourself the kind of life you will be happy to live in on your own. Then if she comes back, she'll see a happy, confident person that didn't need her. And if she doesn't, then you're totally fine.

Cross the reconciliation bridge when you come to it. For now, heal.

jimsmythee · 2025-05-17T23:26:42+00:00

As a side job, I used to provide wedding minister and wedding photographer services.

I did three ceremonies for people who got married and then divorced and then remarried. All three of them split up again.

plandoubt · 2025-05-17T20:22:24+00:00

Pretty terrible responses in here. I understand the anger would exist in a lot of these bitter dudes but do y’all seriously just hate women?

plandoubt · 2025-05-17T20:21:25+00:00

I am mid reconciliation but understand the odds are against us. You’re certainly not going to find any good stories in a divorce sub. We are both working a ton on ourselves and taking the things VERY slow. No infidelity or abuse of any sort, I imagine that would make it much more challenging.

krazykanuck · 2025-05-17T18:48:02+00:00

Of course it has, but you are asking in a divorce subreddit dude. By definition it hasnt worked for those here.

CrazySanta7 · 2025-05-17T16:52:39+00:00

It's usually a terrible idea. If she left you, there is no hope. Women who leave usually have a man waiting in the wings. If that does not work out, sometimes they come back to plan B, you. But who tf wants to be the backup option? Reconciliation has a slim to none chance of working, especially long term.

Ok-Cause1108 · 2025-05-17T13:57:51+00:00

All depends on who dumped who. If the woman dumped the guy it will never work. If the guy dumped his wife it can work for sure.

Helpful-Paramedic463 · 2025-05-17T13:54:17+00:00

I think it can work but I'd never go back without some legal stuff in place. Absolutely get a post nuptial agreement in place with infidelity clause.

Rugger2row · 2025-05-17T11:53:16+00:00

I think if both parties do some deep reflecting, work on themselves, then together to fix the broken parts of their marriage, and then come together gradually it can work.

Generally that is not the way it happens and things degrade into an absolute shitshow.

Title	Has reconciliation ever worked?
Author	Koldfacejillah
Upvotes	12
Comments	38
Date	May 17, 2025 10:35 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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