100% agreed

heythere360 · 2020-08-28T00:57:22+00:00

Low value men love splurging on women and feeling manly. That’s why they prey on young teenagers because it’s impressive to have a man drive a shitty car and pay for your Taco Bell at the age of 16.

The men who complain cannot afford to properly court a woman their age.

Newwavesupport3657 · 2020-08-28T02:28:49+00:00

I remember someone had posted here “never date a man who is cheap with money.” Made me drop my jaw; my father is a tight wad. And he’s abusive.

100% feels inadequate and jealous of his brothers and other men.

It was “fun” trying to sleep summer nights with no AC.

Oh and at Disneyland when my mom really wanted photos.

“No!!”

“Why?!”

“Because it cost $5!”

$5. Wow. Way to break the bank.

This guy I was seeing wanted to buy me things and do things for me all the time I’m not use to it so it made me so uncomfortable but he’d be really eager to buy me things and do things for me.

Doggonelovah · 2020-08-28T00:09:49+00:00

It's so weird bc men DO love it and the ones that are like "well shouldn't it be equal durr" are either poor or misogynists. Usually just misogynists.

Unlikely-Marzipan · 2020-08-28T00:56:41+00:00

Yea one of my friends brothers said to us that men like high maintenance women - the ones who don’t are the ones who can’t afford them...

Pasdepromesses · 2020-08-28T00:12:13+00:00

My dad and my brother are the best with gifts.

My HVM ex was also amazing when it came to surprise getaways and buying me groceries I really liked.

Pahapan · 2020-08-28T00:59:23+00:00

In the same way, parents should enjoy being providers and financially stable enough to splurge on their children. It's the natural order of things.

terrn1981 · 2020-08-28T09:45:44+00:00

Ya, they feel inadequate because they are. They do not want to put any effort into changing their inadequacy. They have this entitlement which makes them think everything should just be dropped on their laps.

A lot of men are just lazy and selfish. Full stop.

Too lazy to be a good lover - rather jerk to porn. Too lazy to pull off post-secondary. Too lazy to go to the gym. Too lazy to go to therapy. Too lazy to do any emotional/mental labour.

But, they do seem to find the time and energy for video games, beer, porn, and weed.

BungalowBootieBitch · 2020-08-28T02:53:34+00:00

My best friend's man bought her a Michael Kors bag just because he wanted to. It's not her birthday or anything.

samarsharqi · 2020-08-28T06:49:32+00:00

I got told by a LVM ex that the reason he was depressed and not able to meet my needs in a relationship is that he had no money and the only way he wanted to/ could show love was to spoil a partner. He was more than happy to spend all MY money, instead of, Yknow, working hard, completing a course he had halfway finished, and trying to find low cost ways to “spoil” me.

MissVvvvv · 2020-08-28T02:28:27+00:00

Jealousy. Think about a time when you've not been your best self and you've spoken down about someone's car, or bag or outfit or whatever - pure jealousy. Whether it be of the item or of the confidence of that person. This behaviour is the behaviour of the insecure.

ms_monquis · 2020-08-28T04:16:47+00:00

This is definitely a people thing — who doesn't love taking care of the people they adore, in whatever form that takes? Well...

Dead on that the people who speak down on it feel like they don't have anything of value, and worse, don't WANT to. Instead of feeling the warmth of sharing what you have with the people you love (you and I both know that doesn't always mean $$$), they resent sharing anything with anyone. The "life is a zero sum game" people who feel that anything they give means something taken from them. I almost said it's sad, but that would suggest something that deserves empathy, when it's actually more like pathetic — something they could change but are too deep into their own bullshit to do so.

Guys? If you're listening? It isn't always about literal money. It's about sharing, and effort, and yeah a little sacrifice. Isn't that what you'd want out of a partner?

thedutchqueen · 2020-08-28T03:57:25+00:00

and here’s my “powerful””independent” sorry ass exclusively providing for my man for the past 5 months. i’m talking rent, food, recreation.

he feels inadequate and although i love to be able to be in a position to keep us both afloat during a tough time, i’m overexpending both my energy and finances.

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tiniekittie · 2020-08-27T23:42:40+00:00

Absolutely!!!

murdertoothbrush · 2020-08-28T16:30:54+00:00

My man is not exactly rich and I have, to date, never been surprised with a weekend trip or really anything costing over $500 but he is good about picking me up little surprises on a regular basis. He doesn't knock other men and never talks down on guys that can afford to splurge more on their women or allow them to be a SAHM. He often says he wishes he could do this. And if I ever even casually mention that I would like something (which 9/10 times I'm planning buying for myself bc I can) he'll find a way to get it for me, and usually get better than what I would've gotten for myself. So I don't think its just about what you have in resources, but your attitude twords your partner.

Neorago · 2020-08-28T16:52:14+00:00

My first ex won a 5 figure sum and earned 2x the amount I did. We split bills 50/50 and he had a £40 gift limit for me. He never took me on dates.

When we broke up he paid £££ for a woman (who would never date or sleep with him) for gifts for her birthday.

Men want to provide for women. If you let him away with not doing it, he will take you for granted and not invest in you at all.

I also dated a student that had no money yet he was able to save up to take me on dates and put his prised possessions for sale to pay for a plane ticket... decent men WANT to provide gifts for you no matter what. Let them.

Pudding5050 · 2020-08-28T07:45:09+00:00

I think there's a difference between "provide" and to be generous. I do want a generous man. I do not want him to provide for me because I am an independent adult, not his dependent child. I want to have and manage my own finances, not to have them only at the mercy of another person with the assumption that I'd be shit out of luck if he for some reason couldn't provide (which can happen to everybody due to for example illness).

SayNad · 2020-08-28T15:40:33+00:00

Yep, being able to provide and splurge on someone they really like is the one thing that makes their ego puff up with pride and joy - it gives them the satisfaction of directly proving their manliness - that's when their brain secretes the feel-good chemicals. I believe women got the similar effect when they take care of someone/nurturing to like babies and kittens.

Men's ego don't get fed when you go all "equality" and 50/50 - only their laziness grows but they don't get long-term satisfaction from that. That's why no matter how much you "sacrifice" and "be equal" with scrotes - they still end up resenting you.

CommercialCamel2 · 2020-08-28T04:31:38+00:00

💯

glowingupasafds · 2020-08-28T01:06:18+00:00

Agreed! Men like feeling masculine.

Title	100% agreed
Author	ColdxConfection
Upvotes	1869
Comments	56
Date	August 27, 2020 10:39 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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