bell hooks' main contribution to feminism has been her formulation of love as a revolutionary act. This, in fact, serves to enforce a rigid an gynocentric emotional dynamic. To her, since patriarchy denies men the right to love, it is the responsibility of women to perform the emotional labour of decoding men's emotional trauma.

Notwithstanding how this may encourage women staying in abusive relationships, it also places an equally sinister burden onto men: the moral duty to achieve redemption through women. Her framework effectively demands men to subscribe to her gynocentric worldview and remain inside unfulfilling personal relationships with the first woman who may be available, whose duty is to be his personal saviour.

Of course, the main culprit here is amatonormativity, which already is implicit in the title of the Will to Change. Men need to change to fit inside her view of the couple that she promotes as the only avenue to a fully realized life. Where mainstream feminism has generally demanded functional equality within the couple (equal division of labour and so on), bell hooks promotes total ontological alignment. It is not enough for men and women to treat each other as equals, men need to pedestalize women, within the context of romantic love, as the personal saviour. It leaves no place for men to exist without centering women's expectations regarding how we should act within the context of a relationship.