Decided to cross post in this sun too, how did you guys deal with the STBXW making the absolute lowest claims a person can?

Original post: 28m, two children, one boy one girl. Have been separated since September, not something I want but I eventually filed in May.

Things have just gotten progressively more and more toxic between us, and still are.

I somewhat expected claims of physical abuse just purely because that seems common from what I read and honestly I've let most of it roll off my shoulders. Just kinda go a long with it. Whatever.

Anyways, I was told by my attorney the other day that my wife was claiming I sexually abused my daughter. And. Wooooooooow is that a low. I truly expected us to fight and disagree but never in my life did I expect that type of accusation. I've never done anything but care for and adopt my daughter when she was 3. (10 now)

I am truly, truly struggling to process this, just the accusation itself is life-ending.

I am happy for a GAL to investigate, that's fine but I'm having trouble wrapping my head around it. I do feel like there may have been some coaching but my daughter is great when I have her. (We have 50/50 temporary custody today) Both my children are. I didn't see her form roughly six months.... Not until I filed for divorce, basically , and they put a temporary order in place.

I guess I'm struggling because if I were in a position where I felt that way, I would've filed for an emergency custody order for both my children? I don't know. I took out a loan because I'm still swamped with all my other bills just to try and fight but I'm hurt and absolutely terrified that a stranger will now make a decision that impacts my children for the rest of their life, and they could make that decision purely based on their opinion of me