Another example of how men will only be decent to women they find attractive

abby_ch238 · 2021-06-07T02:43:39+00:00

Video is of an experiment where they have a woman dressed plainly and a woman dressed attractively and then have them carry a heavy suitcase up the stairs and time how long it takes for someone to help them. For the plainly dressed woman it took 45 seconds wheee plenty of men just passed her by while she struggled to pull the suitcase up, and then finally two women came to help her. For the attractively dressed women it took 8s and a man helped her right away.

spinsterchachkies · 2021-06-07T04:18:43+00:00

8 seconds sigh. That other woman tho. That’s sad

Tomoshaamoosh · 2021-06-07T08:10:00+00:00

I have DEFINITELY noticed this in action. I’m not ugly but I definitely have to put in effort to get any kind of male attention (ie I didn’t wake up like this) I have had to commute with luggage on the London Underground more times than I would wish on anybody. Every time I’ve ever been dressed more nicely and made up I am offered help with my suitcase on the stairs almost instantly. When I’m wearing no make up, hair in ponytail and wearing whatever comfy thing I threw on it either takes way longer robe offered help or the offer never comes. I am strong enough to neither want nor need the help but the contrast is telling

denimlace · 2021-06-07T02:52:38+00:00

Yeah they still treat attractive women like crap though; they might just hold the door open for her in the hope they can get their peepee wet.

starfighter07 · 2021-06-07T12:14:33+00:00

I clearly have noticed that too. Men are usually nicer with women they found attractive (which is not really a good thing since they also feel entitled to everything when they behave nice for 10 seconds).

For example, I have clearly noticed, when they are introduced to a girl group friends, they tend to ignore (in a rude way) or brush off those who they consider "basic" or "uninteresting" and they are super (i.e too much) invest with the other girls. They are obvious and embarassing.

ChocoBananza · 2021-06-07T10:51:47+00:00

I’ve seen this years ago and I remember how upset I was, but for the wrong reasons. My old pickme self took that as a warning that no man would pay attention to me if I don’t look like a super model 🤦🏽‍♀️

I’m sooo happy that I’m able to look at this through a different lense. Yay progress!

Angrboda229 · 2021-06-07T04:03:23+00:00

Some of the guys in the comments are claiming "this happens in other situations too!" Like how your speech pattern determines how people perceive you as well and contributes to being helped as well. They're saying it's not just looks. Simply shows how far they will go to pretend women being treated differently depending on how we look (usually you're catered to if you're pretty) doesn't happen.

StainedGlassCat · 2021-06-07T12:37:58+00:00

The first woman may not be whatever "conventionally pretty" is but the second woman is in more danger, ultimately. I say that because with men, it is almost always better to be unseen/ignored than to have to be in a position to reject their fragile ego and ignite their rage.

I had always been a healthy weight prior to having to be on a medication for a while. While on the medication I gained a lot of weight. When I was able to go off it about 3 years later, I lost 100lbs in a year. The weight gain had been somewhat slow so I hadn't noticed the shift in attention on the way up, but on the way down? I noticed it instantly. The closer I got to my original healthy size, the more aggressive the male attention got. To the point that random male employees in stores would offer me free items, offer to share their drinks/food with me, offer to buy whatever I wanted, men in cars driving down the road would try to get my attention while I was driving... It was actually very scary and weird. There is more attention, certainly, but it still isn't the kind of attention you want. Men aren't nicer, so much as they are more horny and pretty obvious about it when "helping" you. I knew I was in more danger just for losing weight, and that I had been far safer when I was overweight and men ignored me.

Men hate you whether you are "pretty" or not. Stay safe, ladies. Help each other out, because we are safer when we help each other and avoid men and their "help" aka "I'm going to do this and then you'll fuck me, right?"

tomatfrogbubbles · 2021-06-07T16:53:15+00:00

The halo effect is real.

t3ddi · 2021-06-08T01:21:01+00:00

I've gone through many phases with my looks. I sadly got the most male attention when I was at my most unhealthy with an eating disorder. Now that I carry myself with confidence, I still get attention but its usually to neg me in some way.

Davina33 · 2021-06-07T12:44:15+00:00

Hmm. I'm quite a glamorous woman but pre-2010 I used to go through London train stations and tubes a lot with heavy luggage as I travelled to stay with family from where I'm living. No one in London helped me ever but I noticed in the stations where I left and arrived to, men would offer to help me a lot. I find in London most people are more in of a rush. I definitely do not want to stereotype but people just don't seem as friendly there.

sweet_birthday_babyy · 2021-06-07T18:32:13+00:00

This makes me so mad.

Title	Another example of how men will only be decent to women they find attractive
Author	abby_ch238
Upvotes	127
Comments	31
Date	June 7, 2021 2:41 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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