Why do men waste our damn time?

yeahhh22 · 2021-02-14T01:31:00+00:00

Something I absolutely loathe about men is how their dumbass good morning and good night texts directly reflect the status/health of your relationship on any given day. I literally gag on all gm and gn texts now. I'm just like. Oh hey. Midday. I'm sick of being hostage to gm/gn texts. Its all so silly.

Phoenix__Rising2018 · 2021-02-14T01:21:05+00:00

He so had someone else on the hook and was waiting for a response. These guys are fucking pricks.

azureangel35 · 2021-02-14T01:28:59+00:00

Ugh. What is the point of that? So he can make you anxious? Possibly begin to doubt yourself so you're relived when you next hear from him? So you'll be more easily manipulated? Fuck that noise sis. Bullet dodged-hand to god.

mirrormirror114 · 2021-02-14T02:32:03+00:00

Something similar happened to me. He set a date for Sunday but we continued having a convo. Literally mid conversation he just stops responding. Sunday comes and goes and I hear nothing so I deleted his number. One month later I get a text “hey you”. I realize who it is and say I’m not interested go bother someone else. He immediately called me a bitch. Like damn having even the slightest standard and not welcoming him back a month later with no apology at all makes me a bitch? Ok lol. Men on OLD are a joke.

PhilosophyCharming77 · 2021-02-14T01:43:22+00:00

This has happened to me to the past 5 guys I’ve talked to. I don’t get it either. No one respects anyone’s time anymore

LogisticBird · 2021-02-14T01:39:12+00:00

Energy vampires. Good riddance.

Platipus6 · 2021-02-14T02:47:38+00:00

Had 3 guys flake on the day of as well. They have a pattern. There's silence the day before as they take 24 hours to craft the perfect "omg sorry, work called" literary masterpiece.

They had ALL complained that it's hard to get matches with "nice, normal women" and how "dating is so hard for men", and then they pull this flakey bullshit.

Good luck getting that catfish bot to show up for the date then bruh.

yeahhh22 · 2021-02-14T03:14:36+00:00

We are NOT an option. We are the !$&#%* CHOICE. They choose us or they lose us. It was his loss tonight.

Happy Valentine’s Day FDS gals. 💓 (T-2 hours in Florida.) Goodnight!

tarynofwinterfell · 2021-02-14T02:07:34+00:00

Almost same exact thing happened to me. We had been talking for two weeks (texting a lot and at least three weekly phone calls) and I saw no red flags and nothing to make me cautious. I was actually so excited and hopeful for once. We had a date set up for tonight. Guess whose text has been unanswered since yesterday? Mine. This POS even had the audacity to keep me on his Facebook but not return a text. Yeah, blocked. Next.

Sensitive-Shoe-1079 · 2021-02-14T02:42:22+00:00

Smart. That is the most efficient block I've seen. I strive to be like you.

xYennefer · 2021-02-14T02:50:15+00:00

If this was the other way around, the scrote would complain about how all women are cruel viscious bitches who deserve no respect or happiness in life for not having sex with nice guys like them.

Exsqueeze_meh · 2021-02-14T03:49:48+00:00

I have a feeling the guys that do this are married or have girlfriends. They are in it for the ego boost and attention. Most men have no problem with lying and hurting people to get something they need, as we’ve discovered.

sahu_ · 2021-02-14T02:35:58+00:00

This man spoke to my friend (not FDS) for a year in a long distance relationship before he revealed his large financial difficulties but now he's pressuring her to overlook them and she's annoyed he wasted her time for a year without revealing this fact. This should be financial fraud and she hopefully stops talking to him.

frogchickenhorse · 2021-02-14T03:12:33+00:00

I really don’t understand men. They are cowards and have no idea how to be honest with anyone

DutyKooky · 2021-02-14T04:38:32+00:00

You're spending WAY too much time on text/phone with these guys! A GUY IS NOT YOUR PAL! HE IS NOT A CHAT BUDDY! HE IS NOT A PHONE FRIEND! HE IS AN ADVERSARY! if you need someone to talk to, its going to be your girlfriends. Do not use a guy as a substitute for your gilrfriend chat friend. If you don't have girflriends who you can chat with for a long time, get some ASAP! ( i realize this is hard during the pandemic) Do not get into chatfests with OLD guys online or on the phone before the date. Do not have more than 1 call w/ a guy before the date.

in OLD you get :

One -1- chat online/in-app to establish connection and for him to ask you out on a date. You don;t introduce new topics, don't ask too many questions. You don;t revel much about yourself. The goal is to keep the convo brief and for him to ask you out. Keep the online chat to 10-15 mins or 10-12 total exchanges. YOU END THE CHAT FIRST!
you turn his initial date invite into a phone/video chat - so you can screen the guy before ever going out ( because you are not comfrotable meeting IRL off interent right away).
The guy calls you on your Google Voice Number. You do not call the guy. You spend MAX 20 minutes on phone /video chat to screen the guy AND YOU END THE CALL FIRST. Here you don't talk that much ether, you get him to talk about himself. You can judge a lot about a guy from the way he talks, words he uses , etc. He has to carry the conversation and fill in any silences himself. DON"T HELP HIM HAVE A COVO. By letting him lead you can far better asess his qualities and true intentions.
After the call, you wait for the guy to schedule a real date, with time/place/reservation etc at lest 3 days in advance. If you didn't like what you heard on the phone from him, you listen to your gut and turn him down at this point.
DO NOT CONTACT HIM/TEXT HIM AFTER THE CALL, EVEN IF HE PROMISED TO ASK YOU OUT. Men don;t need reminders. He has your Google voice number. If he wants to ask you out after the call for a real date, he will. If you don;t hear from him after the call, he wasn't that interested. A lack of interest from a woman has never prevented a man from asking her out.
That date should be in your neighborhood. The guy travels to see you. NO 50/50 meet mid-way.
If he doesn't confirm the date on the day of at least 3 hrs in advance, THERE IS NO DATE!

YOU NEVER INITIATE ANY CONVERSATIONS w. a guy - he has to initiate all convos/texts.

The more effort a guy has to put in to get a date with you. the more likely he will show up ( or weed himself out faster , because he's low effort). DO NOT MAKE IT EASY TO HAVE A DATE WITH YOU! A DATE WITH YOU IS A PRIZE THAT HE HAS TO WORK HARD FOR! DO NOT APPEAR TOO EAGER FOR THE DATE.

DutyKooky · 2021-02-14T05:49:21+00:00

Acting "too excited/ too eager" for the date sets you apart in scrote's mind, and not in a good way. If you are too responsive to his texts. calls he will think you are " too easy" and reduce his level of effort and focus his energy instead on the girl who is not giving him the time of day/ ignoring him.

DutyKooky · 2021-02-14T06:18:32+00:00

Men will waste as much of your time as you let them. Don;t let them waste your time.

basicbagels · 2021-02-14T02:43:37+00:00

Hes trash. Better to know now than later!

GretaTheBeeotch · 2021-02-14T02:55:24+00:00

My guess is married- he was interested in meeting someone in theory, once it became a reality he got cold feet.

UmmmHiHello · 2021-02-14T02:40:28+00:00

I'm sorry

This is garbage ❣️❣️❣️❣️

randomgirlimok · 2021-02-14T08:45:53+00:00

Imagine how much time these guys spend texting multiple women. They must spend literally all day on their phones to build emotional connections with all of them.

Affectionate-Cut-460 · 2021-02-14T03:23:18+00:00

Love this energy. God you're such a queen.

Starsuponstars · 2021-02-14T10:39:59+00:00

Bet he was a catfisher who never wanted to meet in person lest you find out what he really looks like.

Title	Why do men waste our damn time?
Author	chicky111
Upvotes	335
Comments	74
Date	February 13, 2021 10:39 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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