The Male Experience

TheTinMenBlog · 2023-07-20T07:23:00+00:00

Contrary to popular belief; life as a male is not always to live it on easy mode.

From the day many are born, to the day they die, it is often to live a life of vulnerability, violation, disadvantage, and neglect.

Whether it’s the needless infant circumcision of babies on day zero, the way boys are left behind in western education, how they are so often sexually violated in adolescence, the unique vulnerabilities in adulthood, or lack of rights in fatherhood; the many issues that plague boys and men live in darkness.

They are not under the public spotlight of political campaigning, or public ire.

They are not picked at by think tanks, researched by academics, or fought for in the trenches of advocacy. The spotlight of awareness for boys and men is switched off.

And as a result, not only are these issues not addressed, but worse, we are led to believe that they simply aren’t there at all.

But just because something can’t be seen, or isn’t spoken about, doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist.Because they do.

And our failure to advocate boys and men, and worse, to attack those who do, will surely be a black mark on our history.

What’s left until then is to keep playing the game.

To watch boys and men run the gauntlet of life alone; where they stumble, fall, get up, fall again, are forgotten about, and too often tumble into the abyss.

The kind hand of society is not reaching out to help them, but is instead clenched angrily, jutting out an accusatory finger: this is your problem boys, and yours to solve.

So let’s see what the game of life is like for so many boys and men out there…

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Njaulv · 2023-07-20T08:31:34+00:00

Meanwhile the misandrist normies think being born male is living life on easy mode.

Noonbright · 2023-07-20T09:42:35+00:00

Damn, but seeing this written out is depressing

Specialist-Action-33 · 2023-07-20T10:37:42+00:00

Sad thing is despite all that, society has been programmed to not give a shit about men in this world despite all of the hardships we gp through.

Current_Finding_4066 · 2023-07-20T08:21:23+00:00

We are well aware of this. This is why we are here. Good luck spreading awareness to the unenlightened masses.

bottleblank · 2023-07-20T08:04:11+00:00

The school bit is funny. Because I had this happen to me. A mate and I were uniquely take advantage of in a way that I understood at the time but became even more crystal as I aged. We used to have a proper crack in the back of the classroom usually quiet and not disruptive. We didn’t do much in the way of playing the good students role but we were undeniable. Top ten in our class he was sixth I was ninth. Randomly in a literature class we turned in what was easily a brilliant paper on literatures encounter with ai which this was 18 years ago so in a way it was “cutting edge” lol. We were flunked for the project given a zero and put in review for potential suspicion. The evidence against us was the quality was too high as we never pay attention. We didn’t submit early drafts because we did it at the last second. Imagine being really strong students and getting chastised and accused of cheating for it. Long story short I had a mother connection in the department that got us out of the situation and we managed to retain our standing. But we always knew she had it out for us. We didn’t eat up all her hogwash when she talked about her thesis from uni. And we didn’t like the fact that she always corrected us to call her doctor. We never came to her sit downs after hours and on top of that we were always questioning (rightfully so) her teaching respectfully whilst at the same time seeming like we never paid attention. I think she took our boyish piss take nature for arrogance and deemed us toxic. Neither of us were perfect and by no means were we the dream students but sometimes you just know when a female teacher is taking out her traumatic anger and hatred against other men on you. Why I said it became more crystal in time was because the exact thing happened to me at uni. Only this time we had evidence of the abuse. Another overeducated feminist who didn’t like push back and tried to out me. Only this time I pushed back and she ended up in review with many other blokes leaving the course and applying to have the course automatically sufficed. We ended up winning! She didn’t lose her job thank god I would not want that but now the word is out and people are warned about her. I had the EXACT same feeling I had all those years prior. I’ve met amazing female educators and 98% of them were literally brilliant people and I still think about some of them today and how two of them had invaluable impressions on me. But all it takes is one feminist with an axe to Grind to potentially upend someone’s future.

Jacklshere · 2023-07-20T08:43:50+00:00

I don't like this game :(

TheTinMenBlog · 2023-07-20T09:30:03+00:00

C'mon... Everything mentioned here is privilege. Women always have it harder..(sarcasm)

Pokiehls · 2023-07-20T08:47:40+00:00

Brutal

mrkpxx · 2023-07-20T08:28:59+00:00

I share it on my channel.

SauerPower0 · 2023-07-20T10:31:08+00:00

Man, these passives are killer

Dumboddball · 2023-07-20T10:23:28+00:00

Based. Very well done imagery.

bottleblank · 2023-07-20T11:16:34+00:00

Even worse if you're autistic!

One study which looked at sexuality in autism reported that, of their participants, 46.2% of the autistic women were in relationships, compared to 16.1% of the autistic men. Although ~30% of autistic people may be in relationships, the majority of those in relationships are women, by a ratio of 3:1. Neurotypical men were 5x as likely to have relationships, versus autistic men, at 82.4% (and 79.5% of the neurotypical women in relationships).

Approximately 20-25% of autistic people are employed (many of whom will be underemployed) but, although I can't find a gender breakdown of this at a glance, given that it's typically the male role to be the provider (especially if the female partner is autistic herself), autistic men are screwed here too. It's not a foreign concept for a woman to be the recipient of support from a partner, but much less common for a man to be able to find that kind of relationship. I suspect also that, because of the tendency to view men with suspicion and place higher demands on them, women benefit more here too, in terms of masking (especially given affirmative action, which may allow autistic women opportunities that autistic men cannot have) and being viewed less as pathetic or threatening and more as affable and attractive.

So, of the dire statistics which depict autistic life, there is a skew in favour of women, who seem to be much more able to enjoy a richer social and romantic life and have at least the opportunity to live more comfortably with poor or no income of their own. They have lower requirements to be confident and outgoing, to have vision, to be the breadwinners, they don't necessarily need to be socially outgoing or to have "personality", and as a gender they're more likely to encounter empathy and support.

It's often said, as a counterpoint, that women have a harder time getting diagnosed. But if the reason for that (as often stated) is that they mask much more capably, they still have opportunity on their side, as they're not as readily dismissed for being "weird" (as many of the effects of autism are more likely to be seen as "cute", "endearing", or "quirky" in woman than in men, as opposed to "creepy", "scary", or "dangerous"). It's also said that autistic women are more likely to be abused, but I don't put much stock in that either, because so too can autistic men be abused through inexperience, desperation, and naivety, except they don't even get enough opportunities to potentially find a positive outcome.

All this is to say that autism compounds the already negative experiences which come with being male and that there is a cascade of failure which happens, such that it can destroy every aspect of your life. Once you're on that train, which you had no choice in being placed on, getting off it again is incredibly difficult. With each passing day of your life, you become increasingly distant from the experiences of peers; you earn less money, you have less experience, you have worse prospects, you have no idea how to fix it, nobody gives you even half a chance to prove yourself, and that produces a horrific negative feedback loop, because everything seems increasingly unreachable, all because you were born with a condition which makes people dislike you, shun you, and refuse you chances to gain the life experience they have in spades.

When you're in your late 20s or older, still living at home, when you can't afford anything because you're un/underemployed (and job security is poor even if you have one), when you have no friends because they've all moved on (if you were lucky enough to have any to begin with) and no way to develop missing social skills, when your natural instinct to find a partner is woven with massive anxiety about the fact that you're going to immediately display off-putting inexperience at every step from start to finish, and each of those factors feed into feeling unable to deal with the others, it's little wonder the only solution often appears to be the most drastic. You just watch everybody else, even other men, "doing life" in a way that you can't even begin to comprehend, and you feel immensely inadequate and hopeless. With no hope, no tools, no roadmap, no doors to open, no contacts to rely on, what else is there but psychologically (or even physically) dangerous levels of escapism, or death?

Those issues are not exclusive to autistic men, of course, but even compared to the already poor (and worsening) experiences of men in general, autistic men are utterly fucked in ways that autistic women are far less likely to be.

Bombonata · 2023-07-20T12:02:02+00:00

I wish these great posts were translated to Spanish so I could send them to my family members

C0sm1cB3ar · 2023-07-20T10:48:34+00:00

Great post op, and very well documented

TheWinterNights · 2023-07-20T11:35:15+00:00

My guy didn't even play like half of the content here.

Where is the details for the part where you work 2 jobs to get through Uni while your female colleagues pend between free drinks and trips, to insta, or Twicht or some random subreddit/twitter to snapchat all the way to OF with the option of making literal thousands to millions of dollars just for existing?

And then of course you convince yourself dating one of them is a great idea, so then you run through the minefield that is trying to achieve the statistical miracle of finding a girl that hasn't been run through hundreds of guys, is just adding you temporary to her roster, is actually not cheating on you or at least you somehow finding out, not hating you for being a man in the first place, and maybe - just maybe being pleasant to be around and actually loving you. That 0,WhoKnowsHowMuchZeros percent of women is surely going to run into you. Specially in time where if you approach anyone in person you probably land in prison or loose your uni spot, and a women of those qualities surely is on "dating" apps.

For the vast majority of men however the interaction with the female gender will statistically be a nightmare, and there isn't that easy to come by data on how much damage it will do you.

Society will blame you for all of that btw.

Society and the State: Can you guys like contribute more, build, support and protect us all here? What do you mean this is a shitty deal? Wait! Don't walk away, I was just about to call you names and spit in your face. Ah why are still walking??? What more can you want! Ungrateful! Typical! Women are most affected by this! Ahhhh - he is still in shouting range. Waaaaait! There is more. Maybe we can get you interested in raising some other dudes child? How about some free classes and training on the job in how much of a scumbag you really are? WAAAAAAAAIT! Unbelievable how greedy! All right - last offer. What about loosing your job you worked those thousands of hours and 2 job for because Kelly reported you for sexual harassment even though you haven't even been in the same country as her? That is like a free chance to contribute to being an ally without you having to put in real effort. NOOOOOOOOOO. He is still walking!!!

borislth · 2023-07-20T10:51:01+00:00

This is so, so important and everyone needs to see this. I really appreciate how much work you put into your infographics. Thanks for posting.

Emperorerror · 2023-07-20T10:28:23+00:00

I didn't know that the WHO made the statement about health. Obviously not good stats, but a step forward that it's being acknowledged somewhere like that.

russwriter67 · 2023-07-20T13:13:58+00:00

Very well executed, but quite sad and infuriating to see it all mapped out.

livinginlyon · 2023-07-20T13:46:33+00:00

Hey, this is really will made! If the numbers check out this is a pretty moving demo. Thanks! My wife and girlfriends will really want to see this.

retro_edge_70 · 2023-07-20T11:50:40+00:00

This is just saddening.

hottake_toothache · 2023-07-20T13:08:54+00:00

Great post.

Jongbelegenkaasblok · 2023-07-20T09:20:34+00:00

I am so lucky i had a male teacher in primary syhe helped me so much bcause i had a female teacher the previous year and i was back behind now i do great in school. This proves that we NEED male teachers

Mountainking7 · 2023-07-20T10:32:00+00:00

Fuck man. That was brutal to read but it's the truth....

legend0102 · 2023-07-20T11:20:33+00:00

Recently I was discussing with someone about how patriarchy is not real and has no scientific basis. Yet they said something I didn’t know how to counter: it is about power. And having power does not mean you will have an easy life. Such as the king having to fight in wars even though he was the king. He had power but at a cost. And that women, on the other hand, lacked that power.

Do you think that the patriarchy can be justified by “power”? Then again, even if the patriarchy is real, men are affected too. So it doesn’t really make a difference imo.

AbysmalDescent · 2023-07-20T15:34:08+00:00

This is a decent infographic but it's missing a lot. It's like the tip of the iceberg, in terms of issues boys/men face. It doesn't even go into social expectations and pressures of success, strength, competence, income and masculinity, all of which have their own cascading negative effects on men/boys. It doesn't go into the issue of male disposability, socially accepted misandry, constant double-standards negatively targeting boys and an open contempt for male heterosexuality. It doesn't go into all the vilification targeting men, which leads to false guilt, self-hatred and internalization that negatively affect boys/men. It doesn't go into all the one-sided social or romantic expectations placed on men to deal with women. It doesn't go into the general lack of support or tolerance for boys/men, that are often given to women freely. All these things have a cost, and manifest back into all kinds of other social and mental issues for boys and men.

Clipzy22 · 2023-07-20T18:32:23+00:00

Slight correction it's closer to 1/2 of domestic abuse, at least in the U.S. it commonly flips flip-flops from around 45-50% of all victims for both men and women depending on year ofc.

TauregPrince · 2023-07-21T02:22:56+00:00

Now be black and see what those odds are.

Z1ayer · 2023-07-20T10:21:55+00:00

Great work, if only this could go viral... Just add some cat facts, and few cute cat pictures. 🐈 People care more about animals 😔

throwaway8731469532 · 2023-07-20T18:11:26+00:00

remarkable post! I honestly love how you just focused on the issues instead of blaming the entirety of women for them, that's super rare these days (both in mensrights and feminism).

-Mr_Rogers_II · 2023-07-20T22:15:43+00:00

Men will be told sexism against them doesn’t exist.

Oh, so you’ve met my wife?

Wasteofoxyg3n · 2023-07-21T03:11:22+00:00

This is highly informative and presented in a very bold, eye-catching format. It honestly deserves to be shown at schools.

FifthBigGuy · 2023-07-20T19:01:24+00:00

Is it possible to post this on r/rant?

ABlindCookie · 2023-07-20T12:21:35+00:00

Hey, some of these statistixs are better than i thought, lets go, boiz!

All jokes aside, this is fucking awful....

cy_narrator · 2023-07-21T06:43:18+00:00

There are alot of numbers there without any source.

STylerMLmusic · 2023-07-20T15:58:30+00:00

This is the type of cherry picked nonsense that gives MRA's a bad name. Men deserve better.

Wyntier · 2023-07-20T10:37:03+00:00

Boys are taught to acknowledge their male privilege

How? No they're not

25% of boys living without a father figure

So aren't girls?

75% less likely to go to university

But what about trade schools? Probably huge

At 18, must sign away your life with military drafts

Bro I was eating cheetos when I was 18

I get this is a pro-men sub but this infographic is full of propaganda garbage

Roquentin · 2023-07-20T12:44:11+00:00

You’re such a big men’s rights advocate that you tried to destroy another men’s right subreddit for your own ego

Equatical · 2023-07-20T11:03:15+00:00

There is a solution. Hear me out. If we take science into the bedroom and bring more women in the earth, there will be more nurturing and help for men. We have society built up. We have AI. We can help the men better by having more women around. Women are caring, loving, and motherly. Women will bring a calm to men. Men will be sought after, spoiled and loved. The men will have choice among women, not chasing them around. There will be less crime, war, disease if there are less men. Think about it. I’m not saying anyone has to die, men will still be born, we just need less men and more women.

ChocolateFantastic · 2023-07-20T20:35:31+00:00

If I became president other than declaring myself the supreme dictator of the us of a I would personally try to change the way this country treats men it’s time boys we need to band together and rebel against these evil women just like how my great great great great great great grandfather rebelled against the British government #rebel to end toxic feminism once and for all

speak-now6 · 2023-07-24T14:17:42+00:00

“Suicide becomes the greatest risk to his life” whereas women’s is male violence 🙃 men are lucky to be their own greatest risk

ExiledCanuck · 2023-07-24T15:47:44+00:00

When people act like ALL of one type of class of person is Uber privileged, and ignore the majority of that class who are actually sidelined, and then act surprised when a disillusioned young person from that class snaps and does something crazy to get attention.

No_Championship_5162 · 2023-07-27T17:18:46+00:00

Where’s the number coming from with rape victims Everything I’m seeing says 90% female and 10%

Main-Tiger8593 · 2023-09-26T05:44:47+00:00

google norah vincent... radical feminist disguising as man for 18 month...

Title	The Male Experience
Author	TheTinMenBlog
Upvotes	1718
Comments	176
Date	July 20, 2023 7:22 AM UTC (3 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MensRights
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