this sub seems dead what happened?

threekindsoflucky · 2026-01-09T00:15:42+00:00

The weekly own your shit thread is the only part of this sub that actually matters, and it remains active. It's where actual work is done.

It's the lurkers and those who don't put in the work (i.e. those who aren't in OYS) who seem to think the lack of new posts is a sign the sub is dead.

Dead, dying, not dead - it's all irrelevant. If the OYS thread remains active, then there's work being done.

gazmal · 2026-01-08T11:51:30+00:00

It's all in the sidebar. Everything a blue pilled man/AFC needs to turn things around is in the sidebar. I found this sub when it was "dead" and it has helped me tremendously. It will never grow and become mainstream, you can't redpill your friends, others. It is essentially a self help tool.

isabelle_peeper · 2026-01-08T13:07:09+00:00

There is nothing going on, because we’re all shutting the fuck up.

LeonidasMRP · 2026-01-08T12:44:37+00:00

Sure overall traffic is down but there’s still men that stumble across this place and if they start reading the material, putting in the work and have the balls to post in the OYS threads they see that there are still very intelligent, perceptive men lurking here, helping (kicking) those of us along still trying to make it. They will provide you with valuable insight and advice you won’t get anywhere. Surprisingly, the vets still lurking provide this value all for free.

hellsongs · 2026-01-08T13:13:02+00:00

I’ve been zeroed out due to addiction issues and have been pouring over the information here to figure out where I fucked up. It’s been invaluable.

Ok-Night-8519 · 2026-01-08T10:32:42+00:00

nothing new to be learned, main redpill sub has been dead for the past 2 years too, sidebar and the top posts of all time are all that you really need, there is nothing new to be learned or anything that hasnt been said 100 times before, the main sub gets a new post every two weeks more or less and its usually some slop essay by some indian who doesnt really know what he is talking about and just calls it "redpill"

i think a big part of it is also that when i was a teenager i found the redpill by searching online trying to figure out women, i think nowadays teens get funneled into blackpill spaces instead, so theres not really any way for it to grow anymore, people in the "manosphere" now see redpill as cope and people who dont understand the true nature of women which is purely about looks, a lot of this is because of the crazy ammount of wannabe alpha influencers who all have the same look of being bald, wearing sunglasses indoors, being with trashy women, etc, it is not appealing to outsiders because its image has been tarnished by various sources and the message has been twisted by "redpillers" who clearly dont actually know what they are talking about

i mean who is more appealing to a fatherless 16 year old who is looking for masculine guidance? somebody who says just put in some effort to make yourself the best looking guy in the room, and then you wont even have to do anything and women will come to you? or some idiot streamer like sneako? or the ridiculous boomers who yell on stream about how all women are whores because they are permanently stuck on the rage stage of finding out female nature? its going to be the first example

sidenote, i really dislike the wannabe pimp look all these fake redpill influencers have nowadays

deerstfu · 2026-01-08T15:38:40+00:00

Well, I have some opinions.

I don't think this place is inactive. I see a lot of views, 100s, even for comment replies on oys. So my perception is there are a lot of lurkers but people are afraid to post. One reason is fear of being doxxed off of details. Another is fear of response from members in the community.

But, I think there is a bigger reason posts are down.

MRP gives a lot of great information. The highest value of Red Pill, to me, is that people started looking at intersexual dynamics while intentionally trying not to apply personal biases. The (attempted) removal of preconceived biases is essential to science and the ability to make marginal progress in studying and understanding the world around us. It's why discovery has accelerated in the last few hundred years. We stopped saying thing happen just because god said so.

However, in psychology and the social sciences, even where religious biases have been removed, they have been replaced with politically correct biases. Everyone has to be equally great. Men and women must be considered to be equally capable of all things and essentially the same, except where women are "better." To say otherwise opens one to attack and can end a career.

So, Red Pill allows for the beginning of scientific discovery in the space of intersexual dynamics. See what works to attract women, what doesn't. See how women react to men who do certain things, what matters, what doesn't. Don't worry about what "the right thing" is, just what works.

This produced much of the best parts of the sidebar and the core of what's valuable in red pill and married red pill. For example, while I disagree with Rollo in how upset he is about the state of the world, he does a great job of pointing out the obvious, about how women and men interact and what society encourages. He makes reasonable conclusions that should be clear to an intelligent person looking at how men and women interact in the world without applying personal beliefs about how men and women "should" be.

Unfortunately, there is only so far you can go with individual people observing their own experiences in the world and coming to conclusions. These are, at best, at the level of case reports (i.e. men sharing notes, field reports), which are helpful at first but become redundant and less informative as knowledge improves. At a certain point, to advance any science, there has to be a scientific method. Multiple data points, controlling for confounds, statistical analysis. That's not realistically going to happen. And definitely not on this reddit. There might be space for some of the more scientifically inclined to retrospectively analyze some of the published literature that happens to touch on issues relevant to red pill, but, ha, what are the odds of that happening on reddit? And if it did happen, it would be quickly drowned out.

In fact, the opposite happens. Because of the mainstream image of red pill, it draws on the fringe and particularly grabs people who may not think critically. Randos with agendas, or just misguided energy, post whatever they think might be helpful. Some probably is. But it's mostly noise. They bring their own biases and there's no great way to evaluate the quality of what they write other than the reader's own intuition. It's not realistic to expect this to continually add new and worthwhile information.

So, here we are. MRP has some great guidance among a sea of noise. Steel's guide does a good job of guiding new guys through the nonsense. Men continue to read and own their shit and figure out how to stop being a pussy and go get some. It still works, even if the information isn't really improving.

Zawuch · 2026-01-10T22:35:35+00:00

This place is just a circlejerk now. If you don't have a fetish for humiliation and bootlicking a "vets" then posting on OYS is useless.

The basis of OYS is that men who didn't take ownership of their actions and blamed the results of their own actions on others stop doing that, make a MAP/Plan, follow it, and act masculine.

For that you have to start somewhere and usually you start very low on diet/mental/frame/discipline etc. But starting low gives you a flurry of insults from people who would never behave like that IRL, and you should not be bothered because they're "online strangers".

On the other side if you answer with the same energy, they get very bothered by your "random stranger" response, even if according to the principle they explain, they shouldn't.

PokeyTifu99 · 2026-01-08T19:42:52+00:00

Got actualized and started getting everything I wanted in life years ago. Then I realized it was who I always was, I just forgot for a bit. Never came back till I saw this today and remembered I was even subscribed.

businessstravel · 2026-01-09T00:47:41+00:00

Please ban these drive-by retards.

vitrael3 · 2026-01-08T23:34:07+00:00

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Suspicious_Ask7324 · 2026-01-10T19:02:30+00:00

Recently joined, this sub has been incredibly helpful as I’ve been studying the side bar deeply

Balkan1987 · 2026-01-11T12:06:26+00:00

My opinion is that a lot of redpill content was moved to YouTube/Spotify. Rollo also has a lot of content there, not to mention the newcomers. Reddit cannot be so easily monetized, and the content here its just a backup to the old RedPill archive domain that was taken down 2 years ago; this is also how I found Reddit actually.

subaruguy14 · 2026-01-12T06:34:54+00:00

Sub is dead because real gangsters move in silence. Read.

SnakeSolidChicken · 2026-01-12T19:16:46+00:00

I can add to this conversation and say that I am also reading the sidebar, lifting weights, shutting the fuck up and working by myself to transform my inner space with the help of all of the invaluable posts in this sub.

I don't comment but I do read a lot and own your shit has been very helpful as well.

rueggy · 2026-01-08T18:07:56+00:00

It's too heavily modded. New content gets taken down with "read the sidebar". IMO duplicate content is better than no new content. Lot of the comments go way too deep into weightlifting. Guys will be going into detail about exact reps and weight they do for every exercise. There are better subs for that. How is knowing how many reps and weight a random guy does for his bicep curls going to help a married guy get laid more? I'm too old (early 50s) to lift heavy anyway, so it's even more useless. Might help guys who are married in their 20s or 30s, but if you're married in your 20s that was the first mistake.

Dudely123 · 2026-01-09T03:23:05+00:00

The term “Married” red pill is the game that can’t be won. You can have the frame of an absolute narcissist who views himself as the highest power in the flesh, but at the end of the day, if you show a weak or needy handy to a woman that’s completely self interested with no desire for reciprocation/father figure in their life, you’re fucked.

The first rule is pick right and this US culture has made that damn near impossible depending on location, unless you’re constantly stress testing yourself with women. That takes time. You also have to be able to walk away, most married men can’t or won’t once kids hit the picture. They become dominated by the family court and their wife.

I’ve seen plenty of men, friends, get cheated on after 15+ years by their wife. Talk to any one that deals with Maritial issues, it’s everywhere. Cops allow adultery to occur, they don’t bat an eye and will remove you from a domestic dispute.

Better to talk to a lawyer first before any marriage and get a pre-nump. Fuck legal marriage.

If you have anything going on hobby, kids, or business wise, good luck. Put God and yourself first. Then consider a family or a mate.

Better yet, leave the fucking country and get married

adriens · 2026-01-08T12:27:18+00:00

Lets revive if.

I think a lot of people probably integrated the correct way to behave. Could be a good thing.

LofiStarforge · 2026-01-08T14:48:29+00:00

Redpill makes you take action for your life. Guys nowadays want everything handed to them nowadays or they want to assign blame for their issues on everybody else particularly woman. The anger towards woman in particular is something I never saw years ago.

The most stunning thing about this subreddit to me is how shit everyone’s lifts are. OYS 35 and they are still benching the bar but they just brush past that.

When I got into red pill it was largely an off-shoot of fitness forums nobody wanted to hear about you gf/wife whining if your lifts were shit.

Everything is downstream from physical attractiveness. Pretty much all the guys who had legitimate success over the years is because they improved that aspect. Most guys have no clue about the downstream effects because they’ve never been physically attractive.

Most guys nowadays think they can trick their wives/gfs/other people instead of actually putting in the work. The subreddit is just weaponized overthinking nowadays, LARPing (the way people talk here is cringe), and mental masturbation.

Ok-Imagination-2308 · 2026-01-08T19:18:38+00:00

asktrp got banned a couple years back so I think that had an effect.

Historical_Guess5725 · 2026-01-08T12:36:57+00:00

Battle was lost for many

Careful-Hour-182 · 2026-02-08T23:57:18+00:00

Everyone is over in r/exitredpill and r/exitincel because any former redpill bro has since spent time in the real world and has met actual human women. These interactions are actually just listening to women was enough to get me out. I realised it was all utter BS and that I was blaming my insecurities on women instead of just going to therapy to work on how to stop hating myself. It worked. I learnt what it actually means to be a man that a woman would want to be with (newsflash, it wasn't gym and bitcoin.)

I really hope anyone still stuck in incel echo chamber realises that all that stuff is pseudoscience and simply a result of men never being taught how to express our emotions or improve our self esteem. We are all just insecurity, that's it. Go to therapy. Put down your phone and go outside. Digital detox. Talk to other men who have left . Actually go talk to women in real life to reduce loneliness and understand their experiences and insights . We can all actually find a good woman (I have!) If we stop buying what those bros are selling.

Rock_Granite · 2026-01-11T04:06:05+00:00

Aww. Did the misogyny make your little panties get soiled?

Xargon11 · 2026-01-08T16:15:49+00:00

A bunch of woke people took over the modding of this community and they ban anyone who tells the truth about what's going on. When all the good posts and comments get taken down it sucks all the energy out of the sub. This will probably be my last message here since I'm probably going to get banned for this.

NoMoreMrNiceJay · 2026-01-08T18:16:06+00:00

Personally a lot to be done has been done. There needs to be fresh blood willing to step outside of the norm and generate traction "Blaze a trail". The vets here are solid but they are solid from a previous time - a changing of the guard is sure to come.

Revisions will be made. To the sidebar & to the rules. Social media leverage is inevitable at some point. All with time.

Until then, it may not be popular or exciting but it's a tried and tested way of turning boys into men.

Title	this sub seems dead what happened?
Author	DavosBillionaire
Upvotes	92
Comments	83
Date	January 8, 2026 10:16 AM UTC (6 months ago)
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