Why ?

restlessGal · 2021-07-03T11:01:03+00:00

Bills splitting and everything aside, it is extremely rude to invite additional guests to an outing and expect others to cover everything. This dude is showing his colors so blatantly and this girl doesn’t know what to do?…

whiskey_and_oreos · 2021-07-03T06:13:02+00:00

I'm really curious about an age gap here. The fiance has college age kids so he's probably over 40. OP's parents are retired so she's likely not a teen or young 20s but she seems to weigh their opinions heavily while also defending her fiance. The whole thing just comes across very emotionally immature in a "how can I magically get everyone to like each other" way which is making me think she's younger.

purasangria · 2021-07-03T12:26:34+00:00

Dating a wealthy, cheap man is like dating a broke man. Don't do this, ladies. Dump him.

08__80 · 2021-07-03T07:48:50+00:00

This is ridiculous. The parents should insist on separate checks where the parents just pay for themselves, the scrote is forced to pay for himself and the mini-scrotes, and OP is stuck in the awkward situation where she knows Scrote won't pay for her and it's "too old fashioned" for mummy and daddy to pay for her, so she has to pull out her own wallet and pay for herself. This would cut that behavior out real quick.

I feel so sorry for these parents that they have to entertain this clown just to not hurt their daughter's feelings. On the other hand, they should have taught her more self-respect than this.

MyBeautifulSweetsong · 2021-07-03T06:25:30+00:00

You need to ask your fiance why he thinks it's cool to being extra mouths to feed. And this seems like a bad situation when's man with money wants those with Les to split with him.

Look at all the 50/50 women who talk about not having any money left after helping their wealthy boyfriend's with the high living costs that the man is accustomed to.

When he starts asking you to help foot the bill for things you can't afford and you realize you are helping to fund his lifestyle.

Aromatic-Owl8808 · 2021-07-03T07:43:47+00:00

"But I do think he could be more generous where they are concerned" but not where she is concerned. This is so sad.

radical__daphne · 2021-07-03T07:24:50+00:00

This cheap skate should be paying for everything when they all go to dinner. Loser. This lady is going to marry him and regret the hell out of it realizing her mother was right.

Equal-Ear2312 · 2021-07-03T08:18:21+00:00

Not sure how to handle it?

Dump his ass

IndependenceOk7675 · 2021-07-03T06:14:40+00:00

"I'm not sure how to handle this"?! 1. Listen to your mom. 2. BLOCK AND DELETE, HONEY. It's really that simple.

TrixieFriganza · 2021-07-03T10:34:34+00:00

Wtf the scrotacity, why should her parents pay for his adult kids? And this scrote is wealthy, pay for your own damn kids, these guys make me sick and the pick-meisha who doesn't dump him.

poppinkitty · 2021-07-03T06:03:56+00:00

Yikes🤮. That's why we don't date stingy losers. Not because we are old fashioned or traditional but because that's what happens when you bring a cheap loser into your life. That's why it's important to date a generous man.

spinsterchachkies · 2021-07-03T07:56:21+00:00

If I was the parents I just wouldn’t go. He sounds like an ass. Love you hun but I don’t want to be around your ass of a fiancé

eveloe · 2021-07-03T14:10:15+00:00

Could you imagine being the child of a man who won’t pay for you to go out for lunch?

This guy is as miserly in his affections as he is with his finances

sleepysiri · 2021-07-03T10:27:03+00:00

This guy knows how much he can do and how much she’ll let slide. It’s way too far in to fix.

Lazy-Design1979 · 2021-07-03T14:37:51+00:00

Why does he do that? Because they're letting him do that. If I were him, I'd be embarrassed, but we'll skip over that because it sounds like he lacks the capacity to be embarrassed. He's got college age sons, for goodness sake! If I were her, I'd dump him pronto. For her parents, next time they go out to dinner I'd have a word with the server away from the table and pay my portion, then leave. Let him pay for the children he chose to have.

Sugarcinnamonvanilla · 2021-07-03T08:38:30+00:00

The cost of being a woman is expensive compared to living as a man. There are actually stats on this but you don't need them, just add up what you pay for in skincare, makeup, beauty, fitness, menstruation, children (if you have them), and onward. If he wants his woman to feel and look like her best self, he should absorb the cost of dinners and bills to share a home. But her parent's need to also set some boundaries with this man! He can't feed his own kids? Please. Trainwreck. I hope she listens to her Mom!

TMac0601 · 2021-07-03T12:05:57+00:00

DuMp HiS AsS!

Lavender_flow · 2021-07-03T13:19:53+00:00

Her parents are smart and she is a fucking dumbass. That is the truth. How about listening. Imagine marrying such a scrote after you see that behavior. Wow

MajesticSkyPachyderm · 2021-07-03T14:45:01+00:00

Oh yeah, I saw that one on my alt. At that point, there was a good amount of people telling her that her parents were right (me included). So let's hope she listens to that.

fak_beauty_standards · 2021-07-03T14:45:04+00:00

"I'm torn bc I think it's very old fashioned"

I really blame media, movies etc. for this as it's clearly not her upbringing.

Catz10000 · 2021-07-03T15:17:42+00:00

Her comment about righting his past made me see red. Why do Pickmeishas think they're rehab centers for LVM?

Altowhovian93 · 2021-07-03T16:39:12+00:00

Her parents are right. Also, I smell an age gap. Income gaps are red flags when 50/50 is insisted instead of equity.

Repulsive-Ad1092 · 2021-07-03T19:20:38+00:00

I would be ashamed to be related to this guy tbh

nnanna11 · 2021-07-03T19:25:12+00:00

i’m glad her mom is calling it out, but i’m sure she won’t listen to her. expecting a man to pay for your parents meal isn’t old fashioned. it’s basic human decency

SkiesEclipse · 2021-07-04T00:05:02+00:00

My moms ex bf brought my grandma a gift basket with all her favourite snacks (which he remembered from the stories she told of her), a bouquet of roses, and treated everyone to dinner, the first time he met her.

And he focused all of his energy on getting to know my grandma, and really charmed the pants off her. He also was very upfront with my mom that his intentions were to marry her, and that he needed her mother’s approval if it was ever going to work.

Men who are serious about you, understand the importance of making a good first impression on their family, and will do everything in their power to do it.

PollyAnnaSunshine · 2021-07-03T22:46:20+00:00

Good for her parents for bringing this up to her. This man does indeed sound cheap for expecting them to pay the way for his adult children and asking her to go 50/50 with bills.

I'm curious why they don't clearly state how to divide the check when the server asks? At least where I am from it wouldn't be rude for someone to say who should be on what tab if it's a smaller party.

Title	Why ?
Author	motioncaptureF
Upvotes	574
Comments	45
Date	July 3, 2021 5:25 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/ocrr8u/why/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/why.788462 https://theredarchive.com/post/788462

Comments