This was cheating by her, right?

Immediate-Story2562 · 2026-04-28T00:11:54+00:00

That is shady behavior. If I was a taking a female friend shopping I would be upfront about it.
Broken trust is very hard to rebuild and will eat you up alive so my lived experience is that I agree with you, divorce and move on. Without trust, there can be no relationship or partnership.

AdequatelyfunBoi2 · 2026-04-20T06:13:41+00:00

Any time someone swears up and down they didn’t do anything wrong, chances are that they absolutely did do something wrong.

dpatron · 2026-04-19T22:26:11+00:00

Women would rather watch the world burn to the ground than tell the truth. Accept that fact and act accordingly.

Paddle_Pedal_Puddle · 2026-04-19T20:55:08+00:00

She betrayed you long before she banged that dude in his apartment. Good job dropping her like a bad habit.

KingJon85 · 2026-04-19T17:24:24+00:00

She's gaslighting you homie.

imachoochooyea · 2026-04-18T23:00:21+00:00

Yea sorry but they was bangin’!

Federal_Repair1094 · 2026-04-18T16:31:33+00:00

Yes. If it was on the up and up she would have told you about it.

MensDivorceCircle · 2026-04-19T13:04:02+00:00

It’s not about THAT visit, how many other visits had there been? And the very fact she was at another guys apartment is enough evidence I would need to consider it cheating.

Significant_Koala_61 · 2026-04-19T00:05:34+00:00

Yes you have it worked out

Ok-Guidance6491 · 2026-04-18T23:26:37+00:00

Guys cheat out of opportunity. Women cheat when they are done.

MonkeyBranchBuster · 2026-04-18T21:25:08+00:00

The shock is blinding you to even ask this question.

Ok-Wolverine-4586 · 2026-04-18T20:45:50+00:00

Yes. She cheated. More than once. Good for you.

ArizonaSpartan · 2026-04-18T20:44:26+00:00

“swear nothing happened” = she had sex with him at least once, probably more.

There is no 99% on this. It’s 100%. And that’s why women get defensive and cover for each other.

BahamaDon · 2026-04-18T19:37:07+00:00

She knew you would be suspicious if she even hinted to you that she was going to do what she did, so she purposely lied because she knew it would cause trouble. Instead of being up front about it, and telling you beforehand (it was clearly planned) she kept the secret hoping you would not find out. She would actually never have even brought it up to you. She kept it from you on purpose. She lies. What else does she lie about?

redditrock56 · 2026-04-18T18:34:41+00:00

She fucked him.

Just a question of how many times and how she took his dick.

Il_Valentino · 2026-04-18T18:00:28+00:00

eeeeh, was there anything else that made you think she is cheating? i personally would need at least one more piece of info to see a pattern. it is certainly a reason to get rdy for divorce but i wouldn't pull the trigger over this alone.

UrAristotle · 2026-04-18T17:25:11+00:00

Yes, she was fucking him

No, you don’t have any proof

You never will

But, she wasn’t where she said she would be doing what she said she would be doing. She definitely lied about that.

Htf is this still dragging on for 4 months? If she isn’t working on the marriage, she’s looking at her options. Go ahead and eliminate yourself as one of those options.

RevolutionaryLaw8854 · 2026-04-18T17:24:38+00:00

Reverse it.

You’re at some woman’s home. What’s she thinking?

Yep. Adults fuckn

Dramatic_Taro5846 · 2026-04-18T17:17:03+00:00

Trust. Your. Gut. Every single time.

serkovavantgarden · 2026-04-18T17:00:18+00:00

Listen to your gut mate

It never lets you down

Hal_Jordan1995 · 2026-04-18T16:54:34+00:00

If she wasn’t doing anything wrong, she would’ve told you about it up front instead of you finding out about it on your own

Sad_Poet_7232 · 2026-04-18T16:50:54+00:00

Are you a pretty level headed person or do you tend to jump to conclusions? Use deductive reasoning. Where do you land? What does your gut tell you? My stbxw and I's divorce talks started by her gaslighting me and trying to make it seem like i did something wrong. After thinking about everything for over a week straight, I was certain there was another guy in the picture. I have never been so sure about something in my life before without knowing it to be true. I eventually found proof and ended up filing for divorce myself. You know her better than anyone else. From my experience in this process, ive learned to trust my gut. It has been spot on ten times in a row.

Several-Eagle4141 · 2026-04-18T16:44:38+00:00

Why was she at the other dude’s place at all? Honestly. Were there bags in the car or apartment? What time of day/night was it?

She lied to cover her tracks, why?

daddydeadflesh · 2026-04-18T16:41:58+00:00

Don’t know if they were “fucking”. But her story is bull, sorry buddy. Try to move on and not ruminate about it. You know the truth, playing detective and dissecting the story is only going to harm you. Good luck man.

Other_String572 · 2026-04-18T16:33:03+00:00

I think you already know that answer my friend.

Title	This was cheating by her, right?
Author	BloodstainedBearRug
Upvotes	14
Comments	36
Date	April 18, 2026 4:29 PM UTC (3 months ago)
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