These types of posts mortify me. How is this remotely acceptable?

SarcasmSlide · 2020-03-14T14:55:55+00:00

Oh, honey. He likes it because it hurts you. Take a good look at the man you married.

Edit: Here is your reminder about the dangers of anal sex

buddingQueenie · 2020-03-14T15:35:43+00:00

Imagine having pretty much all crazy porn acts a green flag for you to do EXCEPT this one boundary. AND STILL BREAKING DOWN THAT ONE BOUNDARY!

Fucking porn sick pig.

Muffcakelord · 2020-03-14T14:50:24+00:00

Imagine a man saying "my wife/girlfriend is sobbing from pain and discomfort during sex and it makes me want to not hurt her again let alone have sex"

Ha ha

Nearby-Armadillo · 2020-03-14T14:53:09+00:00

He got this from porn. Zero fucks given that it hurts her so badly she ends up sobbing into the pillow. He gets off on hurting her. Pornsick scrotes like this should be castrated.

hoIds_up_spork · 2020-03-14T14:54:00+00:00

Comments: jUSt tALk To HiM

yup, because marriage counselling with an abusive, sexually sadistic rapist always ends well

timetofliptables · 2020-03-14T16:41:53+00:00

Ahhh I’m going to go insane with this bad advice I’m reading on the op!!

“JuSt TaLk to Him”

NO! That dude doesn’t give one fuck about her, her health, or what she wants. There is nothing to fucking talk about. This is the shit that keeps women abused for longer.

If a man doesn’t care that his actions make you sob over and over, it doesn’t even matter what those actions are, he is not going to get better. Get rid of him.

Glum-Stage · 2020-03-14T15:05:05+00:00

What the fuck. OP needs to dump his ass yesterday. A man who keeps pressuring you into sexual activities that he knows cause you extreme physical pain is a sadistic piece of shit. He isn't going to change. The comments make me mad as hell. This has been going on for literal months. She has already talked to him and he has witnessed first hand the pain anal causes her. OP doesn't need to waste time and money dragging this scrote to marriage counseling,she needs to see a divorce lawyer ASAP.

Sewud · 2020-03-14T17:26:01+00:00

My God. The THINGS women put themselves through to please a man doing something that has zero appeal to then just because it appeals to the man. The hours she spent reading up on how to stop hating anal. This is not because it's something she wants to do, it's purely because it's something he wants to do and she wants to give him what he wants. Men will never understand how good and generous and selfless women are. They are the first to complain loudly and indignantly the second something doesn't feel good for them, even if it's in the middle of a sex act they request and enjoy themselves. They would never put in the time and energy to do something that isn't something they themselves want. Never forget.

GlamorKiss · 2020-03-14T15:26:54+00:00

My sympathies go to her, but she really messed up by even indulging him in "rough sex" to begin with. You can tell when something is what the person is actually into, vs. what they've decided to "compromise" (read: give into) by the language they use.

She thought he would be satisfied if she let him slap and choke her during sex. But the pornsick mind will literally never cease to desire more depravity. I feel sick at all of the people in the original post's replies saying she's already done her part in "trying to get used to it" and that it's ok to throw the towel in if it hurts that much.

Excuse me? she knew it was something she hated from the get go. Why did she have to go through further torment just to show her POS husband she at least "gave it a shot"? fuck him.

TheOGJammies · 2020-03-14T15:13:38+00:00

u/ThrowARANalmisery

pairo5 · 2020-03-14T16:31:34+00:00

Truly don't understand the people telling her to communicate. Why should it be a womans responsibility to state that she doesn't like pain during sex before a man goes and does some painful act anyways? Why is that not assumed? Regardless I'm pretty sure her SOBBING was a pretty good non verbal communication of her pain and discomfort, he just doesn't care. Absolutely vile.

sadpourtoujours · 2020-03-14T17:31:37+00:00

God men are sick. Truly, they have psychopath level empathy for their female partners. First priority is always their dicks.

yafavoriteobserver · 2020-03-14T16:47:54+00:00

I too have no desire for anal sex and will never let it happen to me. It’s heartbreaking to read what she’s had to endure just for a sick fetish.

crochetlily · 2020-03-14T17:16:02+00:00

She would probably be a lot happier in the long run if she wasn’t with him. Why should his obsession erode her self-worth?? No man is worth this amount of stress.

leeloo6199 · 2020-03-14T18:44:47+00:00

Fuck him. Put it in his ass and see how he likes it, since he's so obsessed with it he should try it himself.

2020-03-14T17:31:02+00:00

I'm going to fight her husband 1v1.

What a disgusting excuse for a human being. I feel sick at the thought of being in a marriage like that. It must be terrifying to find out why he's doing that and have to consider leaving all those years of your life behind.

You're a queen and deserve better. Throw him out with the garbage.

radical__daphne · 2020-03-14T18:30:41+00:00

This is anal rape

Hedy__Lamarr · 2020-03-14T20:46:51+00:00

There are so many men who are trying to normalize anal sex. I'm sure it's directly tied to all the anal they see in porn where the woman pretends to like because she's paid to pretend.

Women in real life don't need to pretend that they like it. It's unhygienic and unsafe.

2020-03-14T16:56:13+00:00

Porn sick psycho

grimreapersdtr · 2020-03-14T18:35:22+00:00

I guess this is yet another example of why you shouldn't over-indulge a man with details your sexual past. Not that I'm blaming the OP for doing something "wrong". It SHOULD be reasonable to expect one's husband to avoid emotionally blackmailing or coercing you into performing a sex act that harmed you in the past with someone else, but most men just seem to get angry, pouty and pissy if you don't perform that same painful sex act with them... at least that's the word I read on FDS over and over again.

Her husband is an ogre.

Unlikely-Marzipan · 2020-03-14T17:40:26+00:00

Holy shit this hurt my heart to read! Not only is it bad enough that she’s ok with other pornsick acts that she’s labelling as “rough”, and that she was coerced into trying once when she explicitly said she has tried and didn’t like it, and didn’t even want to do it. It was her one boundary. But he even asks every single time even after seeing her sobbing into a pillow every time! This is sadistic and abusive and I feel he likes it so much because she doesn’t.

This isn’t a husband. Sorry, this is a demon. I cannot fathom being so selfish that I would ask someone I love and cherish to do something that had them crying into a pillow... heck I wouldn’t even ask my worst enemy to do something that had them this distraught... because that’s what fucked up people do.

Sage_Planter · 2020-03-14T14:43:20+00:00

Link to OP.

Suspicious_Trick · 2020-03-14T22:34:34+00:00

Aside from the horrible traumatic sexual ordeal, it breaks my heart that SHE spent hours and hours of her time researching it and how to make it possible, just so HE could benefit from her humiliation and pain. Reminds me of the endless emotional labor I used to put up with to try to please my LVM exes, reading articles, advice columns, message boards trying to fix problems they created. Hope she can gtfo and see the light.

GlamorKiss · 2020-03-14T17:32:56+00:00

This is sexual coercion, which is a type of rape

doorstopp · 2020-03-14T18:19:01+00:00

Reminds me of my trash ex who would constantly hint at threesomes with another girl just bc I’m bi. Even though the first time he brought it up I got so uncomfortable I cried 🚮

Davina33 · 2020-03-14T17:57:00+00:00

Wow! She would be better off divorcing him. A man that ignores her pain and continues to push for anal sex is flat out evil and sadistic. He does not respect her boundaries or her at all. He is a dirty bastard.

2020-03-14T18:17:02+00:00

I would have packed up and left without a word next time he asked.

cherry-sweet · 2020-03-14T23:01:56+00:00

these type of men need to be thrown in prison. they'll get all the anal their heart desires in there. sick fuckers.

Ahollowbullet-yet · 2020-03-14T20:13:46+00:00

I bet most of the comments were offering her advice on how to tolerate the pain rather than telling her to leave that asshole.

SaltyQueefs · 2020-03-14T20:45:55+00:00

LADIES HERE'S A HANDY TRICK THAT I USE WHEN A PARTNER PESTERS ME FOR ANAL SEX. I HAVE A STRAP ON AND I TELL THEM IF I CAN DO THEM FIRST THEN THEY CAN DO ME. I HAVE ONLY HAD ONE TAKE ME UP ON THE OFFER OTHERWISE IT'S ALWAYS A NO.

2020-03-15T02:12:52+00:00

Its so scary how men feel entitled to anal. Pre fds I had one guy jam his dry dick into my ass without asking. I bled on his sheets and my biggest concern was being embarrassed I bled on his sheets. I had been fwb w him for a year and a half and he showed me ZERO CONCERN whatsoever. I also declined anal sex w a guy I was seeing and he did it anyway. Idk how I will ever have any kind of contact w men again.

2020-03-14T23:24:47+00:00

I cannot bring myself to read this.

margiemms · 2020-03-15T01:51:47+00:00

Tell him he’s first!

chungkingxbricks · 2020-03-15T02:15:05+00:00

I hope his dick falls off and she finds a better man.

Title	These types of posts mortify me. How is this remotely acceptable?
Author	Sage_Planter
Upvotes	274
Comments	56
Date	March 14, 2020 2:42 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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