what happens next?

HelixFish · 2022-08-30T22:52:41+00:00

WTF are you giving her everything for? 50/50. New woman is great, but don’t fall for the chemical feels and make decisions based on infatuation. What do YOU feel about your stbx’s behavior?

Weed is great. Making life decisions on weed is beyond stupid. Seems like you are trying new things and being told a lot. Please make sure you are the one making these decisions and that you make them far from when you are high. I’m in no way saying you should stay. Just make sure you’ll be happy with that choice in five years.

Jonger1150 · 2022-08-30T23:11:56+00:00

New women always seem amazing, then the bonding chemicals subside and you're left with another woman.

wanderingANDwanderer · 2022-08-30T22:55:09+00:00

I left my first wife for a 21 y/o bartender in Key West prior to a deployment. Best weekend of my life.

Fyfel · 2022-08-30T23:46:02+00:00

Do not give her the marital home, just sell it and split the proceeds.

Character_Hippo90 · 2022-08-30T23:30:52+00:00

A little MJ, an old father to a teenager, a narcissistic wife, and you have the ingredients for a mid-life crisis. It's too much for too short a period of time, and you're mentally panicking. Slow down, breathe a little, and try to unscrew what you've screwed up. Plus, lawyer up now, and remain solvent for your child.

Nobody-941 · 2022-08-31T01:10:56+00:00

What's next? Sounds like a 1997 corvette convertible and an earring.

JD-Anderson · 2022-08-31T01:38:40+00:00

Cool. So you are unhappy in this marriage but happy with another woman WHILE you’re still married. Just divorce this one, marry the other one as soon as the state will allow you to. Then come back on here in short time explaining how you can’t stand the new woman now.

The good news for you is if you’re gonna leave everything in this divorce, your second wife can’t take much.

Or maybe another option (I know, a stupid one), you can take a lot of time single, getting yourself right, building YOUR life, not OUR life, and go out and be success financially or in any other way you want.

Barkaat · 2022-08-30T23:41:56+00:00

Don’t make this mistake. Why the hell are you giving away your half of the assets? Do you want to be homeless and penniless and sleep on the street?

cryptus-maximus · 2022-08-31T01:40:15+00:00

This post would make more sense coming from a woman. You are obviously not the best version of yourself and I'm sure your current wife knows that. If you think some fling is the key to your happiness, prepare for divorce #2.

dday_throwaway3 · 2022-08-31T09:19:26+00:00

> Am about to give her the marital home and I will leave with nothing.

You've fallen on your sword like society has programmed you to. For every man who is screwed by the system, 100 men screw themselves. It starts like this.

> On the plus side, I've met a fantastic woman who I am truly madly deeply in love with.

You are one blow job away from cleaning out closet space for a woman. You have no idea how vulnerable you are right now, and how that looks to a predatory woman. Read this: http://forum.mensdivorce.com/viewtopic.php?t=81647

upvotersfortruth · 2022-08-31T02:43:45+00:00

Get your shit straight with adult ADHD. I was diagnosed at 43 and it rocked my world. Not that I became some neurodiversity whiner, but just looking back at the shit I put those around me through with my randomness, emotional dis-regulation, impulsiveness, financial mismanagement, substance abuse, novelty-seeking, etc. etc. etc.

Be compassionate with her, be compassionate with yourself. But do not underestimate the resentment she's built up and do not expect her to care or help you manage it. For us, it was too much for her and a major impetus for the divorce. Just be self-aware.

upfnothing · 2022-08-31T04:35:29+00:00

Get you on the narcissist, weed, and adhd stuff. Plus the amount of time (17 years here). The falling in love while divorcing (which im happy but cautious) and the way your breaking your assets that both concern me. Get therapy and a decent lawyer. You have a lot to process. Do not rush the process.

AffectionateAd6060 · 2022-08-31T00:39:53+00:00

This is like reverse male monkey branching

CRobinsFly · 2022-08-31T01:41:09+00:00

This has got to be a troll post.

Seriously dude, you're making major errors here. Check out the other replies for a good summary.

TaylorAndreson · 2022-08-31T02:32:52+00:00

Marijuana is a gateway drug. It leads to terrible things like contentment & laughter.

in-ma-flippy-floppys · 2022-08-31T07:28:13+00:00

Seriously! Step back and take stock of your life. Your 47, you’re not seriously going to give up everything you’ve worked for over the last 20 years? Others mentioned rebounds, you are in one…once the honeymoon wears off, you will realize what is actually happening and wish you had taken more time to think this through! Get some second opinions from those you TRUST! Family, friends…don’t throw your life away just cause you got laid! Good luck!

david10277 · 2022-08-31T11:48:43+00:00

There is no give my friend...

Let the court decide what you are legally required to split. That's what you should be doing.

Give nothing..the taker will not stop taking so change your mentality on this

Let me be very frank here..you are just caught up in new pussy and jumping into a brand new relationship is a red flag. You haven't even healed yet . So many guys think the fix is in some other women ..its not it's just bat shit crazy creature with a vagina. Stop letting your dick guide your choices that's what got us in this mess the first place.

She wont go after your business..ahaha sure. Wait till the money hungry lawyers find out your income varies per year. They will be looking for support from you based on how much income generated over the past few years and they will average it. Women say alot of shit you should know that by now.

What's next ??

-Get a good lawyer -Sort out your divorce -Fight for your kids -Work on yourself -Bang some hot chicks in the side - no serious relationship -Get your financials in order -Be prepared to give her half of your shit -Work on yourself some more.. -Then and only then open up to dating

Classic_Dill · 2022-08-31T16:08:49+00:00

Curious, i feel I'm missing something, so you're currently cheating on your wife and want a divorce, is that the summary here?

Markeldugel · 2022-08-31T05:10:54+00:00

Has anyone spotted the mental illness yet? If this post is serious and not a troll, I believe I have it figured out. This guy recently got diagnosed with adhd, and is more then likely on medication for it, (amphetamines). He is also talking about smoking marijuana (psychoactive). Both are very known for causing manic episodes of the individual is predisposed to it already. Judging by the comments, op seems to be going through a manic episode, and the Eraditc behavior suggest manic episodes. The op may be going through a manic episode because of his adhd medication, which is highly known to cause mania for anyone with BP. Or the marijuana is causing mania, which is known to happen with people with BP. OP, please read this comment and seek possible help. Trust me, I know what I’m talking about.

CrazySanta7 · 2022-08-31T13:05:34+00:00

Every woman starts out as a 'fantastic' or a 'perfect' new woman, even your ex. Stop. Read your post. Don't you think you need to take charge of your life first? Why are you 'giving' your ex the house? Take charge of your life and don't be a doormat. Get in the gym, take care of mental health, and don't let a 'new woman' interfere and fill the hole left by your ex. Learm all you can about relationships and the true nature of women. You make 47 sound old, it's not. Get going bro....

GeologistNo9135 · 2022-08-31T15:53:55+00:00

Sorry to hear about your situation OP. I went through the same situation. I was married for 21 years with w adult children. My ex wanted a marital home in order not to file for alimony and so I gave her the house, kept my retirement accounts, savings and I am good. I am currently attending Divorce Care, try it. I think that’s what you need before you start dating.

Title	what happens next?
Author	swankytmc
Upvotes	22
Comments	55
Date	August 30, 2022 10:16 PM UTC (3 years ago)
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